Quit Porn with Hunter Clark

Trying harder isn't the answer. Here are a few tips on how to quit without white knuckling or gritting your way through this. 

The goal isn't to become less sexual...In fact most of you that have tried know that isn't possible. So what do we do with it?How do we manage it?How could we use it to help our lives rather than hurt it?

Why does everyone say you need an accountability partner but no one seems to actually follow through with it? Could accountability partners make it worse?How should one communicate with spouse about this issue?How do we keep accountability without shame?

I am still a student... I messed up last weekHere's what I learned from it 

What is the fastest way to quit?I believe its easier than trying to white kuckle out of it but it does require understanding why men turn to porn in the first place. We dive into in this episode. If you've been struggling with this and can't seem to find a way out of it lets hop on a call and see where you are at, and what is keeping you stuck. Book here --> https://sunlightjourney.com/discovery-call-booking

I post about porn. People get mad (mostly women)So we’re reading the hate comments and talking about why this topic triggers people so much.If you or a loved one is stuck in this cycle I would love to hop on a call and chat about what real freedom could look like. Book here! https://sunlightjourney.com/discovery-call-booking

In this episode, my wife and I dive deep into the topic of masturbation and tackle some of the questions a lot of people are scared to ask. We talk about whether masturbation is actually good or bad, and if there’s a way to use it in relationships without it hurting intimacy. We also break down how to quit the habit when it’s become unhealthy and how to approach it without shame.If you’re curious about learning more or want to walk through this with us in a supportive program, DM us at @_hunter.clark.

In this episode of Sunlight me and my wife dive into the 5 biggest mistakes guys make when trying to quit porn. I share some hard truths from my own journey like why counting your days clean doesn’t actually mean you’re healed and tell a story from a BYU event that totally changed how I thought about freedom from porn. We keep it real, spicy, and full of wisdom for anyone trying to actually move past old habits without feeling trapped.

In this episode I talk about how to harness sexual energy in a way that actually moves your life forward. You can use it to create deeper connection with your wife or to build your mission and the life you want. I also dive into AI pornography, what it means for men, how to handle it, and where our world might be heading with this new technology. This one is a mix of the personal and the futuristic and it will get you thinking about how you want to use your energy going forward.

Porn is everywhere and quitting feels impossible, right? In this episode, I break down 5 fundamentals that actually work to overcome lust and porn in 2025. I share what’s really going on, why shame is holding you back, and the last one might surprise you. 

In this episode, I share how I naturally raised my testosterone from 280 to 650—and it’s not what you think. We dive into the fundamentals of testosterone, the hidden impact of emotional stress, and how doing deep inner work—not just lifting weights or taking supplements played a massive role. If you’ve been grinding in the gym but still feel off, this one’s for you.

In this episode, Sarah and I dive into what it actually looks like to work as a team when overcoming bad habits. We’ve both seen how challenging it can be for couples dealing with this kind of struggle—often, communication falls short, and it’s hard to show up for each other in the right way. Through our own trial and error, we've learned a lot, and we’re sharing those lessons with you today. Whether it’s building trust, setting boundaries, or simply being there for each other when things get tough, we cover what really works for us. If you’re a couple navigating this journey, this one’s for you!

In this episode, I get real about what sacred sex really means. I talk about why sex before marriage is something I’ve thought deeply about, and how it’s not just about the physical act but the deep connection that happens between two people. I also dive into why hookup culture and porn are messing up that sacred connection, turning something meant to bond us at the soul level into something shallow. If you’ve ever wondered why intimacy feels empty or disconnected, this episode is for you. Let’s break it down and reclaim what intimacy was meant to be.

In this episode, we dive deep into the real meaning of intimacy. It's not just about sex, as we once thought. We break down how intimacy goes far beyond physical connection, exploring how shared laughs, heartfelt conversations, and emotional vulnerability with anyone, partner or friend are all forms of true intimacy. We also talk about how hiding things blocks real connection. Listen in as we dive into the true essence of intimacy and how it can transform your relationships on a deeper level.

In this episode of Spouse Talk, we talk about why it's important to teach healthy sexuality instead of ignoring it. We share ideas on how the LDS Church could make their programs like the 12-step program, better for helping people with pornography. We believe that healing in addiction to being more  spiritual its about understanding and taking care of our whole selves. From what we've learned from personal experience we think these changes could really help. We love the church, and we believe this could make a big difference.If you know anyone who is struggling with porn, please tell them to DM me on Instagram. We have some free resources that I think could really help, and I would love to support them on their journey.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into 3 simple yet game-changing hacks that have genuinely transformed my life. This isn’t the usual fluff or gimmicks you hear about, these are real, practical strategies you can start applying today. No bs, just stuff that actually works.

In today’s episode, we answered questions from our Instagram, and wow—we got some really interesting ones!We talked about things like:What do we think about a spouse masturbating?How can you support a spouse who watches porn?Is there such a thing as ethical porn?What to do when you are bored of sex with your partner? How do we feel about posting pictures of our daughter online, especially when we’re talking about something as sensitive as pornography?We’re not experts—just sharing from our own experience. But this was a really fun episode to record, and we loved getting to talk about these big topics!

In this episode, we dive into how pregnancy transformed Sarah’s mental health, our intimacy, and my entire perspective on attraction. We talk about how sex changed during and after pregnancy, whether masturbation is okay when intimacy slows down, and the advice we wish we had before this journey. It’s raw, real, and the conversation no one prepares you for.

In this episode, we dive into The Drop, Breath Method—the most effective, research-backed way to quit any unwanted habit, whether it’s porn, overeating, or anything else that feels out of control. I break down exactly how it works, why it’s different from willpower-based approaches, and how it rewires your brain to make quitting feel much easier. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of trying and failing, this episode will change everything for you.

n this episode, we talk about how true freedom comes from being able to say both yes and no to whatever habit you want to quit. That’s right—fully allowing yourself can actually help you stop. I also share how I couldn’t quit porn for my wife or the church—it had to be for me. And once I made that shift, everything got so much easier. We also dive into the real benefits I’ve seen since quitting—like a confidence boost, more energy and motivation, and greater satisfaction in my marriage and sex life. 

In this episode, we explore the topic of attraction and how acknowledging it has actually brought us closer, making us even more drawn to each other. We also tackle the dreaded "D-word"... divorce. While Sarah and I are in a great place in our marriage, discussing divorce actually strengthened our relationship. It shifted our mindset from feeling obligated to stay together to consciously choosing each other every day.

This episode is a game-changer. We dive into three eye-opening studies that could completely change the way you think about porn recovery—not just for yourself, but for future generations too. It’s not about white-knuckling your way through with suppression, avoidance, or sheer discipline anymore. We break down why that old model fails and explore how a more mindful, accepting approach can actually set you free. If you’re ready to stop fighting against yourself and start building real freedom, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.

In this episode, we talk about the wild back-and-forth of the TikTok ban and how it's back on now. We also dive into why banning porn sites or OnlyFans would never really work. Instead, we explain why the real work should focus on the demand—helping people change what they want, not just blocking the supply. Plus, we share how meditation has played a big role in both of our journeys and how it’s helped us grow. It’s a fun and honest conversation. 

Today, we’re talking about how Utah and several other states have effectively shut down one of the largest porn sites on the internet.... or... was it Pornhub that left Utah? We dive into the details, breaking down the pros and cons of this decision. While it might sound like a win at first, we talk about why it might not be as beneficial as you think. 

In this episode, my wife and I talk about how we handle feeling attracted to other people while being married. Nobody ever told us this was something we’d deal with, we thought once we got married, those feelings would just go away. Guess what... they didn’t.After lots of trying and learning, we found a way to make it work—and even have fun with it. The big secret? Learning to feel confident in ourselves and not trying to control each other.We’re also watching Love Island Australia right now, and we joke about our “TV crushes” If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with stuff like this in marriage without it being weird or stressful, this episode is for you! 4o

Today, we dive into a fun conversation with one of my good friends, Conner Howell. We met as college roommates at BYU-I and opened up to each other about our struggles with pornography. It's been interesting to see each other grow and get married.We share funny stories about early pornography exposure and discuss how to navigate unwanted porn use in marriage. Conner recently went through my program and learned some valuable lessons that shifted his relationship with pornography, which in turn has led to an overall decrease in his desire to view it.If you enjoy this episode, consider leaving a review.

My struggle with porn wasn’t just my struggle—it brought up things for Sarah, too. In this episode, we get real about how my habit revealed some deep stuff she needed to work through with her own body image.She shares how she used to think sexy meant looking a certain way—what the world says is “hot.” But real sexiness? She had to find that for herself, in her own way. We talk about what that looked like and how it changed our relationship for the better.And for the guys still struggling, we wrap up with some quick, no-BS tips to actually break free from porn. Let’s get into it.

Porn used to be something you had to go find. Now? It’s finding you. Everywhere you scroll, it’s sneaking into your feed. In this episode, we talk about how porn is shifting from something you search for to something that searches you.We also dive into the world of OnlyFans—how much money creators are really making and if it’s worth it. Yeah, they’re getting rich, but at what cost? Is trading your peace of mind for cash really a win? Sarah and I break it all down, from the insane paychecks to the hidden struggles no one talks about.Let’s get into it.

In this episode, my wife and I talk about why so many Americans watch more porn during Christmas. We also explain how social media can pull guys into porn without them even realizing it. We share the benefits we’ve seen from taking breaks from social media and setting limits. Plus, we give tips on how to stop wasting time doom scrolling.

In today’s episode, I sit down with my good friend Logan Taylor, who went through my program and has experienced some incredible breakthroughs. We dive into his story, from how it all innocently started to hilarious missionary moments, and the progress he’s made in his marriage since tackling his habits.While we’re addressing the serious topic of porn, we intentionally keep the conversation light and engaging—because growth doesn’t have to be heavy. This episode is packed with insights, laughs, and inspiration for anyone looking to make positive changes in their life.

In this episode, my wife and I dive into the question: What does it actually mean to be "porn-free"? Does it mean never slipping up again, or is there more to it than striving for perfection? Spoiler: It's not about being perfect.We unpack how chasing toxic perfectionism can do more harm than good and share practical ways to measure real success without the guilt spiral. You'll hear insights from my journey, including the tools and mindset shifts that have made the biggest difference in breaking free from porn—without letting unrealistic standards hold me back. Whether you're on the path to freedom yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode will give you new perspectives and actionable steps to redefine what "success" really looks like.

In this episode, we dive into a surprising statistic: Americans consume significantly more porn the day after Thanksgiving than almost any other day of the year. We unpack why this happens—looking at the unique combination of stress, family dynamics, and holiday indulgence that might drive this behavior.I also share where I’m at on my personal journey with breaking free from porn, reflecting on the challenges and breakthroughs I’ve had along the way. We talk about what’s helped me the most, including the mindset shifts and tools that made lasting progress possible. Whether you’re on this journey or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with insights and encouragement for navigating the ups and downs.

n this episode, I share my personal journey of struggling with porn while being married—a story I used to be ashamed to tell. I talk about the moments where I felt like I was failing as a husband, letting my wife down, and questioning if I’d ever be able to quit. But here’s the truth: being married doesn’t mean you’re broken for struggling, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner. Most of all, it doesn’t mean you’re alone.Married guys, I get it—you’re carrying so much weight. You feel like you should have it all together, that your spouse deserves better, and that this problem makes you unworthy of love. That’s shame talking, and shame is what’s keeping you stuck. The more you bury this, the more it festers, fueling the cycle of guilt, isolation, and slipping back into porn. The key isn’t to punish yourself—it’s to start removing the shame.Here are a few things that helped me:Break the silence:Shame thrives in the dark. Be honest with your partner—not in a way that dumps all the weight on them, but in a way that invites them into your healing journey. And don’t stop there; talk to someone outside your marriage who can give you perspective and support.Understand your triggers:Is it stress, boredom, or disconnection from your spouse? Identify what’s really driving you to seek out porn, and start addressing those deeper issues.Rebuild intimacy:Porn creates distance between you and your partner. Start focusing on small ways to connect—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Intimacy doesn’t start in the bedroom; it starts in the way you show up daily.Forgive yourself:The shame you’re carrying doesn’t serve you or your relationship. Own your mistakes, but don’t let them define you. Forgiveness is key—for yourself and for building trust with your spouse.Finally, I want to remind you to have hope. If you’re still fighting, it means you haven’t given up, and that’s huge. This isn’t about being perfect; it’s about progress. Every step you take toward freedom is a step toward becoming the man and husband you want to be.You’re not alone, and your marriage isn’t doomed because of this. There’s a way forward, and it starts with letting go of the shame and taking the first step. Let’s walk this journey together.4o

In this episode, I open up about my own story—the ups, the downs, and the moments I felt like I’d never get out of the cycle. I talk about how I got caught up in porn as a young kid, thinking it was harmless, and how it slowly became a habit I couldn’t shake. For years, I beat myself up, thinking I was weak, broken, and unworthy of the life I wanted. But here’s what I realized: being hard on yourself only makes it worse.Single guys, let’s be real—you’re way too hard on yourselves. You think because you struggle, it means you’re failing. That’s the shame talking, and it’s shame that keeps you stuck. The truth? Shame fuels the habit. It creates this endless loop of feeling like crap, turning to porn to escape, and then feeling even worse after. You don’t break the cycle by hating yourself—you break it by understanding yourself.I share a few tips and tricks that helped me:Get rid of the shame:Start by being honest with yourself. You’re not a bad person for struggling; you’re human.Open up to someone you trust—a friend, a mentor, or even a community. Being seen and heard is powerful.Replace the habit with something better:Find something that excites or challenges you—hit the gym, pick up a new skill, start journaling, or dive into a creative project. Fill that time and energy with something that helps you grow.Shift how you see porn:Instead of obsessing over quitting, focus on creating a life so fulfilling you don’t feel the need for it anymore.Celebrate progress, not perfection:You’re going to slip up, and that’s okay. It’s about the long game. Every day you take one step forward is a win.Finally, I remind you to have hope. You’re not alone in this, and your story isn’t over. Breaking free doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s absolutely possible. Keep your head up and take it one step at a time. You’re not weak for struggling—you’re stronger than you know for trying to change.

In this episode, Sarah and I tackle a question that’s surprisingly complicated: What even is porn? For most people, the word brings to mind explicit videos on sketchy websites, but the truth is, porn has evolved far beyond that. It’s everywhere—movies, social media, advertisements—blurring the lines of what we define as pornography. We dive into how its accessibility and subtlety have shifted over time, making it harder than ever to navigate, especially in relationships.We also unpack why platforms like Pornhub are banned in places like Utah and what that says about society’s relationship with pornography. Is banning it the solution, or does that just push it further into secrecy? This conversation is all about challenging assumptions and exploring how to approach the topic in a way that’s real and productive. Whether you’re looking to better understand this for yourself or your relationship, this episode is full of insights you won’t want to miss.

In today’s episode, Sarah and I tackle the often-overwhelming topic of handling a relapse together. We’ll share our personal preferences on what to say, how to approach these moments with love and honesty, and why open communication is key. We also dive into a deeper question: What does success really look like in a relationship where one partner occasionally struggles with porn? Is the goal to never slip up again, or could that kind of perfectionism actually cause more harm than good? Join us as we explore how to redefine success, build trust, and create a healthier dynamic in your relationship.

In this episode, I open up about what it was like growing up in the Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints while struggling with a pornography habit. I talk about the things I wish I had learned and how the shame-based approach I experienced only made things worse.We dive into how shame fuels the cycle of addiction, keeping people stuck and feeling like they’re broken or unworthy. The more I hid my struggle, the stronger it got. I share what I think could’ve made a real difference: open, honest conversations, removing the stigma, and learning that messing up doesn’t mean you’re unworthy of love or connection.This episode isn’t about pointing fingers at the church—it’s about imagining how things could be different. How can faith communities help people heal instead of making them feel like their struggles define them? If you’ve ever felt this way or know someone who has, this episode is for you. Let’s break the cycle of shame and start a real conversation.

In this episode, we dive into the often-taboo topic of being attracted to people other than your spouse. We unpack why attraction is a natural, human experience and doesn’t have to threaten your commitment. Learn how to navigate these feelings in a way that strengthens your relationship, builds trust, and deepens your connection with your partner. It’s not about avoiding attraction—it’s about choosing how you respond to it.

In this episode, Porn Isn’t Your Problem – It’s a Symptom of Something Deeper, we’re flipping the script on how you look at porn. What if porn isn’t the real problem but just a way to deal with other stuff going on under the surface? Stuff like stress, loneliness, or past experiences that haven't been dealt with.I’ll share how I realized porn was just a sign that something deeper needed attention and how understanding that shifted my whole approach. We’ll get into real, straightforward steps you can take to figure out what triggers you to reach for porn—like journaling, meditation, finding someone to keep you accountable, or even getting help from a therapist.By the end of this episode, you’ll see how getting to the root of things can set you free in a way that just trying to quit never does. Let’s dig deep, get real, and start making moves toward real freedom.

In this episode we talk about how human sexuality is a gift not a curse! I believe its one of Gods greatest gifts for us and too many of us squander this gift in shame and guilt. Don't get me wrong it can be abused but most don't need that message. We already feel bad enough about it. We also talk about how to control unwanted thoughts and how I as a married man is practicing no nut November or semen retention.

In this episode, I sit down with Katie Davis to dive into her journey and what led her to work with couples around porn and shame. We break down the cultural ties between shame and porn, exploring how these two fuel each other and why breaking that cycle is essential. Katie shares powerful insights on how a spouse can truly support a husband who’s struggling with porn in a way that builds trust, not resentment. We also tackle an often-overlooked topic: how a husband’s porn habit can sometimes highlight insecurities in the wife—things that won’t simply disappear if he quits. This episode is all about real talk, breaking shame, and finding supportive, healing paths forward for both partners.Here is Katies instagram. Give her a follow and you can reach out to her with any additional questions you have. https://www.instagram.com/thechristianbetrayalcoach/

In this episode, we dive into how porn has evolved—from the old days of sneaking a peek at magazines to the constant access we have today with the internet. Now, AI is taking things to a whole new level, and it's changing fast. We'll explore where it all started, where it's at right now, and where it's heading in the future. You’ll be surprised how quickly this industry is shifting and how it could impact your habits. Let's break down what’s happening, why it matters, and how we can navigate this new wave.

In this podcast, we’re going to break down my personal framework for overcoming pornography—step by step. This isn’t just about resisting porn but actually changing your relationship with it.Step 1: Bring it to the LightWe start by talking about it. Shame grows in secrecy, and keeping this issue hidden only makes it worse. By bringing it to the light and opening up—whether that’s with a friend, spouse, or a support group—you strip away its power.Step 2: There's Nothing Wrong With YouOften, it’s not the action itself but the belief surrounding it that causes the most harm. If you think looking at porn makes you a bad person, that belief fuels shame, which in turn keeps you stuck. Ask yourself, "What does it really mean if I look at porn?"Step 3: Porn Isn’t Bad, It’s Just CheapPorn isn’t inherently evil—it’s just cheap. It’s a quick fix for a deeper void. Like eating junk food, it’s not going to satisfy you in the long run, and it’s definitely not going to fill whatever deeper need you’re trying to address.Step 4: These Aren’t Urges, It’s Just HungerWhen you feel the pull to watch porn, pause and ask, “What am I actually hungry for?” It’s often not about the porn itself but something deeper—loneliness, stress, or emotional voids.Step 5: Outgrow PornThe goal is not to just fight porn off but to outgrow it. This means replacing bad habits with better, healthier ones. Build routines, such as exercising, journaling, or learning something new, that replace the habit with positive actions.Step 6: Address Past TraumaWe all have wounds—big and small—that can fuel unhealthy behaviors. Whether it's a major life trauma or small, repetitive experiences that have added up, addressing these head-on can remove the chains holding you back.Step 7: Long-Term Success is Achieved Through IntimacyTrue healing comes from developing deeper intimacy—whether with your spouse, family, or close friends. Building these close, meaningful relationships is key to long-term success and shifting your perception of sexuality into something more meaningful and fulfilling.These steps will help you move from fighting against porn to simply outgrowing the desire, and the journey gets easier once you have the right tools.

In this episode join my wife and I as we have a real, raw conversation about something many couples struggle with but few openly discuss: pornography. We open up about my personal journey with porn and the steps we've taken together to tackle this challenge. From practical tools to heartfelt discussions, we share what has worked for us and what hasn't. Our goal is simple: to shed light on a difficult topic and offer support to others facing similar struggles. So grab a cup of joe, pull up a chair, and join us for this honest conversation.

Today, we're getting down and dirty with some eye-opening stats about pornography, paired with my own personal story. No fluff, just real talk.

We have the pleasure of hosting Cameron Jenson, a self-made entrepreneur who went from humble beginnings in door-to-door sales to achieving financial freedom before the age of 30.Cameron's journey is a testament to the power of hard work and determination. Starting from scratch, he dedicated himself to mastering the art of sales and built a solid foundation in the door-to-door industry. Through years of relentless effort, Cameron honed his skills, learned invaluable lessons, and paved his way to success.What sets Cameron apart is his ability to diversify his income streams and seize opportunities. He gained recognition for his popular TikTok account, where he shares insights on real estate ownership, the profitable world of van rentals through Turo, and other savvy side hustles. His content has resonated with thousands of followers, as he generously imparts his knowledge and experiences, motivating others to take control of their financial futures.Find him attik tok: Freedom_hustler

Join us for an illuminating podcast episode as we dive into the world of Jimmy Rex, one of Utah's most influential and well-connected individuals. Known for his expertise in networking, creating impact, and personal branding, Jimmy Rex shares invaluable insights that can transform your professional and personal life.Episode Highlights:Networking in Your 20s and Beyond: Discover Jimmy Rex's tried-and-true strategies for building genuine connections, expanding your network, and harnessing relationships for growth and opportunities.Creating Lasting Impact: Explore Jimmy's advice on identifying and seizing opportunities for positive change. Learn how to mobilize resources and take meaningful action to leave a lasting legacy.The Power of Personal Branding: Gain expert insights into crafting a compelling personal brand that resonates with others. Understand the importance of authenticity, consistency, and storytelling in building a strong reputation.This podcast episode is packed with practical tips and actionable steps that will empower you to unleash your networking potential, create impact, and cultivate a compelling personal brand. Tune in and embark on a journey towards extraordinary possibilities in your life and career.

Join us, as we share candid and humorous stories about our first two years of marriage. From juggling moving 6 times in our first year of Marriage  while selling solar in California and Sarah starting a business from home and to navigating the crazy Utah housing market.Whether you're a newlywed, engaged, or simply interested in real talk about the joys and challenges of married life listen in because I gets spicy. Tags: Marriage, Newlyweds, Love, Business, Homeownership, Relationships, Lessons Learned, Long-distance Relationship, Utah Housing Market, Humor, Real Talk.

I am thrilled to introduce you to Casey Baugh, a true legend in the door-to-door sales industry. Casey spent over a decade with Vivint Smart Home, where he built a reputation as one of the company's top sales performers and a respected leader in the industry.Recently, Casey has made a significant career transition and is now a General Partner at Sandlot Investment Group. This move is a testament to his business acumen and his ability to thrive in different industries.One of the most remarkable things about Casey is his intentional approach to life. He designs his days and weeks with precision and purpose, and this discipline has been a key driver of his success. Casey understands that being deliberate with his time and energy is critical to achieving his goals and living a fulfilling life.In addition to his business success, Casey is a passionate advocate for giving back to his community. He is a frequent speaker and mentor, sharing his insights and inspiring others to pursue their dreams. Casey's commitment to making a positive impact is a testament to his character and his values.Join us as we dive deeper into Casey's career journey and learn more about his intentional approach to life, his business success, and his passion for giving back.

On this episode I talk about what inspired me to start the podcast, why I am doing it and what its about. I also go over what has been the most impactful quote that has stuck with me over the last year.