Life and Love by Design

I was shocked when I read the title of this Reddit story! My daughter brought it to my attention, and I knew I had to make a podcast episode about it. Not just because I’m a relationship coach, but because I’ve lived through this before, too. I’ve had the “you changed” conversation before. And the more I work with couples, the more I see this conversation come up. And honestly, it’s normal! Because we are all changing all the time. So how do we work through this period of change without resenting each other? In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the Reddit story, “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me.” First of all, you can tell the author of this post is hurting. But I don’t entirely think it’s her husband's fault. Actually, I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear my thoughts on this shocking Reddit story and what solutions I have for this couple during this season of change. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Reclaiming your power is about more than blaming others for your problems. It’s about giving yourself the life you’ve always wanted. The life you’ve put on the back burner and now have the motivation to make it happen for yourself. So many of my clients say that they want to make a personal transformation. They want to treat themselves better, they want to deepen their relationships, and they want to be more fulfilled. Which is why they joined the Next Level Program. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to reclaim your power and become the Next Level woman. The life you want is within your reach! You just need the guidance and structure to make it happen. In the Next Level Woman program, I’ll guide you through the 5 Pillars I use to set my clients up for success. Tune in to hear more about how to reclaim your power and how we’ll use the 5 Pillars to design your most amazing life! How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Every single person I know does the same thing. They believe that they know all their loved one’s faults. Not only that, they attach meaning to all those faults. So “he’s home late” becomes “he doesn’t want to spend time with me.” There’s always a problem, and it’s never their fault. It’s always someone else causing the issues. But what if that wasn’t true? What if this funny little habit of blaming someone else was the cause of their distance? In this week’s episode, we’re exploring the question: what if the problem isn’t them? If your partner isn’t the problem, and the meaning you created is actually the problem, maybe you are the one causing the problems in the relationship. I’ve noticed that a few of my clients are focusing on everyone else’s faults when, really, they need to look inward to find a solution. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear why your partner isn’t the problem and how to identify when you are actually creating the problems. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Resentment is a common feeling in relationships. It happens when one or both partners feel like they aren’t being appreciated by the other, and they don’t know how to fix it. That’s where I come in. Resenting your partner doesn’t mean you have to end the relationship. I rarely see partners who resent each other break up after relationship coaching. Because resentment isn’t an emotion that automatically triggers divorce. It is, however, a catalyst for change. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what your resentment is trying to tell you. I have a couple I’ve been coaching through a season of resentment, and I thought that by sharing it, I could help more couples take the first step towards mending their relationships. This is all anonymous, of course, but I will be sharing the strategies used to help my clients identify their resentment and how they could heal their relationship. Tune in to hear what this couple's resentment was telling them and how I coached them through this season of resentment towards a healthier version of their relationship. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Shakira, Beyoncé, and Megan Thee Stallion have all been publicly cheated on, and that kind of betrayal can send shockwaves out to all of womankind. These are the most beautiful, talented, successful women in their fields, and they STILL got cheated on. If they are not worthy of loyalty, who is? That’s exactly the question I want to dissect today, specifically because it’s the wrong one. You did not make your partner cheat on you. And I’m sure you’ve heard that you have to do everything you can to keep a man, even if it means compromising your success. But not even that will save you, because your success is not the reason why men cheat. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why successful, high-achieving women attract disloyal men. I believe that is the right question we should be asking ourselves. Rather than blame the woman for the man’s behavior, we should look at what qualities disloyal men are targeting and how you can protect yourself from someone who may want to take advantage of you. Tune in to find out what you’re doing to attract cheaters, and what you can do about it. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

So many women have been taught to hold everything in. We are told to be palatable and keep our emotions to ourselves because it would be better for everyone else around us if we just pretended that everything was ok, even when it’s not. Screw that! If you find yourself disconnected from your body, unable to feel joy, and can’t help but feel that something is profoundly wrong, it may be that you’re lying to yourself. You are telling yourself that everything is ok, because you were conditioned to pretend and be palatable. But that habit is eating you alive, and together, we can stop it for good. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what if you’re not burnt out from life but from pretending. Pretending that everything is ok when it's not is only going to hurt you. There’s no upside! It’s time to take control of your own emotions and your own needs today. Tune in to hear how you can stop lying to yourself and how to safely embrace the feelings you’ve been avoiding. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Grief came very quickly for this week’s guest. Natalie’s mother was suddenly diagnosed with stage four cancer and passed away earlier than anyone would have expected her to. Natalie, as a grieving daughter, is not only holding space for this grief and healing from it, but also allowing it to create space for more compassion and more dancing in her life.   Natalie Caruncho is a Broadway performer, an associate choreographer, and a Yoga teacher, originally from Miami, FL. Currently based in Brooklyn, NY. She grew up dancing and has had the privilege of working on some beautiful stages. She currently performs on Broadway in Buena Vista Social Club and as Associate Choreographer for Moulin Rouge. Favorite performance credits include: On Your Feet (Original Broadway Company), In The Heights 1st National Tour (Ensemble; u/s Nina, Vanessa, Carla), Romeo & Juliet (Juliet), A Chorus Line (Diana Morales). Natalie is also a 700-hour registered Yoga Teacher and teaches in NYC at SkyTing. She writes a monthly essay on Substack and posts about grief and presence on IG @nataliecaruncho. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how Natalie is dancing with grief. By healing through movement, loss, and presence, Natalie has been able to continue her life while still honoring her mom. This kind of grief can rock anyone’s world, so I wanted to take a moment to explore these feelings of loss, love, and compassion with a loved one. Tune in to hear how Natalie is honoring her mom through dance and how you can keep going after a loved one has passed. Follow Natalie on:Her Website: https://www.nataliecaruncho.com/  Instagram: @nataliecarunchoThe Little By Little Substack: https://nataliecaruncho.substack.com/  How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

So many couples can feel themselves becoming roommates. They’re not affectionate anymore, they’re not being intimate, and reaching out to make a connection feels like pulling teeth. No one knows what to do or how to fix it, so you just drift further away from each other.So what do you do when you feel like roommates, and you want to get back to feeling like lovers? You have to go back to basics - no grand gestures, no huge life changes. In my experience, you’ll find love in the little moments of life. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about a scenario my clients brought to me; we both work from home… but we feel like roommates. Most couples don’t know where to start when they’re in the roommate phase. Luckily, as a certified life and relationship coach, I have seen this before, and I can help guide you out of the roommate phase and back to being lovers. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear how I advised my coaching clients and how you can start reconnecting with your partner today!How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

As a life and relationship coach, attachment styles are so fascinating to me. They’re this window into who we are and why we do the things we do. They provide context to all our behaviors and chronic patterns we have in our relationships. And the best thing about them is that you’re not confined to one attachment style for the rest of your life!For many of my clients, that's the goal. They don’t want to be too anxious, or too avoidant, or completely disorganized. They want to have healthier relationships. So I study their current attachment styles and guide them towards a more secure attachment style. And I do that by staying up to date on my reading. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why love matters. Your earliest attachment styles shape your adult relationships. Which means that you could be acting out how your parents raised you in your current relationships and not even know it! Tune in to hear about attachment styles through the lens of my favorite book and how I use these styles to design a better relationship for my clients. Resources Mentioned:Why Love Matters: How affection shapes a baby's brain by Sue GerhardtHow to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

I didn’t realize how much I needed a week-long vacation with my hubby until we were actually there. Don’t get me wrong, planning to be away from my kids and the logistics were a bit stressful. But the time away was so nice! We booked massages and excursions, and we even booked a helicopter ride! During that helicopter ride, I realized something. All the little things we bicker about in life are so little compared to the love we have for each other. What really matters is us, and reconnecting with each other. It just took a baecation to figure that out. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why you need to get away together, even when life says you can’t. So much of life gets in the way of your connection with your partner. When my clients fall into a rut, it’s typically because they prioritized literally everything else in their lives before each other. But I've found that getting away and spending one-on-one time with your partner can help you go from feeling like roommates to being loving partners again. Tune in to hear how you can get away and reconnect no matter what’s going on in your everyday lives. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

I used to be very proud of how I neglected myself. In hindsight, it’s a bit embarrassing, and neglect sounds like a huge word to describe what I was doing. I wasn’t trying to neglect myself; I was busy taking care of everyone else! There was laundry to do, kids to raise, and dinner to be made. But in the end, I did take a lot of pride in not taking care of myself.I spent so much time taking care of everyone else that I wasn’t taking care of myself. I didn’t notice that I felt disconnected from my body or my own needs. I wasn’t connected to my hobbies because I felt it was too indulgent to use that time for myself, since I could be using that time to care for my family. And then something changed that put everything into a new perspective.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how I tried something I never thought I would. One thing gave me back my own time, and the realization that the world wouldn’t end if I indulged in it for a few hours a week. My family wasn’t falling apart, the chores still got done, and I felt better than I ever had before. So many women have the same story as mine, and in this episode, I’m going to share the lesson I learned when I finally let myself carve out some me time. How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

The amount of intimacy you and your partner experience in your relationship can be the difference between having a long and happy marriage together or finding yourself separated. Your intimacy is the spark that you guys have together, that thing that makes you guys click. And like everything else in a long-term relationship, doubling that intimacy will require a little bit of courage.And before we go on, I want to make sure we’re on the same page when I say intimacy. I don’t mean physical intimacy (I have another episode for that). What I mean is emotional,  mental, and energetic intimacy. We want to measure how vulnerable you can be with each other and see if there’s any room for improvement. It sounds like a heavy task, but it’s simpler than you think. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what really happens when you double your intimacy. By doubling your intimacy and addressing that loneliness you’re both feeling, we can take your relationship to the next level. We are not taught how to be emotionally intimate, but with this week’s episode and my coaching experience, we can find the emotional support you’re looking for.How to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comPodcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

What if the thing you’ve been hiding… is actually your greatest strength?When most people hear the word “vulnerability,” they think about relationships. I know I do. In my work with couples, I see how powerful it is when someone is finally honest about what they feel, what they need, and what they’ve been afraid to say.But vulnerability matters just as much in leadership.Whether you’re leading a family, a business, a team, or simply the people you love, real leadership is not about having all the answers or pretending to have it all together. It’s about creating space for people to be real, to feel safe, and to be themselves.In this episode of Life & Love By Design, I’m joined by Lindsay Dotzlaf, a business mentor and host of a top-rated podcast who has spent nearly a decade helping coaches build businesses rooted in who they really are.Lindsay is known for leading with vulnerability in a world that often rewards perfection, performance, and pretending. She believes that the very thing you’ve been trying to hide or change about yourself is often the thing that makes you most powerful.In this conversation, we talk about:Why vulnerability is the missing piece in leadershipHow to lead authentically at home and at workWhy being “strong” doesn’t mean hiding your feelingsHow vulnerability builds trust, connection, and confidenceThe surprising way Lindsay turned her biggest insecurities into her greatest superpowerWhat women leaders, mothers, coaches, and entrepreneurs need to unlearn in order to fully step into their next levelIf you’ve ever felt like you have to hold it all together, keep it all inside, or be everything for everyone, this episode is for you.Because the leaders people trust most are not the ones who seem perfect. They’re the ones who are brave enough to be real.How to work with Odette:⁠Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!⁠⁠Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!⁠⁠Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! ⁠⁠Sign up for Odette’s Couples Coaching Services here! ⁠⁠Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT⁠⁠Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here!⁠ Follow Odette on:⁠Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching⁠⁠TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   ⁠⁠LinkedIn: Odette Coronel⁠Website: ⁠www.odettecoronel.com⁠Follow Lindsay on:Her Website: https://lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/ Business Instagram: @lindsaydotzlafThe Mastering Coaching Skills Podcast: https://lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/podcast/ Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Women over 40 often feel stuck in their relationships. My clients come to me saying that everything should be fine - they’re still in love, and they don’t want a divorce - but there’s something stagnant about their life and their relationship. These women feel stuck, and they have no idea what to do about it. As a certified life coach, I’ve seen this time and time again. What you’re looking for has a name; you want to take your life to the next level. You’ve gotten married, you’ve raised the kids, and you’ve gotten to a great place in your career. But this is not the ceiling. There’s a more amazing life waiting for you, and I can help you get to the next level.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why women over 40 feel stuck in their relationships - and how I help them. If you feel stuck, in a rut, or disconnected from your own life, you are not alone. Countless clients have come to me to get help getting unstuck, and they have all found the next level of their lives and their relationships. Tune in to hear how the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, a six-month coaching program, can help you get unstuck and unlock your next level of life and love! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here!Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here!Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here! Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Anxiety can affect not only our daily lives, but our relationships, too. I’ve seen my clients’ relationships fall apart because their anxiety was getting in the way of the rest of their lives. They needed some way to treat all the stress, panic attacks, and dysregulation, but they don’t know how. That’s why we’re talking to Veruschka, to find out what your holistic options are for regulating your nervous system.Veruschka del Rio is the founder of Zentuary Healing Center in Fort Lee, New Jersey, and a practitioner of Spinal Energetics, hypnotherapy, breathwork, and bio-energy healing. She helps people release stress, tension, and trapped emotions through nervous system–led healing and the body’s innate intelligence. Blending science, somatic practices, and energetic work, Veruschka empowers others to reconnect with their bodies, regulate anxiety, and step into a more authentic and aligned life.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how you can go from anxiety to zen by shifting your thoughts and taking control of your own identity. You are not your anxiety, and you are not only an Anxious Person. We can treat a dysregulated nervous system and help you find the zen you've been looking for, together. Tune in to hear how coaching and holistic treatment can help you regulate your nervous system and manage your anxiety. Follow Veruschka on:Her Website: https://www.zentuary.co/ Personal Instagram: @veruschka_delrioBusiness Instagram: @zentuaryhealingcenterBusiness TikTok: @zentuaryhealingcenter Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

It’s time to put down the attachment-style books! I have very smart, self-aware clients who struggle to communicate well in their relationships. They’re always fighting with their partners, and it’s not because they can’t properly analyze the relationship patterns they’re seeing. It’s because they’re not feeling their feelings. Overanalyzing and overexplaining will not fix your relationship. It’s actually making your problems worse. What will help is connecting with your partner on an emotional level, and that means getting vulnerable. In this week’s episode, we're talking about why smart, self-aware people still struggle with relationships. You don't need to read another book, and you don’t need to analyze another attachment theory. Chances are you’ve already read what you need to know. What you do need is to get vulnerable, and in this week’s episode, I'm going to help you do just that. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Many people don’t think they have toxic relationship patterns, but they do. I see it all the time! And toxic relationship patterns can look like so many different things. For example, it can look like you two are having the same fight over and over again without ever finding a solution. Or it can be one person shutting down, and the other person constantly pursuing their partner, trying to get them to open up. But at the end of the day, nothing you’re doing is working, and you don’t know why. The relationship doesn’t have to be terrible for it to have toxic patterns. You could be a happy, healthy couple 80% of the time. But then that 20% throws a wrench in your entire day, and you end up feeling alone, and maybe like it’s your fault. The problem isn’t you, it’s how you approach your relationship issues. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about breaking toxic relationship patterns and learning how to love intentionally. You know that your relationship is worth working on. That 80% goodness is proof that you two have something special. Now you just need to work through these toxic relationship patterns and replace them with healthier ones. Tune in to hear how I help my clients work through these toxic relationship patterns and how to know when it’s time to hire a relationship coach in this week’s episode. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Transformation will always be a foundational part of our lives. Even the basics are transformational; you grow up, get a degree, get a job. We sometimes take these accomplishments for granted, but all of those events transform you into the person you are today. The truly inspirational parts of your life are what you have to have courage for, to see through to the end, and this week’s guest knows all about living a transformational life. Tanya Lopez is a transformational coach, experience designer, and facilitator of soul-expanding journeys for visionary entrepreneurs, leaders, and creatives who are ready for their next evolution. Tanya is the former Head of Events for Mindvalley and the Creative Director behind its globally renowned flagship event, A-Fest — an experience thousands have called “the best experience of my life.” Prior to her work in transformational experiences, she led brand and communications strategy for global companies, including Nike and NBC Universal, giving her a rare ability to merge soul, strategy, and world-class execution. Today, Tanya supports high-performing, heart-led entrepreneurs and leaders who feel a deeper calling for greater alignment and impact. Through her work, clients expand into their next level of leadership, turn their missions into movements, and expand their impact and income without sacrificing alignment.In this week’s episode, Tanya shares how she creates transformational life experiences for people all over the world. Growing up, she knew she wanted to travel the world and live an adventurous life. After gaining life experience through a transformative journey, she has dedicated herself to becoming a transformational coach and helping others transform their lives through her retreats. Tune in to hear more about how her retreats create a community of courageous people and how to transform your life for the better. Follow Tanya on:Her Website: http://www.tanyalopez.com/ Instagram: @hi.tanyalopezJoin her free FB Community for Event Creators: lovepromastermind.com Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Have you ever wondered what the internal process of a matchmaker is? You see one on TV, call up one with great reviews, and you hope and pray that they can get you married within a year. But getting you married is not necessarily their job. So what is their job? We invited a professional matchmaker onto the podcast to find out. Arlene Washburn is an Ethical Matchmaking Advocate, industry educator, and founder of the Love Pro Mastermind Academy. She trains professional matchmakers to build compliant and profitable businesses, and leads efforts to raise standards through the International Matchmaking Compliance Board. Arlene also serves as Managing Director of the Worldwide Referral Network and hosts the Matchmaker Mentor Podcast. In this week’s episode, we’re going inside the world of match-making with our guest Arlene Washburn. Arlene has seen it all when it comes to matchmaking, including what not to do as a matchmaker and what she’s doing to help daters find their perfect match. Tune in to hear her experience as a matchmaker, who needs a matchmaker, and what to expect when you’re looking to hire a matchmaker. Because the truth is, matchmaking is not always like what you see in the movies.Follow Arlene on:Her Website: ArleneWashburn.comHer Podcast: The Matchmaker Mentor PodcastLove Pro Mastermind Academy: lovepromastermind.com International Matchmaking Compliance Board: imcboard.org Worldwide Referral Network: wwrnetwork.com Podcast: The Matchmaker Mentor PodcastFollow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Couples Coaching Services here! Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDITBuy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

At one point or another, couples are going to struggle with intimacy. Either their schedules don’t align, their spark fizzled out, or they just mentally can’t get there. So there are plenty of reasons you can be struggling with intimacy.  But recently, the problem amongst my coaching clients is that they can’t bounce back into being a sexy wife after becoming a mom. My clients beat themselves up because they think everything about them is supposed to bounce back - their sex drive, their bodies, their stamina, etc. But you’ve become a new person now. You’re a mom! So let’s see how we can navigate this new chapter of your life and relationship together. In this week’s episode, we’re figuring out how to switch from busy mom to sexy wife when it matters. It’s time to reclaim your desire, your connection, and yourself. Your intimate life is not over just because you had kids. You can embrace this new chapter with confidence, knowing that I, and my years of experience as a life relationship coach, can help you reclaim your life. Listen to hear why you may not be connecting with your partner and the four shifts you can use to get back into a sexy wife mindset. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Walking on eggshells is a very common part of life. It happens when we feel like we have to choose our words carefully or like we have to manage our tone to prevent an argument. It feels like one wrong word could blow up the entire conversation or even the entire relationship. If you’ve ever found yourself in this situation, I want you to know that you have options. And this episode is not just for you if you’re in a relationship. The tips I'm going to share can help you talk to your boss, your family members, and even your co-workers. This anxiety you are feeling about walking on eggshells is keeping you from having open and honest conversations. So let’s see what we can do to change that. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to stop walking on eggshells and start having calm, honest conversations with your loved ones. Whether your nervous system is out of whack or you’re afraid of things devolving into an argument, there is an answer and a plan for everything. Tune in to hear the tips I give my own clients and how you can have more open and honest conversations right now.Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.

This episode has mentions of suicide. If you are not in a space to listen to today's topic, we understand, and we’ll see you next time ❤️ Sometimes you can have everything you’ve ever wanted on paper, and still not be happy. It's terrifying to realize, but sometimes the material things you’ve always wanted are not what make you happy. Life is not just about our achievements. Of course, it’s great to have goals and accomplishments, but that isn’t everything that makes a life worth living. If you want more for your life and want to live beyond success, then this episode is for you. Bill Carmody is the former Chief Coaching Officer for Positive Intelligence, who in 2023 was named the 567th fastest growing private company in the United States according to Inc Magazine. Together with CEO Shirzad Chamine, Bill has supported more than 100,000 coaches globally to become mentally fit. Bill is a highly sought-after trainer and a well-seasoned Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation (ICF). He works with world-changing visionaries who are brave enough to build a better future. This week, Bill and I talked about living beyond success, mental fitness, and how he chose love and life again later in life. After making his fortune and creating a loving family, Bill still felt unhappy and contemplated ending his life. However, some wise words his father passed down to him during his own mental health crisis gave Bill the drive to start over and start designing a newer, happier life for himself. Tune in to hear what these wise words were and how he designed his new life in his episode of the Life and Love By Design podcast. Resources Mentioned: If you’re in the U.S., you can call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If you’re elsewhere, visit findahelpline.com to find support in your country.Follow Bill on:His Blog: Billcarmody.com/blog Website: AskBill.us LinkedIn: Bill Carmody Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Building a connection with your partner feels harder than it is. It feels like this connection is supposed to be inherently easy because the initial connection when you first got together was so easy. But reconnecting after losing that connection takes work. Not a ton of work, but work nonetheless. Luckily, we have access to some of the greatest minds in relationship research, like John Gottman and David Richo. Their work makes it clear that communication and patience can help bring couples together after betrayal, secrecy, or even drifting apart. This week, we’re talking about building connections with the small moments that matter the most. Relationships are not built on huge gifts or big moments. It’s those tiny bids of connections that make up a successful relationship. Which means that you can find your way back to your partner, and to yourself, one step at a time. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Being seen is a fact of life, especially when you are intentionally designing a new life for yourself. So when you’re designing your new life, you have to take into account how you want to be seen, inside and out, and get comfortable with it. This week, we have an expert on being seen and exploring new ways to become your most authentic self. Jennifer Bladel is an artist, photographer, and travel aficionado. She often finds herself chasing light, carving out shadows, and making dreams come true, both her own and others, and making content creation fun. She has spent over a decade building her company, traveling the world, and raising her daughter. Jennifer loves working with entrepreneurs and small business owners, especially women. In addition to headshots and family portraits, she is working on a limited edition fine art portrait series defining (expanding the definition of) women’s beauty 40OVER40. In this week’s episode, we talk to Jennifer about getting comfortable with being seen. Not only has Jennifer redesigned her life more than once, but she’s also helped her clients capture their most authentic, and sometimes more evolved, selves. You want the new life you’re designing to show up in more ways than one. If you want to be more confident in yourself, your self-image, and your actions, listen to Jennifer’s episode now! Follow Jennifer Bledel on:Website: www.villagestudiophotos.com  Instagram: @vsphotos_njFollow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

If you could control your own mind, would you stop yourself from spiraling into your darkest thoughts? For many of my clients, that’s all they want! To start the healing process and take control of their lives. Taking control of your mind and your mindset is the first step to designing your most amazing life. And with this week’s guest speaker, we’re going to learn how to master our minds so we can start designing our dream lives. Coach Nami Prakash is a leadership coach, motivational speaker, newfound author and founder of The Mind Quotient and MQ Press. A 20-year communications industry veteran, she now dedicates her work to helping individuals, especially women, heal, lead, and live intentionally. She just wrote and published the book, Healing with Courage, and is a passionate advocate for co-creating the life you desire and want by tapping into your gifts and spreading your light.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about healing with courage. Healing takes an immense amount of courage. We have to face our worst moments in order to master them. But it’s always worth it in the end. Coach Nami Prakash has helped high-capacity women and leaders to build a powerful relationship with their minds so they can live, lead, and create with intention. Tune into this week’s episode to learn how you can use the MQ to design the life and love that you’ve always wanted! Follow Coach Nami on:Website: https://www.coach-nami.com Instagram: @coachnamiLinkTree: https://linktr.ee/coachnami?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnCfMIHb6dU0CuZ9wy5GFe1RM9aAPgITCskYIaEgixhOKFg3uX4l1sQmZ6Ay8_aem_1gUh1f96ELGVT79r7AbdtQRead her book Healing With Courage: My Journey From Dark to Light by Nami Prakash here! https://www.amazon.in/Healing-Courage-Journey-Dark-Light-ebook/dp/B0G1Z7FNGH Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Many women, including myself, struggle with hormonal issues. Whether it’s not getting enough sleep, brain fog, or memory loss, these issues can take over our everyday lives. And sometimes the medication we’re prescribed is just a cover-up of our symptoms, not actual solutions. So how do we get access to the solutions that will actually solve the root of our problems? This week’s guest is Dr. Komal Yadav. She is a triple board-certified physician in Family Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and Anti-Aging & Regenerative Medicine. After years of working in traditional primary care, she pursued Functional Medicine to move beyond quick-fix approaches and address root causes. She now specializes in women’s health and hormones, integrating Eastern and Western healing to support whole-person wellness and inspire sustainable lifestyle change.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about women’s health, hormone balance, and whole-person wellness. Too many women are living in shame and confusion because the treatment they get does not solve their health problems; it’s just covering them up. But Dr. Komal Yadav works with a mix of both Western and Eastern medicine, allowing her to address her patients' symptoms while also addressing the root cause of their issues. If you’re feeling the effects of your hormonal issues and want to learn how to heal your whole body, listen to Dr. Komal Yadav’s episode for more information! Follow Dr. Komal on:Website: https://www.samskaraintegrative.com/ Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette Coronel Website: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Today, I’m clearing up any misunderstandings there are about coaching. Because not everyone knows what coaching is, they don't know what they’re going to get before they book a session. Let’s start with what it's not. Coaching is not me giving you advice, and it’s not me giving you a pep talk. We’re way past that in our growth journey. It is my job as a coach  to help you become the calmest, clearest, most grounded, most powerful version of yourself. It’s my job to sit with you regularly, look you in the eye, and say, “Let's design your life and your relationship with intention on purpose so that you can actually feel the way that you wanna feel.” Most people don't know what that's like to have someone like that in their corner. And they don't realize the impact of having that kind of support until they experience it for themselves. In this week’s episode, we’re working on understanding coaching and why coaching can be a game changer to create lasting transformation. My clients know that they need coaching when they’re ready for an exciting new change. Their old lives don’t serve them anymore, and they know I can help them design a life and a love that will. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about coaching and how I support my clients! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite: www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

You do not have to sacrifice your peace this holiday season. And I know, if that angry uncle starts with you, you’re gonna say something back. But what if I told you there was a way to address the conflict without having a major blowout? At the end of the day, all we want is to enjoy our time with our families. And having a screaming match at the dinner table is now how we want to spend our holidays. So I’ve compiled a list of tips, tricks, and mindset shifts to help you maintain your peace and ease some of the usual family conflicts. In this week’s episode, we talk about surviving the holidays with grace. The holidays are about love, togetherness, and holiday cheer. So let’s maintain all those warm, fuzzy feelings with a mental toolbox of conflict resolution tips. If you know that the holidays are going to be tricky this year, but you also don’t want to let people walk all over you for the sake of keeping the peace, tune into this week’s episode! Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

There is magic in living a multifaceted life. Your life was never meant to be one thing. We can be mothers, and at the same time, we can be actresses, models, and animal activists all in one. It is possible, as long as we design our lives with intention and learn how to make everyday magic. This week’s guest knows how to do exactly that, and we’re going to pick her brain to find out how you can design a magical, multifaceted life too. Julana Dizon is a Los Angeles–based model, actor, and TV host known for her vibrant personality and adventurous spirit. She began her career in 2010 as a model, and after being fortunate enough to travel the world and work with some of her favorite brands, she later expanded into TV/commercials and hosting. From celebrity interviews to red carpets to live talk shows and soap operas, she's always chasing the next fun opportunity. And as a new mom with a passion for family adventures, she believes in a work-life blend and encourages women and moms to dream big while embracing everyday magic.In this week’s episode, we’re talking to Julana about how she’s making everyday magic. Julana has to make some tough decisions about her career, her kids, and her life in general. She always knew that she wanted to design and live out her life with intention, but logistical roadblocks come along when you’re actually living that life. Through it all, Julana has learned to trust her gut and lean into intentionality when it comes to choosing her life paths. Tune in to hear how Julana blends her work life and her family life, and makes it work no matter where she is in the world. Follow Julana on:Instagram: @JulanaYouTube: @JulanaDizonPortfolio: www.julanadizon.com/portfolio Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.

Storytelling is one of the great ways we protect ourselves, especially as women. If you take a look at your bloodline, you’ll probably find very powerful women who had to go through so much adversity to get to where they are today. Our families carry stories of resilience and strength, but they are rarely ever written down or acknowledged. It’s time we honor these stories, and this week’s guest is a speaker who specializes in empowering women to recognize their strengths and share their stories.Desire Cruz is a woman of faith, purpose, and passion. A devoted daughter of the Most High, she is blessed to walk alongside her husband, Jesse Cruz, and is a proud mother to three beautiful daughters — Haleigh, Mariah, and Faith — who are the heartbeat of her world. Desire serves as the Co-CEO of MERGE Worldwide and is the leading author of Warrior Women, a powerful testament to resilience and sisterhood. Beyond her literary accomplishments, Desire is an international world traveler, event planner, transformation coach, and keynote speaker. Her life’s mission is deeply rooted in empowering women to rise into their fullest potential. Whether she’s inspiring audiences from stages around the globe or creating life-changing experiences through her events, Desire’s heart beats for women’s empowerment and personal transformation. In her quiet moments, she enjoys connecting with nature, which offers her peace and reflection amid her busy life of service and leadership.In this week’s episode, Desire and I talk about her book, Warrior Women, and why your story matters. Desire opens up about her ideas of legacy, and why the lessons we learn from our mothers and grandmothers should be written down and taught for generations to come. And she’s not just talking about her family; everyone has valuable lessons that they can leave behind for their families. But to do that, you have to first acknowledge your own story and the warrior woman within you. Follow Desire on:Instagram @dcruz742014Facebook: Desire CruzWebsite: www.https://mergeworldwide.comEmail: [email protected] Click here to purchase Desire’s first book: Warrior Women: Turning Life Lessons Into LegacyFollow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Sometimes we have to get to rock bottom before we make a change. My life coaching clients will sometimes come to me, telling me about the worst ways they’ve ever treated themselves, and they feel so incredibly guilty about it. They feel guilty because they didn’t trust themselves to make the right decision, and they don’t know how to find that worthiness in themselves again. Today, we’re going to work on how to listen to your body and restore that sense of self-worth, together, with a little help from this week’s guest.Jen Aks, is an embodiment coach, author, thought leader, and founder of The Power of Gesture®, a groundbreaking bodyset practice that has helped thousands of women since its 2020 inception. While mindset helps us shape what we think, bodyset connects us to what we feel—offering a direct path to authenticity, presence, and confidence.In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to listen to your body and get back to who you truly are. Jen Aks argues that we are not broken, and this practice of listening to our body is not about fixing ourselves, but restoring what is already within us. By listening to our bodies, we can start to heal the worthiness wound that we’ve been ignoring for too long. Tune in to Jen’s episode to hear all about her rock bottom moment and how she’s been restoring her self-worth for herself and for her coaching clients.  Follow Jen on:Instagram @jen_aksWebsite: www.jenaks.comPurchase Jen’s book, Your Body Is Speaking, here!Check out Jen’s TEDx Talk: Your Body's Hidden Intelligence: From Mindset to Bodyset | Jen Aks | TEDxFolsomFollow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Have you and your partner ever dealt with infidelity? I typically help my clients before it ever gets to that point. Infidelity typically happens because there is a problem in the relationship. My clients and I work together on the everyday patterns and disconnections that, if not addressed, can slowly erode a marriage over time. But my good friend and guest on this week’s podcast episode, Luke Shillings, helps his clients after the affair has happened. I invited Luke onto the podcast to pick his brain about what happens after the affair, and if there’s a way to move forward after a spouse has been betrayed.Luke Shillings is a relationship and infidelity recovery coach and the host of The After the Affair Podcast. Drawing from personal experience and years of coaching individuals and couples, Luke helps people move from emotional chaos to clarity after betrayal. His work blends compassion with practicality, helping clients rebuild trust, identity, and authentic connection, whether they stay or leave.In this week’s episode, we talk about healing and rebuilding after infidelity. Luke’s story is special because he has been through infidelity himself. His wife betrayed him, they separated and divorced, and years later, they reconnected and rebuilt a life together, even though they chose not to remarry. So infidelity doesn’t always mean the end of the relationship. If both parties want to work towards reconciliation, it can be the start of better communication, answering questions, and building an even stronger relationship than the one they had before. Listen to Luke’s episode to hear his thoughts on rebuilding after infidelity and how both parties can take responsibility for their part in the relationship. Follow Luke on:Instagram @mylifecoachlukeWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFollow the After the Affair Podcast here!Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

We will all go through hot and cold phases in our marriage. It’s inevitable. Whether you're exhausted from chasing around the kids or you feel like you’re stuck in the roommate phase, there will be long stretches of time where you look around and realize the spark is gone. And on top of that, you have no idea how to get it back. I want you to know that this is more normal than you think. Life is not like the movies; we don’t always have the same level of romance in every phase of our relationship. But if you feel like it’s time to get the spark back, then we can do it together. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to reignite the spark in your marriage. We’re also going to talk about how to keep that spark alive once you’ve found it. Relationships take a little bit of work, just like everything else in life. So let’s get you two back together and fix this disconnect in your marriage. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Communication is a huge part of whether or not we have happy and healthy relationships. Not only because communication is a part of our daily lives, but it also builds every kind of intimacy we have. Emotional, mental, and physical intimacy all hinge on how we speak to each other. So when we’re out of touch with our partner, it can feel like the entire relationship is out of whack. You want to fix it, but you don’t know how, you don’t know what to say, and you don’t know why what you’re saying isn’t getting through to your partner. So what can you do when it feels like nothing is working?In this week’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to address our needs and frustrations efficiently and with care. The way we talk to each other is our daily foundation for our relationships. If we ever want to build our emotional, mental, and physical connection, we have to start with our communication.Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Conflict is bound to happen, whether you’ve been married for two years or twenty. It’s a fact of life. But how you deal with it will determine if you have a long and happy relationship, or you both throw in the towel prematurely. Most people, in my opinion, tend to love their spouse and want to make it work. They just don’t know what to say or do to make it better. That’s why this week, we’re taking a few tips from my favorite relationship-solving book.  In this week’s episode, we're gonna be talking about how to strengthen the relationship with your partner. As a relationship coach, I know that there is a way out of the darkness, and I can help guide you through it. I’m going to be talking about how to handle conflict in a healthy way and how small daily habits can help protect your marriage from disconnection and from stress. We’re going to be diving into the seven principles highlighted in the book Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver. Tune in to hear what simple tweaks you can make in your relationship to ease the stress and protect your marriage. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Limiting beliefs start out as a way to protect yourself, but if they never get resolved, they can evolve into an untrue story you tell yourself. For example, if you get a bad burn while cooking, you may never want to set foot into a kitchen again because cooking is dangerous. This is the story you tell yourself, and as time goes on, it limits your ability to feed yourself, develop your cooking skills, and work through your fears. Many of my clients want better for themselves; they want to improve their lives and their relationships, but they refuse to get out of their own way. It makes sense to them because they’ve been hurt before. Whether it was a relationship, a bad experience with a manager, or something in their childhood that never got resolved, people get stuck in limiting beliefs because they think they are keeping themselves safe. When in reality, they’re holding themselves back. In this week’s episode, we’re identifying what limiting beliefs are and how you can rewrite the stories that are keeping you stuck. To build an intentional life and an intentional relationship, it’s important to take a look at our limiting beliefs and how they’re holding us back. The only way to get over them is to work through them, and this week, we’re doing it together. Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Our values are what tell us if we’re living the life we’re truly meant to live or not. That gross, gut feeling we get when we don’t stand up for ourselves, or when we accept something we shouldn’t, means we are not aligned with our values. And if we keep living in misalignment, we start to feel like we’re living on autopilot. That is no way to live. When we want to change our lives or even change our love lives, it’s often because we’re not living in alignment with our values. By identifying what values are, we can start living in alignment with them. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how we can let our values lead the way. Our values are what’s more important to us. They tell us who we are and what we want to be. So if we’re ever feeling lost or confused, leaning on our values is the compass we need to make the right decision. It can be difficult to figure out these feelings on our own, which is why we’re going to do it together. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

I know it sounds like this huge, daunting thing, designing your entire life, so let’s start with the basics. This is your life, so this process is going to take a lot of self-reflection. When designing your life, you have to ask yourself what you do want in your life, and what you don’t. Getting clear on what you want can be as simple as just being honest with yourself. By identifying your core values and beliefs, you can take the first steps towards the life you didn’t even know you wanted. And as your life and relationship coach, we can do it together. In this week’s episode, we're getting clear on what you want your life and your love to look like. You are allowed to change and evolve and grow, even if you don’t know what you want yet. In this episode, I’m going to be sharing some journal prompts that you can use to get clear on what you want, as well as sharing what I did to get clear on what I wanted when I first started designing my life. Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette’s Life Coaching Services here! Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

To change our lives, we need to look inward and confront these feelings that keep surfacing. Feeling lost or stuck can mean we want to explore or move on from our current situation. Feeling like we don’t have any clarity can mean you want to start researching your options. And since you are in charge of your life, you can start designing your next steps. As a life and relationship coach, I see so many of my clients shy away from these feelings before they explore them. They feel as if changing any aspect of their lives is too much change for them to fully be in charge of. But it’s your life. It’s your relationship. You are allowed to change, edit, and evolve as much as you’d like!In this week’s episode, we're going to talk about what it means to live life and love by design. It’s time to stop living by default, start taking ownership of your life, and start creating and designing the life and the relationship that you want to live. And we can do so together. Listen to this week’s episode to hear how you can identify some of these difficult feelings and start designing your life and your love with intention.Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoachingTikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach   LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Sign up for Odette's Life Coaching Services here!Sign up for Odette’s Relationship Coaching Services here! Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio. 

Welcome to Life and Love by Design, the podcast that helps you create the life and relationship you truly want - intentionally and on your own terms.I’m your host, Odette Coronel, an Accredited Professional Coach, Relationship Mentor, and NLP Practitioner. If you’re ready to let go of other people’s version of success and begin creating your own, this podcast is for you. Join us every week to get practical strategies and fresh perspectives to design your own version of success - one that includes both a life and a love you’re proud of!Follow Odette on:Instagram: @‌odettecoronelcoaching TikTok: @‌odetterelationshipcoach LinkedIn: Odette CoronelWebsite:www.odettecoronel.comHow to work with Odette:Book your free coaching consultation call here!Request Odette to speak at your next event here!Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.