Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement and Mother’s Day are two attributes that are at odds with one another. And when you are estranged from a son or daughter, it’s a trigger that can send you spiraling into a dark place. As I’ve talked with some mom’s they’ve expressed that they just want the day to end so they can get on with life. Women work themselves into a tizzy (that’s an expression I heard often growing up) creating anxiety and stress. Although reconnected with my kids now, I remember several Mother’s Day blues where sadness overwhelmed me. Estranged not only from my kids, but also my mother. My value as a person was at question in my mind. Consequently, it’s a day that I too wanted to pass quickly. Today I’ll share how you can turn this day into a celebration rather than mourning. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/67.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe secret to peace is elusive to many women. Everyone wants it and often knows how to get it but are unwilling. Those that embrace this secret discover a deep and lasting peace even amid estrangement before relationships reconcile. In fact, knowing the relationship may never reconcile doesn’t disturb their peace. This peace is available to all who are open – even if you rejected it previously. It’s always there waiting for you. And the fruit of this secret is what will set your heart free from the emotional pain of an estranged relationship. Sit with me today for a few minutes and I’ll tell you the secret. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/66. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementReconciliation is defined as the process of restoring friendly relations. It involves resolving disputes and balancing accounts. You’re thinking about your estranged loved one and that’s what this is about. However, it also is a principle in balance. Think of your bank statement. Do you cringe when it arrives as I do? Because of my husband’s health, I have the sole responsibility of managing finances and balancing accounts. As detailed as I try to be, invariably I will miss a withdrawal. How do debits and credits and balancing a bank statement relate to an estranged relationship? Stay tuned to today’s podcast episode and I’ll tell you. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/65.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementLetting go of grudges is rarely easy and certainly nothing happens quickly for most people. Estranged relationships create a hotbed for growing grudges, and you nourish them when you replay and rehearse responses.  Coaching women who have been hurt by a loved one who has chosen to walk away will frequently begin with something like “how could they?” Or I’ll never be able to forgive them for what they’ve done.” And those words are the foundation for building resentment and deep-seated grudges that bring harm to your soul. Furthermore, you’ll never heal when you are holding a grudge. Today’s episode will provide some tips for letting go of the resentment so that your heart can begin to heal Let’s settle in for a short message today on getting rid of grudges.Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/64.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThere is a bridge that connects an unsaved heart and that’s the subject of today’s podcast episode. Women have asked me how to handle their unsaved kids especially when estranged. That’s a worthy question and one that resonates with every Christian mom around the world. I've sometimes overstepped, but always with good intentions. However, your kids will not see it that way. They see it as intrusion into their adult life. A Mom shared with me that she wrote a lengthy letter to her unsaved kids in hopes that they might be more open once she was gone. Certainly, we desire that our kids find a relationship with Christ but pushing or threatening will only drive them further away. Listen in today as I share some of the mistakes I made along with some practical tips that can keep you engaged in the spiritual life of your kids. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/63.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe sting of rejection has been on my mind this week. For Christians, it’s Holy Week and I’ve been thinking about conversations I’ve had with women about estrangement. Moreover, the rejection these women discuss is typically a child who has walked away. Rarely do I speak with anyone where the parent has chosen rejection. Siblings, In-Laws, and other estrangement also sting, but the emotional pain of your child choosing to end a relationship with you is deeply personal and hurtful. Holy week creates an opportunity for you to draw closer to the heart of Jesus. Mocking, false accusations, rejection, loneliness and ultimately a sacrificial death. The good news is Sunday is coming and we know He lives.  Today’s episode relates the sting of an estranged relationship you face with the love and understanding of your heavenly father. Let’s dive in.Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/62.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementAs children of God, we are made for connection. Connecting with another in meaningful relationship is one of the greatest joys of life. Family, friends, and co-workers. Neighbors, Church fellowship, and children’s sporting events are all places we find connection. Conversely, rejection is one of the most painful emotional upheavals that one will ever experience. Abandonment of a relationship runs deep within the soul - cutting through every fiber of your being. If meaningful connection is a beautiful flourishing garden, rejection is an unsightly heap of twigs and branches tied into bundles to be tossed away. You mourn the loss of that once beautiful shrub that bore fruit. The removal of that relationship even briefly damages your soul. Today’s episode is a bit longer and will delve into the relationship of our adult kids who marry, have children, and later reject you as a parent. Specifically, this will deal with daughters-in-law who influence your son and his family. I have some personal experience on this one so grab a coffee or tea and sit with me for a bit. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/61.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementAnxiety and estrangement go hand in hand. As the days and months and years wear on with no relationship with your loved one, it’s hard to be anything but anxious. Will you ever see them again? Do they think of you or miss you? Do you replay the last conversation you had over and over wondering what could’ve been different? A dear friend lost contact with her adult child and grandchildren years ago. She mourns for this loss and grieves these dear relationships every day. Anxiety spills over into everyday life and you may find yourself wondering when the next shoe will drop. If that resonates, sit with me today and let’s explore what that looks like and what you can do about it. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/60.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement due to one’s faith is on the rise given the world situation. No doubt you have witnessed the great divide in families over religion and politics.  As a Christian woman, you are navigating an estranged relationship with a loved one that may be due to something completely unrelated to your faith. However, as the conflict increases, eventually it turns to an attack on your faith. How do you respond to that? Do you defend your faith in estrangement? Do you stick to the root cause? Tune in with me today as I talk about this complicated issue that many women are faced with today. I’ll give you some biblical strategies to help lead you to peaceful solutions. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/59.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementAttempts at managing your thoughts can be an exercise in futility. Yet it’s essential to maintain healthy emotions when dealing with estranged relationships. If you’re like me, you’re well on the trip to nowhere before you discover your thought process was hijacked. Have you ever started reading and all of a sudden, your thoughts have taken off in a completely unrelated direction? Well, you aren’t alone. Distractions do that and it happens to the best of us. Today I want to share three tips to manage thoughts that will help you find your way back to a healthy highway. It will take some practice, but I assure you it will be worth the effort. Ready? Buckle up and let’s go. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/58.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementGrit and Grace are two key components when you find yourself navigating an estranged relationship. Often these two attributes come later in the estrangement when you’ve suffered through many negative emotions.What if you could learn the biblical principles of grit and grace early on and shorten the cycle of emotional pain? Would you be willing to sit with God and allow him to change your perspective?  Grit is the constant irritation that creates friction in the relationship. Grace comes along side and softens the painful open wound that begins the process of healing. Join me today as I talk about the grit and grace of estranged relationships.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/57.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementHealing brokenness in an estranged relationship is a lengthy process. Today I’ll talk about three-steps that center around these attributes. Reconcile. Restore. Rebuild.  You already know that reconciliation requires two parties and not everyone arrives at this decision simultaneously. Consequently, many women give up far too early.  While one may not be ready right now, it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to pray and begin to work on your part. Brokenness brings many emotions to the forefront and working toward reconciliation takes time, commitment, and effort. Even if you are the only one working on it at the time. Whether you are in the midst of this process or just thinking about it, listen in today for concrete steps to heal your brokenness. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/56.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementTransformation is a beautiful word. Changing something so that its appearance is completely different and noticeable. You may wonder what this has to be with estranged relationships but stay with me. It’s a foundational principle you won’t want to miss. We’ve recently relocated and the gardening beds were unsightly. Grass had grown up into the river rock; shoots were sprouting where they weren’t supposed to and it was evident that neglect had taken its toll. The gardener explained the process required to restore and transform the beds into a beautiful garden that we would enjoy. Painstaking was the word I used to describe this to my husband. But it made sense and it paralyses into the work that you and I grapple with to prepare our hearts for eventual reconciliation and restoration. Ready to do some gardening today? Listen in as I offer pivotal tips on loosening the soil in your heart. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/55.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementIt’s hard to have hope when your child walks away, but that is exactly where your strength lies. Without hope you’re lost. Thoughts go awry and that leads to a slippery slope you want to avoid. But it’s hard, right? When phone calls and text messages go unanswered. And they believe you are the enemy when your heart is breaking into with love for them. For me, estrangement lasted several years and more than once I lost hope. Furthermore, it seemed impossible that restoration would come. Everything was going against me. Until I realized something that turned it all around. Settle in with me today as I share that truth with you. Let’s get rolling with today’s episode. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/54.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementToday I have a Valentine’s Message for the Estranged Heart. If you’re listening, then it’s for you. Love is worth celebrating. And for those with an estranged relationship, it may be feelings of sadness as you reflect on love lost. Well, cheer up my friend, I have a love message for you today. No matter what you are feeling today, there is one that loves you deeply. Who has promised to never leave you. A rock that where you can find shelter, refuge, and peace. Settle in and listen to a message about this great love for you.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/53.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementGood morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child. My experience certainly included an adult child, but it was more than that and I'm finding that many of you struggle with it too. Next generation relationships such as daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, grandkids, great grandkids and other complex family members.And, the realization that I could replay those hurtful conversations all day long and feel justified in my resentment but it didn't move the needle toward peace one iota!The only thing that I could change was me and I wanted to reconnect with God and start the process of working on my growth. My peace. And that's where you'll find a newly tweaked website at www.beckykolb.com. I hope you'll check it out and send me some feedback on what you want to hear and how you want to move this peace in your life to full throttle! Connect at www.beckykolb.com/contact.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementI’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement with a loved one. I’m betting that you, like many others, are elated the holidays are behind you and the emotional pain goes dormant until the next trigger such as a birthday. My friend, are you tired of living like that? Do you long to find peace? Lasting peace to fill your heart so that there isn’t room for the pain? I have a solution for you so settle in and let’s explore this together. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/50.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementDo you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding. And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well. Today let’s consider what God is saying to you in these intense emotional days and months. I’ll share a story that I think you’ll relate to about being in the crucible and the amazing work that God is doing in you right now. Ask God to open your spiritual ears and eyes and let’s dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/49. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementMove on - how many times have you heard that phrase? Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just flip a switch and close the door on hurtful relationships?  For so many, the estranged relationship involves a family member, and it isn’t so easy to just walk away and close the door. So, how do you move on? I feel your pain and if you’re like me you’ve closed that door so many times, only to crack it open now and then. My husband and I are in the process of a big move from Arizona to Texas and the term move on has brought new light to estrangement that I want to share with you. Turn off distractions and stay tuned for today’s message. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/48.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementHave you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged.  Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing some days. Seeking to follow God, you try to forgive only to be reminded of the wrongs and once again you deal with those negative emotions. Today, I want to go a little deeper to share the impacts of estrangement and offer some tips to help you address those hurtful areas. You can find peace but sometimes it involves revisiting places you would rather avoid. Stay tuned and let’s walk through this together – one sister to another. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/47.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementSurrender and cooperation are two words that helped me discover the peace I was seeking as I experienced estrangement in a relationship. Admittedly, these are not two words we readily think about. Surrender conjures up the thought of giving up control. Cooperation may not be as fearful depending on what we are being asked to cooperate with. Whatever you are struggling with today, I want to encourage you and help you discover peace. If you are estranged today from someone you care about, no doubt you struggle with guilt, shame, anger, resentment, right?  I’ve been there and the passage from scripture I’ll share with you today is a game changer. Stay tuned and let’s dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/46.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementHealing your emotions is critical when you are estranged. And its hard work that will take time and commitment.  Take a moment to think about the emotions you’ve experienced in the last few days when you think about the person with whom you are estranged. Do you feel disappointed? Sadness? Anger? Resentment? Bitterness? Do you feel the need to defend yourself? Do you wonder why it happened? Do you have imaginary conversations in your head with the other person? My friend, all of that is commonplace when you are estranged from a loved one. Let’s unpack some of these emotions today and learn how to begin to heal you. Because it is essential before you can have a healthy relationship with that person. Ready? Let’s go! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/45.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementIf you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes. You replay the hurt over and over so much the record is warped and scratched. Yet you really want to forgive – or you don’t. But you know that you want to get unstuck and move on. How? That’s the question that I struggled with and many women tell me they do too. Let’s dive into today’s episode and figure it out together. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/44.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementLearning to be vulnerable is daunting in the best of circumstances. But when you have estranged relationships, it can be downright paralyzing.  Vulnerability is akin to giving someone access to your innermost thoughts and emotions. And for good reasons, it isn’t wise to give everyone that privilege. Wisdom and discernment are critical.  Timing is also a key component. You must be ready emotionally when you are ready to open yourself to someone because you don’t know how they might respond to you. Vulnerability is for you. When you’ve fully prepared to step out of your comfort zone with your heart and soul, it can be incredibly freeing. And it can also open new wounds if you aren’t. So, today we’ll look at learning to be vulnerable with respect to estrangement. And I’ll share some of my own strategies – what worked as well as what didn’t. Ready? Let’s go. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/43.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementBlended families and estrangement often go hand in hand. But are they more prone to estranged relationships? Research says not necessarily. However, they do face more unique challenges and that can morph into estrangement. Are you part of a blended family that is facing difficulties and even amid estrangement already?Today we’ll dive into some of the challenges you face, how to successfully navigate them and what to do when it all goes sideways.  Let’s imagine we are sitting together with a cup of tea or coffee and dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/42.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementLimiting core beliefs affects your mindset and your overall health. And these core beliefs in estrangement can keep you stuck and unable to get into a healthy place. Think in terms of whether I can’t, I will never, or I should. When you are in an estranged relationship it’s easy to let your mind go to extremes. If you were talking with a friend, you might notice and assure and reframe their issues. But it’s harder to do when you are the one feeling guilt, shame, or isolation. The negative self-talk reinforces the lies you believe. Today, we will explore some limiting core beliefs, and I’ll help you restructure and challenge them. Let’s get rolling! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/41.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementWho you are becoming is vital in discovering peace in estranged relationships. And estrangement can lock you in a mental prison so that at times you don’t even know who you are anymore. Triggers create a response that you later regret and you are mired in guilt. At times it feels as though you take one step forward and two steps back. You wonder if you will ever get over the pain of separating from your child, sibling, or another family member. And all this keeps you from knowing or doing what God has called you to do I have good news for you, my friend. Estrangement is where God can do his finest work in you. You’ll want to stay tuned today so let’s dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/40.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe top 3 causes of estrangement based on research studies help you understand not only why it happens but the impact on relationships. Estrangement is something that many just don’t talk about. You may perceive it as a stigma as many do. The concept of family evokes illusions of happy times, gathering for holidays and celebrations and giving and receiving support. And yet with 70 million people estranged in the western world, that perception just isn’t reality. Today, we’ll explore the top 3 causes of estrangement so settle in and let’s dive into today’s episode. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/39.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementFamily conflict is on the rise as I am hearing from women in many circles. In recent years, politics, religion, and a host of other topics are dividing families more than ever. I personally experienced that a few months ago when a conflict arose and it turned into a personal attack on perceived religious and political beliefs.  Are you experiencing it too? Families once able to gather at the dinner table and discuss happenings are now unfriending one another on social media. They’ve offered ultimatums and loved ones are splintered. How do you navigate these perilous times with family and friends that you love? We’ll talk more about that in today’s episode. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/38. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementFinding calmness in the storms of life can be quite difficult. I grew up in Texas right in the middle of a tornado alley. Sirens blare warning people a storm is coming and advising them to seek shelter.  Sometimes storms of life come with warning bells. The winds of anger and bitterness blow against you. Harsh words are spoken. False accusations are made, and you’re left with wounds that injure your soul. Other times the storms come unexpectedly.  Such was the case when Jesus told the disciples to get in the boat and cross over to the other side of the sea. They did exactly what he told them to do and yet the waves crashed in a storm that threatened their lives.  Today I want to encourage you as you may be in the center of God’s will for your life wondering why the storms rage. Stay tuned for more on how to anchor your soul. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/37.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement and feelings often create an emotional train wreck. How are you feeling today? When people ask that question, you know that they don’t really want to hear that you are upset, sad, disappointed. They are just being nice. The real question is do you know what you are feeling? Can you identify it by name? It’s harder than you may think. You see, estrangement creates opportunities for us to bury our feelings. You may turn to other things to distract and numb what you feel.Suddenly angry outbursts may leave you wondering where that came from. Tears that seem to fall for no reason cause you to think you’re losing it. The good news is you aren’t. I want to share some things with you about feelings and emotions that I’ve learned that I think you’ll want to hear.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/36. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementTrying to get through Mother’s Day with estranged kids is akin to living a terrible nightmare. Years ago, I remember dreading the holiday. While everyone was receiving flowers, chocolates, cards, and loving attention, I bawled my eyes out. My kids were estranged following my divorce and other circumstances surrounding that event. Was I really a terrible mother? Rather than being a day to celebrate, it was one that I wanted to end quickly. Does that resonate with you? I feel your pain. I’ve lived it and knew how badly it hurts. And I have some encouragement for you to get through this Mother’s Day. Sit back, relax and let’s go. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/35.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementFamily estrangement may be one of the toughest tests you will face in life. People say that death of a loved one is more difficult, and I do not discount that one. But estrangement is the death of a relationship whether it’s a child, parent, or beloved family member. You may feel as though you are hanging on by a thread and the slightest movement will cause a break that will send you crashing downward. Estranged relationships. I have been to that breaking point and I know how it feels. Today’s message will shift your perspective on how to view this estrangement so that you can begin to repair that broken and frayed thread and find strength and healing for your soul. Ready to dive in? Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/34.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementForgiveness feeds your soul just as food feeds the body. That statement and what I’m about to share with you will change the trajectory of your life. Living with estrangement sucks the life right out of you. Triggers pound on the door of your heart out of nowhere. Emotions follow and you find yourself in a dark place. Questioning your self-worth. Wondering what others think. Spiraling downward. What I’m about to share with you is a simple thing but it is difficult to do. It requires getting yourself out of the way and letting God transform your heart. Surrender and see what happens. Let’s roll with today’s episode. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/33.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementAll things are possible with God scripture says. But do you believe it? Estrangement causes you to doubt that promise because you see no hope. Every effort you make seems fruitless. Day after day wears on with no resolution. Hope is something everyone desires, and it often seems elusive. Consequently, you lower your expectations and give it up. Doing so seems easier than the constant disappointment you experience. I understand that cycle and today’s message is intended to encourage you to reclaim God’s promise that he can in fact do all things no matter how impossible it may seem to you. Let’s jump in with both feet! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/32.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe greatest gift I ever received was to rediscover God through estrangement. That may sound crazy. Estranged relationships cause you to feel isolated, devalued, and unworthy and so it seems unlikely that God would reach out and pursue you. But that’s exactly what I experienced, and it was life changing. Do you feel alone? Misunderstood? Judged? Do you avoid church for some of those reasons? Has your self-esteem been shattered so that you feel you have nothing of value to offer?This episode is for you. Whether you feel guilt, shame, anger, alone or bitter, I offer hope to you through a relationship that is like no other. One that promises to never leave or forsake you. Ready? Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/31.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement often follows a plethora of misunderstandings and judgments, and I’ll bet you’ve been on one end of the spectrum in a relationship. As I began to think about this episode, I pondered a conversation I had with a woman recently. She wasn’t sure how her family situation had deteriorated to the point it had, but as she shared her story, it became evident that misunderstandings were notably at issue. And with those came judgment and then a wedge developed so widely that she doubted the relationships could ever be repaired and restored. Does that ring true with you? Today I’ll share some examples of this and strategies that you can employ to maintain your own peace of mind. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/30.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementFalse accusations often arise in estranged relationships and may be the origin of the estrangement. Unless you are equipped with a mind shift to navigate these hurtful times, it is unlikely that the relationship will improve. A strong back bone and thick skin along with a sincere desire to manage the conflict in a godly way are needed to push through the emotional pain and frustration. Are you weary of trying to make things work? Do you feel like a water hose constantly putting out fires that others start? You’re ready to admit defeat because it just isn’t working. This podcast is for you. We’ll talk about misunderstandings, outright false accusations and what you can do about it. Get comfortable as we dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/29.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement, false accusation, guilt, and shame are not conducive to living a God honoring life. When you are constantly living with accusation from family, friends, kids or whomever it creates disappointment, bitterness and even anger. You bring it before God and pray that he will help you deal with it in the right way, but human nature enters and so does angry words. Sometimes those four-letter ones and that causes you to feel guilty as you wonder how those things come out of your mouth.  When false accusations are hurled, you feel the need to justify and soon you’re all tangled up in a mess trying to figure out how you got there. Oh, my dear friend, I know exactly how you feel. And today, I hope to encourage you so stay tuned as we jump in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/28.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementLearning to trust God as father is not easy when you’ve been abandoned, rejected, or treated harshly by your earthly one. As one whose biological father abandoned her and an adopted father treated her harshly, I struggled to trust God as my heavenly father. Do you struggle with that concept too? I wanted to believe what scripture said about his love, compassion, and mercy, but it wasn’t my experience growing up. And so, I struggled. Estrangement takes a toll on relationships, especially if it’s with your father. That makes it even harder to trust. In this episode, I’ll talk about these wounds and how to trust God as father. One who promises to never leave or forsake you. Let’s dive in. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/27.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementToday I'm talking to my awesome audience with a short message. I've published 26 episodes now and the response has been staggering. Although I do know what countries my listeners come from, I don't know much more.So, today I am asking a favor. Would you take a minute to contact me and tell me what has resonated with you most. What topics would you like to hear? Where do you struggle the most? Identity, confidence, emotional pain?You can reach out to me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.beckykolb.com and select the contact tab at the top. Either will reach me directly.And don't worry about anyone else seeing it. I'm the only one in this coaching ministry and anything you say or send to me is strictly confidential.Thanks so much for helping me.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementNothing hurts more than a broken heart. Emotional pain is often more damaging than any physical pain. And sadly, it is most painful when it’s created by a family member. Because that is intended to inflict brokenness.A friend can betray you and while it creates disappointment and anger, the emotion intensifies when it’s someone in your family. Why is that? Because it’s family. And we expect them to have our back, love us and give us some grace. It’s often just the opposite. Ending a relationship is much simpler with a friend than a family member, often leaving you vulnerable and stuck. Well, stick with me today and I’ll share some strategies to discover peace even when your heart is broken into pieces. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/26.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementWhat comes to mind when you think of the word closure? One definition is the act or process of closing something such as a relationship with an estranged person in your life. Does that sound negative to you? What emotions does it evoke? Another definition states that closure brings a sense of peace, understanding and release that comes with accepting that a relationship has ended. That’s the one I will focus on today. Closure in this instance is focused upon the relationship ending. Think of that relationship that has created so much pain in your life. Do you want that relationship to continue? Or would you rather focus on rebuilding a new one with that person? Today’s episode is one where I’ll focus on how to close the chapter on that painful relationship as you hand over the pen to God and allow him to write the chapters that follow. Let’s dive in! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/25. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementHow do you move past estrangement so that you can pursue peace? That question came to me recently as I pondered what topics I could share with my audience of women dealing with estrangement. It came through a devotional I read that joy and peace are the doorways for us to live by the power of the Holy Spirit. Joy is a deep-seated contentment found in knowing God’s presence. Peace calms our hearts amid chaos, allowing us to trust in his plans. Only by letting go of the past hurts and emotional pain can we embrace the assurance that God is in control. And that’s really what we want, right? My podcasts up to now have covered many topics around how to manage emotional pain. And if you haven’t gone back to listen, I encourage it. Moving forward, I will focus on how to move past estrangement so that you can discover the lasting peace you desire. And it all starts with letting it go. Stay tuned! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/24.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementIf you’ve had an estranged relationship with someone, chances are you would love it to become a healthy one. Most who have estrangement also have relationships that are fun and enjoyable. You find yourself attracted to those people. You can’t get enough of the joy and love emanating from relationships like that. Yet, the estranged one is part of the mix. Whether a family member, close friend or co-worker, conflict within that connection affects you more than you may realize. Is it even possible the conflictive one could become healthy? What would that look like? Stay tuned to today’s episode where we’ll talk about what healthy relationships look like and how you can ensure you have one with yourself. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/23.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementAre you ready to stop replaying hurtful words that have been spoken to you? It’s a sad but fact that families can say the most hurtful things to one another. And if you’re on the receiving end, it’s hard to get those out of your mind. Have you ever streamed a favorite show or movie, and the dreaded spinning circle appears? It’s called buffering and it is quite annoying.  Hurtful words can be like that when the hurtful words spin in your mind and all you want to do is shut it off and get back to a peaceful life. I’ll talk about that in today’s episode and give you some tips so that you can ground yourself and discover peace. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/22. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementYou’re hurt by words spoken to you by a close friend or family member. It’s a recurring thing. Pain permeates your soul. You may regret words you spoke or hurtful and vulnerable emotions you shared. Where does the relationship go from there? Do you walk away for good this time? Do you keep trying and reaching out? You feel like your heart can’t take much more. You’re stuck.Conflicting emotions rage inside. You love this person, but conflict is at the heart of the relationship. You wonder if it can be resolved. It may be time for hard conversations. If this resonates with you, please stay with me today. I know it will speak to your heart. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/21.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementHappy New Year! We all love new beginnings, right? Out with the old and in with the new is a familiar motto for ringing in a new year. And not much as changed. You’re still estranged from someone you care about. A child, grandchild, sibling, or someone else. You’re hoping that this may be the year it all turns around. The relationship is healed and restored. No more heartache. Same song but different verse. Well, I want to encourage you to shift your mindset and open to the possibility of new beginnings whether that happens. The truth is that relationships may never be restored. It feels like a sore that never heals. Let’s explore some encouragement and hope to make this a truly blessed and hopeful year for you. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/20.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementIt’s a new year. Are you ready to rise above estrangement and adversity and chart a new path for yourself? I’m not talking about establishing new years resolutions. I am talking about revolutionary changes. Change can set your heart free from anxiety and worry about anything and everything. There has never been a better time than now. You’ve just come out of the holidays and may have experienced sadness over loss of relationships. I reached that point in my life and discovered the #1 relationship that could transform all others, and I’ll talk about that and offer some strategies for you in today’s episode. Are you ready to close the door to the things that cause you grief, sadness, shame, and worry? Are you ready to rise on the winds of adversity? Let’s roll! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/19.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementI have a gift for the estranged in today’s episode. After all, it’s the gift giving season, right? Estrangement creates sadness and accentuates that we feel unloved and unwanted. I am hopeful that you’ve read my story of estranged relationships. It’s on my website. Would it surprise you to know that not all my relationships have been restored? Like you, I struggle at this time of year when families gather. We see and hear about families gathering with laughter, hugs, and happiness. And we think we’re the only ones suffering with estrangement. First, that’s a lie. 70 million people live with estrangement. Secondly, social media is not your friend. People only post what they want others to see. No one posts about their crazy aunt and her disturbing antics. Or the father who failed to show for his kids. Or the drunk relative who always makes a scene. So, grab your favorite beverage, sit back, and unwrap the gift I want to give you today. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/18. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide