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Most people rely on willpower to stop bad habits but willpower is finite and we either end up folding or even if it works in one area we find ourselves creating new bad habits in other areas.In this episode I will explain why.Link to the YouTube videohttps://youtu.be/Q2sWdl7OIeMJonny

In this episode I am going to discuss what I believe to be the downsides of this approach.Our brain works on reward and when we start rewarding ourselves for activities we find hard to do then we end up making the activity harder in the long run.Would love your thoughts about this.Link tot he YouTube videohttps://youtu.be/DOJ_uWldE0E

So often we feel disappointed and frustrated because things haven't worked out as we thought they would.What we don't realise is that we are the cause of that negativity. We think it is reality that is the problem but actually it was our expectation that was incorrect.Our expectation is an imagined future. It doesn't exist, we have just projected what we think the outcome and the path to that outcome should be.It's the gap between expectation and reality that causes us the real pain.On the flip side, when reality is better than expected we feel really good. This is because dopamine is released in the brain when our reality is better than what we expected.When reality does not measure up to expectation our brain signals to stop releasing dopamine and this is where the discomfort comes from. To watch the YouTube clip click the link below.https://youtu.be/UZopj79pT7w

Today's is a short and sharp episode on how to stop procrastinating.When you understand that it comes from the brain you are onto a winner.To watch the YouTube clip then follow the link below:https://youtu.be/CPdFK62Q0J4

The two darts is a Buddhist concept that describes how pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.The first dart is the unavoidable pain of life, both physically and emotionally. This is unavoidable and we will all experience it.The second dart is the suffering that we add by the way we frame the pain we are experiencing. This part is optional.Often we throw second darts when first darts haven't even been thrown.Take control of your second darts and watch your life improve.

So many of us are feeling a lack of fulfillment and frustration with our lives and are pursing happiness but never find it.In this weeks episode I will show you the secret to happiness and confidence and how it is not something we pursue, it is something we create.

In this episode I answer the question “Why is it so hard to do the things you know you have to do and that you know will benefit you in the long term?”It’s amazing isn’t it how bad habits are so easy to pick up but good habits are so hard to create. In this episode I will share with you the four step process to build better habits and drop the bad ones. 

Anxiety is something we all experience and many people struggle with. In this weeks I talk about my experience of anxiety after leaving the Police and how I deal with it and don’t let it stop me. 

In this episode we hear from Martyn, a Detective from Avon and Somerset Constabulary who was a client in my 1:1 Stress to Success Program.When Martyn came to me he was in Burnout, fueled by energy drinks and caffeine and was stuck in the people pleasing cycle.Martyn talks about how he learnt to accept himself for the first time and replaced his people pleasing tendencies with clear values that were important to him. Martyn said that he went to therapy for 6 years and felt that working with me and working through the coaching process, he achieved more in himself in those few weeks that he had done in therapy.I love how Martyn describes coaching he said "You laid the brickwork for the road in front me. Now I have the ability to lay that brickwork in front of myself."Martyn is an amazing person and is an example of what you can achieve when you truly commit to yourself and have the courage to follow through.

In this Episode I share with you a lesson I recorded in my 'Stress to Success' Program.Failure never feels nice, but why do some failures feel worse than others. Failure is supposed to feel uncomfortable because it draws our attention to the problem; the gap between what we expected to happen and the result we actually got. That's the normal pain that is going to, in the most part be unavoidable. This is often referred to as the Fist Dart. Then there's the second, optional dart, and this comes from what we make that failure mean. For so many perfectionists they make the failure mean that 'They are a failure', 'They have let others down' or that that 'They are worthless'. They then start doubting themselves which effects their future decision making which feed the cycle. But why does our brain do this? My theory is that it is the brain's protective mechanism. It's protecting us from future judgement of others. If we judge ourselves first, then the judgement from others won't feel so bad. This is obviously bullshit because the judgement from others still feels just as bad and we have just made it worse by adding to the judgement ourselves. It's not like judging ourselves makes us immune to the pain. The brain registers judgement and rejection in a similar way to physical pain and therefore wants to avoid it at all costs. This made sense when we lived in tribes and our very survival was dependent on staying in that tribe and being accepted. This wiring is outdated but our brain has not had the software update, and that isn't coming anytime soon. That's why we need to be aware that the discomfort we feel from being judged is just our brain thinking we are going to die and the fear we feel beforehand is the brain warning us of that future threat. As we learn to fail in front of others, process that discomfort and show our brain that we are safe, it starts to fear judgement less. Why is this important? Because the fear of judgement is the most pervasive fear, affecting carers, relationships, has us saying 'Yes' to everything and feeling overwhelmed. Ultimately it stops us just being ourselves, feeling trapped and living a life of quiet desperation. 

This episode my wife, Nicky Bevan and I talk about the Highs and lows of life.We talk about how when we (especially men) feel vulnerable we default to anger and frustration. We get very angry with ourselves and add a lot of self judgement that pushes us further down the spiral.In this episode I even get compared to Basil Fawlty when dealing with the delights of technology.There's a lot of learning to be had here, especially for couples.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny 

In this episode I am with my wife, Nicky Bevan who is also a Life Coach and Coaches women on building emotional resilience.We talk about how, what makes someone good at something can also be the same trait that burns them out.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny

We're back! Ron, Carl and Jonny are back for another three way and this time we are discussing Pleasing Yourself.We discuss People Pleasing, what it is and the affect it can have on our lives and other's. We all have different opinions on this so it is interested to hear them and see what falls out.What do you think of People Pleasing?Have a listen and let me know what you think.Jonny

In this week's episode I am talking to Clare Flaxen who is a CBT Therapist and the Founder of Stretch Mindset Method.Clare helps make personal development and growth sustainable with wellbeing at the core.Clare has a background in Social Care where she worked as Mental Health Social Worker in North London, so she is well versed in working in high pressure, demanding environments.In this episode we talk about the sustainability of how we are working and how that feeling of 'not doing enough' and 'letting people down' leads to Burnout.If you want to reach out to Clare and enquire about her services then check out her website: clareflaxen.com or email her on [email protected] is an amazing person who is doing amazing work.Thanks for coming on Clare.

In this week's episode I am joined by Katy Rosewood who is a Sport & Exercise Psychologist in training.Katy is a qualified Personal Trainer and also a qualified Nurse with 25 years of experience in the NHS.Katy has always been involved in sport and exercise, mainly due to having parents who were good role models. Today we talk mainly about Sport Psychology and how this transfers to other areas of work where people need to perform under pressure. We discuss the importance of 'mental toughness' and what that looks like. Before you ask, mental toughness is not the absence of negative feelings, it's being able to experience those feelings and still being able to perform. So many people think that the definition of 'strong' is not feeling any fear, anxiety or doubt and being able to keep soldiering on in challenging environments, and in my experience it's this perspective that burns people out, because we are human and we will experience negative emotions - That doesn't mean that we are weak! We also discuss resilience and what that looks like in sport and in challenging careers like the Police and NHS.If you want to know more about what Katy does then please please follow her on her Socials:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-r-640732211/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_mindsetinmotion_psych_/

In this episode I talk about the dangers of constantly wanting to feel better.Most people's pain comes from the fact that they are fighting the way they are feeling in a given moment. Because of how the human brain is wired we cannot escape the fact that we will experience negative emotions. The problem is, is that we have been conditioned not to experience negative emotions and then we try and move ourselves out of it which normally causes more negativity.The author of 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F%@k', Mark Manson said it perfectly when he said "The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience and paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience." Instead of constantly trying to make ourselves and others feel better we should be teaching ourselves and others how to feel.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny

This episode was recorded while I was still in the Police and I attended a Time Management Course.Here I share my beliefs on Time Management and how no strategy is going to stick unless you address perfectionism, people pleasing and the fear of other's opinions.There are so many helpful strategies out there but you first have to learn to manage yourself.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny 

In this episode I'm back with Ben Simpson who is the owner and CEO of Organisational Vitality and they help leaders and their teams create more vitality in their organisations by revealing the hidden ‘permissions’ that shape behaviour, enabling them to realise higher performance and happier people.This time we are talking about connecting with your purpose and group decisions. Ben describes your purpose as your North Star in terms of the difference you want to make.Thank you Ben for the fascinating conversation.If you want to know more about Ben and his company you can check out his website http://www.VitalOrg.co.uk Here's a link to Simon Sinek's "Start with Why" as mentioned in the Podcast.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4ZoJKF_VuA

In this episode I talk with my good friends and fellow Coaches, Aaron (Ron) Hill and Carl Radley.A few years ago the quote "There's a devil at every level" was banded about between the three of us and it is the topic of discussion in this episode.We're still not sure where the quote originated from but it certainly has relevance because as you take on new challenges the brain will create noise in an attempt to move you back into the familiar known. This is the devil!Knowing how to befriend that devil and move past it is a skill which will have you exceeding what you ever thought was possible for yourself.Have a listen and also check out Ron and Carl on their Social Media:Carl:https://www.instagram.com/weightlosswarriorpodcast/Ron:https://www.instagram.com/aaronhill_79/

In this episode I have a fascinating conversation with Christal Dauncey who wears a few hats.Christal is  Professional Organiser, a Sober Free Coach trained in Positive Psychology and co-hosts the Sober Freedom Podcast.We have a great conversation about Christal's journey with going alcohol free and how she now helps people who are int he same situation.You may not want to give up alcohol and we are not saying that you should, but there are a lot of people out there who are drinking because their identity is wrapped up in it but they secretly want to stop because it is having negative effects in their life.If you want to find out more about what Christal does then check out her website.https://www.freedomtobecoaching.uk/ Or her Instagram: freedom.to.be.coaching freedom.to.be.alcohol.freeThe Sober Freedom Podcast can be found here: https://open.spotify.com/show/7GmgjVwK30HQTrmOmS6d5N?si=y-MROffOTcKS7eDmsewHIQ And if anyone is interested in my Home Organising they can find Christal on instagram: IOrganiseMcr or IOrganiseMcr.co.uk Christal offers in home sessions in Greater Manchester and also coaching support around letting go (online). Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny

In this episode I talk to Jessica Snape around the current trend of weight loss injections. There is a rising popularity with these quick fix weight loss jabs which includes Mounjaro and Ozempic to name a couple.We are not experts on these injections or medical practitioners and our conversation is based on our own personal experiences and opinions.  I do however find it amazing the amount of money people will spend on these injections and I think they are an example of how we are so keen for a quick fix rather than getting to the route of the problem.I know people may take these injections for medical reasons but I know many people that take them as a quick weight loss option because they find they cannot resist the junk food that is so readily available to us. I've even witnessed people who are on the weight loss jabs who still eat the junk food anyway.I just see that there are other ways to approach this and ones that may have longer lasting effects without the reliance on an injection. I don't say that you take them but I think it's wise to explore them to see what other options are out there.I have stopped drinking alcohol now for 7 years and have had nearly a year of no refined sugar by simply working on my belief systems and reducing my desire. There is a certain amount of discomfort with this process but also so much reward and permanence. It helps build self trust and confidence as you learn to lean into discomfort and not away from it.The injections in my opinion seem to bypass this discomfort but what happens when you stop taking them? Is it sustainable and healthy to keep taking the injections?Maybe it is and if you think so then there is no need to listen to this and you can carry on as you are.Jess offers some alternative approaches that may well mean you ultimately lead a healthier lifestye.Jess is a Fitness Behaviour Coach with 15 years experience in personal training and is an all round amazing person so I recommend that you have a listen and see what she has to say.Check out Jess' website.https://jessicasnape.com/Whether you're jabbing or not, have a great day.Jonny 

In this episdoe I talk about how changing your relationship will fundamentally change your life.This is a call from my private coaching group 'Stress to Success' but this week no one turned up for coaching so it was just me teaching on overcoming the fear of failure and therefore I thought I would share it with you.We fear failure because of what we make that failure mean, which is often that we are not good enough.All failure means is that we haven't met the required or expected result. That's it! Everything else is story.We need to change our relationship with failure because in life we will make mistakes but it's how we come back from those mistakes that's really important.If you are someone who fears failure and deep down know that it is holding you back then please book a FREE call using the link below.https://CoachingwithJonnyBevan.as.me/Discovery-CallFor a link to the YouTube video please follow:https://youtu.be/lW95jlpK4qoTake it steadyJonny

In the Police we are working in very dynamic uncertain situations and it is important to keep a clear head and be able to think clearly so that we can make effective decisions.Here is what I have learnt from my 18 years as a Police Officer about thinking clearly and making better decision.

In this weeks episode I am joined by Zoe Thompson. Zoe is the founder and owner of Phoenix Coaching where she transforms overwhelmed leaders into intentional leader.I invited Zoe on to talk about 'The Power of Taking Responsibility'.Many people that when they take responsibility for something they are saying that they are to blame but there is a real difference between the two. When you take responsibility you move out of a victim mentality and into a place of power.Have a listen and see for yourself the the benefits of taking full responsibility.Please also take a look at Zoe's website and look at the amazing work she is doing.https://www.zoethompson.uk/Take it steadyJonny

Ben Simpson is back!Ben is the owner and CEO of Organisational Vitality and they help leaders and their teams create more vitality in their organisations by revealing the hidden ‘permissions’ that shape behaviour, enabling them to realise higher performance and happier people.In this episode we are talking about motivation and control. Ben talks about the importance of connecting with your purpose and how motivation is linked to the feeling of control and autonomy. When you have a clear objective, the means to achieve it and the autonomy to achieve it in your unique way, your motivation will be high and your work will be joyful.If you want to know more about Ben and his company you can check out his website http://www.VitalOrg.co.uk 

In this episode I am joined by Nat GEORGE who is a DS from Wiltshire. Nat started triathlons back in 2010 and now 15 years later she is competing in Ironman, having entered five and completed three.I asked Nat to come on the podcast because she is an inspiration to me. She has taken small consistent steps which has led to big results and shares many lessons from her training and competing that transfer to every day situations. In our conversation we talk about how her initial belief is what got her going and how surrounding herself with like minded people with the same beliefs helped drive her on.I think what makes Nat's story so inspiring is that she talks about the failures and how she has built a positive mindset towards these failures so that she can learn from them and keep moving forward. Nat talks about the importance of prioritising and being able to say "No" to things that are not aligned to those priorities.Have a listen and see and I'm sure you will pick up lots of useful tips. 

Today I had an amazing conversation with Caroline Strawson who is basically an all round amazing woman. Caroline is on a mission to create workplaces and organisations where mental health is the cornerstone of success and leadership embraces human connection.Caroline's journey hasn't been easy. She is a survivor of domestic abuse, homelessness and financial collapse, facing £70,000 of debt while battling CPTSD and depression.Rebuilding her life has taught her resilience, innovation, and the power of wellbeing not just for survival, but for high performance.Caroline has built three multi-7 figure businesses, including The Mental Health Wellbeing Company , the UK's fastest growing franchise. This movement delivers accredited mental health and positive psychology workshops to workplaces, schools, and public sector organisations.I invited Caroline on today initially to talk about the link between burnout and PTSD. We had a very insightful conversation all about burnout, trauma and PTSD or as Caroline likes to refer to it 'PTSR - Post Traumatic Stress Response.'The key take away is that there is nothing wrong with you if you have experienced trauma or PTSD and being curious and compassionate with yourself is the key to escaping that feeling of being stuck.Thank you Caroline. I love your work.Please connect with Caroline on LinkedIn or she can be contacted via her email - [email protected]://www.linkedin.com/in/carolinestrawson/Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny

Many of us come back from leave thinking that we are behind and that we need to catch up, but this is the lie. This is the lie that has us feeling anxious, overwhelmed and dreading coming to work. What if you weren’t behind? Who says that you are behind? The feeling of being behind is our expectation and where we are is our reality. The gap between the expectation and reality is where all the anxiety and overwhelm lives. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

So often we tell ourselves that we’ll start that case file or report when we feel like doing it or say that we didn’t start it because we just didn’t feel like it. This habit leads to avoiding the important work, the case load getting ever bigger and a sense of anxiety and overwhelm. It’s a skill to be able to do something that you know needs to be done but you don’t feel like doing and it is the path out of a life of stress and overwhelm. Have a listenJonny

Vikki, CEO & Founder of Time Hackers, is a Certified Professional Coach, host of the top 1% Hack Your Time Podcast, downloaded over 700,000 times, and creator of the Time Hackers Program. Vikki specializes in helping busy overachievers unlearn time rules and drop their time management to-do's so they can get more done in less time.I certified as a Time Hacker Coach in 2024 and Vikki's concepts changed my entire approach to work and life. If you are a busy overachiever and you want to get more done in less time so you have time to rest and spend time with those that are really important then this is the Podcast episode for you.If you want to know more about Vikki's work then check her website.https://www.timehackers.xyz/

Ben Simpson is the owner and CEO of Organisational Vitality and they help leaders and their teams create more vitality in their organisations by revealing the hidden ‘permissions’ that shape behaviour, enabling them to realise higher performance and happier people.As a leader you may send a message out telling people what to do and how to behave but that will not have an impact if you the way you personally work is not aligned with that narrative. Ben refers to this as 'Permissions'.In this episode we talk about Permissions and how they shape organisational culture.If you want to know more about Ben and his company you can check out his website http://www.VitalOrg.co.uk Hope you enjoy. 

Are you stuck in the cycle of eating sugar, getting the high followed by the crash and then the inevitable guilt that follows?Are you replying on willpower but finding that it's just not working?Then I have a new way for you that will help you get control of your sugar cravings forever!! That's a bold statement but I used this method for cutting out alcohol and I am now 6 months into my '1 year sugar free' and I don't feel deprived in any way.To watch the video of the recording please follow the link below:https://youtu.be/wWxPOIMwdxITake it steadyJonny

He's back! This week I'm talking to Nick Smith from Somerset Wealth Management but this time we are talking about neurodiversity.I have often been approached after giving presentations and asked whether I have ADHD. I have never been diagnosed but I certainly display the traits so it would not surprise me if I was and I believe that there is a real link between ADHD and burnout.Nick himself is autistic and there is neurodiversity in his family and we discuss our personal experiences and the effect that neurodiversity can have on your mental health when you are in the wrong environment. Hope you enjoy

In this episode I talk to Jessica Snape who is a Personal Trainer and Sports Massage Therapist.Jessica works with people who have desk jobs and helps them fix injuries, realign posture and build strength. Jessica helps people live their life, enjoying what they're doing while being pain free.Jessica provides some exercises that we can do in the office and the importance of moving regularly.If you want to find out more her website can be reached by following this link:https://jessicasnape.com/

Gemma Ruth Rogers is a Growth Optimiser. She runs a Coaching and Consulting business where they help companies grow, differently. She has led global teams of 200+, built systems, and scaled products across industries — FinTech, health, public service, anti-money laundering, and more.In this episode I talk to Gemma about nervous system regulation, the importance of taking breaks and much more. Get in touch at www.gemmaruthrogers.com or drop her a message on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/gemmaruthrogers 

Annamarie Angell is a book keeper who came to coaching because of her anger. Initially Annamarie thought that it was her husband that needed coaching because she thought he was worrying too much and getting stressed but after a short conversation Annamarie decided to take the plunge herself and hasn't looked back since.Addressing her anger and perfectionism took courage but one thing Annamarie doesn't lack is commitment, and it was this commitment that has helped her make the changes that she wanted in her life.Annamarie talks about her experience with coaching and how it has changed her life by helping her manage her anger and trade perfectionism for excellence.Listen to this amazing lady and use her as your inspiration to have the courage to work on yourself to make your life better.If you want to find out more and fancy experiencing a FREE coaching call then use the link below to book something in. In Annamaries' words "Just do it, you won't regret it."https://CoachingwithJonnyBevan.as.me/Discovery-CallEnjoyJonny

This episode is a little bit different.In this episode you will get the opportunity to hear Aaron Hill being coached. Aaron is ex special forces and is a coach himself but believe me, even coaches need coaching. We are all human and our brains get in our way, even when we know how they work.Have a listen and see what coaching is like.Hope you enjoyJonny

Lucy works in retail and came to coaching because she was having a hard time at work which led to her having time off work.Lucy came to coaching to help change her perspective around work and life.Have a listen to see what she made of coaching and the effects it had on her life.Jonny

To be a good supervisor your door does not always have to be open. In fact, if you do not have any sort of boundaries you will not be a very effective leader because although you want to be seen as helpful and always available, it will most certainly burn you out.You don't have to be available all the time to show that you care.Here's to shutting that door from time to time.Jonny

Are you waiting to feel like doing the work before you take any action? This is probably why you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.Feelings like motivation are lovely but they are not often there when we need them. Often though, when we just start despite not feeling like it the motivation then comes.This is why it is a better strategy to make a plan to start and commit to starting whether you feel like it or not. Then what will happen is, is as you start seeing progress and realise that it was not as hard as you brain was telling you it was, you will feel motivated.This is why the action has to come before the feeling.Jonny

In this episode we will discuss more about fear and how it can actually work for us.When you understand what fear is and learn to feel it and not resist it, it can become your friend and not your enemy.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny

Everyone wants the strategy but without the change in mindset the strategy will just not stick.Strategy is important but you have to work on the mindset as well.In this episode we talk about the importance of both.Happy listening.Jonny

If you want to change anything in your life you need just two things:1. Commitment2. CourageWhen you commit to change and then have the courage to lean into the discomfort then then things will change for you.In this episode we talk about these key ingredients.Hope you enjoyJonny

What do you do when you meeting overruns?Do you complain and moan but stay int he meeting?What if you could politely say "Sorry I need to be somewhere else" and leave?Your time is your most precious resource and I bet you are just letting people waste it and then you spend more time complaining about how that person wasted your time which then wastes more time.Let's explore how you can set those boundaries and make the best of your most precious resource - TIME!

Have you ever thought that you can't say that you're at capacity?So many cops feel overworked and overwhelmed and when I ask them if they have ever said that they are at capacity or said "No" to the work the answer is often the same; "I can't say that!"In this episode we will explore this common myth and how to break through it so that you can get control back of your workload and your life.Happy listeningJonny

We all want Confidence but how do we get it and why do we want it.All of this and more is answered in this episode.Happy listeningJonny

Where do you get your self esteem from? Is it from you or from others opinions of you?In this episode I talk about the important of getting your self esteem from your character rather than your reputation and how to uncover and change those beliefs that are holding you back from believing in yourself and building your self esteem. EnjoyJonny

Deadline Pressure!Are you someone who tells themselves that they work better under pressure?Do you find yourself leaving things to the last minute and trying to get everything done in a last minute rush?For some people this doesn't have a negative effect but what it does do is not leave you any space for genuine emergencies. When we leave everything to the last minute we then make the important work, urgent and then when the genuine crises or urgent works comes up we don't have the capacity to deal with it.When we realise that it is not the deadline the creates that feeling of pressure, but our brain, then we can create that same drive to get the work done way ahead of the deadline.This frees us up with so much space to deal with genuine emergencies when they do arrive and stops us feeling stressed and overwhelmed.Have a listen and see what you think.If you want to see the video then please click the Youtube link below.https://youtu.be/L5qHJR3bg4oJonny

In this weeks episode I talk to Nick Smith from Somerset Wealth Management who helps people build financial resilience.I met Nick at a networking event and when someone asked for advice on how to make room for their family during their busy times his answer was so simple and got me intrigued. He simply said "You choose."Nick has a great outlook on life which keeps him stay in control. Realising that everything is a choice and consciously choosing how he reacts gives Nick control of his life.We discuss how to build resilience in life through the exposure to stress and the importance of kindness. Nick explains how you can decide who you want to be and then you need to practice being that person.You will learn how you don't have to wait to be able to do something to believe that you can do it, you decide to believe first and then take the action.Nick is a fascinating person.Have a listen and see what you thinkIf you want to see what Nick does then check out his website:www.somersetwm.co.ukTake it steadyJonny

In this episode we are talking about the fear that you will lose your job if you make a mistake and the impact that this has on your health and your day to day life in The Job.We are also going to talk about how to build emotional resilience so if you do find yourself in the unfortunate situation of being investigated you can come out the other side unscathed.So many people go through gross misconduct investigations and even though they are cleared or just have some reflective practice, it leaves a lasting mark. The fear of it happening again stays with them and the anger they feel towards The Job eats them up.Have a listen and see what you think.Jonny