Divorced Dads of America: The Rebuild

Odysseus won the war. Proved himself on the battlefield. And then spent years lost — not because he was weak, but because the journey home is never straight and the lotus flower is always on the next island. Every divorced dad is living this story right now. The lotus flowers have different names — porn, alcohol, weed, scrolling, sex — but they all do the same thing. They keep you on the island while your kids grow up without you. This episode is the map. And the one move that changes everything is the one most men refuse to make.In this episode:Why Homer's Odyssey written 3,000 years ago is the most accurate map of the divorced dad's journeyJoseph Campbell's Hero's Journey research and why you are on it whether you chose it or notThe lotus flower — what PAWS is doing to your brain and the neuroscience of why bliss becomes a trapWhat the lost years actually cost — and the specific inventory every dad needs to takeThe Beggar's Return — why the most powerful move Odysseus makes is to arrive as nobody firstWhy public humiliation is the real fear underneath every divorced dad's avoidanceWhat it looks like to build in the dark — content nobody watches, a business nobody asks about, a life nobody sees yetRyan Holiday's Ego Is the Enemy research on why the beggar season builds what nothing else canTelemachus — who you are actually building this for and what they are inheriting right nowThe 26-year developmental study on what your kids are actually receiving from watching you recoverProverbs 13:22 and the inheritance that has nothing to do with moneyMy ceiling is his floor — what the hero's journey means for your sonConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Mike Signorelli has preached to thousands in Times Square. Built one of the fastest growing churches in America. Has a film, books, millions of followers. And behind all of it — infidelity, alcoholism, a marriage that should have ended a thousand times over, and a father wound so deep it almost took everything. In this episode Mike gets brutally honest about what the worst season of his life actually looked like, what sobriety and accountability cost him, and the sentence that changed everything — I might die like my dad, but I don't have to live like him. This one goes deep. Stay with it.In this episode:Growing up in extreme poverty with abusive men cycling through the house — and what that environment taught Mike about what a man was supposed to beWhy everyone has a father wound — and why you won't recognize yours until a season opens itHow Mike went from ordained minister to alcoholism and multiple infidelities — and what he did to stopThe medically supervised detox journey and why sobriety was the unlock that changed everythingWhy addiction lives most in high-functioning people — and what that means for the divorced dad who thinks he has it togetherThe sentence that changed everything — I might die like my dad but I don't have to live like himWhat real accountability actually looks like — not by title but by realityWhy Mike had to restructure his driving routes to break neural pathways associated with sinThe pit bull analogy — whatever hurt you will heal you — and why a father wound gets healed by inviting another man inHis daughter's story — the curses he didn't break before she was born, the bed conversation that shifted everything, and 40,000 people on the mall in WashingtonThe moment without a process leaves you seven times worse — why the school community matters more than the altar callWhat Mike wants the divorced dad white-knuckling the weekend alone to know right nowThe Unoffendable Heart — Mike's new book on rebuilding a heart free of bitterness and offenseConnect with Mike Signorelli:Website: mikesignorelli.comPre-order The Unoffendable Heart: mikesignorelli.comInstagram / YouTube / Social: @MikeSignorelliChurch: V1 Church — multiple campuses across New York City MetroConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

If your child was drowning in a pool — would you try to save them? No. You would save them. No hesitation. No planning. No wondering if you were ready. So why are you still trying to become the man they need? The word trying sounds like progress. It feels like effort. But underneath it is something most divorced dads will never admit out loud — an exit strategy. Today Anthony breaks down why trying is secretly killing your rebuild, where the programming came from, and what it actually looks like to decide instead of try.In this episode:Why trying is not a commitment — it is an exit strategy dressed up as effortDr. Carol Dweck's Stanford research on why the word itself changes the neurological commitment your brain makesWhere the trying programming came from — and why a child's language is running an adult man's decisionsThe fear underneath trying — failure, judgment, comparison, and full ownership with no exitThe Decision Line framework — four areas where divorced dads need to stop trying and start decidingThe British Journal of Health Psychology study showing 91% follow-through when effort becomes a specific scheduled decisionThe Harvard 30-year study on what separated men who thrived after major life disruption from men who stayed stuckProverbs 16:3 and the standard God actually sets — not try, commitThe specific exercise that turns a vague try into a decided plan before you go to sleep tonightConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Anthony showed up to his daughter's performance. He was in the building. He took work calls. He missed the second half. When he asked her how the show was she said — you were there. But you weren't. That sentence hit like a punch in the face. This episode is the confession, the repair, and the rule that came out of one of his biggest misses as a dad. It is for every divorced dad who has been physically present and emotionally absent — and every dad who needs to know it is not about falling down. It is about how fast you get back up.In this episode:Why kids feel your absence before they can articulate it — and the neuroscience behind why presence is not the same as being in the roomThe Journal of Marriage and Family research showing that distracted presence is worse than less time fully presentWhy high-functioning divorced dads slip back into old patterns — and the MIT habit research that explains why it happens automaticallyThe three-sentence apology that repairs faster than any explanation — please forgive me, I was wrong, I can do betterDr. John Gottman's repair research and why a clean apology is the single most important predictor of relationship healthThe rule Anthony made after that moment — and the UC Santa Barbara implementation intention research that proves why rules beat willpowerJames 5:16 and why confession in front of your kids is one of the most powerful things a father can modelThe specific decision you make before you walk in the door — and how to build your own presence rule starting todayConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Troy Casey is 60 years old, built like a man half his age, and has been through everything a divorced dad fears most. The couch. The DUI. The savings account vaporized overnight. Starting over with nothing but a Kia and a credit card. And through all of it — camping on the floor with his kids on a mattress and calling it enough. In this episode Troy gets raw about what divorce actually does to a man's body and mind, why breath work at 4am saved his sanity, and the non-negotiables that rebuilt him from the floor up. This one goes places other episodes don't. Stay with it.In this episode:What looping negative thoughts at 4am actually sound like from a man who has been thereThe breath work practice Troy started on his couch that cleared his head when everything was falling apartWhy he chose not to be a victim when he had every reason to be — and what that decision actually looked likeThe $63,000 savings account that got vaporized — and how he rebuilt from zeroWhy camping on the floor with his kids was enough — and what that season actually builtThe nine pillars of health Troy has used for 20 years to stay physically and mentally sharp through divorce and rebuildWhy sleep, movement, organic food, and pure water are non-negotiables — not lifestyle choicesWhat porn is actually doing to divorced dads biochemically and why it compounds the painThe phone notification problem — why every ping is hitting your nervous system and what to do about itGratitude as a daily practice — the 90-day challenge that changed Troy's trajectory post-divorceProximity — the single most important parenting principle for divorced dads with teenagersWhat Troy would tell every divorced dad who is in the middle of it right nowConnect with Troy Casey:Website: certifiedhealthnut.comInstagram / YouTube / Facebook: @CertifiedHealthNutBook: Ripped at 50 — A Journey to Self-LoveConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Every divorced dad says his kids are everything. But when it comes to doing everything to become the man they need — the excuses show up. I'm trying. Life is hard. I don't have enough time. This episode is the one nobody wants to hear and everybody needs. Anthony breaks down the real cost of avoidance, the three excuses that keep divorced dads stuck, and the Accountability Architecture that separates the builders from the drifters. You already know what you need to do. Today you stop avoiding it.In this episode:Why avoidance is not about laziness — the University of Calgary research on what procrastination is actually protecting you fromThe three excuses divorced dads use to stay stuck — and why each one is a choice disguised as a circumstanceWhy trying is not the same as deciding — and what commitment actually looks like in practiceThe Wharton School research on why "I don't have time" is never really about timeThe Accountability Architecture — three pillars that build the daily structure your rebuild actually needsKelly McGonigal's Stanford research on stress and why the pressure you're feeling is your fuel not your enemyThe 40-year developmental study on what your kids are actually learning from watching you right nowWhy you need someone who will call you out not cheer you on — and the research that proves why it worksGalatians 6:9 and the promise that belongs to the process not the dramatic momentCommit and own it — or repeat the year. There is no third option.Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

She's poisoning your kids. She won't let you see them. Your lawyer is working on it. It's not fair and you know it. Every single one of those things may be true. And none of them are your real problem right now. The fastest way to win the war for your kids is to stop fighting the battle you can't control and start winning the one you can. This episode is the one nobody else is going to give you — because it starts with you.In this episode:Why parental alienation is real — and why the courts aren't your first battlefieldThe Family Court Review research on what actually determines custody outcomesWhy your anger — as justified as it feels — may be doing her work for herDr. Daniel Siegel's brain science on why you literally cannot think straight when you're reactiveThe Inside Win framework — three steps every divorced dad in a high conflict situation needs to take in orderWhy becoming undeniable is your most powerful legal strategy — and it's freeThe APA research on the one thing that protects your kids during high conflict divorceProverbs 16:32 and why emotional control is the most tactical move you can make right nowConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Jon Gordon almost got divorced. Lost his job. Lost his ego. Lost everything except his marriage — and nearly lost that too. Today one of the most influential voices in the world sits down with Anthony to talk about what guilt and shame are actually doing to divorced dads, why forgiveness unlocked 33 books worth of purpose, and why the size of your apartment has nothing to do with the size of your impact on your kids. This one will hit different.In this episode:Why Jon Gordon said "I almost got divorced" — and what he did when his wife gave him one last shotThe thank you walk that rewired his brain over 25 years — and the UC Davis research that proves why it worksWhat forgiveness actually is — the hot coal image that will change how you think about your exHow forgiving his biological father unlocked 33 books and a mission that has reached millionsWhy guilt and shame do not come from God — and the enemy's exact playbook for using them against youThe mechanics of negative thought — why you are not the thoughts you think but the thoughts you believeWhat the Harvard 85-year happiness study says your kids will actually remember about this seasonHow to talk to yourself instead of listening to yourself — practical self talk from one of the world's top performance coachesThe Power of Positive Habits — 93 habits and how to pick the ones that will move the needle right nowRomans 8:1 and what no condemnation actually means for a divorced dad carrying shame todayConnect with Jon Gordon:Instagram: @JonGordon11Website: jongordon.comBook: The Power of Positive HabitsConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

A dad jumped on the free Monday night call this week. Six bedroom house — gone. Kids have everything at his ex's. He's in a small apartment wondering if he's the lesser option. Anthony's been there. Driving Lyft so his kids could eat. Living with his parents. Feeling like life was over. This episode is for that dad — and for every divorced dad carrying shame about what he can't provide right now. The apartment is not the problem. The meaning you're attaching to it is. Here's how to change it.In this episode:The difference between guilt and shame — and why shame is destroying your ability to show up for your kidsWhy the meaning you assign to your circumstances matters more than the circumstances themselvesViktor Frankl's logotherapy research and what a Holocaust survivor can teach a divorced dad about the apartment he's sitting inThe Shorten the Vision framework — how to stack small wins when the long range goals are demoralizingThe Harvard Progress Principle — why progress is happiness and how to manufacture it starting this weekWhat your kids are actually watching — and why it's not the apartmentThe University of Maryland research on what actually predicts your kids' outcomes after divorceProverbs 24:16 and the only job you have in this seasonConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

The whole magic of fireworks is watching your kids' faces. When they're not there — the holiday hits different. In this episode Anthony gets honest about what the 4th of July actually feels like without your kids, why your brain pulls you back to what no longer exists, and the system he uses to go on offense before the hard day arrives. Plus the Positive Menu — the framework that replaces every bad habit with a deliberate choice made before the feeling hits.In this episode:Why your brain is most vulnerable to the past on the days that used to mean the most — and the neuroscience behind itWhy willpower doesn't work on hard holidays — and what actually doesThe Positive Menu — how to build your main menu and your evening menu before the silence hitsWhy watching 1917 and WW2 documentaries alone is not just entertainment — it's programmingThe pre-commitment research that proves deciding in advance beats in-the-moment discipline every timeEcclesiastes 3:1 and what season you're actually in right nowThe difference between a builder and a drifter when the house goes quietConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Kristin Cavallari said her divorce was the best thing she ever did. No settlement. Half the time with her kids. Built everything from scratch. If you're in the middle of your divorce right now — or still rebuilding on the other side — this episode is the rope. Anthony breaks down what the research actually says about what divorce does to your brain and your body, the three things that move the needle when everything is falling apart, and what the other side actually looks like for a divorced dad who refuses to drift.In this episode:What Kristin Cavallari's divorce story actually means for a dad who's in it right nowThe neuroscience of why you can't think clearly in the middle of divorce — and why that's not weaknessThe Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory and where divorce ranks against every other human stressorThe Rope System — three things that actually move the needle when you're bleedingPost-traumatic growth research and what it says about who you become on the other sideWhy isolation is the enemy and brotherhood is the medicineThe difference between a builder and a drifter when the floor drops outConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

You already know. You've known for a while. But that 1% — that tiny sliver of hope that maybe it turns around — is the most expensive thing you're carrying right now. In this episode Anthony breaks down the neuroscience of why smart, capable divorced dads stay stuck even when they know the truth, what that 1% is actually costing you, and the exact audit that helps builders move while drifters stay parked with the engine off.In this episode:Why knowing the truth and acting on it are two completely different neurological eventsThe science of cognitive dissonance and why your brain manufactures reasons to stayWhat romantic rejection actually does to your brain chemistry — and why letting go feels like withdrawalThe real cost of the 1% — to your kids, your finances, and your identityThe 99/1 Audit — three questions that separate what you know from the story you're telling yourselfWhy builders move inside the uncertainty while drifters wait for a sign that already cameProverbs 4:23 and what guarding your heart actually looks like in practiceConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

The 2am spiral is one of the most common things divorced dads deal with — and almost nobody talks about what to actually do when it hits. In this episode Anthony introduces the Dream Protocol: a structured approach to what you do before you sleep, when you wake up in the middle of the night, and the first ten minutes of the morning. Practical, science-backed, and built for the dad who is tired of white-knuckling the dark.→ Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8→ Join the free A.S.C.E.N.T.™ community on Skool: bit.ly/3Z83e97→ Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

When the divorce was done, Adam Allred had his old truck, garbage bags full of clothes, and three kids half the time. No money. Buried in alimony and child support. Living in his grandma's attic. Every morning he woke up sick to his stomach. Every night he went to bed not wanting to live.Today he's one of the most direct, no-excuse voices for men in the country — remarried, five kids, multiple businesses, and a community of men building alongside him.In this episode, Adam gets brutally honest about what the floor actually felt like, what God told him in the shower that changed everything, and why the greatest threat to your family isn't your ex — it's you.In this episode:Why the conditioning men receive from family, church, and culture sets them up to fail in marriageWhat a year of fantasizing about death actually sounds like from the insideThe shower moment where God said "if I take away the pain, I take away the learning" — and what shiftedWhy victimization is a trap that never makes your life better — not once, not everThe "skip this part" conversation that ended his shame spiral and saved his relationship with his sonWhat he'd tell the younger version of himself before the divorce — and why he wouldn't trade itHow to talk to yourself like someone you actually likeThe three things that got the train moving when everything was collapsing at onceWhy isolation is the greatest threat to masculinity — and what brotherhood actually looks likeResources mentioned:Man's Search for Meaning — Viktor FranklJordan PetersonByron KatieConnect with Adam Allred:Instagram / all platforms: @adamallredofficialCommunity: Doughboy NationConnect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America:Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

This week two questions that look different on the surface — and hit the same place underneath. A dad who wanted to run away from his entire life. And a dad who makes good money and still feels financially suffocated every month. Anthony unpacks both honestly — including a real conversation that changed everything for a dad who was in the darkest place. If you are in that place right now, this episode is for you.→ Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8→ Join the free A.S.C.E.N.T.™ community on Skool: bit.ly/3Z83e97→ Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Rumination doesn't go away — but it can become a decision. In this episode Anthony introduces the 2 Door Theory: the framework that turns an unconscious loop into a conscious choice. If you've been walking into the same room for months, this episode shows you where the second door is.→ Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8→ Join the free A.S.C.E.N.T.™ community on Skool→ Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Father's Day is this Sunday. Most divorced dads are waiting to be honored. This episode flips that. The challenge: write one letter to each of your kids before Sunday — not a text, a letter. Three things only. Anthony reads from his own letter on air and walks you through exactly what to write, whether you have your kids this weekend or not.→ Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8→ Join the free A.S.C.E.N.T.™ community on Skool→ Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

One text. That's all it takes. Everything you built — the routine, the peace, the progress — gone in seconds.And across town, a dad is driving his teenage daughter to her third activity of the week in complete silence, wondering if he even exists to her.Both of these dads are losing ground they can't afford to lose. This Wednesday — Anthony gives them both something they can use today.Q1: "I have systems and routines. But one text from my ex or my lawyer and my whole day falls apart. How do I stay on track when everything keeps derailing me?"Q2: "I feel like I'm losing my teenage daughter. All I do is drive her places. I feel like a doormat. How do I get my daughter back?"— Why one text can derail hours of momentum — the neuroscience of trauma triggers— The 4-move Trigger Protocol: don't respond, break the state, contain it, return— Why you cannot think your way out of a nervous system response— The research on what teenage daughters actually need from their fathers— Why she is logging the drives even when she doesn't acknowledge them— 3 moves to rebuild the relationship: invest without return, find her one thing, say it out loud— Psalm 27:10 — what your daughter is actually testing when she goes coldApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

The math didn't work. The savings were gone. The income was gone. The options were gone.On the same day Anthony signed his divorce papers he was laid off from his six figure job — the exact number everything in the agreement had been calculated against. His lawyer told him the savings was for a rainy day. This was the rainy day.What happened next is not a hustle story. It's not a strategy story. It's a manna story.— Why God waits until the hustle runs out before He moves— The psychology of post-traumatic growth and complete resource depletion— The Manna metaphor — daily provision, exactly enough, never more— Elijah fed by ravens — what supernatural sustaining actually looks like— 3 postures for the financial wilderness: minimize, find the joy, stop planning three years— Matthew 6:31-33 — your Father knows what you needApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

At 24 years old, Dominic Ciambrone was making shoes for Justin Bieber.Twenty pairs. Less than a week. He said yes.What happened next — a manic episode, a window, a hospital bed, a bipolar diagnosis — wasn't the story anyone was telling about the kid who turned a grandmother's sewing machine into one of the most sought-after custom shoe studios on the planet.But it's the story that changed everything.This week Anthony sits down with Dominic Ciambrone — known to the world as The Surgeon, the man who has rebuilt, reimagined and customized for Drake, Bieber, Jake Paul and some of the biggest names alive. But this conversation isn't about the shoes. It's about the man who spent years creating from a place of not good enough. The man who became a father and kept running to work instead of home. The man who had to lose everything familiar before he could finally build something real.In this episode:What it actually felt like to wake up in a hospital at 24 with a bipolar diagnosis — and how that moment cracked open everything that came afterWhy Dom created at the highest level of his craft for years from a place of "not good enough" — and what that actually cost himThe moment alone with his daughter that made the separation finally make senseWhy he never stayed alone with his kids until his daughter was two — and what changed when he didHow he went from never doing school pickup to making it non-negotiable two days a week no matter whatWhat "doing the work" actually looked like beyond the therapy session — the daily habit that rewired his self-talkWhat he says to his kids when he loses his temper — and why apologizing fast is now one of his most powerful parenting toolsWhat he would tell the dad right now who doesn't know if he has the materials to rebuildDom said it plainly: he created from a place of not good enough for years. And if he hadn't been forced to stop — by a hospital bed, by a separation, by a daughter who needed her dad present — he'd probably still be there.This one is for the builder who's been building everything except himself.🔔 Subscribe on Spotify or Apple — two clicks puts this in front of a dad who needs to hear it.📲 Divorced Dads of America on Instagram: https://bit.ly/insta_DDA🏠 Join The Ascent — Free Skool Community for Divorced Dads: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97▶️ New here? Start on YouTube: https://bit.ly/4mrytpE💬 Ready to stop rebuilding alone? Apply for 1-on-1 coaching with Anthony: https://forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8Drop a comment on Spotify — what have you been building from a place of not good enough? Anthony reads every one.

She's gone. But she's still in your head — in the car, at the store, every time you pass that place.Every time your mind loops back to her you lose energy, focus, and peace. And the harder you try to stop thinking about her — the louder it gets.In this episode Anthony unpacks the real reason divorced dads can't stop thinking about their ex — and it's not what you think. It's not about her. It's about the identity you lost when she left.— Why your brain confuses pain for connection — the neuroscience of emotional memory— Why you're not obsessed with her — you're attached to who you were with her— The browser tabs metaphor — what forgiveness actually does to the loop— Why social media stalking is guaranteed to destroy your forward momentum— The FAST framework: Focus, Awareness, Strategy, Transformation— 3 questions: What belief keeps you tethered? Are you addicted to pain? What if you forgave yourself?— Philippians 3:13 — the life verse for every divorced dad rebuildingApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You're a hard worker. Always have been. And right now you're working harder than ever — and nothing is moving.What if your greatest strength is exactly what's keeping you stuck?In this episode Anthony shares the three questions his coach asked him that hit like right hand hooks to the face — and the realization that his work ethic, his greatest gift, had become his most sophisticated avoidance strategy.— Why action bias makes high performers feel like they're winning while going nowhere— The dark side of being a hard worker — what the drive is actually protecting— The Strong Current metaphor — why swimming harder in the wrong direction is still wrong— The 3 coach questions: What are you learning? What's hardest? What are you avoiding?— Why gifts used to avoid growth become cages— Isaiah 40:31 — why the verse starts with waiting, not runningApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

He never met his father. His mother was murdered when he was a baby. By eleven he was gang banging. By fourteen he was selling crack.Today LaMorris Crawford walks the sidelines of the NFL as team chaplain for the Carolina Panthers — and he has spent his life becoming the father he never had.In this episode Anthony sits down with his friend of decades for one of the most raw and real conversations on fatherhood, isolation, accountability, and what it actually takes for a divorced dad to show up when everything is working against him.— Why the enemy can only pick you off when you're isolated — the sniper principle— "Sometimes you have to believe in someone else's belief in you until your belief kicks in"— What LaMorris told his son after he fumbled twice in a varsity game— Why boys who are told not to cry become husbands who can't meet their wife emotionally— The love language breakdown for sons vs daughters — and how to find the door your teenager will open— Agape love as the only force that guarantees your kids come back— What the NFL's 75% post-retirement divorce rate teaches every dad about preventative work— How to build bonds with your kids in limited time after divorceApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You've been fighting to get out of this season as fast as possible. More hustle. More control. More grinding. And nothing is moving.In this episode Anthony shares the moment pounding his steering wheel — broke, alone, pissed — and the image of his baby daughter that finally cracked the code. The fighting isn't the solution. It's the problem.— Why control is just fear with a productivity mask on— The neuroscience of illusion of control under stress— The Baby metaphor — why the firm hold is not punishment, it's preparation— 3 daily practices: focus on process, release the timeline, stop comparing chapters— Why sometimes what you want happens after you get what you need— Psalm 46:10 — what "be still" actually means in the season you're fightingApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Every divorced dad says his kids mean everything to him.So why doesn't he do everything?In this episode Anthony shares the story of a dad in The Climb who drove past the same store every single day — and the four-gate framework that finally sealed the hole. Because love without a system gets demolished by the first trigger that hits.— Why willpower alone will never break a habit loop— The neuroscience of habit grooves and why the brain defaults to the pattern— The Leaking Bucket metaphor — why you can't out-fill a hole you won't seal— The Gates of Change: Awareness, Acceptance/Ownership, Accountability, Action— Why the dad who told his attorneys he was in The Climb is the model— James 1:22 — the comfortable deception most divorced dads are livingApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

He had everything.Billy Graham's grandson. Lead pastor of a massive church. Books. TV. Radio. Conferences. A rising voice in the evangelical world. A life that looked, from the outside, like it was exactly what it was supposed to be.Then in the spring of 2015, it all went public. The marriage. The infidelity. The collapse.Publishers canceled. Fifty-two speaking engagements gone in 48 hours. The church emptied. The phone went quiet. And he moved from a beautiful home into a blank two-bedroom apartment with a few boxes and a U-Haul truck — completely alone.This week Anthony sits down with Tullian Tchividjian — pastor, author, philosopher, and the man who has bled out, rebuilt from zero, and is now doing some of the most honest work of his life. His new book, Fragments of Freedom, drops June 2nd. But what he shares in this conversation is what no book chapter could fully hold.In this episode:What it actually felt like to wake up every morning in that empty apartment after losing everything — and what the silence taught him that success never couldWhy Tullian doesn't believe in "forgiving yourself" — and the more powerful truth that finally set him free from shameThe difference between transparency and vulnerability — and why the church celebrates one and fears the otherHow the recovery community saved his life when the church community disappearedWhat his mentor said in his darkest moments — "Stick with that" — and why doing nothing was the most faithful thing he could doThe one line from his book that reframes everything: freedom rarely arrives all at once — it comes in piecesWhat he would say directly to the dad who's convinced his best days are behind himTullian said it plainly: you don't really know what you're depending on to make life worth living — until it's gone. And sometimes that loss is the most merciful thing God ever does for you.This one is going to stay with you. Share it with a man who needs it.🔔 Subscribe on Spotify or Apple — two clicks puts this in front of a dad who's quietly falling apart right now.📖 Pre-order Tullian's book — Fragments of Freedom (June 2nd): https://fragmentsbook.com📲 Divorced Dads of America on Instagram: https://bit.ly/insta_DDA🏠 Join The Ascent — Free Skool Community for Divorced Dads: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97▶️ New here? Start on YouTube: https://bit.ly/4mrytpE💬 Ready to stop rebuilding alone? Apply for 1-on-1 coaching with Anthony: https://forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8Drop a comment on Spotify — what fragment of freedom showed up for you this week in an unexpected place? Anthony reads every one.

You know why things are the way they are. The ex. The courts. The timing. The loss. And you're right about most of it.But what if being right about what happened to you is exactly what's keeping you stuck?In this episode Anthony shares the mentor question that changed everything — and unpacks the Extreme Ownership and Obstacle Is the Way principles that apply to divorced dads more directly than any self-help book ever written.— Why owning everything gives you power over everything— The psychology of locus of control and why it predicts every life outcome after divorce— The Obstacle Is the Way — why the divorce isn't in the way of your rebuild, it IS the rebuild— The 3-question ownership audit that creates immediate clarity— Galatians 6:5 — the verse about carrying your own loadApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You've been trying to get fatherhood right. The rules. The schedule. The perfect environment. And the harder you try — the further they drift.In this episode Anthony unpacks the single shift that changed everything in how he shows up for his kids after divorce — and why the pursuit of perfect fatherhood is the enemy of present fatherhood.— Why over-controlling the environment makes kids weaker not stronger— The research on what actually predicts healthy outcomes for kids after divorce— The Greenhouse metaphor — safe is not perfect— 4 shifts: connect before correct, let the mess be there, safety over rules, invest before you expect— Why your kids will remember presence not perfection— Deuteronomy 6:6-7 — where the most important moments actually happenApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

At 11pm, after the kids are gone and the house is quiet, divorced dads write things they can't say out loud.Anthony has been reading those posts. The ones buried in comment sections. The ones in the corners of the internet nobody talks about. The anger. The guilt. The shame. The men who are running out of reasons to believe it gets better.And he thought — somebody needs to answer these men. Not with a self-help list. Not with a motivational quote. With truth. With scripture. With somebody who's actually sat across from men carrying exactly this.So he called his neighbor.Landon McDonald is a pastor in Arizona — the kind of guy you'd actually want to talk to. No performance. No polish. Just a man who opens the Bible and makes it hit like a conversation, not a sermon.This episode is unlike anything on this feed. Anthony reads the real questions — from real dads — and Landon answers every single one.What gets answered in this episode:Why divorced dads are more ready for real faith than anyone sitting comfortably in the front rowWhat the church usually does when a divorced dad walks through the door — and why a pastor is willing to say it publiclyThe actual meaning of "renewing your mind" — not the concept, the neuroscience, the practical daily stepsWhat Romans 8:28 really says to the dad who's terrified his kids are being poisoned against himHow to forgive someone who knew exactly what they were doing to youWhat Psalm 34:18 says to the man sitting in an empty apartment who doesn't want to be here anymoreThe one thing a dad should do tonight — even if it's his first prayer in 10 yearsOne dad wrote in: his 11-year-old son started self-harming because his mom put her affair on the boy's shoulders. He believes he inherited cheater blood. He wishes he hadn't been born.Landon didn't flinch.If you've been carrying something that heavy — or you know a dad who is — this episode is the one you send them.🔔 Subscribe on Spotify or Apple — two clicks puts this conversation in front of a dad who needs it tonight.📲 Divorced Dads of America on Instagram: https://bit.ly/insta_DDA🏠 Join The Ascent — Free Skool Community for Divorced Dads: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97▶️ New here? Start on YouTube: https://bit.ly/4mrytpE💬 Ready to stop rebuilding alone? Apply for 1-on-1 coaching with Anthony: https://forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8Drop a comment on Spotify — what question were you waiting for someone to answer? Anthony reads every one.

Two questions. Both about what you do with what's left.Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild. This week — what to do with the old photos that keep wrecking you, and how to figure out who you're supposed to become when the stress has buried every dream you ever had.Q1: "I don't know what to do with the old photos. Every time I see them it wrecks me. But I can't delete them either. What's the right thing to do?"Q2: "I don't know who I'm supposed to be now. I can't think straight enough to dream. Who do I become after all of this?"— Why the photos aren't the problem — your relationship with them is— The 3 stages: distance, sorting, integration— Why your kids need you to keep the photos that include them— The neuroscience of why chronic stress makes it impossible to dream— The 10-year-old boy exercise — excavating who you were before the world buried it— Jeremiah 29:11 — the plans already existApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You've been calling it stress. Anxiety. Depression. Consequences.It's grief. And the reason you can't heal is because you won't call it what it is.In this episode Anthony shares the moment a family photo on his phone broke him open — and the realization that changed everything about how he approached his own rebuild. After 95 episodes, this is the one he's never recorded. The grief nobody told divorced dads about.— Why misnaming grief means applying the wrong treatment for years— Why divorce grief is classified alongside the death of a spouse— The Cancelled Flight metaphor — why there's no funeral for what you lost— 3 moves: name it accurately, give it a container, separate grief from guilt— Why guilt and grief are not the same thing and cannot be treated the same way— Psalm 34:18 — who God specifically draws closest toApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You're going to the gym. Reading your Bible. Showing up to the men's group. From the outside you look like a man in recovery.But what happens on Saturday night? What are you editing before you walk into every room that's supposed to help you? What's happening backstage while the performance looks perfect out front?In this episode Anthony shares the most honest version of his own edited recovery — the great discipline week followed by the weed gummy after church, the clean story told in every room while the real patterns kept growing in the dark — and the three shifts that finally broke the cycle.— Why performing recovery feels like progress but produces nothing— The neuroscience of self-presentation bias — why edited accountability has zero effect— The Stage metaphor — what's happening backstage while the front of house looks great— 3 shifts: stop editing, name the cost specifically, get backstage accountability— Why the cost of edited recovery is your children's experience of who their father is— John 8:32 — it's not the comfortable truth that sets you freeApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Two questions. Both about what happens when you stop doing it alone.Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild. This week — what to do when your co-parent is poisoning your kids against you, and the single best piece of advice for every divorced dad rebuilding his life.Q1: "She's constantly saying things to our kids about me. She's poisoning them against me. What do I do?"Q2: "What is the single best piece of advice you give divorced dads who are rebuilding?"— Why conflict with your ex gives her more ammunition not less— The research on parental alienation and what actually protects your kids— Three things that work: elevate your life, stop taking the bait, build an undeniable relationship— The best advice boiled down: forgive daily, get humble, get accountable— The grapes story — why your blind spots need someone else's eyes— Proverbs 15:22 — why the design requires counselApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You're not stuck because you're not trying. You're stuck because life is changing faster than you are.Every divorced dad is operating inside what Anthony Thompson calls the Algorithm of Life — a system that compounds whatever you feed it, good or bad, whether you're intentional about it or not. And most divorced dads are falling behind it without knowing it has a name.In this episode Anthony breaks down why effort without intentional change produces exhaustion instead of progress — and the three moves that finally get you ahead of your own algorithm.— Why trying harder on the wrong walkway just makes you more exhausted— The neuroscience of status quo bias — why the brain defaults to what it knows— The Moving Walkway metaphor — effort vs direction— The 3 moves: aligned plan, dropped distractions, iron sharpening iron accountability— How one client reduced his debt by 40% in 30 days by getting ahead of his algorithm— Proverbs 27:17 — why the algorithm improves in contact not isolationApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

January 2nd. First day back at work. Laid off by 10am. Divorce papers signed by noon. Alimony the size of a mortgage. Savings that would be gone in four months. $200,000 a year to zero.Most men would call that the worst day of their life. Anthony Thompson calls it the day God closed every door except the right one.In this episode Anthony shares the most financially devastating season of his rebuild — and the three things he wishes someone had told him in that parking lot that would have saved him months of shame, panic, and misdirected hustle.— Why the second layoff in two years was not bad luck — it was a locked door— The decision to go all in made from desperation not confidence— Why courage is the decision made in spite of the fear — not the absence of it— What God actually did next — and why it took longer than anyone wanted— Three things for the dad in the financial fire right now— Jeremiah 29:11 — believing the promise before you can see the planApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You've been feeding it for so long you've forgotten it's a choice.Worry is not a feeling that happens to you. It is a pet you have chosen to keep. It gets fed every morning. It gets walked every night. It curls up next to you on the couch. And it has been running your decisions, your sleep, your peace, and your parenting for longer than you want to admit.In this episode Anthony teaches from the middle of his own battle — not from the other side of it — and gives divorced dads the engine that converts worry into action, trust, and forward movement.— Why worry is more destructive than porn, alcohol, or scrolling — and more subtle— The science: 85% of what you worry about never happens— Matthew 6:25-34 — why Jesus commanded it, not suggested it— The 3-part engine: honest inventory, inside first, trust as daily practice— Philippians 4:6-7 — thanksgiving before the outcome— Why the Ascent is not the absence of worry — it's the life where worry doesn't driveApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

She changes everything. Never agrees. Makes you the bad guy every time. And you keep reacting — every single time.Here's the truth nobody tells divorced dads in high conflict co-parenting: she's not running your life through the courts or the custody agreement. She's running it through your bitterness. And you handed her the keys.In this episode Anthony unpacks the one internal shift that changes everything in high conflict co-parenting — and why most divorced dads refuse to make it because it feels like losing. It's not. It's the only way to actually win.— Why every reaction is a vote for her continued control— The neuroscience of reactive abuse in high conflict relationships— The Remote Control metaphor — how she presses buttons you don't know you have— The two internal moves that disconnect the remote: daily forgiveness and humility— Why bitterness costs you more than she ever could— Ephesians 4:31-32 — get rid of it, not manage itApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You can keep doing what you're doing. Or you can humble yourself and admit you don't know what you're doing.Most divorced dads aren't stuck because they lack information. They're stuck because they're not being honest enough about what's actually happening. They're editing their problems. Justifying patterns they know are wrong. Hoping time fixes what only truth can fix.In this episode Anthony shares the moment sitting in a chair at his parents' house — Bible open to Proverbs, mind a tornado, 3am panic every night — when he finally stopped editing and got honest. And why that one shift accelerated everything.— Why consuming information without honesty is just sophisticated avoidance— The Navigation metaphor — why a man who won't admit he's lost can't be found— The Proverbs moment that cracked everything open— Three honest questions that expose what you've been hiding— Proverbs 11:14 — the verse that was written for the man doing it aloneApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Two questions. Both about holding on when everything inside wants to let go.Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild. This week — how to keep your daughter close when she's struggling with your new wife, and what to do when one text can derail everything you've built.Q1: "My teenage daughter is having a hard time with my new wife. How do I build a better relationship with her without damaging my marriage?"Q2: "My mind is like a roller coaster. Things get fine — then one text floods me with old thoughts and I just crash and numb out. How do I stop this?"— Why stepdaughter-stepmother friction is one of the most documented and predictable dynamics in blended families— The grief underneath your daughter's resistance that most dads miss— Why forcing the relationship makes it worse — and what to do instead— What a trauma trigger response actually is and why it's neurological not weakness— The 90-second circuit breaker that interrupts the flood before it takes over— Why numbing is not recovery — and what clean recovery actually looks like— Isaiah 43:2 — the flood doesn't get the final wordApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Sundays without your kids feel like hell. The empty house. The silence. The anxiety of not working. The guilt of not being a dad today. The loneliness of having nowhere to be.In this episode Anthony unpacks exactly why Sundays hit divorced dads the hardest — and how he turned his worst day of the week into his most powerful one.— Why Sunday without kids creates a perfect storm of dread and guilt— The neuroscience of anticipatory anxiety on Sunday evenings— The Empty Stadium metaphor — what Sunday is actually designed for— The Sunday Reset: 4 parts that turn the hardest day into the best one— Why gratitude isn't optional — it's a neurological reset— Psalm 23:2 — why God makes you lie downApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Most divorced dads aren't sleeping. Not really.Crashing from exhaustion, waking up at 3am in a spiral, lying there for hours before sleep comes. The advice they've been given — melatonin, put the phone down, go to bed earlier — isn't wrong. It's just incomplete.In this episode Anthony breaks down the science behind why divorced dads can't sleep — and gives you the complete Divorced Dad's Sleep Protocol built around five practices and the Divorced Dad's Wheel.Not what works for a biohacker with a $2 million health budget. What works for a divorced dad in the middle of a rebuild.— Why the sleep problem after divorce is a nervous system problem first— The cortisol rhythm that's keeping you awake at 3am— The Flat Tire metaphor — why one flat spot on the wheel destroys your sleep— The Divorced Dad's Sleep Protocol: eating window, screen protocol, final hour ritual, wheel check, 3am recovery— The Divorced Dad's Wheel — 5 areas, 5 scores, 1 minute a night— Proverbs 3:24 — sweet sleep is a promise, not a coincidenceApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Two questions. Both about reaching someone who feels just out of range.Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild. This week — how to write a letter to teenagers who have pulled away, and what to do when you want to change but don't actually believe it's possible for you.Q1: "I want to write my teenagers a note but I don't know how much to say or whether to share my struggles. What does that letter look like?"Q2: "I see other men rebuilding. I know what I need to do. But I don't actually believe it will work for me. How do I start when the belief isn't there?"— Why teenagers pull away when parents write from pain instead of power— The million dollar framework — how to write a letter your kids can actually receive— What to include and what to leave out— Why belief almost never comes before action — and what to do about it— The action-belief loop — how the brain builds confidence through evidence— Mark 9:24 — the most honest prayer in the BibleApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

The distraction isn't your problem. The pain you're using it to avoid is.Every divorced dad has one. Porn. Alcohol. Busyness. Scrolling. Financial panic. Fantasy planning. They all look different on the surface — but underneath they're all the same thing. A bandage on a wound that never gets cleaned.In this episode Anthony shares the most honest version of his own rebuild — waking up at 3am like a crackhead gambler trying to get it all back in one swipe — and the three shifts that finally broke the cycle.— Why distractions after divorce don't look like distractions— The neuroscience of experiential avoidance— The Wound metaphor — why the bandage is making it worse— 3 shifts: Name the pain, Create simplicity, Run your race— Why comparison online was costing him more than the divorce— Hebrews 12:1 — throw off everything that hindersApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You're not disciplined. You're scared. And the busyness is just fear wearing a productive disguise.Most divorced dads can't tell the difference between faithful action and fearful striving — because from the outside they look identical. In this episode Anthony shares the moment sitting in a chair at his parents' house that changed everything — and the one question he still asks himself every single day.— Why hyperproductivity after divorce is usually stress management in disguise— The neuroscience of busyness under chronic stress— The Storm metaphor — why fighting harder doesn't calm the water— The five non-negotiables that broke the fear cycle— The Faith vs Fear Audit — one question, asked daily— Psalm 46:10 — what 'be still' actually means in HebrewApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

Two questions. Both more common than any divorced dad will admit.Every Wednesday Anthony takes real questions from divorced dads in the rebuild and answers them with no filters. This week — what to do with the empty hours, and whether happiness is even possible after everything that's happened.Q1: "At work I'm busy. At home when my kids aren't there — it's a mess. I don't have a routine. I just exist until I fall asleep. How do I fix this?"Q2: "I don't know how to be happy. I don't feel anything. Will I ever actually feel joy again?"— Why empty evenings are a vision problem not a scheduling problem— How to design the empty night before it arrives— Why your home environment is giving you instructions whether you know it or not— What anhedonia actually is and why so many divorced dads experience it— Why happiness is the wrong goal — and what to pursue instead— Three places joy is hiding in the life you already have— Nehemiah 8:10 — the joy that doesn't depend on your circumstancesApply to work with Anthony 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the Skool community (free + The Climb): https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

He was a high performer. Put together on the outside. Losing his temper with his kids, chasing women, using booze to fill the silence on the inside.Not because he was a bad man. Because he was a disciplined man winging it in the areas that mattered most.In this episode Anthony shares one of the most powerful client transformations he's witnessed — and the four-step Enemy Definition framework that took a man from reacting to creating, from hiding to becoming.Because transparency doesn't expose your weakness. It removes it.— Why spiritual drift destroys decision making before anything else fails— The Weight Belt metaphor — why strong men still go under— The 4-step Enemy Definition framework: Name them, Map the battle, Load your weapons, Get accountable— Why the temptations aren't random — they fill exactly where structure is missing— 2 Corinthians 12:9 — why your weakness is the starting point not the ending point— "I've become the man I always knew I was"Join The Climb and our free Ascent community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/Apply to work 1-1 with Anthony https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f

He was with her since he was 14.Seventeen years. Two kids. His fault. He'll tell you that straight.When she was done, he ran. Not toward anything — just away. Away from the pain, away from the darkness, away from a life that had caved in around him.Then one day he took his kids to the ocean for the first time. And he kneeled in the water and prayed. And when he stood up, something was different.This week Anthony sits down with Randy Zangara — Buffalo guy, Bills Mafia, faith-driven dad, entrepreneur, and the man behind the car duet videos that have racked up nearly a million followers across TikTok and Instagram. But the conversation you're about to hear isn't about the videos. It's about what was happening behind them.In this episode:The moment Randy knew he'd been doing life completely his own way — and why that almost cost him everythingWhat "present, not perfect" actually looks like when you're co-parenting with someone who's now building a whole new familyWhy ego is the real enemy of every divorced dad — and the painful moment Randy finally dropped hisHow he went from painting houses and making 16 cents on TikTok to building a full income around his kids' scheduleWhat he said to his kids in their lunch notes that his own father never once said to him in 34 yearsThe one habit that carried him through the darkest days — and the only advice he gives every dad who slides into his DMsRandy said it plainly: there's a light at the end of the tunnel. But it's not a sprint. It's a walk. And you can't run your way there.This one is going to hit. Share it with one dad who's in the dark right now.🔔 Subscribe on Spotify or Apple — your follow finds one more dad who needs this.📲 Divorced Dads of America on Instagram: https://bit.ly/insta_DDA🏠 Join The Ascent — Skool Community for Divorced Dads: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97▶️ New here? Start on YouTube: https://bit.ly/4mrytpE💬 Ready to stop rebuilding alone? Apply for 1-on-1 coaching with Anthony: https://forms.gle/B39jxeMNwfq9ZJqv8Drop a comment on Spotify — what change do you need to make today? Randy reads his DMs. Anthony reads all of these.

Two questions. Two dads. Two of the most unspoken struggles in the divorced dad rebuild.Every Wednesday Anthony takes raw, real questions from divorced dads in the community and unpacks them with no filters. This week — exchange day and the guilt of success.Q1: "I fall apart every exchange day. I sit in my car in the driveway and can't move. What do I do?"Q2: "My life is genuinely good now. But my kids aren't with me full time. How do I carry success without the guilt eating me alive?"— Why exchange day hits like a fresh wound every single time— The ambiguous loss psychology most dads never get explained to them— Three things that actually help on exchange day— Why your success is not a betrayal of your kids — it's a gift to them— The Win Letter — a simple tool that gives guilt nowhere to live— Lamentations 3:22 — new mercy for every morningJoin The Climb inside --> The free Ascent community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

You're not broken. You're dysregulated. And there's a massive difference.Most divorced dads know the 3am spiral. The panic. The racing thoughts about money, kids, the future. The exhaustion before the day even starts. In this episode Anthony unpacks exactly why 3am hits divorced dads the hardest — and gives you a 4-step reset you can use tonight.— Why cortisol spikes between 2–4am and what it does to a stressed brain— The Radio Signal metaphor — why willpower won't quiet the static— The 3am Reset: Get vertical, Name the fears, One truth statement, Pray or breathe— Psalm 94:19 — what David knew about the pit that most men miss— Why surviving 3am with your identity intact is the whole goalJoin The Climb $98 Monthly inside -->the free Ascent community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/

The rock didn't destroy you. It exposed you.When a rock hit Trent Shelton's daughter Maya in the head — doctors found a hidden tumor nobody knew was there. The rock didn't cause the problem. It revealed it. In this episode, Anthony Thompson unpacks why divorce is the rock most men never recover from — and why the ones who do are grateful it hit them.This is Anthony's most personal episode. The Lyft shifts. The fear of being seen. The moment everything cracked open. And what life looks like on the other side of the surgery — 9 million people reached, a six-figure business, and jumping into a freezing cold pool with his daughter because he refuses to miss a single bid.— What the rock exposes that most divorced dads are hiding— The surgery metaphor — why comfort is the tumor— The Lyft story — what rock bottom actually looked like— Why the bids from your kids matter more than anything on your calendar— Romans 8:28 — the verse that reframes everythingJoin the Skool brotherhood: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceddadsofamerica/