The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon

Most men today chase strength, money, and status but still feel lost. They miss the actual core of masculinity, the non-negotiable call that biology, history, and Christ Himself make crystal clear.In this raw, no-fluff breakdown I lay out what real masculine virtue looks like, why it’s never in competition with femininity, and how the culture’s zero-sum lie has destroyed both. Men are wired for hardship and leadership. Higher cortisol tolerance, thumos that drives conquest and protection, a life that isn’t about self but sacrifice for wife, family, and society. Thi headship that creates safety, order, and room for women to actually flourish in their own vocation of love and nurture.And feminism doesn’t free women, it trades one form of slavery for another. When men step up and lead rightly, everything changes for the better. It’s a positive-sum game, not the war the world pretends it is. If you’re tired of weak, directionless masculinity and want the real standard, this one cuts straight through the noise.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Masculinity and Femininity0:44 Feminism Versus True Femininity1:10 Career Over Family Trap2:22 Two Sexes Biological Differences3:17 Thumos and Sacrifice4:29 Christ Models Masculinity5:02 Strength Serves Family6:37 Masculine Vocation Is Leadership7:01 Lead Yourself First8:09 Zero Sum Lie of Feminism9:25 Men Lead Women Flourish11:45 Complementary Positive Sum Game13:05 Embrace Leadership Vocation13:52 Society Lies to Women15:31 CTAs

Christ appeared to St. Faustina and gave her 25 rules for the spiritual life. Most peopleapproach the interior life like a self-improvement project. They improvise, they follow what feels right, they piece together a spirituality built around their own instincts. That's not how the saints did it. Two thousand years of tradition have already done the heavy lifting. The problem is most men never find it, or they ignore it when they do.These rules cut through every excuse, every piece of modern spiritual softness, and every tendency we have to trust our own judgment over God's. If you're serious about the interior life, this is the framework.In this video I cover:-Why self-invention is one of the greatest threats to a man's spiritual life-The role of a confessor and spiritual director-Interior mortifications and why they're harder and more rewarding than physical ones-Emotional chastity and guarding your interior life-Why feelings are the enemy of merit and what to follow instead-How to respond to ingratitude, temptation, discouragement, and rebuke-What it means to fight with the conviction that God is with youThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 Why These 25 Rules Matter1:17 Stop Inventing Yourself2:58 Never Trust Yourself Abandon to God4:05 In Desolation Go to Jesus4:46 Flee Temptation to the Sacred Heart5:44 Reveal Temptations to Your Confessor6:33 Put Self Love Last7:11 Bear With Yourself Patiently7:39 Practice Interior Mortifications9:41 Justify Your Superiors Opinions10:42 Shun Murmuring Like a Plague11:16 Act Only as God Wants You To12:00 Observe Your Rule of Life13:11 Do Good to Those Who Trouble You13:40 Guard Your Soul Don't Pour Out Feelings14:53 Be Silent When Rebuked15:27 Seek Only Your Confessors Opinion15:57 Don't Be Discouraged by Ingratitude16:22 Don't Be Curious About Your Road17:21 When Bored Hide in God's Heart17:57 Courage Itself Intimidates Temptation19:02 God Is With You Merit Lies in the Will20:02 Trust Tradition Over Your Own Judgment20:27 Prepare for Great Battles21:23 All Heaven and Earth Are Watching22:04 Everything You Do Matters22:49 Resources and Closing

Your phone isn't neutral. Every hour you spend on it is either pulling you toward God or pushing you further away, and most men haven't been honest enough with themselves to figure out which one it's doing. The Epstein files. The Iran-Israel conflict. Fuel prices. Outrage cycles. None of it is yours to carry, but the algorithm feeds it to you anyway, and you let it. Then you wonder why you can't pray. Why you can't focus. Why you feel spiritually flat in a life that looks fine on paper.This isn't a discipline problem in isolation. It's a formation problem. The same brain you're training to seek a dopamine hit every ten seconds is the brain you're expecting to sustain an hour of prayer, deep work, or presence with your family. It doesn't work like that. In this video I cover what it actually costs you to stay plugged in, why turning off your phone doesn't instantly fix anything, and the one question that cuts through all of it.The Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones

Tomas sits down with Matt (Golden Age Vitalist) and Blake to cover the intersection of vitalism, classical philosophy, and Christian spirituality. They get into why the Greek concept of thumos, the spiritedness of a man, is literally expressed through physical training. Why beauty is a theological category, not just an aesthetic preference. Why a fat, low-energy Christian is quietly undermining his own belief. And why the looks maxing scene, for all its early promise, collapsed into pure vanity. This is about what it means to pursue the human form as a duty to God, and how the discipline required to get there forges the interior virtues that make a man actually capable of contributing something to the world.Matt's X: https://x.com/GoldenVitalistMatt's YT: @MattKukta Blake’s X: https://x.com/blakeburrisThe platform Blake is developing: https://zincmode.com/Tomas’ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones/Tomas’ X: https://x.com/tomas_monesFit for the Kingdom: http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/0:00 Opening and Guest Introductions4:50 Our Journeys Into Vitalism5:24 Matt's Story From Sports to Lifting7:24 Why Lifting Is Different From Sports11:00 Biohacking Nutrition and Optimization16:57 Discovering Ray Peat and Jonathan Bowen17:38 Aesthetics as a Path to the Divine19:39 Theosis and the Perfect Human Form22:18 Modern Architecture Crushes the Soul24:51 Worshipping God in Body Mind and Spirit29:17 What Looksmaxxing Gets Wrong33:48 Looksmaxxing Is Materialism Not Virtue36:19 Matt Inside the Looksmaxxing Scene38:38 Holistic Training and the Greek Thumos41:55 Training Forges Virtue and Character43:42 The Will to Change Yourself48:18 From Self Mastery to Community Impact49:14 Pay the Farmer Not the Doctor50:44 Was Jesus Shredded53:45 Gluttony Seed Oils and Bodily Control55:26 Looking Healthy vs Being Healthy57:38 PUFAs Seed Oils and Real Health1:00:50 Fat Priests and Christian Decline1:02:27 Trad Catholicism and Orthodoxy Rising1:04:19 Why the Latin Mass Converted Tomas1:05:16 Soy Christianity and Embodied Faith1:06:00 Beauty of Orthodox and TLM Liturgy1:07:02 Closing Faith Fitness and Fraternity1:08:08 Brotherhood and the Power of Mannerbund1:10:48 Final Plugs and Resources

Your phone is not a neutral tool. It's a trillion-dollar machine engineered to keep you hooked, and it runs on the same neurological mechanisms as drug addiction. The algorithms don't care about your prayer life, your focus, your family, or your formation. They care about one thing: keeping your eyes on the screen.Most men know this and still can't stop. That's not weakness. That's by design.In this video I give you three practical protocols for breaking that grip: physical boundaries that remove the option before the temptation hits, intentional friction that increases the space between boredom and the dopamine hit, and a single spiritual criterion that cuts through all the noise.The Odysseus and the sirens framework is the right one here. You don't beat this by trying harder. You beat it by tying yourself to the mast.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionFit for the Kingdom in person events (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/Explore working with me 1:1: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones#socialmedia #discipline #catholic #masculinity #phone0:00 Phone Addiction Is a Trillion Dollar Trap1:00 Why These Platforms Are Designed Against You2:24 Social Media Hooks the Same Brain as Drugs2:50 The Odysseus and the Sirens Lesson3:58 Tip 1 Physical Usage Protocols6:09 Tip 2 Intentional Friction and App Limits8:50 Tip 3 Does This Bring Me Closer to God10:35 How Doom Scrolling Rewires Your Brain12:33 Reclaiming Intention and a Life of Prayer13:43 Final Call To Actions

Most men trying to build discipline are solving the wrong problem. They think the issue is motivation or consistency or not wanting it bad enough. But what's actually happening is neurological, and until you understand it, you're going to keep burning out at the same point in the cycle every time.This video is about what's going on inside your brain when you try to force yourself to do something hard. Dopamine isn't what you think it is. Willpower isn't infinite. And the difference between the continent man and the virtuous man isn't just philosophical. It maps directly onto what neuroscience now shows us about how the brain rewires itself over time.There's a reason some men eventually find it natural to do hard things, and others grind themselves into the ground trying. The biology explains it. And once you understand the mechanism, you'll know exactly what you're actually trying to do and how to get there.I also get into what this framework says about the martyrs, because no reward-based model of motivation can explain a man who gives up his life for a conviction. The answer to that question is where this whole thing ends up.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #dopamine #virtue #neuroscience #masculinity0:00 Why Discipline Is Hard to Explain1:38 How Motivation Actually Works2:26 Behavior No Reward Can Explain3:21 What Dopamine Really Does4:38 Pavlovs Dogs and Habit Formation6:08 How The Gym Becomes A Habit7:24 Dopamine Can't Tell Right or Wrong9:14 Where Willpower Comes In10:52 Why Willpower Always Runs Out13:33 How Dopamine Gets Reprogrammed15:53 Practical Steps to Rewire17:46 Remove the Old Pathway19:34 Continent vs Virtuous Man21:20 How the Martyrs Make Sense23:29 Summary and Final Challenge

Something is wrong with modern men and most of them can feel it without being able to name it. The fluorescent lighting, the processed food, the blue light, the endless scroll, the paycheck-to-mouth existence with no energy, no direction, and no real questions being asked. This is not just a lifestyle problem. It is a biological one, and it has a spiritual consequence.This roundtable is the introduction to a movement that is responding to all of it. Vitalism, at its root, is the recovery of what it has always meant to be human: energetic, embodied, connected to nature, capable of genuine agency. The Greeks understood this. Odysseus is not just a literary figure, he is a prototype. A man who is fit, tanned, full of life, full of virtue, and capable of putting ideals into action through his body.What this conversation actually gets into: the modern environment as a deliberate suppressor of male vitality, why the bug man is not a caricature but a biological reality, how sun, grounding, real food, and detachment from artificial inputs are not biohacks but a return to baseline humanity, why physical renewal is the necessary first step before the deeper questions of meaning, faith, and purpose can even be asked, and what bioenergetic theosis means for Christian men who want their vitalism to point somewhere beyond the aesthetic.The Bronze Age Pervert revival woke a lot of men up. But a Nietzschean dead end is still a dead end. This conversation takes the energy of that movement and grounds it in something with an eternal horizon.Guest Links:Blake’s X: https://x.com/blakeburrisJohnny’s X: https://x.com/MetabolicCowboyThe platform Blake and Johnny are developing: https://zincmode.com/Finlay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vitalethoz/Finlay’s X: https://x.com/vitalethozTerra Essentials: https://terraessentials.nz/Tomas’ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomas.mones/ Tomas’ X: https://x.com/tomas_monesFit for the Kingdom: http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/0:00 Going Live1:22 What Is Vitalism4:42 People Are Waking Up7:46 Body as Vessel for the Divine9:51 Bioenergetics and Divine Ascent14:37 Vitalism Goes Mainstream20:11 Finlays Journey to Naturalism22:03 Avoiding Health Neuroticism25:50 Diet Supplements and Bioenergetics32:55 Agency Free Will and the Bug Man36:50 Questioning the Medicalised World37:56 BAP and the Emasculation Agenda39:27 Sexual Energy and Direction43:23 Christians Trapped at Step One45:33 The Young Mans Slave Trap46:32 Airplane Mode and the Sunrise49:50 Sunrise and Circadian Rhythm51:42 Dont Start the Day on Your Phone52:57 Sexual Energy Transmutation55:02 Going Offline into Real Nature57:55 FFTK Brotherhood in Practice1:00:30 Intentional Brotherhood1:02:46 BJJ as Brotherhood Builder1:04:13 Why Are We Bodybuilding1:06:30 Youth Need Leaders to Follow1:08:15 Rebuilding Muscle to Inspire1:12:40 Leaders Model the Path1:15:44 Recruiting Men to the Movement1:18:51 Health Enables You to Lead1:20:27 Closing Thoughts1:23:08 Follow the Guys

Retardmaxxing might be the most theologically accurate description of how God expects you to live.There's a reason Christ said you have to become like a child to enter the kingdom of heaven. Not because thinking is bad, but because most of what we call discernment is actually just fear with a spiritual costume on. You already know what you need to do. You're just not doing it.This video makes the case that the overthinking, the optimizing, the endless reading without fruit, the "I'm still discerning my vocation" at 25 with no prayer life and no discipline, all of it is a trap. David didn't deliberate in front of Goliath. Paul didn't set up a five-year plan after Damascus. Peter stepped out of the boat.The Church has answers for every level of inquiry. But the baseline is simple: get baptized, receive the sacraments, say your prayers, go to Mass, and start doing the work. Everything else builds on that. And if your faith isn't producing fruit, virtue, charity, discipline, growth, it doesn't matter how many books you've read.Retardmaxxing is trust in divine providence, obedience to your spiritual father, and the humility to act on what you already know is true.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#retardmaxxing #catholic #christian #discipline #retard0:00 Retard Maxing Plus Christ0:48 The Business Case for Just Starting1:37 Childlike Faith and the Sacraments2:31 Faith Without Works Is Dead3:10 Biblical Heroes Who Just Acted3:55 We Already Know What We Need to Do4:24 Scrupulosity Obedience and Simple Prayer5:33 Stop Overthinking Your Vocation7:04 Trust in Divine Providence8:08 Start Retardmaxxing Today

St. Paul says physical training is of some value. Not zero. Some. Most men read that and use it as permission to stay soft. That's not what he said.If you're going to spread the gospel, lead a family, and actually be someone worth following, your body is part of the argument. People decide whether to listen to you before you've opened your mouth. That's how human beings work, and pretending otherwise doesn't make you humble, it makes you naive.Plato said the philosopher king should be trained in physical arts and be of a healthy and sound body. The Greeks carved their heroes in marble because the form meant something. A man who has his interior life ordered tends to show it. It comes out in how he carries himself, how he speaks, whether he looks you in the eye. Your body is a gift. There is no piety in leaving it undeveloped.This video makes the case for the Eastertide bulk. Get in the gym. Put on mass. Build the kind of physical presence that backs up what you say you believe.Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#christian #catholic #bulk #discipline #masculinity

Most guys asking whether they should be in a relationship are asking the wrong question. The real question is whether they're ready to lead one. A relationship isn't a reward for being lonely. It has a purpose, a direction, and a man who's supposed to be steering it. If you can't answer where you're taking her, you have no business stepping in. This video covers three specific signs that God might be calling you to stay single right now, and they apply whether you're already dating, thinking about it, or trying to hand this off to someone younger who needs to hear it.In this video I cover:-why your struggle with sexual sin disqualifies you before you even start-the difference between wanting a relationship and chasing female validation-why a woman cannot be your mission-what God is actually doing with your singleness if you're in a season of formation-how to honestly discern whether now is the time or notAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#catholicism #christianmasculinity #singleness #relationships #chastity #masculinity #discipline #catholic0:00 The Purpose of Relationships1:36 Sign 1 Sexual Sin3:56 Sign 2 Joy and Purpose From God6:38 Sign 3 God Is Still Forming You9:24 Wrap Up

Most men have no idea why their life feels directionless. They're busy. They're training. They're grinding. But they never stop. And that constant motion is exactly the problem. The devil in the Screwtape Letters doesn't argue with his patient. He just keeps him distracted. A newsboy. A bus. Lunch. It works every time.Silence and prayer is indispensable. Without it, you have no way to aim your life at anything that actually matters. And a man without an aim is already losing, no matter how hard he works. YOU HAVE TO HAVE AN AIM.In this video I cover:-what the Screwtape Letters reveal about distraction and the modern world-why prayer is an act of aiming, not just an act of devotion-how Peterson's framework on aim connects directly to Catholic spirituality-the daily practice of realignment and why it compounds over time-what Christ means when he says the eye is the lamp of the bodyWant to go deeper and get into a brotherhood of men doing this together? https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionWe are rebuilding the west.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK): http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#silence #prayer #masculinity #catholic #christian #discipline #focus0:00 Introduction0:33 Modern Society & Noise1:46 The Screwtape Letters3:42 The Stream of Sense Experience6:45 Distraction Is the Weapon7:32 Why Silence Maxing Matters8:05 Prayer as Orientation9:13 Aiming at the Highest Good10:29 Daily Realignment12:05 The Eye Is the Lamp13:20 Prayer Is Aiming13:41 No Excuses for Skipping Prayer14:39 Rise Early, Aim High14:58 Silence Max Every Morning

Most guys train hard and still stay small. They show up to the gym, they put in the sessions, they take the mirror photo, they do the secret ab check, and they wonder why nothing changes. This video breaks down the full approach to gaining serious mass, built from years of going from a 60kg pencil neck to pulling 210 off the ground, shaped in large part by the teachings of Eric Bugenhagen, the man who taught me more about lifting and bulking than anyone else.If you think you're eating enough, you're probably not. Most people are undereating by hundreds of calories and don't even know it. The bulk is not a 2,500 calorie day with a little ice cream for dessert. It is ruthless, intentional, front-loaded eating from the moment you wake up until the last hurrah before bed. And it has to be paired with heavy iron, compound movements, and the kind of training that drains your entire body by the time you leave the gym.This is the method. It worked. And if you actually follow it, it's impossible not to grow.In this video I cover:why 3,000 calories is basically maintenance and what you actually need to growthe exact meal structure I used to hit 5,000 to 6,000 calories a daywhy frontloading calories early in the day changes everythingthe case for raw eggs, raw milk, and whole food over supplementswhat Eric Bugenhagen taught me about bulking and lifting heavythe spiritual and physical argument for why a pencil neck has a duty to put on massthe Easter tide bulk and how I'm approaching the next phase of trainingWant to go further? Join men who are building themselves physically, spiritually, and in brotherhood:DM us LEGION or go here: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionWe are rebuilding the west.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK): http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#bulk #fitness #christianmasculinity #discipline #catholic #training #masculinity

The most Jewish thing you can do is become Catholic. The resurrection doesn't make full sense without what came before it, and that connection is almost never explained clearly. The Tridium is not three separate events. It is one complete movement that has been building since Genesis. The Passover, the lamb, the blood on the doorpost, Moses through the Red Sea, the vineyard parable, the suffering servant. All of it lands on Good Friday and Easter Sunday. When you see it, the whole of scripture locks into place.This video is not a long one, but it covers something I kept noticing was missing from almost every Easter conversation I came across, including from serious scholars.In this video I cover:-why the resurrection cannot be fully understood without the Old Testament-how Christ fulfills and completes the Passover, not just symbolically but literally-why there was no sacrificial lamb at the Last Supper-the real reason most Jews did not accept Christ as Messiah-the parable of the vineyard and what it reveals about salvation history-why Christianity did not appear out of nowhere but is the fulfillment of everything that came before itWant to go deeper and be part of a brotherhood doing this seriously? DM us LEGION or go here: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionWe are rebuilding the west.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom: http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#catholic #christian #easter #resurrection #theology0:00 He is Risen — Happy Easter0:12 The Triduum Explained0:36 Easter Vigil: How It Begins1:17 Moses Prefigures Christ1:54 The Missing Link3:09 What Jewish Sacrifice Could Do3:47 Christ Was the Lamb4:50 The Messiah They Wanted6:16 Judaism Ends With Christ8:17 The Triduum: Source and Summit

You've sat through hundreds of masses and still might not fully understand what is happening at the altar. Most Catholics know the Last Supper as the beginning of a sad story. They don't know it as the hinge point of all salvation history. This video breaks down the scriptural and theological weight of Holy Thursday in a way that will change how you experience every Mass you attend for the rest of your life.The Passover wasn't just a memory. The Eucharist isn't just a symbol. And the altar isn't just a table. Once you understand what Christ was actually doing at that supper, and what he was fulfilling, and why he stopped the Passover meal deliberately unfinished, you can't unsee it. The connection between the Old Testament sacrifice, the Last Supper, and what happens on the altar every single Sunday is one of the most powerful threads running through all of scripture. Most people have never had it laid out for them clearly.In this video I cover:-Why there was no lamb at the Last Supper and what that reveals about Christ-The difference between the old Passover and the new, and why it matters for you right now-What anamnesis actually means and why the mass is not a repetition but a making present-How the priest acts in persona Christi and what that means for every consecration-Why the altar is Calvary and what you are actually standing at when you receive communionAre you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you are trying to hold? The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you are done doing this alone, the door is open: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legionMy work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK): http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#easter #eucharist #holythursday #masculinity #christian0:00 Introduction1:01 Why There Was No Lamb at the Last Supper3:05 Why Believing in the Cross Is Not Enough6:09 What Christ Was Actually Doing With the Bread8:38 How the Priest Makes Calvary Present Today11:24 Why One Mass Surpasses All Prayer and Penance12:20 The Fourth Cup Christ Left Unfinished12:58 Why the Mass Is Not a Remembrance

Something went wrong with our generation. Not just bad luck, not just the economy, not just bad parents. There are specific, identifiable reasons why the men around us look the way they look and live the way they live, and most of them have nothing to do with individual failure.This video is a breakdown of the four forces that stripped us of everything we needed to become who we were made to be. Formation, challenge, responsibility, and the call to greatness, systematically removed, one by one, and replaced with something far more sinister than outright opposition. Comfort. The kind that doesn't feel like a cage until you've already been in it for years.I grew up in this. I watched it happen to the guys around me. And it wasn't until I started pulling the thread that I understood just how deliberate and how deep the damage actually goes. If you're watching this, you've already heard something calling you out of it. That matters. Now you need to understand what you're actually up against.In this video I cover:-why the most important transmission between generations was cut and what was lost with it-how education became a mechanism for extending adolescence instead of ending it-the role marriage and family play in forming men and why their absence is catastrophic-how masculine impulses get hijacked and redirected into counterfeits-what the church was supposed to provide and why it largely stopped-what it actually looks like to respond to all of thisMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/Are you seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you're trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you're done doing this alone, the door is open.We are rebuilding the west. "Iron sharpens iron" (Proverbs 27:17)https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion#masculinity #discipline #christian #genz #formation0:00 Introduction1:49 The Transmission Was Cut (Fatherlessness)5:19 Extended Adolescence: School and University9:23 The Dissolution of Marriage and Family11:21 The Abundance of Comfort and Hijacking of the Masculine Soul15:29 The Church Stopped Calling Men to Greatness20:06 What You Need to Do About It

You can't stay consistent because you're measuring the wrong thing. You track results instead of investment, and when the numbers don't move fast enough, you lose the thread entirely. The effort is there. The intention is there. But the framework is wrong from the start. The parable of the talents isn't just about money. It's about what you do with every hour you've been given today. And most people are burying theirs without realising it.There's a way of thinking about your day that completely changes how you approach consistency. A shift in how you see what you're actually building and why the results you can't see yet are the ones that matter most. It connects what you're doing right now to where you're going to be in a year, five years, a decade. And when that connection clicks, the grind stops feeling like a grind. You stop needing to see the fruit to keep working. Once you get this, consistency stops being a battle of willpower and starts being a natural outcome of understanding what you're actually doing and why.In this video I cover:-the parable of the talents applied to time, not just money-why measuring day-to-day results is the wrong metric-what faithful daily investment actually looks like in practice-trusting in God's fruitfulness when you're deep in the trenchesMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/Are you a Christian man seeking a community of like-minded men who hold the same standard you’re trying to hold?The Legion is a brotherhood of Christian men built around real accountability, weekly coaching, and a network of men who are actually doing the work. If you’re done doing this alone, the door is open.http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion#consistency #discipline #christian #masculinity #habits #parable

Looksmaxxing is everywhere right now. Young men chasing jawlines, mewing, wearing shoulder pads, hollow cheeks, makeup, all of it in the name of masculine self-improvement. But underneath the aesthetics is something older and more dangerous than a trend. It's the myth of Narcissus playing out again. A man who fixed his gaze on himself and lost everything. His purpose, his strength, his mission, all of it dissolved the moment he made himself the object of his own worship.The problem with looksmaxxing isn't that men want to look good. The problem is that looking good has become the highest good. When appearance becomes the source of your worth, you've built your identity on something that ages, fades, and eventually rots. The guys chasing this stuff aren't going to find what they're actually looking for, because what they're looking for isn't looks. It's meaning. There's a right ordering here. Strength, health, physical discipline, these are good things, and the byproduct of doing them properly is that you'll look good. But the moment looking good becomes the goal, you've put the cart before the horse and you'll start justifying things that actively harm you to get there. The masculine vocation is always oriented outwards. Toward God, toward others, toward service. Not inward. Not toward the self. Christ is the model, and nothing he did was in service of himself.In this video I cover:-the myth of Narcissus and what it actually means-why your self-worth can't be built on appearance or external validation-the woman at the well: chasing water that runs dry-how hedonism becomes idol worship and where it leads-what's actually good about physical discipline and why looksmaxxing corrupts it-the true masculine vocation: strength, prayer, morals, legacy, all oriented outward-Christ and the saints as the model of complete self-giftMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/Join THE LEGION, a group of men taking their faith and formation seriously:https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion#looksmaxxing #masculinity #catholic #christian #virtue #discipline #selfimprovement 0:00 - Looksmaxxing Is a Disorder0:41 - The Myth of Narcissus1:39 - Why Self-Worth Built on Appearance Always Fails2:27 - The Woman at the Well3:34 - How Looksmaxxing Becomes Idol Worship5:29 - What's Actually Good About Looking Good8:17 - The Right Order of Health First9:50 - The Masculine Vocation: Self Sacrifice11:53 - What Real Masculine Aura Actually Looks Like

Sex outside of marriage is not just a sin. It is philosophically incoherent, and it is dismantling the social order around you. This video breaks down the real philosophical and theological case, from St. John Paul II's personalistic norm to the natural law understanding of the marital act, and shows exactly how removing the sexual act from its proper end produces everything from broken families to abortion on demand.The problem is a disordered view of the human person. When sex is reduced to pleasure, the other person is reduced to an object. That logic plays out consistently and its consequences are everywhere.In this video I cover:-the personalistic norm and the subject/object distinction explained-why every human being has an inherent dignity that cannot be reduced to utility-the two inseparable ends of the marital act: procreative and unitive-why contraception within marriage is already a violation of the fullness of the act-how gay sex, masturbation, and pornography all share the same fundamental disorder-the downstream social collapse that follows when human sexuality is severed from its end-why chasing pleasure as the primary end will never satisfy youMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#catholicism #marriage #chastity #masculinity #christianity0:00 Introduction: Why This Topic Matters1:06 What Is the Personalistic Norm?5:19 The Two Ends of the Marital Act6:38 Why You Cannot Separate the Two Ends9:46 How Casual Sex Reduces People to Objects10:24 Natural Law and Disordered Sexual Acts13:00 The Social Collapse of Sexual Permissiveness14:27 When the Cornerstone of Sexuality Falls15:50 About Me and Why I Made This Video

Most men think consistency is just about working hard and showing up. They grind for a while, see some progress, ease off, and end up back where they started. The issue isn't motivation or discipline in the moment. It's that they don't understand what consistency actually does over time, and what the absence of it is doing right now.Your default trajectory is not flatline. If you're coasting, you're declining. The law of entropy applies to your character the same way it applies to everything else. Every compromise, every "just this once," is compounding in the wrong direction. Rome wasn't built in a day, and it didn't fall in a day either. It eroded. Slowly. Through small compromises repeated over time. The same thing is happening to men who are coasting through their 20s and 30s thinking they've got time.Consistency isn't about grinding yourself into dust. It's about interior congruence. When your daily actions are a natural expression of who you are and what you believe, not something you're forcing. That's when the execution becomes sustainable. That's when the trajectory actually changes.In this video I cover:-why your autopilot trajectory is downward, not flat-how Rome's rise and fall maps directly onto a man's life-the compounding effect of daily disciplines over years-why small compromises weaken your mindset long before they show visible consequences-how interior conviction produces consistent exterior execution-what it means to build Rome in your own lifeMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #christian #masculinity #consistency #character #productivity

Effeminacy is a word almost nobody uses anymore. Aquinas defined it as a reluctance to sacrifice pleasure or endure pain in the pursuit of a good or a virtue. That one definition explains most of what's wrong with men today. The collapsing marriages, the addictions, the lack of leadership, the men who know what they should do and simply won't do it. Ephesians 5 gets weaponised constantly in both directions. Men use it as a power grab. Women use it as evidence of oppression. Both miss the point entirely. When you understand what submission actually means, and what the husband's side of that contract actually demands, the whole passage reads completely differently. This video breaks down effeminacy and emasculation, what they actually mean, why they're not the same thing, and how true masculinity is modelled on the cross.In this video I cover:-what effeminacy actually means and why Aquinas called it a vice against fortitude-why a jacked, successful man can still be effeminate-the difference between effeminacy and emasculation-what Ephesians 5 actually demands from men, not just women-the model of true masculinity: the saints who took masculine virtue to the extreme-why most men know what's right and still won't move toward itMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#masculinity #discipline #christian #virtue #catholic

Most people know social media is bad for them. They just haven't been honest about why. This video breaks down exactly what the algorithm is doing to you, why willpower alone isn't enough to fight it, and the one reframe that changes how you respond to friction entirely. If you're using social media and you're not there to produce, convert, or build something. You're just being FARMED.The algorithm is not a neutral tool. It's trillions of dollars of psychology and research designed to keep your eyes on the screen as long as possible. It knows what gets your attention before you do. And every time you open the app out of habit, you walked straight into the trap. That's not a character flaw. That's the entire business model working exactly as intended.The real cost isn't just the time. It's the mental real estate. You weren't trying to learn about geopolitics. You weren't trying to get angry. But now you're distracted, disturbed, and you've got five things spinning in your head that have nothing to do with the work sitting right in front of you. That's the damage that nobody talks about.In this video I cover:-why being a consumer on social media is costing you more than you think-how the algorithm is engineered to trap you and why this goes way beyond a discipline problem-the real reason you reach for your phone the moment a task gets hard-why the mental real estate social media occupies quietly destroys your focus and interior life-mental aid stations and how high performers actually decompress without wasting hours-the one interior practice that replaces the dopamine hit and actually builds something in youMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#socialmedia #discipline #christian #masculinity #focus #productivity

You're Good, But Not Virtuous (Here's Why That Matters): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJNqzd0dNvc&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=8&t=476sGuide on Defeating Lust: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=akbNH_4xUt0&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=4We are all prodigal sons. Every single one of us. The fall is not the end of the story, but how you respond to it determines everything.Most men fall, feel shame, and spiral. The shame turns into despair. The despair turns into apathy. And before long, Satan hasn't just wounded you, he's actually winning. The scariest part is that this cycle doesn't require a catastrophic fall. It can start with one bad morning that writes off the rest of the day. One moment of weakness that becomes an excuse to flatline for a week. That's where the real damage is done, not in the fall itself, but in what you do with the next hour after it.This video breaks down the framework for getting back up after a fall, breaking the cycle of despair, and using every setback to actually rise higher than you were before. A saint is not someone who never falls, but who rises again every time with greater love for God. That's the standard. That's what we're working toward.In this video I cover:-why guilt and remorse are actually a good sign-the cycle of despair and how Satan uses your fall against you-the difference between falling and staying down-how to snap yourself out of it immediately after a fall-building an identity and battle plan to return to when you've failed-why not making the same mistake twice is the real measure of your remorse-the debrief process that turns falls into ascent toward virtueMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#virtue #repentance #catholic #masculinity #spiritual

Biblical Morning Routine: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ta9ixuRx65U&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1&t=38sMost people fail at waking up early because they treat it like a discipline problem when it's actually a systems problem. I've done multiple months of consistent 4am mornings, 40 days of 3:30am, and I've maintained this outside of work commitments and fixed schedules - because when there's no one forcing you out of bed, that's when you find out if the conviction is actually there. The reality is your body will adapt, your circadian rhythm will shift, and eventually sleeping in will feel worse than getting up. But none of that happens without understanding the biology behind it and fixing what you're doing in the hours before you even try to sleep. This is everything I've learned from years of building and keeping this habit - the mindset, the science, and the systems that actually make it sustainable.In this video I cover:-why waking up early starts the night before, not the morning-how your body actually adapts its circadian rhythm through light and activity-the mindset shift you need when you're running on less sleep-how far you can push your weekend sleep-in without working against yourself-why it gets harder to sleep in once you've built the habit long enoughMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #morningroutine #wakeup #habits #masculinity

Most men give God the leftovers. Whatever time is left after work, after the gym, after scrolling. This video breaks down the biblical patriarch morning routine: prayer, physical discipline, and mental formation, and why the order matters more than the effort.As men the morning is the crucial keystone upon which everything else is built. This is the framework they used and the one I apply every single day on the farm, in my marriage, and in my pursuit of virtue and sanctity.What's covered:— How conviction and intention drive consistency— The three pillars of a biblical morning: prayer, physical training, and mental formation— The Cain and Abel principle, why giving God your first fruits changes everything— Mark 1:35 and what Christ's own morning practice teaches us about ours— The invisible 20% that feeds everything else in your lifeMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #morning #routine #masculinity #christian

My previous video on fasting, Fast Like an Ancient Christian (Not a Modern ‘Biohack Bro’) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFnqejRdkn4&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=22Before 1966, every Catholic was required to fast every weekday of Lent. One meal. No meat. Ages 21 to 59. No exceptions. The desert monks ate once every two to four days. Bread, salt, water. The Eastern Orthodox still fast 40 days straight with no meat, no dairy, no oil. Married men. Fathers. Workers. We give up chocolate and call it Lent.Hunger is your most constant sensation. By denying it, you exercise the will over the body in a way nothing else replicates. A cold shower lasts two minutes. A workout ends. Hunger stays with you all day, which is exactly the point. The man who says no to food for 12 hours is building the same interior muscle that says no to lust, to anger, to cowardice. There is no saint in Christian history who did not fast regularly. Christ fasted 40 days before his public ministry. The apostles wrote that certain demons are only cast out by prayer and fasting. Our Lady at Fatima warned that souls go to hell because no one prays and fasts for them. This is not optional. It is foundational to the interior life of every Christian man. I've put together 4 fasting levels for Lent, from never fasted before to the traditional black fast. Find your level and go up one.St Michaels Abbey Fasting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rO5T62IlnUMSeraphim Wuerch Orthodox Fasting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YWnBcfJIzXYIs Your Fasting Demonic? St Mary Orthodox Church: https://youtu.be/CBu5rLDCM_o

My previous video on why I don't drink alcohol as a young man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q-6iS-LXv34&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1&t=68sDefeating lust and pornography addiction requires more than abstinence. This breakdown covers the path from porn and masturbation addiction to true chastity and purity of heart through physical discipline, fasting, prayer, and warfare against sexual sin.Most men fail at overcoming lust because they don't address the root cause. Chastity isn't suppression, it's redirecting masculine energy through self-possession and denying the flesh in licit things before expecting victory over illicit desires.What's covered:-The biological and spiritual damage of pornography. -Why natural abstinence fails without virtue. -Fasting as the foundation for sexual self-control. -Cold showers, physical training, and mortification of the body. -Prayer weapons: Rosary, three Hail Mary devotion, St. Joseph, confession, and Holy Eucharist. -Vigilance, routine, and avoiding idleness. -Breaking silence and accountability systems. -The fruits of chastity: clarity, fortitude, rightly ordered love, self-possession.This isn't NoFap psychology. This is traditional teaching on lust, temperance, and building the virtue of chastity through spiritual warfare.Resources mentioned:Fit for the Kingdom Podcast Episode 20 - Lust and Chastity in Relationships: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9viUgPBznU&t=6sWhy Marriage Endures and Modern Relationships Fail: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26JxoNxFd1E&t=1sIf You Want a Queen, Build a Kingdom First: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LcLgHpKXraw&t=34s

Why I don't drink alcohol as a young man in my 20s.We have a drinking problem in the West. Not just alcoholism - though that's destroying families and careers at scale. The real problem is that drinking has become the default coping mechanism for an entire generation of young men who have no meaning, no mission, and no ability to sit with their own thoughts without sedation.It's normalized escapism. Stress relief after work. Social lubricant because you can't talk to people sober. Drowning sorrows instead of confronting what's actually wrong. The drinking culture you see today is a symptom of hedonistic pleasure worship and men having nothing worth building toward. It's easier to get blackout drunk than ask yourself hard questions about what you're actually doing with your life.What I cover:The neurotoxin nobody talks about - what alcohol actually does to your brain and why it doesn't healWhy "social drinking" is a lie - the real reason people become more talkative when drunkWhat you're actually running from - stress, anxiety, hard questions about meaningThe connection between hedonism, meaninglessness, and drinking cultureWhy sobriety builds self-awareness instead of destroying itHow alcohol possesses you instead of you controlling it - same pattern as porn and video gamesThe difference between temporary pleasure and transcendental goodsMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/

In this video I covered running our latest men's event, St Michael's Troops, and some of the bottlenecks and challenges in scaling this event accross multiple locations.. The marketing gets done in spare time between farm work, theology study, altar server training. Most projects die here. Not from lack of interest, but from lack of resources and willingness to sacrifice comfort for infrastructure. This video breaks down why young men need to be unbalanced in their 20s and why the scaling problem in these movements mirrors the personal discipline problem. In this video I cover:-the gap between running events and producing content people actually see-why being unbalanced at 20 builds capacity you can't develop later-how taking weekends off now guarantees harder struggle at 30-the difference between maintaining and actually building something-why it's hard to suddenly start hustling with three kids-how discipline compounds when you sacrifice comfort earlyMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#discipline #events #masculinity #sacrifice #spiritual

Your 20s aren't for finding yourself. They're for building. Most people think finding yourself means Bali trips and road trips across Europe. That's garbage. You find yourself under pressure, through commitments, by doing difficult things, not on a beach.The brutal reality: your trajectory at 25 becomes your trajectory at 50. If it's pointing down or sideways now, it stays that way. You don't suddenly reverse decades of comfort-seeking. The foundation you're building right now - stone or sand - that's what everything else gets built on.T he formula is simple but most guys won't do it: skills over income, education over entertainment, sacrifice over comfort. The sacrifice is weekends, Netflix, "finding yourself" trips, early Friday clock-outs. Most guys won't make it. They trade their 20s for surface pleasure and wonder why their 40s feel empty. Everyone I look up to, everyone who wrote the books I read, they leveraged their young years when risk was low and time was abundant.This isn't burnout culture. It's leverage. You exchange time for skills, skills for income, income for education. Then compound. But most guys stay comfortable, stay broke, stay stuck. Your 20s are low-risk, high-time. Use them or waste them.In this video: - Why "finding yourself" in your 20s is a lie- Stone foundation vs sand: setting your trajectory- Skills over income: the actual formula- The 996 work formula vs Western 40-hour comfort- Sacrifice, pressure, commitments as the path to your mission- Time leverage and compound growth for young menMY WORK:→ Linktr: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFIT FOR THE KINGDOM (FFTK):→ http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/

My last video about sitting in the EXACT TIPPING POINT of continence to virtue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGkY5gkh0qM&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=2Most people stay trapped in a cycle of trying hard, burning out, and starting over. You build good habits, you do the right things, you push yourself through the grind, but somehow you end up back where you started. The problem isn't your effort. It's that you don't understand the difference between being good and being virtuous. This video breaks down Aristotle's framework for virtue and why willpower alone will never get you to where you need to be. There's a point where pushing stops working and virtue starts pulling you forward. Most people never cross that line.In this video I cover:-the four types of people and where you actually are-why good people stay stuck in the improvement cycle-the critical difference between doing good and desiring good-why taking breaks before reaching virtue resets all your progress-how virtue pulls you forward instead of willpower pushing you-the real timeline for becoming virtuous (longer than you think)My work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#virtue #habits #aristotle #character #spiritual

In 1200 AD, St. Bernard of Clairvaux wrote a letter to Hugh de Payens, first Grandmaster of the Knights Templar. Hugh had asked Bernard three times for a pep talk to inspire his knights and recruit support for their new order, warrior monks defending Christian pilgrims in the Holy Land. Bernard's response became the blueprint for combining interior virtue with exterior capability.Bernard wrote: "A new knighthood has appeared on earth. It ceaselessly wages a two-fold war both against flesh and blood and against a spiritual army of evil." These weren't just soldiers. They were monks who fought. "They lacked neither monastic meekness nor military might."In this video:-Why worldly knighthood leads to sin regardless of victory or defeat-How the Templars armed themselves "interiorly with faith and exteriorly with steel"-The discipline system: obedience, simplicity, no personal property, no idle words-Why they rejected entertainment, vanity, and decorated armor-How they were "gentler than lambs yet fiercer than lions"-The ancient standard for Christian masculinity: meekness AND strengthBernard dismantled the objection that Christian men should be passive: "If it is permitted to bear the sword, to whom may it be allowed more rightly than those whose hands hold Zion?" The Templars lived without distinction of persons, carried each other's burdens, despised vanity, wore their hair short, stayed dust-covered from battle. They weren't show ponies, they were war horses. Meekness is not weakness. Physical capability without Christian virtue is not virtue, it's just strength. Christ came as the lamb but also said "I came not to bring peace but a sword." The dichotomy exists in Him, so it should exist in us.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au

Most men think discipline is about forcing reps or hitting weekly streaks. Wrong. Discipline is the byproduct of interior transformation, which is training your mind to sit in friction instead of seeking the exit. If you're white-knuckling cold showers while fantasizing about comfort, you're building on sand.In this video:-Why exterior discipline collapses without interior peace-The distraction instinct that sabotages every virtue-How to stop mentally escaping while physically performing-Why willpower runs out but character doesn't-Training your soul to rest on the cross, not wait for Sunday-The friction test that separates boys from menStop seeking consolation. Start building presence. When you're comfortable in pain and faithful to duty, virtue becomes natural. The yoke does become easy.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au#masculinity #discipline #virtue #interiorlife #christian

Check out my previous video on building an environment that works in your favour: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GJIzUrbxL-E&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1Most guys think confidence is about talking better or faking it. Wrong. Confidence is the byproduct of capability, when you've put in years of work building yourself physically, spiritually, professionally. If you're seeking validation from girls, friends, or social environments, you're building on sand.In this video:-Why confidence comes from capability, not charisma-The difference between false bravado and inner stability-How to stop seeking validation from social environments-Why gym bros and entrepreneurs still lack confidence-Building from duty and calling instead of attachment-The two-year process of becoming internally validatedStop chasing approval. Start building competence. When you're faithful to your commitments and progressing in what matters, social confidence becomes easy.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom: https://fitforthekingdom.com.au#masculinity #selfconfidence #faith #detachment #mindset

Check out my previous video about the lonely chapter of life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HE3_gW_W4-E&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=3 [LINK]I've spoken a lot about environment and inputs, but here I go deeper into how controlling your environment is the foundation of lasting change. Too many people rely on willpower alone and wonder why they keep failing. The truth is your environment shapes your decisions more than you realize.In this video, I break down what actually worked for me, how I changed my life at 17 by controlling my inputs, and why most people fail at self-improvement because they ignore their environment.In this video I cover:-why your environment determines your behavior more than willpower-the difference between trying to change vs creating conditions for change-how your friend group actively sabotages your goals-what "controlling your inputs" actually means in practice-where you're likely (and unlikely) to succeed based on your environment-how social media, entertainment, and content shape your mindsetThis isn't motivation content or self-help fluff. It's about systems, environment design, and becoming the kind of man who operates from the right foundation. Control the inputs. Build the right environment. Let the results follow naturally.My work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom:https://fitforthekingdom.com.au#selfdevelopment #discipline #environment #masculinity #improvement #motivation

Check out my previous videos on relationships and preparation for marriage linked below.Why Modern Relationships Fail (And Marriage Endures): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26JxoNxFd1E&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=28&t=1sYou Want a Queen? Build a Kingdom First: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LcLgHpKXraw&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=27This video was highly requested. I’ve spoken before about marriage and relationships, but here I go deeper into how a man should actually approach finding a wife, without losing his mission, discipline, or peace of heart. Too many men hyper-fixate on women and relationships, and in doing so undermine the very qualities required to become a good husband and father. A woman is not your mission. She supports it.In this video, I break down what actually worked for me, how I met my wife at 21, and why chasing relationships too early or from the wrong mindset almost always backfires.In this video I cover:-why a woman cannot be your mission as a man-the difference between living for marriage vs chasing girls-how validation-seeking ruins dating and discernment-what “stability” actually looks like before dating-where you’re likely (and unlikely) to meet a future wife-how discipline, prayer, and purpose attract the right woman-why peace of heart matters more than dating strategiesThis isn’t dating advice for attention or entertainment. It’s about order, maturity, and becoming the kind of man worthy of marriage. Trust the process. Do the inputs properly. Let God handle the timing.My work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom:https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/#catholic #relationships #marriage #masculinity #faith #dating

Check out the previous video on smashing 2026 with systems that work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Hre2NeXd2I&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1&t=1sWhen your inputs change, how you spend your time, what you consume, what you prioritise, usually your friend group doesn't or won't come with you. It's a difficult realisation that can cause a lot of mindset problems and doubt. In this video, I break down the uncomfortable but necessary truth about self-improvement and why becoming serious about your life often means becoming more isolated. This is the lonely chapter no one wants to talk about.In this video I cover:-the difference between growth-based solitude and unhealthy isolation-why changing your habits often costs you friendships-why most men stay weak to avoid social friction-how to lose friends without becoming bitter or resentfulMy work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFFTK: https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/#selfimprovement #discipline #masculinity #mindset #christian #purpose #men #identity #growth

Most people don't understand the level of intentionality required to live a highly ordered life that leads to your genuine flourishing under God. It's not being hyper productive, but spending your time in those high ROI activities that are actually fulfilling. If you want more information around intentional leisure and productivity I recommend you check out these two past videos:Make Yourself So Busy You Can’t Fail (the only productivity hack that works): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QzQMsr_4EBM&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=5&t=1sMost People Burn Out Because They Miss THIS Commandment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVolEjcmYeU&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=4In this video, I break down the meta-framework behind real flourishing. How to integrate prayer, training, work, study, and rest into a single, coherent way of life that doesn’t burn out or fragment you. This is about environment, inputs, and intentional structure. Not monk-mode isolation or shallow productivity.If you want to stop reacting to life and start living as the Odyssean hero, this is the foundation.In this video I cover:-why your environment determines who you become-why nothing you consume is neutral for the soul-the difference between “maintenance” discipline and intentional growth-how to structure workdays vs free days without losing momentum-why weekends and holidays are the most dangerous time for men-how to integrate prayer, gym, study, and work without burnout-what it actually means to flourish (not just grind)This is not about doing more. It’s about ordering your life so that everything you do actually matters.My work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom:https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/

Check out the previous video: You Are Being Conditioned (Your inputs dec...  Video games are rarely talked about honestly. It's an acceptable form of escapism which I think needs to be seriously questioned by all young men, and ultimately avoided. In this video, I give a nuanced breakdown of gaming from personal experience, why it feels harmless, and why I ultimately walked away from it completely. This isn't about some antiquiarian fear of everything modern, but understanding ourselves as men and how to channel our masculine energy towards the good.In this video I cover:-why video games hijack natural masculine drives-the illusion of progress and fake reward systems-how gaming replaces real challenge, struggle, and growth-why “leisure” can still weaken a man-how I ended up quitting-how to think about this if you’re a young man or a future fatherIf you care about discipline, faith, responsibility, and becoming capable in the real world, this is a conversation that must be be had.My work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom:https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/#discipline #masculinity #christian #mindset #videogames #dopamine #men #selfimprovement #gaming

Check out the previous video on intentional leisure: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVolEjcmYeU&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1&t=1sMost people don’t realise they are being conditioned by their inputs. What you watch, listen to, consume, and tolerate every day. You are being conditioned whether you like it or not. In this video, I break down how inputs shape your habits, discipline, spiritual life, really your ENTIRE PERSON. I'm seeing this manifest more and more over the years and especially now as I push into the online space.In this video I cover:-how media, habits, and environment quietly train your behaviour-the 'inputs' that have influenced me-the difference between intentional and passive consumption-why “neutral” inputs don’t exist-building a rule of life that protects your vocation and focusMy work:https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFit for the Kingdom (FFTK):https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/#mindset #discipline #christian #masculinity #inputs #formation #productivity #spiritualdiscipline

Check out the previous video about being busy all the time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QzQMsr_4EBM&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=1Most people think burnout comes from working too hard, but the real cause is a life with no intentional rest. In thinking about burnout and wanting to be productive, I think it's very important to understand the different between distraction and real rest. If you can grasp this principle, your productivity and spiritual life will completely change.In this video I cover:-why most burnout is actually spiritual, not physical-how intentional rest protects your discipline (not destroys it)-the hidden danger of weekends and unstructured time-how to work hard without compromising prayer or vocation-keeping the sabbath is not optionalMy work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFFTK: https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/#mindset #discipline #christian #masculinity #productivity #burnout

Check out my weekend vlog from last week: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RtAiIfaWLaM&list=PLNiMDAMs3mP4hu5KJE9rnUm7h7kLLOVPk&index=2Most people think they’re “busy,” but they have no idea what real productivity feels like. In this video, I break down a very simple mindset shift that changes everything whether you are studying, working full time, or involved in ministry. Make yourself so busy that it becomes impossible to screw up. Intentional overload. Stacking comittments. If you can understand this, success becomes inevitable.In this video I cover:-becoming so 'busy' it's impossible to screw up-understanding a 9-5 job is simply not enough-biting off more than you can chew "the right way"-being satisfied when your head hits the pillow every night-and how fulfilment comes from responsibility not comfortMy work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFFTK: https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/#mindset #discipline #christian #masculinity #grind

My work on the farm has been my greatest education. In this video I break down:-The importance of having a demanding environment (friends, time, location)-Why this is the best gift you can give your children-Learning how to work hard, but not to be stressed or overwhelmed by it-How winning the mornings is an essential principle for all fields of workMy work: https://linktr.ee/tomas.monesFFTK: https://www.kingdomfitnz.com/

The Ancient Christians all understood this essential concept of their faith. We are lacking true penance and fasting in the modern world, and fasting has been taking up by the self improvement bros. In this video I discuss how to fast like an ancient Christian, and understanding the meaning and mindset behind it.

You can apply the same principle to study - study, when done with a high level of commitment, can acheive the same thing. AMDG.

Was the perfect time to debrief all of you on the past few weeks. Super exciting times ahead. Orare pro me ad Dominum Deum nostrum.

I’ve been thinking about this ever since I started, no, even before I started university. The collapse of real education, what “university” used to mean, and why modern colleges have become places that just 'extend adolescence.' With Jacob Imam's help, I started to break down what true education really looks like. P.S: Yes, I believe university is a scam, for the most part, but I'm definitely not against it. I am also currently enrolled in a degree through Holy Apostles College & Seminary.

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For 10 years, teacher Marisol Arroyo-Castro kept a small crucifix by her desk as a quiet reminder to pray and stay faithful. Then the school district called it “insubordination.”This is more than one teacher’s story. It’s about the growing hostility toward faith in public life — and why the Cross is the center and icon of Christian life.

Fasting and silence are two disciplines that go deeper than most people realize. In this video I talk about the link between fasting, mental clarity, and interior silence — not just silence from noise, but silence of the senses, silence of the heart. Listen to the full Fit for the Kingdom podcast (Ep. 18) for a full hour long breakdown:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UdRInItElBwAnd also my Q4 Lock-in video where I address clarity of mission:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbsjngw4kgo#fasting #silence #fitforthekingdom #masculinity #discipline #spiritual #catholic

This debrief from the Antioch camp isn’t just about the weekend, I also break down two key lessons about the outwards nature of our faith and the importance of the interior life in absolutely EVERYTHING we do.In this video I cover:-Why true encounter with Christ is found in the Eucharist.-The danger of false “anchors” like status or pleasure.-Why men should give abundantly.