Mindset in Mayhem

Here’s the truth: I’ve never loved goals. Too rigid. Too boxy. Too much pressure to “get it right.” And yet… without a destination, a map, or even the hint of a treasure, I end up going nowhere.So how do you set goals when your rebel brain pushes back every time?In this short episode, I share:* The importance of direction * Why minimum and maximum goals create freedom (and motivation) instead of resistance* A simple way to break down resistance and move forward when you are unsure of the best stepThis is for you if you’ve ever set a goal, abandoned it, or felt like a failure for changing direction. Listen in. Show up. Do something small. Seriously with the right strategy, your rebel brain can work for you, not against you to keep moving toward your own version of treasure.Work with me: www.MindsetinMayhem.comStalk me:Instagram: @MindsetinMayhem YouTube: @MindsetinMayhem Pinterest: @MindsetinMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

This episode is a quick but powerful reminder that mindset and your thoughts are the ultimate bio hack. See, your thoughts not only create emotions, they create real responses in your body and life. After looking at research, here’s what you need to know:In this episode, you’ll learn:* How different thoughts create different physiological responses in your body.* Why the way you think about stress changes how your body reacts.* How your beliefs about food and exercise literally influence your body chemistry.* A reminder from research: your thoughts become your reality.Tune in, notice your thoughts, and start consciously creating the body and life you want.Resources mentioned:Stress TED Talk: How to make stress your Friend | Kelly McGonigal https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEUOther podcasts:Research mentioned from: Stanford University Alia Crum | Associate Professor of Psychology This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Jo Fiddy and Carla Mardell live on opposite sides of the planet.Neither calls her birth country home anymore.Both became mothers later in life. And both bring women are EFT Master Practitioners with a rare blend of knowledge, lived experience, and deep dives into life’s big transitions. Together they share their own journeys and a desire to vibe higher, overcome challenges, and create more bliss in this one precious life, no matter what gets thrown their way.Tune in to hear how tapping has transformed their own lives by dissolving stuck stories, releasing old patterns, and bringing more focus, patience, presence, that has allowed them to have more ‘glitter’ - vitality, grounding, and growth. Carla and Jo don’t just teach a tool or hold space, they embody it, showing up in life’s mayhem and reality with the energy of what is possible.Want EFT Tapping Scripts Now? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Lisa’s in one corner of the world. Carla’s in the other.We chit-chat starting with the relatable chaos of shouting “Fin!” to kids at the beach in Australia and why it's probably not a great idea.Then we get to the good stuff (so hang in there)…What happens when life or your actions rub you the wrong way.It’s not pretty. The body tracks a tanty. Thoughts become doom spirals.You snap. You cringe. You regret.And instead of being that person you want to be, you’re caught in the cycle again.We’ve been there. More than once.And the worst part? It feels like it just happens to you. Like you don’t have a choice.But what if that friction is actually data - your body and emotions showing you something useful?That’s what we explore: lived experience, research-backed approaches, and simple ways to notice the friction, learn from it, and respond differently.Enjoy!And because talking only goes so far, we floated the idea of the Beta Sand-in-Your-Knickers Journal Journey, a 6-day experiment where you get to journal, shake out the grit, and test what actually works in real life coming from Master’s research and our client work! To get more details subscribe below…Connect with Lisa Bolin | Flucking FlourishingStalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabolin_flourish/Connect With Carla Mardell | Mindset in MayhemStalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Other resources you may like…Access Flucking Flourishing Courses PodcastsEP16| The Power Hidden in Moments of CringeEP 18 | The Gap Between Expectation and RealityEP20 | When Thoughts Become Things, Awareness Is Everything This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Do You Outsource Your Energy and Happiness?I get it. I used to believe other people’s actions controlled how I felt.Praise and I was up. Criticism and I was down.“They did this, so I feel like this.”That pattern runs deep. Families teach it. Schools reinforce it. Society echoes it. And marketing? It engineers it until it feels normal.But here’s the truth: your happiness isn’t in someone else’s hands.Not your boss, your partner, your kids, or your friends.Your only circle of control is you - your actions, your perspective, your perception of the world.In this episode, we’ll explore:* How to spot when you’re outsourcing your happiness* Why the lens you view things through may be filtering events to make you unhappy* A strategy to direct your energy so it doest drain you* How to amplify and move towards more of what you desire by reclaiming your focus* Real-life examples showing how two people can live the same event but walk away with completely different storiesThis isn’t about ignoring frustration or pretending everything’s fine.It’s about adjusting your focus.When you own your perspective and stop outsourcing your joy, you become luminous. Enlivened. Grounded and free.Resources Mentioned:YouTube channel: @mindsetinmayhem EFT Tapping Sequence: When Your are Tired of Cooking Dinner Every nightWant more?Follow Mindset in Mayhem on Instagram @mindsetinmayhemDownload The Art of Saying No | 28 Reasons To Say No:https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/saynoCarla Mardell is a EFT Master, growth mindset and emotional intelligence coach working with busy humans to reclaim their glow, flow and mojo. See more at www.mindsetinmayhem.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

This isn’t just about 3am thoughts. It’s for the thoughts that create mayhem in your mind, the ones that send you into doom spirals. Because we all have those pesky thoughts that lead nowhere. Nada. Zero.They drain our energy, keep us stuck and pull us down into worry. If your thoughts are loud and wiggly, this episode will help you evict them, and replace them with something that opens you to a map towards potential and possibility, while giving you back your energy.You’ll learn:* Why revisiting the past is an energy drain* How future thinking doesn’t have to mean anxiety or stress* The difference between catastrophising and intentional thinking* The single and simple thought change that flips the stories you tell yourself* How to prepare yourself for a better outcomePlus, I’ll give you a sneak peek into my new course, The Uncertainty Detox | a 5-day toolbox to help you move from catastrophising to calm capacity using emotionally intelligent strategies and EFT.Links + Resources* Join the waitlist for The Uncertainty Detox: a toolbox to manage changehttps://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertainty * Listen to Podcast Episode 22 | Thoughts Become Things, Awareness Is Everything* Connect with me on Instagram: @mindfulnessinmayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

We want the that thing.We want the benefits that come with the thing.But we just don’t want to do the work. We don’t want to feel uncomfortable. We don’t want to be a beginner. We don’t want to sweat. We don’t want to flex. We don’t want to use the time. We don’t want to learn new systems and processes.In this episode, we explore the aspect of willingness, how it spans the gap between wanting and doing, initiating the ‘doing’ and why creating the ‘willingness’ actually moves you toward what you want in life.* Why wanting is easy, and safe, but doesn’t create change* How willingness is the real game-changer, starting with honesty and self-compassion* The art of taking action, even when you’re not motivated, inspired, or perfect* Why building around your life, not what someone else thinks you should, is the key to sustainable change* How choosing short-term discomfort can lead to long-term joyThis isn’t about discipline or perfection. It’s about showing up in your messy, human, imperfect life, and building momentum. One honest, real choice at a time.EFT YoutubeTapping Resources: Dissolve Procrastination and Gain Motivation This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

How many times was I told about awareness before I actually got it.Thats because no-one made it easy. And trust me it is. You’ve done way harder things. So why is awareness actually awesomeness, well you can’t change what you’re not aware of. Those thoughts running in the background? They’re quietly shaping your reality, your relationships, your energy. Once You’re aware of them, then you get choose which thoughts stay and which thoughts go! When you learn to notice instead of just react, you create choice. And with choice comes quite some freedom.Because once you see the thought, you can choose differently.We’ll talk about:* How unconscious patterns shape your day-to-day reality* The difference between noticing a thought and being ruled by it* Why awareness is the first step before any change can happen* Thoughts and self talk creates omore of the same and we can rewire that affecting us at a cellular level* Questions to redirect and bring awareness to patterned behaviour that is creating mayhem in your worldEvery 10th episode is about ‘a modality I have tried so you don’t have too’, and this isn’t a modality, it’s a powerfully transformative life skill - awareness. To notice what’s really going on in your head, without judgment. Because the moment you shine light on those hidden thoughts, you open up space for freedom, calm, and new possibilities.Listen in and comment, like and share below XJoin The 5 Day Uncertainty Detox…https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertaintyOther Podcast Resources Mentioned in this EpisodeWork with me: www.MindsetinMayhem.comStalk me:Instagram: @MindsetinMayhem YouTube: @MindsetinMayhem Pinterest: @MindsetinMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

We’ve all heard the mantra: slow down, savor the moment, live slowly.It sounds beautiful. But what if the way “slow living” is being sold is actually making you feel more guilt, anxiety, and less calm?In this episode, I’m flipping the script on slow living.I’ll take you inside:* Why the Instagram version of slow mornings and curated rituals doesn’t fit real life (and how that gap between expectation and reality is where stress sneaks in).* My own story of living both extremes, the days of yoga and sunshine rituals in Bangkok expat life vs. the messy, rushed mornings of motherhood and real life.* What regulation actually looks like: not perfection, not one pace, but presence and choice.Think Bruce Lee’s wisdom: Be like water.Fast. Slow. Still. Flowing. Adapting to what life actually asks of you.And if life feels like it’s rushing faster than your nervous system can keep up, I’ve created something that can help — The 5-Day Uncertainty Detox. https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertaintyIt’s simple, powerful, and designed for real life. You’ll find all the details in the show notes.Press play. Let’s unhook from the “shoulds” of slow living and find your real rhythm.X Carla Resource Links From The PodcastJoin the 5 Day Uncertainty Detox here or access to waitlist: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertaintyMindset and Mayhems EFT YouTube channel with EFT Tutorials: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhemMindset in Mayhem The Podcast: Episode 18 | The Gap Between Expectation & Reality This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

There’s a Byron Katie quote I love: “When you argue with reality, you lose - only 100% of the time.”And it’s true every single time.But here’s what most people miss: the argument with reality isn’t just out loud, it’s in your head. Every time you think, “This should’ve gone differently” or “They shouldn’t do this,” you’re in that invisible tug-of-war with what is not. And the currency you pay in? Emotion and energy. There is no bigger time suck!What You’ll Learn in This Episode:* Why every negative emotion comes from the gap between expectation and reality* How invisible rules and “should” thinking create unnecessary suffering* The sneaky ways we buffer and run from emotions and why it never works* The 4 choices you always have when reality doesn’t match your expectations* In this episode, I’ll show you why emotions aren’t the enemy—they’re indicators. You’ll learn how to stop arguing with reality and start reclaiming energy and peace through awareness, compassion, and practical tools you can use right now.This isn’t about giving up or settling. It’s about stepping into agency and using your incredible creative mind to make deliberate choices, so you can stop leaking energy into arguments you can’t win.Download the Art of Saying No | 28 Essential Reminders to Say No With Easehttps://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/saynoConnect with Mindset in MayhemBook Your 3 sessions to step into potential and possibility of 1 to 1 EFT Practitioner Tapping : https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/eft3Stalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Follow on Pinterest: https://au.pinterest.com/MindsetinMayhem/Tap-along on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhemwww.mindsetinmayhem.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Fun isn’t a luxury.It’s not some reward you get for ticking all the boxes or holding it all together.Fun is fuel.It regulates your nervous system, reconnects you to presence, and reminds you that joy isn’t frivolous, it’s foundational.In this episode, we unpack:* Why fun is one of the most underestimated forms of self-responsibility* Why research endorses fun over professionalism for creativity, productivity and longevity.* What it means to let yourself feel good just because.* Fun is not a trade off for wellbeing.No outcome required.No productivity badge earned.Just a simple invitation: find something fun, and do it. For you.Because you’re allowed to enjoy being alive.Mentioned Podcast…Podcast Episode 4 SELF-CARE FUEL, NOT FLUFFMentioned FREE E Book How to have more self care without adding to your to do list - download:Authentic Selfcare For Busy Women https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/authentic-selfcare-for-busy-womenConnect With Mindset in Mayhem Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

We all want to the best, most likeable version of a human. But doesn’t come from pretending to be someone else or polishing yourself into perfection. It comes from the awkward moments. The ones where you own mistakes, admit what you don’t know, or let people see the real you. That’s the goldmine. It’s what builds like-ability, trust, and charisma. It’s what lets you step up as your most dynamic yourself, add real value - if you let it. This episode is about those times you say the wrong thing, over-explain, or replay a conversation in your head for days. The moments you want to edit out.Here’s what you’ll hear:* Why those awkward moments are proof you’re stretching and growing* How clarity often hides behind discomfort, not polished perfection* Why emotional honesty in the cringe creates more freedom than shame ever willIf you’ve looked back and cringed at your behaviour, good. That’s not failure. That’s feedback. And the more willing you are to care about those awkward moments, the clearer your next step becomes.Let me show you why…Other podcasts mentioned:Connect with Mindset in Mayhem Come and work with me 1 to 1 - Book your 3 sessions to step into potential and possibility with 1 to 1 sessions: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/eft3Stalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Follow on Pinterest: https://au.pinterest.com/MindsetinMayhem/Tap-along on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

The Art of Saying No | The Essential Guide to Cultivate Saying No SkillsDownload a copy here: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/sayno Episode 15 ShownotesEvery so often, the best plans go up in flames. Most of us meet that gap between expectation and reality with overwhelm, frustration, or guilt, especially when juggling family, work, and everything in between. But what if you could meet that gap with grace instead of grind?In this episode, I share how I navigated a chaotic week with shifting priorities, and how to see emotions as data, not disasters. You’ll discover the simple shifts that kept me grounded, and what I teach my clients too - learn to identify the gap that creates overwhelm and the practical steps to move through it without losing yourself.What You’ll Learn:* How the gap between expectation and reality fuels overwhelm.* Why emotions come with stories, and why those stories aren’t always true.* A 6-step process to feel emotions in your body so you can act rationally, not reactively.* How expanding your emotional vocabulary creates more choice and clarity.* Why self-kindness in the gap is your secret weapon.This episode is for you if:* You’re tired of feeling like life’s chaos defines you.* You want tools to stay centered when plans fall apart.* You’re ready to create more ease without sacrificing what matters.* WANT MORE?Download The Art of Saying No | The essential guide to cultivate the skill of saying nohttps://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/sayno Other episodes you may like:Resources & Links:* Follow me on Instagram @mindfulnessinmayhem* Explore my EFT and self-care tools for emotional first aid.Next Step: If this episode resonated, share it with a friend. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Let’s talk about something that’s burning so many women out, especially mums:Saying YES when we mean NO.We keep saying yes because you don’t want to disappoint. You fear someone will be upset, disappointed even. You worry others will judge you as lazy or selfish or not part of the team, and you’ve been conditioned to believe that busy equals valuable.But here’s the truth: Not saying no is costing you - your energy, your patience, and your presence. While this podcast is part of a duo of two for mums in the school holidays, it is essential listening for anyone that finds themselves feeling ‘huffy’ for saying yes to what doesn’t matter, and never having time for what does matter or themselves.In this episode, you’ll find:-Why we fear saying no (and how it’s wired into us)-How saying no in a safe environment actually builds resilience in kids (and adults, because they are big kids), not trauma-The cultural lie that doing more makes you more worthy-How old people-pleasing patterns are keeping you stuck and exhaustedAnd I’ll give you a simple tool you can use straight away:The 3-Question Pause Before Every Yes.Because when you start saying no. calmly, kindly, and with self-respect, and trust that you are enough.Because…Your worth isn’t measured by how much you do.Your kids need your presence, not your perfection.And you are allowed to say no.How about sharing the love with another amazing women juggling all the things? Resources in this podcast:Nathan Wallis NEUROSCIENCE EDUCATOR- https://www.nathanwallis.comGrab the free guide The Art of Saying No (plus cheerleading emails to help you put it into practice) here: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/saynoFollow Mindset in Mayhem on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhemCarla Mardell, creator of Mindset in Mayhem, teaches busy women how to get off the mouse wheel of busy, flip the thoughts that keep them stuck, and find calm- even with careers, kids, and lives chaos in the mix.She blends EFT with emotionally intelligent tools that actually work- so that you can stress less, reclaim your time, and feel more like yourself again. You know glow, flow and bring back some mojo! No healing pits of misery. No 5am rituals. Just real change, in the moment, without the flaming hoops, because life can be mayhem, but your mind doesn’t have to be. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

In reverence to school holidays, I’m dropping two podcast episodes focused on motherhood, because no matter how old your children are, this work still carries weight.We all carry patterns, beliefs, habits, and emotional reactions that were never really ours to begin with. And yet, they shape how we show up as parents.(They also affect how we show up as partners and in the workplace, so even if you’re not in the trenches of parenting sprogletts young or old, this episode applies)In this one, we explore what it really takes to become the parent you’ve always wanted to be and parent or come at relationships from the heart.Spoiler: it’s not about routines, breathing deep or more willpower. It’s about knowing yourself.You’ll hear:* Why self-awareness is your most powerful parenting tool* How old emotional patterns sneak into your reactions* What "autopilot parenting" looks like, and how to shift it to be intentional* The three-step process to stop a reaction before it spirals* How to break generational cycles that come with stories and big emotions in real time* And how this work ripples out - not just into your parenting, but into your work, your relationships, your ability to set boundaries and lead with clarityYou don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to heal it all before bedtime. But you do have the power to pause, reflect, and respond differently, starting today.Mentioned in this episode:Link for 1 to 1 EFT Tapping Sessions to shift parenting patternshttps://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/eft3Follow on instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/If this episode resonates, forward it to a friend, re-stack or leave a comment- it helps other women find tools that actually shift the dial. You are welcome. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

You know that moment when you open your wardrobe... and everything just stares back at you? Clothes you bought for a version of yourself you haven’t been in years. Trends you hoped would spark joy but ended up gathering dust. That quiet frustration of getting dressed feeling like a chore instead of a celebration?This conversation with Emma John, founder of Sisterhood of Style, is an antidote to all of that. It’s not about fashion. And it’s definitely not about hiding.It’s a power move for being grounded in yourself in what life throws your way -whether that’s the identity shift of motherhood or a cancer diagnosis in the middle of a global pandemic. It’s using Emma’s dopamine dressing formula as a tangible tool to bring light, colour, fun and energy back into your life, even when it’s mayhem. It’s a daily activity turned into a practice - one that starts in your wardrobe... and ripples into how you show up everywhere else.IN THIS EPISODE:– The messy magic of real-life style– Why confidence isn’t born in the mirror-it’s revealed there– Letting go of ‘shoulds’ and dressing for who you are now– Clothing as self-care (without adding more to your to-do list)– The sacred power of colour, fun, and clothes that feel like a “yes”– How to create a wardrobe full of allies-not energy-drainersThis one’s for you if:– You feel invisible in your clothes (or overwhelmed by them)– You want to feel like yourself again, but don’t know where to start– You’re tired of overthinking what to wear– You’re craving a simpler, more soul-aligned way to dressYour wardrobe isn’t supposed to stress you out.It can support you—gently, beautifully, and with joy. Reach out below and let it begin.And,,,, While style often a form of self-care another message from Emma is GET YOUR BREASTS CHECKED because that’s not just self-care it’s an essential 💗CONNECT WITH EMMA JOHN AND SISTERHOOD OF STYLE:Website: sisterhoodofstyle.comInstagram: @sisterhoodofstylenz CONNECT WITH CARLA Instagram: @mindsetinmayhem EFT Scripts: The EFT Self Love Kit | Guided EFT Scripts and Audio DownloadYouTube: @mindetinmayhemLife can be mayhem, but your mind doesn’t have to be. Get the podcast and insights to cut through life’s mayhem delivered to your inbox. You’re welcome. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

**Language Warning - I say A-hole**Let’s be real. At some point, someone’s going to dislike you.Not because you were rude. Not because you were wrong.But because you told the truth.You set a boundary.You chose yourself.In this episode, we unravel what it really means to be “the arsehole” in someone else’s story—and why that’s often a sign you’re growing, not failing. We talk shadow work, EFT, and the quiet power of not rushing to fix how others feel about you.Because integrity isn’t always cute.Sometimes it’s gritty.Sometimes it gets misunderstood.And still—it’s worth it.If you’re done walking on eggshells and ready to reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide, this one’s for you.I’ll also share why EFT is one of the most efficient, transformative tools I’ve found for turning discomfort into clarity, and judgment into genuine self-trust.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Pinterest: https://au.pinterest.com/MindsetinMayhem/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

Every tenth episode, I bring you behind the curtain- into the real tools I use, return to, and live by.This weeks modality ? Tapping. Specifically, Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as EFT tapping. A practice that, quite literally, rewired how I respond to life.In this episode, I’m sharing the full story:* The surprising night I discovered EFT (spoiler: it wasn’t at a yoga retreat)* How tapping helped me shift deep anger into clarity and peace* What the science now says about EFT (we’re talking brain rewiring, cortisol reduction, and serious emotional regulation)* Why this isn’t just “woo” or mindset fluff - but a somatic technique that gets underneath resistance* How it’s helped my clients move through guilt, rage, shame, procrastination, people-pleasing, and performance pressureWhether you’re in high alert mode, stuck in emotional cycles, or just feeling like something’s off—this is your sign that there’s another way. A way that doesn’t require perfection or more pushing. Just presence.Access the Masterclass & Replay (or waitlist for the next one): https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/calmBook 3 sessions of 1 to 1: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/eft3Read the research: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/eftresearchInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/Pinterest: https://au.pinterest.com/MindsetinMayhem/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

You tell yourself stories every day. Quiet ones. The ones that sound harmless - “I don’t have time,” “I’m not enough,” “This is just how life is.” But those stories? They’re the invisible scripts running your whole life.In this episode, we dive deep into how those subtle self-talk stories shape how you show up, and how they keep you stuck in overwhelm, exhaustion, and frustration. The stories you believe become your limits. But what if you could rewrite them?You’ll learn:* How the stories you don’t notice control your energy and your choices* Why changing your self-talk is the key to breaking free from burnout and chaos* How to spot the stories that no longer serve you, and why they’re so hard to see* Practical tools to flip your narrative and reclaim your power* How EFT tapping helps soften those old beliefs and make space for a new storyIf you’re ready to stop running on autopilot and start choosing stories that allow you to flourish into all your an be - listen in.Join the 5 day Bust The Busy Myth | Calm and Collected experience: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/calmFollow on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

When life gets loud and chaotic (and let’s be real, it does), that magic? It gets buried under the “shoulds,” the pressure to be perfect, and the weight of holding it all together without ever really understanding your own blueprint.This episode is a real-talk, trial-by-fire conversation between Mel from RISE HUMAN DESIGN and Carla Mardell—two Line 3/5s - the great experimenters who bump into things to rebuild them better. The profile that is a grounded visionary leader turning their personal trial and error processes into collective wisdom so others don’t have to fall as hard - if you let them…This is the profile line that just doesn’t bounce back - they transform through experience, making them some of the most adaptive, and impact-driven profiles in Human Design. They gather wisdom in the trenches and pass it on in ways that shift systems, heal families, and reimage systems.We’re pulling back the curtain on: * Why confidence and emotional clarity can be found in your human design and understanding your energetic wiring * Why self-trust grows when you stop trying to fit the mold and start living from your design * What trial-and-error really teaches (beyond the Instagram quotes) * How the 3/5 profile plays out in relationships, parenting, biz, and self-trust We’re not handing out answers. We’re handing you how we have embraced our design to mine for gold nuggets - the messy edges, real-life examples, and all. Because you don’t need fixing. You just need to recognise your natural brilliance in your human design and trust it. Ready to hear what Human Design reveals when two 3/5s take off the mask and speak the truth? Human Design isn’t just a chart. It’s a mirror, a compass, and a permission slip to stop fixing yourself and start trusting your path. Use code CARLA20 for a special discount on your own unique Human Design Blueprint with Mel at RISE HUMAN DESIGN. Get your human design blueprint here: https://risehumandesign.com/get-your-chart Follow Mel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/risehumandesign/ Follow Carla on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/ Visit Carla’s Website: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

The first step in choosing a career you actually enjoy?Knowing yourself.The first step in being truly productive—not just busy?Knowing yourself.The first step in having deep, nourishing relationships?Knowing yourself.The first step in making wise investments?Knowing yourself.The first step in parenting with less guilt and more presence?Knowing yourself.We’re unpacking the ancient phrase “Know thyself” and giving it a modern, no-fluff twist.Not for philosophers—for people like you who are done being driven by patterns they didn’t choose.We’re turning inward, starting to think about our thinking, and questioning what truth really means to us—not just what we’ve been told to believe.We’ll explore:• Where “know thyself” came from—and why humans have always craved self-understanding.• Why knowing yourself is a power move—for your decisions, your emotions, and your sense of direction.• How to actually begin—without sitting on a mountain or chanting mantras—with a practical, grounded approach to observing your mind.Know thyself isn’t a slogan.It’s a quiet rebellion to self.And it starts here.Link to Website: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.comLink to Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

“When you stop judging everything as good or bad - you stop judging yourself as good or bad too”You’ve journaled. Affirmed. Reframed. Held your tongue. Stayed kind. Kept the faith.You followed the rules. Worked on yourself. Tried to stay positive.And yet—there’s still that feeling.Tight. Loud. Unsettled. Like something essential has been missed..In this episode, we explore:– Why beliefs can be both the key and the cage– A yoga-inspired lens that sees light in the dark, and dark in the light– The hidden weight of judgment—especially when it’s dressed as optimism– How releasing the grip on “good” vs “bad” soothes your nervous system– A gentler way to meet your mind when it’s feeling righteous or restlessThis is your space to pause. To get honest. To feel into what no longer fits.Because here’s the quiet inner truth:The person who wrote the rules you’ve been living by?They weren’t writing them for you.They belonged to another time. Another set of expectations.And now—you get to write your own.With more breath.More softness.And a whole lot more flexibility.It’s time to stop labelling.And start letting it be.Download free resources here: www.mindsetinmayhem.com Follow on Instagram /mindsetinmayhem This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

This episode is for the woman who’s ever whispered, “There’s never enough time.”It’s not another time management hack. Not another thing to add to your list.We’re going deeper—into the invisible beliefs shaping your entire relationship with time to stop the rush and constant worship of the clock hands.Together we’ll explore how old patterns the way you speak about time keep you stuck in busy—and how to shift into a rhythm that feels deeply yours.You’ll learn how to:• Reclaim your time by dropping the word busy• Replace draining “shoulds” with aligned, embodied choices• Stack habits that nourish rather than deplete• Turn wait time into you timeThis is your invitation to unsubscribe to the glorification of busy, and reshape how time feels in your body, your schedule, and your soul.Download THE ART OF SAYING NO in the free resources section: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

If you're not getting self-care moments it's not because you’re disorganised. It's not because you're broken. You've likely got an idea that self-care is an opening night performance - needing perfection... What if you stopped trying to fit into ‘should do’ routines that never truly fit you? Maybe it’s about discovering that often the best self-care is not in the glow, but in the grit. The stuff you already do…Listen for real insights to stop chasing perfection and start living with what is meaningful - to you.This episode isn’t about building habits. Understand how to change self-care from being a fantasy and bring it into your actual schedule.Listen to explore:– Why perfect routines don’t work in real life (and what to do instead)– What true self-care really looks like (hint: it’s not always pretty)– How to create rhythm that flexes with your energy and cycle of womanhood– The one mindset shift that turns daily tasks into acts of wellbeingSelf-care isn’t something you need to escape your life to do.The best self-care in that that lives inside your life.Get the FREE e-book AUTHENTIC SELF-CARE FOR BUSY WOMEN https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/authentic-selfcare-for-busy-womenLet this podcast be the refresh button on nourishing yourself!Website | www.mindsetinmayhem.com INSTAGRAM | https://www.instagram.com/mindsetinmayhem/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

You’re always thinking, planning, fixing, reacting… but when was the last time you actually felt present in your own life? This one’s for the woman who’s doing it all—and quietly running on empty.It’s your pause-and-reset moment when your brain feels like it’s juggling 47 tabs at once, and you’re caught in a loop of overthinking, anxiety, procrastination, or overwhelm.We’ll explore the quiet chaos of mental load, why waiting for calm never works, and how to reclaim space in your mind, body and life. You’ll learn what mental loops are, how they’re formed, why they drain you—and how to begin loosening their grip.This isn’t another time-management pep talk or hustle checklist. This is an invite of disruption. A call-in. Because if you’ve been waiting for life to calm down before doing more of what you love, with the people you love—it’s time to try a different way.This episode shows you how to begin having less chaos and more calm—right here, right now—in whatever phase of life or mess you’re in.You don’t need more hours in the day.You just need a different entry point.Want more follow on instagram or visit the website www.mindsetinmayhem.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

In this episode, I share how certain skills - at any age-can help you see the opportunities in front of you. Ones that create the most change and allow for the most growth. We often move too fast to notice what’s already unfolding. But when we slow down, we begin to see with fresh eyes—and opportunities we’d overlooked suddenly become obvious.Inside, we explore:— How working with 6 year olds, showed that 36 year olds and 56 year olds (in fact all ages) all operate with the same skills— Why your past experience creates a chance to evolve— The 4 types of opportunity and how to recognise them— What blocks you from seeing what’s right in front of youThis isn’t about pushing. It’s about pausing.No pressure, just an invitation to receive.X CarlaResources + more at www.mindsetinmayhem.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com

In this episode, I share how deeply our mindset shapes our reality.Not in a fluffy, “just think positive” kind of way—but in the real, felt way that our nervous system responds to the stories we believe.The way you perceive yourself, your day, your capacity, your worth—it all roots back to belief.We talk about:— How perception and belief shape your lived experience— Why ‘mindset work’ is more than just affirmations— The way my body mirrored the beliefs I held— Why worrying is optionalYou’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why your inner stories matter—and how changing them is the beginning of changing everything else.No pressure to be perfect. Just permission to get curious.www.mindsetinmayhem.comFollow on Instagram This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mindsetinmayhem.substack.com