The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-parenting podcast, Brooke Olsen and Bryan Power discuss how breakups can serve as catalysts for personal growth and healthier relationships. They delve into attachment theory, exploring how different attachment styles impact relationships and parenting. Bryan shares his personal journey through a challenging breakup and the insights he gained about attachment styles, emotional safety, and the importance of self-reflection. The conversation emphasizes the significance of understanding one's own attachment style, the role of communication and boundaries in relationships, and the transformative power of doing the work necessary for healing and growth. Bryan introduces the six pillars of integrated attachment theory, providing listeners with practical tools to foster healthier relationships and create a secure environment for their children. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to embrace breakups as opportunities for self-discovery and improvement, highlighting that knowledge becomes powerful only when applied in real life.If you're ready for structure instead of chaos,go to https://disengage.highconflict.net/next-stepand take the next step. We’ll guide you from there.For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our  website to register. https://www.highconflict.net/Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://disengage.highconflict.net/free-bookletJoin our mailing list: https://disengage.highconflict.net/emailsDisengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time

SummaryIn this episode of the High Conflict Co-parenting Podcast, host Brooke Olsen speaks with Dr. Alissa Jerud about her book, Emotion Savvy Parenting. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation for parents, the role of somatic awareness, and the need for connection with children. Dr. Jerud introduces her ART framework (Acceptance, Regulation, Tolerance) and the CARE skills for managing intense emotions. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mindfulness and awareness in parenting, especially in high-conflict situations, and how these skills can foster resilience in children.If you're ready for structure instead of chaos,go to https://disengage.highconflict.net/next-stepand take the next step. We’ll guide you from there.For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our  website to register. https://www.highconflict.net/Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://disengage.highconflict.net/free-bookletJoin our mailing list: https://disengage.highconflict.net/emailsDisengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, Brooke Olsen and Michelle Mitchell discuss the role of AI in co-parenting, emphasizing its limitations as a tool for emotional regulation and communication. They explore the relational dynamics of high conflict situations, the importance of self-reflection, and the need for nuanced understanding in co-parenting relationships. The conversation highlights the significance of processing emotions and the potential pitfalls of relying solely on technology for conflict resolution.Learn more about Michelle Mitchell:IG:  @coparentingwithmichelleLinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelledmitchell/Email:  [email protected]:  www.coparentingcoach.comIf you're ready for structure instead of chaos,go to https://disengage.highconflict.net/next-stepand take the next step. We’ll guide you from there.For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our  website to register. https://www.highconflict.net/Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://disengage.highconflict.net/free-bookletJoin our mailing list: https://disengage.highconflict.net/emailsDisengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time

In this powerful episode, Brook Olsen is joined by attorney and author Kerrie Droban Zhivago to unpack the terrifying yet often hidden reality of dealing with a partner who exhibits psychopathic traits. Drawing from her book Surviving a Psychopath, Kerrie shares hard-earned insights on how to recognize psychological abuse, protect yourself in court, and begin the long road to emotional recovery. They discuss the difference between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, how these individuals manipulate the legal system, and why disengagement—both emotionally and legally—is the key to reclaiming your life. If you've ever felt gaslit, emotionally trapped, or unsure how to co-parent with someone deeply harmful, this episode offers validation, strategy, and a way forward. Learn more about Kerrie Droban Zhivago at her website: https://kerriedroban.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes Dr. Donald Gordon, founder of the Center for Divorce Education and creator of Children in Between, to discuss how parents can reduce conflict and protect their kids during and after divorce. With decades of research and real-world experience, Dr. Gordon shares how even small shifts in communication, emotional regulation, and mindfulness can make a lasting impact on children's well-being. You'll learn how chronic conflict affects kids' brain development, how to model emotional stability, and why co-parents don't need to be perfect—just intentional. If you're navigating high-conflict parenting or want to break generational cycles of stress and disconnection, this episode is packed with tools and hope. Learn more about Dr. Donald Gordon at his website: https://divorce-education.com/classes/children-in-between-class/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen sits down with attorney, mediator, and DivorceWave founder Tamara Rowles to explore divorce as a spiritual journey and an opportunity for self-reinvention. Together, they dive into how high-conflict separations—while painful—can also become a gateway to growth, self-awareness, and long-term peace. Tamara shares how mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and intentional disengagement can shift the entire divorce dynamic, protect your kids, and help you reclaim your power. Whether you're just entering the process or stuck in cycles of reactivity, this episode offers practical tools, insight, and a powerful reminder: healing starts from within. Learn more about Tamara Rowles at her website: https://www.divorcewave.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen is joined once again by Dr. Craig Malkin, author of Rethinking Narcissism, to explore the lesser-known counterpart to narcissism: echoism. Through the lens of Greek mythology and modern psychology, they unpack how those who fear being "too much" often find themselves entangled in toxic dynamics with narcissistic partners. Dr. Malkin explains how echoism—marked by self-silencing, people-pleasing, and a fear of taking up space—is a survival response rooted in early family systems. Together, they discuss how cultivating healthy anger, reclaiming agency, and practicing mindful disengagement can break the cycle of negative intimacy and lead to lasting change. A must-listen for anyone navigating high-conflict relationships or healing from emotionally abusive dynamics. Learn more about Dr. Craig Malkin at his website: https://www.drcraigmalkin.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook talks with conscious relationship coach Annmarie Chereso about how to break free from unconscious patterns that fuel conflict—especially in co-parenting. Annmarie shares her personal journey through divorce and how parts work and nervous system regulation helped her reclaim her power. They explore the role of self-awareness, compassion, and learning to respond from presence rather than fear. A powerful conversation for anyone looking to heal and build healthier relationships with their children—and themselves. Learn more about AnnMarie Chereso at her website: https://annmariechereso.me/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, Brook Olsen sits down with therapist and author Christian Van Norberg to explore the power of radical listening—a practice that goes beyond active listening to foster deep connection and emotional regulation. They discuss how presence, curiosity, and internal awareness can help you disengage from conflict, stay grounded, and support your children without getting pulled into drama. Whether you're navigating court stress or everyday parenting challenges, this conversation offers practical insight into staying calm and connected. Listen now and discover how radical listening can transform the way you relate to yourself, your co-parent, and your children. For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook sits down with family law attorney Kelli Avallone to unpack the tricky dynamics of covert narcissism in custody battles and high-conflict divorces. They explore why labeling a co-parent as a narcissist can backfire, how courts really view psychological evaluations, and why focusing on evidence-based behavior is more effective than diagnosis. Kelli shares what covert narcissistic traits can look like in family court and how parents can respond strategically while keeping children out of the conflict. Learn more about Kelli Avallone at her website: https://atty-avallone.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook sits down with divorce coach Kate Anthony to unpack the mindsets that truly help during divorce, especially in high-conflict co-parenting situations. They discuss why emotional reactions can backfire, how to shift from wanting "fairness" to focusing on what's legal and strategic, and the importance of boundaries and radical acceptance. With practical tips and compassionate advice, this episode is a valuable guide for anyone facing the challenges of separation. Learn more about Kate Anthony at her website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook welcomes back Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and The Codependency Revolution, to dive deeper into the concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a groundbreaking reframing of codependency. Together, they unpack how early attachment trauma shapes relationship dynamics, leading many into repeated cycles of caretaking, emotional depletion, and entanglement with narcissistic partners. Brook and Ross explore the toxic push-pull that arises in high-conflict co-parenting and divorce, where unresolved SLDD patterns often collide with personality disorders. Through the lens of disengagement and strategic self-awareness, they offer insight on how to stop "wrestling with pigs" and begin creating clarity, calm, and lasting change. Learn more about Ross Rosenberg at his website: https://www.selfloverecovery.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook speaks with John Riley from Gentle Response about the impact of body language in high-conflict co-parenting. They explore the ACE method—Appearance, Communication, and Engagement—and how small adjustments in posture, tone, and presence can de-escalate tense situations, whether in court, mediation, or daily interactions. Brook and John also discuss the power of self-awareness and emotional regulation in reducing conflict. By staying composed and intentional, parents can shift dynamics, model healthy behavior for their children, and create a more stable environment. Tune in for practical strategies to navigate conflict with confidence. Learn more about John Riley at his website: https://gentle-response.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook Olsen welcomes conflict engagement specialist and bestselling author Dana Caspersen to discuss how conflict can be an opportunity for growth rather than a problem to avoid. Dana shares insights from her book Conflict Is an Opportunity and explores how our mindset and belief systems shape the way we handle difficult situations. They dive into the power of shifting attention, practical tools for breaking old conflict habits, and an exercise designed to help reframe conflict dynamics. Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or everyday disagreements, this episode offers valuable strategies to engage with curiosity and create positive change. Learn more about Dana Caspersen at his website: https://www.danacaspersen.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode, Brook welcomes Karen McEnany, The Good Divorce Coach, to discuss how setting the right foundation in divorce can significantly impact long-term outcomes. Divorce inherently carries conflict, but the way we navigate the early stages—our initial conditions—can determine whether the process will be calm, moderately contentious, or high-conflict. Brook and Karen explore how parents can approach divorce not as a battle, but as a transformation—one that prioritizes family over finances, mitigates unnecessary pain, and fosters healthier co-parenting relationships. They discuss the importance of intention, emotional regulation, and recognizing the difference between what truly matters and what is simply ego or control. If you're looking for a new framework to approach divorce—one that fosters cooperation, minimizes conflict, and protects your children's well-being—this episode is for you. Enjoy! Learn more about Karen McNenny at his  website http://www.karenmcnenny.com/   For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook has guest Rich Carr author of Surprised: The Science and Art of Engagement. Rich brings a bright and engaging look at how we as humans respond or react to an outside stimulus and in understanding the workings of the various part of the brain dictate how you will engage in or disengage with that stimulus. In high conflict or for that matter any relational interaction, getting to the solution with the least amount of conflict and the optimal exploration is the goal. Rich goes into how you can install intention and preprogram action to reduce the reactivity in your system and access the parts of the brain that problem solve. Enjoy!!! Rich Carr can be reached at through his website. https://braincentricdesign.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook has esteemed guest, researcher, professor and author of the Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Steven Porges. Brook and Dr. Porges have a robust and educational conversation about how the vagus nerve influences the fear response, social connections and emotional regulations. It is important to understand the functional brain response in order to cognitively intervene for self regulation. This is an amazing conversation for anyone caught in high conflict or navigating life in general. Listen, Learn and Enjoy!!! Learn more about Dr. Porges at his  website https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook has guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Author and Co-Founder of Impact Parents. Brook and Elaine have a robust conversation about parenting a child that is  neurodivergent and the challenges that go with the behaviors with being ADHD or on the spectrum of Autism. Deep in the discussion the conversation move in the direction of generational repetition and as adults having similar diagnoses as a window into the stigma and judgment of the labels. This is a great conversation regardless of whether or not you are dealing with this issue. You may truly be surprised. Enjoy !!! Elaine can be contacted through her website at https://impactparents.com/ For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and his guests Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry from the podcast Been There Got Out discuss the notion of High Conflict Detox. This is where a person/parent is stuck deeply in the habitual cycle of conflict and the nervous system maintains a high level of chronic activation. In order to break the cycle one must endure the discomfort of disengagement, develop a self awareness of the cycle in order to break free of the strong impulse to engage in and continue the conflict. This conflict pattern is very much physiological and can be mastered. Enjoy!!! You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails And join our membership site at Disengage.highconflict.net   

In this episode Brook and his guest  Derrick Chevalier discuss in depth the interconnection between negotiation in divorce and custody and first understanding what is on the playing field and who the players are first, before setting sail in the process. Getting yourself settled and using your unique knowledge of the situation in order to knit together the solution and the proper delivery system ie: Attorney, Mediator and such. By doing so getting to the center of the issues, such as finances and custody can be a much easier path and resulting in better outcomes become more available and ultimately less costly both emotionally and financially. This is a great conversation. Enjoy!! Derrick can be contacted though his website at https://ddtpr.com/ Want to hear the full episode? Join our membership today and take advantage of our exclusive offer: your first month is completely free!  Coupon code: 30DAYSFREEACCESS For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails 

In this episode Brook and Michelle  take another deeper dive into the subject of preparing for and dealing with the stresses of the holidays. When dealing with high conflict co-parentis it is important to have an open mindset of solving the problems out front and deep understanding of how you are stuck trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Challenging your beliefs about what is important vs what solves the problem and takes the children out of the chaos isn't easy. Listen to Brook and Michelle in this episode in order to get some fresh and deeper perspective. Enjoy!!! For exclusive membership perks join our membership site the Disengagement Zone at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails  

In this episode Brook has special guest Nicola Ranson L.C.S.W. Brook and Nicola discuss the concepts of Transference and Projection as pertain to working with a coach or therapist. These are always taking place in all relationships and unconsciously affect the interaction. When working with a coach or therapist it is important the coach or therapist is trained to consciously identify it and not get entangled with but use it as an informative process to uncover deeper solutions and processes.  As a client it is important to find a coach that is seasoned and proficient so as not to collude or inappropriately direct.  Enjoy!!  You can find more on Nicola and her writing at www.nicolaranson.org Join our membership site at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this Episode Brook has as his special guest Attorney Kelli Avallone in to discuss the frustrations that clients have when dealing with their attorneys as well as those frustrations of the attorney with their clients, in high conflict custody cases. The discussion explores the topics that can cause the frustration and how using a qualified coach can go a long way in keeping both the client and the attorney on a productive path that is efficient both financially and emotionally. Enjoy!!!  You can contact Kelli at  [email protected] Join our membership site at https://disengage.highconflict.net/ Download our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony delve into the notion of how anxiety  is one of if not the main driver of conflict and at the base understanding this and learning how to navigate the terrain of ones own anxiety is the avenue toward a  high threshold of tolerance can make the difference in disengaging. The basis in the defensive response even in those with narcissism and other personality disorders can be found in navigating the internal sensation that comes with the anxiousness. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the narcissistic practice of email Carpet Bombing. This is the practice of incessantly sending repeated emails in order to hook you into an argument, to tell you are doing it wrong, to harass and demean you and to cause as much chaos as possible to get you to engage. This is an important concept to understand and to get the tools needed to navigate the barrage. Enjoy!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest Lisa Johnson from  Been There Got Out to discuss how High Conflict Personalities can drive legal abuse in the family court system and how to organize yourself to be able to go it with out an attorney. Lisa brings some good information to a scary subject.  You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and Facebook. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the struggles that come with dealing with a ex that isn't on the same page and exhibits narcissist like behaviors and how to navigate keeping the kids out of the middle of ongoing conflict. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  You Can contact and follow Michelle at these links :http://www.coachmichelle.club/ instagram is CoachMichelleSD  https://www.coachmichelle.club/ join-our-newsletter Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

In this episode Brook Olsen and Kelli Avallone Join the Talking Parents team on their Co-Parenting and Coffee webinar to discuss Parallel Parenting and the use of Co-Parenting Apps. During High Conflict Co-Parenting and dealing with Narcissism and other personality disorders the use of Co-Parenting Apps like Talking Parents can be a useful tool in getting the conflict under control and tracking the conversation between parents. The use of such apps can all so help when going to court to show the level of conflict and who is in may ways causing the conflict to continue. This is a rich conversation that I think will help listeners understand the value in using these tools. Enjoy!!! You can find Talking Parents at  https://talkingparents.com › Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast Brook and Tony discuss the difference between Capacity and Competency and that building of the container ( Capacity) has to happen first and then from there Competency can build.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook speaks with Attorney Kelli Avallone about the in's and out's, Features and Down sides of teaching for "Hidden Assets". Finding Assets can be difficult and deciding to do so should be a "Return On Investment" inquiry. Enjoy!!!! You can reach Kelli at [email protected] Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconfhttps://www.highconflict.net/lict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook speaks with guest Forest Bronzon from Digital Detox. Forest is the CEO of Digital Detox whose goal and purpose is to educate parents, schools and children in the differing ways to use the digital environment in a healthy and connected manner. During divorce and high conflict custody battles it is often hard to navigate boundaries regarding electronics  and rules are often different and opposite in each house. Forest discuss some of the ways to help children and parents navigate the ever evolving landscape of the digital world. Digital Detox offers many resources to help. Enjoy!!! https://www.digitaldetox.com/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook has special guest David Forrestall CEO of SecurIT360 to talk about how to best secure you and you children from the ability of your Ex or for that matter anyone else from being able to track/cyberstalk. Mr. Forrestall give practical and useable information on securing you devices, social media, cloud based storage and applications. Also in the notes below he has provided links to a video he produced with the Cyber help line that will help guide you through many of the processes. Thanks for your continued listenership. You are the reason we continue to provide you with these podcasts.  https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/ Their Guides for help - https://www.thecyberhelpline.com/guides-2 https://www.securit360.com/the-cyber-helpline/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Get our Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.  

In this episode Brook has special guest Divorce Financial Planner Justin Reckers to discuss the importance of understanding your financial future and having a professional helping you map it out. Enjoy!!! You can contact Justin Reckers at https://wellspringdivorce.com/san-diego/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/free-booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register.    

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the variety of ways we get stuck in power differential when trying to navigate financial and custody fights, both old and new. The stickiness of the battle or the lack of information, outside forces often keeps us from finding off ramps to the fight that keep the children stuck and you from moving on. There or costs and benefits to each approach and the options all need to be investigated early so you can direct the solutions. Enjoy!!!! You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony have a deep discussion about the responsibility of parents to take notice of where they get lost in the chaos of the high conflict situations the arise during divorce and custody battles and sometimes simply separation. This chaos leaves the child having to deal with the sense that no one is paying attention to their experience and they have deal with that alone. Parents need to make attuning to the child a priority and noticing where they, the parent get lost in their own chaos and narcissistic needs. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook talks about the need to periodically stop and reflect on where we have been, the journey we have traveled to this point and the mistakes and success we have experienced. This is an important part of our growth that takes us away from our own narcissism and allows us to see the world through the eyes of others and to see ourselves in a clearer light. The reflective process is also about where we have been distracted from our goals and helps us move more effectively into the future. Enjoy!!!   Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet   and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails  For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net website to register

In this episode Brook and Tony take another look at parenting and the importance of attainment with your children and the special attention that is essential to building as strong sense of self and self esteem in you kids. This Episode is directed at all parents not just those in High Conflict and not just a parallel parenting model. Please share this one with other parents you know as I think it will help wake up new thoughts in the direction you take in your parenting journey. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Please download or free booklet Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our www.highconflict.net website to register.        

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the process of conflict as it unfolds as a condition of anxiety and often a want for expediency with one or both parties. Brook and Michelle discuss how using Mind Mapping and the exploration of all aspects of the situation, (although it may take more time) and by using a coach to help get through the weeds can actually be the faster more complete way of staying out of future conflict.             You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the Blind Spots that arise from having unrealistic expectations about the other parents reactions to a given situation. These unrealistic expectations often can be expose early, prior to making critical mistakes if there is a sense making process put in place, one that uses past experiences that have been had with that parent that we have either forgotten or dismiss because we want a different outcome.You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership!Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails•exclusive podcast episodes•free masterclasses•personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists•live Q&A sessions•special discounts•meditation sessions•and fresh content every monthAll designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work."https://www.highconflict.net/booklet Join our mailing list:Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Timehttps://www.highconflict.net/emailsFor classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony take another dive into the concepts and traps of belief systems and how they lock us into conflict and are in fact the center of how conflict comes into manifestation. Understanding our own beliefs, where they originated and doing sense making is core to finding our way out of conflict. Also making space for the other persons beliefs, whether or not it makes sense is equally important to finding solutions.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net    Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the conflict mind trap the parents find themselves in when they try to look at the parenting conflicts through the lens of Fairness. The differing perspective and the cognitive dissonance of one or both of the parents involved in the conflict creates an arena of conflict because neither one of the parents sees the situation the same. I therefore becomes important to step back and evaluate what is truly important for the child and having as a part of the inquiry the notion that the continuation of the argument has a high impact on the child as well. Enjoy You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our highconflict.net website to register.

In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the need for seasonal preparedness in getting ready for the challenges that come with Spring and Summer travel, not having things in place with a good parenting plan and having a plan in place when things go wrong. Also getting ready to get the kids in place for the next school year because if court is needed you best get started now. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how children often use Emotional Blackmail and put their parents in areas of discomfort to get what the want. This is especially prevalent during parental discourse and conflict. The parent doesn't want to make the child feel uncomfortable during times of change and allow for things they might not normally. This can lead to the Child's sense of Entitlement and the development of strong narcissistic traits later in life. How parents get comfortable with the uncomfortable feelings for both themselves and their children is an important skillset to develop.Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership!Gain access to: •daily value-packed emails•exclusive podcast episodes•free masterclasses•personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists•live Q&A sessions•special discounts•meditation sessions•and fresh content every monthAll designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work."https://www.highconflict.net/booklet Join our mailing list:Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the behaviors and signs that come along with the Covert Narcissists defensive presentations. This is an extensive and interesting discussion that deserves listening to multiple times. As always this information is meant to help our listeners identify behaviors so as not to get caught in the engagement with them and not for the listener you go into judgment but a greater understanding.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails You can contact Michelle @ https://www.coachmichelle.club/ or email @ [email protected]

In this episode Brook has special author Sara Olsher to discuss the importance for parents to have special language to speak with their children about hard subject.  When children are caught in the middle of High Conflict parents they need a parent to be able to speak to them in a way that helps them navigate the unconscious behaviors of a parent that has narcissist or borderline tendencies in order to help them settle there nervous systems.     For more information you can find Sara's website https://mightyandbright.com/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the initial conditions that create the beliefs and Pseudo-solutions that develop in narcissism and borderline personalities and the codependent behaviors that entangle the high conflict triangle.  For more information about our services Please visit our web page at www.highconflict.net You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails

If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the notion of finding the prospective of replacing gratitude and wonderment from victimization and what is being done to me, in order to get the ball rolling forward toward growth and agency for the future. By doing this one moves toward being the captain of their own ship and takes on a leadership role both internally as well as in their external world. Take some time with this one and let it sink in. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails

If you are finding these podcast of value and would like to continue receiving this free content, commercial free please consider donating using the Donate button on your podcast page. Enjoy!!! In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the importance of connecting with you children and creating strong connections and secure attachment. When children experience parents that are narcissistic in nature they need a parent that can meet them and have a settled environment The process that Brook and Tony lay out in this podcast will go a long way In creating just that. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails  

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how one parents push and their high and unreasonable exceptions cause great levels of anxiety and long term conditioning for the child. Often Narcissistic personalities have unfinished personal business an overlay on the children to become what they were unable achieve on their own. You can follow Michelle on instagram @coachmichellesd. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for lawyers and therapists •live Q&A sessions •special discounts •meditation sessions •and fresh content every month All designed to help you master high-conflict co-parenting. Start your transformation today!  https://disengage.highconflict.net  Free High Conflict Diversion Program Booklet: "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work." https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  Join our mailing list: Disengage and Thrive: One Email at a Time  https://www.highconflict.net/emails