7 On Sundays™ Podcast

Porn, performative sex, consent, and empathy shape modern intimacy—one college man challenges harmful sexual myths. Pornography, performative sex, and cultural myths are reshaping how young people understand intimacy, often in damaging and confusing ways. In this powerful follow-up to Part 1, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye welcome back Garrett, a college junior from Texas, for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about consent, empathy, and authentic sexual connection. Garrett courageously shares a personal story that reveals the emotional toll of performative sex, including the normalization of sexual pressure and porn-driven expectations. Together, they unpack how modern cultural scripts—ranging from BDSM trends to "trad wife" aesthetics—distort healthy intimacy, blur consent, and discourage emotional honesty. This episode challenges myths around orgasm, hookup culture, and sexual performance, emphasizing the importance of empathy, communication, and ongoing consent in relationships. For young adults, parents, educators, and anyone navigating intimacy in a porn-saturated culture, Garrett's honesty offers clarity, accountability, and hope. Listeners will gain insight into: The real meaning of performative sex and how porn normalizes harmful behavior. Why empathy and ongoing, enthusiastic consent are non-negotiable in intimacy. Cultural double standards and their impact on sexual expectations. Debunking orgasm myths and promoting honest conversations. How authentic connection leads to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. This episode is an essential listen for students, parents, educators, and anyone seeking to better understand the realities of modern sexual culture. Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:15 Sneak Peek 00:41 Recap of Previous Episode 01:42 Diving into Performative Sex 02:27 Understanding Forced Fellatio 04:55 Garrett's Personal Experience 08:22 The Importance of Empathy in Sexual Relationships 11:10 Aligning Actions with Values 14:04 The Impact of Porn on Real-Life Relationships 16:49 The Importance of Communication and Consent 19:40 Navigating Mixed Signals in Intimacy 20:46 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 22:20 Debunking Myths About Sexual Satisfaction 24:29 Expressing Gratitude and Empathy 27:30 Wrap Up: The Impact of Performative Sex 29:51 Encouraging Authenticity in Intimate Relationships 36:32 The Pendulum of Authenticity 38:35 Closing Thoughts and Resources   Resources Mentioned: ●      Urban Dictionary: For understanding slang terms like "forced fellatio" ●      988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Free and confidential mental health support ●      7 on Sundays Website (https://7onsundays.com): More episodes, resources, and support

Porn, hookup culture, consent, and masculinity shape how young men experience sex—one college man shares his story. Pornography, performative sex, and toxic masculinity deeply influence how young men approach relationships, intimacy, and identity, yet few men speak openly about their impact. In this raw and powerful episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Garrett, a college junior from Texas, to explore the hidden realities of modern hookup culture, consent, and masculinity from a male perspective. Garrett candidly shares how early porn exposure, media messages, and cultural double standards shaped his views on sex, relationships, and self-worth. He opens up about the pressure of performative sex, experiences with coercion and consent, and how stereotypes around masculinity made emotional vulnerability and honest communication difficult. This is part one of a two-part series examining the intersection of sex, porn addiction, culture, and identity. Garrett's story offers rare insight into the male experience and invites parents, educators, and young adults to rethink how we talk about consent, masculinity, emotional needs, and healthy relationships. Listeners will gain insight into: What "performative sex" is and how porn and pop culture fuel it. The impact of pornography addiction and early sexual exposure. Why parent-child conversations about sex and mental health matter. Coercion, consent, and cultural double standards. How masculinity stereotypes prevent vulnerability and healthy intimacy. The role of therapy, self-awareness, and emotional growth. This candid episode will resonate with anyone seeking to better understand the complexities of modern masculinity, consent, and intimacy.   Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:15 Sneak Peek At What's To Come 00:59 Introduction to Performative Sex 02:41 Impact of Pornography on Relationships 03:43 Parental Influence and Early Exposure 07:21 Cultural Messaging and Its Effects 18:25 Double Standards and Sexual Assault on Men 29:38 Navigating Relationships and Sexual Expectations 32:13 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 33:11 Parental Influence and Personal Realizations 34:25 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Connection 35:21 Addressing Insecurities in Relationships 48:34 The Need for Relationship Education 50:20 Therapy and Mental Health Stigma 55:10 Concluding Thoughts and Future Insights   Resources Mentioned ●      Kinsey Institutehttps://kinseyinstitute.orgResearch organization exploring sex, gender, and reproduction ●      National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)https://www.rainn.orgFree, confidential support for sexual assault survivors: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) ●      Suicide & Crisis Lifelinehttps://988lifeline.orgCall or text 988 for 24/7 mental health support in the U.S.

Lily shares her story of post-college struggles, binge drinking, toxic friendships, and how faith and self-discovery transformed her life. Life after college isn't always glamorous. For many young adults, post-grad life comes with loneliness, binge drinking, and unhealthy friendships that leave them feeling lost and unfulfilled. In this powerful episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Lily, who bravely shares her story of reckless nights, toxic relationships, and the hard lessons that led her to transformation. Lily opens up about the dangers of binge drinking, the wake-up call that changed her life, and the painful process of leaving behind a toxic social scene. She reveals how faith, self-reflection, and authentic community gave her purpose and hope. Through vulnerability and wisdom, Lily's story highlights how post-college struggles can become the catalyst for growth and resilience. Listeners will gain insights into: The challenges of transitioning from college to post-grad life. The emotional and physical risks of binge drinking. The loneliness that follows walking away from unhealthy friendships. How faith and self-discovery can rebuild confidence and purpose. Tips for building a supportive, like-minded community. Embracing authenticity online and offline to attract real connections. This episode is for anyone navigating post-college uncertainty, struggling with toxic friendships, or searching for hope and meaning.   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 Personal Story: Reckless Behavior and Consequences 01:22 Podcast Hosts Introduction and Topic Overview 02:50 Lily's Post-College Struggles 04:27 Turning Point: Finding a New Path 06:01 Building a New Community 08:03 Reflections on Loneliness and Isolation 16:57 Parental Perspective and Support 26:52 Navigating Rejection and Finding Your Tribe 27:54 The Wisdom of Friends and Family 29:47 Building Authentic Communities 33:03 Embracing Nature and Hobbies 34:25 The Power of Authenticity on Social Media 48:46 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Online safety expert Jo Robertson returns to 7 on Sundays to break down the explosive rise of sextortion, grooming, and digital exploitation — including an 1800% increase among 7–10-year-olds. She explains how predators operate, which kids are most targeted, why grooming can happen in just 45 minutes, and how parents can protect their children without creating shame or secondary trauma. This is essential listening for any caregiver navigating the modern online landscape. Key Points What sextortion is and how it differs from sexual exploitation Why boys and LGBTQ+ youth are disproportionately targeted The shocking rise in self-generated imagery among 7–10-year-olds How grooming works — and why it can happen in under an hour The role of gaming platforms, social media, and dating apps Example: a Roblox group with 100,000+ groomers trading tactics Why encrypted messaging has made kids more vulnerable The early warning signs of coercion, secrecy, and manipulation How trauma from sextortion mirrors complex PTSD The long-term effects on identity, intimacy, and trust How parental reactions can cause secondary trauma Why no child is "too young" for conversations about online safety The protective power of extracurriculars and after-school activities Why pornography has normalized coercion in youth culture Concrete steps parents can take right now to reduce risk   Guest Links & Resources Jo Robertson website Tricky Chats: Jo's parenting/online safety course TikTok Online Safety Partnership (referenced in episode)  

In this powerful episode, sex educator, trauma therapist, and porn researcher Jo Robertson breaks down the alarming rise in online grooming, sextortion, and exposure to sexual content among today's youth. With clear data, real-world examples, and insight from years of clinical and educational work, Jo explains how digital spaces are shaping young people's relationships, sexual development, and vulnerability to harm. This conversation is essential listening for teens, parents, and anyone invested in online safety. Key Points  Why exposure to sexual content is now almost universal among young people The disturbing number of teens who encounter illegal sexual content daily How predators groom young people and why grooming and sextortion are not the same The sharp rise in self-generated child sexual abuse material among kids as young as 7 How porn normalizes behaviors that show up in peer-to-peer interactions Why sexual "scripts" online are shaping consent, pleasure, and expectations The impact of animated porn and incest-themed content on developing sexual beliefs Why boys are more frequently sextorted, while girls are more often groomed The role of AI, deepfakes, gaming platforms, and social apps in facilitating harm The decline in teen sexual activity—and why sex has become riskier The four C's of healthy sexual encounters: communication, care, comfort, contraception/safety How shows like Normal People, Forever, and Dawson's Creek model healthy communication What young adults ask sex therapists, from "Is this normal?" to navigating coercive dynamics Guest Links & Resources Mentioned Jo Robertson's TEDx talk  Jo Robertson website Internet Watch Foundation research Stop It Now (prevention and early-intervention organization) Media referenced: Normal People, Forever, Dawson's Creek, Sex Education If this episode brought clarity, education, or guidance, please follow and share the show. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue these crucial conversations.  

Toxic relationships, gaslighting & love bombing—Natasha shares her story of red flags, narcissism, and healing in modern dating. Toxic relationships, gaslighting, and love bombing are more common than we think—and Natasha knows this firsthand. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Natasha to unpack her journey through toxic relationships, narcissistic behaviors, and the emotional toll of manipulation. From recognizing red flags like love bombing to understanding the impact of gaslighting, Natasha shares her candid story of self-discovery and healing. This episode explores how toxic dating culture, social media, and unrealistic expectations can trap people in harmful relationships—and what it takes to rebuild self-worth and confidence. Whether you've struggled with toxic love, know someone who has, or want to understand modern relationship dynamics, this conversation provides raw insight, encouragement, and practical steps toward healing. Resources Mentioned Book: *It Ends With Us* by Colleen Hoover – A novel depicting the cycle of abuse and toxic relationships. National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233 Hours: 24/7  Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:15 Natasha's Story Begins 00:57 Welcome and Topic Overview 02:03 Natasha's Dating Experience 09:12 Understanding Narcissism 11:37 Therapy and Narcissistic Traits 22:50 Natasha's Realization and Breakup 25:24 Moving Forward and Advice 37:04 Recognizing Narcissistic Behaviors 38:44 The Aftermath of a Toxic Relationship 39:17 The Importance of Self-Healing 40:49 Red Flags in Relationships 45:41 The Impact of Love Bombing 47:58 Cultural Expectations and Reality 51:21 Learning from Past Relationships 56:45 The Value of Authenticity 58:53 Final Thoughts and Advice

Thomas shares a rare male perspective on porn, trauma, violent sex, and the struggle for boundaries, consent, and healing in modern relationships. What happens when love collides with extreme sexual expectations, past trauma, and pornography's influence? In this raw and courageous episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Thomas, who bravely shares his story of navigating a relationship shaped by violent sexual behaviors, unspoken boundaries, and emotional conflict. From the normalization of rough and extreme sex to the generational shift fueled by porn and peer culture, Thomas offers a rare male perspective on how these dynamics affect mental health, intimacy, and self-worth. Together, they explore the psychological toll of violent sexual expectations, the struggle to balance love with discomfort, and the importance of open conversations about boundaries, consent, and healing past trauma. Listeners will gain insight into: How pornography rewires sexual expectations and behaviors. The emotional consequences of violent sexual practices. The pressure men face to "perform" in dominant roles. Why trauma often resurfaces in intimate relationships. Tools for communication, boundary setting, and self-awareness. This is an essential episode for anyone questioning cultural sexual norms, struggling with intimacy, or seeking healing after difficult experiences.   Resources Mentioned - The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com  – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.  - 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.  - 7 on Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.    Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 Thomas's Story Begins 01:14 Introducing the Hosts and Guest 01:34 Discussion on Sexual Strangulation 02:20 Age Gap and Pornography's Impact 03:10 Thomas's Relationship Dynamics 06:26 Emotional and Sexual Discord 13:24 Thomas's Struggle with Strangulation 17:10 Impact of Pornography on Preferences 25:39 Therapy and Unresolved Issues 30:56 The Prevalence of Abuse 31:13 Normalization of Sexual Assault 31:37 Impact of Pornography on Perception 32:34 Peer Influence and Sexual Behavior 32:55 Communication and Misunderstanding in Relationships 35:11 Male Perspective on Sexual Expectations 37:48 The Trauma of Sexual Strangulation 41:32 Healing and Moving Forward 44:59 The Need for Open Discussions 56:05 Final Thoughts and Resources Resources Mentioned - The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Link: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com  – A deep dive into how trauma is stored in the body and impacts relationships.  - 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call 988 for free, confidential mental health support.  - 7 On Sundays Website: https://www.7onsundays.com – Additional resources, past episodes, and community discussions.

College is often portrayed as the time you'll meet your ride-or-die best friends and create bonds that last a lifetime. But what happens when the reality of friendship doesn't match the expectation? In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Danielle and Everett to explore the complexities of college friendships, sorority life, and the search for authenticity. Through their raw and relatable stories, Danielle and Everett reveal the highs and lows of sorority involvement, the challenges of navigating superficial vs. genuine relationships, and the lessons they've learned about self-worth, quality over quantity, and staying true to yourself. The discussion sheds light on how social media pressures, cultural expectations, and campus dynamics influence friendships during college and young adulthood. Listeners will gain insights into: Why expectations of "forever friends" in college often clash with reality. The good, the bad, and the complicated dynamics of sorority life. How to identify authentic connections vs. superficial relationships. The emotional impact of broken friendships — and how to heal. Practical advice for building meaningful, lasting relationships in young adulthood. This candid conversation is a must-listen for students, parents, and anyone reflecting on the power (and pitfalls) of friendship in today's world. Resources Mentioned ●      Tyler Perry's advice on friendships: LINK Madea-People are like leaves, branches, and roots (A reflective skit offering wisdom on the dynamics of true friendships.) ●      Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call 988 for free and confidential support.   Connect with Us ●      Visit our website: 7onsundays.com ●      Follow us on Instagram: @7onsundays ●      Subscribe to the podcast on your favorite platform.

Sam shares her story of hookup culture, codependency, and healing from past trauma — and how she built self-worth through boundaries and respect. Hookup culture is often glamorized as casual and carefree — but for many young adults, it leads to feelings of emptiness, confusion, and self-doubt. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Sam, a recent college graduate, who bravely shares her journey of navigating hookup culture, unpacking childhood trauma, and reclaiming her self-worth. Sam opens up about the lasting impact of early family dynamics on relationships, her struggle with codependency and superficial validation, and the pivotal moment she realized the need for clear boundaries and self-respect. Together, the conversation sheds light on how young people can break free from destructive cycles and embrace healthier, more meaningful connections. Listeners will gain insights into: How childhood experiences shape adult relationships. The emotional toll of hookup culture and casual sex. Recognizing and healing from codependency. Building self-respect through boundaries and communication. Choosing healthier, intentional relationships. This candid and inspiring discussion is a must-listen for anyone navigating modern dating, seeking authentic love, or healing from the past. 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:17 Sam's College Experience and Hookup Culture 03:51 Seeking Validation Through Hookups 06:34 Codependency and Early Relationships 18:03 Impact of Childhood and Parental Influence 22:51 Healing and Self-Realization 29:50 Transformation and Moving Forward 35:45 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 37:41 Empowerment Through Boundaries 38:33 Parental Influence and Personal Development 41:30 Navigating Dating and Setting Expectations 55:14 The Role of Courage in Building Relationships 57:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts      

Harrison Haynes shares his journey from social media addiction to digital minimalism—discover tools to reclaim presence, mental health, and connection. Are we more connected—or more isolated—because of our phones? In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Harrison Haynes to explore the realities of social media addiction, digital dependency, and the urgent need for digital minimalism. Harrison shares his raw and honest experiences navigating screen addiction, online pressures, and post-COVID loneliness, and how switching to a "dumb phone" radically transformed his relationships and mental clarity. Together, they unpack how technology impacts intimacy, trust, and self-worth—and how intentional digital practices can restore balance and genuine connection. Listeners will gain practical tools for creating boundaries with technology, embracing mindfulness, and reclaiming their lives from the constant pull of screens. From digital detox strategies to building real-life support systems, this candid conversation is a must-listen for anyone seeking healthier relationships with technology, themselves, and others. Topics Covered: How social media addiction erodes mental health and connection Digital minimalism and Harrison's journey with a "dumb phone" Rebuilding face-to-face connections in a post-COVID world Practical digital detox tips for clarity and presence Boundaries, mindfulness, and creating stronger relationships This episode is for anyone who's ever felt drained by endless scrolling—or who longs for a life of presence, purpose, and authentic connection.   Resources Mentioned ●      The Light Phone 2LinkA minimalist phone designed to be used as little as possible, supporting digital intentionalism. ●      The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Link Discusses the importance of slowing down in a hurried world, referenced by Harrison in his conversation on modern social spaces.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 00:17 The Impact of Technology on Relationships 01:01 Welcoming Harrison Haynes 01:19 Harrison's Mission and Technology 02:06 Post-COVID Digital Dependency 03:07 The Desire for Real Connections 03:40 Social Anxiety and Digital Distractions 06:18 Creating Intentional Spaces 10:30 The Digital Detox Journey 11:39 The Light Phone Experience 17:13 Mindfulness and Digital Minimalism 24:15 Weekly Digital Detox Practice 25:55 The Impact of Constant Availability in Relationships 27:17 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships with Limited Technology 27:48 The Healing Power of Limited Phone Use 29:20 The Dangers of Codependency and Urgency 32:18 Trust and Vulnerability in Modern Relationships 41:33 Practical Tips for Digital Intentionalism 46:35 Final Thoughts and Reflections   Connect with Us ●      Website: 7onsundays.com ●      Instagram: @7onsundays ●      Twitter: @7onsundays ●      Facebook: 7 on Sundays

Hope shares her story of coerced sex, hookup culture, and porn's influence on teen relationships — and how she found healing and resilience. First crush, hookup culture, coerced sex, and the impact of porn on teen relationships — these are the themes explored in today's 7 On Sundays™ episode. Our guest Hope shares her story of what should have been an innocent first crush at age 15, but quickly turned into a jarring experience filled with sexual expectations she wasn't ready for. Like too many teens, Hope was left confused, scared, and shaped by the silence of cultural, family, and religious messaging. This episode shines a light on how porn culture and lack of realistic sex education influence young people, leaving them unprepared to navigate intimacy or boundaries. Hope's story is also one of resilience: she leaned on her big sister for support and has since become a guiding light for others who have faced coercion, shame, or confusion in early relationships. This raw and honest conversation is essential for parents, teens, and educators who want to understand the pressures of hookup culture, the dangers of porn's influence, and the importance of consent and communication in healthy relationships.   RESOURCES National Sexual Assault Hotline FREE & CONFIDENTIAL   1.800.656.4673  or visit RAINN.ORG or Chat online at online.rainn.org National Domestic Dating Violence Hotlines 800.799.SAFE (7233) and Love Is Respect 866.331.9474 (A service of the National Domestic Violence Hotline)    TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Welcome to Seven on Sundays Podcast 01:14 Hope's Courageous Journey  07:51 The Aftermath and Realizations 10:00 Seeking Help and Learning from Experience 12:57 Empowerment and Sharing the Story 16:56 Insights on Consent and Red Flags 23:59 Healing, Therapy, and Moving Forward 30:29 Addressing the Impact of Sexual Assault & Empowering Messages for Survivors 38:12 The Control of Porn Indoctrination 41:53 The Role of Family Support in Healing 47:35 The Importance of Education on Sexual Assault and Consent 49:58 Wrap-up & Our Final Thoughts  

Lexi shares her journey with vaginismus, hymenectomy, pelvic floor therapy, and intimacy struggles. A raw story of sexual health, hookup culture, and healing. Sexual health struggles are more common than most people realize — but rarely talked about openly. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye (sex educator) and Dr. Chez Leeby (licensed marriage and family therapist) sit down with Lexi, who bravely shares her personal journey through hymenectomy, pelvic floor therapy, and the emotional challenges of intimacy. Lexi opens up about the physical pain, shame, and societal pressures she faced — and how she learned to advocate for her well-being and embrace vulnerability in relationships. Together, the conversation explores how hookup culture, generational trauma, and stigma around sexual health impact young women, and how healing and empowerment are possible. Listeners will gain insight into: Hymenectomy and pelvic floor therapy explained Overcoming pain during intimacy and tampon use The role of societal pressure and hookup culture in shaping self-image Healing the body-mind connection through therapy and support Tools for self-advocacy, communication, and empowerment Vulnerability and communication: Building trust in relationships. This is an essential listen for anyone navigating intimacy challenges, sexual health struggles, or the journey toward reclaiming their voice.   Resources Mentioned - **Pelvic Floor Therapy**: Learn more about pelvic health and therapy options [here](https://pelvicpain.org). - **Psychology Today Therapist Directory**: Find a supportive therapist in your area: [Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/). **"It's Not a Trauma Olympics"** by Brené Brown: A guide to understanding and validating personal trauma.   Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:17 Coming Up In This Episode 00:51 Welcome to 7 on Sundays 01:29 Lexi's Early Struggles with Tampons 02:39 Discovering the Hymenectomy 04:08 Navigating Sexual Experiences 16:57 Pelvic Floor Therapy 20:43 Exploring Transgenerational Trauma 22:29 Exploring Historical Trauma and Female Bonding 24:23 Navigating Hookup Culture in College 25:01 Personal Reflections on Hookup Culture   Connect with Us - **Website**: [7onSundays.com](https://7onsundays.com)  - **Instagram**: [@7onSundays](https://instagram.com/7onSundays)  - **Twitter**: [@7onSundaysPod](https://twitter.com/7onSundaysPod)  - **Email**: [email protected]  26:02 Challenges in Current Relationships 28:51 Communicating Vulnerability in Relationships 32:03 Mindset and Physical Tools for Pain-Free Intimacy 40:37 Wrap Up 42:03 The Importance of Validation and Finding the Right Physician 44:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Levi shares how hustle culture impacts mental health, balance, and purpose. A candid look at Gen Z, achievement pressure, and authentic living. Hustle culture is everywhere — from college campuses to social media — but what is it really costing young people? In this episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Levi, a 20-year-old college student, who shares his personal journey navigating the overwhelming pressures of achievement, success, and societal expectations. Levi opens up about the toll hustle culture takes on mental health, relationships, and identity, and how he's learning to redefine success on his own terms. The conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and even spiritual dimensions of hustle culture — and what it means to step back, reclaim balance, and pursue authentic purpose. Listeners will gain insight into: The hidden costs of hustle culture on Gen Z mental health How societal and family expectations drive burnout Finding identity and balance beyond productivity Tools for navigating stress, authenticity, and purpose This raw, hopeful conversation is a must-listen for students, parents, and anyone seeking to break free from toxic hustle culture and redefine what truly matters.   Resources Mentioned ●      Chi Alpha Campus Ministries: chialpha.com A national organization providing spiritual and community support for college students. ●      The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer: A book exploring the dangers of hurry culture and offering insights on slowing down to live a meaningful life. Connect with Us ●      Website: 7onsundays.com ●      Instagram: @7onSundaysPodcast ●      Facebook: 7 on Sundays Podcast ●      Email: [email protected]

Betsy Stephenson shares her son Charlie's story, hidden signs of depression in young men, and the grief, stigma, and hope after suicide loss. Depression, suicide loss, and parental grief are at the heart of this powerful continuation of our conversation with Betsy Stephenson, author of Blackbird: A Mother's Reflections on Grief, Loss, and Life After Suicide. In Part 2 of this 7 On Sundays™ series, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye dive deeper into the misunderstood signs of depression — particularly in young men — through the story of Betsy's late son, Charlie. This episode explores: The hidden signs of depression in young men (irritability, withdrawal, loss of appetite, sleep changes) Why depression itself is "enough" and requires no other justification for concern Parenting, grief, and writing through active loss The role of community, conversations, and early intervention in mental health Breaking stigma around suicide, depression, and the right to feel pain The urgent need for mental health support in schools, fraternities, and colleges Betsy's reflections, paired with Dr. Chez's insights, offer a compassionate, raw, and necessary discussion on how we can better support young people, parents, and communities impacted by depression and suicide loss. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:19 Interview with Betsy Stephenson Begins 00:54 Understanding Depression in Males 02:57 Personal Experiences with Depression 07:17 Coping Mechanisms and Therapy 08:42 The Importance of Open Conversations 13:22 Early Signs and Seeking Help 23:08 The Impact of Transitions and Modern Pressures 27:05 The Danger of Comparison and Grief 28:12 The Importance of Validating All Feelings 28:42 The Pressure of Perfection 30:55 Betsy's Unique Approach to Writing About Grief 37:38 The Power of Checking on Friends 44:55 Addressing Depression and Mental Health in Fraternities 49:35 Recognizing the Signs of Depression 52:32 Final Thoughts and Resources   Resources Mentioned: - *Blackbird* by Betsey Stevenson — [Buy the book](https://www.betseystevenson.com)    A memoir about grief and healing written in real-time by a mother who lost her son to suicide. - National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — [Call or text 988](https://988lifeline.org)    Free, confidential support available 24/7.   If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. Subscribe and leave a review to help more listeners find these crucial conversations. And most importantly: check on your friends—it matters more than you know.

Betsy Stephenson shares her journey of child loss, grief, and healing after suicide. A heartfelt story of resilience, hope, and love after tragedy. Suicide loss, grief, and healing after the death of a child are among the most painful human experiences. In this episode of 7 On Sundays™, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with writer and advocate Betsy Stephenson, author of Blackbird: A Mother's Reflections on Grief, Loss, and Life After Suicide. With raw honesty and strength, Betsy shares her heartbreaking journey of losing her child to suicide and the ongoing process of navigating life, love, and resilience in the aftermath. This conversation explores: The realities of suicide bereavement and child loss How grief changes family, identity, and relationships The role of advocacy, writing, and truth-telling in healing Finding light and resilience after unimaginable loss This is Part 1 of a two-part series offering compassion, understanding, and hope for anyone affected by suicide. Whether you are a grieving parent, family member, or friend, Betsy's story reminds us that while grief never ends, healing is possible. Topics Discussed - Betsy's experience of losing her son to suicide - Writing as a tool for healing and reflection - The emotional process behind *Blackbird* - Navigating grief and honoring one's emotions - The role of community and support in healing - Finding meaning and connection through storytelling - Encouraging open conversations around mental health and suicide   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 A Parent's Grief: Losing Charlie 01:02 Interview with Betsy Stephenson 01:56 Charlie's Story and the Impact of Suicide 04:05 The Importance of Honesty in Grief 07:53 Charlie's Hidden Struggles 10:39 A Mother's Efforts to Help 21:57 Charlie's Final Days 27:09 The Reality of Suicide for College Students 30:21 The Importance of Prevention and Support Systems 33:24 The Role of Diagnosis and Professional Help 46:13 The Impact of Toxic Masculinity on Mental Health 51:50 Final Thoughts and Resources   Resources Mentioned - Blackbird: A Mother's Reflections on Grief, Loss, and Life After Suicide: https://www.amazon.com/Blackbird-Mothers-Reflections-Grief-Suicide/dp/1964721296    A memoir by Betsey Stevenson offering an intimate and powerful reflection on her journey through grief and healing.   - American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP)  https://afsp.org     A national organization dedicated to saving lives and bringing hope to those affected by suicide.

Parker continues her story of pornography addiction, shame, and recovery. A candid look at healing, self-esteem, and reclaiming self-worth. Pornography addiction, shame, and conservative culture take center stage in Part 2 of Parker's powerful story on 7 On Sundays. Hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby continue their candid conversation with Parker, who bravely explores how porn shaped her mental health, relationships, and sense of self. In this episode, Parker reflects on her sheltered upbringing, the destructive influence of pornography on self-esteem, and the long road to self-awareness and healing. Her story highlights the emotional and relational cost of growing up with secrecy and shame — and the hope that comes with vulnerability and recovery. Listeners will gain insight into: The psychological toll of porn addiction and secrecy How conservative environments shape sexuality and shame Rebuilding confidence and self-worth after addiction Strategies for healing and reclaiming healthy intimacy This raw and inspiring conversation offers hope for anyone struggling with pornography, shame, or toxic cultural messages about sexuality. Resources Mentioned ●      Digital Intentionalism 7 On Sundays Podcast with Harrison Haynes (episode Discusses strategies to reduce digital distractions and build healthier habits. ●      Books on Body Awareness and Cycle TrackingExplore resources that helped Parker understand her menstrual cycle and its impact on her mental health. ●      988 Suicide and Crisis LifelineA free, confidential resource for anyone in crisis. Connect with Us ●      Website: 7onsundays.comFind past episodes, resources, and show updates. ●      Social Media:Instagram: @7OnSundaysFacebook: 7 On SundaysTwitter: @7OnSundays

Pornography addiction, shame, and conservative cultural expectations collide in this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays. Hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Parker, who bravely shares her journey of growing up in a conservative household while secretly struggling with porn addiction and questions of self-worth. Parker reflects on how early media exposure, rigid values, and silence around sexuality shaped her sexual development and emotional health. From the shame of hidden habits to the courage of speaking out, Parker's story sheds light on the struggles many young people face but rarely talk about. Listeners will gain insight into: How conservative teachings and shame impact sexual development The cycle of pornography addiction and self-esteem struggles The importance of vulnerability and conversation in healing Hope for anyone navigating secrecy, porn, and relationships This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and young adults seeking honest dialogue about porn addiction, shame, and the journey to reclaim self-worth.   RESOURCES: The Porn Myth:  Wendy and Larry Maltz   Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:17 Coming Up In This Episode 01:15 Welcome to 7 On Sundays 02:02 Early Exposure to Media 03:16 Discovering Pornography 04:33 Struggles with Guilt and Shame 05:15 First Orgasm Experience 08:22 Confession to Mom 15:18 Impact on Self-Esteem 29:04 First Relationship and Parental Disapproval 31:55 Ongoing Struggles with Pornography 34:00 Masturbation Without Pornography 36:03 The Impact of Pornography on the Mind 36:26 Debunking Myths About Male and Female Arousal 37:53 Personal Experiences and Emotional Numbness 39:47 Struggles with Confidence and Performance 42:41 Therapy and the Path to Recovery 43:31 The Role of Communication in Relationships 53:07 Understanding Sexual Pleasure and Misconceptions 56:17 Navigating Relationships and Self-Worth 01:04:07 Concluding Thoughts and Future Conversations 01:05:48 Wrap Up   Connect with Us ●      Website: [Insert Website Link] ●      Instagram: [Insert Instagram Handle] ●      Twitter: [Insert Twitter Handle] ●      Subscribe: [Insert Podcast Subscription Link]

Haley shares her story of abuse, purity culture, and religious trauma—and how she reclaimed her voice, boundaries, and self-worth through healing. What happens when purity culture, restrictive religious teachings, and toxic relationships collide? In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Haley, a courageous young woman who bravely shares her deeply personal journey of growing up in a fundamentalist environment, enduring abuse, and ultimately reclaiming her voice and self-worth. Haley's story sheds light on how purity culture abuse stories and religious trauma often leave young people unprepared for healthy, consensual relationships. With raw honesty, she describes how emotional coercion in relationships, manipulation disguised as love, and toxic family dynamics eroded her confidence and boundaries. Her words resonate deeply, naming the unspoken shame, isolation, and confusion that so many survivors carry. Through therapy, supportive friendships, and mentors, Haley began to recognize abuse for what it was, reclaim her boundaries, and rebuild her sense of identity. This candid conversation highlights the intersection of religious trauma, consent, gender roles, and abuse recovery while offering practical tools and hope for healing. Listeners will learn: The damaging effects of purity culture and rigid gender roles. How emotional coercion and gaslighting distort consent. Why therapy and support systems are essential for recovery. Steps to reclaim self-worth, voice, and empowerment after abuse. Haley's bravery makes her not just a survivor, but a guide for others navigating similar struggles. Her story is a powerful reminder that healing is possible, boundaries matter, and you are not alone. Resources Mentioned: 7 on Sundays Website 7onsundays.comAn open forum for discussing relationships, mental health, and more. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Call 988 A free, confidential support line for mental health crises and suicidal thoughts.

Sophie shares her raw story of OnlyFans, desire, manipulation & self-worth—and how she reclaimed her voice and identity. What really happens behind the screen on OnlyFans? In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Sophie, who courageously shares her personal journey with OnlyFans, desire, and self-worth. Sophie opens up about how a trusted relationship pulled her into creating content—and how quickly the promise of validation shifted into manipulation, emotional struggle, and self-doubt. Together, the conversation explores the hidden costs of OnlyFans, the role of codependency in relationships, and the difficult but empowering process of reclaiming your voice. If you've ever wondered about the realities of OnlyFans, or if you've struggled with self-worth and identity in relationships, this episode is an eye-opening and deeply relatable listen. Topics Discussed Sophie's Journey with OnlyFans: How a friend's influence led her into OnlyFans and the unexpected impact it had on her self-image. Understanding Manipulation and Control: Identifying subtle signs of coercion and the toll they take on one's sense of autonomy. The Fine Line Between Empowerment and Exploitation: How society markets empowerment and how it can sometimes be used as a tool for manipulation. Building Self-Worth: Insights into developing internal validation and boundaries, especially in relationships. Advice for Young Listeners: Recognizing the importance of gut instincts, self-reflection, and prioritizing personal values. Resources Mentioned Codependent No More by Melody Beattie A foundational book on understanding codependency and building healthier relationships. Codependents Anonymous (CoDA) Website linkA free support group for those navigating codependent relationships. National Human Trafficking Hotline Website linkA resource for anyone needing information or support related to trafficking. Connect with Us Stay updated with 7 on Sundays: Website: www.7onSundays.com Instagram: @7onSundays Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Google Podcasts   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:02 Stephanie and Dr. Chez Introduce the Episode 02:38 Sophie's Story Begins 03:06 The Manipulative Relationship with Adam 05:00 The Emotional Toll of OnlyFans 09:11 Reflecting on the Experience 11:53 Understanding the Dynamics of Manipulation 13:08 The Realization of Trafficking 23:18 Advice for Young Girls 35:39 Reflecting on a Defeating Experience 35:53 Understanding Trauma Bonds 36:53 People Pleasing and Validation 40:31 Empowerment vs. Exploitation 42:01 The Reality of OnlyFans 48:16 Trusting Your Gut Instincts 55:17 Concluding Thoughts and Advice  

Two mothers share their journey through child loss, grief & healing—and how Helping Parents Heal gave them hope and purpose. Child loss is the most devastating pain a parent can face—but healing and hope are possible. In this deeply moving episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby sit down with Laura and Beverly, two courageous mothers who share their stories of losing children, navigating grief, and finding meaning after unimaginable tragedy. Through candid conversations about spirituality, resilience, and connection with loved ones in spirit, Laura and Beverly reveal how they discovered purpose and support in Helping Parents Heal, a global community for grieving families. This episode offers comfort, inspiration, and hope for parents, families, and anyone impacted by loss. It's a powerful reminder that healing is possible—even in the face of profound grief.   RESOURCES   Community Recommendations Helping Parents Heal   An organization dedicated to helping parents who have experienced the loss of a child find peace and connection. Website: [helpingparentsheal.org](http://helpingparentsheal.org)      Book Recommendations   "Dying to Be Me"  by Anita Moorjani     "Walking in the Garden of Souls"  by George Anderson     "When Bad Things Happen to Good People"  by Harold Kushner   Podcast Recommendation   Next Level Soul – A podcast exploring spiritual topics, including near-death experiences and afterlife connections.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 Opening Thoughts on Life and Loss 00:55 Host and Guest Introductions 03:22 Laura's Story of Loss and Healing 08:57 Connecting with Loved Ones in Spirit 11:27 The Power of Meditation and Signs 16:14 Navigating Grief and Finding Purpose 22:16 Embracing Emotions and Support 42:01 The Power of Presence in Therapy 43:03 Soul Agreements and Spiritual Realizations 43:41 Stories of Spiritual Lessons 48:23 The Healing Journey and Community Support 55:08 Resources for Healing and Connection 01:02:46 Personal Reflections and Final Thoughts  

Harrison Haynes shares his healing journey after online grooming & trauma—offering hope, resilience & lessons for recovery. (Part 2) Healing after online grooming and trauma is possible—and Harrison Haynes' story proves it. In this powerful continuation of his journey on 7 On Sundays, Harrison opens up about his recovery process after surviving online grooming, bullying, and self-harm. Joined by hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye, Harrison shares how moments of isolation transformed into opportunities for growth, connection, and resilience. This episode highlights the importance of vulnerability, community support, and self-awareness in overcoming trauma. Whether you are a young adult navigating loneliness, a parent supporting your child, or a survivor of trauma yourself, Harrison's story offers hope, encouragement, and practical lessons for healing. ⚠️ Sensitive Content: This episode discusses trauma, self-harm, and recovery. Listener discretion is advised.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:07 Harrison's Story: A Journey of Healing 03:47 A Life-Changing Dream 10:43 Finding Community and Support 14:26 The Power of Vulnerability 20:35 A New Path: From Atheism to Faith 28:54 Advocacy and Activism 31:53 The Importance of Open Conversations 42:15 Navigating Intimacy Beyond Pornography 43:58 The Healing Journey: Embracing Vulnerability 46:08 Unlearning Harmful Narratives 48:30 The Power of Community and Vulnerability 51:36 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 54:19 Parenting in the Digital Age 59:31 The Importance of Connection and Support 01:03:52 Final Reflections and Advice 01:19:01 Conclusion and Gratitude  

Harrison shares his story of online grooming, bullying & suicide risk—revealing the dangers of predators and hope for healing. (Part 1) Online grooming and bullying are real dangers facing teens in today's digital world—and Harrison Haynes knows this all too well. In this moving first part of his story on 7 On Sundays, Harrison shares how he was groomed online as a young teen, the devastating impact on his mental health, and how loneliness and online predators shaped his early relationships. The conversation highlights the warning signs of grooming, the emotional toll of bullying, and the critical role of supportive friends, family, and educators. Harrison's story is both a cautionary tale and a message of hope for anyone navigating adolescence in the digital age. Please note: This episode discusses sensitive topics including suicide, online grooming, and mental health struggles. Listener discretion is advised.   RESOURCES Suicide Hotline -Call or Text 988 Website www.988lifeline.org The Cyber Helpline -Supports victims of cybercrime    www.thecyberhelpline.com     TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:17 Harrison's Early Online Friendship 01:01 Meet the Hosts and Guest Introduction 03:24 Harrison's Story: The Beginning 06:02 The Dark Turn in Friendship 07:47 Isolation and Emotional Burden 09:12 The Impact of Pornography 27:21 A Parent's Intervention 32:07 The Aftermath and Seeking Help 37:05 A Divine Intervention 39:33 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser      

Former guest Joy returns to discuss sexual choking, porn culture, risks, consent, and why this dangerous trend demands honest conversations. Sexual choking is one of the most dangerous sexual practices—yet it's increasingly normalized through porn and hookup culture. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with returning guest Joyto unpack the risks, consent issues, and cultural myths surrounding sexual choking. Together, they discuss: The hidden dangers and potentially deadly consequences of sexual choking How porn culture normalizes violent sexual scripts Why clear communication, boundaries, and enthusiastic consent are essential Joy's raw personal experiences and the emotional aftermath This candid conversation empowers listeners to think critically about sexual safety, consent, and healthy intimacy—and challenges the cultural silence around practices that put lives at risk.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:48 Hosts Introduction and Episode Overview 01:30 Guest Introduction and Topic Revisit 04:02 Understanding Sensual vs. Aggressive Choking 06:07 Boundaries and Communication During Intimate Moments 08:42 Normalization of Aggressive Sexual Behaviors 17:22 Conversations About Aggressive Sexual Practices 21:26 Advice for Young People and Parents 34:11 The Importance of Clear Communication 35:28 Developing Trust in Relationships 43:27 The Role of Safety in Intimacy 49:42 Final Thoughts and Reflections      

Root shares her story of surviving sexual trauma, abusive relationships, and healing. A candid conversation on boundaries, consent, and recovery. Sexual trauma, abusive relationships, and the path to healing take center stage in this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays. Hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Root, a courageous survivor who shares her deeply personal journey of abuse, recovery, and reclaiming self-worth. Root's story shines light on the hidden complexities of toxic and abusive relationships, especially among young adults. With raw honesty, she explains how trauma impacts mental health, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of trusted support systems in recovery. Listeners will gain insight into: Recognizing red flags in abusive relationships The psychological impact of sexual trauma How boundaries protect self-worth and healing Myths about consent and sexual behavior in our culture Finding strength through support, community, and self-advocacy This episode is a vital resource for anyone seeking to understand abuse, support survivors, or navigate their own healing journey. Join us as we explore these critical topics with sensitivity and compassion, aiming to empower listeners to advocate for themselves and others.   RESOURCES If you or a loved one are in an abusive relationship, please call your local police or any of the following...  *988 the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Call your local police or National Centers for Victims of Crime (NCVC) 1-800-FYI-CALL if you suspect that you have been the victim of crimes  The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224  The National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 A service of Love is Respect,  this national, 24-hour resource is specifically designed for teens and young adults. The Helpline is accessible by phone or online chat and offers real-time, one-on-one support from peer advocates trained to offer support, information, and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned friends, parents, teachers, clergy, law enforcement, and service providers. Love is RespectA collaboration between Break the Cycle and the National Dating Abuse Helpline, this web resource provides  information and resources on dating violence and healthy dating attitudes and relationships for youth. The site includes an overview of the issue (e.g., early warning signs, types of abuse, the cycle of abuse), quizzes for teens to determine whether they are experiencing or inflicting abuse, a live chat feature that connects youth with a peer advocate 24/7, videos, a blog, and more. In addition to the live chat, Love is Respect connects youth to the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453. Youth can also reach out for help by texting "loveis" to 22522.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:15 Setting Boundaries in Relationships 00:40 Welcome to 7 on Sundays 01:25 Introducing Root's Story 02:20 Root's First Relationship 03:11 The Abuse Unfolds 06:14 Grounding and Support 07:39 Reflecting on the Trauma 08:34 Understanding the Abuse 17:35 The Impact of Pornography 30:17 Root's Second Relationship 36:35 Understanding Deserved Love 37:29 Setting Boundaries and Self-Worth 38:03 Family Dynamics and Dysfunction 40:35 Breaking the Silence 41:49 The Importance of Therapy 45:49 Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships 01:02:43 Power Dynamics in Relationships 01:08:02 The Journey to Healing 01:10:43 Final Thoughts and Encouragement  

Thomas shares his story of suicide risk, toxic masculinity, and hustle culture—revealing why young men's mental health support is more urgent than ever. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Stephanie Boye and Dr. Chez Leeby explore the critical crisis of young men's mental health with 24-year-old college graduate Thomas. Facing suicide risk, toxic masculinity, and the pressures of hustle culture, Thomas opens up about his personal struggles, losses, and the journey toward healing. The conversation highlights the urgent need for open dialogue, therapy, and community support for young men. From group therapy and retreats to the idea of embedding therapists in fraternities, this episode offers practical strategies for fostering environments where young men feel safe to seek help, process emotions, and find purpose in early adulthood. Whether you're a parent, educator, or young adult, this episode sheds light on how to break stigmas, challenge toxic narratives, and prioritize men's mental health. RESOURCES 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline      Call or Text  #988 Crisis Text Line text "TALK" to 741-741 SAMHSA Treatment Referral Hotline (substance abuse) 1-800-662-HELP (4357)   Timestamps 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:47 Hosts Introduction and Episode Overview 01:54 Discussing Suicide and Mental Health Statistics 06:08 The Danger of Hustle Culture 09:16 Thomas's Personal Experience with Suicide 15:47 Emotional Impact and Coping Mechanisms 26:41 Toxic Masculinity and Hustle Culture 39:32 Exploring New Interests 41:09 Parental Concerns and Support 41:29 Pursuing Passion Despite Practicality 42:15 Mental Health and Expectations 43:21 The Loneliness Epidemic Among Men 45:36 Superficiality and Genuine Connections 48:52 Recognizing Red Flags in Mental Health 53:22 The Importance of Deep Conversations 01:01:58 Proposed Solutions for Mental Health Support 01:14:39 Final Thoughts and Future Plans    

Belle shares her story of college depression, loneliness & suicidal thoughts—offering hope, coping tools & strategies for healing. Depression and loneliness are silent struggles for many college students—and for Belle, these challenges became overwhelming. In this episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Belle to discuss her journey through depression, suicidal ideation, and the impact of campus life on her mental health. Belle bravely opens up about the daily realities of living with depression, the coping mechanisms that helped her survive, and the strategies she uses to create stability, connection, and healing. Together, the conversation explores how to recognize the signs of depression, reduce the stigma around mental health, and provide support for those in crisis. This candid and compassionate episode offers valuable insights for students, parents, and educators, while reminding listeners that no one has to suffer in silence. RESOURCES 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline      Call or Text  #988 Crisis Text Line text "TALK" to 741-741 SAMHSA Treatment Referral Hotline (substance abuse) 1-800-662-HELP (4357)   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:16 Belle's Personal Experience with Depression 05:22 Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact 07:04 Depression is a Numbness to Joy 09:33 Why Depression Shows up in College 13:26 The Role of Loneliness and Social Media 16:56 Hookup Culture and Depression 20:47 Suicidal Ideation and Seeking Help 29:32 Therapeutic Tools and Strategies 38:18 Final Thoughts and Resources  

Smut and fanfiction shape teen sexuality like porn. Anne shares how erotic stories distorted intimacy and how awareness leads to healthier love. Smut, erotic fanfiction, and explicit online stories are shaping how teens and young adults view sex, intimacy, and relationships. In this episode of the 7 On Sundays™ podcast, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Anne, a college student, to discuss her personal journey with smut, fanfiction, and the hidden consequences of consuming erotic literature at a young age. Anne opens up about how smut influenced her sexual expectations, distorted intimacy, and normalized porn-like scripts in her early relationships. Together, the hosts and Anne unpack: Why smut and fanfiction are the new "gateway porn" for many teens How erotic stories can impact mental health, body image, and relationships The hidden dangers parents often miss when monitoring online activity Practical strategies for awareness, boundaries, and self-regulation This raw and important conversation reveals how "just stories" can carry the same risks as pornography — and why open dialogue is crucial for healthier sexuality and relationships.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 01:28 Guest Introduction and Early Exposure to Smut 02:35 Discovering Fan Fiction and Smut 04:05 Exploring Different Types of Fan Fiction 04:50 Impact of Fan Fiction on Sexual Understanding 12:58 Revisiting Old Fan Fiction 20:13 Hiding Fan Fiction from Parents 25:30 Normalization and Popularity of Smut 27:12 Violent Themes in Smut 29:24 Psychological Impact and Sexual Templates 41:45 Power Dynamics in Smut Literature 42:37 The Escalation of Smut Writing 43:52 Vanilla and Consent in Modern Relationships 46:59 The Impact of Smut on Real-Life Relationships 48:54 The Importance of Human Connection 52:42 Addressing the Influence of Smut on Youth 57:29 Final Thoughts and Reflections  

Dating apps & hookup culture leave many college students empty. Bonnie & Beth share risks, red flags, and the path to meaningful connections. Dating apps and hookup culture promise connection but often leave college students feeling empty and unsafe. In this episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye talk with college sophomores Bonnie and Beth about the challenges of navigating modern relationships. The conversation explores the hidden dangers of dating apps, the emotional toll of hookup culture, and the pressure young adults feel to seek validation through shallow encounters. Bonnie and Beth share raw insights about the risks, the importance of listening to trusted friends and family, and the journey toward self-worth and meaningful connections. This honest and empowering discussion shines light on the realities of young adult dating culture while offering guidance on safety, emotional health, and building genuine relationships. A must-listen for students, parents, and anyone curious about the impact of hookup culture on mental health and intimacy. RESOURCES:   TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:14 Episode Overview 02:22 Bonnie's Story: Seeking Connection 13:05 Beth's Story: Mixed Signals and Heartbreak 15:58 Self-Worth and Seeking Genuine Connection 21:17 Reflecting on Personal Needs and Desires 34:15 Realizing What You Want in a Relationship 36:05 The Importance of Self-Love and Self-Knowledge 37:43 The Power of Affirmations and Self-Respect 41:35 Empowered Statements and Personal Growth 47:35 Building Genuine Connections and Intimacy 54:15 Making Safe and Thoughtful Decisions 58:24 Closing Thoughts and Final Advice  

Former sex worker Andrea Heinz exposes the dark truths of prostitution, sex work exploitation, and why the Nordic model offers real solutions. Sex work, prostitution, and exploitation are too often glamorized—but what's the real truth? In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, host Stephanie Boye speaks with Andrea Heinz, Canadian author, advocate, and former sex worker, to expose the dark realities of the commercial sex industry. Andrea shares her personal journey, the harms of prostitution and pornography, and why she champions the Nordic model—a legal approach that targets sex buyers and exploiters while supporting survivors. Andrea Heinz is an independent activist, author, and peer-reviewed scholar specializing in commercial sexual exploitation. Drawing on her lived experience of seven years in Edmonton's licensed sex industry (2006–2013), including escorting, Andrea has become a leading voice in advocating for systemic change and educating communities on exploitation and cultural harm. This candid conversation explores: The realities of sex work and prostitution beyond glamorized media narratives The emotional, financial, and systemic challenges of exiting the sex trade The impact of hypersexualized culture and porn myths on society The role of John Schools in reducing demand through education and restorative justice Andrea's ongoing advocacy, research, and public speaking that dismantles harmful sex work ideologies This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the impact of sex work on individuals, relationships, and society—and how real change can happen.   RESOURCES MENTIONED ●      Andrea Heinz's Book: When Men Buy Sex, Who Really Pays? Link to Purchase A powerful exploration of exploitation, survival, and advocacy within the Canadian sex trade. ●      CEASE (Centre to End All Sexual Exploitation): Website A Canadian nonprofit providing support to individuals exiting the sex trade. ●      Prostitution Narratives: Edited by Caroline Norma and Melinda Tankard Reist An anthology featuring Andrea's essay under the alias "Kendra." ●      Epic (EPIK): Website An organization intercepting transactions and offering support to men seeking to buy sex.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:15 Personal Stories and Industry Realities 00:59 Meet the Host and Guest 01:11 Andrea Heinz's Background and Advocacy 01:35 Understanding the Nordic Model 02:13 Andrea's Powerful Essay Excerpt 03:36 Sex Work and Sexual Agency 04:11 The Reality of Boundaries in Sex Work 04:58 Andrea's Journey and Insights 05:23 The Slippery Slope of Sex Work 06:00 The Challenges of Exiting the Industry 09:07 Legal Perspectives on Prostitution 14:05 Andrea's Personal Story 19:13 The Impact of Hyper-Sexualized Culture 25:32 The Stigma and Secrecy of Sex Work 27:49 Andrea's Public Advocacy 35:55 Understanding Trafficking and Pimping 40:46 A Story of Trafficking in an Open Marriage 41:34 Clarifying the Distinction Between Pimping and Trafficking 42:17 Personal Reflections on Trafficking and Coercion 44:06 The Complexities of Coercion in the Sex Industry 47:02 The Catalyst for Leaving the Industry 49:17 Educating Men About the Realities of Sex Work 50:19 The Impact of Pornography on Young Men 54:32 The Role of John's Schools in Rehabilitation 01:05:54 The Importance of Early Education and Intervention 01:12:11 Addressing Socioeconomic and Patriarchal Issues 01:15:41 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Connect with Us ●      Website: 7 on Sundays Podcast ●      Instagram: @7onSundays ●      Twitter: @7onSundaysPod ●      Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Google Podcasts

Fraternity and sorority hazing harms students and campus culture. This episode exposes the dangers of Greek life and the urgent need for change. Fraternity and sorority hazing remains one of the most dangerous and damaging traditions in college culture. In this eye-opening episode of 7 On Sundays, Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye take a critical look at Greek life hazing—what it is, why it persists, and how it harms students. As students prepare to head back to school and decide whether or not to rush Greek life, this conversation unpacks both the promises and perils of fraternities and sororities. The hosts explore how hazing impacts mental health, self-worth, and safety, while asking the bigger questions: Why do we allow others to define our value? How does this culture hurt young people? And what needs to change? Whether you're a student, parent, or educator, this episode is a must-listen for understanding the realities of college hazing, recognizing red flags, and advocating for safer, healthier campus cultures. TIMESTAMPS [00:01:30] Introduction to sorority and fraternity hazing discussion [00:03:55] The appeal of fraternities and sororities [00:07:05] Dr. Chez's excitement for her daughter joining a sorority [00:07:57] Personal experience of Dr. Chez's son being harmed during fraternity hazing [00:11:15] Introduction to the book "Among the Bros" and its coverage of fraternity crimes [00:17:07] Understanding hazing laws and university conduct codes [00:21:40] The Bystander Effect in Hazing Situations [00:26:42] Women and identity in sororities [00:29:45] The National Epidemic of Loneliness and Its Relation to Hazing [00:31:15] The Impact of Greek Life on Parental Pride [00:41:45] Making meaningful connections in college [00:44:05] Creating college community [00:49:03] Addressing both the physical and emotional abuse in hazing [00:50:56] Hazing experiences in sororities  

Sadie exposes the toxic truth of sorority hazing, its emotional toll, and why Greek life traditions need to change. In this episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Sadie to unpack the hidden realities of sorority hazing and toxic Greek life traditions. Sadie shares her personal story of hazing rituals that pushed her to leave her sorority and ultimately led to the chapter being shut down on campus. This candid conversation explores the dangers of fraternity and sorority hazing, the emotional toll on students, and why these harmful practices continue in college culture. Whether you've been through Greek life or are preparing for rush, this episode is a must-listen on the risks, red flags, and how to choose healthier connections in college.

Hannah shares what college is like outside sorority life—loneliness, frat parties, hookup culture, and the power of saying "no." What happens when you're not part of sorority life in college? In this candid episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Hannah, a sophomore at a large West Coast university, to unpack the pressures female students face in Greek life and hookup culture. Hannah shares her personal experiences navigating: Loneliness and social exclusion outside sorority life Non-consensual encounters at frat parties and the blurred lines of hookup culture The role of media and pop culture in shaping college expectations The power of saying "no" and protecting self-respect Why opting out of certain college activities is not only normal—but empowering This episode is a must-listen for college students, parents, and educators seeking insight into the realities of modern campus culture and the importance of authenticity and boundaries.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 01:15 Welcome to 7 on Sundays: Episode Overview 02:48 Hannah's Story: Frat Party Experiences 05:49 Greek Life and Recruitment Stories 10:12 Fraternity Party Dynamics and Safety Concerns 25:55 Navigating Social Life Outside Greek Parties 30:34 Dealing with Peer Pressure 37:15 The Dangers of Party Culture 39:39 Personal Experience: Being Drugged 41:28 The Impact of Negative Experiences 43:24 Meeting a Healthy Relationship 45:18 Objectification and Sexualization 49:44 Shame and Body Image 59:17 Building Trust in Relationships 01:09:57 Advice for Younger Generations 01:13:19 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  

Non-fatal strangulation is a red flag for deadly violence. Expert Brian Bennett exposes the dangers, signs, and long-term effects in this episode. Non-fatal strangulation is one of the most dangerous and under-recognized forms of domestic violence and sexual assault. In this eye-opening episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with expert Brian Bennett, a retired South Carolina law enforcement veteran and police academy instructor, to expose the hidden dangers of strangulation. Brian explains how strangulation impacts the brain and body, why it is a red flag for escalating violence, and the challenges in recognizing and prosecuting these cases. The discussion explores strangulation in domestic violence and sexual contexts, the long-term effects on survivors, and the urgent need for education, awareness, and systemic change. This critical conversation is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, healthcare professionals, and anyone seeking to understand the devastating effects of strangulation and how to help prevent it.   Resources Mentioned: ●      Institute on Strangulation Prevention: Free online training on non-fatal strangulation. ●      Nurse Joanne and Strangulation (YouTube video): A detailed explanation of why strangulation survivors need medical care. ●      Strangulation Law for SC (Facebook group): Updates, resources, and discussions around non-fatal strangulation in South Carolina.   Timestamps: 00:00 Trigger Warning 00:17 Coming Up In This Episode 00:57 Welcome and Guest Introduction 01:20 Expert Insights: Brian Bennett's Background 05:48 The Broader Scope of Strangulation 09:25 Signs and Symptoms of Strangulation 12:18 The Dangers of Sexual Strangulation 19:02 Long-Term Effects and Medical Complications 29:06 Raising Awareness and Training 30:46 Brian Bennett's Journey and Advocacy 34:08 The Need for Better Understanding and Conversations 40:15 The Dangers of Strangulation 40:57 Strangulation in Mixed Martial Arts 41:39 No Safe Strangulation 42:07 Personal Experiences and Misconceptions 44:43 Legislation and Legal Definitions 48:29 Strangulation as a Predictor of Violence 55:22 Medical Treatment and Awareness 59:20 Sexual Strangulation and Its Risks 01:07:21 Public Awareness and Education 01:08:24 Resources and Final Thoughts 01:13:34 Closing Statements   Connect with Us: ●      Website: 7onSundays.com ●      Facebook: 7 on Sundays ●      Instagram: @7onSundaysPodcast

Hope shares her story of toxic college relationships, emotional abuse, and red flags. Learn how to spot warning signs and build healthier love. Red flag relationships in college can be confusing, manipulative, and emotionally draining. In this episode of the 7 On Sundays™ podcast, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Hope, who bravely shares her story of two emotionally abusive early relationships. From intense dependency and gaslighting to subtle manipulation and coercion, Hope reveals the warning signs that many young adults miss. This powerful conversation explores: The red flags of toxic college relationships How to trust your intuition and set boundaries Why emotional abuse is often overlooked in young love The role of therapy and support in healing and resilience Whether you are in college, a parent, or simply navigating the complexities of modern relationships, this episode offers life-saving insights into recognizing unhealthy dynamics before they escalate. Hope's courage, combined with Dr. Chez and Stephanie's expertise, provides listeners with tools to protect their mental health, foster self-awareness, and create stronger, healthier relationships. RESOURCES If you or a loved one are in an abusive relationship, please call your local police or The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224  The National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 *988 The National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Trigger Warning & Introduction 01:32 Hope's Story: Early Relationships and Emotional Manipulation 06:35 A Second Relationship: Casual to Toxic 11:20 Hope's Reflections and Lessons Learned 17isCatching Red Flags 19:50 Breaking Patterns From Your Upbringing 25:07 Relationships Shouldn't be a Burden 30:04 Hope's Advice for Young Listeners 37:25 Therapist's Analysis and Final Thoughts

Porn Myths Debunked: The Hidden Harms of the Adult IndustryPornography is often portrayed as "normal," "healthy," or "empowering" — but what's the truth behind the screen? In this powerful follow-up to Cici's story, 7 On Sundays hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye debunk the biggest porn myths and reveal the hidden realities of the adult industry. Drawing from Cici's testimony as a former adult film star, they expose the psychological harm, physical risks, and systemic abuse endured by performers. This candid discussion dives into: Myths vs. Reality: Why porn is not a harmless fantasy. Exploitation and Dehumanization: How performers are conditioned and controlled. Psychological & Physical Harm: The toll on mental health, relationships, and body image. Cultural Conditioning: How porn rewires sexual expectations for young people. Why Awareness Matters: Bringing humanity back into conversations about sex and relationships. Whether you're a parent, educator, or young adult navigating hookup culture, this episode encourages critical thinking and challenges cultural narratives that normalize pornography.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to 7 On Sundays 01:28 Impactful Interview with Cici 04:27 Lack of Safety and Protections 10:13 The Exploitation of Youth 16:31 The Recruiter's Trap 26:03 The Concept of 'Making Hate' 28:18 The Evolution of Pornography 30:39 The Impact of Violent Pornography 33:05 Psychological and Emotional Effects 37:22 The Industry's Dark Side 44:04 Porn Is Teaching A Twisted Version of Sex 48:02 Empowerment and Critical Thinking 51:40 Final Thoughts and Resources

Former porn star Cici exposes the dark truth about Big Porn—exploitation, lack of consent, trauma, and how porn myths harm intimacy. The porn industry isn't what it seems. In this powerful re-airing from Laid Bare with Anonymous X, now featured on 7 On Sundays, host Stephanie Boye sits down with Cici, a former porn star, who courageously exposes the truth behind pornography. Cici shares raw insights into the dark side of the adult film industry, including: How consent is blurred and ignored on set The physical pain and degrading acts performers endure How porn myths distort real intimacy for viewers and relationships The psychological and emotional toll on performers This conversation compares Big Porn to Big Tobacco, Big Food, and Big Pharma — industries built on profit at the expense of human wellbeing. By breaking down these myths, this episode empowers listeners to understand the true impact of porn on performers, relationships, and society. A must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone seeking porn literacy and media awareness. Viewer discretion is advised. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 01:17 Hosts Introduction and Episode Overview: Myths and Realities of the Porn Industry 06:09 Cici's Personal Experiences and Testimonies 10:54 Debunking Common Porn Myths 12:12 Myth 1: Porn Sex Positions Are Pleasurable 18:02 Myth 2: Sex Should Last An Hour 22:32 Myth 3: Aggressive Non-consensual Sex is Acceptable 28:24 Myth 4: Size Matters 31:31 Myth 5: Women Enjoy a Facial 34:50 Myth 6: Women Like Being Called Sluts 38:48 Myth 7: All Women Love Anal Sex 48:06 Myth 8: Say Yes to Anything and Everything 50: 35 Myth 9: Porn is a True Depiction of Sex 57:38 Myth 10: Choking Is Acceptable Sex Play 01:00:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Caroline bravely shares her story of assault, consent, and healing—driven by love for her sisters and the phrase, "I'm way too hot for this." -Paris Hilton Consent, sexual assault, and hookup culture are misunderstood far too often on college campuses. In this 7 On Sundays™ episode, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye speak with Caroline, a courageous young woman who shares her deeply emotional story of experiencing sexual assault during a college hookup. Her raw account reveals how failed sex education, alcohol, and cultural pressures blur the lines of consent and leave students vulnerable. Caroline bravely opens up about: The dangerous myths surrounding consent in college hookup culture Why affirmative consent is not enough — and why enthusiastic consent must be the standard The emotional aftermath of non-consensual encounters The role of alcohol and "casual sex" in normalizing assault How she reclaimed her strength by embracing Paris Hilton's empowering phrase: "I'm way too hot for this." What makes Caroline's story especially powerful is her motivation: she shares with deep bravery and emotion because she never wants her little sisters to experience the trauma she endured. Caroline turns her pain into purpose, embodying the role of a protective big sister and a voice of resilience. This episode is essential for students, parents, and educators who want to understand the reality of consent, assault, and healing in today's hookup culture. RESOURCES RAINN (Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network) 800.656.HOPE,online.rainn.org y rainn.org/es 988 (National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline)   TIMESTAMP 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:54 Welcome to 7 on Sundays 01:26 Introducing Caroline's Story 03:08 Caroline's Experience of Assault 09:43 Understanding Consent 14:27 Impact on Relationships and Self-Worth 17:27 Learning to Identify Sexual Assault Setting Boundaries in your Relationship 25:30 Finding Self-Worth During Sex 33:21 Exploring Modern Sexual Norms 38:48 Healthy Intimacy and Communication 42:11 Reflecting on Self-Worth 44:36 Wrap-up: The Power of Consent Education  

Brooke shares her struggle with genital dysmorphia, body image, and OCD. Learn how social media, shame, and stigma shape mental health and healing. Genital dysmorphia, body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), and the pressures of social media are affecting young people at alarming rates. In this 7 On Sundays™ episode, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye talk with Brooke, a courageous college student, about her personal struggle with genital dysmorphia, OCD, and the damaging impact of cultural body shaming. Brooke shares how peer comments, toxic beauty standards, and societal stigma led to isolation, anxiety, and depression. She opens up about seeking labiaplasty surgery, battling obsessive thoughts (suicidal ideation), and facing the painful realities of "Snapchat dysmorphia." This conversation explores: The signs and symptoms of genital dysmorphia and BDD How social media filters distort self-image and increase plastic surgery demand The links between body image, mental health, and sexual well-being The "orgasm gap" and the importance of sexual health dialogue Pathways to healing through acceptance, therapy, and self-love This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with body image, parents of teens, or those wanting to better understand the harmful effects of unrealistic beauty standards and cultural shaming. RESOURCES Emily Nagoski  "Come As You Are" https://www.instagram.com/the.vulva.gallery/   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:17 Brooke's Story: Struggles with Genital Dysmorphia 07:41 What Triggered All This? 11:48 Cultural Critique: The Pursuit of Perfection 21:45 The History of Shaming Vaginas 24:23 The Orgasm Gap and Female Pleasure 29:30 The Importance of Open Conversations 37:42 The Impact of OCD on Body Image 39:29 Healing Through Relationships and Self-Acceptance 42:23 The Power of Positive Affirmations 43:51 Challenging Genital Shaming 48:08 Therapy and Self-Reflection 54:42 Wrap up: Stop Talking About Others Bodies  

Purity culture, porn, and Christian shame collide in Drew's story. How abstinence teachings shape sex, marriage, and recovery from toxic beliefs. Purity culture, abstinence teachings, pornography use, and Christian sexual shame are at the center of this episode's powerful conversation. Beginning in the 1990s, purity culture promoted abstinence until marriage, strict gender roles, and modesty rules for women. But what happens when these rigid teachings meet the reality of porn, dating, and marriage? Our guest Drew grew up in a conservative Christian household, attending purity conferences where abstinence, guilt, and rigid roles were drilled into teens. At the same time, he and his peers were secretly watching porn, creating expectations about sex that later collided with real relationships and marriage. Drew candidly shares how purity culture shaped his understanding of intimacy, how porn distorted his sexual expectations, and how shame and silence followed him into adulthood. This episode dives into the intersection of purity culture, porn addiction, and sexual shame. It explores how teachings meant to "protect" can leave young people unprepared for healthy, reciprocal intimacy. Drew opens up about questioning harmful beliefs, communicating openly with his wife, and unlearning toxic messages in order to build true connection. With statistics showing that 68% of churchgoing men and 76% of young Christian adults regularly watch porn, Drew's story highlights how pornography cuts across religious and secular spaces alike. His journey offers hope, healing, and a roadmap for moving from guilt and shame toward healthy sexual relationships, communication, and mutual pleasure. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 00:15 Personal Experiences with Purity Culture 01:46 Defining Purity Culture 02:57 Drew's Story: Growing Up in Purity Culture 03:59 Purity Conferences and the Apple Pie Analogy 06:27 Impact of Purity Culture on Relationships 10:36 Gender Roles and Double Standards 16:54 Navigating Marriage and Sexual Expectations 26:14 Challenges and Hypocrisy in Purity Culture 27:21 Marriage Pressures and Personal Reflections 28:56 Balancing Values and Realities 34:59 The Role of Masturbation in Clarity 36:41 Navigating Godly Relationships 37:24 Balancing Strengths in Relationships 40:37 Healthy Sexual Relationships 43:45 Deconstructing Faith and Shame 49:16 The Importance of Communication 54:10 Questioning Traditional Beliefs 01:02:28 Final Thoughts and Resources  

Non-consensual pornography, revenge porn, and deepfake abuse are rising. Sara's story reveals the trauma, recovery, and hope for survivors. Non-consensual pornography (NCP), revenge porn, and deepfake porn are on the rise, devastating young people and women worldwide. In today's episode, we share Sara's powerful story of surviving NCP after her on-again, off-again hookup partner violated her trust and distributed private images without consent. Also known as "revenge porn," non-consensual pornography includes the sharing of intimate images or videos without permission. Studies show that 1 in 12 people are victims of this crime, with women between the ages of 15–29 making up the vast majority. Victims face trauma similar to sexual assault, including PTSD, anxiety, depression, humiliation, and shame. This episode also explores the rise of deepfake pornography, where AI-generated images and videos are used to falsely depict sexual acts. We discuss how offenders manipulate partners into taking explicit photos, how these images are exploited online, and what legal consequences exist. Sara's resilience shines through as she shares how she overcame the shame, rebuilt her life, and now considers becoming an advocate for other victims. Her story offers hope, validation, and practical insight into recovery, healing, and reclaiming power. If you or someone you know has been impacted by revenge porn or non-consensual pornography, resources are available to help remove images, pursue justice, and begin healing. You are not alone. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:28 Sarah's Story: Understanding Revenge Porn 08:06 Sarah's Journey to Recovery 16:45 Legal and Emotional Ramifications 24:17 Therapies That Helped Sarah Heal 28:52 Raising Awareness About Trauma 36:14 Ethical Considerations and Consent 39:44 The Impact of Non-Consensual Content 42:51 Sarah's Resilience and Final Thoughts   RESOURCES What To Do if You're the Target of Revenge Porn (or NCP) Federal Trade Commission Consumer Advice Know Your Rights (Legal Voice) National Association of Attorneys General Find an EMDR therapist Find a Therapist Through Psychology Today RAINN 800.656.HOPE,online.rainn.org y rainn.org/es

Intimate partner violence and dating abuse often begin subtly. Karoline shares her story of surviving IPV, red flags, and finding hope. Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), domestic violence, dating violence, and abuse in relationships affect millions of women and teens worldwide. Nearly 1 in 2 women in the U.S. report experiencing IPV, while 1 in 3 teens face dating violence. In this powerful episode, Karoline shares her personal story of surviving IPV, highlighting how abuse begins subtly, escalates over time, and traps victims in cycles of control, coercion, and fear. Listeners will learn the difference between IPV and domestic violence, how abusers use intimidation, isolation, emotional abuse, threats, and blame to keep partners silent and oppressed, and why victims often stay despite promises that things will change. Karoline courageously opens up about her long-term relationship that turned violent, explaining why she stayed, why she didn't tell anyone, and how she eventually found the strength to leave. This episode explores the red flags of abusive relationships, the cycle of violence, and the false hope that abusers will "do better." Most importantly, it offers a message of resilience: there is life, hope, and healing beyond abuse. If you or someone you know is experiencing IPV, domestic violence, or dating violence, please seek help immediately. You are not alone, and empowered action is the first step to recovery. RESOURCES If you or a loved one are in an abusive relationship, please call your local police or any of the following...  *988 the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Call your local police or National Centers for Victims of Crime (NCVC) 1-800-FYI-CALL if you suspect that you have been the victim of crimes  The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224  The National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 A service of Love is Respect,  this national, 24-hour resource is specifically designed for teens and young adults. The Helpline is accessible by phone or online chat and offers real-time, one-on-one support from peer advocates trained to offer support, information, and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned friends, parents, teachers, clergy, law enforcement, and service providers. Love is RespectA collaboration between Break the Cycle and the National Dating Abuse Helpline, this web resource provides  information and resources on dating violence and healthy dating attitudes and relationships for youth. The site includes an overview of the issue (e.g., early warning signs, types of abuse, the cycle of abuse), quizzes for teens to determine whether they are experiencing or inflicting abuse, a live chat feature that connects youth with a peer advocate 24/7, videos, a blog, and more. In addition to the live chat, Love is Respect connects youth to the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453. Youth can also reach out for help by texting "loveis" to 22522. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Content Warning 00:15 Cold Open & Introduction 01:28 A Shocking Story of Abuse Unveiled 03:36 Understanding the Dynamics of Abusive Relationships 06:18 Caroline's Harrowing Journey Through Abuse 14:52 The Cycle of Abuse and Its Red Flags 16:56 Insights on Toxic Relationships and Communication 23:23 The Importance of Recognizing and Acting on Red Flags 28:03 The Impact of Differing Social Habits and Values 29:53 The Role of Self-Worth and Fear in Staying 31:30 Confronting Abuse and Seeking Help 41:04 The Healing Journey: Therapy and Self-Discovery 50:27 The Importance of Autonomy and Recognizing Unhealthy Relationships 55:16 Closing Thoughts: Empowerment and Awareness  

Bea shares her story of coercion and abuse in her first relationship, revealing red flags, consent violations, and her path to healing. Sexual abuse, sexual assault, coercion in relationships, and understanding consent are critical topics for young people today. In this episode, Bea shares her story of navigating a first love that quickly became manipulative, controlling, and coercive behind closed doors. Like many teens, Bea believed she could "fix" her relationship, even as sexual pressure and emotional manipulation escalated. This powerful conversation explains what sexual abuse really looks like in teen and young adult relationships—from coercion, refusal to use protection, and manipulation, to non-consensual sexual activity with someone intoxicated or unable to give clear consent. We break down the red flags of unhealthy relationships, why so many young women stay silent, and how early abusive dynamics shape future expectations in love and intimacy. Bea courageously shares her experience to help others recognize manipulation, demand healthy boundaries, and reclaim their right to safe, consensual relationships. This episode is a must-listen for teens, parents, and educators who want to better understand the reality of sexual abuse and coercion in young relationships, and how to empower survivors with hope, healing, and awareness. RESOURCES Love is RespectA collaboration between Break the Cycle and the National Dating Abuse Helpline, this web resource provides  information and resources on dating violence and healthy dating attitudes and relationships for youth. The site includes an overview of the issue (e.g., early warning signs, types of abuse, the cycle of abuse), quizzes for teens to determine whether they are experiencing or inflicting abuse, a live chat feature that connects youth with a peer advocate 24/7, videos, a blog, and more. In addition to the live chat, Love is Respect connects youth to the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453. Youth can also reach out for help by texting "loveis" to 22522.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 00:15 Manipulated To Have Sex 00:50 Welcome To 7 On Sundays 01:28 Bea's Story: Emotional Manipulation and People Pleasing 08:17 Understanding and Reflecting on the Past 11:36 Breaking Up and Aftermath 14:49 Identifying Manipulation 26:10 Boundaries and People Pleasing 32:22 Exploring Boundaries and Emotional Intelligence 35:08 Baby Steps in People Pleasing Recovery 37:16 The Importance of Sexual Boundaries 41:44 Imposter Syndrome and Sexual Assault 48:20 Reflecting on Past Relationships 53:18 Final Thoughts and Takeaways  

Chloe shares her battle with anorexia, binge eating, toxic relationships, and abuse — and how she found healing, music, and recovery. Eating disorders, anorexia recovery, binge eating, sexual assault, emotional abuse, and toxic relationships are at the heart of today's powerful episode. Approximately 24 million Americans struggle with eating disorders, one of the deadliest mental illnesses. Chloe, our guest, shares her raw two-year journey through anorexia, binge eating, bullying, and the devastating effects of a toxic relationship that damaged her body image and self-worth. Chloe opens up about being manipulated, called "fat" while starving herself, and later ridiculed for looking like a "skeleton." She courageously details her path of survival through sexual assault, emotional abuse, and unhealthy love. More importantly, Chloe shares how she built her personal recovery process, finding healing through music, self-help tools, and reclaiming her voice. This episode is an essential listen for college students, survivors of toxic relationships, and anyone facing depression, body image struggles, or eating disorders. Chloe's story offers hope, resilience, and a roadmap for turning pain into empowerment.   RESOURCES If you or anyone you know needs support and information, please call the National Eating Disorder Hotline 1-800-931-2237. Text "NEDA" to 741-741 988 (National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline)   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to Seven on Sundays 01:19 Chloe's Journey: Battling Disordered Eating and Toxic Relationships 06:40 Navigating New Relationships and Learning Self-Love 11:28 Triggering Eating Disorders 16:05 How to Support and Love Someone with an Eating Disorder 18:22 Recognizing Your In Toxic Relationships 22:50 Breaking Off a Toxic Relationship 26:12 Addressing Sexual Assault and Its Impact 26:36 Journey Through Disordered Eating and Self-Healing 29:33 The Role of Therapy and Self-Care in Recovery 34:28 Navigating Relationships and Celibacy 42:55 Wrap Up: Thoughts on Eating Disorders and  

Anne shares how early porn exposure led to addiction, distorted intimacy, and damaged relationships — and how she's now reclaiming her power. Porn addiction, teen pornography exposure, and the harmful effects of porn on relationships and mental health are at the center of today's powerful conversation. In this episode, Anne shares her story of being exposed to pornography as a child, how porn addiction shaped her arousal template, distorted her sexual development, and damaged her view of intimacy and relationships. From first exposure at just 8 years old through compulsive masturbation and normalization of aggressive porn, Anne's story reveals how early access to explicit material hijacked her brain and influenced her teenage sexual experimentation. She opens up about the impact of pornography on body image, sexual pleasure, and relationships, and how she is now reclaiming her power and making healthier choices. This raw and essential discussion is a must-listen for parents, educators, and young adults who want to understand the dangers of pornography, porn addiction recovery, and how early porn exposure harms sexual development --- Did you have a natural curiosity about sex that led you down a path to porn? Did it become a compulsion and eventually an addiction that shaped your view of sex and relationships? Unfortunately, many of the teens and young adults we speak with answer these questions with an anonymous "yes." How does porn really impact young people? What happens when you begin watching porn at age 8-10 and how does it hold your brain hostage?  The normalization and desentization of pornography is incredibly damaging. Our guest today, Anne, shares her first hand experiences with porn which began as a young, curious child searching for answers on YouTube. Many of her sexual experiences came before the age of natural sexual development because of her early exposure to sexually explicit material. Pornography formed her arousal template; it caused her early sexual experimentation, it normalized more aggressive and kink types of sex, and it superseded her natural sex drive so that masturbation was only possible with pornography. In school, she was the friend who everyone asked when they had sex questions.  As a younger child, Anne did not understand that all of this was too much and too young. Today she is a college sophomore, and she understands porn's destructive path through her life. This episode covers A LOT of ground and it is essential for any parent who thinks, "Not my kid" or any young adult struggling to overcome an addiction to porn. The negative impact of porn on sexual pleasure, relationships, expectations, and body image, can not be underestimated. Anne articulately shares her new insights with a raw, honest look at how pornography shaped her sexual template and how she is now making more informed, empowered, and healthy choices for herself. RESOURCES Your Brain On Porn website https://www.yourbrainonporn.com The Porn Trap -  By Wendy & Larry Maltz The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography  UPCOMING 7 ON SUNDAYS EPISODE: CICI & The Dark Side Of Porn TIMESTAMP 00:00 Introduction and Content Warning 01:28 The Impact of Pornography on Young Adults 05:24 Anne's Story: Early Exposure and Its Effects 09:15 Exploring the Influence of Porn on Sexual Development 14:38 First Experiences with Porn 19:58 The Female Perspective of Pornography 29:22 The Shift in Perception: From Pleasure to Disgust 31:12 Reflecting on the Porn Industry and Its Victims 33:21 Exploring the Shocking World of Pornography 36:22 Understanding the Confusion and Dissonance in Arousal 40:34 The Role of Pornography in Shaping Sexual Expectations 42:16 Navigating the Complexities of First Sexual Experiences 46:59 The Influence of Erotica and Smut on Sexual Education 47:54 Addressing the Dangers of Early Exposure to Pornography 56:13 The Importance of Open Conversations About Sexuality 01:03:27 Closing Remarks and Resources for Mental Health Support  

Lauren shares raw insights on college life, Greek life, hookup culture, and authenticity — a must-listen for students navigating social pressures. College life isn't always about freedom and fun — it's often filled with social pressures, hookup culture, and unrealistic expectations. In this episode of 7 on Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Lauren, who opens up about the challenges of navigating Greek life, hookup culture, and life after college. Lauren reflects on the paradox of choice in college, the struggles of conforming to societal expectations, and how hookup culture can undermine authentic intimacy. She shares how self-exploration, vulnerability, and emotional connection have helped her redefine what relationships and community mean in young adulthood. This candid conversation emphasizes the importance of authenticity, self-worth, and doing what truly feels right—not what social media, peers, or culture pressure you to do. Whether you're a college student, recent graduate, or parent trying to understand the challenges young adults face, this episode offers valuable insight and encouragement. Listeners will gain: Insight into Greek life pressures and their impact on relationships. Honest reflections on hookup culture and emotional intimacy. The paradox of choice in college social life. How to stop caring about opinions and start prioritizing authenticity. Tools for navigating college and post-grad relationships with confidence. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning 01:53 Welcome to 7 on Sundays: Exploring College Life 04:06 Social and Academic Expectations 06:41 Hookup Culture in College 13:58 We're Losing How to be in a Relationship 17:30 Transitioning to Post-College Dating 21:58 The Loneliness Epidemic 26:18 Navigating Greek Life and Hookups 28:36 Rewards and Gender Differences in Hookups 32:20 Fear of Gossip and Rating Systems 33:45 Flying Under the Radar in College 39:34 Advice for College Freshmen 41:48 Wrap-up: Exploring Interests Outside Greek Life 45:39 The Importance of Authentic Connections 50:37 Final Thoughts  

Abby shares her story of social anxiety and college drinking. Learn how alcohol impacts anxiety, friendships, and student mental health. College drinking, social anxiety, and student mental health collide in this powerful 7 On Sundays™ episode. From movies to campus life, alcohol is often portrayed as a rite of passage — "just part of the college experience." But is drinking really the solution to making friends, easing anxiety, or fitting in? Our guest Abby, diagnosed with anxiety at age 8, shares her candid perspective on navigating college with social anxiety, drinking culture, and the pressure to party. She explains how alcohol is often expected in social settings ("let's grab a drink," "let's hit the bars"), yet it doesn't always deliver the confidence or connection students hope for. Abby opens up about the ups and downs of her anxiety, how drinking impacted her mental health, and what tools she discovered that actually work — tools that don't rely on medication or alcohol. Her insights shed light on the hidden struggles many students face when balancing social expectations with their own wellbeing. This episode is essential listening for students, parents, and educators who want to understand the real relationship between alcohol, anxiety, and college culture. RESOURCES **If you struggle with severe anxiety and/or substance abuse, please reach out to your college or local counseling center for help or call *988 if you feel you need immediate crisis counseling.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning 01:13 Meet the Hosts and Today's Topic: Anxiety in Youth 02:38 Abby's Journey with Anxiety: From Childhood to Therapy 04:51 The Impact of Empathy on Anxiety 06:07 Exploring Therapy and Medication for Anxiety 08:07 Anxiety Triggers and Causes 14:54 The Role of Family and Initial Therapy Experiences 19:30 Effective Coping Strategies for Anxiety 22:32 Anxiety in College: Challenges and Coping Mechanisms 28:23 Abby's Reflections and Future Aspirations 32:14 Exploring the Intersection of Physical and Mental Health 35:57 Embracing Somatic Tools for Mental Health 44:22 Therapeutic Tools and Techniques for Managing Anxiety 52:14 Family Support in Mental Health 57:03 Closing Thoughts: The Importance of Mental Health Awareness  

Intergenerational trauma runs deep. Lilith shares her story of childhood abuse, family dysfunction, and breaking cycles to raise her son differently. Intergenerational trauma, family abuse, and childhood trauma are at the center of this deeply moving 7 On Sundays™ episode. Trauma that is not addressed and healed within families often repeats across generations, shaping how children view relationships, communication, self-worth, and coping strategies. Our guest Lilith's trauma began long before she hid from her abusive step-father. She grew up in a home with a mother who gravitated toward emotionally unavailable and violent men. While her loving grandmother helped raise her, she too carried scars from her own childhood in the foster care system. These unhealed wounds became part of the family's cycle of dysfunction. Lilith shares her raw truth: the trauma she experienced left her with deep emotional struggles that, at times, feel debilitating. Yet she is determined to raise her son differently — breaking the cycle of abuse and creating a healthier, more nurturing path forward. Dr. Chez provides powerful tools for beginning the long journey of healing both individual and intergenerational trauma. Together, they discuss how family patterns rooted in addiction, abuse, neglect, rage, and unhealthy conflict leave lasting imprints — but also how awareness, therapy, and intentional action can create transformation. This episode is essential for anyone who has experienced childhood trauma, abusive family dynamics, or the effects of intergenerational trauma, and for those determined to stop harmful cycles and foster resilience in the next generation. RESOURCES If you or a loved one are in an abusive relationship, please call your local police or The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224   *988 the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Content Warning and Introduction 01:21 Navigating Difficult Relationships and Self-Advocacy 07:38 Lilith's Journey: How Childhood Trauma Follows Us 18:01 Healing and Reprogramming Trauma 26:41 Generational Patterns and the Path to Healing 31:00 Exploring the Roots of Relationship Struggles 32:25 Addressing the Impact of Sexual Abuse 34:29 The Power of Words and Self-Expression 36:39 Empowerment Through Setting Boundaries and  Self-Nurturing Strategies 39:08 The Role of Parenthood in Personal Healing 48:25 Sharing to Heal: The Power of Community Support 56:19 Concluding Thoughts: Never Give Up  

Dating a sociopath is more common than you think. Riley shares her story of manipulation, ASPD red flags, and healing from toxic love. Dating a sociopath, antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), and spotting red flags in relationships are at the heart of this powerful episode. Sociopaths are often intelligent, charming, and manipulative — making it extremely difficult to recognize them in the early stages of dating. ASPD is a serious mental health condition defined by patterns of deceit, impulsivity, aggression, irresponsibility, and lack of remorse. While statistics suggest only 1–4% of people meet the criteria, experts believe the numbers are higher, as sociopaths often resist therapy and avoid formal diagnosis. According to psychiatrist David J. Lieberman, sociopaths "struggle with maintaining the impression they create and project to the world," often layering lies upon lies to manipulate others. Our guest Riley, a college freshman, shares her personal story of dating someone with ASPD. She reveals how easily these individuals can enter your inner circle, how manipulation and mistrust take root, and how painful the healing process can be after the truth emerges. This episode is a must-listen for anyone wondering: What are the signs of a sociopath? What does dating someone with ASPD look like? How can you protect yourself from manipulation in relationships? Riley's story is a reminder that sociopaths don't just exist in movies — they are more common than we think, and anyone can fall victim. If you suspect you may be in a relationship with someone who has ASPD, know that you are not alone and support is available. RESOURCES Call your local police or National Centers for Victims of Crime (NCVC) 1-800-FYI-CALL if you suspect that you have been the victim of crimes  The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224  The National Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 A service of Love is Respect,  this national, 24-hour resource is specifically designed for teens and young adults. The Helpline is accessible by phone or online chat and offers real-time, one-on-one support from peer advocates trained to offer support, information, and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned friends, parents, teachers, clergy, law enforcement, and service providers. Love is RespectA collaboration between Break the Cycle and the National Dating Abuse Helpline, this web resource provides  information and resources on dating violence and healthy dating attitudes and relationships for youth. The site includes an overview of the issue (e.g., early warning signs, types of abuse, the cycle of abuse), quizzes for teens to determine whether they are experiencing or inflicting abuse, a live chat feature that connects youth with a peer advocate 24/7, videos, a blog, and more. In addition to the live chat, Love is Respect connects youth to the National Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453. Youth can also reach out for help by texting "loveis" to 22522. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to Seven on Sundays: Navigating Young Adult Challenges 00:47 Meet the Hosts: Candid Conversations on Tough Topics 01:31 Introducing Riley's Story 06:13 Riley's Story: The Heartbreaking Tale of Deception 15:35 Things Weren't Adding Up 19:45 The Shocking Discovery: Unveiling a Double Life 24:25 Analyzing the Deception: Red Flags and Reflections 27:45 Unpacking the Red Flags: A Closer Look at the Lies 31:02 The Psychology Behind Grandiose Lies 33:12 Having Everyone Fooled 35:09 The Aftermath: Confrontation, Closure, and Moving On 39:34 Learning from Experience: Advice and Insights 46:25 The Importance of Empathy and Red Flags in Relationships 49:41 Riley's Journey: Healing and Reflection 58:41 Final Thoughts and Advice for Vigilance in Relationships  

Nicole shares how porn damaged her first relationship, reshaped intimacy, and left her feeling "not enough." A candid look at porn's impact on love. Porn and relationships don't mix as well as culture tells us. In this powerful episode of 7 On Sundays, hosts Dr. Chez Leeby and Stephanie Boye sit down with Nicole, who shares how pornography changed her first serious relationship, leaving her feeling like she was never enough. Together, they explore: How porn rewires sexual expectations and damages intimacy The impact of porn on mental health, self-esteem, and body image The cultural myths that normalize porn as "healthy" and "normal" What happens when one partner insists on porn in the relationship Why porn addiction and early exposure are fueling unhealthy hookup culture Nicole's story reveals the real cost of porn in relationships—and why open dialogue, boundaries, and self-awareness are essential for creating healthy intimacy. RESOURCES: If you or someone you love is struggling with porn addiction please find a certified sex therapist. https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory  Book: The Porn Trap by Wendy & Larry Maltz   TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction: A Warning for Mature Audiences 00:51 Nicole's Story: The Impact of Porn on Relationships 04:21 The Unhealthy Dynamics of Nicole's Relationship 09:19 The Role That Porn Played in Nicole's relationship 12:17 The Mental Health Impact of Dating a Porn Addict 16:44 Can You be a Porn Addict 21:52 The Pressure to become a Porn Star 25:21 Exploring the Depths of Consent and Coercion 30:04 Reflecting on Relationship Dynamics Beyond the Bedroom 32:20 The Cultural Normalization of Pornography and Its Effects 35:40 The Quest for True Connection Beyond Physical Attraction 38:07 Career Aspirations and Moving Forward Post-Breakup 40:03 Addressing the Challenges of Porn-Induced Expectations in Relationships 54:23 The Journey Towards Healing and Self-Advocacy 56:25 Final Thoughts and Resources for Further Understanding

What do guys really think about one-night stands? Two college freshmen share honest perspectives on hookup culture, casual sex, and gender roles. One-night stands, hookup culture, and college dating from a guy's perspective — that's what we're exploring in this 7 On Sundays™ episode. Culture, songs, movies, and social media often glorify hookups as "just part of college" or "no big deal." Parents may warn against it, while peers make it seem like everyone is doing it. So what do young men reallythink about casual sex and hookups today? Our guests, John and Dave (pseudonyms), are both freshmen from different parts of the country who share candid insights about hookup culture. They challenge stereotypes, reveal surprising truths about how guys actually feel after one-night stands, and discuss whether gendered double standards still matter. This episode explores the emotional, social, and cultural realities of hookups from the male POV — including peer pressure, expectations, and the gap between cultural messages and personal experience. Whether you're a student, parent, or educator, this honest conversation provides a fresh look at hookup culture, casual sex, one-night stands, and male perspectives in today's world.   TIMESTAMPS [00:01:26] Intro of two young college men sharing their thoughts on dating and hookup culture [00:04:07] Dave and John talk about hookup culture today and its definition [00:06:11] The stigma and societal expectations of hookup culture [00:08:20] The desire to choose relationships over hookups [00:09:26] Societal pressure on young men to engage in hookup culture [00:11:33] Self-actualization and young men's views of relationships [00:14:01] The potential judgment towards girls based on their sexual behavior [00:21:14] Entitlement and expectations associated with buying drinks for someone [00:31:06] The importance of young people discussing tough topics [00:33:02] Respect and expectations in hookups [00:35:32] Consent and the potential consequences of not obtaining clear consent [00:47:40] The influence of social media on hookup culture and perceptions of girls [00:54:18] Fear of rejection and having confidence in dating [01:05:50] Playing the game of relationships in the digital age