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Coffee with a Therapist
by Jenny Helms
Learn, laugh, have a cup of joe, and talk about all things mental health on Coffee with a Therapist with Jenny Helms-Calvin. You can find more information and connect with Jenny at https://www.somawichita.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Episodes
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How to Convince Someone to go to Therapy & Getting My Parents to Take Me to Therapy
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions: "How do I convince my loved ones to go to therapy?" "How do I convince my parents to take me to therapy/that I need therapy?" ----- Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon & Wed at 9:15 am CT or listen…
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How to Start Therapy
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions about starting therapy: -How do I start therapy? -How do I find a good therapist? -What should I ask during the first session? -What if I can't afford therapy or have a limited budget? -What if I live overseas and not in the…
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Intimacy & Sexual Trauma in Intimate Relationships
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm answering the following questions: - If a trauma has caused a lack of emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship, what can be expected in your relationship? - What can you do as their partner to be supportive and also ensure that your needs are also...
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Childhood Trauma & Resiliency Factors
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I describe some of the more commonly known forms of "childhood adverse events" by going through the ACE study questions and resilience factors. Next episode we will delve into the lesser known or less obvious childhood traumas to help you connect the dots if you...
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Toxic Family Beliefs and Rules - Do any of these resonate?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain specific examples of toxic family beliefs and rules. This will help you understand some of the beliefs that you may have yet to heal or subtle ways our family's intergenerational trauma leaked into our family system. Most families have at least one or…
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Tips for Dealing with Toxic Parents or Family Members
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain different tips and strategies for navigating toxic parenting or family relationships in ways that support connection in a safe way. Navigating and healing from these types of relationships is hard, and I highly recommend working with a trained and...
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What is Internalized or "Self" Gaslighting?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain what internalized gaslighting is and the different affirmations we can use to challenge it. If you struggle with really absorbing the affirmations I describe, I'd highly recommend working on this with a therapist or trained professional. -- Join me LIVE...
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Adult Children of Toxic Parenting in Romantic Relationships
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I explain the signs and ways we may engage in our romantic relationships if we were raised by toxic parenting behaviors (or if we have a parent who struggles with narcissism). Link to brief imago work-up I referenced:...
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Adult Children of Narcissists or Toxic Parenting
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be describing (with examples) the signs and ways we may engage in the world if we were raised by toxic parenting behaviors (or if we had a parent who struggled with narcissism). Do any of these resonate? -- Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook...
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Traits of Toxic Parenting
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the traits of toxic parenting. My hope is that you will learn from this what may have impacted you as a child (the subtle and not so subtle things) and learn/grow to not engage in these behaviors in your own parenting (or in reaction...
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How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about how to set boundaries with difficult people. Difficult people include: those you have to set boundaries with multiple times because they "forget" and those who respond with passive-aggressiveness, distance, anxiety, hostility, or anger. *If...
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Examples of Setting Healthy Boundaries in Your Family
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our family members. We will cover: 1. Boundaries around communication, travel, and spending time together 2. Boundaries around non-triangulation and keeping secrets secret 3. Boundaries...
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Examples of Healthy Boundaries with Our In-Laws
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our in-laws or loved ones of our significant other. We will cover: 1. Boundaries around how to discuss differences in opinion / giving advice 2. Boundaries around privacy / communicating...
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Examples of Healthy Boundaries in Relationships with Your Romantic Partner or Significant Other
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about specific examples of healthy boundaries we may set with our significant other or romantic partner. We will cover: 1. Boundaries around having hard conversations / arguments 2. Boundaries around privacy/what we share with others 3. Boundaries...
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Tips on Setting Healthy Boundaries
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are delving into my tips and advice for setting healthy boundaries. We will cover: 1. How to generally approach them (keeping things short and respectful) 2. What to expect in other's reactions to our boundaries 3. How to be consistent with our boundaries 4....
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How to Know When to Set Boundaries
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'm delving into how to know "when" to set boundaries and a brief overview of general human/relationship rights. I also go into a side-tangent about shame-resilience and negative feedback. ;) This video generally overviews: 1. What indicators tell us we may need…
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Healthy vs Unhealthy Boundaries
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about the differences between healthy and unhealthy boundaries AND the biggest barriers people have to setting boundaries. We will cover: 1. Biggest obstacles people have shared/have to setting healthy boundaries 2. What characterizes healthy...
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What Are Boundaries?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about all things boundaries. Specifically what they are and how we will be covering different boundary topics over the next couple of weeks. If you have a specific boundary question -- please post a comment or DM me. -- Join me LIVE on coffee with…
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What Mental Health Q's Do You Have?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I am doing something different. I am asking YOU what would be a mental health question you are interested in learning more about. So far via TikTok the top categories are: 1. Boundaries (in all the ways) 2. Narcissistic / Toxic Parents 3. Trauma & ADHD connection...
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A Big Sign You're Making Progress in Therapy
In today's #coffeewithatherapist we are talking about one of the big signs you are making progress in therapy (or healing your mental health concerns). Specifically, I talk about anxiety & depression -- but this often applies to the other complex emotions and disorders people have as well. The…
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Let's Talk About The Fear of Abandonment
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the fear of abandonment. 1. Where it typically stems from 2. How it shows up in relationships 3. What core things we must work on / develop to heal our fear of abandonment -- Join me LIVE on coffee with a therapist on Facebook live Mon-Fri at...
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One of the WORST Parts of Going To Therapy
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I am going to delve into talking about what I consider the "hardest" or worst part of therapy and the growth process. It may not be what you think, and is something that I often warn my clients about. Even though this part is difficult, it is 100% worth it in the...
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Psychologically Navigating Mask-Wearing and Other COVID-19 Changes
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I was inspired by my own struggles and others inquiring about how we might navigate COVID-19 mandates of wearing a mask & other changes with our mental health in tact. And how we can be kind to ourselves and those who are enforcing it. I'll be addressing the...
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How Do We Identify Trauma?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the ways we can identify or connect the dots when it comes to our behaviors that indicate that we've had trauma. FIRST - I'd recommend working with a professional that specializes in trauma, as these things can be complex, and often our brain...
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How To Heal if You Can't See A Therapist
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the different free/low cost and accessible options for healing trauma and mental health problems if you don't have access to good, affordable mental healthcare. First, I want to say that I will always advocate seeing a therapist/a…
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What Differentiates A Traumatic Event from Trauma?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about what differentiates trauma from a traumatic event and covering questions like: 1. Why can two people experience the same trauma and only one have PTSD? 2. What is secondary trauma? 3. What determines if a traumatic event will become…
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How Trauma Shows Up In Our Romantic Relationships
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about the various ways trauma shows up in our romantic relationship (inspired by an awesome Q on my TikTok (@jennyannhelms) Here are some of the ways that I will go into detail about: 1. Difficulty with trust or affection 2. Clingy, needy behaviors...
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How (Unresolved) Trauma Shows Up At Work
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about how unresolved trauma shows up in the workplace including these ways: 1. Being the office doormat 2. Not speaking up for ourselves or setting boundaries 3. Taking feedback as harsh criticism and as reasons we fail at the job / part of our…
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Q&A: Boundaries with Kids
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about teaching and setting boundaries with kids, what's developmentally appropriate for their brains, and what are some effective ways to still validate their feelings while setting boundaries and structure for them since they don't always know the...
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When Happiness Feels Bad
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking all about the 3 ways I've seen happiness be a bad, scary, or avoided emotion in my clients and even my own life. I'll also discuss the ways we can heal this and work towards being more comfortable with an emotion many of us claim to want or be...
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Q&A: Help with the 4th Step in 12 Steps / Alcoholics Anonymous
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be answering the q: "I'm struggling to write my 4th step in my 12 step program. Any suggestions?" I'll discuss ways that we can identify and make peace with our resentments/exhiles and identify some of the parts that often contribute to "acting out"…
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How to Create "Goals with Soul" (and that last!)
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, I'll be giving a concrete example of how to create "a goal with soul". You'll learn about how to tie your goals to who you are at your core versus tying your goals to fear, shame, or "shoulds". This is part of the crucial work I do with clients in therapy, and…
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Do You Have Unresolved Childhood or Relationship Trauma?
This is probably one of my favorite #coffeewithatherapist videos because it's such an important topic and has helped many of my clients have "aha" moments. In this video, I will talk about all the subtle (and not so subtle) ways people can exhibit unresolved childhood or relationship trauma.…
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What is normal anxiety versus an anxiety disorder?
In today's #coffeewithatherpist, we are talking all about anxiety (duh duh duh, queue ominous theme music). I'll be answering the following questions: 1. What is normal anxiety vs. an anxiety disorder? 2. How do we know if we struggle with chronic anxiety? 3. When should we seek help or take it...
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Can we Heal Trauma? (How we Heal Trauma in the Brain and Body)
Today's #coffeewithatherapist was inspired by the question, "Can I heal my own trauma?" and variations of that question via my TikTok. So happy and glad to share more about this. The short answer? Yes. Tune in to find out more how we heal trauma and what healing trauma means. -- Join me LIVE on...
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What is intergenerational or family trauma?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about intergenerational trauma. We used to believe that when family members died, that their trauma and mental health died with them. We now understand not just in family systems theory, but also science how trauma that doesn't get resolved gets...
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What is Trauma and How Do I know if I've Healed from it?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about an expanded definition of what trauma is, both "little T and big T" traumas and how we know if we have worked through or resolved some of it. Understanding what trauma is a BIG first step in making positive changes in our lives and our...
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Kindness vs Negativity During Times of Stress and Change
Kindness matters. Not just because it's a "nice thing to say" or masked as a way to avoid pain and the hard stuff. Kindness matters. In the research on shame, feelings of shame and being overly negative actually don't create change in the long-run, and often keep people stuck. So when we are...
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Motivation for Healing and Recovery in Therapy
Today's #coffeewithatherapist is all about finding a healthy, long-term sense of motivation for recovery or healing for our mental health and personal development. I often see my clients using fear or a "running from" approach to try and motivate themselves to heal, and inevitably when life gets...
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LGBTQ+ Community and Mental Health with Psychiatric NP LaVeta Jarrett
Today on #coffeewithatherapist and in honor of #PrideMonth, we are talking with psychiatric NP LaVeta Jarrett about the LGBTQ+ community and mental health, pride month, the importance of doing more than just medicine for psychiatric health, and the family and systemic dynamics of LGBTQ+ mental...
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Grace & Resources During These Stressful Times
Let's be real. 2020 has been challenging, stressful, and eye-opening for us all. With all of the bad stuff, there is opportunity for growth and beautiful things. In the meantime, many of us our still in the thick of "all the feelings" and it's important we are connected to self-grace and…
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3 Commonly Misunderstood Emotions
In today's #coffewithatherapist, we are talking about 3 commonly misunderstood or demonized emotions that I see time-and-time again in the therapy room. Tune in to learn more about the positives and usefulness of these emotions and why they are so important we don't simply "bury" them or pretend...
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Are You Mad At Me? Boundaries with Anger
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are discussing the boundary of no longer guessing if others are upset, annoyed, angry or disappointed with us. I discuss the importance of this boundary for our own emotional health/energy and the emotional health of the other person who struggles to express...
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Masculinity with Andrew Jamison, Licensed Professional Counselor
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are delving into the topic of masculinity with Andrew Jamison, LPC. We discuss how masculinity shows up in therapy, it's historical context in American culture (and the "silent soldier"), and both the strengths and weaknesses of our current cultural views of...
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Were You Parentified As a Child?
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we talk about parentified children and how to heal the ways they are in relationships as a response to their early childhood (if unresolved). You may have been parentified if a parental figure relied on you for their emotional, financial, or physical support.…
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Enneagram Type 9 (the Peacemaker) in Love or Romantic Relationships
9's can space out and forget to do things -- don't take it too personally. They enjoy slowing things down with their partners and simply "hanging out". The best way to connect with 9's is to approach them with calm and meet them at their level of peace. 9's bring big picture perspective to their...
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Enneagram Type 8 (The Leader) in Love or Romantic Relationships
Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about Type 8 of the enneagram in relationships! 8's like to be in control and have high energy. They are easily goaded into competitions and a non-competitive partner might be annoying to the strong-willed 8. However, a partner who has enough of an...
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Enneagram Type 7 (my type!) in Relationships or Love
Yay for 7's -- I'm totally biased here as a type 7 and I will be vulnerable and state that I can relate to both the good and bad parts of being a 7 (even the embarrassing commitment part). If you want any further clarification, don't hesitate to message me, and I'm happy to share what might be...
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Enneagram Type 6 in Love or Romantic Relationships
Today on #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 6 in relationships! And I share that you can see my funny short videos on the different types on my instagram @jennyannhelms -- check it out if you want something silly in your day. Enneagram type 6 in love: 6's desire to feel secure and...
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Enneagram Type 5 in Love and Romantic Relationships
In today's #coffeewithatherapist, we are talking about type 5's, the observer, in relationships. Type 5 in love: Observers need a partner who won't try to force them to go out to places they hate: crowded parties, loud environments or basically anything requiring a lot of social interaction. You...
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Learn, laugh, have a cup of joe, and talk about all things mental health on Coffee with a Therapist with Jenny Helms-Calvin. You can find more information and connect with Jenny at https://www.somawichita.com/
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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