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The Advice Column
by Lydia
Aren't you tired of asking for advice and being told, "Well, it's not that bad" or, "Don't worry about it, it will get better"?The Advice Column is dedicated to sharing the journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and intentionality through humorous and authentic conversations. Grab your chair, take a seat, and be ready to be affirmed, listened to, and confident that your questions about life were answered with love and not judgment.
Episodes
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you're not lazy, your goals just suck | how to be more consistent and disciplined
It is okay for you to set a goal and to not reach the goal due to the lack of consistency and discipline. Instead of thinking that you're lazy and or unproductive, what if you thought, "Maybe I should just re-evaluate my goal and make it more realistic?" Do you think you would be more consistent...
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is the dating pool bad or is it my attitude?
Dating should be fun or that’s what they tell us. How many talking stages can I go through? Is this anxiety or a red-flag? In this episode, Lydia shares questions she has asked herself to feel more confident in the dating pool. Are you ready to see how you can plays the “game” of love. If you're…
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take a moment to self-reflect: middle of the year reflection
Damn! It’s the middle of the year and the last time you thought about your goals were on January 1st, let’s change that! In this episode, you will take a moment to reflect on how far you’ve come this year through a series of questions. By the end, you will feel inspired to go after your goals…
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audio diary: there' s joy in telling someone they’ve hurt your feelings
I’ve heard you want to be honest with the person that hurt your feelings, but you’re afraid that once you tell them, they will dislike you. Does this sound like you? “I want to be honest with them. I just don’t want them to dislike me.” If so, grab your notepad and a pen. Class is in session and…
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is being more self-awareness harmful?| self-awareness is not being hyper critical
Being self-aware is great, until it not. How do you know when your self-awareness is helping you versus when it’s harming you? This question and others that are explored in this episode will help you check your own self-awareness, so you can feel empowered as you learn more about yourself. If...
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is seeking revenge worth it?
Sometimes getting back at someone can feel good, but is it worth it? If you're a brand that is interested in partnering with us, please reach out to [email protected] Join the Garden Submit your Confessions Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkalright Instagram:...
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it's okay to be vulnerable: an audio diary
What do the thoughts of wanting to be good enough, embracing the feeling of limbos in your late 20s, and giving yourself more credit all have in common? They’re all experiences that we feel, but rarely share out publicly today, we’re normalizing sharing what we would write in a private journal to…
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how to deal with self doubt (without the mental breakdown)
Would you want other people to hear your inner voice? If your answer to that question was no, then that means you need to change how to speak to yourself. How does that change happen? We explore that question and more within this weeks episode. Bring your shovel and some gloves, we are putting…
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say goodbye to perfectionism and overthinking | say hello to embracing progress
How do you tell your perfectionism and overthinking ways to simply fxxk off? It's simple and begins with you saying, "I am okay if something is just good enough". If you can't say that without cringing, you're in the right place. Let's embrace mistakes, together. If you're a brand that is...
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how to be alone & actually enjoy your company
Why do most of us feel uncomfortable when were by ourselves? Is it the fear of being alone, is it the fear of not being wanted, or is it simply the desire to feel excitement in doing something? I know for certain that you already have the answer to your questions, you just need to explore it. So,...
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4 small changes to make your life easier and happier
What if I told you, your life could be easier and happier by simply focusing on small changes and not the big changes? Would you believe me? I guess you have the tune into the episode and try out the strategies I shared to see if your life does indeed become easier and happier. *hint hint* it…
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you’re allowing people to take advantage of you | how to set boundaries
What's more embarrassing, you allowing someone to disrespect you because you feel uncomfortable saying no or just simply saying no to that person? This episode is all about boundaries. What are boundaries, what are boundaries not, and how do you set them? By the end of the episode, you will be...
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how to process traumatic experiences and take your power back
Trauma can make you feel angry, helpless, and hopeless. But, what if I told you that you still have power after experiencing a traumatizing experience? Let's unlock this power together as I share strategies that I am using to process my own trauma and humanize myself, again. If you're a brand…
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adult friendships | when to end a friendship + how to end it confidently
We hear all the time about how to make a friend, but what if you’re trying to end a friendship? How do you do that? In this episode, Lydia shares the most obvious to the less obvious signs that your friend is not really your friend and how can you end the friendship with confidence? Through...
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Questions to Help You Check In With Yourself | Self-Reflect with Me
Have you taken time this week to ask yourself, "How am I feeling?" If not, take this moment to disconnect from the chaos of the world and reflect with me. I share 3 reflection questions that center around your goals and your emotions. So are you ready to sit down and start reflecting? Join the...
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the fear of being perceived (seen) | it is okay to be seen trying
"People do not care as much as you think they do" - said someone who does not have the fear of being perceived How do you stop caring about people's opinions, where did this fear come from, and how do you quiet it? All of these questions will be answered and by the end of the episode, you will…
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adult friendships: why you’re platonic relationships should be similar to your romantic relationships
Adult friendships. When you read those two words, did you sigh right after? *BIG SIGH* The question we need to ask ourselves is, is it really difficult to make friends as an adult or am I just unclear about what I want in an adult friendship? From putting yourself out there, to finding a balance...
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you're right where you need to be | there is no rush in life
You are not far behind in life, you are right where you need to be. If you don't believe it, ask yourself, "Where do I expect myself to be?" This question and more are explored in this episode to remind you to refocus, reflect, and recognize that you're right where you need to be. Join the Garden...
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You Have to Speak Up For Yourself
You have to speak up for yourself. It is no longer an option to stay quiet. When we use our voice, we discover so much about ourselves and others. I know it can be nerve-wrecking to speak up and I know how empowering it feels to use your voice. Are you ready to use your voice or will you stay...
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To Be Yourself Is To Practice Honesty & Acceptance | How to Be Yourself Part Two
It's not that you don't know how to be yourself; It's the fact that you're pretending to be someone you are not, to be liked by others. To be yourself is to be honest and accept all parts of yourself, even when it is changing. So, instead of searching for articles on Google titled, "Ways to...
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The End of the Year is About You
In this very short episode, I remind myself and my listeners that you get to decide what the end of the year means to you. Yes, the holidays are here and yes, you may feel pressure to act or do certain things. I am challenging you to stop, reflect, and ask yourself, "What does the end of the year...
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Everything You Know About Gratitude is Wrong: What Gratitude Actually is
Does this statement ring a bell? "You should be grateful for this, because other people do not have that". In this episode, we are defining what gratitude is for ourselves and not the traditional way that gratitude has been explained to us. If you struggle with identifying why you are grateful or...
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Why You Should Be Proud of Yourself This Year
I need you to show yourself kindness and compassion this year! You have made it to the end of 2023 and that should be celebrated. In this episode, I share reasons why you should be proud of yourself so that by the end of the episode, you are ready to reflect, proud love into yourself and others…
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How to Protect Your Peace During the Holidays
The holidays are right around the corner. Instead of forcing yourself to go to an event, instead of pushing down how you feel to maintain the peace for others, this holiday season will be about you. How? Because, by the end of this episode, you will have a strategy, a talk track, and an…
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Self Love is Not Spending Money | Questions to Identify What Self-Love Means to You
When I used to think of self-love, I thought I had to spend money. I thought I could dislike my past self and only like my present self. Until I realized that, that is not self-love. Self-love is being reflective. Self-love is being intentional. Self-love is about discovering who I am as a person...
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Your Past is More Valuable Than You Think
When I thought about the past, I would cringe. I felt embarrassed and that led me to avoid my past; however, I could no longer avoid the past when destructive patterns kept showing up in my relationships, in my communication style, and in how I viewed myself. In this episode, I share how we can...
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The Consequences of Not Minding Your Business
We always hear people say "Mind your Business", but we never talk about the consequences of not minding your business. In this episode, I explore the reason why most of us do not mind our business and the consequences that arise from this behavior. At the end of the episode, you get to make the...
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You Have More Time Than You Think | The Consequence of Rushing & How to Be Intentional With Your Time
Do you ever feel like you never have enough time? Do you ever rush your decision-making because you feel like the decision has to be made RIGHT now? I have felt like this for years and I can finally say, I have been freed from the mindset that I do not have enough time. In this episode, I share...
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You’re Watering Yourself Down For Others | How to Be Yourself
The question, “How to be yourself” seems simple to answer; and yet, most of us go through our lives wearing a mask and never showcasing others what is underneath. In this episode, I share how I was able to take parts of my mask off so that you can take off your mask and come back to yourself....
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I’m an Imposter, Help! | How to Deal With Imposter Syndrome
What can you do when you are experiencing imposter syndrome? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores the feelings that cause us to feel like imposters, poses questions to reframe your mindset on imposter syndrome, and shares a strategy that has helped her overcome her own imposter...
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Self Reflect with Me | Connect With Yourself When You Feel Disconnected From the World
I have been having a rough few weeks, mentally and emotionally. My usual pattern is to feed the chaos and anxiety. Instead, I am taking a moment to reflect and ground myself. Come ground yourself with me! In this episode, I share 3 reflection questions that center around love, affirmations, and...
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How to Believe You Can Change Your Life
The ability to believe that you can change your life is critical for personal growth and healing and yet, when we are posed with different information, some of us close up and will not listen. In this bonus episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia talks about the process of believing you can change...
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Holding Onto A Grudge is Immature | Why Forgiving Yourself and Others is Essential to a Happier Life
Forgiving others is difficult when we are unable to forgive ourselves. So how do we start the journey to forgiveness? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores why we hold grudges, and why holding grudges can be detrimental to our emotional well-being and personal growth. She ends…
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Don’t Fixate on the Future, Fixate on the Now | How to Live in the Present While Everyone Lives in the Future
In a world consumed by thoughts of the future, we often find ourselves trapped in the cycle of anxiety and disappointment. How do we get out of the future trap? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia explores the detrimental effects of fixating on the future, offering insights into how…
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Why Do I Feel Disappointed On My Birthday? | How to Enjoy & Celebrate Your Birthday As An Adult
How do you feel about your birthday? This question can make some of us feel anxious or excited. My question is why? In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia gets real about why we can feel disappointed on our birthdays and how we can change our mindset to have the best birthday ever. If…
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Why Trying Something New As An Adult Is Hard and Worthwhile | How to Get Out Your Comfort Zone and Start Living a Fulfilled Life
Why are adults so miserable? This question has been wondered by children, teenagers, and adults for years on end. In this episode, your favorite homegirl Lydia gets real about why getting out of your comfort zone as an adult is agonizing, why temporary discomfort is better than long-term...
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Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Relax? | The Importance of Relaxation and How to Feel Empowered while Relaxing
When you are resting, how do you feel and what do you think about yourself? For most of us, when we are resting, we may experience guilt. Why do we feel guilty when we relax and how can we eliminate this guilty so rest can become enjoyable? Of course, it all starts from within. In this episode,...
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Therapy is for Everyone | Why You Should Go to Therapy + Explaining CBT/DBT Therapy
In the last three years, we have seen a rise in mental health advocates sharing the joys and wonders of therapy. Even with the media's acceptance of therapy, does that change how you view therapy? Do you want to go to therapy and you are not sure where to start? In this episode, your homegirl…
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Assumptions Give You a False Sense of Control | How Assuming Impacts The Relationships We Have With Others and Ourselves
We have all heard the saying; Assumptions make an ASS out of U and ME, so why do we continue to make them and how are they impacting the relationships we have with ourselves and with others? In this episode, your homegirl Lydia unpacks why we make assumptions, how they can help and harm our...
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Honestly, It's Not Your Place To Be Honest With Others (Sometimes)
Most of us value being honest with our friends and families, but sometimes our honesty can do more harm than good. So, how can you communicate your honesty with the people around you? In this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets brutal with brutal honesty. Have you said or have heard someone say, "I...
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How to Get Out of Your Head and Start Living the Life of Your Dreams | Death to Ruminating Thoughts
On this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets real about ruminating thoughts. Do you get fixated on what could've, should've, would've happened? Do you replay situations in your head? Lydia shares her personal stories on how she got out of her head and started to live in the present. Throughout the...
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Discovering the Joy of Being Single: 3 Intentional Actions I am Taking to Practice Self-Love
Most of us put a lot of effort into our intimate relationships, but how many of us put effort into the relationship that we have with ourselves? On this episode, your homegirl Lydia gets real about her self-love journey through singleness! Are you a chronic-dater? Do you struggle with being…
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Trailer: Rewriting the Narrative
Hey y'all! Welcome to the trailer episode of Rewriting the Narrative. Rewriting the Narrative is a brave space for black men and women who are ready to embrace change and may not know where to start or may need encouragement to know they are moving in the right direction. My goal is to provide...
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Beyond Positivity: The Power of Embracing Anger, Fear, and Jealousy for a Deeper Self-Acceptance + Self-Love Journey
When you are experiencing emotions other than happiness, what do you do with those emotions? Do you ignore those emotions? Do those emotions bring you shame or guilt? If you are used to people in your life telling you, "Just think positivity, everything will work out" or you tell yourself, "I...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Aren't you tired of asking for advice and being told, "Well, it's not that bad" or, "Don't worry about it, it will get better"?The Advice Column is dedicated to sharing the journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and intentionality through humorous and authentic conversations. Grab your chair, take a seat, and be ready to be affirmed, listened to, and confident that your questions about life were answered with love and not judgment.
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Lydia
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Aren't you tired of asking for advice and being told, "Well, it's not that bad" or, "Don't worry about it, it will get better"?The Advice Column is dedicated to sharing the journey of self-discovery, acceptance, and intentionality through humorous and authentic conversations. Grab your chair, take...
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