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Connect The Dots B*tch

A podcast that delivers you an honest and alternative look inside your mental and emotional struggles. Expect Amy to deep dive on topics such as mainstream mental health, toxic relationships, communication faux pas, pop culture and social norms. Amy is a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Holistic Life Coach and Reiki Master Practitioner. If you are searching for understanding of yourself and others in your life, this podcast is for you.

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    Amy’s Back + Has a Baby!

    Amy’s back behind the mic and she’s 5 months post partum, here to give you a life and baby update!

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    Why People Project, Deflect + Attack Others

    In this final episode of 2023 and the last episode of season 7, Amy digs into the behaviors of projection, deflection, blame and attack. Why do people behave like that? Amy shares her insights into these behavior patterns and explains what YOU can do when face to face with them. Tune in to hear Amy offer you guidance and a memorable final episode before she takes a brief hiatus after giving birth. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: • Emotional management • Self-protective patterns • Unhealthy coping tools • A lack of accountability • Amy’s ‘Hot Potato Theory’ • Navigating difficult relationships

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    PART 2: Why You Tolerate Too Much Disrespect

    Amy digs deeper into the topic of disrespect and what many of the reasons are for your high tolerance of it. Last week she covered several submitted responses to the question, "Why do YOU think you tolerate too much?" And this week she's tackling even more from over-empathizing, not communicating a boundary is breached to having no limits on extending others the benefit of the doubt. Tune in to hear Amy offer you further insight and your next steps towards changing these patterns and struggles for good! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Believing love is 'enough' Over-empathizing Poor communication Avoidant behavior Not trusting your own judgment Making excuses for a lack of action + growth Using your self-awareness as an excuse As mentioned in this episode, the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors Course will reopen enrollment in January of the new year! To hear about it first and receive early bird discounts, place your Name and Email on the Waitlist here.

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    Why You Tolerate Too Much Disrespect

    Amy responds to your submissions about why you believe you tolerate too much and over-communicate your boundaries. She provides you with further guidance for introspection, deeper understanding into your fears and patterns as well as what your next steps are towards changing it! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Fears of abandonment Fears of conflict Fears of backlash Boundary Setting with difficult people Tolerating mistreatment Childhood trauma Redefining love Healing from neglect Healing from childhood trauma Adulthood trauma People Pleasing patterns The resources mentioned in this episode to support you are linked below! - Access Amy's recommend Somatic Exercise program here. - Download Identifying Your Trauma Triggers Guide here. - Join the Waitlist for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course, opening enrollment January 2024. - Join the Waitlist for Rebuilding Self-Trust, re-opening enrollment March 2024.

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    Ways We're Taught Not to Have Boundaries

    This week Amy shares the top 3 ways you're shown and taught to not have boundaries growing up. She provides insight and understanding into the fears, unhealthy coping mechanisms and survival strategies adapted from being exposed to this type of caregiver modeling. Amy leaves you with a list of self-reflective prompts to get started reviewing your own relationships and behavior patterns. This episode will support you in identifying any current struggles as we move into what Amy calls "Boundary Season" and help you bring awareness to what you'd like to improve upon. If you're wanting additional support in the boundary setting process, especially after childhood or adulthood trauma, use this link to join the WAITLIST for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course re-opening this January 2024. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Childhood trauma Adulthood trauma Boundary setting struggles Adverse childhood experiences Toxic stress People pleasing Provides you self-reflective questions to process your experiences.

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    When They Complain But Resist Changing

    Amy discusses what is happening inside an individual who is unloading their pain but resistant to making any changes in their life. She digs into the different scenarios you may have encountered with friends, family or even partners and the distinctions between someone seeking validation, wanting guidance or just wanting to complain. She leaves you with insight into how to navigate these relationships in the most supportive ways possible for yourself and for them! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Being resistant to growth Being open to growth Trauma-dumping Supportive boundaries Post-traumatic awareness Supportive friendships + relationships Taking advantage of professional support (free + paid)

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    Extreme Thinking

    Amy discusses the concept of "extreme thinking" and what fuels the behavior pattern. She offers her insights into how this binary way of thinking can show up in mental health social media content and perpetuate victimhood. By the end of the episode, you're left with more knowledge on this topic as well as what you will want to work on improving to step away from thinking in extremes! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Self-protection + self-preservation Binary Thinking / All or Nothing Thinking / Black + White Thinking / Extreme Thinking Self-trust Victim marketing Solutions for extreme thinking If you're enjoying these episodes of Connect the Dots B*tch, take a moment to leave me a 5-star rating on Apple or Spotify!

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    Here's Why You're Not Healing

    In this episode, Amy highlights what is hindering you from healing. She emphasizes the tangible steps that MUST happen in order to move from having experienced trauma and emotional pain to processing, releasing and changing your adapted survival and coping strategies. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Emotional healing Trauma healing Tangible action steps needed to heal. How to know if you are hindering your own healing. A self-qualifying list to help you determine if this episode is for you! Identifying too much with your pain. Making excuses for your trauma. Playing the victim. Taking accountability vs. victim blaming Rebuilding self-trust If you're ready to rebuild your foundation after experiencing trauma, abuse, childhood trauma or any type of emotional pain. And ready to heal your people pleasing, fears of abandonment, trust issues + more! Join Amy as she walks you hand-in-hand through all (3) steps of healing (mentioned in episode) and provides you the proven strategy to rebuild your self-trust in her course: Rebuilding Self-Trust . Enrollment ends on 11/22/23 for the year so do not miss your opportunity to take this essential step!

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    Stop Your Attachment to Potential

    Amy returns after a brief break to dig into why you're attaching to potential in your relationships. What happens when you attach? What's the underlying root problem that keeps you stuck and wanting to fix, save and rescue others? And most importantly, what tangible steps can you take today to begin making changes and breaking this pattern! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Being a FIXER, SAVER/SAVIOR, RESCUER Attaching to potential in relationships Trying to prove + convince others of your worth. Blaming yourself for others not growing + changing. Childhood trauma Control issues Struggles with acceptance + self-respect. Boundaries For more resources on Boundary Setting, learn more about Amy's course here.

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    The One About Anxiety + Trusting Others

    Amy discusses why we experience anxiety especially in relationships. She talks about why anxiety is a symptom of 1 of 3 root problems and shares how to take steps to improve all of them. You'll hear about her personal struggles with an Anxiety Disorder in her teens and what helped her most in healing from it. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Anxiety + Anxiety Disorders OCD Relational anxiety Self-trust and struggles with trusting others Coping strategies Nervous system dysregulation Personal stories from Amy about her anxiety struggles + more! If you'd like access to the highly recommended Somatic Program Amy mentions in this episode, use this link: http://collabs.shop/etrgun . If you'd like to learn more about Rebuilding Self-Trust, you can go here: https://amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/rebuilding-self-trust .

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    Confidence Comes from Self-Trust

    Amy is back from her babymoon European adventure and sharing updates about her trip, insights and reflections before she dives into the topics of self-acceptance, self-confidence and self-trust! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Amy's babymoon recap Personal growth reflections + insights from Amy herself Where does confidence come from (*Begins at 34:00 min mark) The practice of self-acceptance How are self-confidence + self-trust related Skills you want to learn while healing from trauma (4) Things Amy learned about herself from her recent trip If you've streamed this episode and are interested in learning more about the upcoming brand new Rebuilding Self-Trust mini-course, place your email on the waitlist to receive information once it launches this month (October 2023) here: https://amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/rebuilding-self-trust

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    Secure Relationship Secrets

    Amy gives you a look inside a secure relationship from the perspective of someone who has experienced trauma from past abusive relationship. She offers you (5) insider tips to help you become aware of and normalize what you can expect to occur within a secure attachment. She also shares solutions on how to navigate conflict and confusion in the most supportive way! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Secure attachments Healthy conflict resolution Emotional management Trauma triggers Boundary Setting Personal stories from Amy Personal life updates from Amy If you're enjoyed this episode or past Connect The Dots B*tch episodes, leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify! Be sure to share this episode with your partner, friend or family member who may need this insight as well.

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    The One About Ghosting

    Amy provides you a full rundown of what 'ghosting' is, what people commonly confuse it to be, why people ghost and how to cope with being ghosted! She offers you real-life examples of being ghosting, deconstructs what is happening for the ghost-er and ghost-ee and her expertise on how harmful and abusive this behavior can be. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Ghosting Ghosting while dating Ghosting while in a committed relationship What does NOT constitute ghosting Abandonment fears How to cope with being ghosted Why you feel haunted by having been ghosting and can't move through the pain Practical steps for coping with being ghosted What to work on if you're wanting to ghost

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    A New Phase of Life

    Amy announces some big changes in her life, answers a few FAQs and shares how she's navigating it all, what she's prioritizing and how she's finding a healthy balance. She offers you key points and takeaways that not only pertain to what she's going through, but how they may connect to you and your life and relationships. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: A big life update from Amy! What needs are always important to prioritize, especially through life changes. Prenatal + childhood trauma Planning for the future Trauma triggers and emotional triggers Acknowledging your personal growth Amy's personal reflections on her own growth, old behavior patterns + how she's learning to be more flexible within these new life experiences!

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    Do You Need to Have an Honest Conversation?

    Amy shares a quick life update about her recent travels and the "adventure" (re: disaster) that occurred on the way back home. She discusses how to approach having an honest conversation with someone, even if that individual is incapable or unwilling. You'll hear her deconstruct why sometimes we are uncomfortable in relationship to others (hint: their behavior may not align with our truth) and provides you clear insight and practical steps in navigating the nuances of difficult relationships! THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: Life update from Amy! Honest, transparent conversations Navigating other people's dysregulated states Setting a boundary with someone who is dismissive. Difficult relationships Staying true to yourself in spite of how others behave Communicating to move through confilct.

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    The One About Healthy Conflict Resolution

    Amy breaks down the necessary steps of navigating conflict in a healthy and supportive way. She discusses in depth the challenges many face, the steps most skip and how a history of trauma can impact your willingness and awareness to take these steps. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: The tangible steps to healthy conflict resolution in any type of relationship. Common conflict triggers + trauma triggers. Common struggles for trauma survivors in navigating conflict. What signs indicate your relationship is stuck + conflict cannot be resolved. The importance of repairing after conflict. In this episode, Amy mentions a helpful guide called Identifying Your Trauma Triggers which you can access and download here.

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    What Does Healing Look Like?

    In this episode, Amy answers the question, 'what does healing really look like?' With so much misinformation online, Amy discusses the nuances on the topic of trauma healing. Tune in to hear her debunk myths, identify misconceptions and educate you further on what works, what doesn't, what is clickbait online and what the overall truth is about healing from trauma! THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: Myths, misconceptions + misguided information about trauma healing. Will safe people and environments trigger you? Does being alone (or single) safeguard you from pain? Will you still get triggered after trauma? What will trigger you after trauma? Understanding trauma triggers. Therapy? What works and what doesn't. + much more! If these podcast episodes are educating, entertaining and providing you value, please take a moment to leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify! For access to Amy's resources, downloads and on-demand courses, go to amyfiedler.com .

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    Kute Blackson: Self-Trust, Freedom + The Magic of Surrender

    Kute Blackson is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: - Kute's personal journey to becoming an inspirational speaker + transformational teacher. - the importance of self-trust. - choosing your authentic truth over the plan someone else mapped out for you. - difficult conversations (with parents). - how following the nudging of your soul brings freedom! - a balanced + nuanced look at what surrendering is. - choosing to view life as a miracle in spite of hardships. - Kute's book, "The Magic of Surrender" + what you can expect from it! FOLLOW + CONNECT WITH KUTE: Purchase your copy of Kute's book, The Magic of Surrender on Amazon: www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094 Check out how to work with Kute at www.kuteblackson.com Check out Kute's Bali Breakthrough Experience at www.boundlessblissbali.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: www.facebook.com/kuteblacksonlovenow Instagram: www.instagram.com/kuteblackson Twitter: www.twitter.com/kuteblackson YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/kuteblackson09 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kute-blackson-35755519

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    Being “The Mature One”

    Amy discusses the feelings that arise when you feel you always have to be the bigger person and what to do when you start feeling resentment, anger, annoyance with others. She offers real life examples and gives key steps to take to support yourself when you’re constantly growing but others aren’t in your life!

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    Triangulation

    Amy discusses what triangulation is, how challenging it can be to navigate and real-life examples of how she does it! She deconstructs this form of abuse and manipulation to make it digestible and help you understand how it presents itself in relationships. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: - What triangulation can look and sound like. - Real-life examples of experiencing triangulation within a family. - How to navigate and what practical coping methods can you use for triangulation. - Life updates from Amy! - Insecurities - Boundary Setting - Toxic family dynamics Amy's brand-new online course for The Supportive People to Trauma Survivors has now launched and is mentioned in this episode of Connect The Dots B*tch! If you are navigating a challenging relationship with someone who may or may not be aware of their own trauma, this course is for you. If you are a trauma survivor wanting to be more supportive without losing yourself or needing others to behave and communicate in more supportive ways, this course is for you. Use code OGLISTENER for 10% off your purchase today: The Course for the Supportive People to Trauma Survivors | Amy Fiedler (teachable.com)

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    Are Triggers Caused By Others?

    Amy sits down to discuss how trauma and triggers are created and if it is in fact by other people! She deconstructs how to tell the difference between if your trauma is being triggered or if the person and the behavior is actually harmful to you. THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES: - how trauma and triggers are created - why we cope by blaming others - healthier ways to cope - how to tell the difference between if it's your trauma being triggered or it's actually harmful behavior. - why we find it easier to blame others - how to stop swinging the pendulum too far one way with binary ways of thinking and coping. - childhood trauma becoming adulthood trauma - the supportive tools you need for your triggers and your coping

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    Parental Modeling

    Amy discusses the impact a parent or guardian’s modeling has on their children. How we aren’t just influenced by how we’re treated, but also by how those adults treat themselves and others. This episode discusses: - Emotional neglect, immaturity, abuse - Parental modeling - Generational trauma - Breaking generational patterns - Common mistakes and flawed beliefs about childhood trauma. - Personal stories from Amy's life and how she copes and has healed. If you enjoyed this episode or past episodes of Connect The Dots B*tch, leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify to let us know! If this episode helped you, share it with a friend!

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    Post Traumatic Growth

    Amy shares about her personal growth after reflecting on her recent vacation. She tells stories about what she’s previously struggled with, offers insights into enhancing your communication and self-awareness and discusses extending others grace!

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    Shiadanni: A Fusion of Pain, Growth and Healing Through Creative Expression

    Shiadanni has become an online Icon for the Latin community, where she represents something that we never see; A powerful, glamorous, confident Mexican woman. She has made latinos proudly embrace their accent, their nationality and roots, which if everyone can agree, that is the true definition of being an influencer. With 5 million followers on TikTok, and 870,000 followers on Instagram, Shiadanni is growing her tribe, sharing genius comedy, or releasing her original music, she continues to give out pieces of her brain with the purpose of simply healing herself, while connecting with so many people on the way. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: - the healing properties of creative expression - the frustrations of being misperceived - creating healthy outlets for your anger - the fusion of pain, healing and growth through music and comedy - self-acceptance - creating a language with your fans - conforming vs. redefining success - feeling misunderstood - finding yourself late in life FOLLOW + CONNECT WITH SHIADANNI: Stream 'Stellar' new single out: shiadanni.ffm.to/stellarLook out for the upcoming single: 'Violent' INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/shiadanniTIKTOK: www.tiktok.com/@shiadanniYOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/@ShiadanniFACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100077408037756

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    Seek To Understand, Not Attack

    Amy gets curious about people's reactions, judgments and attacks on others and offers her insights, observations and thoughts as to what drives that behavior. She discusses the importance of managing your own thoughts, behaviors and feelings and being responsible for what you put out into the world. If you struggle with unleashing your emotions on others or have someone in your life who does this, this episode is for you! This episode discusses: - Emotional mismanagement - Mental/emotional boundaries - Emotional maturity - Productive, healthy ways to navigate people's unnecessary projections/reactions

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    The Challenge of Mental + Emotional Boundaries

    Amy discusses the challenges of setting and upholding those silent parameters you adhere to in your own mind and heart. The difficulties of working with thoughts and feelings versus tangible feedback when setting boundaries can be a huge challenge for highly sensitive individuals, empaths and trauma survivors. Listen as Amy shares her own personal struggles with mental and emotional boundaries and how she's learned and still learning to uphold them for herself! Episode discusses: - Mental + Emotional Boundaries - Being highly sensitive - Why most people struggle with 'unseen' boundaries. - How to 'mind your business' and not allow other people's struggles to consume you. If you're enjoying Connect The Dots B*tch, please leave a 5-start review on Apple or Spotify and click Subscribe!

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    Deison Afualo: Body Neutrality, Having Supportive Family, Breakups + Her 'Thank You Next' Era

    Deison Afualo is a talented and entertaining LGBTQ+ influencer who has made a name for herself on both Instagram and TikTok with her comedic rants and daily vlogs. Along with her sister Drew Afualo, she hosts a comedy podcast called "Two Idiot Girls," where they react to hilarious and embarrassing stories submitted by fans. Deison was also part of the highly successful "Two Idiot Girls Tour," where they sold out over 350 tickets per show. Her quick wit, humor, and relatable content have made her a popular figure among her followers and fans. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: - growing up in a healthy, supportive family environment - how mental health struggles aren't always rooted in childhood - navigating a breakup - being in her 'Thank You Next' Era - mental health struggles - body neutrality + healing the relationship to your body - practical steps for improving your self-esteem and self-worth - what a successful, supportive family does to maintain their connection - setting boundaries around social media and the harm of media consumption FOLLOW + CONNECT WITH DEISON: Deison will be attending VidCon 2023 as a speaker in June! Hear her speak and have a chance to meet her by grabbing your ticket to VidCon here: www.vidcon.com/anaheim INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/deisonafualo TIKTOK: www.tiktok.com/@deisonafualo STREAM 'Two Idiot Girls' Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-idiot-girls/id1554406108 STREAM 'Two Hot Takes' Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-hot-takes/id1553199104

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    Rebuilding Self-Trust

    In this week's episode, Amy deconstructs self-trust. She asks you to reflect on if you ever really had trust in yourself to begin with? Were you truly connected to the choices you were making in life and understanding of their value or were you disconnected and choosing what was modeled and taught to you. If you've ever felt a lack of self-trust or are trying to rebuild trust with yourself (or with others), this episode is for you! For more support on identifying your values and rebuilding that self-trust, as mentioned in the episode, enroll in: The Course for Trauma Survivors Setting Boundaries | amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/trauma-survivors-setting-boundaries This episode discusses self-trust, trust issues, healthy boundaries, childhood trauma, parenting, self-neglect, and rebuilding trust with others.

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    Noble Gibbens: Emotionally Clueless to EQ Gangster

    Amy invites her first-ever guest to the podcast! Noble is the person you'd least expect to be talking about feelings & emotions! An uncharacteristic fight with his wife a few years ago revealed a glaring issue: he was clueless when it came to handling his emotions.This West Point grad & former Army Ranger in the 82nd Airborne Division is now an EQ Practitioner and teaches Emotional Intelligence on his highly rated podcast, EQ Gangster, in his EQ Mafia Membership and through corporate coaching & consulting.Don't let the big beard & tattoos fool you - Noble is pure positive energy & passion! He brings 23 years' experience as an entrepreneur and international keynote speaker to help corporate clients, entrepreneurs, leaders & influencers get their emotions working for them, not against them. THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS: - healing from a people pleasing addiction - navigating the emotional transition as a parent as your child grows up - breaking generational trauma patterns - modeling, honoring and intentionally pushing your child's boundaries in a controlled environment - how boundaries are a form of emotional-management - the value of Noble's APED method - how emotions left unacknowledged will compound over time - "if you can name the emotion, you can tame the emotion." - Noble's top 3 supportive gestures in marriage and parenting LEARN MORE FROM NOBLE: EQ Mafia - a safe, supportive, encouraging, equipping community of people all working on their emotional fitness together, in community. https://www.eqgangster.com/mafia CONNECT WITH NOBLE: - IG: https://www.instagram.com/thenoblegibbens/ - LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/noble-gibbens-a2748323/ - FB: https://www.facebook.com/noble.gibbens - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWJkBGvkfH_BxHahuM8hTcw/videos

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    Trauma Triggers While In The Healthy Relationship

    In this final episode of season 6, Amy discusses what isn’t often talked about, navigating the trauma triggers while IN the healthy relationship. She riffs on her own dating and relationship journey, how triggers suddenly emerge and shares how her and her partner tackle them together. Tune in and take notes for this value-packed season finale! Leave a 5-star review if you’re enjoying the pod and make sure to subscribe to not miss out on the new format with GUESTS for Season 7 coming this April!

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    Small Problems to Big Problems

    Amy discusses the importance of actions and words aligning, what happens when they don’t and how that can feel and what that can ultimately turn into for a trauma survivor. She shares Mexico updates, her new hobby, mental/emotional boundaries when you’re a highly sensitive person and more!

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    Your Brain is Hardwired For The Negative

    In this episode, Amy is chats about her nervous system and what still activates it. The value of having new experiences, the importance of not placing a timeline on feeling safe or how far along you are in your healing. And she offers up a huge communication hack right at the end of the episode! Tune in and be sure to leave a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify if you’re enjoying these episodes.

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    What Growth Looks Like

    Amy celebrates her own growth and shares some life updates. She discusses the importance of celebrating yourself, validating your own growth and how to not be dependent on others to compensate for your deficits. To join Amy for a live webinar on Boundaries and Trauma Healing, March 3, reserve your seat at this link: https://www.therapeutichealingbyreese.com/events

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    Be Kind To Your Nervous System

    Amy shares the importance of understanding your nervous system and why it’s feeling dysregulated. She offers you valuable advice to enhance your self-awareness and somatic connection on healing, balance, reconnecting to your body, and her personal thoughts on copying what works for others. If you enjoyed this episode and others, be sure to leave a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify!

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    Whose Voice Is That?

    Amy shares her new realizations with you from her own personal growth journey and, did someone say tattoo?! They just might have! She also talks about why trauma survivors struggle with self-trust and feel disconnected from their own inner voice while offering you the steps to take to tap into yours. Are you constantly asking yourself what’s healthy or not? Is this a green flag or not? Then this episode is for you! And be sure to leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify if you’re enjoying these episodes!

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    The Foundation of a Safe Relationship

    Amy discusses what needs to be mutually desired within a relationship for a foundation of safety to be built. She shares her real life examples from safe and unsafe relationships, the emotions we attach to safety and what action steps you can take today to begin cultivating safety within your relationships! If you’re enjoying these episodes be sure to leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify and share what you love about the podcast so others can subscribe and listen too.

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    Identifying Your Trauma Triggers

    In this episode, Amy helps you learn how to identify your trauma triggers so life stops feeling like a minefield for you. She shares about how she manages some of her biggest triggers, what’s unfair to expect from others in dealing with your triggers and the steps you can take today to feel more in control of it all! If you’re enjoying these episodes, don’t forget to leave Amy a 5-star review on Apple or Spotify and let us know who you’d love for her to interview in upcoming episodes.

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    The Stigma of Anger

    Amy discusses the stigmatization of anger and why this emotion makes so many people uncomfortable. She shares her struggles with anger over the years, and offers guidance on how to not mismanage it!

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    Trauma Triggers I Healed After Entering a Safe Relationship

    Amy expands on a recent Instagram post (@amythelifecoach) and shares more about how she didn’t plan or prepare for the future, trust herself or know she feared abandonment until AFTER she entered a safe, supportive relationship. She discusses how not everything can be healed BEFORE having new, safe experiences and exactly what she did to move through them in her personal life! Episode discusses self-rejection, toxic relationships, building self-trust, how to navigate limiting beliefs, abandonment fears and upholding boundaries.

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    The Boundaries My Partner Sets with Me, a Trauma Survivor

    Amy shares about the boundaries her partner sets with her in their relationship and how they not only support (him) but also her in moving through her emotional trauma. Episode includes discussion of Personal Accountability, Supportive Communication, Co-Regulation, Safe Relationships, Upholding Boundaries.

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    Moving Through The Triggers + Healing The Wounds

    Amy shares her real life triggers from the holiday weekend and how she regulated, responded and moved through them. She discusses the importance of your Input and Output of energy and it’s impact on your nervous system. She closes this final episode of the year by sharing a HUGE full circle healing moment in her own life with you! Episode includes discussion on nervous system regulation, relationship healing, childhood trauma healing, coping and self-soothing, co-regulation and more.

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    Cultivating An Honest Relationship

    Amy discusses what goes into creating an honest relationship with others and with yourself. She offers you reflective exercises and action steps you can start taking today! Episode includes these additional topics: boundary setting, identifying behaviors you value, self-honesty and what that involves you to work on, personal stories from Amy relating to topics.

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    Setting Realistic Expectations Around Emotional Healing

    In this episode, Amy answers the questions “How long will this take,” “When will I feel better,” and “Why does it keep coming up for me?” She gives you a real, raw, honest look at what the emotional healing process looks like for different people! Episode discusses realistic timelines, therapeutic abuse of power, enabling, integrative healing, personal accountability + much more!

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    Turning Your Pain Into Power

    In this episode, Amy tells you how she mentally, emotionally and physically moves through the situations and events that trigger her, hurt her and anger her. She walks you through her personal mindset and why it’s gifted her freedom from many abusive and traumatic situations in her life.

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    Family Obligations + Holiday Challenges

    Amy dishes on her holiday celebrations and educates you on the tips and mindset shifts she uses to navigate the challenging environments and relationships during them. Episode discusses: Trauma, Staying Balanced, Input/Output of Energy, Self-Care, Difficult People, Family, Challenging Relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review on Apple or Spotify! New Connect The Dots B*tch Merch is available at amyfiedler.com

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    Peaceful Influences + Overstepped Boundaries

    Amy has subscribed to a new mindset in life but is also not immune to the struggles that exist in boundary setting with difficult people. She shares some (recent) personal stories about making excuses for certain people we love and how to stop! Episode includes topics on Boundaries with family, Breached Boundaries, Self-Respect, Trauma Recovery, Mindset Shifts, Gaslighting, Confidence & Authenticity.

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    Lessons I Learned After Trauma

    Amy expands on a recent social media post she shared about the lessons she has learned in life and her relationships after trauma and abuse. She digs into more context, nuance and the ‘meat’ of these experiences! Episode discusses Friendship, Accountability, Nervous System Regulation, Childhood Trauma, Toxic Relationships, Changing Behavior Patterns & much more!

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    Are You Doing To Others What You Don’t Want Done To You?

    Amy has a bone to pick with hypocrites this week and she let’s you in on how to self-examine and make sure your actions and words are aligned with what you say you value do you’re not being one too! Episode discusses Social Media & Mental Health, Boundary Setting, Hypocritical Behavior, Emotional Intelligence, Friendships/Relationships, Conscious Living.

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    The Formula For Finding Balance

    Amy is back from her birthday trip to Disney World with profound insights about finding balance in her life. What is the formula for it? She discusses that and more in this weeks episode! Episode discusses the Impact of your Environment on your Emotional Health, Boundaries, Overcoming Fear, Control Issues, Work/Life Balance. Don’t forget Amy is choosing a winner for the #14DaysOfMagic challenge on Nov.30. Use her code DOTS14 for 20% off your own order at magicmind.co/14daysofmagic .

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    Examining The Environmental Triggers

    Amy shares how your environments, television shows, the ways you connect with others, what you follow on social media can trigger your trauma and ripple out into your relationships. Boundaries go beyond your relationships and this episode tackles how, where and what to do about it! Episode discusses Trauma-Informed Boundary Setting, Trauma, Relational Trauma, Trauma Triggers, Holistic Healing Methods. To join Amy on the #14DaysOfMagic challenge, use her code DOTS14 for 20% off your own order at magicmind.co/14daysofmagic .

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

A podcast that delivers you an honest and alternative look inside your mental and emotional struggles. Expect Amy to deep dive on topics such as mainstream mental health, toxic relationships, communication faux pas, pop culture and social norms. Amy is a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Holistic Life Coach and Reiki Master Practitioner. If you are searching for understanding of yourself and others in your life, this podcast is for you.

HOSTED BY

Amy Fiedler

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A podcast that delivers you an honest and alternative look inside your mental and emotional struggles. Expect Amy to deep dive on topics such as mainstream mental health, toxic relationships, communication faux pas, pop culture and social norms. Amy is a Certified Trauma Support Specialist,...

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Connect The Dots B*tch is created and hosted by Amy Fiedler.
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