Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

You have been working on your confidence — praying, pushing through, doing the inner work. And some days you feel great. Other days...lower than ever. In this episode I'm talking about the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem is tied to what is happening around you and will always fluctuate. Self-worth is the God-given value you carry simply because of who made you...and no smear campaign, no gaslighting, no person's opinion can touch what He declared over you. I dive into how narcissistic abuse specifically moves your worth from the inside to the outside without you realising it and five ways to recognise if your worth is still tied to external things. If you are healing from narcissistic abuse, rebuilding your self-worth and tired of feeling stuck — this episode is going to give you something solid to stand on.   Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop Happening on Tuesday, May 26 at 7 PM ET → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

You would probably say you trust God. And you mean it. But if you are honest, there is a version of you that is also constantly trying to figure things out, manage outcomes, and hold everything together — and you are not always sure how those two things coexist. In this episode we get into one of the most honest conversations about what it actually means to trust God after covert narcissistic abuse and why the gap between saying it and living it is not a faith failure. It is a survival response. The narcissist used control as a weapon. You grabbed it as a shield. And that made complete sense. But healing from covert narcissistic abuse means learning to release that shield so that you can finally allow God to do what only He can do. Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Have you been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse by managing your emotions, pushing through the anxiety or just trying to think more positively but you still feel stuck in the same emotionally exhausted cycle? You are not doing it wrong. You have just been working on the wrong thing. In this episode we are getting to the root of why healing from narcissistic abuse feels so hard and it starts with understanding what covert narcissistic abuse actually did to your thinking. The words, the silence, the subtle put-downs, the gaslighting — those were seeds planted in your mind over time that grew into quiet beliefs that are running your life today. Beliefs like I am too much, I can't trust myself, something is wrong with me. And as long as we keep trying to fix the feelings those beliefs produce without addressing the beliefs themselves, we stay stuck in the same loop. In this episode I break down how thoughts influence feelings, why managing feelings without addressing the root keeps you in a cycle and a simple practical place to begin tracing your feelings back to the beliefs underneath them. If healing and restoring your self-worth are what you are after, this episode is for you. And if you are ready to go even deeper, join me live on Tuesday, May 26 at 7PM EDT Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Resources Mentioned → Center for Common Sense Psychology   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but wondering why it is taking so long? If you have been praying, doing the work and still feel like healing is moving at a pace that makes no sense, this episode is for you. Healing from narcissistic abuse is not slow because something is wrong with you. It is slow because what was done to you ran deep. The abuse rewired the way you think, the way you trust, the way you see yourself...and that kind of damage takes real time to undo. In this episode, I get honest about the frustration of the wait and what God is actually doing underneath the surface while you are in it. I'm taking a closer look at Isaiah 40:31 and what the original Hebrew reveals about waiting on God — and it is nothing like what most of us were taught. I'm also talking about the exchange God makes with you in the waiting season and why the strength and peace that sometimes shows up in your hardest moments is not something you manufactured. If you are somewhere in the healing journey — whether you are just starting, hitting walls, or feeling like you are so close but not quite there, this episode will remind you that you are not behind, you are not doing it wrong and God has not forgotten you. And if you are ready to go even deeper, I would love for you to join me live at my free Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse workshop on Tuesday, May 26 : Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Tired of setting a boundary and then sitting there wondering if you just made everything worse? Confused when they don’t explode but something still feels off? Ever notice how the moment you hold your ground, the energy shifts… and you can’t quite explain why? 🤔 In this episode, I'm talking about what actually happens when you set boundaries with a covert narcissist so you can stay grounded in your healing journey. If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself after doing something healthy… this is going to help you see clearly again. Because their reaction? It’s not proof you did something wrong. It’s often proof your boundaries are working.   Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Have you ever set a boundary… and then immediately felt guilty for it? Do you find yourself apologizing after protecting your time, energy, or peace? Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you were the problem even when you know something wasn’t right? In this episode, I’m breaking down three specific guilt tactics narcissists use to make you question your boundaries and hand control back to them. This episode will help you recognize when guilt is being triggered on purpose so you can stop carrying what was never yours. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel like you're being mean every time you set a boundary? Do you second-guess yourself after saying no even when you know you needed to? Do you feel guilty for protecting your peace, like you're the one doing something wrong? In this episode, I’m sharing why setting boundaries feels “mean” after narcissistic abuse so you can understand what’s actually happening and stop letting guilt pull you back into patterns that keep you stuck. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty every time you set a boundary? Like maybe you’re not being a “good Christian”… not loving enough… not forgiving enough? Do you second-guess yourself when you protect your peace or stop explaining yourself to a narcissist? In this episode, I’m sharing two Bible verses that give you permission to set boundaries so you can stop questioning yourself and start protecting what God told you to protect. If you’ve ever felt torn between your faith and your healing—especially after narcissistic abuse—this episode will shift how you see boundaries, obedience, and what God actually requires of you. Because you’re not being un-Christian… you may have just been taught wrong.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Does your body feel like it’s constantly on edge—bracing for the next violation of your space? Have you ever felt like your relationship with God was being interrupted, controlled, or quietly pulled away from you? Are you trying to heal but something still feels off, unsafe, or unsettled? In this episode, I’m finishing the conversation on the three boundaries every Christian woman needs when healing from narcissistic abuse so you can finally create real safety—not just cope. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, on edge or spiritually off, this episode will help you understand why and what needs to shift.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you rush to fix everyone’s bad moods? Do you feel responsible when someone gets upset, even when you did nothing wrong? Are you exhausted from managing other people’s emotions while your own get pushed to the side? In this episode, I’m starting a conversation about three boundaries every Christian woman needs when healing from narcissistic abuse. If you’ve been conditioned to believe someone else’s emotions are your responsibility, this episode will help you see why that pattern forms and why learning to step back is essential for your healing.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel like no matter what you say, they twist your words, start arguments, or create drama? Are you forced to deal with them and need a way to protect your peace without getting pulled into their chaos? In this episode, I’m talking about the grey rock method and how to use it to protect your emotional energy when you have to interact with a narcissist. This episode will help you set boundaries with a narcissist, stop reacting to manipulation, and protect your peace when no contact isn’t possible.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty every time you try to set a boundary? Do you find yourself managing other people’s emotions, thinking that’s what love requires? In this episode, I’m sharing the difference between what’s yours and what’s theirs in relationships so you can stop carrying other people’s emotions and set boundaries without guilt. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you keep finding yourself in the same exhausting dynamics with different people? Different faces, different situations—but the same resentment, over-functioning, and emotional burnout? In this episode, I’m sharing why that pattern keeps repeating after narcissistic abuse and how boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re the foundation you need to finally build something different. This episode will help you see where you’ve been recreating what’s familiar, and understand why healthy feels “wrong” at first, so you can take the first step toward breaking patterns that no longer serve your healing. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty when you’re not always available? Do you worry that setting boundaries means being cold, selfish, or unloving? Are you exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions, problems, and expectations while your own healing gets pushed to the side? In this episode, I’m sharing what boundaries actually are and why they are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, so you can stop carrying what was never yours, reclaim your energy, and begin rebuilding your life on solid ground.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty every time you try to say no? Do you find yourself saying yes out of fear—fear of being seen as unloving, difficult, or not “Christlike” enough? Are you exhausted from being nice while your peace slowly disappears? In this episode, I’m sharing why niceness and holiness are not the same thing so you can stop people-pleasing, release guilt around setting boundaries and begin stewarding your life in a way that protects your peace and honors God’s design.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just hitting the ceiling? Does God feel distant lately even though you’re still reading, praying, and trying? Do you secretly wonder if His silence means you did something wrong? After narcissistic abuse, spiritual disconnection can feel deeply personal. You may start wondering if God is disappointed in you, if you did something wrong or if His silence means He stepped back. In this episode, I share a vulnerable moment when I felt that exact way — angry, confused, and convinced God was choosing not to respond.  I'm sharing 3 simple, healing tips that calm your body, quiet the internal noise, and make space to notice where God is already showing up. If you’ve been asking, “Why can’t I feel God anymore?” or “Has God gone silent on me?”, this episode will remind you that He is still close to the brokenhearted — even when you can’t sense Him.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever thought you were doing “better”… only to be blindsided by anger, grief, or resentment out of nowhere? Do you feel confused or ashamed when something still hurts? Have you ever wondered, “Why am I still affected by this if I’m healing?” In this episode, I’m unpacking why “moving on” after narcissistic abuse  isn’t really healing. I’ll talk about the pressure to get over it, why your body doesn’t let you skip grief, and what real healing actually looks like when emotions keep resurfacing.  Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you avoid making decisions because you’re afraid God hasn’t spoken clearly enough? Do you call it “waiting on God,” but feel stuck and unsure how to move forward? Do you worry that trusting your judgment means you’re not trusting God? In this episode, I’m sharing how God actually designed decision-making to work—and why faith doesn’t require fear, paralysis, or perfect certainty. We’ll look at biblical discernment, why abuse disrupts trust in your God-given faculties, and how to make God-led decisions with confidence instead of staying stuck. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you second-guess even simple decisions after narcissistic abuse? Do you feel anxious or frozen when you have to choose—worried you’ll get it wrong again? Do you know you’re capable, but don’t feel safe trusting yourself? In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making feels so hard after narcissistic abuse and how to rebuild self-trust without overthinking. You’ll learn the three internal anchors that restore clarity and confidence—so decisions stop feeling paralyzing and start feeling steady again, even when fear is still present. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever sense something but immediately question if you’re just making it up? Do you struggle to trust your inner knowing or spiritual discernment? Feel like you can’t tell the difference between God’s voice and your own thoughts? In this episode, I'm exploring why discernment feels so shaky after abuse and how God’s leading differs from manipulation. I'm also sharing three practical ways to strengthen discernment after narcissistic abuse to rebuild trust in the place where God often speaks — your inner knowing.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

  Ever feel like you believe God is good — but you’re afraid to depend on Him again? Do you trust God in theory, but struggle to trust Him emotionally after betrayal? Find yourself always bracing for disappointment instead of expecting faithfulness? In this episode, I’m unpacking why trusting God after betrayal isn’t a faith issue and how real trust is rebuilt after emotional trauma and narcissistic abuse. Related Episode: Episode 12: A 5-Minute Reset to Heal Your Nervous System Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever known what the right thing to do was — but still felt afraid of how someone else would react? Do you find yourself shrinking, explaining, or hesitating even after learning about boundaries? Do you feel anxious when you think someone might be disappointed with you? In this episode, I’m unpacking why people-pleasing continues for women healing from covert narcissistic abuse. People-pleasing isn’t kindness, humility, or love — it’s fear-based self-protection that develops when safety and worth feel conditional. This episode explores how narcissistic abuse disconnects women from their voice, discernment, and identity, and why people-pleasing becomes automatic even after the relationship ends. Through a personal story and biblical truth, we shift the focus from behavior to identity in Christ — learning how living from identity, rather than for approval, restores clarity, peace, and emotional steadiness. This episode is about healing at the identity level, not trying harder to stop people-pleasing.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel pressure to keep everything together just to feel okay about yourself? Do you feel guilty when you rest, need help, or can’t hold it all together? Do you notice your confidence drop the moment you feel like you’ve disappointed someone? In this episode, I’m uncovering the quiet lie that slowly destroys self-worth, especially after covert narcissistic abuse. This episode breaks down how that belief forms in emotionally unsafe relationships, how it affects confidence, healing, and discernment, and why it keeps women stuck in over-functioning and self-doubt. You’ll also hear the deeper truth that restores stability from the inside out. This episode is for women healing from narcissistic abuse who want to rebuild self-worth, emotional steadiness, and confidence without striving or self-abandonment.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you wonder if your past makes God keep His distance from you? Do you assume God avoids your story because it’s complicated? Have you been hiding parts of your life — even from God? In this episode, I'm looking at the story of the Woman at the Well in a way that feels real and relatable especially if you’ve been carrying shame after abuse. If you’ve ever felt like your past disqualifies you from hearing God, this episode will help you see why that’s not true — and what changes when shame stops filtering everything you hear. Related Episodes: Episode 13: Why You Still Can’t Hear God Clearly After Narcissistic Abuse (It’s Not Your Faith)   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Feel like hearing God became harder after narcissistic abuse? Ever wonder if God is silent because you did something wrong? Do you question whether what you’re sensing is really God — or just you? In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked reasons hearing God feels difficult after covert narcissistic abuse: shame. I share how shame quietly forms through abuse, how it distorts spiritual clarity, and why struggling to hear God doesn’t mean your faith is broken. This episode will help you understand what’s really happening internally. I pray this episode gives you clarity and blesses you.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.    

Do you ever have days where your body just will not calm down? Your heart is racing for no reason, you feel jumpy, your thoughts won't slow down, and your whole body feels tense and anxious? In this episode, I’m walking you through a simple, five-minute nature-based reset designed to help calm your nervous system and signal safety to your body after narcissistic abuse. I talk about why your body can still feel unsafe long after the danger is gone, how God designed nature to help regulate your nervous system, and a gentle, practical reset you can do anywhere to help your mind come back to the present and your body begin to relax. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel like a shell of yourself — like you're there, but you're not really there? Are you exhausted all the time, struggling with brain fog, or feeling emotionally numb? Have you been wondering why simple decisions feel so impossible? In this episode, I'm breaking down why narcissistic abuse leaves you feeling depleted — emotionally, physically, and spiritually. You'll learn how chronic stress and survival mode affect your body, mind and spirit, why healing requires more than just emotional work, and I'm introducing you to the NEWSTART principles for holistic healing. Plus, I'm giving you 6 simple, practical steps you can take this week to start rebuilding yourself from the inside out. If you've been feeling unlike yourself, this episode will give you clarity, compassion, and a path forward. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call     Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you look at where you are now and wonder if you'll ever feel joy, peace or have purpose again? Are you afraid that what happened to you has somehow disqualified you from the life you were meant to live? In this episode, I'm getting real about what the last six years have looked like since I got away from a covert narcissist. I'm talking about standing in the ruins-- the moments when I couldn't see past the pain. If you're in a place right now where hope feels impossible and you're not sure you have what it takes to rebuild, I want you to hear this. Because what I thought was the end turned out to be something completely different.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you ending this year still waiting for things to make sense? Do you feel like you should have more answers by now — like your healing should look more finished than it does? Does the uncertainty of what’s next still make your heart race, even when you’re trying to trust God? In this episode, I’m talking about something we don’t discuss enough — what it’s like to end the year without all the answers. Not because you haven’t done the work, but because healing doesn’t always wrap up neatly. I’m sharing about the quiet shift that happened when I stopped needing to understand everything before I could trust God with it. If you’re tired of waiting for certainty before you allow yourself to feel at peace, this episode is for you. Related Episodes: Episode 7 - Why The Holidays Are Hard After Covert Narcissistic Abuse   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.  

Does Christmas feel quieter than you expected after narcissistic abuse? Are you confused by feeling emotionally neutral — not distressed, but not joyful either? Do you worry that feeling “less” might mean something is wrong with your healing or faith? In this episode, I’m unpacking what emotional quiet actually means after covert narcissistic abuse so you can stop misinterpreting neutrality as disconnection or failure.   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call     Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do the holidays feel heavier or more emotionally triggering than you expected — even though you're away from the covert narcissist? Are you confused by feeling flat, overwhelmed, or unsettled instead of peaceful or joyful? Do you find yourself wondering if these feelings mean your healing isn’t “working”? In this episode, I’m explaining why the holidays can be emotionally difficult after covert narcissistic abuse — even when you’re no longer in the relationship — so you can stop interpreting normal nervous system responses as personal failure. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse   Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Does every boundary you set turn into an argument, guilt trip, or emotional meltdown? Do you feel unsafe or guilty the moment you say "no"? Have you ever wondered why such small limits cause such big reactions? In this episode, I'm breaking down why covert narcissists react so strongly to your boundaries and what their resistance reveals about your healing. You'll learn why boundaries threaten their control (it's not about the boundary itself — it's about their loss of access to you), why their reaction is NOT your responsibility, and how their pushback is actually confirmation you're changing and growing. If boundaries feel scary, this episode will give you clarity, empowerment, and peace. Related Episodes: Episode 1 - You're Not Crazy! It's Covert Narcissistic Abuse Episode 5 - Enough People Pleasing Already! 3 Tips to Set Healthy Boundaries   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you say “yes” when everything in you is begging to say “no”? Do you feel guilty for having needs, limits, or preferences? Do you feel responsible for keeping everyone comfortable even when it hurts you? Do boundaries feel scary because you’re used to keeping the peace at your own expense? In this episode, I’m breaking down why people pleasing is not your personality; it’s a trauma response. You’ll learn why boundaries feel terrifying after narcissistic abuse, how your nervous system learned to equate “no” with danger, and three practical boundary tools you can start using right away. If you’ve ever felt guilty, selfish, or scared for protecting your peace, this episode will help you understand yourself with more compassion and finally take your power back.     Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/   Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community                 → Become An Insider                 → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this   truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel disconnected from God and unsure if you can trust Him again? Does praying feel empty, scary, or like “what’s the point”? Have you been carrying silent anger, disappointment, or confusion toward God? In this episode, I'm sharing why doubt feels safer than faith after narcissistic abuse, and three gentle, practical ways to start trusting God again — even when it feels scary. You'll learn why your ability to trust God has been shattered (and it's not your fault), how doubt is actually keeping you stuck instead of protecting you, and simple steps you can take to rebuild trust in God one small moment at a time. If you've been struggling to pray, struggling to believe, or feeling isolated from God — this episode will help you understand that you don't need perfect faith to move forward. You just need to take one small step. And God is ready to meet you there. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you replay conversations over and over, trying to figure out if you "heard it right"? Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "imagining things" so many times that you've stopped trusting your own perception? Do you feel unsure if you’re hearing God or just “making things up”? In this episode, I’m breaking down how gaslighting affects your spiritual discernment and why it becomes so hard to trust your own thoughts after abuse. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between God’s voice and the noise trauma left behind and practical ways to rebuild your confidence in hearing Him again. This episode is for the woman who feels spiritually disconnected, unsure, or constantly doubting what she senses in her own spirit.     Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Does the idea of forgiving your abuser feel confusing, impossible, or even offensive? Do you worry that forgiveness means letting them off the hook?Have people pressured you to “just forgive” when you’re still hurting?   In this episode, I'm breaking down the misconceptions around forgiveness after narcissistic abuse. You'll learn why forgiveness isn't about excusing the abuse or reconciling with your abuser, but about releasing the emotional debt you've been carrying so you can finally experience peace and freedom. I'm also walking you through 5 practical steps to forgiveness at your own pace.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever catch yourself wondering, “Am I crazy?” Have you spent years doubting your own memory, emotions, or instincts? Do you feel confused, exhausted, or like you lost parts of yourself you can’t explain? In this episode I'm talking about covert narcissistic abuse—what it is, why it's confusing, and how it affects your nervous system. You’ll learn how emotional manipulation affects your mind and body, why your reactions were normal, and a simple nervous system reset to help you feel safe again. This episode is for the woman who needs clarity, validation, and a gentle path out of self-blame. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

If narcissistic abuse has left you feeling broken, doubting yourself, and wondering if you'll ever feel whole again—you're in the right place. I'm Tekyia, a survivor who's walked this path. Join me weekly for faith-filled, practical strategies to rebuild your confidence, set guilt-free boundaries, and restore your self-worth through biblical truth and holistic healing. Deep wounds can experience deep healing. Your journey to peace and wholeness begins now. Let's heal for real.   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call   Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness    Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.