No, You're Not Dying

Sometimes around birthdays people do lists like "20 lessons I learned at 20" and things of that nature. But that felt like a lot and also we didn't want to, so this episode isn't that.Instead, this week we're sharing lessons we wish we learned earlier in life. Some are about our own psychology, some are about the world in general, but all of them could have saved us some trouble (and stress, heartache, regret, etc., etc.)We talk about the importance of speaking kindly to yourself, why you can be bad at something and still enjoy it, how having a laugh can change your mindset, and why you can't avoid the hard stuff forever.We also chat about abandoning perfection, why spontaneity is good for the soul, the insignificance of (almost) everything, and how there's more to the world than your nearest big city.Plus, a series of unfortunate events with construction, a bog hike, rancid butter, and an exploding water heater (truly a story for the ages).About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Does anyone else feel like the back-to-school season is more like the beginning of the year than January 1st is? Today, we're chatting about the anticipation of heading back to the classroom - whether you're a student, a parent, or even a teacher - and why you never really outgrow that feeling (no matter how old you are). We talk about the pressure of starting a routine & and the importance of practicing it, how "new-ness" effects everyone differently, and why you're not a bad parent if you forget a permission slip. We also discuss why back-to-school shopping is about more than just folders and notebooks, how to manage separation anxiety, the benefits of encouraging kids to step out of their comfort zones, and how joyful memories can be made even in a time of stress.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

*This week we're throwing it back to an episode from a year ago! We'll be back next week with a new episode.*We've all had moments where we want to tell people in our life to stop doing something - being friends with someone we think is toxic, dating someone that we think is undeserving of their love, engaging in bad behaviors that we ourselves have done that ended badly, and, and, and. So what do you do about it? Well...Today we're talking about why you shouldn't give unsolicited advice and why people need to make their own mistakes (easier said than done, we know). We get into how to decide if a 'bad behavior' warrants sharing your input, why you might have your own personal needs for giving your opinion, the importance of learning from the consequences of our behavior, and why overprotecting people weakens them.We also discuss why therapists shouldn't treat their patients like their kids, the difficulty in giving up the urge to parent your adult children, validation and resistance in therapy, and why we need to engage our frontal lobes.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Walk into any room where an icebreaker game is being played, and you'll see almost everyone cringe. Mostly because nobody wants to participate, but also because they raise the question: how exactly are you supposed to describe yourself in just 3 words?Today we're talking about how we really develop our personalities and why our need to simplify things can actually create more problems. We chat about why we latch onto labels, why giving something "a name" can make it a bigger deal than it needs to be, and how we've confused trying out different versions of ourselves with being lost or not serious.We also discuss the irony behind searching for things to be defined by, why we can feel judgmental of and superior to others, what happens when the boxes you put yourself into no longer fit, and how to reframe your language to reflect the whole person that you are.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Do you know that person whose middle name might be "chaos" and saves everything until the last minute? Or maybe you're familiar with the person who is more cautious than frenzied and likes to get ahead of a problem before it becomes a disaster. Regardless of which problem-solving style rings more true to you, it turns out that they have far-reaching impacts in your life.Today, we're talking about the rescue vs. prevention styles of life and how your style not only affects how you respond, but what you take away from a situation. We chat through how to figure out what style you are (and how they relate to personality types), their consequences, how context and maturation may force you to change your approach, and the effects your approach can have on the people around you.We also discuss why the majority of people who come to therapy are in rescue-mode, how two people can experience the same thing and take two VERY different things away from it, and what your reactions to a situation can teach you about yourself. Plus: Joyce is mad about a bear, we're having a TSITP renaissance, & a spider haunts us in the night.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This episode is brought to you by yet another major thunderstorm that you'll hear in the background.Today we're celebrating Ted Lasso's return, recapping our experience seeing Cats: The Jellicle Ball, and once again letting our health anxiety take the wheel while being offered only dirty dimes in return (trust us, it will make sense).Then, we dive into an often overlooked type of grief: mourning the loss of a pet. On paper, it seems like it might be easier to handle, but if you've ever experienced it, you know that it can rival a human loss in a very real way. We chat about what animals can do for people that other people can't, why our pets can't simply be replaced by another, and how the responsibilities of pet care can help us be less self-centered.We also discuss finding balance between wanting what's best for them versus wanting them to live forever, why the loss of a pet can make us feel that we've lost our purpose, the best way to keep your pets' memory alive, and why you can't delay the grieving process forever.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

As a society, we treat talking about our salaries & income like bringing up Voldemort: they shall not be named. There's no denying that money is an intensely personal subject and is more than what's in your pocket. It's tied to power, security, access to things like healthcare, your sense of self-worth, and beyond.But, if we never talk about it, it just gets bigger and scarier in our heads, like a monster in a closet.So is there a "right" way to talk about how much money you make? Today, we're talking about how to talk about money. We get into the differences between discussions with coworkers and family & friends, why it's okay to be proud (and how to steer clear of bragging), and how to balance envy with feeling excited for someone's success. We also chat about "benevolent benefactor syndrome", separating your self-worth from your income and why money isn't a judge of character, how talking about money can help us set expectations, and why *asking* someone if they're comfortable speaking about their pay is probably the best solution.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We came back from vacation feeling...insane. Our lack of sleep and general confusion has resulted in whatever today's episode is. We start with a recap of our trip and the perils of early morning travel. Notable highlights include the curse of the brussell sprouts, a nearly-broken arm and a run-in with TSA, accidentally breaking out of our own car, and the humiliation that comes with almost knocking over a pilot at Starbucks.Then we get into our biggest travel icks, from flip-flops and full plane meals to coughing and out of control kids. Plus our travel styles and why one of us has the urge to throw away all of our clothes on the trip home (again...insane?)And then of course, the star of the show and the reason we're all here: what to do when you're feeling anxiety about traveling. Whether it's ambivalence about the trip itself and feeling like you should be happy but aren't, or the anticipation of turbulence and feeling like the left phalange might really be broken, we talk about ways to quiet your mind so you can actually have a good time.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Some weeks you're thriving, and some weeks you're dumpster diving. And unfortunately for (one of) us, we're knee deep in psychological garbage. Today, we're talking about bird calls, travel stress, and what to do when life's got you down. We discuss being an observer vs. active participant in life, the "workout mentality" and how to apply it to making plans, the need for community, and grieving past versions of yourself. We also get into the feeling of wanting to escape the monotony of your life, how to identify what you're running from and whether it's something you can actually avoid, and why "different" doesn't mean "bad".Plus, a fun little side chat about what to do when someone's comment gets under your skin, whether getting an apology really solves anything, and how to remove power from the words people throw at you.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Growing up, the majority of our life is spent with people of the same age - in school, in camp, in sports. It's not really until we enter the working (aka real) world  that we look around and realize...wait a minute, is my new pal someone who could be my mom?Yes, and it's probably a great thing.Today, we're talking about the unexpected benefits of befriending people of different ages. We get into how branching out with your friendships can help your own personal growth, how the perception of having older friends changes as you age, and why getting to see different perspectives from people not in your family can strengthen the bonds with those who are.We also discuss volunteering, why sharing stories and a little bit of wisdom keeps you alive, the inverse relationship between age and competition, and the importance of challenging your misconceptions about people.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We don't know about you, but stories from the World Cup have taken over our feeds, our brains, and our lives the last few weeks: the tales of Lawrence, KS, the Tartan Army, Cabo Verde's draw, the discovery of ranch dressing, and so much more.And it got us thinking...aside from the actual soccer part (like the insane offside rule which half the time doesn't even make sense when it gets called so does anyone know what it actually is), what can we learn from this global event?Today, we're sharing our biggest takeaways from the World Cup so far. We chat about how it allows us to connect with one another on a basic human level, the perspective you can get from seeing someone experience your country for the first time, and the power of kindness.We also talk about escapism, having a newfound appreciation for the things we take for granted, how pride in your country & wanting things to be better can coexist, and why maybe the stories we're all told about each other aren't really all they're cracked up to be. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We're back this week with a listener-requested episode! Thank you to you, listener!For many millennials and Gen Z-ers (is that even what you're called?? idk), social media comes naturally. We know how to use it, what platforms are in, and we can pick up what we don't know quickly. But for the parents of us 20-&-30-something-year-old teenagers, it's not quite as easy. And when they want to befriend us online, it can feel like they're encroaching on our space - and embarrassing us while doing it.This week, we're sharing our different perspectives on navigating social media as a parent, whether our kids want us to keep up with it, and what it really means to be "cringe".We talk about why the way you engage with your parents/children on social media is contingent upon your relationship IRL (in real life), how to determine if your motivation is connection or control, and why it's normal for your kid to think everything you do is weird as they search for independence.We also discuss the impact of trying, when to set boundaries, and why we need to appreciate the corny videos our parents send us.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", "When one door closes another door opens", "You're only given the battles that you can handle": Quotes in frames at your local HomeGoods, or things you say to people when they're going through a tough time and you have no idea what else to say? (Or perhaps both)?This week we're talking about platitudes - the somewhat superficial, surface-level advice we give when we want to make someone else feel better but don't want to give it a lot of thought - and whether they are all bad or can actually be helpful.We discuss the various reasons they get used, why it can feel dismissive to be on the receiving end of one, toxic positivity & when offering platitudes can come across as selfish, and why sometimes the most effective thing you can do is say "that sucks". We also chat about the wisdom hiding under the surface of well-known cliches, why who says it to you makes a difference, and how "sloganizing" in therapy content leads to a misunderstanding of what therapy actually is.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We saw That's The Point Podcast with Kristin and John do an episode on this, so we're doing an episode on this (with our own twist).Today, we're having goof & gab time where we talk about the things we used to be impressed by that no longer impress us, and the things that actually *do* make the cut these days. We talk about everything from the clean-girl aesthetic and needing to remind people about where you went to college, to being able to navigate public transit in a new city and successfully cook without a recipe...but we'll let you figure out which is which.We also chat about envy, how to both accept your limitations and figure out the things you can change, why what often impresses us reflects our own insecurities, and why we shouldn't be impressed with bare minimum good manners.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Cheating is a not-all-that-uncommon occurrence in relationships, but that doesn't make it any less devastating. And if someone cheats, it's normal to think: this is over, leave and never look back. But is it really that simple?Today, we're talking about the complexities of infidelity in a relationship and how to determine if you want to stay with your partner and move forward. We chat about the different types of cheating and how to define what your "line" is, why being a good self-observer can flag potential issues in your relationship before they progress, how to communicate that you've been unfaithful, and why going through your partner's phone is never the answer.We also discuss why cheating is a symptom of issues in a relationship and the people in it, the difference between explaining behavior and excusing it, whether putting restrictions on your partner is ever effective after infidelity has taken place, and whether a relationship can really be repaired once trust has been broken.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes...finding everything your partner does kind of annoying and realizing you might actually hate them? Queue the questions: is this normal? Is it just a phase? Is it worth saying anything? In today's episode, we're talking about how you can go from the adoration of your wedding day to the resentment of everyday life with your partner, and what to do when this happens.We discuss why people can overlook behaviors they dislike early in a relationship, the common times in a marriage that partners will express frustration with one another, the downsides to voicing your disdain of your significant other, and what (not) to say when someone is complaining about their partner to you.We also chat about why you shouldn't disparage your partner in front of your kids, why trying to avoid conflict can actually backfire, when couples therapy can be helpful, and the cost of making "man-hating" cool. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

**apologies for a bit of wacky audio today, we accidentally messed up our audio levels while recording oops**Do you have a favorite song that makes you feel powerful? Or maybe one that completely changes your mood, or takes you back to a specific moment in time and suddenly you feel like the person you were then? What about one that you listen to when you're pissed off, or need a good cry? You're probably thinking of each of them now.Today, we're talking about the influence of music on our memories and moods, and why the songs that we hold close to us move us. We chat about why sound is one of the strongest senses, where psychology and music intersect, what we can learn from actually listening to lyrics, and why the best songs tell stories (even if they have no words).Then, we share our own personal favorite songs and artists - from Johnny Cash and Warren Zevon, to BANNERS and Sleeping at Last (and of course, Taylor Swift). We discuss why people need to give musicals more of a chance, how music can help us process difficult emotions, and how our personalities shape our judgements about the music we like. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

The third and final episode of the interview series is here!We're picking up right where we left off, at perhaps the most frightening point of all: the aftermath. The interview is over, you're leaving the building, and then you queue up Zendaya's hit song "Replay" because it's time to rethink the entire experience as you make your way home.Today, we discuss why obsessively reflecting upon the interview gives us a false sense of control, what happens when we idealize a job with no data to support it, and what to do when you have to return to a job you've already checked out from.We then get into how to compartmentalize rejection and being ghosted, whether "when one door closes another door opens" is true, why there are no wasted learning opportunities, and how to ask for feedback.We also talk about how to figure out the sacrifices you're willing to make for a career move, what happens when the job you accepted isn't what you thought it would be, how to navigate receiving multiple offers, and why it's okay to pause and just be happy where you are.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We're back with Part 2 of our interview series!It's Coronation Day! The interview is tomorrow. You're probably wondering: what do I bring? How early should I get there? Did I prepare enough?Today we're dishing out practical magic (read: advice) on navigating the interview itself, from the moment you start to prepare until you walk out of the building - or slam your laptop shut. We're talking about the potential consequences of over-preparation, the 5 year stranger rule, what you can learn from arriving early to your interview, and why taking a day off to go might be the best idea.We also chat about what to do when you have a tough interviewer, how to not be defensive when you're put on the spot, why you shouldn't walk out of a difficult interview, and how to overcome the challenges that arise with virtual interviews (can you hear me now?)Plus, why finding out the turnaround time for feedback will help you avoid the failure spiral.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

There's nothing quite like getting an interview for a job that you're excited for. You're thrilled! A job is on the horizon! And then comes reality: oh crap, I have an interview to prepare for.Interviewing can bring up issues you're struggling with (hello insecurity and people-pleasing tendencies), and get you caught-up in your own head. Add to that the current job environment. So how do you put your best foot forward and navigate an already-stressful situation without making it harder on yourself?Today, we're chatting about how to set yourself up for success in an interview, and breaking down how your own psychology comes into play. We discuss why you need to frame the job outcome at the beginning of the process, how to be confident without being cocky, and why it's okay to let your personality shine.We also talk about body language and non-verbal behaviors, the importance of humor in diffusing a tense situation, how to gauge office culture, and why interviewing needs to be a two-way street.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Perhaps you've recently heard about the Artemis II mission around the moon. And if you haven't, we're here to tell you about it (and by "it", we mean a little bit about the mission and a lot a bit about how it made us think about life and our existence).Not only was it exciting to collectively experience a historical moment that wasn't extra-strength awful, but it also showed us how an event like this can teach us a lot about who we are - if we think about it in just the right way.Today, we're digging into the feeling of disbelief that Earth even exists, why footage from space makes us feel both insignificant/like nothing matters AND so special/like everything matters, and how to refocus when you're getting lost in the minutiae.We also share our thoughts on "doing things scared" and balancing our fears with seizing opportunities, what it means to leave a legacy, appreciating "nerdy" subjects and why we need more women in STEM, and of course, the biggest questions of all: would you want to go to space, and is there other life out there?About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

What do The Pitt, The Bear, Hacks, and Best Medicine have in common? They're on our list of favorite TV shows, of course! (Some of these should be no surprise, tbh).In today's listener-requested episode, we're taking you through our top shows across streaming services and regular, ol'-fashioned cable: the ones that have taught us something, brought us happiness, and made us look at things in a new way.On the surface, our conversation might provide you with some new shows to get you through the day - or you won't like them, and that'd be a bummer lol. But it's also a discussion on emotional connection and humanity, how our favorite TV might be providing something we're searching for within ourselves, and why the characters we watch every week can make us feel less alone.We also share our honorable mentions (some old, some new, but definitely all in our top 10)...but you'll have to listen to find out what they are!About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

The way success gets talked about is always confusing: on one hand, we should have a big goal we're working towards and if that doesn't get achieved, then we've failed; on the other hand, success is really about the journey (not the destination), and it can exist in other ways - maintaining your values, having a strong work ethic, improving upon your skills and learning something new. So which is it? And can it be both? This week, we're discussing what it really means to be successful, after watching an interview that entirely changed our perspectives. We talk about what we lose when we only focus on the "end result" as a metric of success, why goals that you're pursuing should be defined by you, and our own ways that we evaluate our successes. We also chat about what happens when you take metrics out of the equation, how the industry you work in can define your mindset (and why it can be hard to reframe it), and why comparing ourselves to others can make us feel like failures - even when we're not.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

How exactly does a person go about living their life and maintaining sanity while also constantly consuming news from the world around them that seems all bad, all the time? No clue, but we're trying to figure it out.In today's listener-requested episode (thank you!!), we're discussing how to balance staying informed about the world without burning ourselves out, and how to avoid doomscrolling (as best we can). While sharing our own experiences with this dilemma, we talk about strategies on how to set limits on media consumption, clickbait and the overuse of "breaking news" headlines, and why your boundaries might differ from someone else's. We also chat about false control, learned helplessness and the importance of taking action, the impact of tension on our relationships and physical selves, and what to do to take control of your environment.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Whoever said that complaining is bad for you obviously just doesn't get it. It can be funny, a way to vent, and a means of connection - and there doesn't have to be an end goal or solution you're aiming for. Today, we're chatting about why complaining gets an often undeserved bad rap, how to know when you're taking it too far, when to offer solutions versus when to just listen, and why humor can make us feel better about the things that are making us unhappy.Then, we're getting into the ~many~ things we are disliking right now - from too-tight socks, to poorly timed commercial breaks, to bad therapy, and our favorite items being discontinued. Plus, so much more. Trust us. We also have our first wheeze laugh of the show so if nothing else listen for that. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today's episode is brought to you by the first warm day in months and the confusion that comes with daylight savings.We're feeling extra chatty with our highs and lows this week, covering everything from entitled people in parking lots to German restaurants to Harry Styles and yet another meltdown over the Lion King (cue: look, there's a lion, omg). Then, we recap an experience from a year ago that led Joyce to realize how weird it is to gatekeep information as an adult (and also serves as a reminder that we never really let anything go, ever). We talk about what gatekeeping is, what motivates people to do it, and when it can actually be advantageous.We also discuss insecurity and competition, why we withhold information from people we have history with when we're trying to reinvent ourselves, and why we can be unique AND generous of spirit at the same time. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Having kids and starting a family can be such an idealized experience: the fun! the adventure! the excitement! But it also is a full-time job with immense responsibility. Add maintaining and running a home, and the pressure on parents rises. Add a working parent (or two), and it increases ten-fold.Inspired by the show All Her Fault, this week we're talking about how to balance raising kids while working and sharing responsibilities between partners. We dive into the different expectations placed on different parents, how to effectively communicate if things are feeling unequal, and why it's okay to need alone time - even from your kids.We also discuss the double standards for working moms and dads, how incompetence gets unintentionally reinforced, what to do when you don't want to be the "manager" parent but struggle to give up control, and how to handle parental guilt (trust us, your kids don't remember as much as you think!)About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Have you ever pursued the 'bad boy' over the 'nice guy'? The one with a bit of an edge, who you feel cares about you but also really...doesn't? If you have, it's no surprise: among other things, we're taught from a young age that the boys who bully us in school really like us, and we've popularized the enemies to lovers trope in the books, tv, and movies that we consume. So today, we're diving into how this relationship dynamic plays out as adults. We talk about why we tend to push people away who are overly affectionate and nice to us, whether it's *actually* too much or we've just gotten used to people being mean, when meanness goes from sexy to pathological, and how past relationships affect future ones. We also chat about the unconscious mind and attachment styles, the conflation of passion and anger, why we like relationships where we feel like we have to fix someone, and why in the end, nice people really shouldn't finish last.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Some weeks are for relatable advice, and some weeks are...not. When life feels chaotic, sometimes you just have to get out of your head and find joy in what's around you. Today we're attempting to change our moods and our outlooks by sharing the things we're loving right now - from our morning routines, to favorite pieces of clothing, the coconut water that changed it all, and the podcasts we listen to as people who famously don't listen to podcasts.Through our conversation, we learn that even the most mundane things can make us the happiest, we can come to love the things we used to hate, and that Heated Rivalry has continued to change Joyce's life for the better.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today is a very special episode because we are celebrating one year of No, You're Not Dying!! Time has both flown and moved at an exceedingly glacial pace, and we're recapping and reflecting on the last 365 days: what we've learned, what has surprised us, what's been left on the cutting room floor, and what we hope for the next year.In the spirit of our podcasting anniversary, we're then getting into how to know when to break away from the status quo and what you're told you should do/be, and go after what you want. We talk about the consequences of leaving what you "should" do behind, how to figure out what you like when you've never thought about it, and why we can lose our sense of self when we live by other people's expectations.We also discuss how jealousy and judgement can point us in the right direction, when to listen to outside noise and when to tune it out, how to align your shoulds/wants and why sometimes all you need is a change of setting, and what to do instead of acting on impulse. About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week we're having an honest conversation around body image in a time where it seems like everyone is getting smaller. We're sharing our thoughts on the shift from 'health at every size' to 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' and the whiplash that comes with it, the fundamental misconception that it's everyone's goal to lose weight, and how we place too much value on what we look like versus who we are.We also discuss the marketing of weight-loss medications and its implications, the pressure we can feel to change ourselves even if we've worked hard to feel comfortable in our own skin, how we deal with toxic thoughts, and why 'losing 5 pounds' might not be the ultimate answer.Plus, our takes on how celebrity weight-loss influences the public, thin privilege, and the limitations of plus-size fashion.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week, we were inspired by a video we saw from @sarahcha.d on Instagram where she mentioned that we are all one step away from being unable to afford food. It got us thinking about our own vulnerabilities, the fragility of life, and how that awareness promotes empathy.We dig into why people distance and create an 'other' mentality when they want to avoid difficult things, how we take our standing in life for granted, and why a little compassion can go a long way.We also discuss why the blame game has no purpose when people are actively struggling, how isolationism interferes with empathy, and why we all need to remember that nothing lasts forever (good, bad, or otherwise).About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If you’ve seen the Hulu show Tell Me Lies, you know that the characters range from bad-decision-makers to straight-up-evil. And every episode, you think ‘it can’t possibly get worse’ - and then it does. So, I wanted to get Dr. Beth’s take.In today’s bonus episode, we’re doing a recap of the first four episodes of Season 3, covering the craziest moments (in our opinions) so far.Then, we’re diving into a Q&A on the character’s behaviors, personalities, and choices, all from a psychologist’s perspective. We cover what makes Stephen so dangerous and what to do if you know someone like him in real life, why toxic relationship cycles continue, what role Lucy plays in her situation, and how shame and insecurity impact relationship dynamics (hello Lucy and Alex).We also discuss Oliver’s manipulative behavior, whether you can do the wrong thing for the right reasons, and why we the audience love to watch shows like this.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

This week's episode kicks off with a harrowing tale of a snowy drive gone awry (wear your seatbelts, folks!), followed by another ~unfiltered thoughts~ segment on: protein coffee (gross), cybertrucks (ew), grocery store hauls (acceptable for Trader Joe's only), and self-checkout kiosks (hate).Then, we're diving into the concept of not being okay with not knowing something. Have you ever nodded along, pretending to have watched a TV show someone is talking about, even though you hadn't? Like, why do we do that? Why not just say you haven't seen it?We cover what drives people to act like they know things even if they don't, why we actually may have learned this behavior in the classroom, and how lying about knowing something can backfire (trust us, we have the stories to prove it).We also discuss what to say when people try to embarrass you for not knowing how to do something, why asking questions is a win for everyone, the Taylor Swift cake pop interview, and why the way we say 'I don't know' matters.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Today's episode is brought to you by two recent experiences Joyce had that made her realize that perhaps the way we speak to ourselves does, in fact, matter (and also that we need to be a lot nicer to ourselves).We're chatting about the often automatic nature of our negative voices, where they might come from, and how to rewrite them. We cover whether our internal dialogue is really a reflection of how we've been spoken to, moving from negative to neutral self-talk, the importance of channeling how others speak to us to speak to ourselves, and the power of talking back. We also discuss using data to shift our mindset, self-fulfilling prophecies, how to avoid making sweeping generalizations about ourselves, and why you need to sometimes just look in the mirror and tell yourself to knock it off.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Ideal world: you come back from vacation rested, recharged, and ready to take on the work week. You pre-planned, your to-do list was to-done before you left, and you're at inbox zero.Reality: you haven't had a routine in weeks, every project you put off from before your break is due, everyone is circling back, and your inbox is out of control. Oh yeah, and your to-do list? Miles long.In today's episode, we're chatting about how to have a successful first week back at work after a break, and how to cope with the feeling of having so much to do that you don't know where to start. We discuss task management and how to motivate yourself, techniques to quiet your mind so that you can be effective, and why buying a new planner probably won't solve all your anxieties. We also talk about why experiencing task paralysis doesn't automatically mean you have ADHD, fear mongering on the internet, and why we need to speak kindly to ourselves.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We've made it to the end of the year! Have you made your resolutions yet that you'll probably give up on by February? (sry not sry)...but maybe we can help.Today, we're discussing whether resolutions are worth making for the start of a new year and why we struggle with following through. We talk about why any day can be 1/1, why the intention behind a resolution really does matter, and the fundamental flaws with messaging like 'new year, new you'.Then, we share practical solutions on making changes that work for us. We dive into:How many resolutions are realistic to setThe ways to make them achievableHow we can work towards our goals everyday in small waysWhy it's okay to let go of an 80/20 mindsetWhy setting a resolution must be uniquely for you (and not because you saw it someone else's list)About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Are you approaching the holidays with a bit of a 'what's going on here?' mentality? Do you normally feel excited for the season, and now you're just...not? Is there a feeling of 'meh' where there's usually a feeling of 'merry and bright'? Us too.Today, we're getting real about the complex emotions around this time of the year. We kick off with our thoughts on why recent world events have led to feelings of hopelessness and defeat for many of us, and how stories of family tragedy can impact those who work in the mental health field.We then dig into why we feel unsettled when our mood is not what we expected it to be, how to know when to push through a funk versus wallow in it, and the importance of trying to figure out why we're feeling this way (even if nothing changes).We also discuss why talking it out can help us feel validated, how to regain control when you start to spiral, why we can't just create new traditions when we lose old ones, and what distinguishes being bummed out from something more serious.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Every year in late fall, we are blessed with the return of Hallmark Holiday movies. Do we watch them because we are obsessed with small-town holiday festivals, can't wait to watch strangers drink hot cocoa, or want to live vicariously through someone else decorating a freshly-baked, intricate gingerbread house that we know we could never make? Or do they serve a bigger purpose?Today we're talking about the appeal of these movies around the holidays and why they might be the stress-free getaway we've all been searching for. We discuss healthy escapism, why repetitive plot lines can give us stability, and how these types of movies can help shape our outlook on life.We also cover toxic positivity, the small-town fantasy (and why it's not real), and why traditions make us feel grounded.Plus, our top movie recommendations and an absolutely unhinged installment of our 'get to know us' segment. We don't really know what happened there.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If you've ever felt insane stress and pressure around the holidays to come up with the perfect gifts for the people in your life, this episode is for you.This week, we're talking about consumerism culture, the early-onset holiday season, and why finding the 'perfect' holiday gift is kind of a fool's errand. We chat about why having more options to buy from can lead to more confusion, why we have such a hard time buying the items that people tell us they want, and how we can accidentally correlate what gift we get with how much someone cares about us.We also discuss financial pressure around the holidays, what to do when we feel like we're not doing enough, comparison and competition in gifting, and why the simplest of gifts can mean the most.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

A tale as old as (recent) times: being addicted to your phone. What started as a way to stay in touch with loved ones has ended up as a small pocket computer with hundreds of ways to distract you, from your own photo album to news apps to looking up every single thought you've ever had on the internet. Does it help that so many of us can't even remember a time when we didn't have a cell phone? We'll let you decide.Today, we're digging into why so many of us have an unhealthy relationship with our phones, and the epiphany that Joyce had that made her think she might have a problem. We talk about the costs of not letting our minds just wander, how our attention spans and developmental milestones get affected, and why we need to practice being alone.We also chat about why we sometimes need to get outside, the steps to breaking a bad habit, our surprise at toy commercials coming back to TV, and why you don't need another app to just get off your phone.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

We're back with Part 3 of our Friend-ly Advice series!Have you ever had a 'friend' that you genuinely care about who only contacts you when they want to brag about how amazing their life is, or use you for favors, your connections, caretaking, etc.? We have, and it's a real bummer.So today, we're talking about how to recognize if you're in a one-sided friendship and whether it's worth trying to save. We cover why it can be hard to detach from this type of friend - even if it's loser energy to act this way, how self-esteem plays a role for both people in a transactional relationship and why you shouldn't overvalue one bad experience, and who really feels the loss when the friendship falls apart (we did actually fight about this lol).We also chat about when to say something to your friend versus when to 'quiet exit', how to speak about your accomplishments without bragging, why being self-centered doesn't mean you're a diagnosed narcissist, and the ways your temperament impacts how you experience your friendships.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

There comes a point in our lives when we realize that our parents and our children are not exactly who we thought they would be - they're flawed, imperfect, and perhaps incredibly irritating, but we have to accept them as they are because the alternative is just being constantly angry and giving ourselves tension headaches and ulcers.And if you're thinking...yes 100% absolutely but how exactly do we learn to accept our family, then get your headphones on because this episode is for you.Today we're chatting about why people struggle with acceptance and the conflicting feelings it can bring up. We cover how our idealizations about our parents when we’re children can impact how we view them as we age, why we need to focus on 'overall', practicing positive thinking, and why only you can shift your perspective.We also talk about how children understand when they're not being accepted (even if it's not spoken), the importance of self-reflection, and why we need to be kinder to our families - and not save the 'good stuff' for strangers.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Things We Should Have Said is a new segment, where we include conversations that we forgot or had to cut for time in the original episode. As an addition to 'Settling is for Bar Tabs, Not Relationships', this bonus segment includes:Why who you pick as a life partner is one of the most important decisionsWhy you need to be honest with yourself about what you value in a relationship and what 'settling' is to youQuestions you need to ask yourself about your partner, like, 'is this someone I can count on when things get hard?'How happy marriages lead to longevityWhat becomes a priority over passion as you ageAbout Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Beth went on her first vacation in a looooong time, and we're getting the full recap! Today's episode starts with a debrief of the Montana ranch experience, with special mentions of the best thing about Laguardia's bathrooms, and why you need to step out of your comfort zone to experience life.Then, we're diving into settling in relationships - inspired by our own observations and that one reel from @itscourtneymichelle. We talk about making your 'ideal partner' list and how settling differs from compromising, the reasons people may pick the wrong partner, and our opinions on outside pressure and the timeline to have kids.We also discuss why traditional pathways may not always be best, the long-term effects of being in an unhappy marriage (especially when children are involved), how fairytale stories can shape what we expect in relationships, and why it's okay to walk away from a relationship that is no longer for you.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

~iT's $p0okY s3@SoN, w!tChEs!~Anyway...Join us for a spooktacular episode where we take a trip down memory lane, recapping and reminiscing on our favorite Halloweens from our childhood! We're talking about our first costumes, why we originally thought trick-or-treating was a scam, and our definite opinions on whether you can leave your neighborhood in the pursuit of candy.We're also sharing our thoughts on the micromanagement of the holiday and why we need to bring parades back to schools, Halloween adults (no, not the ones with kids), the ultimate haunt of Party City, and why we're sort of comforted by the idea of ghosts.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

It feels like these days, dating is harder than ever. Either people met their partner on 1) a dating app or 2) in college, and there's no miscellaneous third option. So when you're in your thirties and don't want (read: refuse) to swipe, where are you supposed to meet people? *Cue: Raye's 'Where Is My Husband?'*This week we're trying to figure that out, whether you're chronically single or making dating a priority again after it...just wasn't.We talk about how people in your life can act as matchmakers, what meeting someone in person can show you that the apps can't, the problem with dating platitudes, and why sometimes our RBFs are unconsciously sending a message. We also discuss how our interpersonal connections have changed over time and why we've lost our rizz, why doing activities alone is a win even if you don't meet anyone, what history can teach us about dating, and why feeling awkward isn't the enemy.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

If ever there was a vent sesh episode, today's would be it.We're kicking off a new, totally random segment called 'unfiltered thoughts', where we share our - you guessed it - unfiltered thoughts. We're talking emotional support shirts, laser tag, and packing tape. We have strong opinions on all 3 and so should you, tbh.Then we're getting into the problems with production culture and why we feel pressure to be creating all of the time. Is it because things have gotten easier and we have constant access to the internet? Is it because numbers are the only thing that matter anymore? Is it because we've tried to 'MBA' our way through everything? Hm, maybe yes.We talk about the shift to a quantity mindset, why we aren't able to keep up with the pace of an 'efficient' world, why making things easy is expensive, and what leads to creative burnout.We also cover how no one knows how to use a map anymore, the irony of 'create more than you consume' when you're feeling uninspired, and how the clock app is ruining music (sry but it had to be said).About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be, which is probably why so many people are holding onto the last time they felt joyous freedom: being in college. The stakes were lower, there were fewer responsibilities, and you existed in a bubble.At some point, we all know we need to put our big kid pants on and grow up...but do you ever feel like you're the only one who did?Today's episode covers why people find the transition from college to adulthood so difficult and the reasons why they don't want to move forward. We discuss why it's easy to idealize the past, what makes a 'pseudo-adult', and why it's okay to be in a different place than your peers (like when they're out clubbing and you're in bed by 9pm).We also talk about why hindsight is 20/20, the fear of settling down, how to define your value system, and why growing up doesn't mean you can't still have fun.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.

Close your eyes and raise your hand if you have a family member who you'd consider toxic. Now open your eyes: bet you didn't think we'd all have a hand in the air, now did you?Today we're talking about why nobody talks about having a toxic person in their family, and the quiet shame that comes along with knowing that you do. We dive into how your feelings are impacted by your relationship to the person, why conflict never lives only with the family member it started with, illnesses vs. traits, and why people have a hard time saying 'I'm sorry'.We also discuss why you can't match toxicity with toxicity, the power of family and positive experiences, how to know when to cut someone off, and why blaming other people for your problems won't ever solve anything.Plus, a whole bit about tomatoes, going to concerts, nightmares, and challah bread. Sounds weird but if you listen you'll get it.About Your Hosts: Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.Note:Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.Other Stuff:Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcastSubmit your topic ideas and questions here.