Midlife Mavens

Midlife Mavens hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben interview Vancouver naturopathic physician Heidi Lescanec about her “Pink Zones” concept, inspired by Blue Zones but focused on where women live the fullest, not the longest. Pink Zones are supportive environments—places, communities, or self-created conditions—where women thrive because surrounding conditions support wellbeing. Heidi describes seven pillars: cultural self-worth, systemic support, nervous system regulation, rooted nourishment, community and connection, ritual and meaning, and creative vitality. She shares practical examples such as making recurring social commitments, embracing creativity for delight rather than productivity, building daily “bookend” rituals (morning expressive writing and evening dry skin brushing), and improving nourishment by focusing on how we eat, including choosing easier-to-digest meals when time is limited. She also challenges myths that midlife is only decline or invisibility, emphasizing potential growth and power.   00:00 Pink Zones Concept 00:25 Podcast Intro Disclaimer 01:28 Meet Heidi Nik 03:53 What Are Pink Zones 05:07 Why Pink Zones Matter 06:44 Seven Pillars Overview 09:08 Creativity Legacy Connection 12:51 Build Your Pink Zone 14:23 Community Commitments 18:35 Mid Episode Therapy Plug 19:42 Rituals Bookends Practice 26:17 Nourishment How To Eat 31:06 Myths About Midlife 35:52 Wrap Up Resources 37:58 Final Outro   Heidi’s website:  www.thepinkzones.com/   The Pink Zones Longevity Pillars:   Cultural Self-Worth: A woman’s internalized sense of value, dignity, and visibility–also shaped by how her culture reflects or diminishes her worth across her lifespan.   Rooted Nourishment: Food, herbs, movement, and rest practices grounded in ancestral, intuitive wisdom–passed through generations as a form of embodied healing.     Nervous System Regulation: Supporting calm, adaptability, and physiological safety through rest, rhythm, breath, and sensory practices–key to hormonal and emotional balance.   Community and Connection: Intentionally cultivating female-centered support systems, mutual witnessing, and intergenerational bonds   Systemic Support: Access to time, safety, money, healthcare, and equity–recognizing that wellness is shaped by structural conditions, not just personal habits   Ritual and Meaning: Purposeful practices–daily, seasonal, spiritual, or ancestral–that root women in cycles, transitions, and belonging   Creative Vitality: Creativity as a healing force–artistic, expressive, or playful practices that generate joy, identity, and renewal.   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites:   Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

On this episode of the  Midlife Mavens podcast, psychologists Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben interview family nurse practitioner Mary Katherine Roberts about women’s health topics often left undiscussed, especially pelvic floor problems after pregnancy, childbirth, or hysterectomy. They explain how pelvic floor weakening can contribute to urinary issues, cystocele (bladder prolapse), and rectocele (rectal bulging), and discuss practical strategies such as changing positions to empty the bladder, pelvic floor physical therapy, splinting/bracing, and pessaries, with surgery as a later option and urogynecology referrals for specialized care. The conversation also covers hormone replacement therapy, including early testosterone decline, individualized HRT approaches, libido being affected by mental health and medications like SSRIs, and the role of estrogen and testosterone in bone health and osteopenia, noting HRT may still be considered even years after menopause.   00:00 Hysterectomy Prolapse Shock 00:25 Podcast Intro Disclaimer 01:27 Meet Nurse Practitioner MK 02:42 Why Pelvic Floors Go Unspoken 04:59 Peeing Problems Position Fixes 06:10 Pelvic Floor PT Beyond Kegels 08:14 Prolapse After Hysterectomy 10:26 Urogynecology Slings Pessaries 13:17 Cystocele Rectocele Explained 15:42 Rectocele Bathroom Workarounds 18:39 Breaking Shame Seeking Help 19:42 Mid Episode Therapy Plug 20:48 Testosterone Dip And Perimenopause 22:18 HRT Options  24:12 Libido Is More Than Hormones 27:12 Bone Density Osteopenia Hormones 30:06 Starting HRT After Ten Years 31:55 Myths Pain And Advocacy 34:43 Find A Provider Who Listens 35:45 Closing Resources And Goodbye   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

On the Midlife Mavens podcast, psychologists Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben discuss midlife financial planning with CFP financial planner Mary Huntley of Cambium Wealth Partners, emphasizing that money is both an emotional topic and simple math. Mary describes a planning process that identifies hopes and fears, turns them into concrete goals with dollar amounts, and uses projections and probabilities to help clients shift from saving to spending in retirement. She advises interviewing financial professionals, looking for the CFP credential, and distinguishing planning from investment management, noting options from pro bono and hourly help to asset-based fees and standalone plans. The conversation covers savings “gut” numbers, marriage/divorce and Social Security considerations, budgeting basics, reducing eating-out costs, realistic travel, and helping women confidently spend, give, and plan tax-efficiently after accumulating wealth. 00:00 Money Fights and Sex 00:15 Podcast Intro and Disclaimer 01:17 Meet Financial Planner Mary 03:01 Why Money Feels Emotional 05:01 Therapy Meets Finance 06:55 Retirement Spending Fears 08:52 Fulfillment Generator Exercise 11:35 No Magic Retirement Number 12:25 Finding the Right Planner 14:49 Planning vs Money Management 16:45 Behavioral Finance Coaching 18:48 Costs and Affordable Options 20:59 Planning Fees Explained 21:30 Modular Planning Options 22:03 Planning Without Asset Management 23:41 Motivation Through Probabilities 24:51 Women And Money Confidence 25:59 Savings Intuition Example 27:50 Relationships Money And Midlife 28:36 Emotions Meet The Math 31:22 Midlife Money Myths And Tips 32:59 Food Health And Finances 34:35 Travel Dreams On A Budget 36:22 From Scarcity To Spending 38:11 Closing Thanks And Resources Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com  Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

Psychologists Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben discuss family estrangement on the Midlife Mavens podcast, framing distance from family as an intentional, protective response rather than an impulsive choice. They describe estrangement as a spectrum—from reduced contact and emotional guardedness to full cutoff—and note it is often preceded by long-standing patterns, failed boundary-setting, enmeshment, abuse/neglect, substance use, coming out LGBTQ+, or divorce/remarriage conflicts. They address societal and cultural stigma, myths that family must always come first, and the shame clients feel when others minimize their experiences. The hosts explore grief, ambiguous loss, and sometimes relief on both sides, and consider whether reconciliation is possible through accountability and understanding. They recommend therapy, self-reflection, support groups, chosen family, grieving unmet expectations, and adjusting boundaries and expectations.   00:00 Why Distance Happens 01:17 Why Estrangement Is Taboo 02:51 Midlife Shifts And Boundaries 05:13 Defining Estrangement 08:02 Patterns Not One Event 10:42 Types And Common Causes 15:26 Shame And Social Judgment 16:57 Mid Episode Contact Break 18:03 Why Society Resists It 21:48 Grief Relief And Loss 25:00 Can Relationships Heal 27:54 Finding Support And Options 30:23 Chosen Family And Grieving 34:05 Masked Estrangement Is Common 35:22 Wrap Up And Next Steps   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com  Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben speak with Ryan Whited, a strength and exercise coach, personal trainer, and elite climber. The conversation delves into common fitness myths, including the misconceptions around pain and exercise intensity. Ryan emphasizes the importance of consistency and mindset in building sustainable health habits. They discuss the 'minimum dose effect,' the value of non-exercise activities, and how monitoring one's physical state can guide the right amount of exertion. Practical advice on distinguishing between harmful pain and benign discomfort is shared, encouraging listeners to maintain movement even with physical challenges. The episode serves as a motivational guide for women navigating their fitness journeys in midlife and beyond.   00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens Podcast 01:07 Fitness Myths and Mindset Shifts with Ryan Weden 01:43 Debunking Fitness Myths and Pain Management 03:39 Minimum Dose Effect and Sustainable Health Habits 08:42 Mindset Shifts and Consistency in Exercise 17:59 Emotional and Physical Pain: Parallels and Insights 21:10 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben engage in a candid discussion with Ryan Whited, a strength and exercise coach, personal trainer, and elite climber. They delve into the importance of fitness and exercise for midlife women, offering insights into overcoming fears, daily aches and pains, and common fitness myths. Ryan shares his innovative approach of using minimal equipment for effective home workouts and emphasizes shifting focus from vanity to overall health. The conversation highlights how rethinking physical activity can empower and improve the lives of women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:24 Meet Ryan Whitehead: Strength and Exercise Coach 02:01 Personal Journey with Fitness and Healing 04:12 Changing Perspectives on Aging and Exercise 07:26 Addressing Fitness Myths and Mindset Shifts 21:00 Virtual Training and Home Workouts 25:01 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben welcome Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky, a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause. They discuss various hormone replacement therapy (HRT) options, debunk myths around HRT and perimenopause, and provide insights into the role of testosterone in midlife. Dr. B emphasizes the importance of realistic expectations from HRT, the safety concerns around supplements, and the significance of patient-specific approaches in treatment. The episode aims to offer empowering and educational content for women navigating midlife transitions. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 01:18 Meet Dr. B: Specializing in Perimenopause and Menopause 01:38 Exploring Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Options 08:28 The Role and Controversy of Testosterone in Midlife 15:35 Debunking Myths and Misinformation about Menopause 23:24 Final Thoughts and Resources More information about Dr. B:  Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky (https://www.jessicabeachkofsky.com) is a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause mental health. Dr. B works with women navigating hormonal shifts, mood changes and all the brain chaos that comes with a perimenopause menopause transition. She's really good at making medicine and psychiatry digestible, engaging, and actually useful because knowledge is power and midlife women deserve both. Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben continue their conversation with Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky, a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause. They dive deep into hormone replacement therapy (HRT), discussing historical fears, current understandings, and the relationship between HRT and breast cancer risk. Dr. B also elaborates on bone health, osteopenia, and the benefits of estrogen for heart health. This episode aims to provide clarity and factual information to empower women navigating midlife changes.   00:00 Comparing Alcohol and HRT in terms of breast cancer risk 00:16 Introduction to Midlife Mavens Podcast 01:18 Meet Dr. B: Specialist in Perimenopause and Menopause 01:32 Debunking Myths About Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) 03:31 Risks and Benefits of HRT 06:30 When to Consider Starting HRT 10:41 Alternative Ways to Manage Menopause Symptoms 17:14 Bone Density and Osteopenia Explained 25:54 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview   More information about Dr. B:  Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky (https://www.jessicabeachkofsky.com) is a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause mental health. Dr. B works with women navigating hormonal shifts, mood changes and all the brain chaos that comes with a perimenopause menopause transition. She's really good at making medicine and psychiatry digestible, engaging, and actually useful because knowledge is power and midlife women deserve both.  Here’s Dr B’s hormone information sheet:  https://tinyurl.com/drb-hormones   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben welcome Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky (https://www.jessicabeachkofsky.com/) a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause mental health. The discussion revolves around the impact of hormones on mood, anxiety, sleep, and libido, highlighting the roles of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Dr. B explains how hormonal changes during midlife affect the brain, bones, and cardiovascular system. The episode also explores the sedative effects of progesterone on sleep, the significance of early perimenopausal symptom recognition, and the challenges of hormone testing. Tune in as the hosts and Dr. B delve into the complexities of managing midlife hormonal changes and the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy (HRT).   00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:08 Meet Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky 01:59 Understanding Hormones and Mental Health 02:56 The Role of Estrogen in Women's Health 07:58 Progesterone and Sleep 14:09 Challenges with Hormone Testing 19:47 Recognizing Perimenopausal Symptoms 26:00 Conclusion and Next Steps   More information about Dr. B:  Dr. Jessica Beachkofsky (https://www.jessicabeachkofsky.com) is a psychiatrist specializing in perimenopause and menopause mental health. Dr. B works with women navigating hormonal shifts, mood changes and all the brain chaos that comes with a perimenopause menopause transition. She's really good at making medicine and psychiatry digestible, engaging, and actually useful because knowledge is power and midlife women deserve both.  Here’s Dr B’s hormone information sheet:  https://tinyurl.com/drb-hormones   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th… Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O’Saben discuss the topic of mismatched libidos, a common issue many couples face but rarely talk about openly. Marci, a certified sex therapist, shares her expertise on the nature of mismatched sexual desire, comparing it to differences in appetite and sleep. The conversation addresses common myths surrounding sexual desire, particularly the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. They discuss the importance of communication, intimacy beyond sex, and strategies to manage this dynamic, including taking breaks from sex, understanding personal boundaries, and the concept of a ’desire dial.’ The episode also touches on the impact of hormonal changes, the role of masturbation, and the significance of changing how one thinks about the role of sex in a relationship. This candid discussion aims to provide listeners, especially women in midlife, with insights and tools to improve their sexual relationships and overall intimacy. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 01:35 Understanding Mismatched Libidos 06:39 Common Myths About Sexual Desire 12:57 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire 28:23 Strategies for Managing Mismatched Libidos 32:02 Special Considerations for LGBTQ Couples 35:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Books Mentioned by Marci: Awaken your Body Awaken Your Desire by Danielle Armour, PhD Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski   Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites:   Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com    Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben discuss the complex challenges associated with caring for aging parents. They explore the emotional, physical, and financial burdens that caregivers face and offer strategies for managing compassion fatigue and burnout. The hosts emphasize the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing when professional help is needed, and taking care of one's own mental health. They also touch on the dynamics of caregiving in strained relationships and provide resources for additional support. This episode aims to validate the diverse experiences of caregivers and offer practical insights for navigating this demanding phase of life. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 01:27 Today's Topic: Caring for Aging Parents 03:19 Emotional and Logistical Challenges 04:27 Financial Struggles and Misconceptions 07:27 Physical Demands and Caregiving Realities 17:14 Managing Compassion Fatigue 28:05 Navigating Complex Family Dynamics 34:57 Resources and Support for Caregivers 37:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Books mentioned by Carol:   "Being Mortal:  Medicine and What Matters in the End" by Atul Gawande "Rules of Engagement:  Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict"   Several national organizations offer support groups and resources for caregivers of the elderly. Here are a few we've identified:   Caregiver Action Network (CAN): CAN provides education, peer support, and resources to family caregivers nationwide. They are a leading organization focused on improving the lives of caregivers.  [https://acl.gov/programs/support-caregivers/national-family-caregiver-support-program#:~:text=Caregiver%20Action%20Network%20is%20the%20nation's%20leading,to%20family%20caregivers%20nationwide%20free%20of%20charge] National Alliance for Caregiving: This organization focuses on research, policy analysis, programs, and advocacy for caregiver families. They also work to improve the quality of life for both caregivers and those they care for.  [https://www.caringinfo.org/planning/caregiving/caregiving-resources/#:~:text=The%20National%20Institute%20of%20Aging%2C%20the%20CDC%2C,are%20rich%20resources%20for%20help%20and%20connections] National Family Caregiver Support Program: This program, authorized under the Older Americans Act, helps families care for older adults at home. It provides services like counseling, support groups, caregiver training, and respite care. [https://www.tn.gov/disability-and-aging/disability-aging-programs/caregiving.html] Eldercare Locator: This nationwide service connects older adults and their caregivers with local support resources. It can help find services like meals, home care, transportation, and more. Alzheimer's Association: This organization offers support groups and resources specifically for caregivers of individuals with Alzheimer's disease and other dementias. [https://www.ncoa.org/caregivers/benefits/caregiver-support/#:~:text=The%20Eldercare%20Locator%20is%20a%20nationwide%20service,can%20point%20you%20in%20the%20right%20direction]   Other Helpful Resources: AARP: AARP offers information and resources on a wide range of caregiving topics, including financial, legal, and medical support. Area Agencies on Aging (AAAs): These local agencies provide services and support to older adults and their caregivers within their communities. Disease-specific support groups: Organizations like the Alzheimer's Foundation of America, the Parkinson's Foundation, and CancerCare offer support groups for caregivers of individuals with specific conditions. Got a question or a suggestion for a future episode?  Use our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites:   Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com    Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben discuss what men in committed relationships need to know about perimenopause and menopause. They cover the challenges women face during these life transitions, including changes in hormone levels, mood swings, sleep disturbances, and decreased libido. They also offer practical advice for men on how to support their partners, the importance of education, patience, and empathy, and ways to open up supportive dialogue. The episode highlights the need for men to be understanding and supportive during this critical period to help maintain strong relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens Podcast 01:25 Understanding Menopause and Perimenopause 02:42 Common Symptoms and Experiences 04:47 Emotional and Psychological Impact 17:47 Supporting Your Partner 33:10 Conclusion and Resources   If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com    Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben, both psychologists specializing in relationships and sexuality, discuss various relationship structures for women in midlife. They cover the pros and cons of remarrying, staying single, cohabitating without marriage, and maintaining committed partnerships while living separately. The hosts emphasize the importance of making intentional decisions that suit individual circumstances and also touch on the impact of societal views and family dynamics on these relationships. Topics like financial considerations, legal and medical benefits, and the emotional aspects of merging lives are also explored. Future episodes will delve into monogamy versus non-monogamy and how these choices might affect relationships in midlife. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:14 Today's Topic: Relationship Structures in Midlife 03:43 The Pros and Cons of Remarrying 07:04 Staying Single: Benefits and Challenges 15:35 Cohabitation: Navigating Shared Spaces 18:26 Blending Families and Financial Considerations 24:10 Committed Relationships Without Cohabitation 31:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts This is the third in our series on relationships in midlife.  In Episode 4 we explored some of the changes that occur in relationships in midlife.  In Episode 9 we discussed  dating in midlife and in this episode we explore the different types of relationships that individuals might choose (or find themselves in) in midlife.  Episode Notes: “Ask Us Anything”:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com    Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben delve into the complexities of dating in midlife. They discuss the unique challenges faced by women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond, including the difficulties of meeting new people, the impact of relocation, and balancing new relationships with existing responsibilities. They provide practical advice on putting oneself out there, staying safe while online dating, and the importance of developing new hobbies. The conversation also touches on the sensitive topics of dating after divorce or widowhood, including the emotional and financial ramifications. Throughout, the hosts emphasize the need for bravery, open communication, and the exploration of new ways to find companionship and love. They also remind listeners that while the podcast is for educational purposes, seeking professional therapy can be beneficial for navigating these life changes. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:23 Today's Topic: Dating in Midlife 01:42 Challenges of Meeting People in Midlife 04:17 Online Dating: Pros and Cons 05:35 Building New Hobbies and Social Circles 08:55 Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics 14:49 Safety and Honesty in Online Dating 17:00 Sex and Dating in Midlife 18:58 When to Start Dating Again 21:58 Financial and Legal Considerations 25:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Here's the link for our “Ask Us Anything” Form:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 And here's the link for the "Torching the Haystack" article Carol mentions in this episode:  https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/online-dating-was-hell-then-i-tried-1-thing-that-turned-out-to-be-a-total-game-changer_uk_64edfc34e4b0293d9286828e If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com    Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben introduce mindfulness techniques that can be easily incorporated into daily life to manage stress and enhance self-compassion. Carol guides listeners through the Five Senses Grounding Technique, while Marci demonstrates a Compassionate Hands exercise. Both exercises are designed to help individuals focus on the present moment and respond to their own difficult feelings with kindness.    00:00 Introduction to Compassion and Self-Kindness 00:19 Welcome to Midlife Mavens Podcast 00:48 Disclaimer and Purpose of the Podcast 01:26 Coping Techniques for Stress 02:16 Five Senses Grounding Technique 02:54 Guided Five Senses Exercise 08:48 Conclusion of Five Senses Technique 09:45 Intermission: Professional Services 10:50 Compassionate Hands Exercise 11:32 Guided Compassionate Hands Exercise 17:23 Conclusion and Encouragement 18:06 Final Thoughts and Farewell   “Ask Us Anything”:  https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci:  https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com   Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match:  https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://aasect.org iTherapy:  https://itherapy.com

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben, both psychologists specializing in relationships and sexuality, discuss the often-overlooked connection between hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause and mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and ADHD. They provide personal insights and professional perspectives on how these hormonal changes can exacerbate or trigger mood disorders, and emphasize the importance of recognizing these symptoms for appropriate treatment. The episode also covers the societal and medical community's lack of attention to women's health issues, the potential benefits of hormone replacement therapy, and the necessity of tailoring mental health care to the unique needs of women in midlife. Listeners are encouraged to engage with the hosts on potential future topics.   00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:34 Understanding Mental Health in Midlife 03:05 The Overlap of Hormones and Mood Disorders 05:22 Training Gaps in Mental Health and Menopause 07:03 Common Mental Health Issues During Menopause 10:33 Impact of Hormone Replacement Therapy 11:22 Consultation and Therapy Options 12:28 Addressing Myths and Misconceptions 19:08 ADHD and Executive Functioning Challenges 25:09 Future Topics and Viewer Engagement 26:29 Conclusion and Encouragement for Therapy “Ask Us Anything”: https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben discuss the changes in sexuality that women experience during their 40s, 50s, and 60s. They candidly talk about physical changes such as wrinkles, skin elasticity, and vaginal dryness, as well as the impact of hormonal changes on libido and desire. The hosts emphasize the importance of communication in relationships, breaking societal taboos around discussing sex, and the potential benefits of medical treatments. This conversation aims to empower and inspire women to embrace their evolving sexuality and seek professional help if needed. 00:00 Introduction and Hosts' Background 00:44 Disclaimer and Purpose of the Podcast 01:22 Recap of Last Episode and Today's Focus 01:42 Physical Changes in Midlife 07:15 Psychological and Emotional Aspects of Midlife Changes 08:19 Medical Interventions and Seeking Help 11:35 Communication and Relationship Dynamics 16:00 Generational Differences in Discussing Sex 18:18 Conclusion and Call to Action Got a question or suggestion for a topic you would like to hear us discuss, let us know! You can access our “Ask Us Anything” Form: https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com  

n this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben discuss how women in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond can navigate changes in their bodies and self-image. Responding to a listener's question about feeling sexy in midlife, they explore shifts in appearance, mood, and physical health. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion, realistic comparisons, and acceptance of one's current self. The episode also introduces strategies like 'compassionate hands' exercises and looks forward to future discussions on coping with changes related to sex and other midlife transitions. 00:00 Introduction and Hosts' Background 01:26 Listener's Question: Feeling Sexy in Midlife 02:22 Changes in Appearance and Self-Image 05:03 Comparisons and Self-Compassion 16:17 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion 20:57 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser Let us know what questions you would like to hear us address on a future episode: https://forms.gle/3bo4KuaXfGxCUS9C9 If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com  

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben, both psychologists specializing in relationships and sexuality, discuss the unique challenges faced by couples in long-term relationships. They explore issues such as boredom, routine, loss of passion, and the impact of life changes like empty nesting and retirement. Emphasizing the importance of communication and connection, they offer insights and practical tips for maintaining a healthy and exciting relationship as life evolves. The episode also touches on societal expectations, mental health, and how to keep the relationship dynamic by recognizing and addressing each partner's evolving needs. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens Podcast 01:18 Challenges of Long-Term Relationships 02:28 Dealing with Boredom in Relationships 07:48 Maintaining Connection and Rituals 17:45 Impact of Health and Mental Health Changes 21:35 Navigating Life Transitions 27:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com Marci mentioned her training in the Gottman method. One of her favorite resources is this book by John Gottman: "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert."

In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben discuss the challenges midlife women face in balancing their numerous responsibilities. They explore where this pressure to 'do it all' comes from, touching on societal expectations, traditional gender roles, and internal perfectionism. The conversation highlights how both men and women experience these pressures differently, and delves into the emotional burden many women carry in managing households. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own balancing acts and emphasizes the importance of being present in the moment. Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes and not a substitute for professional mental health services. 00:00 Introduction to the Balancing Act 00:13 Meet Your Hosts: Marci and Carol 01:22 Exploring the Concept of Balance 02:13 Personal Stories and Juggling Responsibilities 03:50 Gender Roles and Societal Expectations 10:34 Household Management and Emotional Burden 12:04 Impact of Perfectionism and Anxiety 21:46 Aging, Appearance, and Societal Pressure 24:36 Final Thoughts and Reflections 29:57 Conclusion and Call to Action If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://www.drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com  

Summary: In this episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben explore the intricacies of midlife for women, particularly addressing the societal norms and expectations around aging. They share personal anecdotes, including Carol”ss experience with letting her hair go gray and the surprising realization that many women never saw their elders go gray due to widespread hair coloring practices. The hosts discuss the emotional responses tied to labels like 'middle-aged' versus 'midlife' and the empowerment they found in redefining their identity. They touch on the lack of open discussions about aging, sex, and body changes, emphasizing the need for a supportive community. This episode aims to normalize these conversations and provide a space for women to feel seen and heard as they navigate this phase of life. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer 01:25 The Origin of 'Midlife Mavens' 02:27 Emotional Reactions to Aging 05:26 Psychological Perspectives on Midlife 07:54 The Shift in Identity and Roles 11:24 Societal Expectations and Appearance 19:48 The Importance of Open Conversations 26:51 Generational Labels and Identity 30:50 Conclusion and Contact Information Resources: If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://www.marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol:  https://www.drosaben.com Citations: 1. The quote Carol cites in today's episode is from a blog post written by Doris Bersing, PhD on her blog, "Older Women: The Double Standards of Aging" (https://www.dorisbersing.com/blog/older-women-double-standard-ofaging) 2. The book Carol mentions: Lisa Mosconi, PhD (2024). "The Menopause Brain: New Science Empowers Women to Navigate the Pivotal Transition with Knowledge and Confidence." Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/th... Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com  

Introduction to Midlife Mavens Podcast: Navigating Midlife Challenges and Conversations In this introductory episode of the Midlife Mavens podcast, hosts Marci Burroughs and Carol O'Saben, both psychologists specializing in relationships and sexuality, provide an overview of the podcast's focus. They discuss key themes such as dating, menopause, family dynamics, and healthcare concerns for women in their 30s to 60s and beyond. The hosts share their personal stories, professional backgrounds, and the motivation behind starting the podcast. They emphasize creating a safe space for candid discussions on often-taboo subjects and aim to offer support, insights, and expert advice. The episode also touches on the logistical challenges faced in launching the podcast and invites listener engagement through their Facebook page. 00:00 Introduction to Midlife Mavens 01:26 Meet Your Hosts: Marci and Carol 04:14 The Journey to Psychology 05:58 Reconnecting and Starting Private Practices 07:28 The Birth of the Podcast Idea 09:00 Creating a Safe Space for Conversations 13:25 Navigating Midlife Challenges 15:57 Engaging with the Community 19:09 Upcoming Episodes and Final Thoughts If you are looking for a therapist and would like to reach out to Marci or Carol, take a look at their websites: Marci: https://marciburroughsphdcst.com Carol: https://drosaben.com Other therapist directories you can use to help you find therapy include: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA2JG9BhAuEiwAH_zf3t-0UINw_4OW6at282-_LwDMJ8KY0O6FFvJVl-r065Bax-HjMYrTORoCv6AQAvD_BwE Mental Health Match: https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists: https://aasect.org iTherapy: https://itherapy.com/about_our_counselors/