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Marriage Lab — 143 episodes
The trap of "Main character" energy
"I told you so..." is sabotaging your marriage
Generosity: The Marriage Value We’ve Been Rethinking
The Nerdy Path to Connection
User Error of Hope- if "have hope" feels like a chore
Never Enough: how your inner critic PRETENDS to be your coach
When you're emotionally raw, don't crowdsource your worth....
Don't ask triggered people BIG questions
How calls with your spouse go sideways (& how to fix it)
Stop Calling Strategies “Needs”
Understanding Yourself Without Staying Stuck
Divine Intervention: Amy's story- Divorced & Remarried
Different Flavors of Comfort in Families ( feat: Rosie Zint)
The Dopamine Hunt behind 6,7 : how to harness joy grows where attention goes
Stuck in the Same Fight: how naming patterns can break the cycles
Rethinking Relative Visits
But first...Curiosity
Can you put sex on the calendar?
When teasing turns toxic: scoffs & sarcasm- the slow drip of contempt
Steps to Move From Rumination > to > Processing
Ruminating vs Processing
The Do's & Don'ts of Processing w/ Your Spouse
Are you forgiving wrong?
When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack
When Pain spoils into offense
Special Episode: Moved by Love: the secret to sharing Jesus
Passivity isn't a fruit of the spirit
Date Fail Debrief: Control Freak & Shut Down
You, Me &… Nobody Else?- isolation in marriage
16 Questions for your next date night
Slow Miracles
Welcome back, now what?
Avoiding Birthday Blues & Blowouts
You're Blocking Your Own Connection (Without Even Realizing It)
Internal vs External Processing Styles
The Compassion Cup vs. The Identity Cup: A Marriage Game-Changer
Ditch the "Courtroom" tactics in conflict
What to do when your spouse is triggered
The Four Typical Triggered Responses
The Science of "Triggered"
What You Feed Grows: how our small choices are creating big spiritual transformation
Scientist vs Judge: Curiosity over Contempt
Peaceful holiday plans for couples with different opinions
When Logic Turns to Emotion
The Best Way to be Heard by Your Spouse
The Successful Order of Navigating Conflict
Connection for Empty Nesters
How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 2
How to change the culture in your marriage Pt 1
Change your marriage: what your spouse needs the most
Is your spouse pushing your buttons? Conflict & Boundaries in Action
Behind the Highlight Reel: not falling for comparison in social media
Breaking Free from Passivity: Empowering Your Marriage with Intentional Action
Reconnecting Through the Everyday: Small Habits, Big Impact
Unmasking Defensiveness: Identify your protective patterns
Will my needs ever get met? w/ Jordan & Claire
Control in Marriage
4 tips to move out of "roommate mode" back into an intimate connection with your spouse
Resentment vs Investment | What I wish I knew Part 3
Love Language User Error | What I Wish I Knew Pt 2
Debunking "Don't go to bed angry" | What I Wish I Knew Pt 1
Porn Addiction in Marriage Pt 3: the Spouse's Perspective
Porn in Marriage Pt 2: Understanding Porn Addiction
Porn in Marriage Pt 1: Three Unpopular Opinions About Porn
How to Stop Fighting Over Stupid Stuff
Fairness: The Connection Killer
Deconstructing Gender Roles with Megan & Dalen Philp
10 Helpful Beliefs About Sharing Pain
7 Unhelpful Beliefs About Sharing Pain
Breakthrough IS Possible : w/ Anna & Alan Mullikin
Pastoring a Church Together in Marriage w/ Joaquin & Renee Evans
Genuine Apologies in Marriage
Forgiving Your Spouse
Part of Me Feels...While Another Part Feels...
Tools for Connection: Joy Memories & Appreciation
Creating a Refreshing Weekend: what it means to truly rest with family
The Growth Path of Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles w/ Serena Angeli
When Your Spouse is Stuck
Creating Habits of Connection in Your Marriage with Autumn & Andrew
Growing Individually to Grow Together w/ Ryan & Jessica
Crisis of Faith: my story of choosing God while uncertain
Self-Compassion: Why it's necessary to live in wholeness
Habits of Health: Fitness in Marriage
Feeling Lonely in Household Chores Pt 2: Post Therapy Discoveries
Feeling Lonely in Household Chores: Aaron & Jenna's Hard Conversation Pt 1
How to Vacation Well in Marriage
Navigating Friendships in Adulthood Pt 2 w/ Eli & Michelle (our besties)
Navigating Friendships in Adulthood Pt 1
ADHD in Marriage: navigating differences in time management, memory recall and focus
No Apology Needed: why vulnerably sharing doesn't require require an apology or change
Stories of Life Change from the Habit Lab with Stacey & Tyler Cook
Blame or Shame: The Nuances of Defensiveness
Keeping Your Heart Soft in a Hard Conversation w/ Aaron & Jenna
That's What She Said: a tool for regulating by telling yourself a better story w/ Jenna & Aaron
From Volatile to Vulnerable w/ Chris and Morgan Nicholson
Pursuing Dreams in Marriage w/ Sam & Rebekah LaRobardiere
Loving on Purpose: Connection, Communication & Boundaries w/ Danny & Sheri Silk
Connection Codes: Processing Sexual Emotion with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
The Obstacles & Practice of Vulnerability w/ Aaron & Jenna
Intentional Movement into Change, Growth & the Unknown w/ Aaron & Jenna
Undoing Passivity in Marriage w/ Derek & Becky Johnson
I can be in pain & no one is to blame w/ Jenna & Aaron
Learning Safety w/ Jeff & Betsy Kalte
Money in Marriage: finding a place of steady even when your finances are not w/ Aaron & Jenna
Healing from Sexual Trauma w/ Caitlin & Cole Zick
The Gift of Heartbreak: how a brand new life can come from the devastation of an affair w/ Gabriel & Debbie Mayes
No Bad Parts: getting to know our internal protectors w/ Aaron & Jenna
Freedom to Choose w/ Aaron & Jenna
From Rescuer/Victim to Powerful/Powerful with Angelo & McKenzie
Questioning Our Normals As Absolute Truth w/ Aaron & Jenna
Habits of Connection: Debunking All-or-Nothing with Aaron & Jenna
Season 2 Finale: Keys to Start Healing Your Triggers and Your Marriage w/ Aaron & Jenna
Engaging the Scientist Instead of the Judge: how curiosity leads to real change and shame doesn't w/ Aaron & Jenna
Comfortable with Discomfort (I can be in pain & be okay) with Dave & Jules Hill
Thriving Life After the Death of a Spouse with Michael & Lisa Kunz
Sugar is my Porn: Addiction, Comfort and Kindness with Aaron & Jenna
Let's Be on the Same Team with Aaron & Casey Tesauro
Connection Codes: Sexual Friendship and Q&A with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Balancing Work and Rest w/ Shaun & Jessie Boyd
Sharing Needs with Matthew & Katie Hale
Grieving and Trust in Marriage with Peter & Clare Mattis
Divorce and Blending a Family w/ Jason & Lauren Vallotton
Chaos and Connection in a Busy Season with a Sick Kid w/ Aaron & Jenna
In the Middle of the Process with Doug & Katrina
Not Being a Victim to Your Spouse with Dave and Katelyn
Intimacy That Leads to Sex with Pete & Esther
Dear Young Married Couple with Adam & Karissa King
Questions Your Spouse Isn't Meant to Answer with Emily & Sam
Adoption Heartache & Hope with Jaclyn & Micheal
When Our Energies Don't Match with Aaron & Jenna
Season Finale: Communication & Conflict with Aaron & Jenna Zint
Hurt People Hurt People with Jordan & Elise
What's the Goal of Your Marriage with Ben & Brittney Serpell
Connection Codes with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill
Empathetic Listening with Ben & Sheena
Sex and Porn with Emily & Aaron
Pain Behind the Problem with Mollie & Peter
There's Always Hope with Charity & Geo
Being Honest with Eric & Candace Johnson
Prioritizing Connection with Eric & Sadie
When Opposites Attract with Jenna & Aaron
Prequel: This is Us
Asking Hard Questions with Jess & Andrew