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Playing With Fire — 265 episodes · page 1 of 3
261 Can You Love More Than One Person and Still Feel Secure? Love, Grief, and Growth with Lunarosa Peralta
260 ‘I feel seen… but not by you’ – Metamours, Jealousy, and Differentiation
259 Getting Unstuck: How a Frozen Imagination Blocks the Relationship You Want
258 Patterns of Harm Need Patterns of Repair: Rethinking Closure
257 Conflict as Growth: Deepening Intimacy through Disagreement
256 Leaving High-Demand Religion and Exploring Non-Monogamy with Natasha Helfer
255 When should we start making agreements in NEW relationships?
254 How to Figure Out What You Want and Need: An Insider’s Experience of YOO
253 The Shadow of Compersion
252 Triad Life in a World of Couples with Margo, Jody & Chris
251 Trailblazing vs Following: The Hidden Dynamic That May Be Creating Resentment
250 Relationship Re‑Imagination: The Framework
[Replay] 194 Re-Imagining Relationships
249 Is Your Non‑Monogamy Actually Just Two Monogamies?
248 Beyond People-Pleasing: Practicing Healthy Autonomy in Relationships
247 Non-Monogamy, Mono-Mind: The Invisible Scripts Running Your Communication
246 We Opened up Too Fast. What Do We Do Now?
245 Check-Ins That Actually Work
244 But I Feel like I’m Gonna Die: What Happens When Agreements Meet Attachment Panic
243 Making Decisions Together: Permission, Consultation, and Notification in Relationships
242 Betrayal Repair in Non-Monogamy
241 Betrayal & Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert
[Replay] 222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships
240 The Alchemy of Erotic Jealousy & Compersion: A Reverse-Interview with Dr. Marie Thouin & Dr. Joli Hamilton
[Replay] 229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves
[Replay] 177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships
[Replay] 105 Shadow Work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?
[Replay] 164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method)
239 Radical Relating with Mel Cassidy
238 Thriving in Long-Distance Relationships
237 The Art & Practice of Shedding Mono-Normativity
236 Co-Creating Magnificent Sex
235 I Think I'm Polyamorous, But I'm in a Monogamous Marriage
234 How to Figure Out What You Want (And Why It’s So Damn Hard)
233 The Case for ‘Boring’ Polyamory
232 How to Keep Going When Non-Monogamy Feels Too Hard
231 The Holiday Survival Guide for Polyamorous People
230 Can Trauma Survivors Do Non-Monogamy?
229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves
228 “I Only Get the Hard Parts”: Living with Asymmetry in Polyamory and Life
227 Transforming Shame into Love with Jessica Fern and David Cooley
226 The Secret Sauce of Happy Non-Monogamy: Exquisite Transition Management
225 Fears, Hopes, and Aftercare: Preparing for Polycule Gatherings
224 Relationship Anarchy with Dr. Nicole Thompson
223 Recovering From Purity Culture with Lauren Elise Barnes
222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships
221 The Art of Reassurance: Relating Through Doubt and Fear
220 How to Finally Hear Each Other: Low vs. High Context Communication
219 A Patient Path into Non-Monogamy with Laura & Bill
218 What will opening up do to us?
217 Jealous right now? Listen to this.
216 Helping Your Partner Through an Intense Moment of Jealousy
215 Nurturing Established Relationship Energy
214 Defying Mononormativity with @Polyamarla
213 Psychedelics and Non-Monogamy with Dr. Nicole Thompson
212 Repair Skills
211 The Drama Triangle: How to Get Unstuck From Your Sticky Fights
210 Non-Monogamy Firsts: Managing Emotions When Your Partner Explores New Experiences
209 Transitioning from Swinging to Polyamory
208 Relationship Anarchy: Tailor-Making ALL Your Relationships with Annie Undone
207 Turning Goals into Self-Agreements
206 The Grief of Jealousy
205 Hierarchy or Priority?
204 Liminality: Your Key to Relationship Paradigm Shifting
203 Money & Non-monogamy: Skip This Episode at Your Own Peril
202 How do we maintain the relationship renaissance after opening up?
201 Lots of fish in the sea, how do I find mine?
200 Episodes Strong: What We've Learned About Love, Business, and Growth
199 Why Verbal Agreements Suck (And Why We Still Use Them)
198 Why does jealousy freak out the nervous system?
197 I Want What They’ve Got: Feeling Envy Towards Your Partner
196 Envy: How to Use It and How to Lose It
195 Help, I’ve Struck Gold: Handling NRE in Two Relationships
194 Re-Imagining Relationships
193 Beyond Good Intentions: Building True Integrity in Relationships
192 [Replay] What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas
191 [Replay] Turn your Toxic Attractions into Psychological Growth with Sunny Megatron
190 [Replay] Shadow work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?
189 [Replay] Can my attachment style do non-monogamy?
188 [Replay] Justice Jealousy
187 [Replay] Imago Dialogue: Transforming Conflict into Connection
186 Polyamory in the Second Half of Adulthood with Kathy Labriola
185 Conscious Uncoupling
184 Q&A Quickie: Why get married?
183 Pelvic and Sexual Health for Every Body with Dr. Ariana Cesare
182 Q&A Quickie: What should I do when my partner wants gender-based rules in non-monogamy?
181 Q&A Quickie: Privacy vs. Transparency—How do I feel safer?
180 Hyper-Individualism vs Healthy Autonomy: Am I The A**hole?
179 One Kid’s Reflection on Being Raised by Polyamorous Parents
178 The One to Share with Your Concerned Family Members
177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships
176 Dismantling Defensiveness
175 Coming Out as Non-Monogamous: Risks, Rewards, & How To Get Ready
174 Social Monogamy: The Impact of Maintaining Your Mono-Image
173 Getting off the Relationship Escalator (Or Choosing Not To)
172 Grieving Change: A Crucial Relationship Skill
171 Why Self-Agreements Will Make or Break Your Relationships
170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic
169 Q&A Quickie: Why am I having such a hard time sticking to my agreements?
168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin