No, You're Not Dying

We're back with Part 2 of our interview series!It's Coronation Day! The interview is tomorrow. You're probably wondering: what do I bring? How early should I get there? Did I prepare enough?Today we're dishing out practical magic (read: advice) on navigating the interview itself, from the moment you start to prepare until you walk out of the building - or slam your laptop shut. We're talking about the potential consequences of over-preparation, the 5 year stranger rule, what you can learn from arriving early to your interview, and why taking a day off to go might be the best idea.We also chat about what to do when you have a tough interviewer, how to not be defensive when you're put on the spot, why you shouldn't walk out of a difficult interview, and how to overcome the challenges that arise with virtual interviews (can you hear me now?)Plus, why finding out the turnaround time for feedback will help you avoid the failure spiral.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

There's nothing quite like getting an interview for a job that you're excited for. You're thrilled! A job is on the horizon! And then comes reality: oh crap, I have an interview to prepare for.Interviewing can bring up issues you're struggling with (hello insecurity and people-pleasing tendencies), and get you caught-up in your own head. Add to that the current job environment. So how do you put your best foot forward and navigate an already-stressful situation without making it harder on yourself?Today, we're chatting about how to set yourself up for success in an interview, and breaking down how your own psychology comes into play. We discuss why you need to frame the job outcome at the beginning of the process, how to be confident without being cocky, and why it's okay to let your personality shine.We also talk about body language and non-verbal behaviors, the importance of humor in diffusing a tense situation, how to gauge office culture, and why interviewing needs to be a two-way street.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Perhaps you've recently heard about the Artemis II mission around the moon. And if you haven't, we're here to tell you about it (and by "it", we mean a little bit about the mission and a lot a bit about how it made us think about life and our existence).Not only was it exciting to collectively experience a historical moment that wasn't extra-strength awful, but it also showed us how an event like this can teach us a lot about who we are - if we think about it in just the right way.Today, we're digging into the feeling of disbelief that Earth even exists, why footage from space makes us feel both insignificant/like nothing matters AND so special/like everything matters, and how to refocus when you're getting lost in the minutiae.We also share our thoughts on "doing things scared" and balancing our fears with seizing opportunities, what it means to leave a legacy, appreciating "nerdy" subjects and why we need more women in STEM, and of course, the biggest questions of all: would you want to go to space, and is there other life out there?About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

What do The Pitt, The Bear, Hacks, and Best Medicine have in common? They're on our list of favorite TV shows, of course! (Some of these should be no surprise, tbh).In today's listener-requested episode, we're taking you through our top shows across streaming services and regular, ol'-fashioned cable: the ones that have taught us something, brought us happiness, and made us look at things in a new way.On the surface, our conversation might provide you with some new shows to get you through the day - or you won't like them, and that'd be a bummer lol. But it's also a discussion on emotional connection and humanity, how our favorite TV might be providing something we're searching for within ourselves, and why the characters we watch every week can make us feel less alone.We also share our honorable mentions (some old, some new, but definitely all in our top 10)...but you'll have to listen to find out what they are!About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

The way success gets talked about is always confusing: on one hand, we should have a big goal we're working towards and if that doesn't get achieved, then we've failed; on the other hand, success is really about the journey (not the destination), and it can exist in other ways - maintaining your values, having a strong work ethic, improving upon your skills and learning something new. So which is it? And can it be both? This week, we're discussing what it really means to be successful, after watching an interview that entirely changed our perspectives. We talk about what we lose when we only focus on the "end result" as a metric of success, why goals that you're pursuing should be defined by you, and our own ways that we evaluate our successes. We also chat about what happens when you take metrics out of the equation, how the industry you work in can define your mindset (and why it can be hard to reframe it), and why comparing ourselves to others can make us feel like failures - even when we're not.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

How exactly does a person go about living their life and maintaining sanity while also constantly consuming news from the world around them that seems all bad, all the time? No clue, but we're trying to figure it out.In today's listener-requested episode (thank you!!), we're discussing how to balance staying informed about the world without burning ourselves out, and how to avoid doomscrolling (as best we can). While sharing our own experiences with this dilemma, we talk about strategies on how to set limits on media consumption, clickbait and the overuse of "breaking news" headlines, and why your boundaries might differ from someone else's. We also chat about false control, learned helplessness and the importance of taking action, the impact of tension on our relationships and physical selves, and what to do to take control of your environment.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Whoever said that complaining is bad for you obviously just doesn't get it. It can be funny, a way to vent, and a means of connection - and there doesn't have to be an end goal or solution you're aiming for. Today, we're chatting about why complaining gets an often undeserved bad rap, how to know when you're taking it too far, when to offer solutions versus when to just listen, and why humor can make us feel better about the things that are making us unhappy.Then, we're getting into the ~many~ things we are disliking right now - from too-tight socks, to poorly timed commercial breaks, to bad therapy, and our favorite items being discontinued. Plus, so much more. Trust us. We also have our first wheeze laugh of the show so if nothing else listen for that. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today's episode is brought to you by the first warm day in months and the confusion that comes with daylight savings.We're feeling extra chatty with our highs and lows this week, covering everything from entitled people in parking lots to German restaurants to Harry Styles and yet another meltdown over the Lion King (cue: look, there's a lion, omg). Then, we recap an experience from a year ago that led Joyce to realize how weird it is to gatekeep information as an adult (and also serves as a reminder that we never really let anything go, ever). We talk about what gatekeeping is, what motivates people to do it, and when it can actually be advantageous.We also discuss insecurity and competition, why we withhold information from people we have history with when we're trying to reinvent ourselves, and why we can be unique AND generous of spirit at the same time. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Having kids and starting a family can be such an idealized experience: the fun! the adventure! the excitement! But it also is a full-time job with immense responsibility. Add maintaining and running a home, and the pressure on parents rises. Add a working parent (or two), and it increases ten-fold.Inspired by the show All Her Fault, this week we're talking about how to balance raising kids while working and sharing responsibilities between partners. We dive into the different expectations placed on different parents, how to effectively communicate if things are feeling unequal, and why it's okay to need alone time - even from your kids.We also discuss the double standards for working moms and dads, how incompetence gets unintentionally reinforced, what to do when you don't want to be the "manager" parent but struggle to give up control, and how to handle parental guilt (trust us, your kids don't remember as much as you think!)About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Have you ever pursued the 'bad boy' over the 'nice guy'? The one with a bit of an edge, who you feel cares about you but also really...doesn't? If you have, it's no surprise: among other things, we're taught from a young age that the boys who bully us in school really like us, and we've popularized the enemies to lovers trope in the books, tv, and movies that we consume. So today, we're diving into how this relationship dynamic plays out as adults. We talk about why we tend to push people away who are overly affectionate and nice to us, whether it's *actually* too much or we've just gotten used to people being mean, when meanness goes from sexy to pathological, and how past relationships affect future ones. We also chat about the unconscious mind and attachment styles, the conflation of passion and anger, why we like relationships where we feel like we have to fix someone, and why in the end, nice people really shouldn't finish last.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Some weeks are for relatable advice, and some weeks are...not. When life feels chaotic, sometimes you just have to get out of your head and find joy in what's around you. Today we're attempting to change our moods and our outlooks by sharing the things we're loving right now - from our morning routines, to favorite pieces of clothing, the coconut water that changed it all, and the podcasts we listen to as people who famously don't listen to podcasts.Through our conversation, we learn that even the most mundane things can make us the happiest, we can come to love the things we used to hate, and that Heated Rivalry has continued to change Joyce's life for the better.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today is a very special episode because we are celebrating one year of No, You're Not Dying!! Time has both flown and moved at an exceedingly glacial pace, and we're recapping and reflecting on the last 365 days: what we've learned, what has surprised us, what's been left on the cutting room floor, and what we hope for the next year.In the spirit of our podcasting anniversary, we're then getting into how to know when to break away from the status quo and what you're told you should do/be, and go after what you want. We talk about the consequences of leaving what you "should" do behind, how to figure out what you like when you've never thought about it, and why we can lose our sense of self when we live by other people's expectations.We also discuss how jealousy and judgement can point us in the right direction, when to listen to outside noise and when to tune it out, how to align your shoulds/wants and why sometimes all you need is a change of setting, and what to do instead of acting on impulse. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week we're having an honest conversation around body image in a time where it seems like everyone is getting smaller. We're sharing our thoughts on the shift from 'health at every size' to 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' and the whiplash that comes with it, the fundamental misconception that it's everyone's goal to lose weight, and how we place too much value on what we look like versus who we are.We also discuss the marketing of weight-loss medications and its implications, the pressure we can feel to change ourselves even if we've worked hard to feel comfortable in our own skin, how we deal with toxic thoughts, and why 'losing 5 pounds' might not be the ultimate answer.Plus, our takes on how celebrity weight-loss influences the public, thin privilege, and the limitations of plus-size fashion.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week, we were inspired by a video we saw from @sarahcha.d on Instagram where she mentioned that we are all one step away from being unable to afford food. It got us thinking about our own vulnerabilities, the fragility of life, and how that awareness promotes empathy.We dig into why people distance and create an 'other' mentality when they want to avoid difficult things, how we take our standing in life for granted, and why a little compassion can go a long way.We also discuss why the blame game has no purpose when people are actively struggling, how isolationism interferes with empathy, and why we all need to remember that nothing lasts forever (good, bad, or otherwise).About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If you’ve seen the Hulu show Tell Me Lies, you know that the characters range from bad-decision-makers to straight-up-evil. And every episode, you think ‘it can’t possibly get worse’ - and then it does. So, I wanted to get Dr. Beth’s take.In today’s bonus episode, we’re doing a recap of the first four episodes of Season 3, covering the craziest moments (in our opinions) so far.Then, we’re diving into a Q&A on the character’s behaviors, personalities, and choices, all from a psychologist’s perspective. We cover what makes Stephen so dangerous and what to do if you know someone like him in real life, why toxic relationship cycles continue, what role Lucy plays in her situation, and how shame and insecurity impact relationship dynamics (hello Lucy and Alex).We also discuss Oliver’s manipulative behavior, whether you can do the wrong thing for the right reasons, and why we the audience love to watch shows like this.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week's episode kicks off with a harrowing tale of a snowy drive gone awry (wear your seatbelts, folks!), followed by another ~unfiltered thoughts~ segment on: protein coffee (gross), cybertrucks (ew), grocery store hauls (acceptable for Trader Joe's only), and self-checkout kiosks (hate).Then, we're diving into the concept of not being okay with not knowing something. Have you ever nodded along, pretending to have watched a TV show someone is talking about, even though you hadn't? Like, why do we do that? Why not just say you haven't seen it?We cover what drives people to act like they know things even if they don't, why we actually may have learned this behavior in the classroom, and how lying about knowing something can backfire (trust us, we have the stories to prove it).We also discuss what to say when people try to embarrass you for not knowing how to do something, why asking questions is a win for everyone, the Taylor Swift cake pop interview, and why the way we say 'I don't know' matters.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today's episode is brought to you by two recent experiences Joyce had that made her realize that perhaps the way we speak to ourselves does, in fact, matter (and also that we need to be a lot nicer to ourselves).We're chatting about the often automatic nature of our negative voices, where they might come from, and how to rewrite them. We cover whether our internal dialogue is really a reflection of how we've been spoken to, moving from negative to neutral self-talk, the importance of channeling how others speak to us to speak to ourselves, and the power of talking back. We also discuss using data to shift our mindset, self-fulfilling prophecies, how to avoid making sweeping generalizations about ourselves, and why you need to sometimes just look in the mirror and tell yourself to knock it off.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Ideal world: you come back from vacation rested, recharged, and ready to take on the work week. You pre-planned, your to-do list was to-done before you left, and you're at inbox zero.Reality: you haven't had a routine in weeks, every project you put off from before your break is due, everyone is circling back, and your inbox is out of control. Oh yeah, and your to-do list? Miles long.In today's episode, we're chatting about how to have a successful first week back at work after a break, and how to cope with the feeling of having so much to do that you don't know where to start. We discuss task management and how to motivate yourself, techniques to quiet your mind so that you can be effective, and why buying a new planner probably won't solve all your anxieties. We also talk about why experiencing task paralysis doesn't automatically mean you have ADHD, fear mongering on the internet, and why we need to speak kindly to ourselves.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We've made it to the end of the year! Have you made your resolutions yet that you'll probably give up on by February? (sry not sry)...but maybe we can help.Today, we're discussing whether resolutions are worth making for the start of a new year and why we struggle with following through. We talk about why any day can be 1/1, why the intention behind a resolution really does matter, and the fundamental flaws with messaging like 'new year, new you'.Then, we share practical solutions on making changes that work for us. We dive into:How many resolutions are realistic to setThe ways to make them achievableHow we can work towards our goals everyday in small waysWhy it's okay to let go of an 80/20 mindsetWhy setting a resolution must be uniquely for you (and not because you saw it someone else's list)About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Are you approaching the holidays with a bit of a 'what's going on here?' mentality? Do you normally feel excited for the season, and now you're just...not? Is there a feeling of 'meh' where there's usually a feeling of 'merry and bright'? Us too.Today, we're getting real about the complex emotions around this time of the year. We kick off with our thoughts on why recent world events have led to feelings of hopelessness and defeat for many of us, and how stories of family tragedy can impact those who work in the mental health field.We then dig into why we feel unsettled when our mood is not what we expected it to be, how to know when to push through a funk versus wallow in it, and the importance of trying to figure out why we're feeling this way (even if nothing changes).We also discuss why talking it out can help us feel validated, how to regain control when you start to spiral, why we can't just create new traditions when we lose old ones, and what distinguishes being bummed out from something more serious.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Every year in late fall, we are blessed with the return of Hallmark Holiday movies. Do we watch them because we are obsessed with small-town holiday festivals, can't wait to watch strangers drink hot cocoa, or want to live vicariously through someone else decorating a freshly-baked, intricate gingerbread house that we know we could never make? Or do they serve a bigger purpose?Today we're talking about the appeal of these movies around the holidays and why they might be the stress-free getaway we've all been searching for. We discuss healthy escapism, why repetitive plot lines can give us stability, and how these types of movies can help shape our outlook on life.We also cover toxic positivity, the small-town fantasy (and why it's not real), and why traditions make us feel grounded.Plus, our top movie recommendations and an absolutely unhinged installment of our 'get to know us' segment. We don't really know what happened there.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If you've ever felt insane stress and pressure around the holidays to come up with the perfect gifts for the people in your life, this episode is for you.This week, we're talking about consumerism culture, the early-onset holiday season, and why finding the 'perfect' holiday gift is kind of a fool's errand. We chat about why having more options to buy from can lead to more confusion, why we have such a hard time buying the items that people tell us they want, and how we can accidentally correlate what gift we get with how much someone cares about us.We also discuss financial pressure around the holidays, what to do when we feel like we're not doing enough, comparison and competition in gifting, and why the simplest of gifts can mean the most.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

A tale as old as (recent) times: being addicted to your phone. What started as a way to stay in touch with loved ones has ended up as a small pocket computer with hundreds of ways to distract you, from your own photo album to news apps to looking up every single thought you've ever had on the internet. Does it help that so many of us can't even remember a time when we didn't have a cell phone? We'll let you decide.Today, we're digging into why so many of us have an unhealthy relationship with our phones, and the epiphany that Joyce had that made her think she might have a problem. We talk about the costs of not letting our minds just wander, how our attention spans and developmental milestones get affected, and why we need to practice being alone.We also chat about why we sometimes need to get outside, the steps to breaking a bad habit, our surprise at toy commercials coming back to TV, and why you don't need another app to just get off your phone.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We're back with Part 3 of our Friend-ly Advice series!Have you ever had a 'friend' that you genuinely care about who only contacts you when they want to brag about how amazing their life is, or use you for favors, your connections, caretaking, etc.? We have, and it's a real bummer.So today, we're talking about how to recognize if you're in a one-sided friendship and whether it's worth trying to save. We cover why it can be hard to detach from this type of friend - even if it's loser energy to act this way, how self-esteem plays a role for both people in a transactional relationship and why you shouldn't overvalue one bad experience, and who really feels the loss when the friendship falls apart (we did actually fight about this lol).We also chat about when to say something to your friend versus when to 'quiet exit', how to speak about your accomplishments without bragging, why being self-centered doesn't mean you're a diagnosed narcissist, and the ways your temperament impacts how you experience your friendships.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

There comes a point in our lives when we realize that our parents and our children are not exactly who we thought they would be - they're flawed, imperfect, and perhaps incredibly irritating, but we have to accept them as they are because the alternative is just being constantly angry and giving ourselves tension headaches and ulcers.And if you're thinking...yes 100% absolutely but how exactly do we learn to accept our family, then get your headphones on because this episode is for you.Today we're chatting about why people struggle with acceptance and the conflicting feelings it can bring up. We cover how our idealizations about our parents when we’re children can impact how we view them as we age, why we need to focus on 'overall', practicing positive thinking, and why only you can shift your perspective.We also talk about how children understand when they're not being accepted (even if it's not spoken), the importance of self-reflection, and why we need to be kinder to our families - and not save the 'good stuff' for strangers.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Things We Should Have Said is a new segment, where we include conversations that we forgot or had to cut for time in the original episode. As an addition to 'Settling is for Bar Tabs, Not Relationships', this bonus segment includes:Why who you pick as a life partner is one of the most important decisionsWhy you need to be honest with yourself about what you value in a relationship and what 'settling' is to youQuestions you need to ask yourself about your partner, like, 'is this someone I can count on when things get hard?'How happy marriages lead to longevityWhat becomes a priority over passion as you ageAbout Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Beth went on her first vacation in a looooong time, and we're getting the full recap! Today's episode starts with a debrief of the Montana ranch experience, with special mentions of the best thing about Laguardia's bathrooms, and why you need to step out of your comfort zone to experience life.Then, we're diving into settling in relationships - inspired by our own observations and that one reel from @itscourtneymichelle. We talk about making your 'ideal partner' list and how settling differs from compromising, the reasons people may pick the wrong partner, and our opinions on outside pressure and the timeline to have kids.We also discuss why traditional pathways may not always be best, the long-term effects of being in an unhappy marriage (especially when children are involved), how fairytale stories can shape what we expect in relationships, and why it's okay to walk away from a relationship that is no longer for you.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

~iT's $p0okY s3@SoN, w!tChEs!~Anyway...Join us for a spooktacular episode where we take a trip down memory lane, recapping and reminiscing on our favorite Halloweens from our childhood! We're talking about our first costumes, why we originally thought trick-or-treating was a scam, and our definite opinions on whether you can leave your neighborhood in the pursuit of candy.We're also sharing our thoughts on the micromanagement of the holiday and why we need to bring parades back to schools, Halloween adults (no, not the ones with kids), the ultimate haunt of Party City, and why we're sort of comforted by the idea of ghosts.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

It feels like these days, dating is harder than ever. Either people met their partner on 1) a dating app or 2) in college, and there's no miscellaneous third option. So when you're in your thirties and don't want (read: refuse) to swipe, where are you supposed to meet people? *Cue: Raye's 'Where Is My Husband?'*This week we're trying to figure that out, whether you're chronically single or making dating a priority again after it...just wasn't.We talk about how people in your life can act as matchmakers, what meeting someone in person can show you that the apps can't, the problem with dating platitudes, and why sometimes our RBFs are unconsciously sending a message. We also discuss how our interpersonal connections have changed over time and why we've lost our rizz, why doing activities alone is a win even if you don't meet anyone, what history can teach us about dating, and why feeling awkward isn't the enemy.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If ever there was a vent sesh episode, today's would be it.We're kicking off a new, totally random segment called 'unfiltered thoughts', where we share our - you guessed it - unfiltered thoughts. We're talking emotional support shirts, laser tag, and packing tape. We have strong opinions on all 3 and so should you, tbh.Then we're getting into the problems with production culture and why we feel pressure to be creating all of the time. Is it because things have gotten easier and we have constant access to the internet? Is it because numbers are the only thing that matter anymore? Is it because we've tried to 'MBA' our way through everything? Hm, maybe yes.We talk about the shift to a quantity mindset, why we aren't able to keep up with the pace of an 'efficient' world, why making things easy is expensive, and what leads to creative burnout.We also cover how no one knows how to use a map anymore, the irony of 'create more than you consume' when you're feeling uninspired, and how the clock app is ruining music (sry but it had to be said).About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be, which is probably why so many people are holding onto the last time they felt joyous freedom: being in college. The stakes were lower, there were fewer responsibilities, and you existed in a bubble.At some point, we all know we need to put our big kid pants on and grow up...but do you ever feel like you're the only one who did?Today's episode covers why people find the transition from college to adulthood so difficult and the reasons why they don't want to move forward. We discuss why it's easy to idealize the past, what makes a 'pseudo-adult', and why it's okay to be in a different place than your peers (like when they're out clubbing and you're in bed by 9pm).We also talk about why hindsight is 20/20, the fear of settling down, how to define your value system, and why growing up doesn't mean you can't still have fun.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Close your eyes and raise your hand if you have a family member who you'd consider toxic. Now open your eyes: bet you didn't think we'd all have a hand in the air, now did you?Today we're talking about why nobody talks about having a toxic person in their family, and the quiet shame that comes along with knowing that you do. We dive into how your feelings are impacted by your relationship to the person, why conflict never lives only with the family member it started with, illnesses vs. traits, and why people have a hard time saying 'I'm sorry'.We also discuss why you can't match toxicity with toxicity, the power of family and positive experiences, how to know when to cut someone off, and why blaming other people for your problems won't ever solve anything.Plus, a whole bit about tomatoes, going to concerts, nightmares, and challah bread. Sounds weird but if you listen you'll get it.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Well, one of us is sick and the other is crying to The Lion King again, so you could say we're hanging on by a thread! Anyway...Following the finale of The Summer I Turned Pretty (!!!!!) and Belly's moment of talking to a photo of herself as a child, we felt inspired to talk to our younger selves today - because you don't have to wait until your birthday or NYE to reflect. Getting to know who that person was not only allows us to be kinder to ourselves, but lets us explore how they shaped who we are today and how to move forward.We discuss why we need to zoom out (from 1, to 5, to 10 years and beyond) to see real change, how slow progress is still progress, and why if you don't know where to start, take out an old photo of younger you.We also speak about why realizing you value something you thought you outgrew doesn't mean you're regressing, the critical lens we develop as we get older, and why at the end of the day...YOLO.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

The names Whelmed...Over Whelmed.The world feels heavy at the moment, and when that combines with chaos in your own life, it creates the perfect storm for feeling downright weird. There's a sense of being lost (cut to us throwing our socks in the garbage and packing 2 sandwiches for lunch...listen and you'll understand), being unsteady, and not knowing how to react because there's actually so much to react to. Today, we're brain dumping our own experiences with this and how we attempt to get through the day - because there aren't always answers during times like these. We get into the importance of small routines to cope with the constant barrage of terrible news all of the time, why we rewatch TV shows when we're stressed, and how to find balance between overthinking and turning your brain off.We also talk about 'get back to work' culture, how we unconsciously 'forget' painful experiences, why it always takes longer to process our emotions than we think, and why thankfully with time, most things do get better.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Alright, so you've decided you might want to go to therapy. What the heck now?In today's listener-requested episode, we're giving you the Therapy 101, because like with doing your taxes, they don't teach this in schools.We go through how to go about finding a therapist and knowing when you've found the right one, the different types of clinicians, and why (spoiler alert) satisfied customers are the best people for a recommendation.We also talk about why going to therapy on a regular basis can help you avoid being in the trenches later, why going regularly doesn't mean going forever, and what meeting for therapy in-person offers you that online therapy cannot.Plus, a PSA on using AI for therapy - don't.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

It is even really a birthday if you don't have a crying selfie? In honor of Joyce's 31st birthday - in our 31st episode, no less - we're talking about the complicated feelings around celebrating another year around the sun. On one hand, yay, it's your day of birth and there's so much to look forward to! On the other hand, time is flying and you're just getting older and it's time to mourn your youth.We dive into how having grand expectations can lead to disappointment, why you shouldn't compare your age against milestones other people are hitting, and why tempering your feelings can actually make you happier in the long run.We also chat about the ultimate existential crisis of attachment, grandma hobbies and how youth is wasted on the young, why we should look at every decade as a new adventure, and why it's all silly anyway because do you really remember every birthday you've ever had?About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We've all had moments where we want to tell people in our life to stop doing something - being friends with someone we think is toxic, dating someone that we think is undeserving of their love, engaging in bad behaviors that we ourselves have done that ended badly, and, and, and. So what do you do about it? Well...Today we're talking about why you shouldn't give unsolicited advice and why people need to make their own mistakes (easier said than done, we know). We get into how to decide if a 'bad behavior' warrants sharing your input, why you might have your own personal needs for giving your opinion, the importance of learning from the consequences of our behavior, and why overprotecting people weakens them.We also discuss why therapists shouldn't treat their patients like their kids, the difficulty in giving up the urge to parent your adult children, validation and resistance in therapy, and why we need to engage our frontal lobes.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We know you were thinking, 'I Wish You Would do an episode on Taylor Swift this week!' Well...You can't deny that she is one of (if not THE) most influential musicians in the world. She has Forever & Always had a thriving fan base, aka the Swifties (of which Joyce is an active member), but the negative sentiment towards her seems to be stronger than with other celebrities. Plus, the haters seem to be ~so casually cruel~ to her fans, which has us seeing Red. With popularity comes criticism, we know, but the critics can be downright Mean. So, how do you explain it?Long Story Short, today we're talking about the phenomenon of Taylor Swift. We discuss why she is so appealing and so many are drawn to her music, the value system that she has, and her ability to understand girlhood. We then dive into what drives the haters, from envy and idealization, to misogyny, to lack of power. We also cover how to reframe jealousy, the problem with parasocial relationships, and why the opposite of love isn't hate, it's just indifference...so...yeah.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

There are two kinds of people in this world: 1) those of us who act totally fine when we have a health symptom, and 2) those of us who freak out and convince ourselves that we have every illness known to humankind and also probably might die.If Option 2 feels ~familiar~ to you, join us for today's episode as we chat about hypochondria and what it's like to have health anxiety. Starting with the tale of a recent full-scale meltdown involving challah bread, we dig into what kinds of personalities may be more susceptible to experiencing this, hypochondria's purpose and what it can teach us, and how even small amounts of stress can make it worse.We also discuss why you should never consult the internet with your symptoms, how to figure out when to visit a doctor versus when to let it be, whether the placebo effect is real, and how to let logic back in the driver's seat. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Some of the most daunting words that can be spoken in a relationship: 'let's try long-distance'.In today's listener-requested episode, we're diving into what the heck to do when this happens - and yes, it does also impact the person who is leaving - and how to make sure your relationship lives to tell the tale.We discuss why you need to define 'distance', how to overcome trust issues/insecurities, ways to make requests of your partner without it feeling controlling, and why human interaction is irreplaceable and texting is the least effective method of communication (how many times have you misread a 'sounds good' text and thought someone is mad at you?)We also chat about emotional baggage, why breaks are really breakups, 'we' vs. 'me' behaviors, and the importance of not disappearing from your own life just because you're a part of someone else's.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Ugh, here we go again with another lifestyle trend on social media that got taken way too far and then people absolutely lost the plot!Today, we're dissecting the 'princess treatment', which started as a way to describe being cared for and pampered by your significant other, morphed into a breakdown of what's 'bare minimum' vs. what's 'princess treatment', and then went viral with stories of women refusing to talk to wait staff at restaurants, having their husbands tie their shoes for them, and other insane things we can't even write down. We get into how this content and trend infantilizes women, why we need to go beyond face value and understand the price of our choices, and our opinions on why this trend has seen a rise in popularity (and why now). We also discuss power dynamics in relationships, how the dissatisfaction that drove modern feminism is now being popularized through these ideas, what these behaviors teach the younger generation of women, and why good partnerships need reciprocity.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Wouldn't it be easy if life came with a manual, just so we could feel like we sort of knew what we were doing?Unfortunately that's...not the case, especially when it comes to the evolution of caregiving. Our parents/guardians care for us when we're young, but it often ends up with us caring for them as they get older.In this listener-requested episode, we discuss this transition and how complicated and confusing it can be. We cover the mix of feelings we may feel during this time, why we need to get comfortable with sacrifice, the importance of taking mental breaks when being a caregiver, and why the 'theoreticals' don't always help us prepare for the real thing.We also share our thoughts on who makes a strong caregiver and what to do to improve your skills, how anger and resentment are used as defense mechanisms, the difference between actions and feelings, and why ultimately, becoming a caregiver is a choice.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Why can't we be friends (with our exes)?Well, it turns out you can...maybe. Through tales of exes past and mistakes made along the way, our episode today covers why whether you can be friends with your ex differs from whether you *should* be, the reasons that some people might have a higher success rate than others, and why blocking your ex may not be the right answer. We also discuss how to figure out your motivations for wanting your ex in your life, when maintaining contact becomes unhealthy, what to do if a new partner is uncomfortable with the friendship, and why, in the wise words of Justin Bieber, you should 'never say never'.~~There are some audio issues in today's episode, which resolve by about the 10-min. mark. We've got a new setup for next week so hopefully this won't happen again. Thank you for your understanding!~~About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Has anyone else noticed that we have, perhaps, lost the plot entirely? The golden rules that we were taught in preschool (treat others the way you want to be treated, lead with kindness, be a good listener, etc. etc.) seem to have gone out the window as most of us have gotten older. Now, we're seeing people yell at others and expect to be listened to, use social media to write terrible comments under the guise of anonymity, and effectively throw tantrums when they don't get their way (when their way wasn't really an option to begin with). Something's got to give.Today, we discuss the rise of rudeness and what the heck to do about it. We cover why we need consequences for our behavior, how psychology has disempowered parents, and the role COVID and social media play in human dynamics. We also talk about entitlement, the importance of value systems, and what to do when you're the target of downright meanness.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

You've probably heard the saying "The straw that broke the camel's back". We all have our 'last straws'; the things that send us into crash-outs for absolutely no reason at all. We bet you're thinking about yours now! We often never even think twice about them after they're over. Except...what if we told you that there actually *are* reasons they happen, and they can teach you something?Today, using Joyce as a case study, we're discussing ours - from hangers getting stuck in closets to fitted sheets NEVER fitting to having your day ruined by a pair of ill-fitting denim - and why they push our buttons.We chat about how to figure out the root cause of our rage-fests, why we get mad at the 'thing' and never at ourselves, how to learn to take a pause, and the role social conformity plays when we're on the verge of losing it.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Unfortunately for literally all of us, there is no manual to figuring out how you feel and being able to communicate it effectively; aside from a select few with the native ability, it's just a skill that takes a whole lot of practice. It's kind of like painting - there are most of us who need to paint by numbers, and a small group who just have a feeling and can create a masterpiece.Well today, we're attempting to help you feel the rhythm, feel the rhyme (Cool Runnings, anyone?) and find your voice, get others to see your point of view, and have some respectful audacity.Through flashbacks from Joyce's nemesis/hero from the hotel parking lot, and stories of family vacations where Beth channeled Katy Perry's 'Roar', we discuss why anyone can learn to be assertive, how to power through fears that get in your way, what helping others can do to help you, and why someone's character is not their destiny.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Laser treatment this, face lift that - can't anyone just get old anymore? Today we're talking all things anti-aging and why the movement to constantly look younger makes it seem like having wrinkles might be the worst thing to happen to a person. We start today's discussion with a brief review of The Princess Bride and the word 'crone', before diving into why aging is normal (and a privilege), how wisdom comes with growing older, why what you look like is only a *fraction* of who you are, and how the best way to combat the fear of aging is to truly understand the valuable qualities that you have.We also chat about celebrity culture and the spectacle that comes with 'no makeup' red carpet looks, why plastic surgery marketing can make you second guess yourself (and your smile lines), and why it doesn't matter anyway because we can't stop the clock.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Loss: one of life's great equalizers. It's messy, uncomfortable, and often deeply upsetting, but we all experience it. In a way, it's sort of comforting, knowing that we are all in it together. And yet, that doesn't change the fact that we often feel completely confused and alone in its wake.Today, join us as we talk through the grieving process and life after loss. We chat about the factors that impact how we process a loss, the importance of routines, and why closeness (in proximity or in connection) doesn't define your emotional response. We also discuss the stages of grief, how to find comfort while mourning, what grief can teach us, and why a little kindness can go a long way.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If you've been on the internet ~as of late~, you may have seen the memes and videos suggesting that all men should be in therapy; that it's a bare minimum ask that will help them finally become self-aware, emotionally mature, good partners. It might seem easy to say, 'Well, duh!' and start calling therapists in your area to set up appointments for every man you know. But is the answer really that simple?Perhaps...not. Join us this week as we discuss whether every man really *needs* therapy, why emotional awareness doesn't guarantee healthy behavior - and why therapy isn't always the answer, the problems with overusing the word 'trauma', and the dangers of sweeping generalizations. We also cover the downsides to therapy and why it shouldn't be a 'forever thing', going vs. getting something out of it, and how all parties play a role in creating a successful relationship.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Here's the thing: the last few days have been incredibly challenging for us. We've been really sad, and honestly just needed a laugh. So instead of the episode we had planned, we decided to listen to our own advice and do something that would get us out of our own heads and give us a giggle. After a recap of Joyce's recent vacation and a LOT of talk about birds (it's sweet and funny, we swear), we share the things that just absolutely do not make sense to us. Are they easily explained? Sometimes. Could we Google them? Probably. Would it even help? Absolutely not. The best case scenario is that you laugh with/at us, and save this for a day you need to get out of your own head, too; the worst is this episode is a complete fail and in that case, we'll be back next week!About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.