OCTD

This week’s episode started with a literal system meltdown at work and somehow turned into a very personal audit of how I handle communication when things get overloaded. I talk about what it looks like when two people are not operating at the same capacity and why both sides are valid but not always compatible in the moment. Sometimes I am the one maxed out and shutting down, and sometimes I am ready to process everything immediately, which is its own kind of chaos. We get into what it takes to actually meet in the middle so resolution is not just possible, but real.

I used to think I was just “getting lucky”… turns out I’ve been manifesting my whole life. From calling my shot at 8 years old (hi, Maine), to dreaming up a future as a pastry chef at 12, to leveling up my career in my 20s; I’ve always known what I wanted. But here’s the part no one talks about: I didn’t just manifest it… I moved for it.In this episode, I’m getting real about manifestation; what works, what’s overrated, and why vision without action is just a cute idea. We’re talking clarity, confidence, and the uncomfortable steps that actually change your life.Because yes, you can manifest the life you want… but you still have to show up and do something about it.

Heyo! This week I am discussing what decision fatigue is, how it affects me, AND why being great at executive function sometimes causes more decision fatigue. Very much like myself, this episode is short, sweet, and to the point. Obvi at the end I provide strategies for managing decision fatigue so make sure you are listening out for that.

Warning: I texted Jessica to make sure she listens to this episode so she is ready for our session on Friday.This week I get suuuuuper self reflective, and ponder my inability to think I am wrong. I am really hoping someone messages me and tells me their brain works the same as mine, because honestly....I am worried about me. But, as always I am committed to growing as a person and will obviously be working on this with my self, and of course Jessica.

Heyooooo! She is a little slap happy today thanks to zero sleep, but honestly that just makes this episode better. This week I’m diving into my Enneagram type and the types I keep collecting, because apparently I need balance whether I ask for it or not. We’ve got 2s softening me, a 1 teaching me tact, and a 6 keeping me grounded while I try not to bulldoze every conversation with honesty. Strap in for blunt opinions, accidental growth, and a reminder that yes, feelings do matter even if I don’t always act like it.

This week I explore what happens in my brain when I start to feel a little bit of imposter syndrome. Then I talk about how my lord and savior Ilona Maher looks at imposter syndrome and I tighten my shit up! Its a short one this week, but as always very rooted in what is currently going on in my life. Enjoy!

This week, Tylr dives into the absolutely unhinged complexity of being a human being. (Big sentence. Deep breath.) What she actually means is: why are we all so quick to flatten people into heroes or villains based on a 12-second clip and a spicy caption?From social media hot takes to her own uncomfortable realizations, Tylr unpacks how easy it is to reduce people to their worst moment — and why she’s realizing she still has some inner work to do on that front. (Growth? In this economy?)Grab your favorite tasty bev, settle in, and let’s chat about holding space, keeping discernment without losing compassion, and remembering that people are complicated, layered, contradictory little onions who just want to feel seen.Research Links: BPC Pros and Cons of Social Media AlgorithmsCTSA Compassion Isn't Enabling

In the spirit of being bejeweled, this episode is about refusing to shrink for someone else’s comfort. I share a moment of realizing I wasn’t fully myself in a past relationship — not as drama, but as data. From there, we unpack what it looks like to grow without self-erasing, to find friendships where you’re completely seen, and to choose connections that can hold all of you. I’m done dimming, asking you to hold me to that and inviting you along with me.

No one wakes up thinking they’re the villain — but statistically? You’re absolutely the bad guy in someone else’s story. And honestly? I’m fine with that.This isn’t about being cruel or careless. It’s about choosing to be the hero in your own life instead of setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm. I've never been one to twist myself into something more “palatable” just to avoid disappointing people, and I want to help you be like that too!In this episode, we’re breaking up with people-pleasing and accepting the uncomfortable truth: you can’t make everyone happy — and trying to is the fastest way to abandon yourself. Let’s get into it.

Have you ever made a decision out of fear? Maybe you've made a choice solely on what could go wrong instead of thinking about everything that could go right? If you answered yes to those questions, you are not alone! I do that too, and I know a lot of other folks do as well. This week I talk about what goes through my brain when I am living in Scarcity Mindset City, when in reality I want to live in Abundance Village. It's not easy, but with a few reframes, and using some helpful tools I outline maybe this episode will help you move out of fear based decisions and into fruitful based ones. It's never perfect, but it is movement in a more positive direction.

This week I have another very special guest! My dad! Mr. Coffelt is on the pod this week and we talk all about how it feels to have a daughter who is just like him, what he thought when I started therapy, and then his own journey with therapy and so much more! This week's episode is a little more vulnerable than most so I hope you enjoy!

Come along a maddening and let's be honest not so surprising journey with me this week. I started recording on Sunday, my third day of isolation due to Winter Storm Fern (what a bitch) and I finish recording on Tuesday (day 5). You will hear how I kept myself busy over the weekend and then slowly but surely start to lose my mind as the week progresses and the ice does not melt. Someone check on me after you've listened to this episode.

Ever created a timeline in your head and then beat yourself up for not achieving that timeline? Yes? Me too! This weeks episode explores not meeting the timeline you created for yourself in your head, and how to deal with that. As a girly pop who is CONSTANTLY thinking about the future, this hits hard for me. But I know I will be okay, I have no other choice. Planner I love: https://www.personalplanner.com/US/

This week I have a very special guest! My mother! Brenda graced the closet with her presence and discussed everything from being a mom to a child who demands perfection to all the journals this woman writes. We had a great time talking and cackling while she called me out for the ways she had to teach me to be tactful as a child. If you don't love this conversation you are wrong. That's all.

This is the second pod I recorded that day. Why? Because The first one I decided I hated, and was in a crappy mood so I scrapped it. I hope this episode shows you how I handle my own emotions when I am feeling like a Grumpy Goober for absolutely no reason at all and maybe gives you some ideas on how to handle your emotions when you are a Cranky Pants Mcgee.

Did I intend to post this episode on December 31st? Yes. Did it actually happen? No. I got distracted. But now this is the first episode of OCTD for 2026! Listen to me recap all the cool things I did last year (weird to type that one out) while also trying to recognize that the year was still a difficult one for me. Two things can be true at one time. Happy New Year!

Happy Holidays! This episode is extra special to me because my little brother Tim is here to talk with me! We talk all about how I acquired him as a brother, how I bullied him into going to the same college with me AND how my flavor of neuro-spicy is different than his flavor of neuro-spicy. I love this mans so much and I hope y'all love him too (but if you don't you are absolutely wrong). Below are links to his restaurant and LARP club!Food things: https://www.postoakdenver.com/LARP Things: https://dagorhir.com/wordpress/https://www.belegarth.com/rules

This weeks episode is....chaotic to say the least. I dive into the topic of love languages, all spurred on by the loss of a family member and trying to find letters written by them to me. We are talking through love languages, reading letters that I've been sent over the years (can you guess my love language?) and discovering why certain phrases chap my shins based on how I show other people love. Much like this summary, this episode feels like CHAOS. But I'm putting it out anyway, look at me being brave like that.

This week I wade straight into a topic that makes my skin crawl a little, taking feedback with grace and actually growing from it. And I am talking about feedback from someone you love, not some random person on the street who thinks their unsolicited opinion is a gift. I get personal with stories of times I handled feedback like a mature adult and other times where I took it so badly I managed to tank an entire weekend. Get cozy and get uncomfy with me as I unpack my reactions and learn a little more about myself.

This week, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I’m running through a long—but definitely not comprehensive—list of things I’m grateful for from this year. But first, I talk a little good shit, cry about a dog for absolutely no reason, and settle a few bets. Buckle in for a (mostly) attitude-free episode where I practice gratitude and invite you to do the same. And a sneak peek: I’m grateful for YOU, the listener, for coming back week after week to hear me talk to myself.

Welcome back to another episode where I admit, publicly, that I might be the reason my mental load is heavier than a Costco cart. I dig into why people with OCPD traits (hi, me) feel compelled to scan every room for potential disasters like an anxious security guard—and why we end up taking on way more than anyone assigned us. It is honest, a little chaotic and full of the light roasting I probably deserve.

This week is short and sweet, kind of like me! I am covering all the good shit that has happened in the last week, including the follow up I promised you in the last episode! Don't say I don't follow through on my promises. Then we tackle the conversation of how to decide if you need to sit and reflect with some icky energy thrown your way, or release it because it is not your energy to take on. I had to learn that myself this week, and luckily I have some amazing people I can call to talk this shit through with.

This week, you get a front-row seat to me spiraling over something that (shocker) wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be. But don’t get too comfy—you’ll have to tune in next week for the grand finale.Then we dive into the messy art of decoding whether your “friend” is actually a secret hater or just vibing weird lately. Is this friendship just seasonal, or are we weathering a rough season? Either way, adulthood’s a scam—and navigating friendships while you’re in your feelings is its own kind of chaos.P.S. Take a drink every time I say “I talked to Jessica about this.”

This week I'm talking holiday season jitters! Not feeling excited about family gatherings? Dreading having to travel during the busiest time of the year? You are not alone! I feel it too. In this weeks episode I will tell you why I get anxious during "the happiest time of the year" and why sometimes I'd rather hide than be merry. But I will also give you, and if I am being honest myself, tips and tricks on how to keep our cool and not lose it in the last two months of the year. P.S. please send me your Halloween costumes because I love a festive costume!

This week’s episode is a special one — I have my first-ever guest who is actually a licensed therapist! (I know, credible people on the pod now? Who am I?)Join me as I chat with Amanda, a real-life therapist and my honorary stand-in for all the questions I wish I could ask my own therapist, Jessica — but ethically can’t. We get into the good stuff: whether therapists get therapized (yes, that’s a word now), how to find affordable mental health resources, and how Amanda manages to not therapize her friends and family.She also shared some great resources, including her own website, plus a few extras she sent me afterward. This one was a blast to record, and I hope you love listening just as much!Resources Mentioned:Amanda’s WebsiteOpen Path Collective – Affordable TherapyThrizer – Out-of-Network Benefits Made EasyMentaya – Help with Out-of-Network Claims

This week I’m talking about all the good shit in my life, like surviving a workout class that nearly ended me, being brave enough to give a cutie my number in the wild, and somehow topping it all off with a cold plunge. All done under the watchful eye of my spiritual guide, Taylor Swift.Then we dive (literally) into this week’s topic: limerence; that intoxicating, borderline-creepy feeling we call “love” but probably shouldn’t. As always, I’m wildly unqualified but blessed with the confidence of a much taller person to speak about these topics. Come spiral with me, just in time for spooky season.

This week’s episode is a wild ride. From dodging creepy foot-fetish encounters and almost getting run over to actually raising my voice at someone (a first for me!), the chaos doesn’t stop at the opener. From there, I dive into the bigger question: who am I when I’m not defined by my work or the tasks I check off? It’s unsettling, eye-opening, and a little messy—but that’s the journey. Buckle up for the emotional roller coaster, and let’s hope next week’s meltdowns have a different flavor.Link to the worksheet mentioned in the episode: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGnWY4uKPs/xcYtWNHgjdf6H4WFvdS1KA/view?utm_content=DAGnWY4uKPs&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hb9883926fe#2

This week I talk vacation detox. You heard me, getting back into the routine after a vacation is not for the weak of heart. This shorter episode is all about how fuzzy my brain feels after being in a different time zone, me fluffing up my meal plan for the week, and me avoiding a full on crash out about it. Let's play a game: every time you here me say "I am proud of myself" take a drink of whatever beverage you have close to you. Come back next week for my regularly programmed shenanigans.

This week I am joined by a somewhat special guest, my sister! And the man who stole her away from me, I ask him the important questions and then when I talk with Taylor we essentially talk shit for 45 minutes. It's a long one this week, but I just didn't have it in my hear to edit anything Taylor and I talk about because she is just that important, and we are just that funny. If you have a sister, you KNOW this is about to be a silly goose episode. Tune in, zone out, and listen to T-n-T just talk. Okay bye bye.

This week I’m clowning on myself for the absolute absurdity of trying to control literally everything to dodge anxiety. From attempting to “save” my ex from himself, to drafting a full-blown road trip constitution with my brother, to sending dramatic Elizabethan texts with my mom and sister—I can’t stop laughing at how far I’ll go. Come for the royal decrees, stay for the self-roast.

This week I’m giving myself some credit where credit is due 👏— because honestly, my OCPD comes with a few gold-star qualities I’m actually proud of (hello integrity, follow-through, and quality work). But don’t worry, I’m not done roasting myself just yet. I’m also spilling on what I’m still working on—like loosening up with my time, regulating my Big Feels™ a little better, and not crying when something isn’t 100% perfect. Basically, it’s a mix of self-love and self-growth, with a side of sass.

Integrity: some men have it, some men have fiancées they forgot to mention. Buckle up for a petty, scathing deep dive into integrity, betrayal, and why some men should come with a warning label.

This week on OCTD, it’s feral girl summer — but with a planner, alarms set for everything, and the emotional chaos of trying to date someone who thinks time is a social construct. I’m unpacking what it’s like to have OCPD in the wild world of dating, where I’m time-aware to the minute and somehow always end up with someone who forgets to eat until 4pm. We’re talking structure, softness, and the struggle of giving grace to brains that are not spreadsheets. It’s vulnerable. It’s messy. It’s me trying to date without sending a Google Calendar invite first.

This week, we’re talking about emotional time blindness—aka why I feel like June was yesterday but also five years ago. I get into how living in “manager brain” 24/7 makes it hard for me to stay in the moment, why I treat time like a moral scoreboard, and how even the idea of journaling my feelings makes me want to crawl out of my skin. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the future, allergic to the present, or personally attacked by mindfulness tips, this one’s for you.

It's mid-year, baby, and I’m buzzing like a caffeinated wasp reflecting on 2025 so far! From good chaos to great growth, I recap all the juicy life wins and the nonstop hustle that’s had me booked and busy. I also get a little introspective (don’t worry, I keep it weird) and share my big-dream energy for the rest of the year. Basically, it’s a pep talk, diary entry, and chaotic therapy subjects all in one.

This week, I’m joined by my favorite chaos goblin and ride-or-die, Adeebah! We spill the tea on how our friendship started, what it’s really like being besties with someone who’s clinically controlling (me 🙋‍♀️), and how we somehow haven’t ended up in jail—yet. Adeebah confesses how she used to hate my boundaries but is now out here setting her own like a damn queen. There’s swearing, cackling, emotional whiplash, and a whole lotta love. Buckle up, babes—this one’s unhinged in the best way.

This week, I’m spiraling — and taking you with me! From a blown car engine to my period showing up like an unwanted guest, plus a surprise cameo from body image issues, it's been a week. I unpack all the chaos with my usual sass and end by sharing my go-to tools for coming down from emotional overload. If you've ever cried in a mechanic’s parking lot with a heating pad on, this one’s for you.

Burnout? I practically micromanaged my way into it. In this week’s episode, I get real about what it’s like having OCPD in the workplace—being controlling, kinda cold, and definitely not the World’s Best Boss. But don’t worry, it’s not all doom and deadlines; I’ve since escaped to a job where I answer to no one but myself. Autonomy is hot, empathy is healing, and being the main character? That’s forever.

In celebration of my birthday, I got a facial, dipped myself in freezing water, and promptly spiraled into the stress of life. Naturally, I ended up sleeping in my closet and overanalyzing my entire relationship with money. Is it OCPD? Is it just capitalism? Who’s to say. Either way—this week we’re talking self-care, stress naps (in weird places), and my deeply unqualified but wildly committed approach to money management. No spreadsheets, just feelings.

Grab your iced coffee and your emotional support girl gang, because this week we’re diving headfirst into girlhood, glitter, and giving fewer fcks*. From women-only clubs to girls’ dinners with zero male opinions allowed, we’re talking about why female friendships are the real love stories — and yes, there’s a spicy 15-minute rant about kicking men out of the VIP section of our emotional lives. Healed? Somewhate. Evolving? Absolutely. XOXO, your favorite emotionally overloaded podcast host.

In this episode, I’m spilling all the (sleepy) tea on why rest isn’t something you earn—it’s something you need. From reading my body’s cues to embracing the art of floor-sitting like the dramatic queen I am, we’re redefining what rest actually looks like. I’m also sharing a cutie little “rest menu” for anyone who needs permission to stop doing and start being. Trust me, your to-do list can wait—XOXO, lounge lizard. 😴✨Rest Menu: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGnWY4uKPs/xcYtWNHgjdf6H4WFvdS1KA/view?utm_content=DAGnWY4uKPs&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hb9883926fe

So... change showed up, and my brain was like “absolutely not.” In this episode, we’re talking about how to actually rewire your mind to stop freaking out every time life shifts—even a little. Plus, yes, there was no episode last week because I was on vacation and being a ✨soft girl✨ for once. Let’s unpack why change feels like betrayal, and how we can teach our brains to chill... kind of.

In this episode, I kick things off by literally throwing up (you’re welcome) and then diving headfirst into the chaos that is our inner critic. If yours sounds like a bossy person who never minds their business, same. We unpack where that mean little voice comes from, why it’s so damn loud, and how to quiet it without going full existential spiral. If you’re tired of perfectionism running the show—this one’s your messy, magical permission slip to tell that critic: “not today, The Committee"Update: I've decided to name my inner critic "The Committee"

In this week’s episode, I get real about friendship—why I’ve always gone for quality over quantity and how that’s shaped my life. Of course, my Alexa couldn’t not interrupt me mid-thought (rude, but on brand). I also issue an open call to my friends: how am I doing as a friend? Don’t hold back. Unless it’s mean. Then maybe text me privately first.

Perfectionism and high standards walk into a bar—and only one leaves with inner peace. In this episode, we’re sorting out the difference between healthy ambition and the kind of soul-crushing pressure that makes you rewrite an email 17 times. We’ll talk about how your parents (love them!) might’ve accidentally downloaded perfectionist software into your brain, and how to start uninstalling it—without the emotional meltdown. Come for the insights, stay for the existential giggles.

This week’s episode is comin’ in hot and a little late—because your girl has been out here living her best chaotic-good life! I’m diving into the maddening mystery of why it feels like I’m speaking in crisp, bullet-pointed clarity… and yet no one seems to get what I’m saying. If you’ve ever felt like you're broadcasting in HD and everyone else is tuned to fuzzy AM radio, this one's for you. Grab your snacks and your emotional translator—we're going in!

In this week’s episode, I cozy up in the closet to unpack how OCPD shows up in family dynamics — from perfectionism-fueled tension to the complicated ways we show (or struggle to show) love. I also get a little raw about feeling wildly sad today, including a very cinematic crying session in the jeep. (Cue the vomit emoji, because emotions are gross) If you’ve ever felt like the designated crazy sister, black sheep, or misunderstood control freak in your family, this one’s for you.

This week, I’m embracing delusion in the best way possible—because when the world is burning, why not romanticize your own life? I may be unprepared, but I’m feeling like a bad bitch in my white Jeep, and that’s what really matters. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is put yourself first, lean into the little joys, and choose optimism (even if it’s slightly unhinged). So buckle up for a chaotic, feel-good stream of consciousness—because we’re prioritizing main character energy over perfection.

Some people like to go with the flow—I am not one of those people. Routines and rituals keep me sane, whether it’s my sacred Sunday reset, my perfectly optimized airport game plan, or the only correct way to make a PB&J (yes, there is a right way). In this episode, I dive into how these rituals came about, how they help me function, and why disruption is not the vibe.

In this episode, I attempt to explain spoon theory and emotional overload with OCPD—keyword: attempt. If my thoughts seem scattered, that's because my brain is basically a junk drawer this week. But hey, if you’ve ever felt like you’re running out of emotional spoons faster than a cheap diner, you’ll relate. Grab a metaphorical ladle and let’s dig in!