Who Do You Think You Are Talking To Podcast

Think you're "bad at art"? This episode will help you release perfectionism, reconnect with creativity, and use simple art practices to calm your nervous system. Have you ever said, "I'm not creative," or "I'm bad at art"? I have. And in this conversation with art teacher and creativity guide Jen Velansky, we explore where those stories begin - often in childhood and how they can quietly shape what we allow ourselves to try as adults. This episode is not about becoming "good" at art. It's about giving yourself permission to create without pressure, judgement, or perfection. Jen shares how art became an anchor through difficult seasons, how simple creative practices can help us pause before we react, and why creativity already exists in the everyday ways we solve problems, parent, cook, dress, garden, doodle, and connect. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck in your head, this episode is your invitation to come back to yourself - one doodle, one pause, one small creative moment at a time. What You'll Learn • Why saying "I'm bad at art" can keep you stuck in an old story • How creativity helps you move from trigger-react to pause-respond • Why art is about process, not performance • How doodling can calm your nervous system in just a few minutes • How to reconnect with your child through curiosity about their creativity • Why creating, not consuming, can help you feel more grounded and alive Resources & Links Grab Jen's Doodle Sheet https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/PfFSz50    Connect with Jen Website:  [email protected] Instagram:  @artwithjenniev & @arthappenshere.vt Share the Episode If this conversation reminded you that you don't need to be perfect to begin, share it with someone who needs permission to create again. Remember  This is your reminder that you don't need fixing - you just need tools, space, and permission to come back to yourself. Work With Me 1:1 If you heard yourself in this episode - the "I'm not creative," the fear of getting it wrong, the old story that you're just not good at art, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching in May. This isn't about being told to calm down or think more positively. It's about slowing things down enough to notice what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can find simple tools that help you feel more grounded, connected, and in control. If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

"Why won't they just listen to me?" If you've ever said that (out loud or in your head), you're not alone. Because here's the truth… most of the time, you're not wrong. Your idea makes sense. Your intention is good. You are trying to help. But if people keep pushing back, shutting down, or ignoring you, it's not about what you're saying. It's about how it feels to hear it. In this episode, I'm taking you inside a real client session to show you the subtle ways communication breaks down—without you even realising it. We explore why even the best advice can create resistance, and how one small shift can completely change how your message lands. This is where communication stops feeling like a battle… and starts creating connection, trust, and teamwork instead. What You'll Learn • Why people resist, even when your advice is right • How "helping" can accidentally come across as control • A simple 3-step communication shift that softens resistance instantly • How to speak up confidently without sounding like you're bragging • Why over-explaining is draining your relationships (and what to do instead) • How to catch yourself before you react and choose connection instead Work With Me 1:1 If this episode hit home, the frustration when people don't listen or the urge to fix, explain, or control - you're not alone. And this is exactly the work we do together. I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April. This isn't about better scripts. It's about helping you pause, understand your triggers, and communicate in a way that actually lands calmly, clearly, and without resistance. If you're ready to stop repeating yourself and start seeing real change in your relationships, this is your next step. 👉 https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Or DM me "RESET" on Instagram @jennymcoaching No pressure. Just a conversation. Listen & Subscribe If this episode resonated with you, make sure you're following the podcast so you don't miss what's next. Your next breakthrough might be one episode away. Remember This is your reminder: communication isn't about being right… it's about being heard. And when you learn how to shift how your words land, everything starts to change. You don't need to work harder, you just need the right tools. And I'm right here with you.

You've explained it calmly, clearly, maybe even nicely… so why aren't they changing? Because the more you tell, the more they resist. This episode shows you what actually works. Have you ever found yourself repeating the same thing over and over - hoping this time it will land? I've been there. Explaining more. Trying harder. Saying it nicer. And somehow… it still doesn't work. In fact, it often makes things worse. In this episode, I'm breaking down what I call "the telling trap", that exhausting cycle of explaining, correcting, and trying to fix other people… only to be met with resistance. Because here's the truth most people miss: People don't change when they feel pressure. They change when they feel safe. And safety doesn't come from what you say. It comes from how you show up. I'll walk you through the powerful shift from trigger → react → control to trigger → pause → respond This is the work. This is where everything changes. If you've been feeling frustrated in your relationships, your communication, or even with yourself, this episode will show you a simpler, calmer way forward. What You'll Learn • Why "telling" people what to do actually creates resistance • The hidden pressure behind over-explaining (and how it backfires) • How to break the cycle of reacting and move into intentional responding • Real-life examples (work, friendships, family) you can apply immediately • How to model the behaviour you want, without saying a word • The simple pause that can completely shift your relationships Work With Me 1:1 If you heard yourself in this episode, the over-explaining, the frustration when nothing seems to land, the urge to fix or control how others behave, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April. This isn't about giving you better scripts or telling you what to say. It's about slowing things down so you can understand what's really happening underneath your reactions and learning how to respond in a way that feels calmer, clearer, and more like you. If you're ready to stop repeating yourself and start seeing real change in your relationships, this is your next step. If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Listen & Subscribe If this episode resonated, make sure you're following Who Do You Think You Are Talking To so you don't miss what's coming next. Your next breakthrough might be one episode away. Remember This is your reminder: You don't need better words. You need a different way of showing up. And that starts with one pause.

They're being kind… thoughtful… going out of their way for you. So why do you feel overwhelmed instead of grateful? If you've ever found yourself thinking, 👉 "This is a bit much… but I don't want to hurt them" and then saying nothing… This episode will show you why that happens - and how to handle it without guilt. Have you ever felt uncomfortable when someone is being really nice to you? Maybe they're always checking in, doing things for you, or going above and beyond… and instead of enjoying it, you feel pressure, guilt, or even a little trapped. I know this one well, because I used to be that person too. The people pleaser. The over-giver. The one trying to keep everyone happy. But here's what I've learned: It's not the kindness that's the problem… it's what happens when you don't say what you actually need. In this episode, I'm sharing the simple shift that changes everything, the difference between something being hard and something being uncomfortable. Because when you stop avoiding those small moments… you stop building resentment and start creating more honest, calmer connections. What You'll Learn • Why kindness can sometimes feel overwhelming (and what that really means) • How staying silent leads to frustration and resentment • The powerful shift from "this is hard" → "this is uncomfortable" • A simple 3-step way to express what you need without hurting someone • How to catch yourself before you shut down or overthink • Why awareness is the first step to any real change Remember It's not about saying everything perfectly. It's about being honest… even when it feels uncomfortable. Because that's where the real shift happens. That's where your power is.   Work With Me 1:1 If you heard yourself in this episode, the overthinking, the holding it in, the "it's fine, I'll just say nothing", I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April. This isn't about learning how to say the perfect thing or forcing yourself to be more direct. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath those moments - so you can express what you need with calm, clarity, and confidence (without the guilt). If you're ready to stop bottling it up and start showing up more honestly, you can go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Why Your Relationships Are Fading (And the Simple Shift That Brings Them Back) Are the people closest to you starting to feel more like strangers? Not because of one big fight - but because of the small moments nobody talks about? You know the ones. The "I'm fine." The "it doesn't matter." The "whatever." The conversations that never quite happen, the things left unsaid, the assumptions that quietly pile up until one day… the connection just isn't there anymore. I see this all the time in my coaching sessions, and honestly? I've lived it too. In this episode, I'm getting honest about something most of us don't want to face - that distance in relationships doesn't usually happen dramatically. It creeps in. And by the time you notice it, apathy has already done its quiet damage. If you've ever found yourself shutting down instead of speaking up, or wondering why the people around you just don't get it anymore, this one's for you. What You'll Learn • Why "I'm fine" is one of the most damaging things you can say in a relationship • What apathy really means, and why it's far more dangerous than arguing • The assumption trap: how you're reacting to what you think someone means (not what they actually said) • One powerful question to ask instead of reacting in the moment • The simple communication framework I use with my clients that transforms everyday frustration into real connection • Why "they should know me by now" is keeping you stuck, and what to do instead • My own story: how I went from passive-aggressive silence to calm, clear communication at home Remember Relationships don't usually end with a bang. They fade in silence. But those same quiet moments? They're also where connection can begin again. One pause. One honest conversation. One small shift in how you express yourself, that's all it takes to start moving in a different direction. Work With Me 1:1 If you heard yourself in this episode, the shutting down, the passive silence, the "they should know me by now", I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching in April. This isn't about being told what to do or how to behave. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence. If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Do you ever find yourself slamming cupboards, going quiet, over-explaining, over-helping, or feeling resentful that nobody seems to notice how much you do? Maybe you keep telling yourself you're "just tired" or "just stressed," but deep down, you know there's a pattern playing out in your relationships, and it's exhausting. In this episode, I'm joined by relationship strategist Katie Rössler to unpack the drama triangle: the hidden dynamic that keeps so many of us stuck in cycles of victim, villain, and hero energy. If you've ever wondered why the same arguments keep happening, why you feel unseen, or why you keep over-functioning for everyone else, this conversation will hit home. And more importantly? It will show you that change is possible. This episode felt like someone holding up a mirror in the gentlest and most powerful way. Katie Rössler joins me to talk about the drama triangle, a pattern that shows up in marriages, parenting, friendships, family dynamics, and even at work. We explore how easy it is to slip into roles like the victim, the villain, or the hero without even realising it… and how those roles often come from the survival strategies we learned when we were younger. If you've ever felt like you carry everything, keep the peace, explode after bottling things up, or wonder why your partner never seems to "get it," this episode will give you language for what's actually going on underneath the surface. What I loved most about this conversation is that it doesn't stop at awareness. Katie shares how to begin shifting out of these reactive patterns and into something healthier: becoming the creator instead of the victim, the challenger instead of the villain, and the coach instead of the rescuer. This is the work that changes relationships from the inside out. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But powerfully. So if you're ready to stop repeating the same emotional loops and start showing up differently in your relationships, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode • What the drama triangle is and why it shows up in everyday relationships • How victim, villain, and hero roles can look very different than you expect • Why people-pleasing, passive-aggression, and over-functioning are often part of the same pattern • How childhood conditioning shapes the way you react in conflict • Why changing your own behaviour can shift the entire relationship dynamic • How to pause, get curious, and respond in a calmer, more grounded way Connect with Katie Rössler Website: https://www.katierossler.com Podcast: https://www.katierossler.com/podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@katierossler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipResetwithKatie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katierossler/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie.rossler/ Listen & Subscribe If this episode gave you a lightbulb moment, don't leave it there. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To? on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you don't miss the next breakthrough conversation. Don't wait for the next argument, shutdown, or emotional spiral to start paying attention. Start now.   Remember This is your reminder that you're not too much, too sensitive, or too stuck. You may just be repeating a pattern you were never taught how to interrupt. And that can change. You don't need fixing, you need awareness, tools, and support. And I'm here with you every step of the way.   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

You keep saying "I'm not ready"… but what if that's exactly why nothing is changing? I had a moment in a recent coaching session that really stayed with me… I realised I wasn't the right coach for that client. Not because she wasn't capable. Not because she didn't want change. But because every time we got close to the real issue - the pattern underneath everything - she pulled back. "I'm just not ready to go there." And honestly? I get it. I've been that person too. For years, I stayed on the surface. Blaming circumstances, staying busy, focusing on plans and to-do lists… anything to avoid looking at what was really going on underneath. Because that kind of honesty? It's uncomfortable. It's scary. It asks you to look at the role you've played in your own patterns. In this episode, I'm talking about why we avoid the deeper work, how "fake it till you make it" can keep you stuck in performance mode, and what actually happens when you stop pretending and start getting honest with yourself. Because here's the truth: You don't need to feel ready. You just need to be willing to stop repeating the same patterns. What You'll Learn • Why "I'm not ready" is often fear in disguise • How avoiding the real issue keeps you stuck in the same patterns • The hidden cost of "faking it till you make it" • How to recognise when you're staying on the surface instead of going deeper • Why honesty (not perfection) is the real starting point for change • What shifts when you stop performing and start being yourself Remember If this episode hit a nerve, that's not a bad thing, that's awareness. And awareness? That's where everything starts to change. You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to look. Work With Me 1:1 If you recognised yourself in this episode and you're ready to go deeper, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this month. This work isn't about fixing you, because you're not broken. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond differently with more calm, clarity, and confidence. If you're curious about working together, you can reach out through the contact form in the show notes and we'll simply have a conversation to see if it's the right fit.   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

If you're exhausted from giving too much, fixing too much, and staying too long… this episode will show you what's really driving it - and how to take your energy back. "I'm so tired of wasting time."  That's how this conversation started. But here's the truth… it wasn't about time at all. It was about the hidden habit so many of us are stuck in, overexplaining, overgiving, and over-participating in situations that were never ours to carry in the first place. Maybe you recognise it… You answer once, but then you explain it again. You say no, but then soften it with a long justification. You're ready to leave, but you stay, just in case. Not because you have to… But because something in you feels safer staying than leaving. In this episode, I walk you through a real client session where we uncovered what was really going on underneath the frustration and how one small shift changed everything. Because this isn't about becoming cold or uncaring. It's about recognising where your energy is leaking… and learning how to choose differently. If you've ever felt drained, resentful, or stretched too thin, this episode will help you see why. And more importantly… what to do about it. What You'll Learn • Why overexplaining is often rooted in fear, not logic • How to catch yourself before you slip into "fixer mode" • The hidden emotional drivers behind people-pleasing habits • How to pause in the moment and ask, "Is this mine to carry?" • Simple ways to say no (without guilt or over-explaining) • How to stop managing everyone else and start leading yourself   1:1 Coaching with me If this episode hit close to home, this is exactly the work we do together. I have one space open this month for private coaching. This is a calm, supportive space to understand your reactions, shift your habits, and start showing up in a way that feels clear, confident, and in control. Contact me through my website https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ or you can DM me @jennymcoaching   What my clients say "Working with Jenny helped me realise how much energy I was giving away without even noticing. I feel calmer, clearer, and finally back in control of my time." If you're enjoying the podcast, I'd love if you left a review or shared it with someone who needs to hear this.   This is your reminder, you don't need to do more, explain more, or carry more. You just need the awareness to choose differently. And I'm right here with you every step of the way.

Do you ever feel like you're walking on eggshells around people… constantly overthinking what you said… or trying to keep everyone happy so nobody gets upset with you? Maybe you replay conversations in your head. Maybe you feel responsible for fixing everyone's problems. Or maybe no matter how much you give, it still never feels like enough. If that sounds familiar, this episode will feel very personal. Because the truth is, people pleasing and anxiety in relationships rarely start with other people. They usually begin with one quiet belief running in the background: "I'm not good enough." In this episode, I take you inside a real coaching session with a client who was feeling anxious and overwhelmed in their friendships. What we uncovered together is something so many people struggle with, the deep fear of disappointing others. And when that belief is driving your behaviour, you end up: • Overexplaining yourself • Managing other people's emotions • Trying to control situations that were never yours to control But once the inner belief shifts, everything else begins to change. Your relationships feel different. Your confidence grows. And the pressure to constantly prove yourself starts to disappear. This episode will help you understand why people pleasing happens — and how inner game work is what truly changes your outer world. What You'll Learn in This Episode • Why people pleasing is often rooted in fear, not kindness • The hidden belief that fuels anxiety in friendships and relationships • How childhood patterns shape the way you seek approval today • Why trying to control other people's emotions creates exhaustion and stress • How shifting your inner narrative changes your relationships naturally • The mindset shift that helps you move from fear to self-trust   Work With Me 1:1 If you recognised yourself in this episode and you're ready to go deeper, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this month. This work isn't about fixing you, because you're not broken. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond differently with more calm, clarity, and confidence. If you're curious about working together, you can reach out through the contact form in the show notes and we'll simply have a conversation to see if it's the right fit. Remember Most people spend their lives trying to control the outside world. But the real shift happens internally. When your inner game becomes stronger, your outer world starts to change too. And that's where real freedom begins.   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com  

You're not procrastinating. You're protecting. If you've been waiting to feel ready, confident, or certain before you speak up, post the thing, set the boundary, or have the conversation, this episode will gently call you forward. In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I break down how perfectionism, overthinking, and procrastination are often rooted in emotional protection, not ambition. If you've been stuck in cycles of rehearsing conversations, delaying decisions, or trying to "get it right" before you move, I'll show you how to shift from reacting to responding so you can stop overthinking and start participating in your life. This is about building emotional awareness, communicating calmly, and letting go of the need to control how everything lands. What You'll Learn • Why perfectionism is really about avoiding uncertainty • How to stop replaying conversations in your head • The difference between reacting and responding • A simple phrase that instantly shifts difficult conversations • How to tolerate discomfort instead of delaying your life • Why personal growth fuels confidence (not the other way around) Resources If this episode hit home and you're ready to work on your emotional reactions, communication patterns, or perfectionism more deeply - contact me directly to learn about my 1:1 coaching services. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ We'll slow it down, untangle the triggers, and help you respond instead of react. Remember You can't control how something lands. You can only control how honest it feels when it leaves you. You don't need to be perfect to move forward. You just need permission.   This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Feeling invisible, overwhelmed, or constantly on edge? This episode will change how you move through everyday life. Everybody's worried about AI replacing jobs. Robots are taking over. Self-checkouts replacing humans. Chatbots replacing conversations. But what if the bigger issue isn't machines replacing us… What if it's how invisible we've allowed each other to become? In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I'm joined by Todd, a flight attendant with 27 years of experience and a front-row seat to human behavior under pressure. What started as a delayed flight home from LA turned into something much deeper, a conversation about stress, entitlement, parenting, boundaries, public behavior, and the quiet epidemic of people feeling unseen. When Todd said to me, "Thank you for taking the time to talk to me… nobody talks to us," I couldn't stop thinking about it. This episode isn't really about planes. It's about how quickly we react when we're inconvenienced. It's about how easily we forget that the person in front of us is human. And it's about how much power we have to shift the tone of any room we walk into. If you've been feeling: Snappy and overstimulated Frustrated with "how people are these days" Triggered in public spaces Or quietly disappearing… This conversation will land. What You'll Learn in This Episode • Why we become more reactive when we're stressed (and how to catch it) • How to trade judgment for curiosity in real time • The difference between gentle parenting and boundary-free chaos • Why public spaces require emotional awareness • How small moments of appreciation change your nervous system • The simple 3-person challenge that can shift your entire week   Resources  If you are ready to take control of your life, I have two spaces currently open - want to chat about what it would be to work with me, simply send me a message, no pressure, no committment just a chat https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Small Ask If you've ever felt supported by this podcast, leaving a quick review helps more than you know. It helps other people find these conversations when they're searching for answers. Your words matter here. Remember:   You don't need fixing. You need awareness. You need tools. And you need reminders that you're not alone. This is one of them. I'm right here with you.   This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Have you ever carried a conversation around in your head before it's even happened? I know I have. Replaying it while driving. Editing my lines in the shower. Predicting how it might go wrong. By the time the real moment arrives, my body can feel like it's already lived through a disaster. In this episode, I'm sharing why most of the stress we feel after making a mistake doesn't come from the mistake itself, it comes from the mental rehearsal beforehand. What's In This Episode In this episode, I walk you through a real coaching session with a client who believed he'd made a huge professional error, one that had him stressed for days. I'll explain how a mistake of a $500 part became a major threat to him and his business.... in his mind.   I'll talk you through why our brains are wired to rehearse worst-case scenarios and a simple communication framework I use with clients to reduce overthinking You will notice that nothing about the mistake changed, only the story around it did. What You'll Learn By the end of this episode, I'll help you: • Stop overthinking after making a mistake • Calm your anxiety before a difficult conversation • Use my 1–10 Scale Method to shrink stress quickly • Separate facts from the story your mind is creating • Communicate honestly without spiraling into shame I also explain why: • Your brain hates uncertainty and fills in the blanks with disaster • Honesty usually feels uncomfortable for about 10 seconds • The relief afterward is almost always bigger than the discomfort • Most tension comes from rehearsing the moment, not from the moment itself Work With Me If this episode felt familiar, if your brain runs laps like this too, you don't have to untangle it on your own. I'm opening two one-to-one coaching spots this February. My work isn't about fixing you or giving advice. It's about helping you slow things down so you can see what's happening underneath the habit. If you're curious, check out the link below to contact me.  We can simply start with a conversation and see if we're a good fit. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Remember… The stress usually isn't about the mistake. It's about the effort of mentally rehearsing the mistake before it even exists. So this week, when your brain grabs onto something, pause. Put it on the scale. Shrink the story. I'm so grateful you're here with me each week.   This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Why do certain situations make your chest tighten or your voice go quiet, even when you know you're capable? This episode explores why those reactions aren't random, and how habits formed very early in life can still be shaping how you show up today. Episode Description Have you ever noticed how your body reacts before your mind has time to catch up? Your chest tightens. Your shoulders lift. Your voice gets quieter, or disappears altogether. And afterwards, you wonder: Why did I do that? I know better. In this episode, I explore why these moments of hesitation, freezing, or holding back aren't confidence problems or personal flaws, they're often old habits that once helped you feel safe. I share a real client story where what looked like "feeling stuck" turned out to be a deeply familiar pattern, formed very early in life to protect love, safety, and belonging. Not something to fix. Not something to push through. Something to understand. This is a gentle, grounded conversation about: • why we develop habits as children • why they stay with us for decades • and how curiosity, not force, is what actually allows change If you've ever felt frustrated with yourself for reacting in ways you don't fully understand, this episode will help you see yourself differently and move forward with far more compassion and clarity. What You'll Take From This Episode • Why many adult habits begin as early childhood coping strategies • How to recognise when your nervous system shifts into protection mode • The difference between intuition and fear-based protection • A powerful reframe: today's limiting belief was yesterday's solution • Why awareness softens patterns that effort never could • One simple question that helps old habits stop running the show Support & Next Steps 1:1 Coaching (February – 2 spaces) The work you heard in this episode is exactly how I support my clients, slowing things down, understanding old habits, and responding differently now. No pressure. Just a conversation. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Listen & Subscribe If this episode resonated, make sure you're following the podcast so you don't miss the next conversation. Remember Nothing you're doing is random.   The habits you judge once kept you safe. You don't need fixing. You need understanding. And that changes everything.   This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Turn everyday friction into calm, confident connection, without a major overhaul. Feeling stuck in the same old arguments? Let's change that, reach out to me through link below and let's chat about how coaching can work for you. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Why does it always blow up over nothing? You say one small thing, and suddenly it's a thing. Tension rises. Voices raise. You walk away wondering, How did we get here, again? If your days are full of tiny moments that feel unnecessarily difficult, this episode is for you. We're talking about the kind of chaos that creeps in quietly: the quick snap, the sigh, the eye roll, the missed cue. Not a big dramatic crisis, just a steady hum of friction that wears you down. This week, I walk you through a real client story that shows what happens when you stop trying to fix everyone else's behavior and start getting clear on your own intention instead. One pause. One reframe. One honest, no-blame conversation and everything changes. Why This Episode Matters Most people don't come to coaching because they want better communication. They come because their life feels harder than it needs to. What they discover is that the change doesn't come from forcing new rules or chasing compliance, it comes from getting calm, getting clear, and choosing connection over control. This episode is about the power of small shifts done consistently. It's not about school bags or chore charts or "getting your point across." It's about learning to ask, What actually matters here? and letting your communication reflect that. What You'll Learn: • How to catch yourself before you spiral into the same old argument • What's really underneath everyday frustration (hint: it's not the bag) • A 4-step script for calm, no-blame communication • How to create clear expectations without nagging or power struggles • Why setting boundaries is easier when you lead with appreciation • The surprising ripple effect of showing up differently, without needing perfection Resources & Links: I've got 2 spaces open this February for 1:1 coaching.  If this episode hit home and you're thinking, "I need this in my life," now's the time to reach out. I work with a small number of clients because this work is personal. It's about learning to pause, communicate clearly, and build calmer habits that actually stick. No pressure, just a real conversation about what's possible. https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/ Listen & Follow Don't miss the next breakthrough, follow the show and share it with a friend who may need to hear this. Remember You don't need a personality transplant to communicate better. You just need tools. And when you start showing up differently, even imperfectly, the ripple effect is real. This is your invitation to pause. Reframe. And take the first calm step toward lasting change.   This podcast was produced by www.keystepsuport.com

Ever found yourself spiralling over something that hasn't even happened yet? You're not alone. Sometimes, the most stressful part of change isn't the event itself, it's the anticipation. That space where nothing's happened yet, but your mind is running worst-case scenarios on a loop. In this episode, I'm sharing three specific tools that helped me move through one of those seasons: the weeks leading up to my son Jonah's big move to Los Angeles. While I was thrilled for him, I also felt completely ungrounded. And it wasn't the day he left that was hardest; it was the waiting. If you've ever micromanaged your way through stress, replayed conversations in your head, or mistaken anxiety for intuition… this conversation is going to help you soften your state, so your thoughts and actions can follow. This episode will help you: • Break the habit of managing everyone else's emotions just to feel safe • Interrupt the mental dress rehearsals that keep you stuck in worry • And most importantly, get clear on what actually helps you find calm What You'll Learn / Episode Takeaways: • The #1 reason anticipation often feels worse than the actual event • Why anxiety isn't always intuition—and how to tell the difference • 3 tools to calm your state when you're spiralling: 1.  Breathe differently (the 5-5-7 method I swear by) 2.  Move your body (even in winter!) 3.  Talk it through with someone safe • How the "pause before strategy" changed the way I parent (and coach) Why your state of being comes first, and how everything else flows from there Resources & Links: Sign up for my weekly newsletter and don't miss weekly actionable steps to a calmer life https://jennymcoaching.com/resources/ Listen & Subscribe CTA: Let's make calm your new habit, subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a weekly reset. Remember: You don't have to fix yourself. You just need tools. And when you learn how to meet the moment you're actually in, everything shifts. Be gentle with yourself. I'm rooting for you.

When rage is how you survive, what happens when it stops working? If you've ever felt like you had to stay angry to stay safe, this episode is going to hit close to home. In Part 2 of my powerful conversation with Tommy Morris, we dive deeper into the emotional roots of addiction and the real work of recovery. This isn't about quick wins or clean timelines. It's about showing up for your life when your nervous system is screaming no. It's about choosing vulnerability over violence. It's about healing the parts of you that still think they're unlovable. Tommy doesn't hold anything back. From addiction and shame to leadership and service, his story is both brutal and beautiful, and it might just be the mirror you didn't know you needed. If you're in the thick of it right now, or loving someone who is - press play. There is a way through. What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why rage often masks deep self-hate, and how to break the cycle • The emotional toll of working in high-pressure, high-stakes environments • What real support in recovery actually looks like (hint: it's not a hashtag) • How Tommy uses his past to lead with fairness, compassion, and no bullshit • Why "attraction, not promotion" works - especially in recovery communities • One small moment of support that changed someone's life forever Resources & Links:Need support with addiction or recovery?  You are not alone. Start here: Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org Also, don't miss part 1 and part 2 - Episode 58 and Episode 59 Listen & Subscribe: Don't miss Part 2, where Tommy shares how recovery finally started to stick, and the one moment that changed everything. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you never miss an episode. If this moved you, share it: You never know who needs to hear Tommy's story. Forward it to a friend, post it on your socials, or leave a review to help more people find their way home to themselves. Remember: You don't need to be perfect. You don't even need to have it all figured out. You just need the right tools and people who won't flinch when it gets messy. I'm here. And I'm not going anywhere.   This show is produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

What if the first voice you hear in the morning tells you you're worthless? This episode goes beyond addiction, into belonging, rage, and the fight to feel worthy. Tommy Morris returns for part two of our raw, real, and transformational conversation and this time, we're diving into the messy middle of recovery. The shame. The resistance to love. The desperate need to belong. If you've ever woken up with a heavy head and thought, "What am I even doing here?" this episode is for you. We're talking about what it really means to heal the beliefs that kept you stuck. The ones that say you're unlovable, unworthy, too much. And we're walking straight into the tender truth: that you can build new belonging. But only when you're brave enough to let people in. Tommy doesn't hold back about the rage, the knee-jerk reactions, the moment he nearly became a pimp (yes, really), and how picking up the phone saved his life. Again and again. I'll be honest, this one gave me goosebumps. In part two of my conversation with Tommy, we move from chaos to clarity. From self-pity as a comfort blanket to the unshakable power of human connection. You'll hear how Tommy rewrote the story of who he thought he had to be - tough, invulnerable, always on guard and learned to accept love, even when it made him squirm. We talk about his daily rituals, the friends who became family, and why saying "I'm lonely" can be the most courageous thing a person in recovery will ever do. This isn't just about addiction, it's about identity, trust, and learning how to belong without betraying yourself. If you're in a funk, spiralling in your head, or scared to reach out, this episode will meet you where you are and remind you: you're not alone. And you never have to be again. What You'll Learn: • How to catch your thoughts before they spiral into shame • What real support looks like and why it often starts with strangers • The surprising reason we resist affirmation (even when we crave it) • Why old habits feel like safety, and how to build new 'warm blankets' • How group belonging can rewire your relationship with trust • The mindset shift that helps you trade judgment for curiosity Resources & Links:Need support with addiction or recovery?  You are not alone. Start here: Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org Listen & Subscribe: Don't miss the final part of Tommy's journey next week, follow the show on Apple or Spotify and get new episodes as soon as they drop. Love what you're hearing? Here's what one listener said about part one: "I cried listening to Tommy's story. The honesty hit me in the gut, I felt less alone."   This is your reminder that you don't need fixing, you just need tools. And I'm here with you, every step of the way.   This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com  

When you've never felt loved, you'll chase belonging anywhere, even when it leads you down a path you never meant to take. Tommy Morris didn't start using drugs to get high. He used them to feel less alone. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Tommy shares the early story that shaped his addiction, growing up in a home full of alcohol, silence, and violence, where vulnerability was punished and affection was absent. By the time he was 11, drugs became his way out. Not of the house, but of his feelings. What started with smoking weed in the woods with other lost kids quickly became a spiral into heroin, crack, prison, and shame. But that's not where this story ends. It's where it begins. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series with Tommy, a journey through chaos, connection, and the long road to recovery. What You'll Learn:• Why emotional neglect can be more damaging than violence • How addiction often starts with the need to feel safe • The real reason so many boys learn to numb, not feel • What belonging looks like when you've never known love • How Tommy's childhood laid the groundwork for prison, not possibility • The moment he realised: this doesn't have to be my life Resources & Links:Need support with addiction or recovery?  You are not alone. Start here: Narcotics Anonymous - https://na.org Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org Listen & Subscribe: Don't miss Part 2, where Tommy shares how recovery finally started to stick, and the one moment that changed everything. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you never miss an episode. If this moved you, share it: You never know who needs to hear Tommy's story. Forward it to a friend, post it on your socials, or leave a review to help more people find their way home to themselves. Remember:   You don't need fixing. You need space to feel. You need tools to stay. And you need people who see all of you, and stay anyway. I'm here. With you. Every step of the way.   This show is produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

Still dreading that one question, that one look, that one comment? This is the episode that shows you how to stop hinting, start speaking up, and finally feel calm, clear, and in control, without the emotional hangover. You promised yourself it would be different this year… but it's happening again. Your throat tightens. Your shoulders rise. Someone makes a comment or expects too much, and suddenly you're doing what you've always done - smiling, swallowing it, and telling yourself, "It's not worth it." You go home exhausted. Resentful. Drained. And then you replay the whole thing in your head. In Part 1, we talked about saying no to your own behavior, the people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional over-functioning. Now, in Part 2, we're going deeper. Because no amount of self-awareness will change your life unless you learn how to ask for what you need. And no, this doesn't require confrontation, drama, or blowing up at the wrong person. It just requires clarity. Calm. Courage. And the emotional skills most of us were never taught. This episode is your invitation to stop bottling it up, and start showing up - for real. What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why hinting doesn't help - and what to say instead • The one sentence that will instantly shift your communication style • 3 go-to frameworks to ask for what you need (without guilt) • How to model emotional safety when someone else shuts down • What to do when a loved one's comment reopens an old wound • How to quietly set boundaries without confrontation or drama • Why real change doesn't happen when the calendar flips, it happens when you do Resources Holiday Boundary Blueprint:  Your cheat sheet for dodging drama at the dinner table. https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/816991/173971389271770683/share Listen & Subscribe CTA: Loved this conversation? Don't miss the next breakthrough. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To? on Apple Podcasts or Spotify ❤️ Remember: You don't need permission to need what you need. You don't have to confront everyone to set a boundary. And you don't have to disappear to keep the peace. You're allowed to change. You're allowed to speak up. You're allowed to take up space. And every time you do, it's not just a win for you, it's a pattern you're rewriting for everyone who comes after you.   This show is produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

If you're already bracing for guilt trips, intrusive questions, or just trying to keep the peace, this episode is your new plan. Because surviving the holidays shouldn't mean abandoning yourself in the process. It's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, right? So why do you feel like you're quietly seething in the car, biting your tongue at dinner, and crashing into bed completely drained? This week, I'm kicking off a two-part holiday mini-series with the truth no one wants to say out loud: You're not going to change them. But you can change how you show up. In this episode, I'll show you how to say no to your own self-betrayal, those old habits of people-pleasing, overdoing, and hoping your family will be different this year while you keep abandoning your own needs. We're getting honest about the emotional toll of the season, from the guilt that ruins the day to the pressure to perform and please. I share the real story of the year I finally cracked... and the quiet, powerful boundary that changed everything. This isn't about drama. It's about clarity. And if you're ready to choose calm over chaos and connection over obligation, you're going to love this one. PS: If you're already dreading that comment at Christmas dinner, don't wait for the moment to spiral—grab my free Holiday Boundary Blueprint now. It'll give you the exact words to say. What You'll Learn in This Episode: • Why the holidays feel like a crash course in guilt, pressure and people-pleasing • The truth about self-betrayal and how it's sneaking into your holiday plans • How to set a boundary without causing drama (yes, even with your family) • Three real-life scripts to shut down questions, comments and conflict, calmly • The "internal no" that shifts everything before you open your mouth • How to stop rehearsing arguments in your head and start reclaiming your peace   Resources Holiday Boundary Blueprint:  Your cheat sheet for dodging drama at the dinner table. https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/816991/173971389271770683/share   Listen & Subscribe CTA: Loved this conversation? Don't miss the next breakthrough. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To? on Apple Podcasts or Spotify   ❤️ Remember: You are not responsible for everybody's Christmas. You are responsible for how you treat you. This is your reminder that peace is not something you have to earn. It's something you get to choose, one small, powerful "no" at a time. And when you stop betraying yourself, everything changes.

Ever felt judged, lost, or like you're wasting time when it comes to fitness? This episode is for anybody who wants to feel strong, supported, and finally at home in her own body. Let's talk about the fears that keep us stuck, and how to move through them. In today's episode, I'm joined by the incredible Kelly Haas, founder of Fitness on the Fox, a women-only gym that has become one of the most welcoming, uplifting places I've ever been. We go deep on the emotional roadblocks so many of us face when it comes to fitness, fear of judgment, fear of getting it wrong, and fear that we'll fail (again). If you've ever told yourself, "I'm just not a gym person," or felt like you didn't belong in a workout space, please listen. This conversation is about rewriting the story. It's about letting yourself be a beginner, finding joy in movement, and knowing that you are worthy of the time, energy, and investment it takes to take care of yourself. This episode is full of laughs, real talk, and powerful re-frames that will help you take one small step toward building habits that feel like love, not punishment. What You'll Learn • How to overcome "gymtimidation" and stop comparing yourself to others • What makes a gym truly inclusive, and how to spot red flags • Why modifications are a sign of strength, not weakness • The truth about starting small (and why it's the smartest strategy) • A fresh mindset for when you're afraid to "waste" time or money on yourself • How to reframe movement as a gift, not a chore Resources & Links: Want to find out more about Fitness On The Fox, check out their Website: www.fitnessonthefox.com Winter Wellness Program:https://www.fitnessonthefox.com/service-page/winter-wellness-program?referral=service_list_widget New Year Promotion Code: 2026 When someone purchases a monthly membership their first month will be 50% off with that coupon code. *applies to new members only - https://www.fitnessonthefox.com/plans-pricing Listen & Subscribe CTA: Loved this conversation? Don't miss the next breakthrough. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To? on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.   Remember:  You are not too late. You are not too far gone.You are allowed to begin again, and I'm right here cheering you on.

If you've ever left a doctor's office or professional meeting feeling unheard—or like you were the problem instead of the person needing help—this one's for you. Ever found yourself nodding politely while an expert dismissed your concerns? You walked in hoping for support, but left doubting your instincts, downplaying your pain, and questioning your right to speak up. I've been there too. And so have many of my clients. In this episode, I share a personal story (yep, it involves a root canal) and a powerful client transformation that both reveal what really happens when we outsource our voice, and how to take it back. You'll hear what happens when ego gets in the way of expertise, how to stay calm when you feel yourself spiraling, and the one golden question that can transform a defensive conversation into a collaborative one. Whether you're dealing with a doctor, a lawyer, a therapist, or a coach—this episode is your reminder: you're the client. You're allowed to ask questions. You're allowed to be heard. And you don't have to blow up or shut down to get your needs met. What You'll Learn / Episode Takeaways: • Why you freeze or go quiet in high-stakes conversations • What to do when an expert's ego starts to take over • How to use "the golden question" to reset the room • A real client script for communicating clearly and calmly • How to shift from emotional reactivity to empowered communication • The power of pausing - and how it can bring everyone back into the present Resources & Links: Make sure you join my mailing list as this Sunday's email gives you the exact words to use when you feel dismissed - so you can speak up calmly, clearly, and without guilt. Get on the list. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/816991/142538089324086821 1:1 Coaching Book a call FREE: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09 Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/ Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Closing Line: This is your reminder that you don't need fixing - you just need tools. And I'm here with you every step of the way.

If you've ever made a big life choice… then second-guessed it because of someone else's opinion? This one's for you. We all want to make the right choice. The smart choice. The one that keeps us safe, successful, secure. But what if the voice in your head saying "play it safe" isn't even your voice at all? In today's episode I am joined by returning guest and financial planner Frank Iozzo. Together, we explore what really happens when we outsource our thinking - and the emotional cost of handing our decision-making power over to other people's headlines, opinions, and fears. You'll hear why following blanket money advice (even from big names like Dave Ramsey) might not work for you, and what it looks like to reclaim your gut instinct, ask better questions, and choose what's right for you - not your parents, your neighbours, or the algorithm. This isn't just about money. It's about your life. Your values. Your voice. If you've been living by other people's rules, without even realising it, this is your invitation to pause and come home to your own.   What you will hear about: • Why even well-meaning advice can lead you away from yourself • How to tell the difference between fear-based decisions and informed ones • Frank's honest take on why "all debt is bad" doesn't hold up • The emotional pressure behind financial decisions (like buying a home or sending your kids to college) • How to spot when you're seeking advice… just to avoid responsibility • What it means to reclaim your gut wisdom  - and why it's so needed now   The next time you feel pulled to follow someone else's advice, pause and ask: Is this true for me? Or just familiar? Then take one small step toward your own clarity. Resources & Links: If you missed Franks last two episodes you can check them out now:  Episode 40 - Tackling College Debt: Beyond Price Tags and Prestige  https://jennymcoaching.com/episode40/ Episode 43 - Drowning in Debt? How to Take Back Control Before It's Too Late https://jennymcoaching.com/episode43/   Frank will be back, so if there is a question you would like to ask him, you can DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching or email me at [email protected]  or DM me on Instagram with the word "MONEY". Connect with Frank Make sure you are following Frank on LinkedIn @Frank-Iozzo or check out his webiste https://www.fmifinancial.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're feeling the weight of other people's opinions, second-guessing your next step, or just craving clarity in a noisy world - please share this episode with someone who needs to feel more grounded. A decision reclaimed is power restored. Before You Go You don't need fixing - you just need tools. And I'm here with you every step of the way.   This episode was produced by Key Step Support - www.keystepsupport.com

Your people pleasing isn't a personality trait. It's a survival strategy you learned long before you ever realised you were doing it. In this episode, I take you right into the early moments where people pleasing begins, how those habits harden over time, and the emotional cost of performing calm on the outside while falling apart inside. I share my story from childhood stage school to years of performing for approval, to losing myself again after moving to America. You'll hear how the cracks finally pushed me toward habit change coaching and the tools that helped me rebuild my voice, my self-trust and my emotional regulation one pause at a time. If you've ever wondered why you swallow your truth, overextend yourself or explode over tiny things, I walk you through the exact tools that changed my life and the lives of my clients. These are the practices that help you shift the cycle of trigger → react → regret into trigger → pause → respond. And if you're tired of performing, pleasing or pretending, there's one small challenge at the end of the episode that can shift everything. "People pleasing isn't who you are, it's what you learned." – Jenny Maxwell You'll hear about: • Why people pleasing begins so young • Childhood rules that shape lifelong behaviour • Performing for approval and its hidden cost • Becoming everyone's person after moving abroad • Finding purpose in non-profit work • The moment coaching changed everything • Rebuilding self-trust and emotional regulation • Learning to pause before reacting • Setting boundaries without guilt • A challenge to practice one tiny truth   Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/   1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.   Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Have you ever tried to help someone you love, only to realise they felt pushed, managed or misunderstood instead? In this episode, I'm diving into the real reason our "fix it" habits damage connection and what to do instead. This is personal work, practical work and deeply liberating work. I share a powerful story about a young man who came to a coaching call out of obligation and what happened when I stopped trying to pull clarity out of him and started giving him autonomy instead. You'll hear why real change never comes from pressure, how to recognise your own emotional patterns and why supporting someone doesn't mean directing their life. We also explore the two roles many of us fall into: the fixer and the people pleaser. I show you how to slow everything down, build self-awareness and reset old habits in a way that protects connection instead of destroying it. If you've been feeling over responsible, overextended or overlooked, this conversation will hit home and help you change the pattern… starting today. And there's one simple question in this episode that can instantly reset any conversation…listen to find out what. "Support creates connection. Pressure destroys it." – Jenny Maxwell   You'll hear about: Why fixing others lands as control Coaching without consent The cost of people pleasing What creates real autonomy How stress blocks clarity Pacing change in relationships Questions that support not pressure Resetting boundaries gently How to stop being over responsible Tools for both fixers and pleasers Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.   Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Let's be honest: we've all done it. Given one kid more grace than the other, bent the rules for someone we like, cut a team member extra slack because it's easier. You tell yourself it's no big deal, but here's the truth: every time you do that, somebody else feels it. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on favouritism and how it shows up everywhere, from guilt parenting at home to people pleasing dynamics at work. I share a personal story about noticing this pattern in my own childhood and explain why favouritism isn't about bad intentions. It's about blind spots, stress responses and emotional avoidance. Whether you're a parent constantly giving one child more attention, a manager who keeps going to the same reliable employee, or a teacher who unconsciously praises the same students, this episode will help you understand the ripple effects of these patterns. I'll walk you through practical tools like the fairness tracker, family balance check and awareness audit so you can start leading with true equity. Ready to stop operating from comfort and start building real connection through fairness? Let's break the cycle together.   "Favouritism is guilt disguised as grace" – Jenny Maxwell   You'll hear about:   ·      Why favouritism breeds resentment and disconnection everywhere ·      How guilt parenting creates invisible tension at home ·      The stress response that makes us play favourites ·      What happens when one child feels never good enough ·      How teachers and coaches leave lasting marks on kids ·      The fairness tracker for recognizing your whole team ·      Family balance checks to ensure everyone feels seen ·      Speaking up when you're the one feeling overlooked ·      The appreciation framework for calm, clear communication ·      Why fairness takes courage and calling yourself out   Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/   Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/   1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this. Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Depression isn't something you "get over." You learn to live with it. These were the words my therapist told me that changed everything. That realisation shifted how I approached every emotional storm that's come since, especially this new one: perimenopause. In this episode, I open up about what it's really like when your hormones start rewriting the rules. From 2am wake-ups and brain fog to guilt and overwhelm, I share the small, doable steps that are helping me find balance again, and how you can too. I share why emotional awareness is the missing piece in this conversation, how to support yourself (and others) through hormonal changes, and why the truth habit matters more than ever when your body feels out of sync. If you've ever thought "what the hell is wrong with me?" or if you love someone who's asking that this one's for you. "You're not broken. It's just chemistry" – Jenny Maxwell You'll hear about: • Why hormonal imbalance isn't a character flaw • How depression and perimenopause overlap • The truth about the "I'm fine" lie • Practical ways to rebalance mind and body • How men can support women through hormonal shifts • Small daily anchors that restore calm Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved.  Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.   Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Ever caught yourself saying "I'm fine" when you're anything but? In this episode, I unpack the quiet, everyday lies we tell to keep the peace and how they quietly teach us to hide what we really feel. From the "thank you I love it" moments at Grandma's house to the "just be polite" white lies we tell our kids, I reveal how these tiny habits of dishonesty shape our emotional reactions and communication patterns. You'll learn how to trade comfort for clarity, guilt for growth, and how to speak the truth calmly and confidently without blowing up, backing down, or overexplaining. If you're ready to stop performing "fine" and start showing up real, this episode will help you take the first step. Because peace doesn't come from pretending; it comes from honesty   "Your truth isn't too much, it's your power." – Jenny Maxwell   You'll hear about: ·      Why we learn to tell little white lies ·      How politeness turns into people-pleasing ·      The hidden pressure of "money lies" ·      What honesty really means in daily life ·      How to use the trigger → pause → respond framework ·      Replacing guilt with calm communication ·      How small truths create big change   Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/    Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.   Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking "why didn't I say anything?"  Then you replay it over and over, feeling frustrated and stuck. I've been there. For years, I thought my husband just didn't care enough or understand me, while he was quietly carrying his own invisible load, afraid to speak up for fear of judgment. In this episode, I'm sharing what happens when honesty disappears from our relationships. When men shut down to avoid conflict and women get louder trying to fix things, both people end up feeling unseen and alone. I'll walk you through the pattern I lived for years: the silent resentment, the passive aggression, and the moment everything shifted when I learned to trade judgment for curiosity. You'll hear a powerful story from one of my male clients about connecting with his nine-year-old son in a way he never thought possible. I'm also sharing the uncomfortable truth about playing the blame game and what happens when we stop assuming everyone else needs to change and start looking at our own behaviour first. By the end, you'll have simple action steps for both sides to start rebuilding trust today. Because when you tell the truth, even when it's uncomfortable, you take the mystery out of the situation. What's left? Clarity, calm, and real connection. "Peace doesn't come from silence. It comes from speaking truth." - Jenny Maxwell You'll hear about: ·      Why men often shut down instead of speaking up ·      How I made it hard for my husband to share his struggles ·      Trading judgment for curiosity in every conversation ·      A client's breakthrough moment with his nine-year-old son ·      The invisible loads both partners carry without realizing it ·      Why playing the blame game keeps you stuck ·      What men wish they could say but rarely do ·      How to make it easier for loved ones to open up ·      Simple action steps for both men and women   Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this. Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Have you ever told yourself you were "keeping the peace" by staying quiet, only to end up feeling resentful, misunderstood, or disconnected? In this episode, I dive into one of the most common patterns I see: staying silent instead of speaking the truth. We'll unpack why silence doesn't actually protect your relationships; it erodes them. I'll walk you through the small, practical shifts that help you speak up calmly and confidently, without guilt or drama. You'll learn the simple communication framework that changes everything: Appreciation → Ask → Benefit. You'll also hear real-life moments that taught both me and clients this lesson the hard way, and why learning to pause before reacting is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself and your relationships. If you've been swallowing your words to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is your permission slip to stop. It's time to replace silence with calm, honest truth and build the kind of connection you've always wanted. "Silence doesn't keep the peace; it just delays the explosion." – Jenny Maxwell You'll hear about ·       Why silence erodes connection ·       The "I'm fine" lie we all tell ·       The cost of waiting to be understood ·       How to pause before reacting ·       A simple 3-step truth-telling framework ·       What to say instead of blaming ·       Releasing guilt when you speak your needs ·       How small shifts create lasting calm My resources: Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09 Connect with me:  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/   Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this. Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Do you ever please others at the expense of your own voice? For years I performed calm on the outside while quietly shrinking inside. I know what it feels like to keep everyone else happy while your own voice gets smaller and smaller. In this episode, I share the exact process that helped me silence my inner people-pleaser and finally lead by example. You'll learn how to pause, tune into what you truly need, and speak up without guilt or emotional blowups. I'll guide you through the simple shift from trigger → react → regret into trigger → pause → respond, so you can build calm, confident communication habits that last. If you're ready to stop playing small and show up as the version of yourself you've always known was there, this conversation will help you take that first step.   "Pause, respond, and own your voice." – Jenny Maxwell   You'll hear about: Why fear of judgment keeps you playing small How stagnancy shows up in relationships and habits The ripple effect of leading by example Tony's transformation from breakup to business owner Becoming an expander for those around you One doable action step to start this week   My resources: Press Pause: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/presspause/ Your Anytime Reset: https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/ 1:1 Coaching Book a call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2025-09   Connect with me:   LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennymaxwell-leadership-coach-replacemicromanagement/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jennymcoaching/?hl=en  Website - https://jennymcoaching.com/   Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.   Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/

Why You Feel So Overwhelmed as a New Mom, and What to Do About It Stuck in the cycle of guilt, burnout, and resentment, and no one's talking about it? You're not alone. In this episode, we break the silence and get real about what new motherhood actually feels like, and how to reclaim your calm one breath (and boundary) at a time. Because "Happy Mom, Happy Baby" Doesn't Help When You're Drowning If you've ever silently screamed, "Why do I have to do it all?", this episode is for you. I'm joined by Dr. Colleen Horn, a pediatric chiropractor and fierce advocate for moms navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond. Together we go deep into the parts of motherhood that don't make it into the Instagram captions—the isolation, the pressure to be everything, and the unspoken disconnection from your partner. This conversation is an invitation to pause, breathe, and remind yourself: you don't need fixing—you need support, tools, and a little bit of truth. Whether you're holding a newborn, balancing toddlers, or reflecting on your own postpartum experience years later, this episode will meet you exactly where you are—with zero judgment and a whole lot of compassion. What You'll Learn in This Episode:   -  Why your nervous system holds the key to your stress, and your healing -  How to catch yourself before you spiral into guilt or resentment -  What to say (and not say) when asking your partner for help -  The surprising link between mom burnout and emotional reactivity -  How to build boundaries without feeling like a bad mom -  A simple two-minute reset that can shift your entire day Resources & Links: Follow Dr. Colleen at Generations Chiropractic on Instagram - @generations.chiropractic https://www.instagram.com/generations.chiropractic?igsh=emE3Mnc2azZrb2hv Colleen's Blog signup: https://www.generationschirokane.com/blog/ Thriving in Motherhood Workshop - get on my mailing list or Colleen mailing list so you don't miss this event - https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/816991/142538089324086821/share Don't Miss the Next Breakthrough Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss a reset moment. And if this episode spoke to you, would you leave a quick review? It helps more women find the tools they didn't know they needed. Whether you're a mom, a partner, or someone supporting a loved one through postpartum, please share this episode with someone who needs to feel less alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. Before You Go This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough.  You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest.  And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Feel like debt is running your life? You're not lazy, you're not broken, and you're not alone -  and this episode will show you how to take back control, one step at a time. When bills pile up, the shame gets loud - but clarity is louder. This episode is your life raft when it feels like you're financially underwater. Mortgage arrears, car payments, credit cards, late notices - if any of those words make your chest tighten, this one's for you. Episode Summary Hi, I'm Jenny Maxwell - and today's episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To is about one of the most emotionally loaded struggles we face: debt. If you're scared to check your bank account… if you've stopped opening the post… if you're lying awake at night wondering "How did it get this bad?" - you are exactly who I recorded this for. My guest is returning favourite and financial coach Frank Iozzo, who brings two decades of experience and lived wisdom from his own debt story. Together, we talk about what to do when you're scared to even look at your money, how to interrupt the emotional spiral of financial stress, and the real options most people don't know they have when it comes to mortgage, car loans, and credit cards. This conversation isn't just about numbers - it's about empowerment. Because on the other side of fear is opportunity. And you can shift your financial reality - without shame, and without doing it alone. What You'll Learn in This Episode  -   -  Why smart, capable people still fall into debt (and how shame keeps you stuck) -  The exact first 3 steps to take when you're in mortgage or loan arrears -  How to speak to lenders (and what to say) when you're behind -  When it's time to sell, refinance, or reassess - and how to make that call -  Why credit card interest is silently draining your future (and how to stop it) -  The simple mindset shift that stops the midnight spiral of panic -  How to build financial resilience - even if you feel like you've already "failed" Connect with Frank Iozzo  Follow Frank Iozzo on LinkedIn Check out Frank's Website Come say hi to me on Instagram or LinkedIn Don't miss future episodes — hit Follow and leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review! Resources   Start with Your Anytime Reset: Your free 10-minute daily practice to shift from reactive to reflective. Need a quick intervention? Download my free PRESS PAUSE guide.  Create space between your trigger and your next move. Final Reminder You don't need fixing.  You just need tools - and someone in your corner reminding you that it's never too late to start again.  This is your moment to take one step toward peace. I'm with you.

Feeling steamrolled in conversations? Here's how to set a boundary without starting a war. We've all been there, face-to-face with someone who always needs to win, dominate, or bulldoze their way through a conversation. And if you're the one quietly nodding along just to keep the peace? You're not alone. But here's the truth: your silence is teaching them how to treat you. In this episode, I'll show you a new way to respond, without shouting, shutting down, or becoming just like them. Whether it's a partner, a parent, or a colleague who constantly pulls you into power struggles, there is a gentler, stronger way through. One that protects your peace and your dignity. If you've been feeling drained, unheard, or like your needs never get airtime, this conversation is your invitation to change that. In This Episode, I Share: -   -  The invisible cost of always "keeping the peace" -  What to say instead of staying silent (without escalating the conflict) -  A simple phrase that lets you exit the drama without guilt -  How to hold your ground without losing your calm -  The mindset shift that frees you from needing to "win" the conversation -  Why your peace is more valuable than their approval Resources & Links: Grab Your Anytime Reset  Before jumping into 1:1 coaching, this is the perfect place to begin. One simple daily practice to help you reflect on your emotional patterns and choose calm over chaos. These 10-minute prompts land in your inbox and shift everything. Don't wait for the next outburst, start your reset today. Join the Newsletter  Weekly mindset shifts, boundary tools, and behind-the-scenes stories to keep you grounded and growing. Listen to Episode 39: When You're the One Who Needs to Be Right → [Episode 39] This is the perfect companion episode for today's topic. Listen to both for the full reset. Listen & Subscribe: Don't miss the next breakthrough, follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you love to listen. Love What You Heard? Leave a review and share this episode with a friend who always ends up being the peacekeeper. You never know whose burnout you're helping them avoid. One Last Thing: This is your reminder that you don't need fixing, you need tools. And I'm here to walk that with you, one reset at a time. Your peace is worth protecting. Always.

Tired of feeling resentful, overstretched, or reactive? This one boundary changes everything, and the best part? It starts with you. How often do you catch yourself saying yes when you're screaming no on the inside? In this episode, I'm sharing the one boundary that doesn't just reduce stress, it creates lasting, ripple-effect change in your work, relationships, and self-talk. And here's the twist: it's not about holding other people accountable. It's about learning to hold yourself in a different way. If you've ever felt exhausted from over-giving, frustrated when people don't take your advice, or silently resentful as you go along with something you didn't want to do, this is your episode. I'm taking you through real client stories, powerful mindset shifts, and a practical 3-step tool to reset your habits and your energy. You don't need to overhaul your life. You just need to pause, get honest, and start saying no to what's not working, especially when it's your own patterns that are running the show. Because boundaries aren't barriers - they're invitations. And this one boundary? It will set you free. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - Why the most life-changing boundary is the one you set with yourself - How to catch yourself before you spiral into people-pleasing, fixing, or overreacting - The subtle ways your actions override your spoken boundaries (and how to stop) - Three relatable boundary mistakes I see all the time, and what to do instead - A powerful mindset shift that helps you respond with clarity instead of autopilot - How to create an "anchor" in your environment that pulls you back into alignment Resources & Links: Start with Your Anytime Reset: Your free 10-minute daily practice to shift from reactive to reflective. Need a quick intervention? Download my free PRESS PAUSE guide.  Create space between your trigger and your next move. Love What You Heard?  If this resonated, send it to a friend who needs to hear it. And if you're doing the work and seeing the shift? I'd love to hear about it. This is your reminder that you don't need fixing, you just need tools. And I'm here with you, every step of the way.

Are student loans worth the cost? In this episode, I sit down with financial planner Frank Iozzo to talk about the real impact of college debt, tuition costs, and student loans on families. We cover the emotional pressure parents feel, why saying "no" to overextending can protect your future, and the alternatives like scholarships, trade school, and community college that open up freedom instead of years of debt. Frank shares how, at just 17, he chose not to follow the herd into traditional student loans, a decision that shaped his entire life and career. Together we explore how the student loan system (federal vs private) really works, why parents often sacrifice retirement savings for tuition, and how that choice can ripple out for decades. This conversation isn't just about money, it's about values, freedom, and creating the life you want without being anchored by debt. What You'll Hear in This Episode -  The emotional triggers that push parents into debt for their kids' education -  Why saying no to overspending is really a yes to stability and freedom -  How the student loan system is set up and why it's stacked against families -  The long-term impact of student loans on life choices like family, marriage, and home ownership -  Alternatives to college debt - scholarships, trade schools, apprenticeships, community college -  How to align money decisions with your values and future goals Links & Resources Connect with Frank Iozzo  Follow Frank Iozzo on LinkedIn Check out Frank's Website Come say hi to me on Instagram or LinkedIn Don't miss future episodes — hit Follow and leave a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review!

Tired of constant arguments, emotional drama, or feeling misunderstood at work or at home? This episode breaks down how your need to be right could be silently wrecking your relationships - and what to do instead. If you're ready to stop reacting, start connecting, and finally protect your peace, this is the episode you don't want to miss. We all know the feeling, that pull to double down, prove a point, win the argument. Whether it's with your partner, your boss, your kids, or that heated comment thread online, the need to be right can take over. But here's the truth: trying to "win" often leads to defensiveness, broken trust, and connection loss, exactly the opposite of what we actually want. In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful mindset shift (and a simple language swap) that can help you interrupt old patterns, communicate more clearly, and stay grounded, even in the heat of the moment. What we're diving into: -  How the need to be right fuels drama, drains energy, and breaks trust -  Why "why" questions often lead to defensiveness (and what to ask instead) -  A real-life shift that helped one of my clients skyrocket their sales -  How parenting from control raises compliance - not confidence -  The subtle ways emotional manipulation shows up in conversations -  A simple, real-time reset to shift from chaos to calm -  Why awareness is the first step to emotional transformation Whether you're navigating tricky conversations at home, at work, or online, this episode will help you pause, get curious, and respond in a way that builds trust instead of tension. You'll walk away with practical tools to help you communicate more effectively, and protect your peace while you're at it.  Tune in and ask yourself: Is this about connection… or is this about control?   Resources & Links Mentioned: Your Anytime Reset Tool – Your real-time guide to choosing calm over chaos Make sure you're on my newsletter for more tools and insights

I share how my comfort zone turned into stagnancy, the boundary that set me free, and the small steps that brought curiosity and growth back ________ My mornings all looked the same. The book. The coffee. The cosy spot on the porch I love. It was peaceful. Restorative. Safe. But somewhere between "just one more chapter" and deciding not to make that trip into the city… my life was starting to feel smaller. In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I share how I realised my comfort zone had quietly turned into stagnancy, and the moment I saw that what I thought was self-care was actually self-sabotage. From skipping plans with a new friend to telling myself the weather was a reason to stay home, I unpack the real emotions behind my choices and the fear I didn't want to admit. I'll walk you through my Trigger, Pause, Respond method, the one boundary that changed everything, and why small, consistent steps are the key to lasting change. If you've ever looked up and thought, "When did I stop saying yes to life?", this episode will help you find your way back to curiosity, connection, and growth. What You'll Hear in This Episode - How comfort can quietly become avoidance - The sneaky ways self-sabotage can disguise itself as self-care - Why your brain loves the familiar (even when it's not making you happy) - The one boundary with yourself that creates the most freedom - How to use small, repeatable actions to build real momentum Resources  Free Press Pause Guide – My simple framework for stopping autopilot reactions and making intentional choices.  Share this episode with a friend who's been playing it safe for too long, they might need this nudge.

Does your life look perfect on paper but feel totally wrong in your gut? This episode is your sign to stop ignoring that inner voice. If you're stuck in a "successful" life that leaves you exhausted, resentful, or hollow, especially on Sunday nights, this conversation is going to speak directly to you. In this honest & real episode, I'm joined by Josephine Wanner, a former corporate executive who had it all on paper, and felt miserable underneath. From corporate burnout to a cancer diagnosis that forced her to slow down and reevaluate everything, Josephine shares how she broke free from her golden cage and rebuilt a life that actually feels like her own. We dig into the real questions people are afraid to ask: - How do you know when your job is draining your soul, even if it pays well? - What's the cost of staying silent to "keep the peace"? - How Sunday night dread is trying to get your attention - What to do when resentment builds in your relationships and work - How to break out of people-pleasing and put yourself first (without guilt) - What it really takes to walk away from a career that doesn't fit anymore - Why waiting for "someday" to start your life is a trap, and what to do instead - How to reconnect with your joy using the "fun-tastic list" method If you're feeling stuck, burnt out, or secretly dreaming of something more, this episode is packed with stories and insights that will help you take the next brave step. You're not alone, and you don't have to stay in the version of success that's slowly stealing your spark. Resources mentioned: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Related episodes: Episode 22 & 23 on silence, resentment & self-abandonment Connect with Josephine Wanner - LinkedIn / Josephine's Website Check out Josephine's FREE Resources Don't forget to complete your FUNLIST 

I used to live in constant reaction mode, rage, tears, silence and it was exhausting. But learning to pause, reflect, and respond instead of react changed everything. My parenting, my relationships, my peace of mind. In this episode, I'm sharing the raw truth of how I did it, so you can too. If you're stuck in old emotional habits, feeling triggered all the time, or just sick of bottling things up until you explode, I want you to hear this one. This is a deeply personal episode where I walk you through exactly how habit change coaching helped me reclaim my calm, my confidence, and my connection, with others and, more importantly, with myself. Here's what I share with you in this episode: Why emotional reactions kept me trapped, and how I finally broke free How noticing my triggers helped me step away from toxic dynamics The truth about habit change (spoiler: it's not 21 days, and that's a good thing) The shift from judgment to curiosity that transformed my communication How I stopped trying to "fix" everything and started really listening What the "messy middle" of growth taught me, and why it's so powerful The one question I now ask before I speak or act in heated moments Why the hardest patterns to break are often the ones we pass down This episode is for anyone who's tired of feeling stuck, who's been waiting for things to get easier, and who's finally ready to get off the fence and take action. You don't need to be perfect, you just need to start. And I'll walk right alongside you. Resources mentioned in this episode: Grab your FREE Press Pause Guide  Your Anytime Reset Let this be your reminder: You're not behind. You're just getting started. And everything you need to create real change is already inside you.

Summer chaos derailing your peace? Discover 5 simple ways to reclaim calm, even if your routine's gone out the window. If the long sunny days are leaving you more frazzled than free, you're not alone. In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, we're tackling the very real emotional cost of summer disruption, and how to press pause and reset when everything feels like it's swirling. Summer is marketed as a time to unwind, but for many, it's a perfect storm of thrown-off schedules, endless social obligations, and creeping burnout. If you're saying yes to everything (and everyone) but feeling more drained by the day, this one's for you. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why summer often triggers stress, overwhelm, and emotional reactivity - How disrupted routines sabotage your calm, and how to take back control - Real coaching stories from clients navigating summer stress (meet Frank and Kathy!) - The #1 question to stop the cycle of people-pleasing and overspending - Five grounded, actionable strategies to stay calm and connected (without a 50-step plan) - Why boundaries aren't selfish, they're the key to protecting your peace - A powerful self-reflective question to guide your next step Whether your kids are home 24/7, your sleep is all over the place, or you just can't seem to catch your breath, this episode offers doable steps to help you say yes to yourself and create a summer that supports your mental and emotional wellbeing. Tune in now to trade chaos for calm, reclaim your routines, and show up as the version of you that feels grounded, present, and in charge. Resources mentioned: Want 5 more tips to stay calm this summer, join my newsletter where I share these and so many more tips everyweek - CLICK HERE Grab your FREE Press Pause Guide 

Discover how Chris Hennessey transformed grief, addiction, and incarceration into a mission-driven nonprofit. If you've ever struggled with addiction, loss, or feeling stuck, and wondered if a meaningful life on the other side is possible, this episode is your lifeline. Struggling with loss, addiction, or feeling powerless? This episode unpacks Chris's journey from spiraling into meth addiction and prison, through rediscovering purpose in faith and deepening self-awareness, to launching The Raven Is Here, a nonprofit meeting people right where they are and changing futures. In this episode, you'll hear how Chris: Grew up as the strictest-raised sibling among seven, leaving home at 19 and encountering newfound freedom that spiraled into substance abuse. Fell into a destructive cycle of meth and cocaine use that led to legal trouble, probation, and eight years in prison. Found a crucial shift during incarceration, experiencing the love of God personally through worship, and rebuilt his identity beyond addiction. Witnessed the devastating impact of fentanyl firsthand when he lost his brother in March 2024, and how that loss ignited his purpose. Co-founded The Raven Is HERE, a grassroots nonprofit inspired in part by We Fight Monsters in Memphis, focused on meeting people's needs in the streets, in the moment, with compassion and practical help. Built programs and housing using a relationship-first, bottom-up model, supporting people exactly where they are rather than imposing systems on them. Adopted a simple yet profound action step: do something, take your time and energy out of your bubble and give it to a cause that matters to you, no matter how small. Why listen to this episode? If you've ever felt stuck in guilt, regret, or loneliness, Chris's story shows it's possible to rebuild from the ashes, and live a deeply purposeful life. He's brutally honest about his mistakes, but even more so about the healing, growth, and service that came after. This is faith, transformation, and mission lived out loud. Resources  Connect with Chris:  Facebook, TikTok The Raven Is HERE: Facebook, LinkedIn, The Raven is HERE website Thanks for tuning in, and remember: you don't have to walk through this alone. Let Chris's journey remind you that a messy past doesn't define your future. And if you feel moved, just do something, volunteer, reach out, take one small action that breaks you out of your comfort zone to help someone else.  

Are you holding yourself back in your relationship to keep the peace? This week on Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, we're diving deep into the surprising ways couples self-sabotage, not out of malice or lack of love, but out of fear. Fear of growing apart, fear of leaving someone behind, fear of rocking the boat. And guess what? It's way more common than you think. I'm Jenny Maxwell, and in this episode, I'm talking about how your nervous system is working overtime to protect love, belonging, and connection, even if it means holding you back from the growth you deeply want. You'll hear exactly how people-pleasing, micromanagement, and quiet self-sabotage sneak into relationships disguised as "compromise" and how we can start shifting those patterns today. Here's what we're unpacking together: The real emotional root of self-sabotage in relationships (hint: it's not laziness or lack of willpower) How fear of disconnection drives habits like over-accommodating, shrinking, or playing small Everyday examples across money, health, alcohol, and boundaries that will have you saying, "Oh wow, that's me" How self-protection can quietly erode intimacy, even when your intentions are good A step-by-step reset plan to shift these patterns gently, starting with naming what's happening This one is close to my heart, because the truth is, many of us think we're compromising when we're actually self-abandoning. But there is a better way. You can grow and stay connected. You can honor your needs without losing the people you love. This episode shows you how. Let's reset together. Resources mentioned: Free Pause + Reset Guide: How to move from trigger → pause → respond

Are you shrinking to keep the peace? Let's talk about how silence teaches people how to treat us, and what we can do to change that.  In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told on the podcast. It's about a time I avoided conflict to stay likeable, and what that choice ended up teaching my kids about boundaries, self-worth, and staying silent. We're talking about what really happens when we don't speak up, not just in the moment, but in the long-term patterns we create, especially in our families. I'll walk you through how I processed a recent emotional trigger that took me right back to that old pattern, and how I used the tools I now teach to move through it with calm and clarity. In this episode, I share: - How we unintentionally teach others our boundaries, by either reinforcing or abandoning them - Why people-pleasing often shows up as parenting habits and peacekeeping behaviours - What happens in the nervous system when we freeze or shut down - The unspoken messages we send our kids when we stay quiet - My own moment of reckoning and how I handled an unexpected trigger - My favourite 5-5-7 breathing technique to calm your nervous system in real time - One small, doable action step to start resetting those old habits today This episode is about reclaiming your voice and your peace. If you've ever second-guessed yourself to avoid rocking the boat, or stayed silent to protect someone else's comfort, this conversation will remind you that your feelings matter. And more importantly, that it's never too late to change the story. Resources I mentioned: Press Pause: A Simple Reset for People Pleasers – Free Guide

Feeling stuck and calling it lazy? It's not. Learn why procrastination is really self-protection, and how to break the cycle with one small step. If your to-do list leaves you frozen and you find yourself cleaning toilets instead of taking action, this episode will shift your perspective on procrastination forever. In this week's episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, we're digging deep into the emotional weight behind avoidance. We'll explore why your brain resists action, even on things you say you want, and how to shift from self-sabotage to self-support. This isn't about "just do it." It's about learning how to lead yourself, one tiny, safe step at a time. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: The real reason you procrastinate (spoiler: it's not laziness) How fear masquerades as logic, and keeps you stuck Why motivation isn't the starting point, but the result of movement Simple tools to interrupt avoidance and build momentum How to use anchors like sticky notes, breathwork, or physical objects to stay grounded Why perfectionism isn't helping, and how to reframe your "what ifs" The emotional cost of the all-or-nothing mindset and how to shift it This episode is your permission slip to pause the self-judgment and start showing up for yourself in a new way. You'll walk away with practical strategies to interrupt procrastination, reset your nervous system, and take real, doable steps forward, no motivation required. Resources & Mentions: Your Anytime Reset – 30 self-coaching prompts to help you get unstuck  Press Pause  Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen If something in this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs it

Thinking about quitting your job, but scared of what's next? This episode is your permission slip to trust your gut and pivot toward purpose. This week, I'm talking to Lisa Foydell, a former finance executive who walked away from a six-figure corporate career to raise her kids, and later stepped into the nonprofit world, completely redefining what success looks like. Whether you're facing burnout, stuck in a job that drains you, or wondering if it's too late to change paths, this episode will show you what's possible when you stop ignoring your intuition. In this episode, we explore: How to change careers after motherhood (even with a 12-year gap) The surprising emotional toll of "looking successful" but feeling lost Why trusting your gut is smarter than having a perfect plan The hidden cost of people-pleasing, burnout, and micromanagement What nonprofit work teaches us about empathy, ego, and real leadership Why so many people stay silent when they desperately need help, and how to break the shame spiral How to communicate without guilt, ask for support, and lead with compassion Whether you're navigating a career change, craving a deeper sense of purpose, or learning to put yourself back on the priority list, this conversation will inspire you to stop waiting and start listening to what your gut already knows. Resources & Links: Tri City Health Partnership / Resources Insatgram @TriCityHealthPartnership Donate:  https://tri-city-health-partnership.givecloud.co/fundraising/forms/VZD2MNER The Gut Check Pause The Anytime Reset – 30 prompts to reset your energy

Stop Saying "I'm Fine", Here's What Silence Is Really Costing You If you've ever swallowed your feelings to avoid conflict, only to feel drained, resentful, or disconnected later… this episode is your permission to stop. Learn how to tell the truth, without blowing up, shutting down, or feeling guilty for needing space. Don't miss the free Gut Check Pause tool, which will be sent straight to your inbox with my next newsletter, this Gut Check is your first step to calm, clear mornings and emotionally honest days: Sign up Now In this episode of Who Do You Think You Are Talking To, I open up about what it looked like in my life to bottle things up. I break down how that silence affects every part of your life, from your energy to your relationships and what it takes to change the pattern. Whether you're the one shutting down or you're loving someone who is, you'll walk away with tools to show up differently. Here's what I cover in this episode: How people-pleasing and emotional suppression lead to burnout The sneaky ways resentment shows up when we don't speak our truth Why rushing through your morning puts you straight into survival mode The ripple effect silence has on your relationships and health My simple 3-question Gut Check Pause to check in with yourself before reacting Real stories from clients who stopped spiraling and started setting boundaries How to lead with intention, so others can follow your calm This episode is a call to stop pretending and start reconnecting, with yourself first. You don't need permission to take up space or say how you really feel. Just a place to start. This is it. Mentioned in this episode: The Gut Check Pause The Anytime Reset – 30 prompts to reset your energy Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you listen If something in this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs it

Have you looked in the mirror lately and thought, "What happened to me?" You're not alone, and you're not broken. In this episode, I'm sharing how to meet those tough body image moments with compassion instead of shame. This one's personal. I'm taking you inside one of those dressing room moments, the kind where your body feels unfamiliar and your mind goes into overdrive. I got stuck in a dress (literally), but what happened next was a deeper emotional spiral I know many of you will relate to. But instead of letting my inner critic run the show, I used what I teach in my coaching: pause, notice, and respond with love. If your body's changed, if aging is stirring up old stories, if you're navigating identity shifts—this episode is here to help you feel seen, supported, and stronger. In This Episode, I Talk About: The real story behind that dressing room breakdown How aging, identity, and grief often show up in our body image Why minimizing your pain doesn't help (and what you can do instead) How to be there for someone else without rushing to fix it A simple, beautiful mirror practice you can start today Want My Self-Love Checklist? Each week, I send out a free coaching email, and this week, it comes with your Self-Love Checklist: gentle, supportive tools to help you shift your self-talk.  Sign up here Looking for Deeper Emotional Support? If you're ready to take it further, I've created Your Anytime Reset, 30 comforting prompts you can turn to any time your emotions feel heavy. It's like a warm hug in your inbox.  Your Anytime Reset Love This Episode? If this resonated with you, I'd be so grateful if you shared it with a friend or left a quick review. Your words help more women find this space, and feel less alone.

Are You Letting Money Fears Drive Your Decisions? Here's How to Shift from Scarcity to Empowerment If money stress keeps you up at night, you are not alone, and this episode is for you. Financial decisions driven by fear, guilt, or shame often lead us further from the peace and security we crave. Today, I'm joined by seasoned financial planner Frank Iozzo, who shares how to rewrite your money story with clarity, empathy, and strategy, no matter where you're starting from. Frank grew up with financial instability, but instead of repeating the cycle, he made it his mission to create lasting stability for his family and for hundreds of clients. In this powerful conversation, we unpack the emotional roots of money decisions and explore what it really means to take control of your financial future - without judgment, shame, or overwhelm. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: How childhood experiences shape your relationship with money Why financial anxiety leads to avoidance, and what to do instead The truth about "not having enough" (even millionaires say it!) What makes a financial advisor truly trustworthy (and red flags to watch for) How to handle emotional spending and scarcity mindsets Why a basic spending review might be the most powerful thing you do today The difference between a goal and a plan, and how to build a future that reflects your values If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone in your life who could use a mindset shift around money. I've also created a free downloadable guide to help you take control of your finances starting today. The link is in the show notes—just my way of saying thank you for spreading the word. Resources and links: Follow Frank Iozzo on LinkedIn Check out Frank's Website Download your free guide to take control of your money   Let's trade that scarcity mindset for one of abundance and possibility. Until next time, my friend, have a good one and thanks for listening.

Micromanaging or People Pleasing? Why You Might Be Doing Both (and How to Stop) If you're constantly swinging between taking control and keeping the peace, this episode is your wake-up call. Discover why micromanaging and people pleasing often show up together—and how to break free from both without guilt or burnout. So many high-functioning, heart-led people don't realise their overwhelm comes from trying to do too much and keep everyone happy. In this episode, Jenny breaks down the real reason behind these habits and shares a simple shift that helps you respond with confidence instead of reacting out of fear. In this episode, we'll cover: The hidden fear that fuels both micromanaging and people pleasing Why controlling everything doesn't create calm - it creates chaos How people pleasing is actually a form of covert control The personal and professional cost of overfunctioning for others The simple mindset shift that helps you say "no" without guilt Real-life examples that will have you nodding along (and maybe cringing too) One small habit to help you pause before you overcommit or overcorrect If you've ever thought, "If I don't do it, it won't get done," or caught yourself saying yes when you really meant no, this episode is here to help you shift the pattern. You'll walk away with a new perspective, a powerful question to ask yourself, and a tiny but mighty tool that puts you back in the driver's seat of your own life. Resources mentioned: Free Video Guide #1: Press Pause - A Simple Reset for People Pleasers  Free Video Guide #2: Break Free from the Need To Control  Both come with access to Jenny's weekly newsletter packed with practical tools and free coaching straight to your inbox. Join my community for free coaching every Sunday: Click here to sign up