LX2 Codependency Coaching

Today, we are talking about how all of our realities are subject to how we feel, our experiences, and what we know we are experiencing what ever is happening in the moment. The other cool thing is, it all changes. We get to shift our perspective and move through things, especially when they are uncomfortable. #reality #perspective #emotionalexperience #changes

Today, we are talking about requests, ultimatum, and boundaries. Often, we request changes in behavior hoping someone will just do the thing. If things don't get done the say we expect we make if/then statements and rarely follow through. The boundary is what we can actually manage when it comes to our resources of time, space, money, emotions, and thoughts. We are in control of those things. #boundaries #ultimatum #relationships #choices  

Today, we are talking about emotional maturity. The idea that we can build resilience and awareness of our emotional experience through allowing space for what we are feeling. How to build connection through curiosity about what someone else is feeling.  #emotionalawareness #emotionalmaturity #narcissiticbehavior #takingfeedback #connection #empathy

Today, we are talking about the want to. Often we lack the discipline and motivation to get things done to create lasting change. This isn't a character flaw but block in motivation and challenge to get ourselves moving from one place to another. #discipline #motivation #change #selfsabotage 

Today, we are talking about how to manage and communicate our expectations to prevent disappointment and resentment. It is helpful to check in with out own experience and feeling to recognize how those inform what we expect from people, relationships, and situations. #disappointment #expectations #relationships #communciation

Today, we are talking about the challenge of placing our happiness on other people, situations, or circumstances. Often, if we leave those things up to others, we create our own disappointment. #enti #yourownhappiness #disappointment #expectations   

Today, we are talking about taking an intentional pause of just 30 seconds. It's helpful when we stop for just a moment and give ourselves time to be more intentional in conversation or in our actions. If we take a moment to think about our impact on the people we care about by sending a message or being kind out in the world. 30 seconds can help build connection or create compassion. Half a minute to be patient with ourselves and get back on track with our goals. It can help us engage with intention. #30seconds #takeapause #getgrounded #buildconnection #bekind

Today, we are talking about the idea of no contact in relationships. It is sometimes necessary to create a hard boundary in a once close relationship that consists of not being in communication. The decision to withdraw contact should be about maintaining your peace, resources, and being able to be your most authentic self.  If you make the decision to withdraw access those people who feel entitled to those things, know that you get to choose who you have in your life, even from people with a title. #estrangedrelationship #nocontact #manageyourpeace #boundaries #nothankyou

Today, we are talking about inconsistency as a helpful way to give ourselves grace and compassion. There are going to be times when we can't be consistent or stay on our routine. It will be helpful to come at the new situation or circumstance from a place of love, rather than fear. #consistency #loveyourself #rollwithit #chooselove   

Today, we are talking about the line of demarcation a border of before and after. When something happens and we are changed because of it. It is helpful to have people around you to help get through and light the path to the next part. Support to bare witness and hold space as you create the next part of your experience. #nextpart #beforeandafter #lightthepath #hardtimes     

Today, we are talking about the past, present, and future. It is helpful to have an awareness of what happened before now or who we have been in the past. Consider trying to stay grounded in the present moment, even when it is hard, controlling what you can. It is also helpful to work on planning things to look forward to in the future to keep momentum going. #awareness #letitgo #mentalhealth #staypresent #planthefuture

Today, we are talking about the idea of "no matter what". There are some relationships, situations, or circumstances we feel loyal or committed to without questioning the "what". Humans are constantly changing and evolving. It is important to evaluate if these ideas or choices still make sense in the life you have now. #notmatterwhat #question #changeyoumindset

Today, we are talking about evaluating life situations and circumstances based on whether they are a benefit for the effort you are putting to them. Often we think if we just give a little more or do more we will get a better outcome. The reality is, we need to be accepting of the situation for what it is and then evaluate if it is good enough or if we want more. That can be hard but not impossible. We don't always get more from some things if we keep squeezing. #cba #codependency #isitworthit #choices #mentalhealth

Today, we are taking about how to create strength in the bonds of relationship. I was thinking about steel and how it is strengthened with different elements, heated, and shaped into a strong substance that be used to build, defend, and create. Our relationships are similar in that they can have different elements of personality and skills that will be tested through time. Relationships grow stronger going through hard things and building resilience and trust over time. #strongrelationship #hardtimes #resilience #newchapter

Today, we are talking about unintentional consequences of our choices and behaviors. We often take for granted that we don't things in a vacuum and what we do doesn't have an impact on other things. The reality is our behavior will impact others, our partner, children, and the larger whole with what we do. It is helpful to take a moment to observe our own behavior and get curious about how we influence others. #unintendedconsequence #patternrecognition #relationships #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about that feeling of being outside of group or situation. Feeling like you are wrong, bad, or other than everyone else. So many people will try to work harder or change who they are to fit in. Once you recognize you are enough just they way you are, you start to feel a sense of peace. Feeling comfortable in your skin being your whole self. #other #protectyourpeace #peoplepleasing #beyourself 

Today, we are talking about the knowing that comes with experience and especially going through hard things. Yes there is healing and growing from the things we don't choose. The knowing we gain is so important to creating trust that we can do whatever we need to get through the challenges life throws at us. Building the wealth of understanding, skills, and tools we get from going through life. The older we get, if we are so fortunate to have more time on the planet. #knowing #hardthings #skills #trustyourself #mentalhealth #growthmindset

Today, we are talking about the spaces we occupy considering where we came from and where we want to be. It is one thing to feel comfortable being your full authentic self in a space and another to feel like we don't belong What you do to fit in is up to you. #belonging #fittingin #takeupspace #beingauthentic #impostersyndrome 

Today, we are talking about how to get through the challenges that seem to come one after the other. The shit storm that happens in everyone's life at one point or another. It's helpful to check your facts, control what you can, and recognize all of it is temporary. We can relate to those times when unexpected things happen and we feel unprepared. Remember, you have been able to get through every other storm before now. #mentalhealth #anxiety #weatherthestorm #checkyourfacts

Today, we are talking about the things we learn from our parents, including what not to do. It is helpful to consider all the elements it takes to be an effective and consistent parent considering all the elements of influence. No, parents doesn't come with a handbook but there are lots of ways to become better at it at any stage. #parenting #readabook #onthejobtrainting #mentalhealth #whatnottodo

Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep them under the rug or ignore hoping they change on their own. What happens is they eventually become larger issues and get overwhelming over time. It is helpful to have conversations or address them when they are small so they don't have bigger consequences that can end connection or contentment. #slowproblem #conflict #communication #elephantintheroom

Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you that you're in. The first step is to acknowledge and accept the situation for what it is. Let go of the idea that there is potential or it will get better. Look for models or other ways of doing the thing. Finally, create just one step to start building a different circumstance. Any one of us can change but it takes consistent effort. #gettingout #makingchange #lookforward #acceptance 

Today, we are talking about if something is a tap or a drain. If something is a tap, it moves us forward or gives us energy. Drains limit our motivation or make us feel lower or empty. We can remind ourselves of what motivates us or what keeps us struck in unhelpful patterns. #tapordrain #motivation #movingforward #skillbuilding 

Today, we are talking about how we show the people around us how to behave. We get an opportunity to show up and be the leaders or communicators we want in our lives. We get to model the behavior we learn and share it with people we care about. The key is to choose wisely and work to normalize healthy coping. #modelingbehavior #parenting #rolemodel #leadership

Today, we are talking about comfortable complacency and the idea that we often don't make change until we are in discomfort. Often, we can talk ourselves out of doing the hard work it takes to see results. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Find an accountability buddy or someone who can call your attention to living your values and goals consistently. #changehappens #complacency #mentalhealth #accountability

Today, we are talking about sharing and listening to the wisdom around us. Especially now, it is important to pay attention to the experience of the people around us. Recognize that there have been other times in our history we can reflect on and learn from. It is helpful to take some time to check in on those we care about, coming together rather than giving in to the fear and division. #wisdom #checkin #repeatinghistory #community

Today, we are talking about how to manage ourselves in really challenging times. Right now we are all getting through day by day and feeling pretty overwhelmed. Either with the state of the world or dealing with hard situations we can simply leave. I have described some ways using Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT practices to give you some tools to work through and tolerate the distress we are all feeling. #mentalhealth #DBT #distresstolerance #dumpsterffire #gettingthrough

Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning in survival. It isn't until we are really uncomfortable do we then feel like we need to make changes. If we can increase our awareness to the discomfort, we can address the issues likely holding us back from what we want. #awareness #createchange #dothehardthing #growth #mentalhealth 

Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having big feelings with your own big feelings. #coregulation #conflicttools #communication #gaslighting

Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doing new or hard things when you have the support of at least one other person who can encourage you and catch you if you stumble. #whohasyourback #askforhelp #doinghardthings #parenting

Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being rejected. It is generally associated with neurodivergent populations like spectrum disorder or ADHD. People will tend to be sensitive to being rejected or othered when they behave differently than their peers or people around them. This can create behavior like conflict avoidance or people pleasing which relates to codependency. It can also lead to people withdrawing from others or anxiety about how they are perceived. #RSD #attachmentstyle #anxiety #mentalhealth #authenticself #secureattachment

Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we are all struggling with the feelings exhaustion and stress, basically burned out. Identifying our boundaries can help manage some of those feelings. #burnout #boundaries #mentalhealth #takeabreak

Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give that to you, you can walk away. We get to choose who has access to us and our resources. #healthylove #boundaries #mentalhealth #estrangedparents #entitlement 

Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging environments, we'll explore how relationships can also fail to flourish without consistent effort and attention. #relationships #thriving #ittakeseffort #skillbuilding

Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an awareness of dealing with and working through it. We learn how to make things smooth again and gain the tools tools to work through hard times. #grit #adversity #resilience #makingithrough

Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't feel sad, they don't feel anything. This is part of what chronic depression feels like for many people. #depression #anhedonia #mentalhealth #alanis #sgs2025

Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone else's behavior. We can also use this phrase when we see efforts being made to get better. The idea of "best" is a moving target and changes depending on so many variables. #doingyourbest #doingbetter #givinggrace #parenting 

Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better. Doing something from beginning to end helps us move forward in life creating a bit of order in the chaos. Managing our anxiety or ADHD, its helpful to pick one things at time, to work through it, and close the loop on the task to feel we are getting things done. #closingtheloop #orderfromchaos #ADHD #anxiety #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It might be helpful to control what we can in the moment. Just a reminder that we have gotten through every hard thing we have ever been dealt before now. Protect your peace. #dontgiveup #seasonaldepression #protectyourpeace #controlwhatyoucan

Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We can notice that some people will use us to validate how they feel about themselves. It is helpful to notice if you are playing into their narrative. Pay attention to how you feel before, during, and after those confrontations. Increase your awareness of what your own emotional experience is in the interactions with people you often find yourself in conflict with. #relationshipconflict #emotionalexperience #confrontation 

Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace, and compassion. It might be helpful to work on looking back and recognizing how far we have come, being proud of the version of us who did some hard work. Take a moment to day to acknowledge your past you and be proud of them. #proudofyou #growth #hardwork #learningeveryday #youhavecomesofar 

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings 

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for longer. They help us get through things or are going through the same things. Having connections help make the hard times a little easier. There is a grief that comes from losing those connections but there is also gratitude for having someone with you at the time. It takes effort to maintain those connections but the reward is worth it. 

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can choose to change for the better and sometimes for the worse. With consistency and consciously we can become a different version of ourselves. It will take effort, it will mean failing, and it can lead to some amazing opportunities. It is up to you. #change #evolution #growth #skillsandtools 

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even when our heart wants something different. It is helpful to allow space for your feelings so we can process our way to a fuller picture of what are dealing with. It might also be helpful to clean up our head, shifting our internal voice to something a little kinder. Doing so will create a path to trusting ourselves. This piler of alignment creates a safer way move throughout the world. #trustyourself #feelyourfeelings #manageanxiety #bekind #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about positivity versus reality. There are times we work hard to "stay positive" in the face of challenges. It might be a better use of energy to be realistic about our capacity for engagement, choosing consciously who we can be real with. #realist #authenticity #ominouspositivity #toxicpositivity 

Today, we are talking about feeling accepted in our relationships. Are we being seen and understood, all of our parts at the same time? Are we seeing and accepting ourselves. It can ben challenging to be aware of how we show up in relationship when we are too busy criticizing ourselves. Take an opportunity to see who shows in your life if we appreciate all of who we are. #acceptance #relationships #beinghuman #selflove