The Role Model You Never Had with Jess Tiana

Everyone tells you to just move on. Nobody tells you how.In this episode I share the exact process I used to detach from toxic relationships - including the tool that will make you laugh but actually works. The obsessive checking, the not blocking, the posting so they'd see your life - I've been there. And I built a system to get out of the loop.If you've ever found yourself stuck in a pattern you couldn't break after someone hurt you - this one is for you.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

If you've ever laid awake at night replaying conversations with someone who hurt you, convinced yourself it was somehow your fault, or felt like your brain just wouldn't turn off - this episode is for you.I'm sharing what obsessive thoughts actually felt like for me after betrayal and gaslighting, why your brain does this, and the thought containment framework I developed to get through it.This is not about stopping the thoughts. It's about learning to contain them so they stop running your life.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

You've tried everything. The programs, the plans, the cutting back. And something keeps not changing.In this episode I break down the real reason most women plateau and why working harder is often the exact wrong answer. We cover metabolic adaptation, what your body actually needs to change, the difference between fat loss and weight loss, and why having the right support changes everything.If you've been doing all the right things and still feel stuck - this one explains why.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

I used to have severe social anxiety. I couldn’t get on a city bus alone.Then after leaving an abusive relationship, the panic attacks came back harder than ever.In this episode I share what actually worked - including the five step framework I developed from my own experience and years of crisis work. The Calm Code.If anxiety has ever derailed your whole day - this one is for you.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

You keep repeating patterns you fully understand. You know why you do what you do and you still can't stop. This is not a willpower problem. This is your nervous system.In this episode I break down what your nervous system actually is, the four survival responses that run automatically beneath your awareness, the window of tolerance and what happens when you're pushed outside it, and what regulation actually feels like in your body.I also introduce the Tree Model - the nervous system mapping framework I developed for clients - and talk about why awareness is always the first step before anything can change.If you've ever wondered why healing takes so long even when you're doing all the work - this one is for you.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

This episode is the conversation nobody is having openly.I'm talking about what happens when you learn to use your body for validation. The posting for an ex hoping he sees what he lost. The checking story views for certain names. The inability to say no when your body has been treated as public property your whole life.This is about reclaiming your body as yours. Learning that no is a complete sentence. And understanding that you are worth more than what you look like and what you're willing to give people access to.If you've ever felt reduced to your body - this one is for you.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

This episode is personal.I'm talking about body image - where mine came from, what it actually looked like day to day, and how I healed it. Not through toxic positivity or learning to love myself overnight. Through understanding my body, shifting from appearance to performance, and finally choosing myself.I also address something nobody wants to say out loud - wanting to change your body is not the same as hating it. And the body you see on stage is not the body you should be chasing in real life.If you've ever stood in front of the mirror and felt at war with what you saw — this one is for you.Please note: this episode touches on personal experiences with body image and disordered eating patterns. If you are currently struggling, support is available through the National Alliance for Eating Disorders at 1-866-662-1235.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

Your gut and your nervous system are more connected than you think.In this episode we're going deep on the gut-brain axis - what it actually is, why chronic stress destroys your digestion, and why the bloating, IBS symptoms, and food sensitivities you've been dealing with might not be what you think they are.We also talk about why your supplements probably aren't working and what people did for generations before the supplement industry told us we needed a pill for everything.Plus five practical tools you can use this week to start supporting your gut and your nervous system at the same time.This one is educational, practical, and might change the way you think about your body entirely.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMi Follow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

This is the episode you asked for.In this episode I'm sharing the full story of how I healed my relationship with food - from a little girl hiding food in her room, to restriction, to the binge and restrict cycle, to finally understanding what my body actually needed and feeling free around food.I'm walking you through exactly what I did. Not a "love yourself and eat intuitively" answer. A real, practical, step by step process that actually worked.We cover tracking as awareness not control, why running healed my fear of carbs, how simplicity became my strategy, and why building a sweet treat into your plan every night changed everything.Please note: This episode discusses a personal history of disordered eating. If you are currently struggling with an eating disorder, please seek support from a qualified professional. This episode shares my personal journey and is not intended as medical or clinical advice.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

Last episode I talked about the friends who let your fire die.This time I want to talk about the ones who kept it alive.I'm sharing two friendships that taught me what nervous system safe connection actually feels like - and why so many of us don't even know what we're looking for because we've never experienced it.If you've ever wondered what it feels like to truly feel safe around another person - this one is for you.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

I blocked my entire friend group in one day.In this episode I'm sharing the full story - why I did it, what led me there, and the framework I now use to evaluate every relationship in my life so I can build something that's actually aligned with who I'm becoming.If you've ever stayed in a friendship long past the point you should have left because you were scared of being alone or losing the history - this one is for you.*This episode contains references to sexual assault. Please listen with care.*Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_

You know that feeling when someone asks you for something and every part of you wants to say no - but yes comes out anyway? That's not a character flaw. That's a nervous system that learned your needs don't matter.In this episode I'm sharing the real reason saying no feels impossible - and giving you my 3 C's framework to finally start setting boundaries without the guilt spiral that usually follows.We're covering:Why the inability to say no is a nervous system response, not a personality flawThe self-abandonment cycle and how it keeps you stuckClarity - how to get clear on what you actually needConsistency - how to practice before you get triggeredContainment - how to regulate your nervous system when the guilt hits afterYour homework this week: find one small low-stakes no and use the framework.Your body is the foundation of your healing. This is where we start.Apply for 1:1 coaching: https://77z9uh9ts6v.typeform.com/to/p3IrXlMiFollow on Instagram: @jessica_tiana_