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This is How We Feel with Dr Ali Walker
by Dr Ali Walker
Welcome to This Is How We Feel - a podcast about what actually changes behaviour in real life. Hosted by behavioural scientist Ali Walker, the show explores human behaviour through small, real-life experiments you can try in your own life. Each episode introduces one simple behavioural experiment, backed by research in positive psychology and longevity, and reflects on why it's good for us, and what happens when we try it.Think of it as a behavioural playground.What happens if…?
Episodes
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The 8 Ways we Connect: What's your emotional comfort zone?
Most disconnection isn’t a lack of love. It’s a mismatch in how we bond with each other. Dr Ali Walker unpacks eight modes of connection, from acts of service to pretend play, and why each of us has a comfort zone and an discomfort zone.
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Can we agree to disagree? Disagreement, conflict and how to come back from both
Disagreement and conflict aren’t the same thing, and this episode is about how we handle every hard conversation. Dr Ali Walker explains what happens in your body, why some people thrive on a debate while others feel under attack, and two tools for staying open and repairing afterwards.
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Connection is a skill- here's how to build it
We are more contactable than any humans who have ever lived. And we are lonelier than ever. Those two things are not a coincidence; they're a consequence of confusing contact with connection. Contact (the likes, the group chats, the colleague you see every day but never really talk to) can fill…
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Who you are vs what you do: Why Retiring Athletes, Politicians and Burnt-Out Professionals All Face the Same Crisis
"Just surviving the day to day has made me forget what I have passion for." A listener left this comment on Instagram and this episode is for them. We explore one of the most important distinctions in human psychology — the difference between who you are and what you do. Who you are is your...
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How to be yourself
We're all told to be ourselves and bring our whole selves to work. But nobody tells us how. In this episode, Ali Walker unpacks why being ourselves is harder than it sounds, and offers three practical ways back to the person you were before the performance started.
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The High-Functioning Person's Guide to Feeling Alive
We've been told that rest and recovery are the answer to burn out and over-work. But what if stopping doesn't feel like relief ?What if it feels like disappearing? In this episode, Ali explores what happens to high-functioning, hyper-responsible people when they step off the treadmill and why the...
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AI is Hijacking Our Brains
Our brains have four chemicals that drive everything we do, from every relationship, to every goal and every moment of pleasure we've ever felt. And AI has learned to hijack every single one of them. In this episode, Dr Ali Walker breaks down the DOSE framework (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and...
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The Cost of Connection: Why We Avoid the Connection We Say We Want
We say we want deeper, more meaningful relationships. We say we want community, honesty, and a sense of belonging. But when the moment comes to connect, we hesitate. In this episode, Ali explores the gap between wanting connection… and actually choosing it. Drawing on her latest research into…
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The Connection Experiment: Small Moments That Transform Relationships
We tend to think connection is built in big moments, but behavioural research suggests something different. Connection is built in tiny moments: small signals of warmth and small moments of repair. Ali shares her connection framework that shows what you need in connection- your frequency and...
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The Myth of the High-Performance Mindset: Interview with Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb
In this second conversation with Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb, we turn our attention to something many of us struggle with: What happens on the days you are not your high-performance self? The dominant mindset of the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s celebrated intensity, grit, and relentless optimization.…
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The House Always Wins (Until You Redesign the House): An Interview with Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb
In this episode of This is How We Feel, Ali is joined by fellow behavioural scientist Dr Juliette Tobias-Webb, who holds a PhD from the University of Cambridge. We explore a deceptively simple idea: the house always wins. In casinos and on smartphones, that’s by design. Every flashing light…
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What Story Are You Telling Yourself About How You Feel?
Have you ever stopped to notice what you’re really feeling? This week, Ali experimented with naming emotions every day, and discovered how much our stories can mislead us, how small insights sneak up over time, and why a week isn’t long enough to see real change. Join Ali as she shares what she…
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The Play Experiment: What Happens When We Put Play First, featuring Daniel Teitelbaum
In this episode, Ali Walker is joined by her first guest- Daniel Teitelbaum from Playful Thinking to unpack a simple but confronting experiment: what happens when we prioritise play for an entire week. Ali shares how choosing play - through dancing, dressing up, and being more light-hearted with...
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Life as an Experiment: What Happens When We Put Play First?
In this episode of This Is How We Feel, Ali Walker introduces a different way of approaching behaviour change - not through pressure, discipline, or shame, but through curiosity. After 15 years studying how people behave in groups, one pattern kept showing up: knowing what’s good for us rarely...
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How to connect with your future self
If you start this year the same way you started the last one, you’ll get the same year all over again. What if this year didn’t follow the same pattern as the last one? In the opening episode of Season 2, Ali explores how to make this year unlike any other by changing where you invest your…
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How to fill the void: Who are you when no one is around?
In this episode, we explore a feeling so many people carry: What do I do when no one needs me? If you grew up getting approval for being 'good' or 'useful,' your nervous system learned that doing equals value - and being equals nothing. So when life gets still, or when the roles fall away, your...
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Group Energy Toolkit: 5 Ways to Change your Energy & Transform a Group
In this episode of This Is How We Feel, Dr. Ali Walker, behavioural scientist and expert in group dynamics, shares five practical, science-backed ways you can shift your own energy and transform the group around you.
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The Energy Between Us: Emotional Energy in Groups
The real story in any group isn’t what’s being said, but what’s being felt. In this episode of This Is How We Feel, Ali Walker explores the invisible emotional energy that flows through every team, family, and culture. You’ll learn about: - How individuals act as conductors and absorbers of group...
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Why we overreact: Old vs new emotions
Why does a small comment sometimes cause a huge (over)reaction? In this episode of This Is How We Feel, Dr Ali Walker explores how old emotions from our past can hijack the present, causing us to overreact in relationships. We unpack why our brains replay old patterns, how these 'old' emotions…
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Power Plays: How Status and Hierarchy Shape Group Dynamics
In every group, from families and friendships to teams and nations, there are invisible forces at play. Power, status, and hierarchy shape who speaks, who listens, and who gets left out. In this episode, Dr. Ali Walker unpacks the hidden rituals that reinforce group hierarchies, explores how…
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The Roles we Play to Feel Loved
Why do some of us become the overachiever, while others fade into the background or act out in rebellion? In this episode, we explore the 5 classic roles children take on in dysfunctional family systems - the Hero, the Rebel, the Lost Child, the Mascot, and the Caretaker. These roles aren’t...
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Are You In or Out? Playing the Social Game vs. True Belonging
Why do so many of us feel like we’re constantly performing - just to be accepted? In this powerful first episode, Dr. Ali Walker explores the hidden emotional cost of the “social game” we’ve all been taught to play - from childhood cliques to adult circles of power and popularity. We unpack the...
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This is How We Feel Intro
In this opening episode, Ali Walker introduces This Is How We Feel - a podcast exploring real-life emotional dilemmas in love, leadership, and learning, and why our feelings matter more than we think.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to This Is How We Feel - a podcast about what actually changes behaviour in real life. Hosted by behavioural scientist Ali Walker, the show explores human behaviour through small, real-life experiments you can try in your own life. Each episode introduces one simple behavioural experiment, backed by research in positive psychology and longevity, and reflects on why it's good for us, and what happens when we try it.Think of it as a behavioural playground.What happens if…?
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Welcome to This Is How We Feel - a podcast about what actually changes behaviour in real life. Hosted by behavioural scientist Ali Walker, the show explores human behaviour through small, real-life experiments you can try in your own life. Each episode introduces one simple behavioural experiment,...
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