If I’m Really Honest

Ali Lapper is an internationally acclaimed artist, disability rights advocate, author, television presenter, and former subject of one of Britain's most iconic public sculptures. Her monumental portrait, "Alison Lapper Pregnant," stood on the Fourth Plinth in Trafalgar Square, making her one of the most recognizable disability advocates in the world. In this conversation, Ali and I discuss disability, beauty, self-acceptance, grief, motherhood, identity, and what it means to live authentically. We explore society's obsession with "normal," why perfection is overrated, how she learned to become comfortable in her own skin, the challenges of raising a child while disabled, the devastating loss of her son Paris, and how she found a way to keep living after unimaginable grief. Along the way, we talk about humor, resilience, friendship, accessibility, and why curiosity is often more valuable than certainty. GUEST LINKS Book - My Life In My Hands: https://amzn.to/4vAd6q8 Ali Lapper Official Website: https://www.alilapper.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alison_lapper_mbe MORE FROM IF I'M REALLY HONEST Website: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan Community: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Unabridged, FULL episode: https://youtu.be/rlCFKSxoOp0 Jeran Campanella was one of the most recognizable voices in the modern Flat Earth movement, creator of the Jeranism YouTube channel, speaker at Flat Earth conferences around the world, featured participant in Netflix's Behind the Curve, and one of the Flat Earth representatives selected to travel to Antarctica for "The Final Experiment." In this conversation, Jeran walks through his entire journey - from fundamentalist Christianity, to atheism, to Flat Earth, to standing in Antarctica and witnessing the 24-hour sun for himself. We explore the psychological appeal of conspiracy theories, the power of online communities, the cost of changing your mind publicly, and what happens when your search for truth puts you at odds with the tribe that gave you identity, purpose, friendship, and income. Jeran Campanella (Jeranism) https://www.youtube.com/@Jeranism If I'm Really Honest https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan Community https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Marine biologist Hal Whitehead has spent more than four decades studying whales, pioneered research on sperm whale culture, helped transform how scientists understand whale societies, and authored groundbreaking work on animal culture and cultural evolution. In this conversation, we explore whether whales have culture, how sperm whales pass knowledge between generations, why some scientists resist applying the word "culture" to animals, how whale clans develop distinct traditions, what whale sounds actually communicate, how menopause appears in some whale species, the surprising history of whale conservation, and what decades of field research have taught Hal about some of the most fascinating creatures on Earth. Dr. Whitehead's excellent books: https://amzn.to/43udNFg If I'm Really Honest https://IfImReallyHonest.com Become a Superfan: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Gary Noesner spent more than 30 years with the FBI, served as Chief of the FBI's Crisis Negotiation Unit, led negotiations during the Waco siege, helped reshape modern hostage negotiation training, and authored the influential book Stalling for Time. In this conversation, Gary and I explore what actually works when people are at their worst. We discuss the lessons of Waco, why negotiation should almost always take precedence over force, how empathy differs from agreement, the psychology of trust, what makes a great negotiator, the dangers of authority without self-control, and how active listening can transform everything from hostage situations to everyday relationships. Book – Stalling for Time: https://amzn.to/4oj50PZ Website: https://www.garynoesner.com If I'm Really Honest Website: https://www.ifimreallyhonest.com Superfan Community: https://www.jamincoller.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Joel Salatin (@FarmLikeALunatic) is one of the world's most influential voices in regenerative agriculture. He is the co-owner of Polyface Farm, author of more than a dozen books, featured prominently in The Omnivore's Dilemma, Food, Inc., and numerous documentaries, and has spent decades challenging conventional assumptions about food, farming, government regulation, and sustainability. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@farmlikealunatic Joel's Books: https://amzn.to/4uHplQJ Website: https://polyfacefarm.com/ If I'm Really Honest: https://www.ifimreallyhonest.com Superfan Community: https://www.jamincoller.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Nicholas Christakis is a physician, sociologist, bestselling author, Yale professor, director of the Human Nature Lab, pioneer of social network science, and author of Blueprint, Connected, and Apollo's Arrow. His research has transformed how we understand friendship, cooperation, social contagion, tribalism, and the evolutionary origins of human society. For the Love of Science (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/@NAChristakis Human Nature Lab: https://humannaturelab.net/ If I'm Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Become a Superfan: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Sean B. Carroll is one of the world's leading evolutionary biologists, a bestselling science author, former Vice President for Science Education at the Howard Hughes Medical Institute, recipient of the National Academy of Sciences Stephen Jay Gould Prize, and a pioneer of evolutionary developmental biology ("evo devo"). In this conversation, we explore Darwin's life and character, the evidence for evolution, why evolutionary biology is often misunderstood, the relationship between faith and science, tribalism, COVID-era trust in institutions, and how science can be a source of awe and wonder rather than cynicism. Guest Links: Books: https://www.amazon.com/Fortunate-Events-Chance-Making-Planet-ebook/dp/B086YHXHPL Official Website: https://seanbcarroll.com If I'm Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Become a Superfan: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Brad Duchaine is one of the world’s leading researchers on face perception. He’s a Professor and Chair of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Dartmouth College, co-founder of Faceblind.org, and one of the foremost experts on prosopagnosia (face blindness) and prosopometamorphopsia (PMO)—the rare condition where faces appear visually distorted. PMO: https://prosopometamorphopsia.faceblind.org/ Prosopagnosia: https://www.faceblind.org/ More from If I’m Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan Page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

"Flat Earth Dave" Weiss of @flatearthdave is one of the foremost voices in the flat earth community. We talk about: * The emotional cost of changing your mind * Losing friends and family over beliefs * Distrust of institutions and authority * Why Dave walked away from a successful career * Whether truth-seeking becomes isolating * The psychology of conspiracy thinking * Why he believes Flat Earth changes everything https://www.FlatEarthDave.com More from If I’m Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan Page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

"Professor Dave" Farina of @ProfessorDaveExplains is one of the internet’s largest science education and debunking channels. In this episode, I sit down with Dave Farina (Professor Dave Explains) to talk about conspiracy theories, anti-science thinking, Joe Rogan, flat earth, the psychology of belief, and why intelligent people can still fall for ideas that don’t hold up under scrutiny. We also discuss: * Why misinformation spreads so effectively online * Whether major influencers actually believe what they say * The role podcasts now play in shaping public opinion * Why distrust in institutions has exploded * Whether science literacy is getting better or worse * And how identity gets tied to belief systems If I’m Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Dr. Daniel Whiteson is a theoretical physicist at CERN, a professor at University of California, Irvine, and a contributor to the discovery of the Higgs boson. He is also the co-host of the podcast “Daniel and Kelly’s Extraordinary Universe” and author of popular science books exploring the limits of human understanding. What if physics isn’t actually “real”… but just the way humans happen to describe reality? In this conversation, we explore whether our understanding of the universe is objective truth or a human-centered framework. We talk about alien intelligence, the limits of human cognition, why the Big Bang is widely misunderstood, and whether we might encounter truths we’re simply incapable of understanding. This is less about answers—and more about questioning the assumptions we didn’t even realize we were making. GUEST LINKS "Do Aliens Speak Physics?" https://www.amazon.com/Do-Aliens-Speak-Physics-Questions/dp/1324064641 Podcast: https://www.danielandkelly.org MORE FROM Jamin / IIRH https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Mark Sargent  ⁨@markksargent⁩  is a leading figure in the Flat Earth movement. Rather than focusing on proving or disproving claims, this conversation dives into the experience of belief - what leads someone there, what keeps them there, and what it costs relationally. From frustration and fear to community and identity, this is a conversation about how humans make sense of the world, even when that world stops making sense. Mark's Channel and Flat-Earth Clues: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5IsLBMjhtI&list=PLltxIX4B8_URNUzDE2sXctnUAEXgEDDGn More from Jamin: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Super Fans: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Joshua Bowen to explore - Where the Bible came from. - Whether the Bible actually endorses slavery - How ancient people thought about morality - Why stories like the flood appear across multiple cultures ...and why the Bible might become more interesting after belief, not less Guest Links: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DigitalHammurabi Website: https://digitalhammurabi.com Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/DigitalHammurabi Book: An Atheist's Guide to the Old Testament https://www.amazon.com/Atheist-Handbook-Old-Testament/dp/1736592068 Misquoting Jesus https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmutpnyeVQcrRNOzPWdEothXcCVo2Npfv&si=bK0I4rcut__8_iJ8 My Links https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Jonathan Rauch and I explore: *What happens when we lose religion… but still need meaning *Why truth feels harder to find right now *Whether Christianity is helping or hurting society *The role of religion in sustaining democracy *What deconstruction actually costs ...And whether it’s possible to keep the values of a belief system… without believing it’s literally true Cross Purposes: https://www.amazon.com/Cross-Purposes-Christianitys-Democracy-Politics-ebook/dp/B0DQXF7L7P Denial - My 25 Years Without A Soul: https://www.amazon.com/Denial-My-Years-Without-Soul/dp/1949450015 Kindly Inquisitors: https://www.amazon.com/Kindly-Inquisitors-Attacks-Thought-Expanded-ebook/dp/B00FLO0F78 The Constitution of Knowledge: https://www.amazon.com/Constitution-Knowledge-Defense-Truth-ebook/dp/B0BL841MK1 My Links Superfans: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Michael Shermer joins me to talk about truth - what it is, how we know it, and why so many of us get it wrong. We explore the difference between empirical truth and religious truth, why conspiracy theorists are often wrong (but sometimes right) and what actually causes people to change their minds. Along the way, we get into Bayesian reasoning, the role of emotion in belief formation, and whether religion is helping or hurting society. Book - Truth https://www.amazon.com/Truth-What-Find-Still-Matters/dp/142145372X Skeptic Magazine: https://www.skeptic.com/ More from Me Superfans: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans https://IfImReallyHonest.com #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this conversation, I sit down with Eduardo Briceño to unpack what’s really going on there—and why that instinct might be the very thing holding us back. We talk about: *The hidden cost of “pretending” instead of being curious *How growth mindset actually works (and what people get wrong about it) *The role of gratitude in learning, resilience, and emotional stability *What it means to live a life where you’re not sure you’re right The Performance Paradox: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593356926 https://briceno.com/ Super Fans click here: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Psychologist Michael Langone, longtime executive director of the International Cultic Studies Association, discusses manipulation, shame, recovery, religion, psychopaths, and the complicated psychology of influence. https://michaellangoniphd.com Superfan Page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, I sit down with neurologist Adam Zeman, the researcher who coined the term aphantasia — the inability to form voluntary visual mental imagery. We explore what it means to lack a “mind’s eye,” how it affects memory and emotion, why many people with aphantasia dream visually, and what this reveals about consciousness itself. We also dive into Global Workspace Theory, Integrated Information Theory, psychedelics, PTSD, creativity, imagination, and whether imagery shapes attachment, nostalgia, and even spiritual experience. Adam Zeman books: https://www.amazon.com/Books-Adam-Zeman/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3AAdam%2BZeman Aphantasia test and blog post: https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2026/02/27/adam-zeman-the-mind-without-a-minds-eye/ Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Derek Lambert (host of MythVision) joins If I’m Really Honest for a candid conversation about myth, meaning, and why the “Historical Jesus” debate makes so many people lose their minds. We get into mythicism vs historicism, why stories feel true in the body before they’re true on paper, and what to do when certainty dies but curiosity doesn’t. @MythVisionPodcast https://www.youtube.com/mythvisionpodcast Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin talks with bestselling science writer Mary Roach about curiosity, writing, research, and the surprising human stories behind science reporting. Mary’s books combine humor, science, and storytelling in a way that makes complex topics accessible without oversimplifying them. This conversation explores the mindset behind that work, and why curiosity might be one of the most important traits a person can develop. Guest Links Mary Roach: https://maryroach.net Podcast & Community If I’m Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin Coller talks with regenerative farmer Will Harris about changing course after decades of industrial farming, the ethics of animal welfare, soil health, and what it means to follow your conscience even when it costs you financially and socially. Will shares the story of transforming White Oak Pastures from an industrial cattle operation into a vertically integrated regenerative farm, and why working with nature instead of against it changed everything. White Oak Pastures https://whiteoakpastures.com Will Harris's Book: "A Bold Return to Giving a Damn" https://a.co/d/02XoqhGk If I’m Really Honest https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Dr. Loftus has spent decades studying how memories can be distorted by suggestion, imagination, and time. Her research on the “misinformation effect” helped reshape how courts evaluate eyewitness testimony and recovered memories. We also talk about sleep paralysis, therapy-induced memories, and how understanding memory can make us more compassionate toward people we disagree with. Dr. Loftus's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Elizabeth-Loftus/author/B000APKT0Q If I'm Really Honest: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin talks with behavioral economist Dan Ariely about misbelief, trust, COVID-era polarization, and why admitting mistakes is so difficult for individuals, institutions, and governments. They explore how mistrust grows, why social media accelerates conflict, and whether curiosity and conversation can rebuild trust between neighbors - even when agreement seems impossible. Guest Links Dan Ariely Website: https://danariely.com Books - Misbelief: https://a.co/d/0av5mTHl If I’m Really Honest https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfans https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Geoffrey West, physicist and former president of the Santa Fe Institute, joins Jamin Coller to explore scaling laws, sustainability, innovation, and the accelerating pace of modern civilization. West explains why cities and economies speed up as they grow, why innovation repeatedly postpones collapse while making future crises arrive faster, and what a mathematical “singularity” actually means — as distinct from popular AI narratives. The discussion moves into politics, belief, religion, and why rapid belief change under Donald Trump gives West an unexpected, fragile optimism. "Scale" by Geoffrey West: https://a.co/d/3NIRLO0 Show Links: https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin Coller and cognitive psychologist Jonathan Lewis-Jong unpack belief—what it is, how it functions in the human mind, and why it persists across cultures. Jonathan explains how the science of religion treats belief as natural psychological processes that can be measured and studied without making claims about metaphysical truth. They discuss cognitive theories of religion, terror management, meaning-making, and the implications for spiritual life and interpersonal dialogue. IfImReallyHonest.com JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Neuroscientist and trauma researcher Dr. Willoughby Britton joins Jamin Coller to discuss the hidden risks of meditation, spiritual bypassing, and the psychology of religious and wellness communities. Drawing on her groundbreaking Varieties of Contemplative Experience study, Britton explains why meditation sometimes causes panic, dissociation, insomnia, and psychosis — and why communities often blame the victims instead of addressing the harm. • Cheetah House – https://www.cheetahhouse.org • Meditation Challenges Study – https://www.meditationchallenges.org • Psychedelic Challenges Study – https://www.psychedelicchallenges.org • Willoughby Britton (Brown University) – https://www.brown.edu/academics/public-health/faculty/willoughby-britton Explore the IIRH universe: https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2026/01/12/the-dangers-of-meditation-willoughby-britton/ https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin Coller sits down with M.E. (Jamie) Thomas, a lawyer, educator, musician, and author of Confessions of a Sociopath: A Life Spent Hiding in Plain Sight, to discuss the psychology of psychopathy, what it really means to live without empathy as commonly understood, and how identity and morality are shaped by experience rather than instinct. Jamie shares her journey from academia and law into a life of self-reflection, community engagement, and honest conversations about traits most people fear rather than understand.   • M.E. Thomas – Official YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@m.e.thomas7901 • Sociopath World (M.E. Thomas website): https://www.sociopathworld.com • Confessions of a Sociopath: A Life Spent Hiding in Plain Sight https://a.co/d/dMCOmWe • https://IfImReallyHonest.com • Superfans & exclusive access: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Lawyer, musician, and author of Confessions of a Sociopath, M.E. Thomas joins me to talk about psychopathy without fear, caricature, or moral panic. This is not a conversation about monsters. It’s a conversation about meaning, identity, empathy, boundaries, stories we tell ourselves, and what happens when a sense of self is missing—or too rigid. Topics include: Psychopathy vs sociopathy (and why the words matter less than people think) Whether empathy defines humanity Moral gray areas and emotional triggers Sense of self, memory, and meaning Buddhism, psychopathy, and why extremes break humans Relationships between psychopaths and empaths Therapy, identity scaffolding, and building a self Why rules exist—and when they stop protecting people What society gets wrong about psychopaths and other stigmatized identities Guest Links: Book (Confessions of a Sociopath): https://a.co/d/9NGRTZf Website: https://www.sociopathworld.com   Become a Superfan: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans Blog post:  #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Victor M. Sweeney joins me for an unfiltered, humane, and surprisingly tender conversation about death, grief, funeral culture, and why modern Americans are so uncomfortable with mortality. Victor explains what actually happens behind the scenes at funerals, why “predatory funeral homes” are mostly a myth, how small towns grieve differently than cities, and what it means to care for both the living and the dead without flinching. This conversation moves from practical realities (graves, vaults, embalming, checklists) to philosophy, presence, and what death teaches us about how to live. Guest Resources: Book: https://www.amazon.com/Now-Departing-Small-Town-Mortician-Moments/dp/1668062119 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/death-and-with-victor-m-sweeney/id1834669994 Website: https://deathandpodcast.com/ Support the Show: Superfan community: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Dr. Aaron Adair joins If I’m Really Honest to break down quantum mechanics, infinity, cosmology, CERN optics, why the universe expands faster than light in some regions, how misconceptions spread, and why intuition is a terrible roadmap for understanding reality. This is a deep dive into what physics actually says - stripped of mysticism, marketing, and wishful thinking. https://draaronadair.com/ https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_SuperFans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode, Jamin sits down with Kristen Ulmer, former extreme skier and author of The Art of Fear, to unpack why most of us are taught the wrong relationship with fear—and how that broken relationship fuels anxiety, sleeplessness, and emotional overwhelm. Kristen explains why resisting fear (“letting it go,” calming it down, distracting from it) actually creates anxiety, and why intimacy with fear leads to clarity, flow, and high performance. Kristen Ulmer – https://www.kristenulmer.com Become a Superfan: JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Dr. James L. McGaugh - a founder of modern memory science - joins me for an hour of deep exploration into how memory actually works. We talk about autobiographical memory, the puzzle of retrieval, why forgetting is both a feature and a mercy, and what makes Highly Superior Autobiographical Memory so different from anything else in neuroscience. He explains why PTSD persists, why emotion strengthens memory chemically, why HSAM breaks expected rules, and what neuroscientists still don’t know about how the brain pulls information into consciousness. We finish with stories about his mentors, the most surprising obstacles from early experiments, and his lifelong love of jazz. More from the show: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfans: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

This episode dives into the paradox of being human - how we care, how we deny care, how we form meaning, and how love requires both vulnerability and courage. We discuss the embodied nature of mind (E-cognition), the tension between self-protection and connection, and the possibility of relating without collapsing into defensiveness or certainty. https://www.andreahiott.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@waymaking23 https://communityphilosophy.substack.com/ More from the Host: https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2025/11/06/andrea-hiott-love-philosophy-and-paradox/ Superfan / Supporters: JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this conversation with Dr. Stefanie Green, we explore medical assistance in dying (MAiD) through real stories, real families, and real ethical questions. Stefanie is a physician and clinical leader in the field of assisted dying in Canada, and the author of This Is Assisted Dying. This is not a debate. It’s a human conversation about autonomy, compassion, suffering, dignity, and how we care for one another at the end of life. Website: https://www.stefaniegreen.com Book: "This Is Assisted Dying" https://www.amazon.com/This-Assisted-Dying-Empowering-Patients/dp/1982129468 More From This Jamin: Official Site — https://IfImReallyHonest.com Become a Superfan — https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, I sit down with Jamie Reed - a former case-manager at the Washington University Transgender Center in St. Louis - to explore her journey, the ethical and medical questions she raised, and what it means to reconsider deeply held beliefs about care, identity, and transformation. We dig into whistle-blowing, community backlash, the nature of belief, and how one can move from conviction to questioning. Jamie Reed on X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/JamieWhistle Article: “I Thought I Was Saving Trans Kids. Now I’m Blowing the Whistle.” (The Free Press) — https://www.thefp.com/p/i-thought-i-was-saving-trans-kids Blog post: https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2025/11/05/jamie-reed-trans-kids-safety-advocate-and-whistleblower/ Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #TeamPossiblyWrong #IfImReallyHonest.

What exactly is love? And why does our brain completely change when we fall into it — only to change back again two years later? In this conversation, biologist Dawn Maslar explains the neuroscience, hormones, and evolutionary roots of attraction, bonding, commitment, and long-term connection. We break down everything from the fear-based origins of attraction to why “the spark” fades and what real love actually is. Website – https://dawnmaslar.com MORE FROM JAMIN: Blog post - https://ifimreallyhonest.great-site.net/2025/11/06/dawn-maslar-the-science-behind-attraction-long-term-love/ Become a superfan – https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Anthony Magnabosco, the public face of Street Epistemology, joins Jamin Coller to discuss what it means to have conversations that don’t devolve into debates. They explore the evolution of SE, how it differs from traditional apologetics or argumentation, and how curiosity and grace can reshape how we talk about deeply held beliefs. They also discuss the role of personal experience, emotional reasoning, and the challenge of questioning our own certainty. Links: Anthony’s links: YouTube.com/@magnabosco210 Twitter.com/magnabosco IfImReallyHonest.com JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Dr. Chris Germer co-founder of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion and co-author (with Kristin Neff) of Self-Compassion for Burnout — joins Jamin Coller for an honest conversation about radical acceptance and the “voice of love.” They discuss non-fixing as a teaching posture, why warmth matters as much as awareness, and how curiosity turns empathy into compassion. Guest Links: ChrisGermer.com | Center for Mindful Self-Compassion | Self-Compassion.org More from Jamin Coller: IfImReallyHonest.com | Superfan Page #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this thoughtful conversation, I sit down with Patrick Ryan, veteran cult intervention specialist and longtime practitioner in the field of coercive influence. We talk through the evolution of cult deprogramming, how belief systems shift, the tension between gentle engagement vs. confrontation, and why many people leave high-control groups on their own terms. He also shares insight into cultic dynamics, and best practices for helping loved ones without burning bridges. Links & Resources: Cult Mediation — https://cultmediation.com/ IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page: JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

What does it mean to be awake—as a human, or as a machine? In this wide-ranging conversation, Jamin Coller and Jim Rutt explore consciousness, religion, evolution, metaphysics, and whether AI can ever truly “wake up.” They unpack Game B, noble lies, mystical experience, and why the illusion of God might be as neurologically real as the love you feel for your child. Guest links: IfImReallyHonest.com 👉 Superfan page – Team Possibly Wrong #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

This conversation gets precise about what makes a cult a cult. Rick Alan Ross explains early warning signs, how authority gets sacralized, why “thought-terminating clichés” work, and what respectful, evidence-based interventions look like. We revisit Waco, NXIVM, and other case studies—not to sensationalize, but to learn how to spot coercion, preserve relationships, and protect loved ones. Guest links: • Cult Education Institute — https://culteducation.com/ Cult Education Institute • Cults Inside Out (book) — https://cultsinsideout.com/the-book/ CULTS INSIDE OUT More from the show: • https://IfImReallyHonest.com • Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_SuperFans

This episode features an honest, moving conversation with author and educator Michelle Dowd, whose memoir Forager: Field Notes on Surviving a Cult explores growing up inside a high-control religious community and building a new life beyond it. We discuss her forthcoming book A Prodigal Daughter, her Substack newsletter where she engages with readers, and her pilot series based on the stories of people who lived in and left the group. Michelle shares her experience of leaving the community, raising four children differently, navigating relationships with family who stayed, and the long process of healing from attachment loss and indoctrination. Connect with Michelle Dowd: Forager: Field Notes on Surviving a Cult on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Forager-Field-Notes-Surviving-Cult/dp/164375308X Michelle Dowd’s Substack newsletter: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this powerful episode of If I’m Really Honest, Jamin Coller speaks with Song Mi, a North Korean defector who escaped at age 17 after years of hunger, surveillance, and propaganda. Song Mi shares how her mother’s escape opened her mind to the outside world, the dangers she faced crossing China, Laos, and the Mekong River, and what it was like to be monitored 24/7, endure public executions, and attend self-criticism sessions. She also explains how she learned about South Korea and the West, how propaganda shaped her childhood, and why “truth is not allowed” inside North Korea. This conversation goes far beyond her book, exploring what daily life is (and isn’t) like for North Koreans, why family networks are critical to escape, and the misconceptions outsiders often have. We also discuss her work today as Manager for External Affairs at Freedom Speakers International, the organization that helped produce her story and is now making a documentary about her family’s journey. Guest Links • https://smile.amazon.com/Greenlight-Freedom-Korean-Daughters-Herself-ebook/dp/B09SPVHGQF • https://www.patreon.com/cw/caseylartigue • https://www.patreon.com/c/fsi21/home Show Links • IfImReallyHonest.com • Superfan Page – JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Cognitive maps, place/grid/time cells, H.M., consolidation, reconsolidation, and free will — this deep-dive with Dr. Lynn Nadel explores how the hippocampal formation knits space and time into experience, and why that matters for who we become. Resources and references mentioned in the episode are linked in the show notes. Guest links: UA profile – https://psychology.arizona.edu/person/lynn-nadel | The Hippocampus as a Cognitive Map (open access) – https://discovery.ucl.ac.uk/id/eprint/10103569/ | Space, Time, and Memory (OUP) – https://global.oup.com/academic/product/space-time-and-memory-9780192882547 | PNAS article – https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2119670118 Find more: https://IfImReallyHonest.com Become a superfan: https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, I sit down with Tim Mills, aka The Harmonic Atheist — a former pastor-in-training, missionary, and Bible memorization champion who spent decades deeply invested in evangelical Christianity before leaving the faith at 42. We explore his story of deconversion, the dominoes that began to fall during years of study, and how he now helps others heal from religious trauma. Topics include: Bible quizzing and memorizing entire books Missionary work in Papua New Guinea with New Tribes Mission (Ethnos360) Comparative mythology and parallels between Christianity and older traditions The psychological toll of indoctrination and why healing is a long process Launching The Harmonic Atheist as a platform for storytelling and recovery Guest Links: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HarmonicAtheist Patreon: https://IfImReallyHonest.com https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans

Today’s episode features Rabbi Tovia Singer (Outreach Judaism) offering a Jewish perspective on Jesus’s crucifixion, who/what “Messiah” means in Tanakh, how the Pharisees are portrayed, and what it really means to be “under the Law.” Whether you’re a Christian, a Jew, or just curious, this is a thoughtful challenge to common assumptions—shared in the tone this show prizes: seeking truth without tribalism. Guest links: • Outreach Judaism (official): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaw8quRcRzjmw0BI1vn-dnA • Let’s Get Biblical (2-volume set): https://outreachjudaism.org/shop/lets-get-biblical-expanded-2-volume-study-guide/ • Volume 1: https://outreachjudaism.org/shop/lets-get-biblical-volume-1-study-guide/ • Volume 2: https://outreachjudaism.org/shop/lets-get-biblical-volume-2-study-guide/   Show links: • IfImReallyHonest.com — https://IfImReallyHonest.com • Superfan page — https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Music, empathy, and hard conversations with Darryl Davis—the pianist who has spent decades befriending people in hate-based groups and tracing rock & roll’s true lineage. We cover Elvis’s first spin on Dewey Phillips’ show, Sun Records, Little Richard vs. Pat Boone, Led Zeppelin’s “borrowed” blues, FCC/radio history, and why travel + dialogue still change hearts. Guest links: Official — YouTube Accidental Courtesy (PBS) — Wikipedia The Klan Whisperer (Amazon) — https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DRSWK4K9/ Amazon Resources mentioned: Joe Rogan Experience — https://open.spotify.com/show/4rOoJ6Egrf8K2IrywzwOMk Spotify Timcast IRL — https://www.youtube.com/@TimcastIRL YouTube The Wire (HBO / cameo trivia) — https://www.hbomax.com/shows/wire/1bc3aff5-0d6a-4c0b-8ed0-5716ca30ab3b | https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0749436/trivia/ HBO MaxIMDb Elvis / Dewey Phillips interview (audio) — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uV8W4hG7vA Rustic Pathways Sun Records — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun_Records Wikipedia “That’s All Right” — Facebook “Tutti Frutti” — Travel.gov “Surfin’ U.S.A.” — Simple Wikipedia “You Need Love” — Wikipedia “Whole Lotta Love” — https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whole_Lotta_Love Wikipedia “Killing Floor” — Wikipedia “The Lemon Song” — The Free Speech Center Leiber & Stoller — The Free Speech Center Otis Blackwell — Wikipedia “Great Balls of Fire” — Wikipedia Dolly Parton / Elvis publishing story — Wikipedia Radio Act of 1912 — https://firstamendment.mtsu.edu/article/radio-act-of-1912/ The Free Speech Center FCC overview — https://www.fcc.gov/about-fcc/what-we-do Federal Communications Commission NSM (context) — Wikipedia Deeyah Khan’s White Right — https://deeyah.com/blog/white-right-meeting-enemy/ Deeyah Khan Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad — https://www.gutenberg.org/files/3176/3176-h/3176-h.htm Project Gutenberg Learn more / support: IfImReallyHonest.com — https://IfImReallyHonest.com Superfan page — https://JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

In this episode of If I’m Really Honest, I sit down with Jeff Schoep, former leader of the National Socialist Movement, to talk about his transformation from extremism to advocacy. We explore why people are drawn to extremist groups, how fear and scapegoating shape radicalization, and the difficult process of leaving behind hate-filled ideology. Jeff shares the personal turning points, human connections, and values that guided him into a new mission: helping others find their way out. Get Jeff's book: https://jeffschoep.com/buy-book/ And follow him: https://linktr.ee/jeffschoep    Learn more at IfImReallyHonest.com Become a superfan: JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

Rabbi Tovia Singer joins to walk through core Jewish readings of the Hebrew Bible: what messianic prophecies actually say, why the first century looks like the opposite of a messianic age, how genealogies and the Jeconiah curse collide with virgin-birth claims, and why Deuteronomy 30 and Ezekiel 18 undercut the idea that forgiveness requires a mediator. We also dig into the order of the Tanakh vs. the Christian Old Testament, “New Covenant” language in Hebrews, what “Chosen People” means, Noahide law, and the Nation vs. State distinction. Links • https://www.youtube.com/@ToviaSinger1 • Let's Get Biblical: https://www.amazon.com/Biblical-Doesnt-Judaism-Christian-Messiah/dp/0615348394 • https://www.IfImReallyHonest.com • Superfans - Join team "Possibly Wrong": https://www.JaminColler.com/iirh_Superfans #IfImReallyHonest #TeamPossiblyWrong

What happens when curiosity beats tribalism? If I’m Really Honest is a podcast where ignorance isn’t punished, hard questions are welcomed, and disagreement doesn’t mean contempt. Host Jamin Coller talks with people from all sides—atheists, pastors, activists, rabbis, former extremists—to uncover the nuance in our most polarizing issues.