Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert

So… let’s talk about toys.For a lot of Christian couples, this conversation comes with immediate tension:Is this okay? Is this sinful? Are we crossing a line?In this episode, I break it all the way down—without shame, fear tactics, or vague “just pray about it” answers.We’re diving into:What the Bible actually says (and doesn’t say) about bringing outside tools into your intimate lifeWhy drawing a hard line at toys—but not things like pillows or position aids—might not be as consistent as we thinkHow resistance to toys can unintentionally exclude or shame people with physical limitations (yes, we’re talking about ableism)The different categories of toys and what purpose they actually serveAnd how to approach this conversation with your spouse in a way that builds trust, not pressureIf you’ve ever wondered whether curiosity in the bedroom is something to fear—or something to explore with wisdom and connection—this episode is for you.Because healthy, connected marriages aren’t built on rules rooted in discomfort…they’re built on intimacy, communication, and mutual enjoyment.Go Have Good Sex. 💜If you are looking for a Christian-eyes friendly place to browse toy options, check out my website partner, Romantic Blessings. They are a Christian owned sex toy website. Which means you will never see any nudity on their site, and can browse your options in a faith friendly environment! Use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchase!As referenced in this episode:Join my Patreon - where I post all about different toys all the time!MYHIXEL Control(aff link)Use code thechristiansexpert10 for 10% off your purchase!Book a coaching sessionTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

You think she doesn’t want sex.But what if that’s not actually the problem?In this episode, we’re unpacking what I really mean when I say, “Healthy women, in safe marriages, don’t turn down good sex.” Because “healthy” is doing a lot more work in that sentence than most people realize.We’re talking about the real, often ignored factors that impact desire—mental health, trauma (including purity culture), hormones, physical health, medications, nutrition, and even where she is in her cycle.If desire feels inconsistent, confusing, or completely gone, this episode will help you understand why.Because low libido is often not the root issue—it’s a signal.✨✨✨If you would like to learn more about reconnecting to your body, please join my Patreon. I have a whole series on different ways to reconnect - because a woman well-connected to her own body has better sex!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.”They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her.So why doesn’t she want sex?In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety.Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t going to show up… no matter how “good” her husband is.We’ll talk about:Why safety directly impacts desireSigns a marriage might not feel as safe as it looksAnd how to start creating an environment where intimacy can actually thriveIf you’ve ever wondered why the spark feels gone—or why sex feels like a struggle—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.Because you don’t fix desire by forcing it.You build a marriage where desire feels safe to exist.And as always… go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Marital Coercion ft Nat LaJune31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionSex Drive Divide MasterclassTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will.And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values.In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture.We’re covering the real-life situations parents are facing right now—like how to talk about porn, what to do if your child is exposed before you’re ready, how to approach masturbation and sexting, and how to set boundaries around phones and privacy.We also tackle the questions so many Christian parents are asking but don’t know where to start:Does talking about sex make kids more curious?What if I didn’t start these conversations early?How do I talk about porn, sextortion, and more?This episode will help you move from avoidance and anxiety to confidence and clarity—so you can guide your kids toward a healthy, shame-free understanding of sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Get lifetime access to the Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum here(aff link)Raising Sexually Healthy Kids ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTalking to Your Kids About Sex ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage?In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected:That sex is only for procreationThat having more sex will magically fix your marriageThat struggling with sex means something is fundamentally brokenThese beliefs sound spiritual on the surface—but in real marriages, they often lead to pressure, disappointment, and silence.In this episode, we’re unpacking what Scripture actually supports, what healthy intimacy really looks like, and why good sex is built on more than just frequency.Because sex was never meant to be a duty, a quick fix, or a measuring stick for your marriage.It was meant to be a celebration of the intimacy you’ve already built.If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in this area—or just confused about what’s “normal”—this conversation is going to bring clarity, freedom, and a whole lot of truth.Things referenced in this episode:31 Days of IntimacyTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life.What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure.In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of intimacy and infertility.We cover:How infertility changes the emotional and physical experience of sexWhy desire often drops (for both spouses) during this seasonThe grief, pressure, and performance anxiety couples don’t talk aboutHow to reconnect with your spouse when sex starts to feel clinicalIf you’ve ever felt like your sex life disappeared into ovulation tracking, doctor’s appointments, and disappointment… you are not alone.There is a way to stay connected—even here.Connect with Kimberly:WebsiteTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true?For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it.But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart.In this episode I'm breaking down 3 of the most common myths and why they are causing harm.You’ll learn:Why the “men are more visual” narrative isn’t supported by researchWhether God actually created men to need sex every 3 daysWhy the Bible paints a very different picture of women’s sexual desireBecause good theology shouldn't lead to bad sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Neural substrates of sexual arousal are not sex dependent by Ekaterina Mitricheva, Rui Kimura, Nikos K. Logothetis, & Hamid R. NooriTo learn more about the 1 Samuel 21 passageIntimate Conversations JournalTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Role play isn’t about pretending you’re someone else—it’s about giving your marriage permission to explore, play, and reconnect.In this episode, I explore why role play can be a powerful tool for married couples. From flirty scenarios to power dynamics like doctor/patient, role play allows couples to safely explore curiosity, communication, and desire inside the safety of marriage.As adults, we were never meant to outgrow play. When we create space for playful exploration in our marriage, we are opening ourselves to powerful discoveries about ourselves and our spouses at the same time. Play allows us to explore consent, fantasy, and emotional needs we may not otherwise have language for.If you’ve ever thought role play sounded awkward, embarrassing, or “too spicy,” this episode might just change your mind.Because sometimes playing pretend is exactly what your marriage needs.

When it comes to sex, there's a lot of talk about "spicing things up." But what if you don't need another date night, a weekend away, a new toy, or more lingerie?What if all you need is more play?In this episode we are diving deep into the sort of ideas that originally made me go viral: Simple, accessible ways to turn your bedroom into the playground of your marriage.These aren’t gimmicks.They’re intentional, creative, connection-building ways to engage with your spouse that:Lower performance pressureIncrease laughterBuild anticipationReduce awkwardnessCreate novelty without requiring purchasesIf your intimacy has started to feel predictable…If one of you carries the mental load of initiation…If sex has become a checklist item instead of a celebration…This episode will give you practical ways to shift the dynamic.So you can go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Spinner Board(aff link)Twister(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

We’ve been told that date night is the cure for everything.Disconnected? Date night.Not having sex? Date night.Feeling like roommates? Definitely date night.But what if date night isn’t the problem - and was never the solution?In this episode we're going to talk about why a once a month night out isn't intimacy - it's performance, and performance doesn't build connection and never builds safety.I break down:Why scheduled romance can actually increase pressureHow “checking the box” slowly erodes real connectionThe difference between shared experiences and actual intimacyWhy sex doesn’t flow naturally from forced funWhat to build instead if you want a marriage that feels aliveIntimacy is not built in restaurants.It’s built in everyday interactions, emotional safety, shared play, honest communication, and the kind of connection that doesn’t turn on and off with a reservation time.If you’ve been doing date night faithfully but still feel disconnected, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.Maybe it’s time to ditch date night — and build something better.Resources referenced in this episode:The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When did your marriage start feeling like a to-do list?Laundry. Logistics. Parenting. Work. Bills. Repeat. (And WHY do these people need to eat every single day!?)Somewhere along the way, creativity quietly packed its bags — and without it, intimacy starts to feel like just another obligation.In this episode, we’re talking about why creativity isn’t childish… it’s foundational. We unpack how couples drift into “roommate mode,” why creativity and recreation are essential types of intimacy, and how laughter, flirting, and shared fun actually protect your sex life.Because here’s the truth:If your marriage feels like work, your bedroom eventually will too.You’ll walk away with practical ways to reintroduce creativity — even if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected.Marriage isn’t meant to be managed.It’s meant to be enjoyed.Go have good sex.✨✨✨Resources for the episode:Andrea Nelson Art
Conversation Cards(aff link)As a side note - if you also hate meal planning, try out Plan to Eat. I use this for our family and LOVE IT. (aff link)Fair Play Book(aff link)Fair Play Cards(aff link)Fair Play episodeVisual Timer(aff link)Don’t Get Got(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one partner perceives the other as using social or interactive media to escape, relationship satisfaction drops by more than 22%.This episode isn’t about demonizing phones or shaming habits. It’s about perception, meaning-making, and emotional presence—and why couples often fight about time when the real issue is disconnection.We discuss:What escapism actually is and how it shows up in modern marriagesWhy perception matters more than minutes spent scrollingHow social media and other forms of escapism impact intimacy and conflictWhy men and women often experience and report relationship satisfaction differentlyHow mental load, emotional labor, and “pphubbing” fuel resentmentPractical ways couples can replace the scroll with real connectionIf you’ve ever felt ignored, deprioritized, or like your spouse is emotionally somewhere else—even when they’re right next to you—this episode will help you name what’s happening and start repairing connection without blame or shame.Because presence isn’t about being in the same room.It’s about being with each other.Resources from this episode:Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari1+1=3, You, Me, & Our Relationship by Nicole Lee1+1=3, You, My, & Our Sex Life by Nicole Lee31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo connect with Nicole:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Talking about sex shouldn't feel scarier than the act itself - but for many couples, it does.In this solo episode, I explore why sexual communication feels so difficult for so many married couples, especially those shaped by silence, shame, or “don’t ask, don’t tell” messages around intimacy. If you love your spouse but freeze, fight, or shut down when sex comes up, this episode is for you.You’ll learn why avoiding these conversations doesn’t protect your relationship, how emotional safety impacts desire, and where to start if you’ve never talked about sex before—without pressure or overwhelm.This episode is especially for couples who want deeper connection but don’t know how to begin the conversation.Resources for this episode:She Deserves Better, by Sheila Wray GregoireIntimate ConversationsCoaching with Angela, The Christian SexpertTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When a woman consistently avoids sex in marriage, she is accused of rebellion, sin, manipulation, or blamed for all manner of things.In this episode, I unpack one of the foundations of my work: Healthy women, in safe marriages, don't turn down good sex for no reason. Rather than placing blame, or spiritualizing obligation, let's frame sex avoidance as what it really is: Information. Your body is offering you data about safety, pleasure, pressure, and connection.Let's talk about what "healthy" actually means, why safety is so much more than "he doesn't hit me," and how unwanted or not pleasurable sex will eventually destroy a libido. I'm all about challenging lazy theology, entitlement disguised as reverent faith, and inviting couples to replace pressure with curiosity.If you've ever lamented the disappearance your desire, or felt ashamed for a body that never experienced sex the way it was "supposed to" - this episode is for you.Because the goal of marriage isn't sex at any cost.It is intimacy that invites sex worth wanting.Resources to go along with this episode:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)Intimate Conversations, a sex journal by The Christian SexpertTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When your hormones shift, it’s easy to feel like your body is betraying you—but what if God designed midlife as an invitation, not a punishment?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tanya Paynter, a Naturopathic Doctor and founder of Psalm Medical, who blends faith and functional medicine to help women experience true whole-person healing. Together, we’re unpacking how menopause and perimenopause affect your hormones, energy, and desire—and how spiritual practices can help restore balance in every part of your being.We talk about:The spiritual roots of stress and their impact on hormones and libidoWhy faith and medicine aren’t at odds—they’re meant to work togetherThe physiological power of Sabbath rest, prayer, and forgivenessHow to discern when your symptoms are hormonal vs. emotional or spiritualSimple, faith-rooted steps to start feeling more connected to your body—and your spouse—againIf you’ve been wondering why your drive has changed, why you’re tired all the time, or how to reconnect with both your body and your faith in this new season, this conversation will help you see midlife as a moment of divine restoration, not decline.To connect with Dr. Paynter:WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTubePodcastTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Have you ever felt emotionally attached to someone you weren’t actually in a relationship with? Or caught yourself romanticizing a past connection—while feeling dissatisfied in your current one?In this episode, Angela sits down with journalist and author Amanda McCracken to talk about limerence—an intense state of longing that can masquerade as love, but often thrives on fantasy, distance, and emotional safety rather than real intimacy.As part of her research for When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda revisited old letters and memorabilia from past relationships and noticed how nostalgia reignited emotional attachment—even showing up in her dreams. Together, Angela and Amanda explore how longing for the past, parasocial relationships, and modern romantic fantasy can quietly undermine present-day connection, including marriage.This conversation is not about shame or fear—it’s about awareness, naming what’s happening in our inner worlds, and choosing presence over fantasy.In this episode, we discuss:What limerence is—and how it differs from love, attraction, or commitmentHow nostalgia rewrites the past and fuels dissatisfaction in the presentThe rise of BookTok, romantasy, and parasocial relationshipsWhy fantasy relationships require no vulnerability or accountabilityHow limerence can exist inside marriage—even “good” marriagesHow Purity Culture contributed to longing & limerencePractical ways to disrupt limerence without shaming yourselfIf this episode feels uncomfortable or hits close to home, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It may simply mean something important is being named for the first time.Gentle note to listeners:If this episode feels uncomfortable or hits close to home, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It may simply mean something important is being named for the first time.About our guestAmanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist and the author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover. Her work explores limerence, longing, dating culture, and emotional vulnerability in a world shaped by fantasy and avoidance. You can learn more about Amanda and her book in the links below.Want more support?If you’re noticing unexplained dissatisfaction in your marriage or struggling to stay present in your relationship, Angela offers coaching and tools designed to help couples build real, sustainable intimacy—emotional, spiritual, and sexual.Resources & Links:When Longing Becomes Your Lover by Amanda McCrackenLove and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy TennovSmitten, by Dr. Tom BellamyAmanda's WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

In this season finale of Go Have Good Sex, Angela sits down with Erin Pritchard for a powerful conversation on the Fair Play method, the mental load, and how emotional labor shapes the health—and heat—of a marriage.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the invisible weight of planning, remembering, and managing everything, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on. Erin breaks down what true partnership looks like, why “helping out” isn’t the same as sharing the load, and how redistributing responsibilities creates more peace, connection, and yes… better intimacy.We also tackle the pushback Christian women often hear:“That’s just secular thinking wrapped in Christian language.”(Spoiler: wanting a fair, balanced marriage is both biblical and beautiful.)As we close out Season 1, thank you for being part of these honest, healing, and sometimes spicy conversations. Get ready—Season 2 drops January 2026, and we’re coming back with even more truth, humor, and tools to help you build a marriage full of connection, joy, and good sex.Until then… Go Have Good Sex.To connect with Erin:WebsiteInstagramFacebookMentioned in the episode:Fair Play BookFair Play DeckSecular Thinking Video from AngelaThe Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Allison BarrThe Bible vs Biblical Womanhood by Philip Barton PayneTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Genesis 2:24 tells us, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”But somewhere along the way, a lot of parents—and even some churches—forgot that verse applies after the wedding too.The holidays can magnify the tension between wanting to honor your family and needing to protect your peace. From unspoken expectations to guilt trips about where you spend Christmas morning, too many Christian couples find themselves fighting each other instead of standing together.In this episode, Angela (The Christian Sexpert) is joined by Ashley Odom Rodrigues, a licensed therapist, certified sex therapist, and PhD student studying generational resiliency in women’s intimate lives. They unpack the difference between boundaries and ultimatums, how to practically set boundaries as a united couple, and what to do when your parents get mad.Because loving your family doesn’t mean letting them run your marriage—and peace is holy, too.To connect with Ashley:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokAs mentioned in the episode:Calling HomeTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What happens when you’re the one who wants sex more—and your husband doesn’t?In this powerful, faith-filled conversation, Angela (The Christian Sexpert) sits down with Alanna Roberts, founder of Boudoir by Raw, a faith-based boudoir photography brand helping women reconnect with their God-given identity. Together, they unpack what it means to be a high-drive wife—and how to navigate desire differences, rejection, and chronic pain with honesty, grace, and creativity.Alanna shares what she’s learned as a wife and minister married to someone who also lives with chronic pain—how their intimacy has evolved, and how creativity became their key to connection. The two talk openly about why sexual rejection can feel so personal, how to reframe it, and why desire is not something to hide or be ashamed of.If you’ve ever struggled with mismatched drives or felt unseen in your desire, this conversation will remind you: your sexuality isn’t too much—it’s part of how God designed you for connection.And if you and your spouse are navigating differences in drive, health, or physical ability, Angela offers 1:1 coaching to help couples build a sex life that honors both of your needs—without pressure, shame, or guilt.Because healthy people in safe marriages don’t turn down good sex—they learn to make it work for both of them.He’s not broken. You’re not too much. There’s room for both of you in grace.To connect with AlannaWebsiteTikTokInstagramFacebookThings mentioned in the episode:🍆 Romantic Blessings - Shop for spicy toys and accessories in a completely nudity free, Christian based environment. Use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchase.🍑 Intimate Conversations - a guided sex journal to help you go deeper in your sexual and non-sexual intimacy*The Bible version used in this episode was ESVTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Purity culture doesn’t just shape how we see sex—it shapes how we see ourselves as women, wives, and mothers.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ashley Hudson, therapist, coach, and founder of Pearl in Process, to talk about how “good girl theology” follows women long after the wedding night. Together we unpack how purity culture influences pregnancy, birth, and postpartum—the moments when women are most vulnerable and most in need of grace.With warmth, humor, and clinical insight, Dr. Ashley helps us explore:💔 Why Christian women often feel guilt or shame after giving birth🧠 How spiritual beliefs impact body trust and postpartum recovery💪 What true healing looks like when faith and freedom finally meetIf you’ve ever felt pressure to be the “perfect Christian mom,” this conversation will help you breathe again.Trigger warning for topics of purity culture & abuse.To connect with Dr. Ashley:WebsiteInstagramFacebookTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

For too many Christian couples, “sex as a duty” has been taught as holy—but neuroscience tells a different story. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Karianne Bilsky, a licensed psychologist and trauma specialist, to unpack how obligation-based sex affects the brain, nervous system, and long-term intimacy.Together they explore how coercive teachings—like “you owe your spouse sex”—can trigger stress responses, shut down desire, and rewire the brain away from pleasure and connection. Dr. Bilsky explains how safety, consent, and authentic choice are not only biblical but biologically essential for thriving intimacy.If you’ve ever wondered why “just doing it” doesn’t create closeness, or why your body resists even when your heart wants connection, this episode will help you understand the neurological and spiritual cost of obligation—and how to rebuild intimacy that is chosen, safe, and joyfully mutual.Topics Include:The neuroscience of desire vs. dutyHow religious coercion impacts the nervous systemTrauma-informed approaches to healing sexual disconnectionWhy safety and consent are prerequisites for pleasureMoving from “performing intimacy” to experiencing itAs an added bonus, my Patreon members will receive an additional interview with Dr. Bilsky, where we discuss what female arousal feels like in the body, and how to cultivate it!Here is more information on things mentioned in the episode:Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiRub Me the Right Way: Massage episode ft Maude CarterBetty Martin & the Wheel of ConsentBeyond “Duty Sex”: Betty Martin’s Revolutionary Framework on Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst

When most people hear “human trafficking,” they picture kidnappings, foreign crime rings, and dramatic movie rescues. But the truth is often far more ordinary—and far more heartbreaking.In this episode, I sit down with Kathy Bryan, a passionate advocate and expert on anti-trafficking work and founder of The Genesis Project, to unpack what trafficking actually looks like in America today. Together, they challenge common myths, explore how traffickers exploit vulnerabilities, and reveal why prevention starts with healthy relationships and informed communities.They discuss:How trafficking often happens within families or romantic relationshipsThe myths media has taught us—and the truths survivors live every dayThe emotional, relational, and spiritual toll on victims and advocatesWhat real prevention and long-term support look likeIf you’ve ever wondered what trafficking really is—and what role we each play in ending it—this conversation will open your eyes and your heart.And, obviously, a trigger warning for abuse and related issues.To connect:The Genesis Project WebsiteInstagramFacebookAs mentioned in the episode:Aaron Crowley TikTokAaron Crowley InstagramFight the New DrugVideo from Dr. Ashley HudsonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What happens when we stop debating power in marriage and start sharing it? In this episode of Go Have Good Sex, I sit down with Matthew Lowe, LCPC, to unpack complementarian vs. egalitarian views of marriage—and why research (and lived experience) shows that egalitarian partnerships often lead to deeper intimacy, stronger communication, and more satisfying sex.We’ll explore why hierarchy rarely produces healthy connection, and how couples can move toward partnership instead of power struggles. Whether you’ve been taught that “headship” is biblical (it’s not) or you’ve always leaned toward equality, this conversation will challenge the status quo and give you practical ways to build a marriage marked by teamwork, trust, and passion.Because when you both bring your full selves to the table, your bedroom—and your relationship—are better for it.To connect with Matthew:FacebookInstagramHis book: Seeing the Forest and TreesThings mentioned in the episode:The Marriage You Want, GregoireMating in Captivity, PerelEpisode on domestic labor & mental load with Abby EckelTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Crisis has a way of shaking the foundation of even the strongest marriages. But did you know that intimacy during and after a crisis can actually draw you closer instead of pushing you apart? In this episode, Dr. Audrey Davidheiser, PhD helps us explore crisis intimacy through the lens of grief.Dr. Audrey Davidheiser is a licensed psychologist in California, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, and IFSI-approved clinical consultant. After founding a counseling center for the Los Angeles Dream Center, she now provides IFS therapy for trauma survivors, including those with religious trauma, and assists in IFS trainings. She has been a regular writer for Crosswalk.com and columnist for iBelieve.com. Her book on how IFS helps the grieving process, Grieving Wholeheartedly, was published by InterVarsity Press in July 2025.We’ll talk about how to recognize and nurture connection when everything feels fragile, why the best time to build a crisis intimacy plan is before you’re in the middle of heartache, and how grief can become a doorway to deeper understanding, tenderness, and care for one another. If you and your spouse are navigating loss—or simply want to prepare your marriage for the storms of life—this conversation will help you find hope and closeness when it matters most.Be aware this episode may be triggering to some listeners as we are discussing death, including the death of a child.To connect with Dr. Audrey:InstagramFacebookSubstackWebsiteAs mentioned in the episode:IFS InstituteTo learn more about the different types of intimacy:31 Days of IntimacyTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Resentment can quietly build in marriages when the mental load and domestic labor fall unevenly on one partner. What starts as frustration over unwashed dishes or forgotten tasks often spirals into a cycle of expectation, disappointment, and resentment that erodes intimacy.In this episode, I sit down with educator and advocate Abby Eckel, a former Fair Play facilitator, who helps women dismantle the cultural conditioning that keeps them carrying more than their share. Abby brings her deep understanding of how societal messages shape our beliefs and offers strategies for releasing resentment, setting boundaries, and raising standards in marriage.Together, we unpack the difference between a partner who is simply clueless and one who refuses to care, and we explore what it looks like to reclaim your power, live authentically, and create a partnership that reflects your deepest values.If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or overwhelmed by the weight of doing it all, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone — and that freedom from resentment is possible.As mentioned in the episode:Skylight CalendarMarital Coercion ft. Nat LaJuneTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Turns out, "You need to pray harder," doesn't fix trauma, purity culture guilt, or the effects of those things on a sex life.In this episode, I'm joined by Erin Pritchard, a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, Certified EMDR Therapist, and Certified Fair Play Facilitator. With over a decade of experience helping individuals and couples heal after trauma, Erin walks us through how EMDR therapy can untangle the layers of church hurt, shame, and sexual pain that purity culture left behind.We talk about what EMDR actually looks like in practice, why it’s so powerful for trauma recovery, and how it can restore intimacy, trust, and pleasure in your marriage. If you’ve ever wondered why your body seems to “remember” what your brain wants to forget—or if you’ve carried guilt for not being able to “just get over it”—this conversation is for you.You can connect with Erin on her website or Instagram.✨ Ready to go deeper? Book a coaching session with me or grab my Intimate Conversations journal to start building intimacy one question at a time. And don’t forget—you can join my Patreon for unfiltered education, behind-the-scenes extras, and early access to every podcast episode.Go Have Good Sex. 💜Erin’s recommended book list for Church Hurt & Purity Culture Recovery:Recovering from Purity Culture - Dr. Camden MorganteDr. Laura Anderson – When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control ReligionLinda Kay Klein – Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke FreeSheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky – The Great Sex RescueBeth Allison Barr – The Making of Biblical Womanhood #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing - Emily Joy AllisonThe Bodies Behind the Bus PodcastRedeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church - Diane LangbergUnderstanding Spiritual Abuse: What It Is and How to Respond - Karen RoudkovskiThe Religious Trauma Recovery Podcast Steve Hassan (author)Untangled Faith PodcastTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When you think of porn addiction, chances are you think of men. The Church certainly does. But here’s the truth no one wants to say out loud: women struggle with porn too.In today's episode I sit down with therapist and author Tabitha Westbrook to rip the shame off a topic women have been forced to keep secret. Together, we unpack:✨Why porn addiction in women is rarely discussed (especially in the Church)✨How purity culture fuels silence, shame, and secrecy✨The unique ways porn use impacts women’s intimacy and relationships✨Hope and practical steps for healing, recovery, and real connectionPorn isn’t just a “man’s issue.” It’s a human one—and it’s time to talk about it.To connect with Tabitha:InstagramFacebookClinical Practice WebsiteTabitha's WebsiteBody & Soul, Healed & Whole(aff link)Other things mentioned in this episode:Erotic Communication episode with Brittany Broddaus-SmithCome As You Are(aff link)The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality, Sam Jolman (aff link)You can buy toys discretely from my Amazon Storefront or Romantic Blessings - my website partner. Use code SPERT10 at Romantic Blessings for 10% off your purchase.Raising Sexually Healthy Kids featuring Ashley HudsonTalking to your Kids About Sex featuring Ashley HudsonIntimate ConversationsTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

In this spicy AMA episode, I’m answering your unfiltered questions—nothing off limits. We’re talking:Toys for men (and why your nightstand should have more than just her vibrator)What I actually believe theologically (hint: it’s not what the church aunties think)What purity culture really is—and why it causes harmSelfishness with oral sex (yep, I said it)What to do when your joints pop out mid ✨activity✨ (hypermobility is real, y’all)Whether you’re here to be educated, entertained, or just nosy, I’ve got you. Coaching spots are open—if you want help untangling any of these things in your own marriage, book now!As always, here are links to things mentioned in the episode!My PatreonLovense Edge 2 Prostate MassagerBeisar Prostate Massager & C RingVibrating C Ring - Lovense Diamo Sex Therapy 101 with Dr. Cami Hurst: Untangling Duty Sex with Dr. Tina Schermer SellersFacebook Thread about Purity CultureShe Deserves Better by Sheila Wray GregoireRecovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden MorganteThe Marriage You WantThe Great Sex RescueCome As You Are Biblical Christian Egalitarians Facebook GroupMarg Mowczko’s Facebook PageSong of Solomon 4:11 BookmarkSong of Solomon 4:16 BookmarkBook Coaching with Me!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Today’s episode is tender and powerful - and comes with massive trigger warnings. I’m joined by Shelby Greene—writer, mother of five, and survivor of domestic violence. Her debut book As Ashes Fall blends spoken word poetry with raw personal reflection, offering a gripping and honest look at the journey through abuse and toward healing.We talk candidly about:✨How abuse distorts your perception of reality✨How being a "good Christian" keeps women trapped in abuse✨How God can restore all that the locusts have stolen✨And so much moreShelby is the founder of The Red Collective, a growing survivor-centered community where she’s developing healing journals, digital tools, and future works to honor the journey of rising after ruin.This is a conversation about pain, but also about power. About naming the harm, reclaiming your story, and refusing to be silenced.⚠️ Trigger warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, spiritual abuse, and marital rape.If you are experiencing abuse of any kind, or wonder if you are experiencing abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or text BEGIN to 88788.You can connect with Shelby on her InstagramThe Red Collective InstagramAnd don't forget to get your copy of As Ashes Fall.(aff link)You can also join her Facebook Group for survivors: The Red Collective.To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Does touch in your marriage feel like a landmine? You never know what is going to blow up in your face?In this episode, I sit down with massage therapist and Holy-Spirit-anointed healer Maude Carter to talk about the importance of non-sexual, expectation-free touch in marriage. We explore how our bodies carry trauma, how purity culture distorted even innocent forms of affection, and why “touched out” isn’t just a mom thing—it’s a nervous system thing.This one is for the woman who feels like every shoulder rub turns into an obligation. For the man who wants to connect without always initiating sex. For the couple ready to reclaim physical connection that heals instead of takes.Maude shares her decades of experience in therapeutic massage and how it intersects with faith, motherhood, marriage, and trauma-informed care. Spoiler: not all intimacy ends in sex—and that’s exactly the point.🔥 We talk about:Why non-sexual touch is crucial for intimacy and co-regulationWhat “touched out” actually meansCreating safety in your body (and your relationship)And how Holy Spirit + human touch = real healing✨ BONUS for Patreon Members ✨Want to learn how to rub them the right way?We recorded an exclusive video teaching simple, beginner-friendly massage techniques couples can use at home—no fancy tools, no weird oils, just your hands and intention.👉 Join my Patreon for access!You can follow Maude on her TikTok, as she gets it set up!If you are in Northeast Ohio, you can book a massage with Maude!And y'all know I'm going to give you links to things we discussed!Come As You Are By Emily NagoskiSanctified Sexism: Effects of Purity Culture Tropes on White Christian Women’s Marital and Sexual Satisfaction and Experience of Sexual PainTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Is vaginal steaming the latest woo woo social media trend, or is there evidence of its benefits? This week I talked to Ashley Emery, Certified Steam and Somatic Practitioner, to talk about this history of steaming, the science (and sacredness!), and why both men and women are turning to steam as part of their healing journeys.We dig into purity culture hang ups, feeling safe in your body and your marriage, and the power of steam to both connect you to your body and turn up the heat in the bedroom!Whether you're a steam virgin, steam curious, or a steam skeptic, this episode is for you!You can connect with Ashley on her website.InstagramFacebookAs always, here are some of the things we mentioned in this episode!Patreon Video on Queening ChairsBouncy StoolThe steam stool Ashley recommendsEpisode 2 of the podcast on Marital Coercion featuring Nat LaJuneTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Dr. Andrea Eriks—licensed therapist and author of the new book She Wants: A Married Woman’s Guide to Reclaiming Her Sexual Intimacy. We talk about the deep emotional and relational impact of purity culture, the myth of “obligation sex,” and how women can begin to reconnect with their desire without shame or guilt.Dr. Eriks brings warmth, honesty, and clarity to a conversation many of us have been longing to have. Whether you're deconstructing old beliefs or simply ready to feel more connected in your marriage, this episode is for you.You can join the wait list to order She Wants at www.AndreaEriksPhD.com and make sure you follow her on all her socials:TikTokInstagramFacebookAnd as always—Go Have Good Sex™In this episode we discussed: Raising Sexually Healthy Kids Podcast P1Raising Sexually Healthy Kids Podcast P2Intimate ConversationsTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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You all loved her so much last time, and you had so many questions, I brought Ashley Hudson, LCSW, back for Part 2: Talking to Your Kids About Sex!We talked about a lot of things in this episode, so here is the list, in no particular order:Parenting Intimacy with Kristi CrossonThe Talk Series by Gilkerson1: The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality2: Changes: 7 Biblical Lessons to Make Sense of Puberty3: Relationships: 11 Lessons to Give Kids a Greater Understanding of Biblical SexualitySex Ed ReclaimedGood Pictures Bad Pictures JrGood Pictures Bad PicturesGood Pictures Bad Pictures Guidebook for Counseling KidsShe Deserves BetterTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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My friend, Sexologist Goody Howard, not only is an AMAZING Sexologist, but she is launching her own brand of LUBRICANT! After I had a video blow up on my socials, with people condemning the very idea of using lube, I KNEW I had to have her on to talk about lube, existing in a fat body, and our ADHD squirrels having their own raves! (I promise we'll let you in on the joke!)We talked about so much in this episode, but most of all, y'all need to get the lube from Goody on her website!The other fun stuff:Automatic Soap DispenserHeated Oil DispenserJoin my Patreon to learn about all the spicy things I can't teach on regular socials!If you are interested in the Natural Christian Mommas Community I mentioned, you can join us on Facebook!Intimate Conversations Sex JournalNitrile GlovesLube Applicator InjectorsSilicone Basting BrushTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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One of the questions I am asked most often as a sex & intimacy coach is: "How far can I go with the person I'm dating before it becomes sin?"Baby, that is the WRONG question, and I brought in Sonata Allison, LMFT, to help explain why this week! We covered a lot of topics single Christians are dealing with - but even if you are married - there's still a few things to learn from this episode!Here are some of the things we mentioned in the podcast!My first podcast appearance ever - The Parallel Podcast!Unwanted by Jay StringerJay Stringer on The ParallelWe're Not Really Strangers Conversation Deck{The And} Couples DeckYou can find Sonata here:The Parallel on Apple PodcastsInstagramTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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I am often asked how women can enjoy sex with their husbands when they are so uncomfortable with their bodies. So I knew I had to bring in Janioris Diaz Rodriguez, boudoir photographer, body & bedroom confidence coach to talk about it!In this episode we mentioned:Blue Letter Bible AppThis is also an app you can download to your phone.The Bible Knowledge Commentary by John F. Walvoord(aff link)You can connect with Janioris here:WebsiteFemByJanioris InstagramJanioris InstagramIf you would like help exploring all of the intimacies - not just sexual - check out my 31 Days of Intimacy!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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Today we are talking about the connection between a mother's feelings of burnout and her seemingly lost libido!I am chatting with Cierra Tipton, a reformed angry mom and Motherhood Burnout Coach about what motherhood burnout is, how it impacts a marriage, and how we can recover!You can connect with Cierra here:TikTokInstagramReclaimed Mama MorningsCoachingBiblical Self Care for MomsIn this episode I reference a Marriage Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid from the book: The Marriage You Want by Sheila Wray Gregoire.I also referenced Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski - this is so worth reading!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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Do you feel more intimate with your spouse after a conflict? If you are doing it right, you SHOULD! I'm chatting with Nicole Lee, license marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and certified sex therapy-informed professional today about Conflict Intimacy! But really, y'all know how we roll here. There was a lot of fun, and a lot of ADHD!You can find Nicole here:Heart & Honey Counseling FacebookHeart & Honey InstagramHeart & Honey TikTokWebsiteHer Journal:1+1=3, You, Me, & Our RelationshipShe is licensed in PA, so if you need someone to teach you to conflict well, and you are in PA, hit her up!In the chat, she mentions the work of the Gottmans. If you haven't read The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, I highly recommend it!I want to add my own note here. In Evangelical circles conflict is sometimes extra spicy because of theological issues. If you think one of you needs to have the final vote in conflicts and disagreements, and that is causing stress in the marriage, I encourage you to check out the new book, The Marriage You Want, as it addresses those issues!And don't forget my 31 Days of Intimacy!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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Are you ready to become a better flirt (with your spouse, of course!)? Ready to up your sexting game!? Brittany Broaddus-Smith, international Sexologist, and founder of The Intimacy Firm, is ready to teach you in this week's episode!A few things we talked about in episode:Marriage PLAYdateYou can find Brittany's Erotic Communication Blueprint in the Help We Don't Have Enough Sex Workshop she did for husbands here (and the episode for wives here)!You can reach Brittany through her website!My Sex Journal, Intimate Conversations, is available here.To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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If you've followed my socials for any length of time, you know I talk about sex as the celebration of intimacy you've established before you ever reach the bedroom - and there are 13 types of intimacy you can experience in marriage.One of those intimacies is parenting intimacy, and today we are talking to Kristi Crosson, Jai Certified Parenting Coach about how our parenting impacts the intimacy in our marriage.If you are ready to get on the same parenting page, and need some support to do so, don’t hesitate to reach out to Kristi, her links are below:WebsiteChildren’s Book: My Room is Too MessyChildren’s Book: I’m Not Ready for BedInstagramI mentioned another podcast in this episode about a study on women consenting to unwanted sexual touch. You can find that on the show Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst.Other parenting resources:Flourishing Homes & FamiliesMr. ChazzDestini AnnThe Occuplaytional TherapistTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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Did you know that women raised in purity culture are TWICE AS LIKELY to experience female sexual dysfunction as their non-purity culture counterparts?One such issue is vaginmisnus - and in this episode we discuss what it is, what causes it, and how it can be treated!Dr. Leslie had me as a guest on her podcast, and you can find that episode here!You can reach out to Dr. Leslie through her website, her IG, or her Facebook!This episode originally appeared in my Patreon - where I teach all the spicy things I can't teach on my regular socials! Joining my Patreon gets you exclusive content from me, and helps to support the work that I do to bring you free content every day!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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"How do I talk to my kids about sex without the shame and trauma of purity culture?" is one of my most frequently asked questions. So I brought in Ashley Hudson, LCSW to help answer it!We cover everything from sex education beginning at birth, to talking to your kids about masturbation, so buckle in - today is a wild ride!A few notes on today's podcast:I recommended the book She Deserves Better - you can get it here.At one point I reference a song - I said "Hall and Oates" - it is not - is Garfunkel and Oates, and I had apparently repressed how offensive the song potentially is. If you are easily offended, do NOT look it up - for those of who now want to hear it even more - it is called "The Loophole." I warned you. Don't yell at me.We also mentioned in this episode the books Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr. for talking about pornography with your kids. You can get them here and here.Ashley recommended the following books and resources for more information:Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer SellersSex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer SellersRecovering from Purity Culture by Dr. Camden MorganteSexual Shame: An Urgent Call to Healing by Karen A. McClintockI recommended Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect by Jayneen SandersYou can also check out my whole recommended list of books for talking to your kids about sex here.Make sure you are following Ashley everywhere, and reach out to her for therapy services if you are in CO, TX, or NC!https://pearlinprocess.com/https://www.instagram.com/pearlinprocess/https://shorturl.at/61rehNote: This site contains external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links. (Any Amazon links are Amazon affiliate links, which helps support the work that I do!)To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠
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Did you know that a wedding ring is not automatic consent for sex, or any specific sexual activity in a Christian marriage?We should be seeking to obtain consent for specific activities, as well as each sexual encounter. In this episode, we talk about ways to discuss consent, without "ruining the mood"!This episode originally appeared in my Patreon community - join today and help support the work I do, talking about healthy sex in Christian marriage!To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love!⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠CashApp⁠

Massive content warning for today's episode. We are discussing #MaritalCoercion - also known as #SexualCoercion when it happens in marriage. Today, I am chatting with Nat LaJune, a former Christian housewife on a healing journey, learning about love & sharing what she learns through writing and speaking on social media. I found Nat at the very beginning of my content creation journey, and her work was instrumental in pushing me to begin my journey on socials - I want to help stop the bad theology and harm the #EvangelicalChurch causes to women just like Nat. We MUST have these conversations if we are to change the narrative to one of #HealthySex and #MutualPleasure for all people in the Church. To learn more about sexual coercion, and get help, please contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE or text "START" to 88788. Please make sure you are connecting with Nat: WebsiteBook: Love Makes Life ListenMarital Coercion WebsiteNat's TikTokHer OG TikTokInstagramThreadsYouTubeAs I mentioned in the video, I highly recommend the new book by Sheila Wray Gregoire, "The Marriage You Want": (aff link)Join my Patreon for the Consent video I referenced.To support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love!Website⁠FacebookInstagramTikTokYouTubeCashApp

Angela, The Christian Sexpert has been talking about healthy, Biblical sex & intimacy on social media for years, and it is finally time to launch the podcast!In today's episode you'll learn all about Angela, her journey to becoming a Christian sex & intimacy coach, and her work.Resources discussed in the podcast:⁠Website⁠Patreon Book Coaching with Angela31 Days of IntimacyMarriage PLAYdateIntimate Conversations, a Sex Journal for Christian CouplesThe Christian Sexpert's Amazon StorefrontRomantic Blessings - use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchase!MYHIXEL Control - An FDA approved medical device for treating climax control in men. Use code thechristiansexpert10 for 10% off your purchase.Connect with Angela on social media:TikTokInstagramFacebookYouTubeAnd remember to Go Have Good Sex!