Secrets From a Coach - Debbie Green & Laura Thomson's Podcast

Send us Fan MailContent note: This episode includes references to suicide bereavement and grief.In the second episode of our Healthy Coping Mechanisms mini-series, we are joined by rail incident controller Tom Curcher for a powerful and honest conversation about coping under pressure, building trust, and recovering after difficult experiences.Tom shares a fascinating behind-the-scenes insight into working in a high-pressure rail incident response environment, where communication, calm thinking and teamwork really matter. He explains why trust is the foundation of effective response, how he prepares for worst-case scenarios without becoming overwhelmed, and why sharing the load is essential when pressure is high.This episode also explores a deeply personal resilience reframe. Tom talks openly about losing his dad to suicide, living with grief, and how that experience has shaped his outlook on life, work and supporting others. Rather than seeing resilience as simply 'bouncing back', Tom offers a grounded reminder that we can live with difficult experiences, learn from them, and still choose connection, gratitude and growth.Tom shares the power of genuinely asking “how are you?”, listening without trying to fix, knowing what is and isn’t yours to carry, and creating team environments where people feel safe to speak honestly. His call to action is simple but brave: ask for feedback, drop the mask, and consider what you could do differently to help yourself and others cope better.Tom volunteers with SOBS – Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. You can connect with Tom on Instagram: Tom Curcher

Send us Fan MailIn this first in our 5 part mini-series looking at healthy coping mechanisms, we explore a practical proactive wellness toolkit for coping in the moment, recognising stress and making sensible choices under pressure. 

Send us Fan MailIn this third episode in our miniseries looking at Powerful Presence we are thrilled to be joined by performance coach Tony McAllister who unusually, was the coach for both the Olympic and Paralympic Skiing Teams.   He shares his perspective and advice for enabling a team to perform under pressure. Mindset, preparation and a one-team attitude. 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to our second episode in our Powerful Performance mini-series and this one is all about staying calm, getting into flow (not fluster) state and shifting from anxiety into anticipation. We share simple tools for keeping on the front foot including situations like performance reviews and creating a sense of readiness that balances presence with preparation. 

Send us Fan MailConfidence isn’t about being louder, bolder or more polished. It’s about being so rooted in who you are that your presence speaks before you do.As Lau works in Montreal for the week, in this episode Debs is joined by Karl for a rich and honest conversation about what confidence really looks like. Beyond performance, perfection or simply looking the part. Together, they explore the difference between confidence that is performative and confidence that is deeply rooted in identity, self-belief and presence.Building on the theme of powerful presence, Debs and Karl unpack why presence is not about volume, charisma or job title, but about the feeling you create in a room and the impact you leave behind. Drawing on Karl’s experience as both a former performer and coach, they reflect on the moments when confidence is most powerfully felt -  not when everything is polished, but when we are fully present, real and connected.At the heart of the episode is a beautiful framework: The Anatomy of Confidence. Together they explore the layers that help confidence come alive: from congruence, ownership and nervous system safety, through to freedom from perfection, identity, direction, non-comparison, courage and energy. The conversation reminds us that confidence is not something we 'put on' but something we build from the inside out.This episode is a thoughtful invitation to stop chasing approval, stop comparing yourself to others, and start becoming more available to yourself. Warm, reflective and full of practical wisdom, it’s a powerful listen for anyone wanting to show up with greater self-trust, calm and authentic presence.

Send us Fan MailIn a world of constant notifications, endless scrolling and AI-generated everything… what makes someone truly stand out?In this episode, we kick off our Powerful Presence mini-series by exploring what it really means to 'lock in' -  to be fully present, intentional and impactful in the moments that matter.We explore why presence isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room, but about the energy you bring and the space you create for others. In today’s attention economy, your ability to connect, engage and leave a positive emotional imprint is your real differentiator.We introduce the simple but powerful 3–30-3 rule, how the first 3 seconds, 30 seconds and 3 minutes of any interaction shape how you’re experienced and share practical ways to show up with clarity, confidence and purpose.We also explore:The difference between confidence and arroganceWhy “service over duty” transforms how you show up at workHow small moments (like using someone’s name) build instant connectionThe question every leader should ask: What do I want people to feel because I showed up?A grounded, energising listen for anyone who wants to cut through the noise and be remembered for the right reasons. To light up the room on the way in (rather than the way out).

Send us Fan MailIn the final in our 4-part focus on Mentoring, we dig into why mentoring is a serious advantage in a world where roles are changing fast and teams need to adapt without losing hard-won practical wisdom. We share how mentoring builds confidence, transfers knowledge across generations, and turns culture into a real engine for collaboration and growth. Hearing from an incredible range of real life mentors and mentees, we hear how:• mentoring is an enabler to thrive through rapid change and role disruption • why mentoring is not just for new starters and not a “fix,” it is a growth tool • knowledge transfer that stops expertise walking out the door • two-way learning across generations that blends experience with fresh perspective • cross-functional mentoring to reduce friction and break “them and us” dynamics • “you’re never too young to lead, and you’re never too old to learn” as the mindset shift • mentoring as live learning that moves faster than strategy documents And all it needs, is to simply start by pairing two people and letting it grow 

Send us Fan MailAs part of our focus on mentoring, we explore what separates an extraordinary mentor from someone who simply gives advice. We hear from real voices and practical tips from people who have mentored and been mentored. We keep coming back to mentoring as a relationship built on curiosity, listening, and consistent commitment that benefits both people and future-proofs the way we work. We hear how mentors are “a mirror and a map” to reflect and guide. How important it is to contract up front on purpose, expectations, and boundaries. To balance support with stretch and honest feedback. If a mentoring culture helps transfer knowledge across generations, this is the era to plan in mentoring as a non-negotiable routine. Even if you haven't been approached to be a someone's mentor, keep an eye out. Who do you think might benefit from your wisdom? 

Send us Fan MailIn the second episode of our Extraordinary Mentors mini-series, we explore how early-career mentoring turns talent into traction by building confidence, clarity, and judgment.We hear real stories and practical insights from a range of contributors about the powerful role a mentor can play in kickstarting a career. Guests share how mentors open doors, normalise struggles, and balance psychological safety with stretch to accelerate growth.Be inspired by how mentoring helped shape our contributors’ early confidence and direction. A great mentor can act as both mirror and map - offering reflection, guidance, and the human-centred wisdom that rarely appears in a handbook.We also share simple steps for finding and approaching a mentor. Sometimes it starts with something very small: a coffee, a conversation, and a question for someone who inspires you.

Send us Fan MailIn this first episode in our 4-part focus on the Magic of Mentoring, we unpack why mentoring is the fastest, most human way to close skills gaps, transfer culture, and build confidence in a time-poor, AI-shaped workplace. We define mentoring against training and coaching, set boundaries, and share practical ways to start and sustain great partnerships. Sharing tips for working as ‘colleagues with benefits’ we share practical ways for both the mentor and mentor to maintain good boundaries and maximise time through great conversations.  

Send us Fan MailIn our fourth and final episode of our Incredible Teams mini-series we explore how to inspire a team to perform - and most importantly maintain high standards of excellence as the default. 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the real unlock for high performance isn’t a big idea… but a steady beat?This 4-part mini-series is all about Incredible Teams, using the Tuckman Team Dynamics model as inspiration for creating or sustaining great teamwork.In this episode, we explore the Norming stage of team development- the quiet but crucial phase where discipline, awareness and consistency turn ‘getting by’ into dependable progress. Norming isn’t about being bland or rigid; it’s about establishing the rules of the road so teamwork feels lighter, clearer and more predictable.We discuss why clear standards define what good looks like, how shared awareness helps teams spot pressure points early, and why consistency is one of the greatest enablers of trust. Disagreements don’t disappear, but they resolve cleanly. Feedback feels safer because boundaries are explicit and repair is expected. Roles and handovers are understood, so absences don’t derail momentum.To make norming practical, we introduce Richard Beckhard’s GRIP model,  a simple framework to align Goals, Roles, Interpersonal norms and Processes. Used well, GRIP reduces friction, speeds up onboarding and strengthens new or evolving partnerships. We share how co-creating norms and revisiting them regularly can prevent drift and protect team rhythm.A steady and practical listen for anyone who’s moved through storming and wants to lock in the gains. Because when the rules of the road are clear, teams stop navigating each other and start moving forward together.

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when tension rises in a team? Do you address it directly, or hope it blows over?This 4-part mini-series is all about Incredible Teams, using the Tuckman Team Dynamics model as inspiration for creating or sustaining great teamwork.In this episode, we explore the Storming stage of team development and why conflict isn’t a setback - it’s a signal. When differences surface, expectations clash, or frustration builds, it’s often a sign that people care and are invested.We discuss why avoiding difficult conversations can erode trust over time, and how naming tension early can strengthen relationships rather than damage them.We introduce the Five Ps:  Preparation, Placement, Permission, Process and Partnership - a practical framework to help you handle hard conversations with clarity and compassion.A grounded listen for anyone leading through change, navigating disagreement, or wanting to bring their team along the journey. Because storms handled well don’t break teams, they build them.

Send us Fan MailHow quickly do you trust new colleagues? Do you start at 100% trust and let it erode, or at zero and build it over time?This 4-part mini-series is all about Incredible Teams. Using the Tuckman Team Dynamics model as inspiration for creating or sustaining great teamwork.In this episode, we explore the Forming stage of team development and why clarity -not chemistry- is the true foundation of high-performing teams. We look at how trust is built intentionally and why new or re-formed teams need clear direction before momentum.We discuss the importance of setting a shared destination, defining roles and boundaries, and creating space for honest communication. Because without clarity on purpose and priorities, teams can be busy without being effective.We share the Z Tool; a simple communication framework to help leaders clearly explain change, align different thinking styles, and set teams up for success.A practical listen for anyone forming a team, joining one, or pausing to reset direction. If teamwork is a journey, start strong by setting the satnav to success.  

Send us Fan MailHow do we motivate ourselves in a healthy, sustainable way: and is pushing harder really the answer?In this final episode of our Fresh Starts mini-series, we’re joined by sports scientist Danielle Peters, who shares insights from working with amateur and professional athletes, people in rehabilitation, and those seeking better all-round health through understanding their bodies.Danielle challenges the myth that high performance means pushing through at all costs. Instead, she reminds us that true high performance is about listening, adjusting, and choosing what supports us for the long run.Together, we explore the powerful parallels between sport and everyday performance at work - from the role of rest and recovery, to managing stress, setting boundaries, and understanding the difference between intentions and goals. We also unpack why all-or-nothing thinking can quietly derail performance and lead to burnout.As always, take what’s useful and leave what isn’t; and remember, there’s no perfect time for a fresh start. Just the one that feels right for you.A reassuring and practical listen for anyone who’s flagging, or leading a team that’s dragging  - and looking for a healthier, more humane alternative to cracking the whip.

Send us Fan MailWhat does balance really look like when life feels busy, full and always 'on'? In this third episode of our Fresh Starts mini-series, we reframe work–life balance as life–work balance: because life comes first. Using the reality of our finite 168 hours a week, we explore how time and energy are limited resources, and why constant stretch is often a sign that the give has outweighed the get for too long.We share practical coaching tools including the Jar of Life and the Wheel of Life to help you spot where imbalance is creeping in and what may need to shift. We explore identifying your non-negotiable 'rocks' (e.g. health, family and wellbeing) and how over-giving through habit, expectation or guilt can quietly disconnect us from ourselves. One powerful question sits at the heart of the episode: “When do you feel most like yourself?”We also look at how this shows up in real working lives, especially in roles that demand constant emotional responsibility. Through small resets, clear boundaries and guilt-free protection of what matters, this episode offers a grounding reminder: self-care isn’t indulgent - it’s essential. If your energy mattered as much as your output, what might change?An ideal listen if you are looking for practical ways to achieve the life–work balance for you, or if you want to run a session/share at a meeting tips for energy, boundaries, giving and receiving, self-leadership and making fresh starts

Send us Fan MailIn the second episode of our 4-part Fresh Starts mini-series, we explore how to navigate the setbacks, incidents, challenges and never-ending task lists that can, at times, tip us into overwhelm and reactivity.We share simple but powerful principles for restoring calm: learning to pause, shrinking your horizon when everything feels too much, and grounding yourself in your body rather than getting swept up in the story and drama of the moment.Debs offers practical guidance on how managers can help a team member shift from overwhelm to clarity, using a thoughtful 'go-to' question bank. Drawing inspiration from courtrooms - where questions must not lead the witness,  we explore how the same principle can be used for good in leadership conversations, helping others think clearly rather than feel pushed or fixed.Laura introduces the STEADY framework for creating space for what truly matters; a practical tool for self-regulation that’s equally powerful to share with a colleague or friend who might be spinning out with life's demands. A calm, reassuring episode for anyone craving a little more space, steadiness and perspective when life feels loud and the workload is building. 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Part 1 of our four-part Fresh Start mini-series -  a companion episode to Ep. 268 where we invite you to get vision-ready with us.Whether you’re stepping into a new year, a new team, a new financial reality, a new role, or a whole new life chapter - or it simply feels like time to turn over a fresh page, this episode is about setting your intent for the phase ahead.Rather than making promises that can add pressure or create quiet guilt, we explore a mindset reset: progress over perfection. When we focus on direction rather than demands, energy and momentum follow.We unpack psychologist Julian Rotter’s work on Internal vs External Locus of Control, and why seeing yourself as the agent (not the victim) of events is linked to stronger wellbeing, clearer decision-making, and better personal and commercial outcomes.Finally, we share our brand-new FRESH intention-setting tool:  a simple, team-friendly way to galvanise focus and momentum. It’s ideal for meetings where you want people to leave feeling Focused, Realistic, Empowered, Strategic and Happy about the task-load ahead.A calm, motivating listen for anyone ready to reset their lens and move forward with purpose - no matter our age, stage or background. As Maria Robinson reminds us: “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

Send us Fan MailAs the year draws to a close, it’s the perfect moment to pause, breathe and take stock. In this reflective, “get reviewing with me” style episode, we walk you through a simple, compassionate, step-by-step process to look back over your year with clarity, courage and kindness.We explore why intentional pauses matter, how rest becomes a radical act of resilience, and how reviewing the highs, lows, lessons and notable highlights can help you reconnect to what truly matters. We share our own reflections, invite you to scan your year with curiosity, and offer practical prompts around values, purpose and emotional wellbeing.We also discuss how journaling, technology and a sprinkle of AI can broaden your perspective and support future planning - including the Safe Hands exercise and the Six Box Method to shape a flexible, energising year ahead. Both tools work brilliantly as team activities too, making this a practical episode for anyone looking to refresh a team review session.Whether your year has been full, messy, brilliant or challenging, this episode helps you honour your experiences, celebrate your successes and reset your mindset with intention.Key themes: reflection, emotional resilience, intentional pausing, values, purpose, self-care, notable highlights, future planning, personal growth, compassionA grounding, inspiring listen to help you close the year well and step into the next one with confidence and calm energy. Taking just 10 minutes to look back over the past 12 months gives you the chance to notice and savour your successes;  boosting your courage and optimism for the year ahead.We are taking 2 weeks off until the next year when we will return on Fri 9th Jan 2026! With love and thanks, Debs and Lau xx

Send us Fan MailIn this second in our 3-part mini-series inviting us to Slow Down to Go Faster, we reframe the concept of rest by asking: how would an athlete consider the concept of rest in their profession? A vital component for performance!  In a world that glorifies busyness, rest can feel like a luxury, but in this episode we explore why it’s actually a radical, life-changing act. We dive into the real meaning of rest, the myths that stop us from prioritising it, and how intentional pauses can transform not just your wellbeing, but also your performance, clarity and relationships at work.We share practical examples of how to build rest into your high performance routines, how to say no with love, and why protecting your energy is a life-leadership skill, not a guilty secret. We summarise tips for incorporating rest into your day, the power of micro-pauses, and simple ways to bring more ease into your team culture - including fun, innovative approaches to help everyone reset and stay connected.Whether you’re running on empty, juggling too much, or simply curious about how to work and live with more spaciousness, this episode invites you to rethink rest as a choice, not a reward - and to treat it as a strategic, courageous act.Key themes: rest, productivity, self-care, intentional pauses, boundaries, saying no, team dynamics, wellbeing, leadership, mental health, performanceA replenishing, perspective-shifting listen to remind you that rest isn’t a weakness - it’s one of the smartest investments you can make in yourself and your team.

Send us Fan MailWelcome to the first episode in our mini-series where we encourage you to Slow Down to Go Faster. As life gets busier and louder, we share practical tools to help you reset your rhythm and finish the year feeling clear rather than chaotic.In this episode, we explore the reality of being a constant juggler in life: work, family, decisions, emotions, admin, other people’s expectations… all competing for your attention at once. Whether you lead a team, a household, a project or simply your own wellbeing, it’s easy to slip into overwhelm and reactive mode.We share five simple and powerful ways to stay centred when the demands build up and life threatens to spiral. Overwhelm clouds our communication, decision-making and sense of perspective: which is why slowing down isn’t a luxury; it’s a form of life leadership.A reassuring, practical listen for anyone feeling stretched, overloaded or pulled in multiple directions - and a gentle reminder that the more crowded life becomes, the more your clarity matters.Key themes: overwhelm, clarity, life leadership, prioritisation, staying centred, reflection, communication, focus

Send us Fan MailIn this final part of our 4-part Energy Refuel and Reset mini series we share 3 scenarios that demo the need and the challenges around balancing empathy with edge. Caring personally, challenging directly and practical examples for how to do this with peers, direct reports and managing upwards.

Send us Fan MailIf you have to watch your back at work, it’s twice the workload: draining energy, morale and motivation. Over time it can lead to burnout, low engagement and good people walking away.In the third episode of our Energy Refuel & Reset mini-series, we explore the hot topic of psychological safety - what it really looks like in everyday team life (hint: it’s not just what the company website says).We strip it right back to the core ingredients that help people feel safe, valued and able to speak up: from everyday trust-building to small behaviours that make a big difference in team dynamics.Plus, we take a fascinating AI twist: what does belonging look like in hybrid teams made up of both humans and AI colleagues? Can we over-empathise with machines even to our own detriment? Debbie and Laura unpack why empathy is our greatest superpower, and how to use it wisely to stay human, kind and balanced in an evolving world of work. Humans cant help but become emotionally attached to those around them (think 'Wilson' with Tom Hanks in the film Castaway) which is both our superpower and our kryptonite. A thought-provoking and energising listen for anyone who wants to build (or rebuild) a culture of trust, connection and care at work.

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the best-laid plans get derailed: through redundancy, setbacks or sudden change? How do you pick yourself up, rebuild confidence and find the motivation to get moving again?In the second episode of our Energy Refuel & Reset mini-series, we are joined by the brilliant Zoe Lewis, co-founder of AgileSource, who shares her honest and uplifting story of bouncing back after redundancy.As a lifelong recruiter, Zoe brings invaluable insight from both sides of the table:  from navigating her own career crossroads, to helping others find new roles in the digital, data and cloud technology space.She talks about how an “attitude of gratitude” helped her reclaim her career sparkle, why their company logo features two magpies, and how small acts of joy can fuel big shifts in self-belief.A warm and practical listen for anyone facing a setback and needing a boost of motivation, perspective and positive energy.You can connect with Zoe via Linked In and check out her recruitment business here AgileSource Recruitment 

Send us Fan MailAs the year heads into its final stretch, how do we finish well: staying motivated, grounded, and energised rather than crawling to the end  of year finish line? In this first episode of our Energy Refuel & Reset mini-series, we unpack five powerful principles to help sustain our performance when the pressure is high and the tank feels low:Pace yourself - over time, consistency beats intensity.Respect your energy curve - work with your natural rhythm, not against it.Micro-refuels for macro results - quick breathers make a big difference.Boundaries that protect your energy - to say yes to what matters most.Celebrate progress - progress is fuel; cheer yourself along the marathon!We also introduce the 4 Rs Tool which is a practical framework used by crisis-management teams to maintain energy and morale during constant fire-fighting. As usual we share a clear call to action, plus ideas to share this with colleagues to enable reflective prompts and realistic strategies that we can re/start using right away.Listen in to reset your mindset, recharge your energy, and finish the year strong without burning out.

Send us Fan MailIn the final episode of our Thriving Workplace Cultures mini-series, we explore what it really means to be the culture you want to see. Because a great place to work isn’t built by policies or posters; it’s created every day by the people in it. The energy, attitudes and behaviours we bring to work shape the experience for everyone around us.We talk about what helps teams truly thrive: strong connections, shared purpose, appreciation of differences, and a genuine sense of belonging. And we look honestly at what gets in the way (from “can’t be arsed” attitudes to unspoken tension and poor communication) and how to turn those moments into opportunities for growth rather than frustration.We share practical ways to take ownership of your team climate: running better meetings, celebrating progress, addressing issues early, and balancing experience with openness to change. We’ll explore why self-awareness and intentional communication are the cornerstones of a great culture, and how your personal energy sets the tone for those around you.Listen if you want to:Reflect on your personal impact on your team’s atmosphere and performanceStrengthen trust, communication and connection within your teamLearn simple habits to help everyone feel valued, heard and motivatedTry this this week:Ask yourself: Did I make it easier or harder for others to thrive today? Then adjust your approach accordingly. Because culture isn’t “out there”,  it’s us, every day, in action.

Send us Fan MailEver found yourself thinking, “How am I meant to stay calm when everyone else is losing it?” In this fourth episode of our Thriving Workplace Cultures mini-series, we explore how to stay professional and compassionate; even when others aren’t.From gossip and eye-rolling to stress-fuelled reactions and toxic tension, we look beneath the behaviour to uncover what’s really going on. Fear, insecurity, and burnout often sit at the heart of unhelpful behaviour, and recognising that can help us respond with empathy rather than reactivity.We unpack practical strategies to handle these situations with confidence and care: how to set clear boundaries, use emotionally intelligent language, and adapt communication for different personalities, whether you’re dealing with fiery, fast-paced colleagues or quiet, detail-focused ones. We also explore the concept of compassionate engagement (caring personally while challenging directly) and why managing yourself first is the most powerful way to change the tone around you.Listen if you want to:Stay calm, confident and professional under pressureLearn simple phrases to de-escalate tension and protect your boundariesUnderstand what drives toxic behaviour — and how to respond without getting drawn inTry this this week: When faced with difficult behaviour, take a breath and ask yourself, “What’s this really about — and what energy do I want to bring to it?” Because professionalism isn’t about perfection; it’s about self-management in the moments that matter most.

Send us Fan MailIn the third episode of our Thriving Workplace Cultures mini-series, we explore how setting and keeping good boundaries isn’t just self-care ; it enables the overall culture to thrive. We explore how to protect your energy, manage pressure, and model healthy balance at work: raising self-awareness to the risk of self-sacrifice in a ‘take’ culture. We look at what it means to be your own Chief Energy Officer, how to protect your “pleasure oasis” amid hybrid chaos, and why proactive boundary-setting helps teams perform better, not less. We share real-world phrases for saying no without guilt, practical ways to plan ahead for busy periods, and the mindset shifts that turn exhaustion into empowerment. So that precious moments of downtime do not become like a mirage where you melt in a haze of admin catch up!Listen if you’re:Feeling stretched too thin or “always on”Leading others and want to model sustainable performanceReady to turn healthy boundaries into a shared team habitTry this this week: Pick one of the boundary-setting phrases that feels natural to you — and use it once. You’re not just protecting your time; you’re showing others how to thrive too.

Send us Fan MailIn this second episode of our 5-part focus exploring Thriving Workplace Cultures, we take a look at the dark side of working in an organisation-  what do to when things turn bad. Trust and fairness are key foundations - the give and the getNotice, Choose and Actyou are not alone, an organisation is bigger than the individual so keep your boundary lines clear in your head in terms of appropriate levels of accountability and responsibility We share our new PEACE approach for calmer, more productive conversations and interactions: Purpose, Explain, Accept, Collaborate and Engage:Purpose - keep eyes on the future win from the interaction  - the whyExplain - your thinking so people see your reasoning - the contextAccept - that it is ok for others to hold different, passionate views - we are not AICollaborate - drop the ego to compete and work sideways on  - teamworkEngage - keep the dialogue open and respect through listening - rapport

Send us Fan MailWhat does a thriving workplace culture actually look and feel like, and how do leaders and teams create it with intent, not luck?In this episode we unpack the ingredients of culture, from values and beliefs through to everyday attitudes and behaviours. We explore the power of “culture architects” (the often-unsung people who shape the vibe), why stories shift beliefs more than posters on a wall, and what we can still learn from the legendary Fish Philosophy.Expect practical insights on:Why articulating culture in simple, human terms matters.How frontline experiences mirror leadership behaviours.The role of language, stories, and everyday choices in shaping culture.Whether you’re leading a global team, part of a micro-culture in a department, or simply reflecting on “the way things are done around here,” this episode will inspire you to be intentional about the culture you’re part of—and the story you’re helping to tell.

Send us Fan MailIn the final of our four-part mini-series on setting up next-gen talent, we explore what it really means to “send the elevator back down.” We unpack the mindset shift from “prove myself” to “create space for others,” and why apprenticeships aren’t just for 19-year-olds: career-changers and “old learners” are in the mix too. We share practical ways team leaders can balance stretch with nurture, invite newer voices into the room, and leave a legacy that you are proud of.In this episode, we cover:Stage, not age: Apprenticeships span first-jobbers to mid-career pivots—see the person before the label.Coach first, manager second: How to scaffold learning without overwhelming; build in feedback loops that stick.Share the mic: Spot moments to pass the spotlight and help apprentices land early wins.EQ in action: Why generosity, humility and self-awareness turn experience into impact.Listen if you are: onboarding apprentices, leading hybrid teams, or ready to swap solo heroics for collective lift.Try this this week: In your next meeting, intentionally bring in one apprentice (or newer voice). Offer a clear entry point (“I know you’ve been exploring X,  would you share your take?”) and follow up with two questions: What worked? What would you do differently next time?

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we dive into one of the trickiest and most important leadership skills: giving (and receiving) feedback in today’s workplace. From first hand transatlantic insights, to the realities of mental health at work, we explore what it really takes to create a culture where feedback fuels growth rather than fear.We discuss:Generational differences — why feedback lands so differently across age groups, and what leaders can do about it.Clarity and growth mindset — using language that motivates rather than deflates.Receiving feedback well — how to model openness and set the tone for your team.Mental health and support — recognising when feedback needs to be paired with compassion and care.Whether you’re leading a Gen Z-heavy team, supporting experienced colleagues through change, or simply wanting to sharpen your own feedback muscles, this episode offers practical tips, honest reflections, and a reminder that feedback is a two-way street.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode we explore how to set the next generation up for success at work — and what that means for leaders, managers, and colleagues today. We are joined by the brilliant Katharine Allan who is passionate about bridging the gap between intergenerational norms to create successful and flourishing cultures. We’ll dive into:Expectations — how to be clear, fair, and flexible without lowering the bar.Etiquette — the small everyday behaviours that build respect across generations.Role models — why what you do matters more than what you say when it comes to leading new talent.Whether you’re welcoming Gen Z into your team, navigating different workplace styles, or reflecting on how to retain great people, this episode is about building bridges, not barriers.Practical tips, honest reflections, and a reminder that every generation has something to teach — and something to learn.Katharine can be contacted via LinkedIn and details of her charity Campus to Campus can be found here

Send us Fan MailWelcome to our latest 4-part mini-series exploring what it really means to set up the next generation for success in the workplace.We look at the core foundations that help people thrive at work, from building confidence and emotional intelligence, to role-modelling healthy behaviours and setting clear boundaries. In this episode we discuss how today’s world of constant technology, hybrid working, and ever-present “little eyes and ears” at home has changed what it means to learn, lead and grow.We explore:Why role-modelling values like integrity, respect and curiosity matters more than ever.How to create a safe space for learning and mistakes – without judgement.The impact of home-working on what the next generation sees (and hears!) about “work.”Practical actions we can all take to instil confidence, emotional literacy, and resilience in those around us.A useful listen for anyone supporting early-career talent, mentoring younger colleagues, or simply reflecting on the responsibility we all have to pass on sustainable working skills.

Send us Fan MailIn this final episode in our 5-part mini-series Apply SPF (Self-Preservation Focus) we explore practical ways to reset our confidence and self-belief. Taking a moment to refresh and enhance our sense of self in and out of the workplace. • What3Words exercise helps pinpoint where you are mentally and emotionally right now; follow with Start/Stop/Continue reflection to make empowered changes• Adopt a growth mindset like a fox rather than a fixed mindset like a panda; reframe "being bad" at something as simply "not practiced yet"• Understand the learning journey from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence; practice makes permanent - most skills become comfortable after doing them three timesWe also share our daily GAIL practice which is a great way to take a 2 min end of day reflection as you brush your teeth at night. A useful listen for those wanting content ideas for themselves or others - as a reminder to look after yourself (as you're the only you!).This episode is dedicated to all the self-doubters out there x

Send us Fan MailIn this fourth episode in our Apply SPF (Self-Preservation Focus) we explore 3  powerful mental frameworks to help you rehearse for success rather than ruminate on problems. Always fascinating to learn from different professions, we focus on techniques derived from fighter pilots and air traffic controllers.• The OODA loop framework (Observe, Orientate, Decide, Act) helps maintain purposeful thinking rather than panic• Using the BRAIN tool (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing) to overcome analysis paralysis• Taking small steps forward like air traffic controllers do when facing large challenges• The importance of remembering we always have a choice in our perspectiveAn ideal listen for those wanting to maintain mental clarity during summer downtime. This episode is dedicated to all us worriers out there x

Send us Fan MailSummer often brings a different timetable and so this latest episode in our 5-part mini-series Apply SPF (Self-Preservation Focus) is about relishing those moments of downtime. Even on a standard day we are said to have 70,000 thoughts whirling around our head and sometimes its tough to just our click our fingers and relax. Our 3 practical tips include the 3 Questions to Handle Big Thoughts, Covey's Circle of Influence and the 2000 old Stoic concept of Savouring: instant feelgood moment when we recall past successes and a positive antidote to dwelling. Our call to action this week is to work out your Towards/Away From motivators: list 3 things you want more of this summer and plan them in, and 3 things you want less of this summer and plan them out.  We dedicate this episode to all the over-thinkers out there x

Send us Fan MailOur 5-part mini-series Apply SPF (Self-Preservation Focus) is full of practical tips to have the best summer possible in a way that works for you. Even if our body is on a sun lounger on a faraway gorgeous deserted island, our head might still be worrying about the inbox. This second episode is a reminder that it is ok to focus on our own needs and self-care. In fact, it makes us more able to to look after others when we are feeling well ourselves.3 practical tips include the Six Box Exercise, 21 Packets of Time concept and our very own 'Desire, Capacity, Option' 3-step conversation tool: a guilt-free way to say no to someone else so you can say yes to yourself. Our call to action this week is simple but often not easy: list your feelgood activities - do more of these; list your feelbad activities - do less of these. We dedicate this episode to all the Carers out there x

Send us Fan MailWelcome to our 5-part Apply SPF (Self-Preservation Focus) series where we start with three simple ways to stay fired up instead of burnt out this summer and beyond.• Plan your day backwards instead of forwards to stay energetic and honour your time boundaries• Reframe your language from "have to do" to "get to do" for a quick shift from victim to agent mode• Catch pessimistic thinking using Seligman's method by shifting PPP to TIEThe placebo and nocebo effects demonstrate how our thinking impacts our physical wellbeing; Summer's natural daylight and opportunity can remind us to lighten our mental approachOur call to action this week is to write a list of all your amazing attributes, what makes you Hot Stuff and to remember that: you matter! We dedicate this episode to all the Doers out there x

Send us Fan MailIn this final episode of our Friendships at Work mini-series, we’re joined by the brilliant Tash Costa-Thomas. Diversity consultant, LGBTQIA+ activist, and former performer, we explore how authentic relationships can transform the way we work, lead, and belong.Tash shares how her early days on cruise ships (yes, sharing a cabin for nine months!) taught her the power of vulnerability and instant connection,  something that’s often missing in buttoned-up corporate spaces. Together we explore how trust is built through shared challenges, not just shared job titles, and why the strongest workplace friendships often outlive job roles and restructures.We dive into the evolution of Pride at work, the realities of queer parenting in policy-light workplaces, and why middle managers carry a heavy burden when it comes to inclusion. Tash’s powerful message? Your differences are your superpower, and it’s often the smallest gestures of human connection that create the biggest shifts in culture.Whether you’re building a team, navigating change, or just feeling a little out of place, this episode is a heartfelt reminder that pulling together, not powering through, is what really creates collaboration.

Send us Fan MailIn the third episode of our Friendships at Work series, we’re joined by the brilliant Abigail Wilmore — founder of People Flow and former HR leader in the luxury fashion world (think Stella mccartney and Tom Ford). We explore how friendship, connection, and human-first design are reshaping the future of work — not just for employees, but for the HR professionals supporting them.Abi shares her journey from corporate burnout to creating the People Flow Community — a beautiful, nourishing space for HR professionals to reflect, recharge, and speak openly without masks. It’s a timely reminder that friendships at work don’t always look like pub trips and whatsapp chats;  sometimes, they’re built on safety, shared purpose, and the quiet relief of not having to perform.We unpack how meaningful connection fuels culture, wellbeing, and resilience — especially in high-pressure roles. Its about putting people before policy; how friendship, flow & self-care is redefining HR.Abi also offers practical ways for leaders and HR teams to reimagine the future of people strategy, from monthly self-audits to embedding belonging into everyday business.Whether you're in HR, leading a team, or reflecting on your own friendships at work — this episode will inspire you to prioritise connection and rethink what people-first leadership really means.As Abi says: "You can’t pour from an empty cup — especially when you're the one holding space for everyone else. HR needs friendship too."You can connect with Abigail Wilmore via her LinkedIn profileFind out more about People Flow here

Send us Fan MailIn the second episode of our Friendships at Work series, we’re joined by Karl Allcoat, a senior leader in construction and architecture, to explore what it really takes to create belonging — especially for those who may not see themselves represented in the majority.Whether it’s being LGBTQ+, neurodivergent, or simply feeling like an outsider in a workplace culture, Karl shares his lived experience and practical insights on building inclusive environments that honour difference, encourage curiosity, and nurture connection. We dive into the idea of “finding your people” at work — and what leaders and colleagues can do to help make that possible.We unpack tools like Spoon Theory to explore how energy, sensory load, and different processing needs affect how people show up, engage, and interact. It’s a rich conversation about learning to meet others where they are, challenging assumptions (including our own), and choosing to lead with openness rather than certainty.This episode is a must-listen for anyone wanting to foster real belonging — not through token gestures, but through everyday choices that invite people to be seen, heard, and valued.Expect fresh perspectives, personal truths, and a coaching lens on how to build workplaces where everyone has a place.

Send us Fan MailDo you have a work BFF? In this first episode of our 4-part Friendships at Work series, we dig into the surprisingly powerful impact of having friends on the job — and why it’s about more than just sharing a coffee or a lunchtime laugh. Think about any big life event — a wedding, a milestone birthday — and chances are, a current or former colleague is on the guest list. Rather than a nice to have, we explore why friendships are a need to have for sustaining engagement, well-being, and long-term success at work — recognising that friendships come in all shapes, sizes, and strengths.Backed by Gallup’s landmark research, we unpack how having a best friend at work (Q10 on their famous Q12 survey) correlates directly with higher engagement, lower turnover, safer workplaces, and greater profitability. From fewer accidents to stronger morale and better customer service, it turns out that being friendly pays off — both in short-term outcomes and those career-long magic moments we treasure, especially when we collect lifelong friends among our ex-colleagues.We share real-world stories where workplace friendships have helped teams thrive — and explore the cultural barriers that can get in the way. It’s not about forcing connection, but about fostering an environment where genuine, trusting relationships can naturally flourish.Full of practical insights, coaching takeaways, and our signature reflections on the secret to being more human at work; this is a useful listen for anyone looking to lift team morale, build a stronger culture, or lead with a more connected mindset.

Send us Fan MailIn our special bonus episode, we reflect on the powerful conversations shared throughout our Taking Pride series—bringing together the key themes, insights, and practical takeaways from our four incredible guests.From understanding the evolving language of gender identity to the importance of authentic allyship, cultural sensitivity, and courageous leadership, we revisit the moments that truly moved us—and the lessons we hope to carry forward in our work and lives.Whether it was Steph’s reminder to lead with curiosity, Olly’s story of self-definition, Sophie’s call to show up for others, or Bhavna’s wisdom around mindset and multicultural identity—each episode added depth to our understanding of what everyday Pride really looks like.This wrap-up episode is all about celebrating progress, acknowledging the work still to do, and encouraging you to stay open, ask questions, and keep the conversation going—365 days a year. Its not just about the badge or the lanyard - its about showing up as a human being and for many, our workplaces are our second homes and our colleagues our families. Join us on Instagram @secretsfromacoach to share your biggest ‘aha’ moments and the little compassionate moments you’re inspired to make.

Send us Fan MailIn the fourth episode of our Taking Pride series where we hear from different community perspectives, we’re joined by the inspiring Bhavna Raithatha—also known as the Mindset Ninja—for a powerful conversation about Pride, resilience, and the layered experiences of cultural identity.Bhavna shares her personal journey of overcoming trauma, navigating bullying, and embracing her 'tri-cultural' identity with grace and grit. With warmth and wisdom, she unpacks the emotional toll of societal expectations, the pressure of representation, and the deep need for community support in finding a sense of belonging.Through honest reflections and thought-provoking insights, Bhavna highlights how mindset, collaboration, and empathy are vital tools for personal and professional growth. We explore how leaders can show up with courage, practice authentic allyship, and create safer spaces where people feel seen, supported, and free to be themselves.This episode is an invitation to explore the richness of cultural education, the strength of self-exploration, and the importance of embracing our whole selves—especially during Pride and beyond. As Bhavna says: Lay down your fear. Do it Scared. Join the conversation on Instagram @secretsfromacoach and share what helps you stay grounded, open, and inclusive on your own journey.You can connect with Bhavna via her LinkedIn profile and here is a link to her book Driven: The Audacity to Thrive. Navigating and Redefining Wellbeing in Your Business and Life 

Send us Fan MailIn the third episode of our Taking Pride series, we explore the vital role of allyship in creating safe, respectful spaces for LGBTQIA+ colleagues—especially those who may be vulnerable or marginalised.We’re joined by the courageous and articulate Sophie, who shares deeply personal stories of moments where a lack of allyship turned already challenging experiences into something far more painful. Her reflections highlight why recognising, respecting, and celebrating differences isn’t just nice to have—it’s essential.This episode is a call to action for all of us to notice when support is needed and to have the courage to stand by someone or call others in with compassion and clarity.Have you ever stepped up as an ally or witnessed a powerful moment of support? Share your ‘ally moments’ with us on Instagram @secretsfromacoach and help amplify the power of everyday solidarity.

Send us Fan MailIn the second episode of our Taking Pride series, we explore the evolving language around gender identity and how greater understanding can lead to everyday moments of inclusion.We’re joined by the thoughtful and engaging Olly Cooper, who shares his lived experience of identifying as a Demi-Boy and what that means in practice—offering a personal perspective that brings clarity and depth to a term many are still learning about.This episode invites listeners to reflect on their own learning journeys and to approach gender terminology with calm curiosity rather than fear of getting it wrong. We discuss how open-minded conversations and small shifts in language can create space for everyone to feel seen and respected.Have you had an “aha—I get it now” moment around gender identity or language? Share it with us on Instagram @secretsfromacoach to inspire others and grow a culture of learning and inclusion.

Send us Fan MailIn the first episode of our special 5-part Secrets From a Coach series for Pride Month, we’re joined by the insightful Steph Constantinides to explore how inclusion can become part of everyday workplace experiences.Steph shares personal reflections on what it means to navigate work environments where even the simplest introductions can involve careful risk assessments about self-disclosure. She invites us to consider how small actions—like welcoming a new colleague with warm curiosity instead of invasive questioning—can foster genuine belonging.With calm wisdom and practical insight, Steph helps us understand the moments that can transform a workplace into a safe and affirming space. Her stories highlight the power of empathy, reassurance, and intentional connection.Join the conversation on Instagram @secretsfromacoach, where we’re inviting listeners to share their own ‘creating safe moments’ stories.

Send us Fan MailIn this energising episode, we shine a light on the darker corners of workplace culture—the ones that feel more like the Death Star than a thriving Rebel base. Whether it's low morale, reactive behaviours, silent tension, or full-blown conflict, these dynamics can quietly sabotage performance, collaboration, and wellbeing. We share practical ways to swap out Storm Trooper compliance for Super Trouper energy.We explore how to recognise the early warning signs that a culture needs a reset—the small 'whispers' in a team that often go unheard until it’s too late. You'll hear practical tools for addressing toxic undercurrents, mediating conflict with confidence, and guiding teams back toward trust, connection, and future-focused thinking.This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to shift their organisation from drained and divided to hopeful and high-performing. Because even the most entrenched Death Star dynamics can be dismantled—with the right insight, intention, and just a touch of Rebel spirit.

Send us Fan MailIn our latest episode where we take the wisdom from Star Wars and apply to our world of work - and in this one we’re joining the Rebel Alliance to rethink how we approach performance appraisal systems. Joined by HR leader Kerri Fionda-Brookes, she inspires us to channel the Rebels: united with a shared purpose—despite different skills, styles, and backgrounds. We explore how performance reviews can become more human, empowering, and fit for the modern workplace.We dive into:Why traditional appraisal systems often miss the markHow to create a feedback culture rooted in trust and shared goalsWhat emotional intelligence and team alignment can do for ongoing performanceBecause when people feel seen, heard, and part of something bigger, they don’t just comply—they commit.