Midlife Answers

Still worrying about what other people think — even in midlife?In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by transformational coach Tara Lynn to explore why people-pleasing runs so deep — and how to start letting it go.We unpack the link between conditioning, your nervous system, and the fear of judgement… and why it can feel so hard to speak up, even when you know what you want.Plus, simple, practical ways to:Stop overthinking conversationsSet boundaries without over-explainingTrust your own voice againShift from “what will they think?” to “what do I want?”If you’re ready to feel more confident, more authentic, and less influenced by others’ opinions — this episode is for you.If this resonates, you might also enjoy episodes on midlife confidence, boundaries, and managing emotional overwhelm.If anything discussed in this episode brings up difficult feelings for you, please consider speaking with your GP, a healthcare professional, or a qualified therapist who can provide personalised support.🎧 Follow Midlife Answers for more bite-sized episodes on hormones, health, confidence and wellbeing in midlife.About RISE CoachingRISE is my midlife reinvention coaching programme for women who want to rebuild confidence, reconnect with themselves, and navigate this stage of life with more clarity and self-belief.If you’ve been caring for everyone else while quietly losing yourself, this is a space to pause, reflect, and focus on what you need now.Through practical tools and supportive guidance, RISE helps you move beyond self-doubt, set boundaries without guilt, and step into a more grounded, confident version of yourself.Find out more at midlifeanswers.comA little note from me…If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and know others who would too, I’d really appreciate your support:Subscribe on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listenRate and review — it helps more women find the podcastShare or tag @midlifeanswers on InstagramSupport the podcast via Buy Me A CoffeeFind Out MoreTara Lynnhttps://www.taralynncoaching.com/Podcast Editor — Mike Robertshttps://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Feeling unsure of yourself can be shocking — especially when you’ve built a career, raised a family, and always tried to ‘have it together.’In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Holly, a psychotherapist specialising in self-doubt, anxiety and self-worth, and we talk about why confidence often dips in midlife — what’s happening biologically, psychologically and socially — and how to start rebuilding it.We explore why so many women in their late 30s, 40s and early 50s begin to question their decisions, their voice, and even their value — and, importantly, what you can do about it.This is a reassuring, practical conversation designed to help you feel more like yourself again — and to remind you that you’re not alone in this.In this episode, we cover:Why confidence often drops during perimenopause and midlifeThe biological, psychological and social factors at playHow self-doubt becomes more entrenched over timeThe link between stress, overwhelm and confidenceA powerful reframe: why confidence comes after action, not beforeSimple, realistic ways to start rebuilding self-trustA note on support:If anything discussed in this episode brings up difficult feelings for you, please consider speaking with your GP, a healthcare professional, or a qualified therapist who can provide personalised support.🎧 Listen now — and follow this link to explore more episodes of Midlife Answers.About RISE Coaching:RISE is my midlife reinvention coaching programme for women who want to rebuild confidence, reconnect with themselves, and navigate this stage of life with more clarity and self-belief. If you’ve been caring for everyone else while quietly losing yourself, this is a space to pause, reflect, and focus on what you need now. Through practical tools and supportive guidance, RISE helps you move beyond self-doubt, set boundaries without guilt, and step into a more grounded, confident version of yourself.Find out more by visiting midlifeanswers.comAbout Midlife Answers:Midlife Answers is a midlife podcast for women where each episode focuses on one real question about hormones, health, wellbeing and confidence — answered clearly, practically and compassionately with expert insight.Have a question?Send it via this link or DM me on Instagram @midlifeanswers — no topic is off-limits.A little note from me…If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and know others who would too, I’d really appreciate your support:Subscribe on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listenRate and review — it helps more women find the podcastShare or tag @midlifeanswers on InstagramSupport the podcast via Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Find Out More:Holly Ziff: Psychotherapy & Counselling: https://www.hollyziff.comPodcast Editor — Mike Roberts:https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Feeling lost in midlife is more common than you might think — but it can feel incredibly isolating when you’re in it.In this episode of Midlife Answers, we explore one of the most searched and quietly felt questions:Why do I feel like I’m not myself anymore?In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Suzette, a therapist specialising in identity, relationships and emotional wellbeing, to unpack what’s really going on when you feel lost — and how to start reconnecting with yourself again.We talk about the impact of midlife transitions, including hormonal changes, career shifts, family dynamics and emotional load — and why this stage of life can trigger a deeper sense of disconnection or lack of direction.In this episode, we cover:Why feeling “lost” in midlife is different from stress or burnoutMidlife identity shifts and the pressure of time and life decisionsHormones, perimenopause and emotional wellbeingGuilt, expectations and putting yourself lastSigns you may need professional supportPractical ways to reconnect with yourself todaySimple tools like the five senses exercise, gratitude and time in natureSuzette shares how feeling lost is often not a failure, but a signal that something within you is ready to change. With small, intentional steps, it is possible to find clarity, direction and a renewed sense of self.✨ If you’re feeling disconnected, overwhelmed or unsure of your next step, this conversation will help you feel less alone — and more grounded.If anything discussed in this episode brings up difficult feelings for you, please consider speaking with your GP, a healthcare professional, or a qualified therapist who can provide personalised support.🎧 Listen now — and follow this link to explore more episodes of Midlife Answers.If this resonated, you might also find these episodes helpful:Burnout in Midlife: When Rest Isn’t an Option — when feeling lost is actually exhaustionResentment in Midlife Relationships — when disconnection starts showing up in your relationshipMenopause 101 — understanding the hormonal changes that can affect mood, identity and how you feel day to dayAbout Midlife AnswersMidlife Answers is a midlife podcast for women where each episode focuses on one real question about hormones, health, wellbeing and confidence — answered clearly, practically and compassionately with expert insight.Have a question?Send it via this link or DM me on Instagram @midlifeanswers — no topic is off-limits.A little note from me…If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and know others who would too, I’d really appreciate your support:Subscribe on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listenRate and review — it helps more women find the podcastShare or tag @midlifeanswers on InstagramSupport the podcast via Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Find Out More:Suzette Castle-Mackie:https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/suzette-castle-mackiePodcast Editor — Mike Roberts:https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why am I gaining weight in my 40s when nothing has changed?” — you’re not alone.Many women reach midlife eating the same foods, moving their bodies in the same way, yet suddenly their weight, shape or confidence around their body feels different. It can feel confusing, frustrating, and deeply personal.In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Dr Sharma of Spiced Pear Health, a GP specialising in menopause and women’s health. Together we explore why midlife weight gain happens, what’s normal during perimenopause, and when it may be worth speaking with a healthcare professional.We talk about the biological changes that occur during midlife — including hormonal fluctuations, cortisol and stress, muscle loss and metabolism — and why your body may respond differently to diet and exercise than it did in your 20s or 30s.This conversation moves away from blame or extremes and focuses instead on understanding what’s happening in your body so you can move forward with more clarity, confidence and self-compassion.In This Episode We Discuss• Why midlife weight gain commonly happens during perimenopause• How hormonal changes, cortisol and stress can influence weight around the middle• Why your body may change even if your diet and exercise habits stay the same• The connection between muscle loss, metabolism and ageing• Whether high-intensity workouts still work during perimenopause• When weight changes may be worth discussing with your GP or healthcare professional• Small, realistic steps to support your body during midlifeSupportIf anything discussed in this episode brings up difficult feelings for you, please consider speaking with your GP, a healthcare professional, or a qualified therapist who can provide personalised support.About Midlife AnswersMidlife Answers is a midlife podcast for women where each episode focuses on one real question about hormones, health, wellbeing and confidence — answered clearly, practically and compassionately with expert insight.Have a question you’d like me to ask an expert — about midlife health, family, careers or relationships? You can submit it via the link below or DM me on IG @midlifeanswersA little note from me....If you enjoy listening to ⁠Midlife Answers⁠ and you know others who would enjoy it too, I would really appreciate your help with the below - 1/ Please subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen by clicking ⁠HERE⁠2/ Please rate and review - it really helps Midlife Answers reach more people needing that extra support in midlife.3/ Share the love! Share or tag @⁠midlifeanswers⁠ on IG and I'll share the love right back - maybe even get a pic of yourself listening to Midlife Answers and I will repost it4/ If you’re able, you can support Midlife Answers by buying me a coffee. It helps cover behind-the-scenes costs like editing, hosting, and tech. No pressure at all, just a heartfelt thank you if you do. Every little bit really helps keep the podcast going. Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Find Out More:Dr Sharma: www.spicedpearhealth.comPodcast Editor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Divorce in midlife can feel overwhelming, confusing and deeply emotional - even when it’s the right decision.In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Diane, a counsellor and psychotherapist, to talk about how to rebuild your life after divorce - emotionally and practically.Many people feel pressure to “move on” quickly after a relationship ends. But divorce often brings a complex mix of grief, relief, identity shifts and practical decisions that can take time to process.Together we explore how to navigate the emotional aftermath of divorce, rebuild confidence and identity in midlife, and take manageable steps toward the next chapter of your life.On Midlife Answers, we explore real questions women face in their 40s and beyond, offering practical guidance from experts in short, focused episodes that fit into real life.Why divorce often involves a grieving process, even when it was the right decisionThe pressure many people feel to “be okay” quickly after divorceHow divorce can impact confidence and identity in midlifeManaging the practical realities of divorce without becoming overwhelmedHow to recognise the difference between healing and simply going through the motionsOne small but powerful step you can take to begin rebuilding your lifeDiane is a counsellor and psychotherapist who supports people navigating major life transitions, including relationship breakdown, emotional recovery and identity shifts in midlife. Her work focuses on helping people process change, understand their emotional responses and move forward with greater clarity and self-trust.If anything discussed in this episode brings up difficult feelings for you, please consider speaking with your GP, a healthcare professional, or a qualified therapist who can provide personalised support.Have a question you’d like me to ask an expert — about midlife health, family, careers or relationships?You can submit it via the link below or DM me on Instagram @midlifeanswersIf you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and you know others who would enjoy it too, I would really appreciate your help with the below —1/ Please subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen by clicking HERE2/ Please rate and review - it really helps Midlife Answers reach more people needing that extra support in midlife.3/ Share the love! Share or tag @midlifeanswers on IG and I'll share the love right back - maybe even get a pic of yourself listening to Midlife Answers and I will repost it.4/ If you’re able, you can support Midlife Answers by buying me a coffee. It helps cover behind-the-scenes costs like editing, hosting and tech. No pressure at all - just a heartfelt thank you if you do. Every little bit really helps keep the podcast going.Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Podcast Editor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Resentment in a long-term relationship can feel confusing, heavy and hard to admit out loud, especially in midlife, when hormones, work stress, caregiving and emotional load are all competing for space.In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Suzette, a specialist in couples dynamics and communication, to unpack why resentment shows up in relationships, and how to talk about it without triggering defensiveness or conflict.If you’ve been feeling irritable, emotionally distant, or stuck in that low hum of frustration, this conversation will help you understand what’s really underneath it - and what to do next.In this episode, we cover:Why resentment is common in midlife relationshipsHormones, perimenopause and emotional reactivityThe difference between frustration and deeper resentmentHow to start a difficult conversation without blameWhy using “I” instead of “you” changes everythingHow to listen without interrupting or escalatingWhy apologising is just the starting point - not the endPractical ways to set the scene for productive communicationSuzette explains how resentment often builds when feelings go unspoken and why spelling things out clearly (even if we wish our partner would “just know”) leads to healthier, more connected relationships.If you’re navigating relationship challenges, midlife communication struggles, emotional distance, or feeling unsupported in your partnership, this episode offers compassionate, practical guidance in under 15 minutes.✨ Remember: resentment isn’t uncommon - it’s how we handle it that determines whether we fuel the fire or calm the situation down.If anything discussed brings up deeper concerns, please consider speaking with your GP or a qualified healthcare professional.🎧 Listen now and follow the link below to explore more episodes of Midlife Answers, your midlife podcast for women navigating relationships, hormones, burnout and real-life transitions.Have a question you’d like me to ask an expert - about midlife health, family, careers or relationships? You can submit it via the link below or DM me on IG @midlifeanswersA little note from me....If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and you know others who would enjoy it too, I would really appreciate your help with the below - 1/ Please subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen by clicking HERE2/ Please rate and review - it really helps Midlife Answers reach more people needing that extra support in midlife.3/ Share the love! Share or tag @midlifeanswers on IG and I'll share the love right back - maybe even get a pic of yourself listening to Midlife Answers and I will repost it4/ If you’re able, you can support Midlife Answers by buying me a coffee. It helps cover behind-the-scenes costs like editing, hosting, and tech. No pressure at all, just a heartfelt thank you if you do. Every little bit really helps keep the podcast going. Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Find Out More:Suzette Castle-Mackie: Get in TouchPodcast Editor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Bladder leakage and pelvic discomfort are far more common in midlife than most women realise — yet they’re still rarely talked about, often dismissed, or quietly endured.In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Dr Sharma, a GP specialising in menopause and women’s health, to answer a question many women ask privately: Is bladder leakage or pelvic discomfort normal in midlife — or should I see a doctor?Together, we explore why these changes can show up in your 40s and 50s, how hormones and pelvic health are involved, and how to tell the difference between what’s common and what shouldn’t be ignored. We also talk through when to seek medical advice, what support is available, and why embarrassment should never be a barrier to getting help.This is a calm, practical conversation designed to bring reassurance, clarity and next steps — without shame.In this episode, we cover:Why bladder leaks and pelvic discomfort often appear in midlifeCommon symptoms women dismiss or push throughWhat’s normal, what’s treatable, and when to see a doctorSimple first steps you can take to get supportHave a question you’d like me to ask an expert — about midlife health, family, careers or relationships? You can submit it via the link below or DM me on IG @midlifeanswersA little note from me....If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and you know others who would enjoy it too, I would really appreciate your help with the below - 1/ Please subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen by clicking HERE2/ Please rate and review - it really helps Midlife Answers reach more people needing that extra support in midlife.3/ Share the love! Share or tag @midlifeanswers on IG and I'll share the love right back - maybe even get a pic of yourself listening to Midlife Answers and I will repost it4/ If you’re able, you can support Midlife Answers by buying me a coffee. It helps cover behind-the-scenes costs like editing, hosting, and tech. No pressure at all, just a heartfelt thank you if you do. Every little bit really helps keep the podcast going. Buy Me A Coffee (or green tea!)Recommended Listening:https://linktr.ee/midlifeanswers:#22 How do I know if I’m in perimenopause, and what symptoms shouldn’t I ignore?#17 Menopause 101 with Drs Sharma & WrightFind Out More:Dr Sharma: www.spicedpearhealth.comPodcast Editor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Friendships changing in midlife can leave us feeling guilty, confused, or quietly sad — especially when there’s no fallout or drama to point to.In this episode of our midlife podcast for women, I’m joined by Diane, a counsellor and psychotherapist, to explore why friendships naturally shift as we grow, and how to handle relationships that no longer fit the person you’re becoming.We talk about people-pleasing, resentment, honesty, and how to let friendships evolve - or fade - without blame or unnecessary conflict.If you’ve been questioning a friendship, struggling with guilt, or wondering whether it’s okay to prioritise yourself, this conversation will help you feel clearer and more reassured.🎧 Coming up in the next episode: a necessary conversation about bladder leakage and pelvic discomfort with Dr Sharma.A little note from me....If you enjoy listening to Midlife Answers and you know others who would enjoy it too, I would really appreciate your help with the below - 1/ Please subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen by clicking HERE2/ Please rate and review - it really helps Midlife Answers reach more people needing that extra support in midlife.3/ Share the love! Share or tag @midlifeanswers on IG and I'll share the love right back - maybe even get a pic of yourself listening to Midlife Answers and I will repost itFind Out More:Podcast Editor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or constantly on edge in midlife, but slowing down just isn’t an option?In this bite-sized episode of Midlife Answers, I’m joined by Suzette to talk honestly about midlife burnout - why it feels so intense, how it differs from stress and overwhelm, and what actually helps when rest feels impossible.We explore the silent signs of burnout in women, the role of hormones and perimenopause, and share practical tools - including 3-minute resets and tiny stabilising steps - to help you feel calmer and less overwhelmed today.In this episode, we cover:Burnout vs stress vs overwhelmWhy burnout hits harder in midlifeHormones, perimenopause and burnoutWhat to do when rest isn’t an optionSimple 5-minute nervous system resetsWhen to seek professional supportIf you’re feeling close to the edge, this conversation is for you.🎧 Listen now — and follow the link below to explore more episodes of Midlife Answers.Don’t forget to follow and share with someone who might need this today. Listen Here and Buy Me A Coffee: https://linktr.ee/midlifeanswersFind Out More:Suzette Castle-Mackie:https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/suzette-castle-mackieEditor - Mike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.ukShakti Mat: https://www.shaktimat.co.uk/

Is this perimenopause - or just life?Perimenopause doesn’t always look the way we expect. It’s not just hot flushes or missed periods. For many women, the earliest signs are anxiety, low mood, exhaustion, poor sleep, brain fog, or a quiet sense that something just isn’t right…and these symptoms are often missed.In this episode of Midlife Answers, I’m joined by Dr Sharma, GP and menopause specialist, to answer one of the most common midlife questions:How do I know if I’m in perimenopause, and which symptoms shouldn’t I ignore?Together, we break down how perimenopause really shows up, why women often wait too long to recognise the signs, and what practical steps you can take to look after your health and wellbeing.In this episode, we cover:What perimenopause is and when it can startCan you be in perimenopause in your early 40s?Early and often-overlooked symptoms like anxiety, low mood, poor sleep, brain fog, and fatigueSymptoms you shouldn’t ignore, including heavy bleeding, palpitations, and persistent low moodBlood tests vs symptom-led diagnosisHow to prepare for a GP appointment and advocate for yourselfPerimenopause isn’t something to push through in silence. Noticing changes early, and taking them seriously, can make a real difference.Coming up on the next episode: Join me next week when I’ll be talking to therapist Suzette about burnout in midlife, and the importance of recognising the early signs, setting boundaries, and giving yourself permission to slow down before burnout takes hold.If you found this episode helpful, follow or subscribe to Midlife Answers, and share it with someone who could use reassurance right now.Listen Anywhere: https://linktr.ee/midlifeanswersRecommended Listening:https://linktr.ee/midlifeanswers - Menopause 101 with Drs Sharma & Wright: a previous conversation with Dr Sharma and her business partner, Dr Wright, covering a wider range of topics including surgical menopause, testosterone, and sex and intimacy in midlife.Find Out More:Dr Sharma: www.spicedpearhealth.comMike Roberts: https://vault.makingdigitalreal.co.uk

This week, I’m chatting with facial cupping expert Sakina about something I think so many of us in our 40s quietly wrestle with:Do I go down the tweakments route… or is there a more natural way to keep my skin feeling alive and glowing?Botox is everywhere right now - it’s almost become a casual part of getting ready. And while there’s zero judgement, I’ve found myself wondering if there’s another path… something that still makes my midlife skin look fresh, lifted, and me.That’s where facial cupping comes in.Sakina talks me through how it actually works (yes, it’s more than a TikTok trend), why it’s becoming such a powerful alternative to tweakments, and what it can do for circulation, lymphatic drainage, sculpting, and that healthy glow we all miss sometimes.We also go a bit deeper - into the mindset around aging, and the way men and women are allowed to age so differently. And I loved what Sakina had to say about developing a healthier relationship with getting older. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with creams or serums… and everything to do with surrounding yourself with people who bring out your joy.If you’re standing at that midlife crossroads and thinking, Do I need injectables, or is there something else? - this episode is such an encouraging place to start.Please do follow along for more episodes of Thriving in our 40s - it's simple, just click subscribe! Thank you.To discover more about Sakina and her work, please check out:The Facial Cupping Expert websiteIG: @thefacialcuppingexpert

Ever wondered how someone goes from dreaming of writing a book to actually seeing it on the shelf?Children’s author Alex Atkinson joins Thriving in Our 40s to share how she turned a simple idea into two brilliantly spooky stories, and what her writing journey can teach us about creativity, confidence, and following our passions in midlife.We talk about finding self-belief when doubt creeps in, learning to take feedback with confidence, and surrounding yourself with a community that lifts you up.Alex also shares her take on inspiring kids to fall in love with reading - and why staying curious and open-minded matters at any age.A heartfelt, funny and inspiring chat that reminds us it’s never too late to start your next chapter.Listen now! Further Reading:Buy Spooksmiths Investigate from your local bookshopAlex Atkinson WebsiteSave the CatSave the Cat Writes a NovelInto The WoodsWrite Mentor

Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when it comes to your teen? You’re not alone.In this episode of Thriving in Our 40s, I’m joined by Teen Whisperer, Kirsten Cobabe, to unpack what it really means to be present as a parent - beyond the nagging, lecturing, and “just do as I say” moments we all fall into.We explore how to:💬 Have those tricky, awkward conversations that actually build trust💛 Support rather than dictate and meet your teen in their world🌱 Give autonomy in a life ruled by school, rules, and routines🌞 Look at the whole picture of teen mental health - sleep, sunlight, laughter, connection🙌 Move away from perfection and pressure to raise whole humans, not just high achieversI even share a few of my own fails (because let’s be honest, we’ve all had them).It’s not about being the perfect parent, it’s about presence over pressure, and guidance over control.🎧 Listen now To learn more about Kirsten's work, please visited:www.kirstencobabe.com@kirstencobabe#ThrivingInOur40s #ParentingTeens #ParentingPodcast #TeenMentalHealth #ConsciousParenting #PresenceOverPressure #GuidanceOverControl #RaisingWholeHumans

Why are so many couples splitting in their 40s and 50s? And how does menopause affect intimacy, desire, and connection?In this week’s Thriving in Our 40s episode, we go deep with couples and sex therapist Suzette Castle-Mackie - and no topic is off-limits.✨ Why midlife relationships are under pressure (and the rise of ‘grey divorce’)✨ The fine line between healthy and destructive conflict✨ What to do if only one partner wants therapy✨ How to have those tough conversations, from intimacy and menopause to screen use✨ Rebuilding connection through vulnerability, passion, and new ways to date✨ Everyday intimacy tips to feel closer outside the bedroom🎧 Plus, don't forget to check out these other Thriving In Our 40s episodes:👉 Dr Sharma & Dr Wright on Menopause & Relationships👉 Helen on Intimacy, Conflict & Couples TherapySubscribe, share with your partner and join us for honest, unscripted conversations about thriving - not just surviving - in your 40s and beyond.To contact Suzette, please visit: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/suzette-castle-mackie#ThrivingInOur40s #MidlifeRelationships #CouplesTherapy #MenopauseSupport #SexAfter40 #RelationshipAdvice

Your Menopause 101 guide - from crash menopause and HRT myths to sex after menopause and midlife mental health. With Dr Angela Sharma & Dr Angela Wright of Spiced Pear Health, we dive into the real questions women face but rarely get answered.This episode of Thriving in Our 40s is your Menopause 101 - an honest, practical conversation with menopause specialists Dr Angela Sharma and Dr Angela Wright of Spiced Pear Health. We tackle the questions too many women face alone: from the shock of crash menopause, to the myths and realities of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), intimacy and sex after menopause, and the impact on midlife mental health.Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:✨ What crash menopause really means - and how hormone blockers affect women✨ The facts about HRT - how long you should (or shouldn’t) take it, and why lifestyle still matters✨ Social media myths around menopause - what advice to trust and what to ignore✨ Supplements - evidence vs hype, and why consistency is key✨ Testosterone - the benefits, risks, and what we still don’t know✨ Sex and intimacy in midlife - from low libido to reconnecting with your partner✨ Communication & relationships - how psychosexual therapy can rebuild trust and connection✨ Practical GP advice - how to prepare, what to ask, and why persistence mattersMenopause can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Whether you’re curious about perimenopause symptoms, struggling with low libido, or confused about HRT options, this conversation offers clarity, confidence, and real-world support.Learn more at Spiced Pear Health with Dr Angela Sharma & Dr Angela Wright.Further Support: Maggie's Cancer Care: https://www.maggies.orgGuideline Resources: BSSM:https://bssm.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/BSSM-Position-statement-for-management-of-genitourinary-syndrome-of-the-menopause-GSM.pdfACOG:https://www.acog.org/-/media/project/acog/acogorg/clinical/files/clinical-consensus/articles/2021/12/treatment-of-urogenital-symptoms-in-individuals.pdf?rev=42989a66fa1c4daaa148a3853d27bb05&hash=C03514B3BD087D1FE7A80E6E95A545BARCOG green top for PMS:https://obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/1471-0528.14260NAPS guidelines for PMS:https://www.pms.org.uk/app/uploads/2018/06/guidelinesfinal60210.pdf

Fashion advice - but not as we know it.In this heartfelt and powerful episode of Thriving In Our Forties, style coach Loulou Storey shares invaluable advice for women who feel disconnected from their wardrobes, unsure of their style, or invisible in midlife.At the heart of Loulou’s approach is her Style Storey Method - a unique process that helps women rediscover their identity through three energy words that reflect who they truly are. This isn’t about trends or body types - it’s about reconnecting with your inner compass, listening to your instincts, and dressing in a way that supports your lifestyle and reflects your personality.Whether you're time-starved, feeling uninspired by your wardrobe, navigating a changing body, or just want to feel visible again, Loulou’s insights will leave you uplifted and reconnected with your own style story.We also talk about:How clothes can help us feel relevant againThe emotional power of functional yet expressive dressingHow to talk to our daughters and young people about style and self-worth without focusing on sizeLoulou’s deeply personal story - how she found her way to becoming a style coach after postnatal depression and body image struggles, and how fashion helped her 'show up' as a mother when she felt most unsure of herselfThis episode is a beautiful blend of practical wisdom and emotional depth, offering a new way of thinking about clothes, confidence, and what it really means to thrive in your forties.Further Resources:Loulou Storey: www.louloustorey.comIG: @louloustorey_stylist: www.instagram.com/louloustorey_stylist/Elizabeth Gilbert 'Big Magic': www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/

Discover how to recognise, support, and celebrate dyslexia at any age - with practical tools and empowering insights from specialist Sasha Dugdale.Is dyslexia misunderstood, and under-celebrated? In this episode of Thriving in Our Forties, dyslexia specialist Sasha Dugdale helps us reframe our understanding of neurodiversity. We explore:The signs of undiagnosed dyslexia in adultsHow to get a diagnosis later in lifeInclusive strategies at school, work, and homeHow friends and family can truly support (not fix)The strengths dyslexic individuals bring—especially in today’s AI-driven worldTools for building confidence, resilience, and brain healthWhy dyslexia is not a limitation, but a powerful way of thinking differentlyWhether you’re neurodivergent, love someone who is, or simply want to understand more, this conversation is for you.Further reading/resources:* Rethinking Dyslexia* British Dyslexia Association* Made By Dyslexia* Dyslexia Scotland* SEND Podcast* Jamie Oliver TV Series - Jamie’s Dyslexia Revolution* Chris Packham TV Series - Inside Our Minds* Barrington Stoke - Dyslexia Friendly Books* Lucinda Miller - Brain Brilliance Book* Amanda Kirby - Neurodiversity At Work Book* Nancy Doyle and Almuth McDowall - Neurodiversity Coaching Book* Ginny Stacey - Organisation and Everyday Life with Dyslexia and other SpLDs Book* Ginny Stacey - Finding Your Voice with Dyslexia and other SpLDs Book* Stories for Kids Who Dare to be Different Book

Feeling overwhelmed, exhausted or just not yourself lately? In this episode, we’re joined by nutritional therapist Kate Chaytor-Norris to explore what stress really does to our bodies - especially in our 40s - and how we can NOURISH ourselves back to balance.We unpack the science, the hormones, and the emotional side of stress, and share practical, compassionate strategies to help you feel more grounded, energised and in tune with your body.In this episode, we cover:Why your stress response may have been set in childhood, or even in the wombHow nutrition can support your nervous system and improve resilienceThe importance of blood sugar stability for mood, focus and energyHow tired adrenals affect food cravings, energy levels and your ability to exerciseWhy stress can block weight loss (and what to do instead)The powerful connection between oestrogen in our water system and hormone healthHow perimenopause and menopause magnify the effects of stressAnd why our bodies are incredibly wise, intuitive beings - they never lie, we just need to start listeningWhether you’re deep in perimenopause or just trying to get through a stressful season, this conversation is packed with reassurance, knowledge and practical tools.SUBSCRIBE for more empowering conversations on women’s health, midlife transitions, and thriving through the messy bits.Like this video if it resonatedComment below: What’s one thing you’re doing to support your body through stress right now?🎙️ Watch the full episode on YouTube📲 Follow us on Instagram: @thrivinginourfortiesFurther Resources: Kate Chaytor- Norris: https://kate-chaytor-norris.co.uk/I Wish My Doctor Had Told Me This by Kate Chaytor- Norris: https://kate-chaytor-norris.co.uk/books/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Der Kolk: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreBioCera Filter Jug: https://www.water-for-health.co.uk/products/biocera-alkaline-water-filter-jugWherever you go, there you are by Jon Kabat-Zinn: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Wherever-You-There-Are-Mindfulness/dp/0749925485Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Full-Catastrophe-Living-Revised-mindfulness/dp/0749958413

What do we say to our kids about pornography and puberty without it being awkward?In this honest and empowering episode of Thriving in Our Forties, we're joined by Janey Downshire, expert in adolescent development, counselling, and co-author of Teenagers Translated. Together, we unpack the tough but vital topics affecting our children today - online porn, puberty, body anxiety, and emotional literacy.For today’s teens, puberty and p*rn have become tangled in confusing, often harmful ways.Easy access to explicit content is shaping unrealistic expectations around sex, intimacy, and relationships, for both boys and girls.We’re seeing a rise in anxiety, body shame, and social pressure in girls, and erectile dysfunction and emotional disconnection in boys - both linked to the curated, hyper-sexualised content they’re absorbing.Many young people are learning more from screens than from real-life conversations, and that’s a problem we can change.In this episode, we cover:Why pornography isn’t going anywhere and how to talk to your kids about it with confidence and clarityThe emotional impact of puberty and the pressure to “perform” femininity or masculinityThe importance of talking about real sex vs online sexHow to set healthy, clear boundaries as parents (and stick to them)Tools for tackling awkward topics so kids trust you to guide, not judgeThe concept of Parent Power: why we need a collective voice to challenge the cultural narrative around sex, puberty, and growing upThis conversation is full of insight, practical tools, and reassurance for any parent who wants to raise emotionally literate, sexually healthy, confident young adults.Show notes include a carefully curated list of resources to help you continue learning and talking.#Puberty #ParentingTeens #TalkingToKidsAboutPorn #TeenMentalHealthwww.teenagerstranslated.co.ukSexEd in the digital age: https://fumble.org.uk/Boys’ Health: https://www.childrenandscreens.org/learn-explore/research/boys-health-and-digital-media/#talk-about-pornographyGirls’ Health: https://www.childrenandscreens.org/learn-explore/research/girls-health-and-digital-media/The Effects of Pornography on Youth and How to Talk About It:https://www.childrenandscreens.org/event/the-porn-conversation-the-effects-of-pornography-on-youth-and-how-to-talk-about-it/Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction: https://www.thefreelibrary.com/Watching+porn+leaves+men+unable+to+perform+in+the+bedroom%2c+new...-a0818133448Pornography and Behavioral Health: https://www.mentalhealth.com/library/pornography-and-behavioral-health‘Mum, What’s Wrong with You?’: 101 Things Only Mothers of Teenage Girls Know (book)Raising Boys in the 21st Century (book)Raising Girls in the 21st Century (book)

Struggling with weight gain, exhaustion, or mood swings? Perimenopause is a huge hormonal shift that affects metabolism, energy, and overall well-being - but you don’t have to just put up with it. There are ways to thrive through this transition! In this episode of Thriving in Our 40s, we’re joined by Functional Health & Performance Coach Natasha Banks to break down how to balance hormones naturally - with the right nutrition, exercise, and lifestyle changes that truly work. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:* Key hormonal shifts in your cycle & how they change in perimenopause * How to support your body (even if your cycle is irregular or you’re no longer bleeding) * Why perimenopause often leads to weight gain - and how to manage it naturally * Magnesium: The essential mineral for perimenopause (& why you probably need more!) * The truth about fat - why some fats are non-negotiable for hormone health * Cycle syncing & exercise - how to train in tune with your hormones for better results * How to reframe perimenopause as a powerful new chapter instead of something to fear * Myth-busting perimenopause & menopause (Hint: No, menopause does NOT mean the end of your sex life! ) Have you noticed changes in your body during perimenopause? What has helped you the most? Would love to hear your thoughts/suggestions in the comments below. To discover more about Natasha and her work, visit: Website: www.thewellnessconsultant.co.ukLinkedIn: Natasha Banks, Health & Performance CoachInstagram: https: @natasha.l.banksDon’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & HIT THE NOTIFICATION BELL so you never miss an episode of Thriving in Our 40s. Watch more episodes here: YouTube: www.youtube.com/@TransitionsUnscripted/videos Instagram:@rachel_s_fortune

Hands up - who else finds the older we get, the more confused we become about what we should and shouldn’t be using on our skin? The choices are endless! Should we be using retinol? Taking collagen? Trying tweakments?In this episode of Thriving in Our Forties, we’re joined by Tahira, a Conscious Beauty expert and total fountain of knowledge. It’s impossible not to be drawn into her infectious enthusiasm for all things skincare, makeup, and midlife confidence!Tahira shares:  The importance of choosing the right skincare for your skin typeHer personal product recommendations and feedbackThe often-forgotten power of a simple finger massage for lifted, glowing skinWhy you NEED to dig out those eyelash curlers - they’ll become your new best friend for a fresh, wide-awake look!Quick, easy makeup tricks for a natural, radiant lookWe also talk about how to embrace this stage of life, how not to attach our self-worth to the pursuit of youth, and how beauty in our forties and beyond is about feeling empowered in your own skin.Keep reading the show notes below for all of Tahira’s brand recommendations and product picks - you’ll want them!Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and comment - we’d love to know your current midlife beauty go-tos too!Neal's YardRecommend brands for Dry / Dehydrated Skin:SahajanBiossanceRecommend brands for Sensitive Skin:Pai SkincareOrganic PharmacyOriginsL'OccitaneOskiaKora Organics - Turmeric Glow CleanserTweakments Tried and Tested: EmfaceProfhiloCurrent BodyZiipNuFACESandra Lanshin: Gua Sha ExpertWhat is retinol?"While not as powerful as other retinoids, retinol has the same ability to speed up cell turnover and increase collagen production. This makes it an effective ingredient for reducing the look of fine lines and wrinkles. Retinol's exfoliating effect also helps it treat hyperpigmentation and acne." What is Niacinamide?"Niacinamide works by increasing the production of ceramides [waxy lipids], which are essential for maintaining a healthy skin barrier. It also helps to reduce the production of sebum, which can contribute to acne. Additionally, niacinamide has anti-inflammatory properties that can help calm irritated skin and reduce redness."What are Ceramides?"Put simply, ceramides help the skin to protect itself. "The human body is made up of approximately 70% water, but on the skin's surface this can be as low as 10% to 30%,” says Sara Waterman, senior aesthetician at Young LDN. “Ceramides help to keep the skin hydrated on all levels. By creating a barrier, ceramides keep the water in and protect against environmental damage.”"

Could your child's screen time be rewiring their brain? Are social media, FOMO, and dopamine addiction making it harder for kids to focus, form real friendships, and build resilience?  In this must-watch Thriving in Our Forties episode, Dr. Charlotte Armitage - psychologist, psychotherapist, and author of Generation Zombie: Why Devices Are Harming Our Children and What We Can Do About It - breaks down:  Devices & FOMO – Why kids feel pressure to always be online  Devices & Relationships – Is social media replacing real-life friendships?  Devices & Mental Health – The shocking link between screens, anxiety, and depression  Devices & Dopamine – How tech companies keep us hooked  Devices & Resilience – Are screens making kids less able to handle life’s challenges?  The ADHD Connection – How excessive screen time is impacting attention spans  At times, not easy to hear, but a must-listen for any parent or young adult. Watch till the end for practical tools to help both adults and kids spend less time on screens and engage more with the real world.  What’s your biggest concern about kids and screen time? Drop a comment below!  Learn more about Dr. Charlotte Armitage:  https://charlottearmitage.co.uk/Her book, Generation Zombie, is available at all major bookshops.Subscribe for more real, raw, and essential conversations on midlife, parenting, and thriving in today’s world! 

Are you in your 40s and wondering how to stay strong, mobile, and pain-free? In this episode of Thriving in Our Forties, I sit down with Pilates instructor Posie Scrope to explore how Pilates can help support your body as you age - improving core strength, pelvic floor health, bone density, and mental wellbeing.What we cover in this episode:* How Pilates strengthens the pelvic floor & prevents issues like leakage & back pain* Why Pilates is a must for bone density & injury prevention in midlife* The mind-body benefits of Pilates for stress relief & mental health* Reformer Pilates vs. Mat Pilates - what’s best for you?* Debunking common myths - why Pilates is NOT just stretching or only for women!If you’re navigating perimenopause, dealing with joint pain, or just looking for an effective way to stay strong in your 40s and beyond, this episode is for you!Don’t forget to like, comment & subscribe for more insights on thriving in midlife!

Struggling with workouts that no longer feel right? Wondering how hormones impact your strength, energy, and metabolism in your 40s? In this episode of Thriving in Our 40s, we sit down with health and wellness coach Sue Parkyn to break down everything you need to know about training smarter - not harder - after 40.  We’ll cover:  * The impact of HORMONE IMBALANCE  on physical health & fitness  * HOW TO TRAIN EFFECTIVELY during perimenopause  * The BIGGEST WORKOUT MISTAKES women make in their 40s * Why HIIT WORKOUTS may be raising your cortisol (and what to do instead)  * FASTING DONE RIGHT - understanding how the right nutrition and training can maximise results  * The 3 SIMPLE DAILY QUESTIONS we need to be asking ourselves that will transform our long-term health & strength  This episode is part of our new expert-led series, where we dive into the SCIENCE, REAL-LIFE EXPERIENCES, AND PRACTICAL STRATEGIES that help us thrive through midlife transitions with confidence, energy, and excitement.  Have you adjusted your training or nutrition after 40? What’s worked best for you? We would love to hear from you!For more on Dr. Mindy Pelz’s fasting expertise, please see here: https://drmindypelz.com/fasting/

What happens when life throws you into uncharted territory? My friend Anna, who I’ve known for 25 years, was diagnosed with Young Onset Parkinson’s Disease just two years ago. In this deeply personal and honest conversation, she shares how her world has shifted - physically, emotionally, and mentally - and the lessons she’s learned along the way.From the first symptoms to the stark reality of facing an unsympathetic neurologist, Anna opens up about the challenges of coming to terms with a chronic illness while juggling a career, young children, and a busy life. Simple things, like writing her children's birthday cards, have become impossible. The frustration of a body that sometimes ‘fails’ her is real, but so is her determination.Yet, through it all, Anna has never once thought, Why me? Instead, she has embraced resilience, vulnerability, and self-compassion, learning to adapt and move forward. She shares how talking to friends and family has helped her navigate the toughest emotional moments and how mutual respect and understanding are key to supporting loved ones with chronic illness.Anna also reflects on the impact Parkinson’s has had on her young children, her shift in perspective on taking medication vs. exploring alternative approaches to health, and the challenge of letting go of rigid plans and embracing flexibility in a life filled with unpredictability.This is more than just a story about illness - it's about courage, acceptance, and the transformative power of patience and understanding. Anna’s journey is a testament to what it means to keep moving forward, even when the path ahead is uncertain.Join the conversation. If you or a loved one are living with a chronic illness, we’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences in the comments. AND...Don’t forget to subscribe for more raw and inspiring conversations on life’s biggest transitions.

On this week’s Transitions Unscripted, I’m honoured to sit down with Becky, someone I’ve known for 10 years but never had the chance to deeply discuss her experience living with alopecia - until now. This is an incredibly personal and powerful conversation, and I want to thank Becky for trusting me to help share her story with all of you. Becky opens up about growing up with alopecia, from the challenges of navigating hair loss as a young girl to facing the ups and downs of teenage years and young adulthood. She shares how she learned to respond to negative comments and how her journey has shaped her into the strong, passionate, and resilient woman she is today.We talk about the incredible support of her family, the unspoken ways they protected each other’s feelings, and the often-painful treatments she endured. Becky also offers insights into her decision to wear a wig (the pros might surprise you!) and how she’s uses her experience as a nanny to help children feel empowered about being different.Her story is a powerful reminder: We are all enough, just as we are. Becky’s message challenges societal beauty standards, highlights the importance of representation, and offers heartfelt advice to anyone living with alopecia.Thank you, Becky, for showing us what resilience and self-love truly look like. Further Information Freedom Hair: https://freedomwigs.comIndependent Agent for freedom wigs in the U.K: https://www.instagram.com/positivelyhair_freedomwigs/?hl=en-gb

In this week’s Transitions Unscripted, I sit down with my friend Amy to talk about something so many can relate to: divorce and co-parenting. Amy shares her journey with raw honesty - her vulnerabilities, fears of failure, and deep worries for her boys. At times, she felt utterly terrified. But through it all, she and her ex-husband have worked together to build a loving, stable environment for their children. Whether you're a child of separated parents, navigating divorce yourself, or just looking for hope in tough transitions, Amy's story is one of courage, resilience, and a positive outlook for the future. Tune in for heartfelt insights, relatable struggles, and uplifting inspiration. To listen to my previous episode about Couples Therapy - please visit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_G6MqRSABEg&t=1099sIf you are interested in reading/listening to any of Amy's suggestions, here they are: *Glennon Doyle: We Can Do Hard Things (podcast)* Glennon Doyle: Untamed (Book)* Helen Thorn: Get Divorced, Be Happy (Book)* Helen Thorn: Scrummy Mummies (Book & Podcast)* Esther Perel: Where Should We Begin (Podcast)

In this candid video, my brilliant friend Laura shares her deeply personal story of transitioning into a new phase of life. At just 43, she never thought her symptoms could be perimenopause. From night sweats, aches and pains, and low mood, she's faced it all! While menopause is becoming more widely discussed, the difference between perimenopause vs menopause can still be confusing for many.Laura talks openly about the importance of recognising your symptoms and speaking up to get the help you need. She shares her experience with HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), weighing the pros and cons, and how taking this step helped her regain her sense of self.On top of everything, Laura runs a thriving farm diversification business, Farm Adventure, where she juggles activities like sheep gathering, tractor racing, and pig herding (so fun!) – all while navigating her perimenopause journey.If you're searching for honest insights on HRT, perimenopause symptoms, or just looking to understand more about this important phase of life, Laura’s story will surely resonate with you.To discover more about Farm Adventure - visit: www.farmadventure.co.uk

In this episode of Transitions Unscripted, we dive into a personal and professional journey with Gaby, a children’s nutritionist and co-founder of Nutrition Academy. After discovering her child had severe allergies, Gaby found herself in a crash course on nutrition, eventually retraining as a children’s nutritionist to support her family’s health - and now yours!We discuss everything from the basics of a balanced breakfast to creative ideas for snacks and handling fussy eaters. Ever wondered if picky eating is more nature or nurture? Gaby shares her insights and top tips on how parents can make the most of meal times, even when on a tight schedule. Learn how a variety of colours and foods can boost your child’s health, why aiming for 80% of the time makes a difference, and - most importantly - that there’s no perfect diet! (My kids absolutely love the popcorn and chocolate snack suggestion, by the way!)Gaby also shares exciting news about the latest from Nutrition Academy. Together with co-founder Agnieszka, they’re launching the Brain Boost Academy - an online course designed for parents of primary school children to support cognitive development. Combining the latest research and their experiences as mums, they’ve crafted a program covering essential areas like balanced nutrition, hydration, the microbiome, the impact of ultra-processed foods, sleep, alternative therapies, and everything else you need to help set up your child for success.Full details about this and where to find Nutrition Academy, please visit: nutrition-academy.co.uk and check out their IG (@nutrition.academy.uk) for all their delicious tasty treats!

In this episode of Transitions Unscripted, we’re joined by my old university friend, Emily Bevan - an actress of stage and screen, and now a published author. Emily’s powerful new book, The Diary of Losing Dad, recounts the heartbreaking months leading up to her father’s death from renal cancer. Through a deeply personal lens, she shares moments of sorrow, but also those of humour and joy, offering an honest and realistic look at her experience of loss.Emily bravely opens up about her deepest thoughts, including her biggest regret of not being there in her father’s final hours. She discusses why it was so important for her to write this book, and how sharing her story has brought her a sense of healing.A huge thank you to Emily for speaking so openly on such a difficult subject - one that so many people will resonate with. For those going through grief, you don’t have to go through it alone. Lean on your friends and family for support, and remember there are charities like Cruse Bereavement Care that can help guide you through the tough days. You can find Emily's book, "The Diary of Losing Dad", at all good bookshops, including Waterstones, and online at Amazon

Today I sit down with my wonderful friend Helen, who I've known since school, as she opens up about her and her husband's experience with couples therapy. Like many of us, they found themselves not spending quality time together and had stopped communicating effectively. Instead of letting their relationship drift further, they decided to seek help through couples counselling.Helen shares their journey in hopes of breaking the stigma attached to getting help, offering heartfelt advice on how to bring up the idea of therapy with your partner. She also shares tips on finding the right couples therapist for you, debunking the myth that therapy has to be awkward or uncomfortable. Thanks to therapy, Helen and her husband were given the confidence to talk openly, rebuild mutual respect, and strengthen their bond.What you’ll learn in this video: How to start the conversation about couples therapy with your partner Tips on finding the right couples counsellor Why therapy doesn’t have to feel awkward How marriage counselling can improve communication and restore mutual respect The positive impact couples therapy can have on your relationshipIf you’re ready to let go of the stigma and take steps toward a healthier relationship, this video will inspire you to start the conversation!Forgive my sound quality....I will get there!