Not Anymore!

In this episode, I talk about the invisible manuals I realized I had created for almost everyone in my life. Manuals for how husbands should act, how teenagers should behave, how kids should respond, and even how strangers should show up in the world. I share how my brain was constantly comparing reality to these made up rules and how that comparison was creating frustration, hurt, and disappointment.I dive into what is actually happening in our brains when people do not meet our expectations and why learning to question those manuals has completely changed the way I experience relationships. I share personal stories about Cody, parenting, teenagers, and the freedom that comes when we stop arguing with reality and start loving people for who they truly are instead of who we think they should be.This episode is an invitation to notice the rules you have created in your own mind and practice saying, “Not anymore.”#NotAnymorePodcast #MindsetShift #SelfAwareness #Relationships #PersonalGrowth

What if the stress you feel every day isn’t actually coming from your life but from the story you’re telling yourself about it?In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift that completely changed how I show up in my life. Inspired by Olympian Alysa Liu and her ability to compete with joy instead of pressure, I break down the difference between thinking “I have to” versus choosing “I want to” and how that one small shift can change everything.I walk you through real life examples from my own week including motherhood, workouts, hard conversations, and even the mental load that started showing up physically in my body. I talk about how our thoughts create our feelings and how the pressure we carry is often self created.I also tie this back to concepts from Byron Katie and past episodes where we’ve talked about turning stress into something lighter and more intentional.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck in pressure, or like everything is just too much, this episode will help you release that weight and step back into a more joyful, empowered way of living.You don’t have to do anything. But you can choose everything.#mindsetshift #selfgrowth #personaldevelopment #stressmanagement #mentalhealthmatters #mindsetcoach #positivepsychology #selfimprovement #momlife #healingjourney #confidence #anxietyrelief #innerpeace #growthmindset #podcastlife

In this episode I share a mindset shift that completely changed the way I handle hard days.Like most of us, I have moments where I catch myself thinking, “Why is this so hard?” Between parenting challenges, overwhelming schedules, unexpected news, and emotional days, it can feel like life is just piling on. Recently I had one of those days. The kind where everything felt off and the temptation to complain, snap, or shut down was very real.Instead, I used a simple mental tool that helped me completely reframe what I was experiencing.I started thinking about Harvard.Harvard only accepts about 3% of applicants. The people who get in know it is going to be incredibly difficult and they want that challenge because they understand the growth, opportunity, and transformation that come from it.So what if the hardest things in our lives are not proof that something is wrong?What if they are proof that we got in?In this episode I walk through how I use what I call the Harvard mindset to shift from feeling overwhelmed and frustrated to showing up as the person I actually want to be. I share how this perspective helps me handle hard parenting days, emotional overwhelm, setbacks, and stressful seasons with more resilience, personal responsibility, and growth.If you have been feeling overwhelmed, stuck in negative thoughts, or asking yourself why life feels so hard, this episode will help you reframe challenges, strengthen your mindset, and step into personal growth instead of resistance.Because hard does not mean you are failing.Sometimes hard means you are exactly where you are meant to grow.And the real question becomes this. Who do you want to become because of it?#personaldevelopment #mindsetshift #growthmindset #selfimprovement #resilience #mentalstrength #overcomingchallenges #selfleadership #emotionalresilience #personalgrowth #mindsetmatters #selfawareness #lifecoaching #transformyourmindset #notanymorepodcast

In this episode I share the mindset shift that is changing the way I show up in my marriage, my parenting, and every relationship in my life. I have been reading Loving What Is by Byron Katie and diving deeper into thought work, self awareness, and emotional triggers. What I am learning is that most of my frustration is not coming from other people’s behavior but from the thoughts I am believing about their behavior.If you have ever thought he should make better choices, they should respect my boundaries, or why do they act like they know everything, this episode will challenge you in the best way. I walk through the four powerful questions that help me stop overthinking, stop reacting, and take responsibility for my own emotional growth. I also explain what a turnaround is and how flipping the story can completely change your confidence, communication, and peace.This is not about tolerating disrespect or ignoring real problems. This is about personal growth, healthier boundaries, and learning how to respond instead of react. If you want stronger communication in your relationships, more confidence, and practical tools for emotional maturity, this episode will give you a simple framework you can start using today.It might feel uncomfortable at first, but this work has helped me stop blaming and start growing. And that changes everything.#personaldevelopment #growthmindset #personalgrowth #selfdevelopment #selfawareness #mindsetshift #emotionalintelligence #emotionalgrowth #innerwork #selfimprovement #healthyrelationships #relationshipgrowth #healthyboundaries #selfleadership #mindsetmatters

How many times have you talked yourself out of something because you imagined the worst case scenario? In this episode, I share how I am learning to stop letting fear of rejection, anxiety, and people pleasing run my life by asking one powerful question What’s the worst that could happen?From coaching a teen through the courage to ask friends to include her, to sending a bold text about changes to our new home, I walk you through how our mindset creates stories that feel real but are completely made up. I talk about overcoming fear, being okay with disappointing people, building self confidence, and choosing a story that leads to personal growth instead of staying stuck.If you struggle with overthinking, fear of rejection, social anxiety, or constantly trying to control other people’s feelings, this episode will help you shift your mindset and take brave action. It is time to stop living in imagined worst case scenarios and start choosing faith over fear.Not anymore to letting anxiety make the decisions. Not anymore to shrinking to keep others comfortable. It is time to show up authentically and do the brave thing anyway.#personaldevelopment #growthmindset #selfgrowth #mindsetshift #overcomefear #selfimprovement #confidencebuilding #personalgrowthjourney #mentalstrength #overthinking #courageousliving #faithoverfear #authenticliving #peoplepleasingrecovery #innerwork

In this episode, I’m sharing the real secret to getting people to change and it might not be what you expect. For years, I believed that if the people in my life would just act differently, everything would feel easier. I spent so much time blaming my circumstances, my relationships, and other people for how I felt without realizing how much power I was giving away.Through my own personal growth journey and life coaching tools, I learned that real change starts with me. When I stopped trying to control other people and started taking responsibility for my thoughts, my mindset, and my reactions, my entire life changed. My relationships improved, I felt more peace as a mom, and I finally experienced the freedom that personal development promises.In this episode, I talk about mindset, emotional awareness, self growth, and how your thoughts create your reality. I share real life examples from marriage, motherhood, and everyday stress to show how you can feel better and more in control even when nothing around you changes.If you are ready to stop blaming, take ownership of your life, and experience real growth without waiting on anyone else, this episode is for you.#personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #mindset #selfgrowth #lifecoaching #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness #momlife #thoughtwork #growthmindset

​​In this episode  I am sharing how I stopped believing that mindset is something you are born with and learned how to change my mindset by rewiring my brain.For years I felt overwhelmed frustrated and stuck. I thought something was wrong with me or that I was just wired this way. What I discovered instead is that my brain was simply out of shape and running on outdated thought patterns.I talk about how people we call geniuses like Albert Einstein Oprah Winfrey Michael Jordan Thomas Edison and Taylor Swift were not born with extraordinary talent but built greatness through repetition persistence and mental conditioning. Their success was not genetics it was mindset.I break down how thoughts create emotions how repeated thoughts turn into beliefs and identity and how mindset directly affects mental health biology and the way we show up in everyday life.If you are tired of feeling overwhelmed anxious resentful or burned out I share a simple but powerful tool called a thought download to help you identify the thoughts that are no longer serving you and replace them with ones that support the life you want to live.This episode is for anyone who is done tolerating old beliefs and ready to say not anymore and create the life they've always wanted.#personaldevelopment #mindset #growthmindset #selfgrowth #mentalhealth #rewireyourbrain #changeyourmindset #overcomingoverwhelm #emotionalhealth #lifecoaching #selfimprovement #healingjourney #thoughtwork #notanymore

For years, I believed happiness was something I’d reach once my circumstances changed. When the baby slept through the night, when my body looked different, when my marriage felt easier, when I had more money, a different job, or a smoother season of life. But what I discovered is this. We can arrive at the destination we believe will finally make us happy and still feel unhappy because we bring the same brain and the same thought patterns with us.In this episode, we talk about why true happiness is not found in changing your circumstances but in learning how to manage your thoughts in the middle of real life. This conversation is about emotional well being, mindset shifts, and personal development for women who feel stuck waiting for life to feel better. I share how happiness became available to me when I stopped postponing it and started choosing it now, even in imperfect and messy seasons.We explore how our thoughts, not our situations, create feelings like stress, sadness, frustration, and overwhelm. Using real life examples from marriage, parenting, and everyday situations, I explain how learning to manage your mind allows you to experience peace and happiness regardless of what is happening around you.If you are interested in mindset coaching, personal growth, emotional resilience, or learning how to be happy now instead of waiting for someday, this episode will help you see your life differently and give you practical tools you can start using today.#personaldevelopment #mindset #mindsetcoach #happiness #selfgrowth #emotionalwellbeing #mentalwellness #thoughtwork #lifecoaching #womenpodcast #momlife #marriageandmindset #parentingmindset #selfimprovement #choosehappiness

When is the last time you did something for the first time? If you had to stop and think about it, you are not alone.As we get older, we get more comfortable in our routines and more resistant to change. We say no more often. We avoid being bad at things. We protect the identity we have built instead of staying curious and flexible. Meanwhile, kids are constantly doing things for the first time and thriving while doing it.In this episode of Not Anymore, I explore why kids are naturally more resilient, flexible, and willing to try new things, and what happens to our brains as we age. I break down how brain plasticity, risk taking, and curiosity fuel learning in children, and how adults slowly become more rigid, not because we cannot grow, but because we stop choosing growth.I share personal stories about doing things for the first time, from pickleball to speaking events to traveling alone, and why every single time I am always glad I did. You will also learn five practical ways adults can retrain their brains to become more flexible, confident, and open to learning again.This episode is for moms, women, and anyone in a season of growth who feels stuck, overwhelmed, or afraid to start something new. If you are craving personal development, more confidence, and a mindset shift that helps you step outside your comfort zone, this conversation is for you.It is not too late to learn.It is not too late to change.It is not too late to try.Do something for the first time again and say Not Anymore to a life that feels smaller than it should.#NotAnymorePodcast #PersonalDevelopment #GrowthMindset #SelfImprovement #WomenAndGrowth #MomLife #MotherhoodJourney #LearningAndGrowth #MindsetShift #ResilientWomen #ConfidenceBuilding #LifeLongLearning #IntentionalLiving #DoHardThings #GrowthAsAMom

For years, I lived with a scarcity mindset around money, time, and energy without even realizing it. I grew up watching money be held tightly, locked away, protected out of fear. That mindset was inherited, passed down from generations shaped by survival and the Great Depression. And while I’m deeply grateful for everything my dad provided, I eventually reached a moment where I said not anymore.In this episode, I share the exact shift that changed everything for me. From my time in real estate wholesaling with Cody and hearing people say there are not enough leads in my market, to the simple ocean and five gallon bucket analogy that cracked my perspective wide open. The problem was never the supply. It was the size of my container.I walk you through my journey of rewiring deep scarcity patterns, the neuroscience behind why change feels so hard, and the daily practices that helped me step into an abundant mindset. From listening to the same Bob Proctor abundance meditation for nearly four years, to creating mantras that reshaped how my brain related to money, energy, and time, this episode is a real look at how abundance is built through consistency.I also introduce the FLO Model, a simple framework I created to help you move from scarcity to flow in real time. Faith in the belief that there is more than enough. Letting go of fear, control, and inherited money stories. Opening yourself to receiving so abundance can actually move through you.You will hear powerful analogies about money flowing like a river, why generosity keeps abundance circulating, and how abundance works just like an endless wave. The flow never stops coming. We just have to get better at riding it.This episode is for you if you are ready to shift your money mindset, break free from scarcity thinking, and step into abundance with confidence, faith, and trust. Whether you are an entrepreneur, wholesaler, creative, or simply someone who wants to experience more ease with money and life, this conversation will expand your perspective and your capacity.Abundance is not something I chased. It was always there. I just learned how to let it flow.Let it FLO. 🌊 #MindsetShift #AbundanceMindset #MindsetForMoms#PersonalGrowthJourney#Healing #RewritingMyStory#InnerWorkMatters #MoneyMindset #faith #growth #personaldevelopment #PodcastForWomen #PodcastForMoms

In this episode I share the moment I realized that the stress I was feeling was not coming from my circumstances. It was coming from the story I was telling myself about them. I talk about a designer who simply decided she does not get stressed, and how that one conversation opened my eyes to the possibility that things I had labeled as hard might actually get to be fun.I share how two teachers can experience the same classroom in completely different ways, how my own thoughts used to make simple things feel heavy, and how shifting my perspective has lowered my stress and made my days lighter. I also talk about my new mantra that has changed everything for me. Not only does it always work out, but it is fun.If you are feeling weighed down by something right now, this episode will help you see your situation through a different lens and choose a new story that makes your life feel lighter and more enjoyable.#MindsetShift #ChangeYourStory #PositiveMindset #ChooseJoy #StressFreeLife #MindsetMatters #PersonalGrowthJourney #RewriteYourStory #MindsetCoach #ThoughtWork #lifecoach

In this episode of Not Anymore, I share a story that stopped me in my tracks.  I was at the doctor’s office where my kids were laughing and having fun, and I was embarrassed and frustrated, worried about what everyone else was thinking. That moment became a mirror that showed me how often I tie my worth as a mom to how “put together” everything looks on the outside.I talk about what it means to give ourselves permission to feel and to stop pretending we’re fine when we’re not, and to understand that emotional intelligence isn’t about being happy all the time. It’s about learning to recognize, name, and regulate our emotions so they work for us instead of against us.If you’ve ever felt anxious, overwhelmed, or like you’re failing because you can’t keep it all together, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll unpack how to manage emotions, let go of perfection, and remember that it’s okay to not be okay. Because the path to peace isn’t about forcing positivity — it’s about giving yourself permission to feel.#NotAnymorePodcast #PermissionToFeel #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast #MindsetForMoms #MomAnxiety #OvercomingMomGuilt #SelfAwareness #EmotionalGrowth #MentalHealthForMoms #WomenEmpowerment #PersonalGrowth #AuthenticMotherhood #MindsetMatters #MotherhoodAndMentalHealth

For most of my life, I loved being the one cheering everyone else on.I’d send encouraging texts, celebrate people’s wins, and show up like their biggest hype girl. But deep down, I was craving that same kind of cheerleader. Someone to notice me, to tell me I was doing a good job.And if I’m being honest, that need for validation caused tension in my marriage, exhaustion in my hustle, and an emptiness I couldn’t shake.Everything changed the day a mentor looked me straight in the eyes and said,“Wendy, it’s your job to cheer yourself on. It’s your job to be your biggest cheerleader, no one else’s.”That truth completely shifted how I show up for myself and my life.In this episode, I’m sharing the exact process I used to stop seeking external validation and start building my own home court advantage.I’ll walk you through my C.H.E.E.R. framework: the five simple habits that helped me learn how to celebrate myself, honor my progress, encourage my heart, express my dreams, and reflect on how far I’ve come.If you’ve ever felt unseen, unappreciated, or like no one notices how hard you’re trying this episode will remind you that you are the fan you’ve been waiting for.✨ Here’s what you’ll hear:How to stop waiting for validation and start believing in yourselfWhy “home court advantage” matters in life, not just sportsThe science behind self-talk and why it builds confidenceHow to turn self-doubt into daily encouragementA simple practice to help you feel seen, loved, and proud by you#NotAnymorePodcast #SelfLove #CheerYourselfOn #MindsetMatters #Encouragement #SelfWorth #ConfidenceCoach #Validation #PersonalGrowth #WomensEmpowerment #PositiveMindset #HealingJourney #BelieveInYourself #FaithBasedPodcast #MotivationalPodcast

I used to overthink, over-give, and over-please. I tried to prove my worth by doing more and saying yes to everything…but not anymore.In this episode, I’m sharing the 10 leadership principles that have changed my life — from assuming the best in people, setting boundaries, leading by example, and learning to love like Jesus.These principles aren’t about perfection, they are about becoming. About choosing faith over fear, love over judgment, and growth over comparison.If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns or ready to lead yourself differently, this episode will give you the mindset shifts and heart habits that help you step into your next level of leadership; in your home, your business, and your life.🎧 Listen in, take notes, and tag me with your Not Anymore declaration - the one area of your life you’re ready to change starting today.#Leadership #MindsetShift #FaithBasedGrowth #NotAnymorePodcast #PersonalGrowth #AuthenticLeadership #FaithOverFear #MindsetMatters #SelfLeadership #GrowthMindset #Boundaries #Confidence #ChristianWomen #PurposeDrivenLife #PodcastForWomen

Have you ever given someone great advice… and then realized later you needed to take it yourself? That happened to me recently. I was telling my sister not to worry about her toddler’s current phase and that it would all work out. Later that day, I found myself flustered with one of my own kids. And it hit me: Wendy, take your own advice.In this episode, I share what it means to live with the wisdom and perspective of our future selves. The calm, grounded, ten-years-wiser version of us who already knows everything works out exactly as it should. I talk about motherhood moments that once felt impossible, the simple message I’ve received through prayer again and again, and how a woman’s gentle smile on a Disneyland train reminded me to zoom out and see life through the right lens.If you’re in the middle of something heavy, this episode will help you pause, get perspective, and remember: you always figure it out. You always have, and you always will.#FutureSelf #MindsetShift #FaithBasedLiving #MomLife #Perspective #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #SelfMastery #personaldevelopment

In this episode, I’m opening up about the stories we tell ourselves — and how faith has helped me rewrite fear and find peace, even in the middle of uncertainty.It all started with a conversation I had with one of my kids about Jesus asking His disciples to cast their nets into shallow water. Logically, it didn’t make sense… but they trusted Him — and that trust led to a miracle.That story made me think about how often I’ve tried to “logic” my way through life — in business, parenting, and faith — instead of trusting that God is guiding the process, even when I can’t see all the pieces.In this episode, I share how I’ve learned to:✨ Recognize the fear-based stories that fuel anxiety and doubt✨ Use faith and awareness to calm the chaos in my mind✨ Journal through anxious thoughts using my Thought Hurricane method✨ Ask myself the questions that help reframe fear and create peace✨ Anchor into empowering mantras like “Life is happening for me, not to me” and “It always works out”If you struggle with anxiety, overthinking, or the need to control how everything turns out — this episode will give you practical tools and faith-filled perspective to help you find peace in the unknown. You don’t have to have all the puzzle pieces; you just need enough faith to cast your net. #FaithOverFear#OvercomingAnxiety #RewriteYourStory #TrustTheProcess#FaithBasedMindset #CalmTheChao #ChristianGrowth #FaithOverLogic #LifeIsHappeningForMe #MindsetMatters#PersonalGrowthJourney #personalgrowth#PeaceOverPanic

Have you ever worked for a terrible boss — the kind who never lets you rest, constantly criticizes, and demands perfection no matter how much you give? For years, that was me. In this episode, I share one of the most personal stories of my life — the day I realized I was the CEO of my own burnout. I was exhausted, overthinking everything, and convinced that pushing harder was the only way to prove my worth. Then one day, I decided: Not anymore.I dive into what I learned about overthinking, neuroplasticity, and how to literally rewire your beliefs. You’ll discover how to boss your brain, reframe your thoughts, and become the kind of CEO who leads with kindness instead of criticism.Because your kids don’t need a perfect mom — they need a present one. And you deserve a brain that works for you, not against you.#MindsetMatters #Overthinking #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #RewireYourBrain #Neuroplasticity #BossYourBrain #MindsetShift #InnerCritic #SelfLeadership #BurnoutRecovery #SelfWorth #ThoughtWork #EmotionalHealth #MomLife #HighAchiever

I’ve been away from the mic for several months — summer trips, back-to-school chaos, and even losing my computer charger. But today I’m back with an episode I wish I could have whispered to myself years ago: You are not your results.For so long, I tied my worth to productivity, performance, and how much I could achieve in a day. I thought crossing off a never-ending to-do list would finally make me feel enough. But it never did. In this raw conversation, I share what I’ve learned about separating self-worth from results, and how to build inner peace, self-validation, and authentic confidence.You’ll hear stories about overachieving, body image, and hustling for approval, plus wisdom from voices like Robin Sharma, Marcus Aurelius, and Jay Shetty. Their words remind us that success isn’t a destination, happiness is rooted in our thoughts, and our self-worth can never come from outside validation.If you’ve ever felt like you’re only valuable when you’re productive, this episode is for you. It’s time to say Not Anymore!and start believing you are enough — exactly as you are.🎧 Listen now & start believing: You are enough — exactly as you are.#NotAnymorePodcast #SelfWorth #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #YouAreEnough #StopHustling #InnerPeace #ProductivityMyths #ConfidenceFromWithin #SelfValidation #OverachieverRecovery #MindsetMatters #RobinSharma #MarcusAurelius #JayShetty

Ever feel like your own thoughts are working against you? Yeah, me too.In this episode, I’m sharing how one book—Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr. Daniel Amen—sparked my obsession with understanding the brain and finally gave me language for something I had battled for years: Automatic Negative Thoughts, or what Dr. Amen calls ANTs.You’ll hear about the six most common ANTs, how they show up in my everyday life (like assuming a ruined pie ruined Thanksgiving 😅), and how I’m using these tools to teach my kids to recognize and kill the ANTs before they take over.Whether you struggle with self-doubt, overthinking, or just want to understand your brain a little better, this episode will give you practical tools, relatable stories, and two powerful questions that can flip your mindset in real time.This one’s personal. This one’s powerful. Let’s go.#KillTheANTs #DrAmen #ChangeYourBrain #ThoughtWork #NegativeThinking #MindsetShift #MelRobbins #RobinSharma #LewisHowes #BrainHealth #SelfMastery #OvercomeSelfDoubt #MomMindset #EmotionalResilience #MentalWellness #CognitiveBehavior #FaithAndNeuroscience #ThoughtAwareness #ParentingWithPurpose #NotAnymorePodcast

Ever find yourself scrolling, spiraling, and suddenly feeling like you’re not doing enough, being enough, or achieving fast enough? You’re not alone. In this honest episode of Not Anymore, I’m pulling back the curtain on the messy middle—the space most people skip when they tell their transformation story.We’re diving into the trap of comparison, how it messes with your mental health, fuels imposter syndrome, and leaves you chasing someone else’s version of success. I walk through the TEAR model (Thoughts → Emotions → Actions → Results), share stories from my own life (including a track meet and a Santa-believing detective), and give you tools to reset your mindset—like creating a personal Proof Book and using “mental blinders” to stay in your lane.If you’ve ever compared your weakness to someone else’s strength, this episode will help you say, Not Anymore. #ComparisonTrap #MessyMiddle #MindsetReset #ProofBook #GrowthMindset #NotAnymore #SelfWorth #MentalHealthMatters #PersonalDevelopment #ConfidenceCoach #WomenWhoGrow #StayInYourLane #YouAreEnough #personlgrowth #personaldevelopment

For years, I did everything for everyone else—trying to be the perfect mom, the supportive wife, the “good woman.” I ran myself ragged, hoping someone would notice… and feeling invisible when they didn’t.But everything changed when I stopped doing things for recognition—and started doing them as a gift to myself.In this episode of Not Anymore!, I’m sharing my honest journey out of people-pleasing and into emotional freedom. If you’re an overwhelmed, overthinking mom who feels burned out, stuck in resentment, or tired of waiting for praise that never comes—this episode is for you.I’ll show you how to reclaim your energy, reset your mindset, and finally feel enough—not because anyone else says so, but because you decide you are.🎁 In this episode, I share:How I shifted from obligation to ownership in motherhoodThe power of “self-gifting” (yes, even cleaning the kitchen counts!)What I do when I catch myself spiraling back into old habitsIt’s not perfect over here. I still have moments. But I notice faster. I recover quicker. And I no longer wait to feel seen—I choose to see myself.This is your reminder (and mine): You are enough. You have nothing to prove.#OverwhelmedMom #MomBurnout #OverthinkingHelp #PeoplePleaserRecovery #MindsetMatters #SelfCareForMoms #YouAreEnough #NotAnymorePodcast #ValidationDetox #FutureSelfLove #ResetYourMind #MomsWhoRise #personaldevelopment #selflove 

Have you ever just wanted someone to say, “Yeah... that makes sense. I’d feel that way too”?In this episode, I’m talking about the invisible sign we’re all wearing—“Do you see me? Do I matter?”—and how the answer we all crave is found in one word: validation.I’m sharing real-life stories—from a college freshman homesick and scared, to a moment when I was sobbing in the kitchen and just needed Cody to listen. I talk about how validating your kids, your spouse, and even yourself can change everything.You’ll hear how I’ve used journaling to say the things I wish someone else would say to me. You’ll also learn why validating someone doesn’t mean agreeing—it means understanding, and it’s the key to healing, connection, and peace.This episode is for the woman who wants to be a safe place—for others and for herself.#ValidationMatters #EmotionalHealth #MentalWellness #NotAnymorePodcast #SelfValidation #GentleParenting #MomLifeUnfiltered #RealTalkWithWendy #HealingStartsWithFeeling #HoldSpace#YouAreNotAlone #SeenHeardLoved #FaithAndFeelings #WomensGrowth #VulnerableIsBrave

In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most impactful tools I’ve used to take back control of my thoughts and emotions—something I learned from Jody Moore and Brooke Castillo that completely changed the game for me. When we moved to St. George and Cody left for HXP, I was alone, overwhelmed, and spiraling mentally. That’s when I found coaching and learned a model that helped me shift everything. I’ve simplified it so it’s easy to remember—and I call it the TEAR model (Thought, Emotion, Action, Result).This model helped me see that it’s not my circumstances making me feel overwhelmed or defeated—it’s my thoughts about them. And if I can choose my thoughts, I can change my life. In this episode, I walk you through real-life examples (like parenting moments, friendship triggers, or just everyday chaos) and how I’ve used this model to flip the script.You’ll hear me say this a lot: Not Anymore. That’s my way of declaring I’m done letting old thought patterns run the show. I hope this episode opens your eyes to a new way of thinking—and gives you a path to more peace, connection, and confidence.#NotAnymorePodcast #MindsetShift #TEARModel #ThoughtWork #EmotionalWellbeing #BestVersionOfMe #FaithAndGrowth #LifeCoachSchool #OvercomingOverwhelm #MomLifeMindset #PersonalGrowthTools #WendyHofhine #JodyMoore #BrookeCastillo #TheRhythmOfLife #thoughtwork #lifecoach

Lately, I’ve added four little words to the end of my journal entries, and they’ve completely shifted the way I think, act, and trust: It always works out.In this episode, I open up about how I used to let fear, anxiety, and worst-case scenarios take over my thoughts. I’d create full-blown Hollywood productions in my mind about how badly things could go. But then I decided—Not Anymore!Inspired by the powerful story in the book Surrender, I reflect on what it truly means to trust life—and to trust God. From infertility struggles and parenting challenges to starting businesses from scratch, facing financial uncertainty, and feeling stuck in seasons of waiting, I’ve learned this: when we choose to believe the story ends well, our thoughts begin to shift—and peace gently takes the place of panic.I walk you through real moments from my life (and others I love) that once felt impossible, but now—looking back—I see how perfectly they worked out. Every trial was a wave carrying me to something greater.So I’m here today, looking you in the eyes (yes, you), telling you from the depths of my heart: It always works out. Breathe that in. Say it out loud. Post it on your mirror. Because the more you believe it, the more your life will rise to meet that belief.No more fear scripts. No more anxiety loops. Just faith. Just truth. Just peace.Let’s rewrite the story together - because it ALWAYS works out! #ItAlwaysWorksOut #FaithOverFear #NotAnymorePodcast #MindsetShift #Surrender #TrustTheProcess #PeaceOverPanic #ThoughtWork #LifeHappensForYou #WomenOfFaith #AnxietyRelief #PersonalGrowth #lifecoach #personaldevelopment #faith #trust #God #rewriteyourstory #hope

When was the last time you let yourself really dream? Like, the kind of dreaming you did as a kid—limitless, fearless, and a little bit crazy? Today, I’m giving you full permission to reconnect with your inner 5-year-old and imagine a life without limits.Remember those preschool “What do you want to be when you grow up?” moments? Why do we stop doing that as adults? Not anymore! In this episode, I’m walking you through the power of big dreaming and visualization—backed by science. From Disneyland’s endless imagination to groundbreaking studies on mental rehearsal, you'll hear real data proving that what you dream and visualize can actually become your reality.I'll give you a journaling prompt that could unlock desires you've been afraid to say out loud. And here’s the truth—you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You just can.I’m sharing practical steps to:Dream bigger than everVisualize success like elite athletes and NASA astronauts doBuild belief by creating mental reps that make the impossible feel doableIf you’ve ever felt stuck in the “how” or afraid to dream too big—this episode is for you. Get ready to lift the limits you’ve placed on yourself and start living the life you really want.Let’s go dream big, together.#DreamBig #VisualizationWorks #MindsetShift #UnlockYourPotential #MentalRehearsal #PersonalGrowth #LimitlessLiving #VisionBoard #ThinkAndGrowRich #MotivationalPodcast #SelfImprovement #GoalSetting #ConfidenceCoach #ReigniteYourDreams #PodcastForWomen #ManifestationCoach #GrowthMindset #ImaginationUnleashed #LiveYourBestLife #MotivationalSpeaker

Ever felt hijacked by frustration when someone triggers you—your child yelling, your teen snapping, or a stranger driving painfully slow in front of you? You’re not alone. But what if there was a simple mindset shift that could change everything?In this episode, I share one of my favorite tools I learned from Dr. Becky at Good Inside—MGI: Most Generous Interpretation. It’s a game-changing practice that softens your body, opens your heart, and rewires your thoughts toward compassion instead of conflict.You’ll hear real-life examples—from parenting teens under pressure, to navigating daily frustrations—and learn how to apply this tool to build empathy, lead with connection, and stop the cycle of reactive emotions.Plus, I share the wisdom of the two arrows from Joseph Nguyen’s Don’t Believe Everything You Think, reminding us that while we can’t control what happens to us, we can choose how we respond.Because connection always comes first. 💛#MostGenerousInterpretation #MGITool #ConnectionFirst #ParentingTools #MindsetShift #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfMastery #CompassionInAction #StopReactingStartConnecting #DrBeckyInspired #GoodInside #TwoArrowsWisdom #DontBelieveEverythingYouThink #PodcastForParents #MindfulLiving #personaldevelopment #mastery #progress #habits #momlife

What if the thing you’re calling a "problem"… isn’t actually a problem at all?In this episode, I share how your thoughts—not your circumstances—create the drama. Whether it’s running late, dealing with your kids, or facing unexpected challenges, you have the power to reframe the story.Imagine the peace you could create if you simply stopped labeling everything as a problem and started seeing it as an opportunity instead.It’s not the traffic, the schedule, or the kids—it’s the story you tell yourself about them.🎧 Listen now and learn how to stop feeding your brain the drama and start choosing peace on purpose.#MindsetShift #ReframeYourThoughts #StopTheDrama #MindsetMatters #PeaceOverPressure #ChooseYourThoughts #EmpoweredLiving #LifeByDesign #PersonalGrowthJourney #SelfMastery #NotAnymorePodcast #WendyHofhine #PositiveMindset #ChangeYourStory #GrowthMindset

In this episode, I’m diving deep into something we all try to do at some point—outthink our feelings. But the truth is, emotions don’t go away because we analyze them. Like a bleeding cut, you can’t fix it by just thinking about it—you’ve got to tend to it. You’ve got to feel it.I share real stories from my life, like how getting pulled over used to trigger my body into panic, and how learning to feel my frustration has helped me stay grounded and calm. I also talk about why our nervous system freaks out with new emotions.You’ll hear me unpack the power of emotional awareness, why triggers lose their power when you face them head-on, and how to build emotional resilience by going through your feelings—not around them.I’ll even sprinkle in wisdom from Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Brené Brown, Dr. Edith Eger, and others to show you: you’re not alone in this. There’s a better way to live, and it starts with giving yourself permission to feel.If you’re ready to master your emotions and stop letting them control you, this episode is for you. Let’s go through it—together.#EmotionalIntelligence #FeelToHeal #PodcastLife #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalResilience #MindsetMatters #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney #MentalFitness #NotAnymorePodcast #growth #pesonaldevelopment #momlife #happylife #joy

For most of my life, I believed that being like Jesus meant having no boundaries. I thought love meant always saying yes, always being available, and putting everyone else's needs before my own—until it broke me. In this episode of Not Anymore!, I open up about my personal journey from burnout and resentment to peace and empowerment, all through the life-changing lens of Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.You’ll hear the real story—my wake-up call moment, the powerful mantra I now use (involving a simple ring and a shift in mindset), and how I finally separated my identity from other people’s emotions.We explore how poor boundaries can quietly feed anxiety, guilt, and even physical exhaustion—and how setting them is actually one of the most loving things you can do for yourself and others. From parenting to friendships to faith, this episode is full of stories, analogies, and actionable tools that will help you stop tolerating what’s draining you and start building a life rooted in truth and love.Because boundaries aren't barriers—they're bridges to peace.#Boundaries #FaithAndMentalHealth #ChristianGrowth #PeoplePleasingRecovery #EmotionalHealth #NotAnymorePodcast #SetBoundariesFindPeace #WomenOfFaith #MentalWellness #FaithBasedHealing #EmotionalResilience #InnerPeace #BoundariesChangedMyLife #ChristianPodcast #SelfLeadership #lifecoach #thoughts #personaldevelopment #life #mom

If you’ve ever felt behind, invisible, or stuck in survival mode—this episode is for you.In today’s episode, I’m sharing a powerful mindset shift I call “Sticky Note It.” It’s based on brain science, but I break it down simply: your brain is constantly tagging your experiences—what to fear, what to avoid, and what to believe about yourself.Most of us don’t even realize we’re carrying around sticky notes that say:“I’m not doing enough.”“No one sees how hard I try.”“I’m too much.”“I can’t slow down.”But guess what? Those notes are not permanent. You can choose what sticks.In this episode, I walk you through:The science behind how your brain filters your daily life (hello, Reticular Activating System 👋)Why overwhelmed moms often feel stuck—even when they’re doing their bestHow to raise your awareness and re-sticky note your life with truth and purposeReal-life, relatable mom moments that show how this plays out in everyday lifeA simple 4-step method to shift your focus, rewire your brain, and start showing up as the woman you want to beThis episode is here to help you stop living by default and start living with direction. You’re not behind—you’re becoming. Let’s rewrite those sticky notes together.

After moving into our new home, traveling for work and spring break, and completely falling out of all my routines — I found myself feeling off, frustrated, and disappointed. I had dropped my 5 non-negotiables: workout, 1 hour student, healthy food, journal, meditate. But instead of staying stuck, I chose to reflect, reframe, and rebuild.In this episode, I’m sharing what it really means to fail — and how failure is actually the beginning of mastery. You'll learn how to get back up, re-establish your habits, and shift your mindset so you’re not stuck in shame, but moving forward with self-compassion and purpose.I’ll share what I learned about:The root of why we fear failureWhy we make failure personal (and how to stop)The power of journaling for awareness and changeThe truth about compounding habits — for better or worseHow life is always happening for you, not to youCreating small systems that help you grow stronger, not stay stuckIf you've fallen off your habits, feel like you're starting over again (and again), or just need a permission slip to be human — this episode is for you.Let’s fail forward together. Let’s get 1% better every day. And let’s remind ourselves:Not Anymore will we see failure as the end.It’s the start of something powerful. 💛#NotAnymore #FailForward #HabitsThatStick #FaithAndFailure #MomLifeUnfiltered #GrowthMindsetMama #RoutineReset #JournalingForGrowth #MasteryThroughFailure #RealLifeRealGrowth #MomLifePodcast #BackOnTrack #DailyHabitsMatter #FromFailureToFreedom #1PercentBetter

Ever had a moment where your perspective completely shifted in an instant? In this episode, I share a powerful story from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People about a subway ride in New York that changed the way I see others forever. I also dive into my own experiences with my spouse, kids and delayed cabinets where I chose to see things through their lens. What if we stopped judging people by their behavior and started seeing life through their eyes? What if we believed that everyone is doing their best and just wants to be loved and understood? What if we said Not Anymore! to quick judgments and embraced empathy instead?Tune in for a mindset shift that will help you master your thoughts, control your emotions, and respond to life with greater understanding.🎧 Listen now and start seeing life differently!#MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #SuccessHabits #Empathy #PerspectiveMatters #NotAnymore #EmotionalIntelligence #Leadership #MindsetMatters #PodcastEpisode

In this episode I'm diving into the transformative power of self-love, inspired by Jay Shetty’s 8 Rules of Love. Discover practical ways to nurture self-compassion, self-care, and authenticity through reflection and actionable tips.Explore how boundaries are a powerful act of love, why saying “yes” to yourself can change your life, and how trusting yourself strengthens your relationships. I share personal stories and scales to assess where you stand in areas like self-worth, resilience, and forgiveness—and how to make self-love a daily habit.This episode will empower you to invest in the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself.#SelfLove #Boundaries #SelfCompassion #JayShetty #8RulesOfLove #TrustYourself #LoveStartsWithYou #NotAnymorePodcast #PersonalGrowth #Authenticity #FebruaryFocus #LoveYourself

Happy 2025! New Year, new dreams—but how do you make them last beyond "Quitter’s Day"? Research shows most people give up their New Year’s resolutions in just 9 days, but why? It’s because change is hard—it’s messy in the middle and only gets easier with consistent action. In this episode, we explore why relying on willpower won’t cut it and how daily habits are the true secret to lasting change.We’ll break down how dreams—whether it’s losing weight, writing a book, learning a new language, or improving relationships—can only come true through consistent action. Just like Kobe Bryant mastered his craft with disciplined daily habits, you can transform your life too.Discover how to create your own daily rituals, the power of the 66-day rule for habit formation, and how to fall in love with the process. Plus, I’ll share my personal routine of 5 non-negotiable habits and why they’ve made a huge difference in my life.So, if you're ready to stop dreaming and start doing, this episode is for you. Let’s make 2025 the year of consistent progress!Key Takeaways: Why willpower isn't enough for lasting change How breaking big goals into daily habits leads to success The science behind habit formation and how 66 days can transform your life Real-life examples of habits that lead to success The power of accountability and falling in love with the process#ConsistencyIsKey #HabitFormation #MambaMentality #GoalSetting #DreamsToReality #HabitStacking #2025Goals #PersonalGrowth #MindsetMatters #KobeBryant #Willpower #HabitBuilding #SuccessMindset

Happy 2025! As we approach the table end of Christmas Break, I've been reflecting on something big: the peace that comes from letting go of control. Whether it's managing holiday chaos, trying to get everything “just right,” or dealing with personal frustrations, I’ve spent years trying to control outcomes to feel better. But here's the truth – real freedom comes when we stop trying to control everything around us.In this episode, I’ll share how shifting my mindset has been a game-changer for my peace of mind. I explore why we’re wired for instant gratification and how that can lead us to unhealthy coping mechanisms. From food to scrolling, we often try to soothe ourselves with temporary fixes. But what if lasting fulfillment comes from accepting the discomfort, letting go of the need to control, and working on what we can actually control — our thoughts?I’ll walk you through how to start creating internal peace and calm, why letting go of perfectionism is essential for growth, and how this shift can lead to better relationships, healthier habits, and more peace in your life.If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to control outcomes — whether in your relationships, your work, or your own happiness — this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how to release that grip and find freedom in the process.#LettingGo #FindingPeace #MindsetShift #FreedomFromControl #PersonalGrowth #Mindfulness #SelfAwareness #EmotionalWellness #HealingJourney #InstantGratification #GrowthMindset #InnerPeace #SelfLove #MentalClarity #PeacefulLiving

In this episode I dive into the transformative power of your beliefs and the stories you tell yourself. Did you know you can choose to become the person you want to be? Whether it’s embracing a love for dogs, becoming a Disney enthusiast, or conquering self-limiting thoughts, it all starts with one powerful decision: Not anymore!Join me as I share personal stories of shifting beliefs—from hating dogs to becoming a dog person, and from dreading Disney trips to loving the magic of it all. Discover how I rewired my thoughts, collected new evidence to support empowering beliefs, and created a new identity for myself. You’ll also hear how my daughter transformed from a shy girl to a social butterfly, simply by deciding to be someone different.Are you stuck in habits or identities that no longer serve you? Whether it’s fitness, finances, relationships, or mindset, this episode will inspire you to say “Not anymore!” and step into a version of yourself you’ve always wanted. Change starts with a choice and builds with daily actions—one belief, one habit, one moment at a time.🚀 2025 is your blank slate. Who will you become?🎯 Tune in and learn how to reframe your thoughts, reshape your identity, and create a life you love.Hashtags:#NotAnymorePodcast #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #SelfBelief #IdentityChange #DailyHabits #TransformYourLife #Inspiration #SelfImprovement #UnlockYourPotential

In this episode of Not Anymore!, I’m sharing a personal story that taught me one of the biggest lessons about emotional triggers and how to handle them. Have you ever felt like a simple question or comment set you off, leaving you angry, defensive, or overwhelmed? You’re not alone—and those moments are actually packed with powerful opportunities for growth.We’ll dive into why triggers happen, the emotions hiding beneath them (hello, shame!), and how to respond with curiosity and self-compassion instead of reacting like it’s an emergency. I’ll share insights from my own experience, tools to process your emotions, and practical steps to turn triggers into your greatest teachers.If you’re ready to stop letting life push your buttons and start responding with awareness, this episode is for you. Let’s reframe those moments, build emotional resilience, and say Not Anymore! to old patterns that no longer serve us.✨ Get ready to uncover what’s really behind your triggers—and how to transform them into growth!🎧 Tune in now and share with someone who could use this reminder.#EmotionalAwareness #Triggers #SelfCompassion #ShameResilience #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealthPodcast #MindsetShift #NotAnymorePodcast

Have you ever stopped to consider how your beliefs—both conscious and subconscious—are shaping your life? In this episode of Not Anymore!, I dive deep into the power of beliefs and how they influence everything from your relationships to your achievements.I share the unforgettable story of a man, some cookies, and a surprising moment of self-reflection that will make you rethink your assumptions. Plus, I explore how our brains pull evidence from the past to reinforce limiting beliefs—like "I’ll never be good at this"—and how to flip the script to create empowering beliefs based on the future we want to build.I’ll guide you through practical examples of how to rewrite your internal dialogue, from parenting to public speaking, and shift from limiting beliefs like “I’m not good enough” to enabling beliefs like “I can grow and improve every day.” Discover how to train your brain to look for opportunities, proof, and possibilities that align with your dreams.If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll wait until I’m ready” or “I’m not there yet,” this episode is for you. Beliefs should be rooted in your future, not your past—because the story you tell yourself today will shape your tomorrow. Let’s rewrite that story together.✨ Key Takeaways: How to challenge and talk back to limiting beliefs. Why your brain automatically seeks proof for what you believe—and how to redirect it. The secret to loving and celebrating yourself where you are right now.🔑 Quote to Remember:"If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you." – Louise Hay🎧 Tune in now and start creating the beliefs that will lead to the life you desire.#MindsetShift #LimitingBeliefs #EmpowerYourself #PersonalGrowth #PositiveThinking #RewriteYourStory #SelfLoveJourney #FutureFocused #BelieveInYourself #PodcastCommunity

What if success wasn’t tied to the outcomes but instead came from the way we show up every day? In this episode of Not Anymore!, I dive into the concept of redefining success on our own terms. Whether it's how we navigate challenging situations or what it means to live authentically, we’re breaking free from the societal pressures of perfection.I’ll walk you through the "PLAYS" framework—five steps to skillfully navigate any moment with intention and compassion: Present: Stay fully in the moment with others, strengthening emotional connections through simple actions like eye contact and touch. Listen: Truly hear and understand, instead of planning your next response. Acknowledge: Validate emotions without judgment, creating trust and empathy. Yield: Set firm boundaries while staying flexible in your approach. Self-Control: Respond thoughtfully by regulating your emotions.I also share how success is unique to each of us and how defining it in areas like fitness, family, faith, and freedom can lead to living an authentic, fulfilled life. From letting go of societal expectations to creating your own version of success, this episode will inspire you to take charge and live for you.Grab a journal for this one—I'll guide you through practical prompts to clarify what success means for you, so you can start aligning your life with your deepest values today.Let’s rewrite the rules of success together!#RedefiningSuccess #AuthenticLiving #MindfulParenting #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowthJourney#FamilySuccess #FaithAndGrowth #FreedomLifestyle #FitnessGoals #MomLifeBalance

In this episode of Not Anymore!, I share my personal journey of breaking free from the myth that “the good life” is about perfectly balancing work, family, and endless responsibilities. Instead, I’ve learned that the true good life is about being fully present—living in the moments we have, where and when we have them.I dive into how I’ve shifted my focus from worrying about the future or dwelling on the past to cherishing the simple, everyday experiences. Whether it’s rocking my daughter Harper when she’s sick, playing a game with my kids, or even just sitting in stillness, I’ve discovered that showing up in the moment is where I find the most peace and purpose.If you’re like me and struggle to juggle your to-do list while being the best version of yourself for your family, this episode will inspire you to slow down, let go of perfection, and embrace the gift of now. Redefining "The Good Life": It’s not about perfect balance but fully embracing the present moment. What Being Present Looks Like: Setting aside distractions to cherish moments with family, listen intently, and connect deeply. Practical Tools for Presence: Mantras: Use affirmations like, “I have an abundance of time” and “If I could have this moment back in 20 years, how would I react?” Mindfulness Practices: Meditate, journal, and visualize what your future self would value most. Reframing Decisions: Ask yourself, “What will I regret more?” when faced with tough choices. The Power of Letting Go: Release perfectionism, messy houses, and stress over trivial details to focus on what truly matters.Key Takeaways:Legacy of Feelings: People won’t remember your words or the state of your house, but they will always remember how you made them feel.#BePresent #Mindfulness #ParentingJourney #IntentionalLiving #TheGoodLife #FamilyFirst #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #LiveInTheMoment #PositiveMindset #EmbraceThePresent #NotAnymorePodcast #PodcastLife #PodcastEpisode #PodcastCommunity #PodcastInspiration #WorkLifeBalance #MinimalistLiving #SlowLiving #SimpleLiving

It's November, the month of Thanksgiving and gratitude and LOTS of platters of food. In this episode I talk about a differnet platter. A platter of emotions and how we can choose how we want to feel, reverse engineer it by choosing the thoughts that create the outcome we want. Giving us ownership of our emotions. I also walk you through how to feel your emotions and make peace with them.

Today I dive into the power of curiosity and the impact it can have on your life. In this episode, I share my journey as a naturally curious soul, recounting childhood stories that shaped my relentless drive to ask questions and explore life’s complexities. I believe that curiosity isn’t just a personality trait—it’s a powerful tool that fuels growth, change, and the courage to say, “Not Anymore!” to the things that no longer serve us. Tune in to discover how embracing your own curiosity can help you transform the life you tolerate into the life you truly desire.If you've ever felt held back or wondered if there's more to life than what you currently see, this episode is for you. Learn why curiosity is key to breaking through limits and start crafting a life you’re passionate about. Join me as I ask thought-provoking questions that inspire reflection and action.#PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #MindsetShift #CuriosityJourney #LiveYourBestLife #SayNotAnymore #WendyHofhine #PodcastCommunity

Starting a podcast is scary, uncomfortable and vulnerable, so why am I doing it? After failing miserably over a zoom call, I decided there was a need for me to grow and be more comfortable speaking my thoughts out loud. My first solution was to comfortably record a private video daily stored safely in a hidden folder on my phone for no one to see. Then I told myself, "Not Anymore!" I'm not taking the comfortable, safe route. I'm heading into the unknown and figuring this out! So...NOT ANYMORE! was born. Ready or not world (and me😳), here I come!