Resiliently Rising Podcast

In this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead of overriding them or second-guessing them. And most importantly, how to start building trust with your own internal signals again—so you can move through life with more clarity, steadiness, and self-trust, even in moments that feel uncertain or overwhelming.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar    👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

 In this episode, we’re talking about the painful experience of feeling like you’ve lost yourself after betrayal. We explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why survival mode can disconnect you from your own identity, and how healing often begins through small moments of reconnecting with your preferences, needs, and inner voice. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel like me anymore,” this conversation is meant to remind you that you are not broken… and that your way back to yourself is possible.  Connect with Carrie: Mental Health Bundle 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay  

In this powerful conversation, Carrie sits down with trauma psychotherapist and betrayal navigation coach KayLee Dunn to explore the deeper wounds betrayal creates beyond just the initial trauma. Together, they unpack how betrayal impacts identity, self-trust, reality, attachment, and agency… and why so many people feel “regulated but still lost” long after the crisis phase has passed. KayLee shares both personal and professional insight from nearly two decades in the betrayal trauma field, offering language, validation, and hope for those trying to reconnect with themselves after betrayal. This episode is a compassionate, deeply validating conversation about healing, meaning-making, and finding your way back to who you are. Connect with KayLee: https://www.kayleedunn.com/ Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David break down why so many relationship conflicts—especially after betrayal—feel like they go nowhere and leave both partners more hurt. Drawing from the Gottmans’ Fight Right, they explain how conflict itself isn’t the problem… it’s how we handle it that determines whether it builds connection or creates more damage. They unpack what happens in the body during an argument, including “flooding”… when the nervous system goes into survival mode and real communication becomes impossible. They also explore the difference between solvable and perpetual problems, why most relationship conflicts never fully “go away,” and how trying to win those arguments often keeps couples stuck. This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance on recognizing your own triggers, taking effective pauses, and learning to approach conflict with more awareness and intention… so you can stop fighting against each other and start understanding what’s really underneath.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!    🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay  

*]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">A gentle, guided somatic practice focused on healing your relationship with yourself after betrayal. This episode helps you move out of self-judgment and into compassion through simple, body-based awareness… creating small moments of connection, kindness, and internal safety that begin to rebuild self-trust from the inside out. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8  🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar *]:pointer-events-auto R6Vx5W_threadScrollVars scroll-mb-[calc(var(--scroll-root-safe-area-inset-bottom,0px)+var(--thread-response-height))] scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">  👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

When the discovery is fresh, the most common question is the simplest one: where do I even begin? In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David answer that question with honesty and compassion — covering how to find the right support, why professional help needs to be betrayal-trauma-specific, how to start working with the body instead of against it, and why your job right now is safety, not trust. David also speaks directly to the betrayer: what not to do in those early days, why speed and grand gestures don't work, and what presence and radical honesty actually look like.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

In this episode, Carrie sits down with relationship coach Drew Daniels to explore the anxious… avoidant dynamic and what’s really happening beneath avoidant behaviors. Drew shares his personal journey of recognizing his own fearful-avoidant patterns in marriage and the transformation that led him to help other couples understand and heal these cycles. Together, they unpack the fears, shame, and insecurity that often drive avoidance, and why these patterns can leave partners feeling confused, disconnected, and stuck. Carrie and Drew also discuss how real healing happens when both partners develop greater awareness of their own patterns, learn to tolerate conflict, and practice vulnerability instead of protection. This conversation offers powerful insight for anyone navigating anxious-avoidant dynamics, reminding listeners that change is possible… but it happens slowly, through honesty, compassion, and the courage to show up differently.   Connect with Drew: 📲 Tiktok: @drewwdaniels 🛜 WWW: drewdaniels.me   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David explore what actually makes an apology meaningful after betrayal. While many couples believe that saying “I’m sorry” should be enough, they unpack why apologies often fall short and why some even deepen the hurt. Using the framework of the Five A’s of an Apology, they walk through what true repair requires and why rebuilding trust is a process, not a moment. Drawing from their own relationship and their work with couples healing from betrayal trauma, Carrie and David discuss the difference between regret and repair, the role of accountability, and why consistent behavioral change is what ultimately restores safety. This conversation offers clarity for both the betrayed partner and the partner seeking to make things right, helping you understand why your pain makes sense and what genuine repair can actually look like.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-(--header-height)" dir="auto">In this Revisited episode, we bring back one of our earlier conversations by combining Episode 5 Part 1 and Part 2 into a single episode. Carrie and David walk through the most common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild a relationship after betrayal. Drawing from both their personal journey and professional experience, they share why real repair takes time, honesty, accountability, and steady change. If you’re navigating healing after betrayal, this episode offers perspective on what truly helps rebuild trust… and what can unintentionally keep couples stuck.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

In this Somatic Safety Session, Carrie guides listeners through a gentle practice designed to help release stored tension in the body after betrayal trauma. She explains how trauma often leaves protective patterns of tightness in places like the jaw, shoulders, breath, and belly, and introduces slow micro-movements and vagus nerve support as simple ways to help the body unwind. Through a guided tension scan, small releasing movements, and calming breath and humming exercises, listeners are invited to reconnect with their body and create a little more space, softness, and safety in their nervous system.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

 Why do we sometimes keep choosing partners who hurt us? In this episode, Carrie and David explore how the nervous system is wired to gravitate toward what feels familiar—even when it isn’t healthy. They unpack how early attachment wounds and the body’s longing for closure can unconsciously pull us back into similar relationship dynamics. Together they explain why this pattern isn’t a character flaw, but a nervous system adaptation, and how healing begins when we build self-trust, grieve old ruptures, and learn to recognize true safety instead of mistaking intensity for connection.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿 Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie sits down with former client for a powerful conversation about healing after betrayal trauma and leaving an abusive relationship.  Together, they explore why healing often gets harder before it gets easier, how the nervous system protects through dissociation, minimizing, and intellectualizing, and why slowing down… rather than forcing progress… is essential for real change. The client reflects on key breakthroughs, including learning to work with her body, rebuilding attachment and self-trust, and shifting from external validation to a secure relationship with herself. This episode offers grounded insight into somatic healing, betrayal trauma recovery, attachment strategies, and nervous system regulation… along with honest reassurance for anyone in early survival mode. A hopeful reminder runs throughout the conversation… you don’t need all the answers to heal… you can trust your own wings and keep rising.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

 In this episode, Carrie and David unpack why rumination is so common after betrayal… for both the betrayed and the betrayer. They explain how looping thoughts aren’t a sign you’re broken, but a nervous system trying to restore safety, coherence, and control after your world has been shaken. They explore the “open loop” effect that keeps your brain revisiting unanswered questions, the difference between thinking and feeling, and how rumination can sometimes protect you from deeper emotions like grief or shame. Most importantly, they share practical, body-based ways to interrupt the spiral.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay      

Episode Summary:In this month’s Somatic Safety Session, we focus on grounding… especially for moments when your system feels scattered, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your body. Betrayal trauma can pull you up and out of the present moment, leaving you feeling floaty, buzzy, or unanchored. In this gentle, trauma-informed practice, Carrie offers simple education about why this happens in the nervous system, followed by a guided grounding experience using the feet and containment. This session is an invitation to come back inside your body, at your own pace, without forcing calm… just creating a little more support and steadiness than before. You’re reminded throughout that your body leads, you can’t do this wrong, and even the smallest shifts matter. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this What You’re Wondering episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, we respond to a listener asking how to survive the “messy middle” of betrayal recovery… when both partners are healing, but neither is fully there yet. We talk honestly about why this phase feels so destabilizing… and why it’s often where the deepest change actually begins. We unpack what real self-care looks like during this season (hint… it’s more about capacity than bubble baths), how boundaries protect healing rather than punish, how to support kids with age-appropriate honesty, and what to watch for when you’re wondering, What if they never change?   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay  

In this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie Holladay talks with Tammy Gustafson, LPC - trauma-informed therapist, founder of Betrayal Healing / Live Free Counseling, host of the Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal. Tammy shares her personal betrayal story and what she’s learned from years of helping betrayed partners heal. Together, they unpack why betrayal trauma recovery can’t be rushed, what happens when we try to “forgive and move on” too fast, and why safety… not forced trust… is the true foundation of healing. Tammy also outlines her four phases of betrayal healing, including the “messy middle” and the often-overlooked roommate path when a partner isn’t fully doing the work.   Connect with Tammy: https://www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson/ https://tammygustafson.com/   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David talk about why silence after betrayal doesn’t feel neutral…it feels like being left alone in the wreckage. They explore what’s happening in the nervous system for both the betrayed partner and the betrayer, why avoidance can come from fear and shame, and how “not wanting to make it worse” can actually deepen the disconnect. You’ll hear what helps instead…how to initiate check-ins without turning them into conflict, how to stay present with discomfort, and what real repair looks like when it’s built on consistency, honesty, and felt safety rather than performance.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Episode Summary: Somatic Safety Session: Come Back Into Your Body | Orienting + Felt Sense Betrayal trauma can pull you out of your body and into survival mode — hypervigilance, overthinking, numbness, or overwhelm. This gentle, trauma-informed somatic practice is designed to help you slowly and safely come back into the present moment. ✨ In this practice, you’ll experience: • Gentle education on how betrayal trauma affects the nervous system • Orienting to help your body recognize safety in the present moment • Felt Sense guidance to reconnect with your body at your own pace • Slow pacing, pause cues, and permission to modify or stop at any time This practice is supportive if you’re healing from betrayal, feeling disconnected from your body, or living in constant alertness. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this first What You’re Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener’s question about what happens when there’s a slip or relapse during betrayal healing. They explore why healing isn’t linear, how any return to secrecy or unsafe behavior impacts the nervous system of the betrayed partner, and why arguing over labels matters far less than addressing impact and restoring safety. From both perspectives, they talk honestly about shame, fear, transparency, and repair…and share what actually helps couples navigate these moments with clarity, compassion, and structure. The episode emphasizes that setbacks don’t erase progress…and that trust is rebuilt through honesty, responsibility, and consistent repair, not perfection. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie sits down with licensed clinical nutritionist Devon Ragan to explore what really happens in your gut, hormones, and nervous system when you’ve lived through chronic stress and trauma. Devon shares her own story of burnout and loss, the link between trauma, IBS, autoimmune issues, and “mystery” symptoms, and why so many women are dismissed or misdiagnosed even when their bodies are clearly screaming for help. Together they unpack cortisol, adrenal burnout, cycle syncing, gut health, and how trauma shows up physically... then bring it back to gentle, realistic steps like eating regularly, simple supportive foods, and small nervous system “glimmers” you can build into your day. If you’ve ever felt “crazy” for how off your body feels after betrayal or long term stress... this conversation will help you feel validated, informed, and a little more empowered in your own body. Connect with Devon: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devon.ragan.nutritionist/ https://www.devonragan.com/   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!    🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Episode Summary: In this episode, Carrie and David unpack why so many communication breakdowns aren’t actually about saying the wrong thing… they’re about what’s happening in the nervous system. They explain what happens in the brain and body during conflict, why survival responses like fight, flight, shutdown, and fawn take over, and how betrayal trauma adds another layer of sensitivity and fear to communication. You’ll learn why traditional communication tools often fail when safety is missing, how nervous system regulation creates access to empathy and clarity, and what regulated communication actually looks like before, during, and after hard conversations. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8  🌻 Betrayal Healing Conference: https://betrayalhealingconference.com/?affiliate=healwithcarrie     👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I calm down? Why can’t I feel safe? Why does my body feel like it’s always bracing?” — this episode will finally give you the answers your nervous system has been trying to tell you. Carrie and David break down the three core things every nervous system needs to feel grounded… and how betrayal shatters each one. You’ll learn why your brain won’t stop spinning, why your sense of choice feels ripped away, why connection feels so complicated after betrayal, and what it really takes to restore safety in your body again. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 🔅‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie sits down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute. Together, they explore why betrayal is unlike any other trauma—and what it really takes to move from shock and survival into genuine healing, self-love, and transformation. Debi shares how her own betrayals led to the discovery of the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, an evidence-based framework now used worldwide.  If you’ve ever wondered, Will I always feel like this?… this conversation offers both language and hope for what’s possible on the other side.   Connect with Debi Silber:  Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus  🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety  🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership ✨Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

In this episode, Carrie and David dive into what it really means for the body to feel safe after betrayal — and why that sense of safety can’t be forced, faked, or found through willpower alone. Through a powerful metaphor, they explore the unseen ways you subconsciously experience safety or danger. They share honest stories from their own healing, moments of tension and tenderness, and insights that help you see why sometimes your body reacts even when your mind says, “everything’s fine.” This conversation will help you understand safety in a deeper, more embodied way — one that invites curiosity, compassion, and the kind of awareness that leads to lasting change.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we break down denial and betrayal blindness, two common responses in betrayal trauma that can make it hard to recognize what’s happening even when the signs are there. We explore how the nervous system chooses protection and attachment over awareness, and why both the betrayed partner and the partner acting out can struggle to see the truth clearly. We talk about the role of gaslighting, self-betrayal, and attachment needs in creating confusion and self-doubt. You’ll learn how to begin reconnecting to your body’s signals, rebuilding self-trust, and taking the next steps toward clarity and healing.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Carrie talks with trauma and addiction psychotherapist Jan Winhall, author of Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model. They explore how trauma lives in the body, why self-destructive behaviors are survival responses, and how safety—not shame—is the key to healing. Together, they discuss betrayal as a root wound, rebuilding safety in relationships, and how reconnecting with the body helps restore self-trust and connection. Connect with Jan Winhall:📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean 🌀 Website: https://www.fspminstitute.com/   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we unpack what to do when one partner seems “all in” on healing after betrayal and the other looks hesitant. We explore some of the reasons for this mismatch, and you’ll learn three practical moves to navigate it. Note: this conversation is for couples where both partners genuinely want to rebuild; chronic dismissiveness or defensiveness needs a different approach.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode of Resiliently Rising, Carrie and David walk through the Gottman Institute’s three-phase Revival Method for healing a relationship after betrayal—Atone, Attune, and Attach. They share how each phase rebuilds trust, emotional connection, and intimacy, weaving in their own lived experience to make the roadmap feel practical and hopeful. Carrie also introduces her new course, Rebuilding Us, which brings these concepts to life with guided somatic practices, partner exercises, and tools for nervous-system-based healing. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Noticing someone’s attractiveness isn’t betrayal—it’s human biology. In this episode, we unpack the difference between a neutral glance and lingering/objectifying, why the betrayed partner’s nervous system can go on high alert, and how couples can co-regulate in the moment. We share simple tools that rebuild safety through consistent “trust bank” deposits. Hopeful, practical, and research-informed, this conversation shows how repeated safe experiences can rewire fear into trust over time.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Episode Summary:In this episode of the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David dive into a raw listener question: Can a marriage be repaired without forgiveness or trust returning? Together, they explore the difference between patching a relationship and truly rebuilding, the toll of living in a guarded nervous system state, and why “staying for the kids” may not provide the safety parents hope for. They share personal experiences, research insights, and reflective questions to help you weigh the real cost of staying versus leaving after betrayal. This conversation is both honest and compassionate, offering guidance for anyone sitting in the tension of not being ready to forgive, yet unsure of what comes next. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode of The Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie and David unpack the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” and explore why it feels protective—but can actually keep both partners stuck. They share personal insight, the neuroscience behind real change, and a more helpful reframe: “An unhealed cheater will remain an unhealed cheater.” Whether you’ve been betrayed or are working to rebuild trust, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a grounded path forward. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Episode Summary: In this episode, I’m joined by my friend, former colleague, and Trauma Trained Somatic Practitioner, Meg Schnetzer, to talk about why healing in isolation keeps so many of us stuck. We share personal stories, explore the power of being witnessed without judgment, and talk about how co-regulation helps calm shame and fear. This is exactly why we created our group coaching space—to offer the kind of community we wish we had when we started healing. Connect with Meg: 📲 Instagram:@_healwithmeg_ 📲 TikTok: @megschnetzer Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, Carrie and David speak directly to the ones who’ve caused harm—offering an honest, compassionate look at what it means to feel the weight of shame and still choose to grow. They unpack the difference between wanting forgiveness and becoming someone who is ready to receive it, and share personal insights about the quiet, steady work of repair. If you’ve ever wondered how to rebuild trust after betrayal, this conversation is a powerful place to begin. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, even moments of calm can feel threatening. In this episode, we explore why it becomes so hard to trust yourself, how protective parts show up to shield you, and what true intuition actually feels like. Using the 8 C’s of Self from Internal Family Systems, we’ll help you begin to tell the difference between fear and knowing—and share practical tools to reconnect with your inner wisdom.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising! 🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, it’s not just trust in your partner that breaks—it’s trust in yourself. In this episode, Carrie and David explore the three core pillars of rebuilding self-trust and why this inner work is essential to healing. They share personal stories, somatic insights, and practical ways to reconnect with your inner knowing after it’s been shattered. Whether you're walking this path alone or alongside a partner, this conversation offers powerful guidance for learning to trust yourself again. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

After betrayal, one of the hardest and most haunting questions is: How do I know I can trust them again? In this episode, Carrie and David unpack what trust really means after it’s been broken—beyond just behavior change and apologies. They explore the difference between sobriety and recovery, how the nervous system responds to safety, and the subtle signs that trust might be starting to rebuild. With real-life examples and somatic insight, this conversation offers hope, clarity, and a deeper understanding of what it takes to feel safe again.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after betrayal: boundaries. We explore what boundaries really are (and what they’re not), how they help us stay connected to ourselves and each other, and why they often feel so uncomfortable—especially in the aftermath of broken trust. Whether you’re learning to set boundaries, honor them, or receive them with less defensiveness, this conversation will help you see boundaries not as barriers, but as bridges to deeper connection. Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In this episode, we’re diving into the world of triggers—what they are, why they feel so intense, and how they’re connected to the body and nervous system, especially after betrayal trauma. We share personal stories of being blindsided by triggers and explain what’s really happening beneath the surface when you suddenly feel like you’re right back in the pain. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of your body’s response and some compassionate tools to help you stay grounded when the past shows up in the present.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

In Part 2 of this conversation, we’re continuing to explore the common mistakes couples make when trying to rebuild after betrayal—because awareness really is the first step toward doing things differently. We talk about the impact of overpromising and under-delivering, using betrayal as leverage, neglecting your own healing, and why grand gestures don’t rebuild trust—consistent actions do. If you’re in the thick of repair, this episode offers honest insight, personal stories, and gentle reminders that you’re not alone—and that real healing is possible, even when it’s messy.     Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

Part 1 of 2: Rebuilding a relationship after betrayal is possible, but it’s also incredibly complex. In this episode, we’re sharing four of the most common mistakes couples make during the healing process that can actually slow down or sabotage trust repair. We talk about why acknowledging the betrayal matters, why rushing healing backfires, how avoiding hard conversations creates more disconnection, and the importance of setting clear boundaries.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

In this episode, we unpack what it really means to prioritize your nervous system in relationships—especially after betrayal trauma. We explore the difference between safety and comfort, self-abandonment vs. healthy compromise, and why true healing and connection require discomfort. We also talk about people-pleasing, setting boundaries, and the deep fear of being “too much”—and how learning to stay with yourself, even when things feel hard, is one of the most powerful things you can do for your relationship with yourself and your partner.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

In this episode, we dive into why talk therapy alone isn’t always enough—especially when it comes to betrayal trauma. We talk about how the nervous system is the lens through which we see everything, why your body responds before your brain does, and what it really means to be a bottom-up being. We’ll break down the science in a simple way, share personal stories, and explore how somatic work helps create felt safety—so you can finally shift out of survival mode and into true healing. If you’ve ever thought, “I know better, so why don’t I feel better?”—this episode is for you.   Connect with Me: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

In this episode, we break down what betrayal trauma really is—and why it runs so deep. It’s not just about affairs. Betrayal can come through secrecy, emotional disconnection, broken trust, and more. We’ll talk about how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, creates an inner tug-of-war, and why healing isn’t just about thinking differently—it’s about feeling safe again in your body. If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or like your reactions don’t make sense, this episode will help you understand why—and give you hope that healing is possible.   📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media

Episode Summary: In this first episode, we’re sharing some of our story - where we started, what we’ve been through, and what brought us to this place of healing. We’ll talk about betrayal trauma, disconnection, the impact of unprocessed pain, and our process of rebuilding - both individually and together. You’ll hear how somatic work, mindfulness, and learning to actually feel and express what was going on inside changed everything for us. And we’ll also talk about what it’s looked like to come home to ourselves, and to each other, one step at a time. Our hope is that you won’t just hear the pain in our story, but that you’ll also feel the hope. Because no matter how your story plays out, whether it ends in repair with your partner or not, you still get to heal. You still get to rise.   Connect with Me 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety 🌿Membership: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/membership 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!   Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_Media