All Episodes

243 Making Decisions Together: Permission, Consultation, and Notification in Relationships

242 Betrayal Repair in Non-Monogamy

241 Betrayal & Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert

[Replay] 222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships

240 The Alchemy of Erotic Jealousy & Compersion: A Reverse-Interview with Dr. Marie Thouin & Dr. Joli Hamilton

[Replay] 229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves

[Replay] 177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships

[Replay] 105 Shadow Work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?

[Replay] 164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method)

239 Radical Relating with Mel Cassidy

238 Thriving in Long-Distance Relationships

237 The Art & Practice of Shedding Mono-Normativity

236 Co-Creating Magnificent Sex

235 I Think I'm Polyamorous, But I'm in a Monogamous Marriage

234 How to Figure Out What You Want (And Why It’s So Damn Hard)

233 The Case for ‘Boring’ Polyamory

232 How to Keep Going When Non-Monogamy Feels Too Hard

231 The Holiday Survival Guide for Polyamorous People

230 Can Trauma Survivors Do Non-Monogamy?

229 Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves

228 “I Only Get the Hard Parts”: Living with Asymmetry in Polyamory and Life

227 Transforming Shame into Love with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

226 The Secret Sauce of Happy Non-Monogamy: Exquisite Transition Management

225 Fears, Hopes, and Aftercare: Preparing for Polycule Gatherings

224 Relationship Anarchy with Dr. Nicole Thompson

223 Recovering From Purity Culture with Lauren Elise Barnes

222 The Greater the Tension, the Greater the Potential: Individuating in Relationships

221 The Art of Reassurance: Relating Through Doubt and Fear

220 How to Finally Hear Each Other: Low vs. High Context Communication

219 A Patient Path into Non-Monogamy with Laura & Bill

218 What will opening up do to us?

217 Jealous right now? Listen to this.

216 Helping Your Partner Through an Intense Moment of Jealousy

215 Nurturing Established Relationship Energy

214 Defying Mononormativity with @Polyamarla

213 Psychedelics and Non-Monogamy with Dr. Nicole Thompson

212 Repair Skills

211 The Drama Triangle: How to Get Unstuck From Your Sticky Fights

210 Non-Monogamy Firsts: Managing Emotions When Your Partner Explores New Experiences

209 Transitioning from Swinging to Polyamory

208 Relationship Anarchy: Tailor-Making ALL Your Relationships with Annie Undone

207 Turning Goals into Self-Agreements

206 The Grief of Jealousy

205 Hierarchy or Priority?

204 Liminality: Your Key to Relationship Paradigm Shifting

203 Money & Non-monogamy: Skip This Episode at Your Own Peril

202 How do we maintain the relationship renaissance after opening up?

201 Lots of fish in the sea, how do I find mine?

200 Episodes Strong: What We've Learned About Love, Business, and Growth

199 Why Verbal Agreements Suck (And Why We Still Use Them)

198 Why does jealousy freak out the nervous system?

197 I Want What They’ve Got: Feeling Envy Towards Your Partner

196 Envy: How to Use It and How to Lose It

195 Help, I’ve Struck Gold: Handling NRE in Two Relationships

194 Reimagining Relationships

193 Beyond Good Intentions: Building True Integrity in Relationships

192 [Replay] What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas

191 [Replay] Turn your Toxic Attractions into Psychological Growth with Sunny Megatron

190 [Replay] Shadow work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?

189 [Replay] Can my attachment style do non-monogamy?

188 [Replay] Justice Jealousy

187 [Replay] Imago Dialogue: Transforming Conflict into Connection

186 Polyamory in the Second Half of Adulthood with Kathy Labriola

185 Conscious Uncoupling

184 Q&A Quickie: Why get married?

183 Pelvic and Sexual Health for Every Body with Dr. Ariana Cesare

182 Q&A Quickie: What should I do when my partner wants gender-based rules in non-monogamy?

181 Q&A Quickie: Privacy vs. Transparency—How do I feel safer?

180 Hyper-Individualism vs Healthy Autonomy: Am I The A**hole?

179 One Kid’s Reflection on Being Raised by Polyamorous Parents

178 The One to Share with Your Concerned Family Members

177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships

176 Dismantling Defensiveness

175 Coming Out as Non-Monogamous: Risks, Rewards, & How To Get Ready

174 Social Monogamy: The Impact of Maintaining Your Mono-Image

173 Getting off the Relationship Escalator (Or Choosing Not To)

172 Grieving Change: A Crucial Relationship Skill

171 Why Self-Agreements Will Make or Break Your Relationships

170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic

169 Q&A Quickie: Why am I having such a hard time sticking to my agreements?

168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin

167 Unfuck Your Monomind, Part 2

166 Q&A Quickie: How do I deal with my anxiety when my partner is on a date?

165 Monogamy, In This Economy? with Laura Boyle

164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method)

163 Playfulness, Vulnerability, and Parenting with Abbey & Liam from Evolving Love

162 Non-Monogamy & Community: Real Stories from YOO

161 Adopting a Polyamorous Lens with Alex Alberto, Author of Entwined

160 Getting Your Needs Met

159 Q&A Quickie: How can I handle my resentment that my partner isn’t into what I want?

158 Desire Discrepancy: What to Do When Your Wants Don’t Align

157 What Is Compersion? with Author Marie Thouin

156 Betrayal Trauma & Non-Monogamy

155 Q&A Quickie: How do we rebuild from lost trust?

154 Research-Backed Therapy for Non-Monogamous People with Dr. River Farrell

153 Limerence vs. New Relationship Energy

152 How to Take Intentional Relationship Breaks

151 Justice Jealousy

150 Asymmetric Agreements: How much balance should we strive for?

149 Relationship Agreements 101

148 Can my attachment style do non-monogamy?

147 How to Build Healthy Differentiation

146 Will non-monogamy make it possible to stay together?

145 How can I handle dysregulation in my relationships?

144 Handling Polyamory Problems: Q&A with Polywise Authors Jessica Fern and David Cooley

143 Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex in a Changing World with Author Dr. Eric FitzMedrud

142 Enmeshment: Are you over-functioning in your relationship?

141 Being Polywise with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

140 [Replay] Balancing Individuation & Secure Attachment with Polysecure Author Jessica Fern

139 Hinge Skills Part 2: How to Go From Squeaky Hinge to Skilled Tapestry Weaver

138 How can I be a better hinge partner?

137 Handling the Stress of Relational Growth

136 Help, I got poly-bombed!

135 Veto Power: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

134 Agreements, Boundaries, and Consequences

133 Doing the Relationship Work

132 Why am I not enough?

131 De-Escalating Relationships with Care

130 Turn Your Toxic Attractions Into Psychological Growth with Sunny Megatron

129 Imago Dialogue: Transforming Conflict into Connection

128 Unfuck Your Mono-Mind

127 Comperstruggle: When Jealousy & Compersion Collide with Dr. Marie Thouin

126 Finding Your People with the Hosts of Normalizing Non-Monogamy, Emma & Fin

125 The Jealousy Roadmap

124 Are you ready to bring your whole quirky self to your relationships? with Rachel Wright

123 Weasel Words and Creating More Intimacy in your Relationships

122 Get The Skills to Build your Own Relationship - With Guest Expert Carrie Jeroslow

121 Am I cut out for non-monogamy? Finding safety during your exploration

120 How do I break through relationship stagnation?

119 Soft Cock Week with guest expert Michelle Renee

118 Are there quick and easy ways to manage stress? A: Yes. With guest experts Elisabeth Kristof, Melanie Weller, and Matt Bush

117 Business and pleasure with Beth Hankes

116 Mindful Dating with guest expert Marie Thouin

115 The Nature of Relating with guest expert Megan Bhatia

114 Non-monogamy is a psychological growth lab: Are you ready?

113 How to do hard things & build exceptional love with Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert Elisabeth Kristof

112 Sex clubs and more with Ashley Weller from What's Your Position podcast

111 Build Your Relationship Toolkit with guest experts Dedeker, Emily & Jase of the Multiamory podcast

110 How surrogate partner therapy works with guest expert Brian Gibney

109 We Opened Up & EEK! What to do when exciting beginnings turn scary

108 What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas

107 Power dynamics for non-kinksters (part 2) How to share power when you were raised to be an entitled jerk & a martyr

106 The conversation that will change your life: Power dynamics for non-kinksters

105 Shadow work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?

104 Help! What can I do with all my feelings when my partner is on a date?

103 How to successfully ask your partner to explore non-monogamy

102 How to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community with guest expert Libby Sinback

101 Three ways of being polyamorous

100 Finding relationship happiness through creative projects

99 Balancing individuation & secure attachment with Polysecure author Jessica Fern

98 You're *too much*

97 Jealousy and sexual arousal: getting off on the green-eyed monster!

96 Which is better: To open from the start or to establish couplehood first?

95 Envisioning Your Dream Relationship

94 Romantic Friendships: Subversive & Awesome

93 [MOST POPULAR EPISODE replay] Relationship agreements in the wild

92 Finding help and hope during your shift from monogamy to polyamory

91 How to deal with criticism so it doesn't ruin your relationships with Dr. Jessica Higgins

90 How to make exciting relationship changes less scary

89 Which relationship style is right for you? Learn the taxonomy of non-monogamy

88 How do I build sensual & sexual desire?

87 Is polyamory practical? with guest Laura Boyle

86 Stop compromising in your intimate relationships.

85 How can I feel more compersion? with Dr. Marie Thouin

84 How to have happier relationships using Neuro-Somatic Intelligence

83 How to heal from jealousy and envy

82 Choosing an individuation relationship with or without your partner

81 Here's why we are Playing with Fire!

80 Creating conscious, compassionate, open relationships with guest author Kate Loree, LMFT

79 Expansive Intimacy with Jim Young, The Centered Coach

78 How, When & Why to Visit a Pleasure-Centered Shop with Beth Hankes from Earth & Salt

77 Naturally attract the partners you long for with guest Allana Pratt

75 Leaving purity culture for a life you love - with guest Lauren Elise Barnes

74 Why is my partner so weird? Wait, why am I so weird?

73 How to start building a designer relationship

72 How to be a classy visitor to a strip club with expert guest Elle Stanger, CSE

71 Doing what you said you'd do: When accountability works and when it doesn't

70 Guest Expert Megan Bhatia: Choosing Polyamory While Raising a Family

69 The Year Of Opening

68 Train Your Nervous System to Transform Your Relationships with Elisabeth Kristof

67 Exploring **Potential** Kinks

66 Who Started It? The Decision to Open Up

65 Relationship Agreement Skills - Shared Values & Relationship Purpose

64 Trust: Building and Rebuilding

63 Relationship Sabotage

62 Wounds & Apologies

61 Relational Individuation: On becoming your Self

60 Making FUN happen in long term relationships

59 What do I do with unrequited hots?

58 Anxiety when you are consensually non-monogamous

57 Affection and Non-sexual Intimacy

56 Creative Monogamy

55 Parenting While Polyamorous

54 Where do we learn the skills of adult friendships?

53 How to be happier when big changes threaten your marriage

52 Sex parties? Yes, sex parties.

51 Let's optimize our sex lives!

50 Where is envy secretly kicking your ass?

49 Using love languages to make the gift-giving season more pleasurable

48 Keeping sex hot over the long term

47 Nuanced Conversations in Polyamory: Secondaries, Solos, and Couple's Privilege

46 How, when, and why to CELEBRATE!

45 Silent agreement - One person's perspective on a sexless marriage

44 Three ways porn has brought us closer together

43 The missing ingredient in boundary work with guest Melissa Hite

42 It's normal to be a messy human in messy relationships. Really, it is.

41 Emotional regulation and co-regulation

40 How to have a productive consensual non-monogamy conversation

39 I want to be consensually non-monogamous: how do I talk to my partner?

38 How jealousy was the best thing that ever happened to me

37 Summer's over... negotiating how we handle getting back to the grind

36 Vacation sex at home

35 How not to let your relationship agreement screw up your relationship

34 Three ways masturbation improves your relationship

33 Individuation Accelerator: What if we don't keep the same beat in our relationship?

32 What do I do when my partner's family is driving me crazy?

31 Threesomes... what to consider before the fun

30 How to go from off-the-rack to custom-designed relationship

29 Letting your partner grow at their own pace

28 Showing up for your partner during heartbreak & grief

27 Relationship agreements in the wild

26 Doesn't this person ever leave?

25 No, really, who IS this person I love?

24 Do I really want my lover to see me?

23 Magic marriage ingredient: Play

22 Relationship flags - red, green, and otherwise

21 A secret weapon for relationship satisfaction

20 What an open relationship *might* look like

19 The shame of a messy beginning

18 Shame & secrecy (and sex!)

17 Sexual Fantasies

16 Relationship agreements and polyamory (or monogamy!)

15 What does intimacy look like if you are non-monogamous?

14 Why polyamory?

13 Celebrating and still learning

12 Feel like a failure when a relationship ends? 3 tools to help ease life's big transitions

11 Making money talk-aboutable

10 Navigating drastically different communication styles

9 Fighting with love...how we relearned how to argue

8 Sex reimagined...with one question

7 How to get what you want for the holiday (or any day!)

6 The courage to want

5 Relationship resilience for the holidays

4 Who the heck IS this person I love?

3 Boundaries at the holidays

2 Empowered relating & holiday stress

1 Wanting more in love (even at the holidays!)