Teen Whisperer

Welcome to another episode of “Teen Whisperer,” where we dive deep into the world of raising teenage daughters with empathy and insight. I’m Rach, and today, we’re tackling a topic that’s as complex as it is crucial: emotional outbursts. Ever felt overwhelmed by your daughter’s sudden mood swings? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll introduce you to a game-changing tool—the mood tracker—that can help you decode her emotional rollercoasters and identify the patterns and triggers behind them. Imagine having the power to understand what’s really driving those outbursts and how to address them with confidence and clarity. Stay with me as we explore how to turn confusion into connection and chaos into calm. Plus, I’ve got a special resource that you won’t want to miss—one that’s designed to transform your approach and deepen your understanding of your daughter’s emotions. Let’s get started! DM me on insta at theteenwhisperer to get your FREE guide or to connect, take care Rach x

With the summer holidays just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to focus on self-care, balance, and connection. In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to create a harmonious summer filled with both high-energy and low-energy activities, while also allowing space for spontaneity and personal growth. We’ll explore practical tips and strategies to help you and your teen daughter thrive together this summer, rather than just survive. Plus, I’ll share five simple tools to keep your daughter engaged and excited about the break. So, grab a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and let’s get started on making this summer the best one yet!

Today we’re tackling a crucial topic: the impact of social media on teenage girls. Have you ever wondered how social media affects your daughter’s brain, concentration, and self-esteem? Why does she seem more stressed and anxious? In this episode, we uncover the truth behind the screens. We’ll explore how constant likes trigger dopamine hits, why perfectionism is rampant, and how stress hormones like cortisol are keeping our girls awake at night. But it’s not just about the problems—we’re here to offer solutions. Discover how support groups like Glow can provide a safe space for girls to share their experiences, build real connections, and develop healthy relationships with themselves and others. I’ll dive deep into the unfiltered reality of social media’s impact and learn how to help your teen navigate this digital age with confidence and resilience. Ready to make a positive change? Let’s get started! Here are the accounts to follow on instagram that I talked about in the podcast: the_female_lead scrolling2death instituteofchildpsych safescreencampaign Jonathan Haidt smartphonefreechildhood Plus my website www.positivetouch.net to check out the details of Glow.

Imagine this: your daughter rolls her eyes and snaps at you over something trivial, and before you know it, you’ve lost your cool. You immediately regret it, drowning in a wave of guilt. But what if I told you this moment could be the gateway to a deeper bond with your daughter? What if, instead of guilt, you could respond with compassion and confidence? In this episode, we’ll uncover the hidden reasons behind our daughters’ challenging behaviors, explore the fascinating science of the teenage female brain, and reveal how our own childhood experiences shape our reactions. Plus, I’ll share five powerful tools to help you break the cycle of guilt and transform your interactions with your daughter. Join me as we embark on this journey of understanding, healing, and growth. Trust me, you won’t want to miss this! As ever if you want to be one of the first to learn more, hit subscribe and you’ll be getting new episodes as soon as they’re released. Connect with me via insta at teen.whisperer.nature or www.positivetouch.net x

Have you ever found yourself doing everything for your daughter, even though she’s perfectly capable of doing it herself? Does it seem like she doesn’t even try, leaving you frustrated and overwhelmed? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you. Today, we’re uncovering the real reasons behind this behaviour and sharing five powerful tools to help your daughter build confidence and independence. Imagine watching her take on responsibilities with enthusiasm, trusting in her own abilities, and thriving in life. It’s possible, and I’m here to guide you through it. Stay tuned, because by the end of this episode, you’ll have the practical strategies and insights you need to support your daughter’s journey from feeling overwhelmed to becoming empowered. Let’s dive in! Remember my free resources.. The Connection Blueprint which is available via my website at www.positivetouch.net or insta at teen.whisperer.nature x

Last week, we discussed the pressures your daughter faces—from societal expectations and educational stress to hormonal changes and the patriarchy’s impact—and how empathy, communication, and quality time can transform your relationship from conflict to connection. Today, we’re addressing a situation many parents might encounter: “My daughter says she wants to be called by a different name. What do I do?” Hearing your daughter wants to be called by a different name can be surprising and evoke a range of emotions. It’s essential to approach this with openness, empathy, and support. Your response can significantly impact her confidence and your relationship. Let’s explore why she might want this change and how you can navigate it with love and understanding. Remember my free resources..the Teen Whisperer Tribe and The Connection Blueprint which are available via my website at www.positivetouch.net or insta at teen.whisperer.nature x

Today’s episode is all about understanding why your daughter might be struggling and sharing five simple tools to help you both navigate these challenging years. The teen years are a time of intense change and pressure, much of which our daughters have no control over. It’s important to remember that she’s not trying to upset you; she’s just trying to regain some semblance of control in her life.  She’s learning about her new self at the same time as you are. I will be exploring the hidden pressures facing your daughter—from societal expectations and educational stress to hormonal changes and the impact of the patriarchy. Tune in to discover how empathy, open communication, and quality time can transform your relationship from one of conflict to deep connection. Don't miss this opportunity to build a stronger, happier bond with your daughter! Remember my free resources..the Teen Whisperer Membership and The Connection Blueprint which are available via my website at www.positivetouch.net or insta at teen.whisperer.nature x

In this episode I delve into the challenging journey of supporting a teen daughter who self-harms. Parenting a teen girl is tough, but when she is struggling with self-harm, the difficulties multiply. I share five essential tips to help you navigate this path with resilience and hope. You’ll learn how to seek professional help, educate yourself about self-harm, create a supportive network, communicate effectively with your daughter, and practice self-care. Each tip is designed to empower you and provide practical strategies to support your daughter through her struggles. Join us as I offer guidance, understanding, and a sense of community to help you and your daughter weather the storm together. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Tune in and take the first step towards healing and connection.

Welcome back to this podcast! If you’re a mum struggling to motivate your daughter who seems perpetually bored and disengaged, this episode is for you. I share some powerful insights and practical tips on how you can inspire her to step out of her comfort zone without dragging her out of her room or causing more resistance. Today, we’ll explore how making changes in your own life can be the catalyst for positive transformation in hers. So, stay tuned as we dive into five actionable strategies to help you shake things up and create a more dynamic, engaging environment for both you and your daughter. Let’s get started!

A shoutout to mums of teen girls… who’s experiencing conflict and kickoffs on a daily basis from their teen daughter who’s thinking there’s gotta be a different way.. I see you in the shadows checking out my content and thinking what if…? Can this really be true? Can there really be a different way? What if it doesn’t work? I get it cos I used to be you… on the receiving end of my daughter’s meltdowns where I would get hurt and yes I do mean that emotionally and physically… Listen in for more AND some exciting news just for YOU..

Join me as we unravel the complexities of the teenage years and discover practical strategies for fostering a deeper connection with your teen. In today's episode, we'll be exploring a topic that resonates with many mums: figuring out the underlying reasons behind your daughter's persistent grumpiness and anger. Many mums grapple with the challenge of understanding and navigating their daughter's emotional landscape during the often difficult years of adolescence. But before you jump to conclusions and assume her anger is directed solely at you, let me just say that her anger is directed at the situation she finds herself in, not at you though I know it doesn’t always feel like this. Let's peel back the layers and explore the multiple factors contributing to her attitude. Listen in to find out more..

Last week I talked about the nervous system and possibly too much but do you know what? It’s important for us to know this stuff. In this episode, we delve deeper into the misconceptions surrounding teen girl behavior. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not just about hormones. Traditional parenting tactics often exacerbate the situation, leaving both parents and daughters feeling lost and fearful. Too often we’re told that if our teen girls are struggling, it’s their hormones at play and the solution? To control, to micromanage, to give them no choice. This is what traditional parenting strategies are about. Does this help? No, it exacerbates the situation, it makes her a lot more fearful and you, more lost. She is scared beyond belief and resorts to one of three behaviours. Tune in as we explore the root causes and uncover strategies to foster understanding and connection, rather than control.

Join me this week as I dive into negative behavior patterns. Explore the underlying reasons behind them, dispel common misconceptions, and discover actionable strategies to use now in the present moment. Tune in for powerful insights and practical tips to break free from harmful cycles and foster positive change.

In this episode I introduce you to what teen whispering is, and how it can help you in your relationship with your teen daughter. I also give you five powerful insights as to how you can create meaningful connections that withstand the ups and downs of the teenage years

he you’re not alone sessions are BAACK!! I talk about the ups and downs of being a Mum with a teen daughter through my own personal experiences and insight of being both a Mum and a Coach. In this episode I talk about patterns of behaviours and the monkey brain and what we can do to help ourselves

In this episode I talk about mental health and what it is, how society, culture and education focus mental health over physical health and how good health isn’t a pipe dream.

In this episode I talk about what’s behind your daughter’s excitement when she suddenly stops talking about it and hides.. What are we as Mums doing that she is reflecting in her behaviour? What negative behaviours are we displaying? By becoming aware of these patterns literally takes the sting out of them and stops any reflection. Who wants to join me in building a community of like minded Mums? Yes please 🙏🏼 Let’s do this together and build better lives for ourselves as Mums AND for our teens daughters.. Either say YES 🙌 in the comments, DM me on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature, PM on fb at positive touch 18 or hit reply here to show your interest and I’ll let you know more… Rach x

Following the last episode where I talked about self harm vs self care, in this episode I talk about why they self harm and what we can do as mums to help. I give you easy to use tools that help you now in the moment. You are your teen daughter’s biggest advocate so it makes sense that you know as much as you can to help her. Over the next few weeks listen in as I release details of a new online 6week programme for your teen daughter. If you want to know more connect with me either via instagram at teen.whisperer.nature email on [email protected] or check out my website at www.positivetouch.net though be aware it’s having a revamp.

Self harm is obviously harm against yourself whilst self care is care for yourself. In this episode I talk about the two topics I have discussed recently - self harm and my accident and how it makes me feel. I also talk about feeling worthless and how trying to do it all makes our daughters feel worthless as they aren’t allowed to do anything. We mirror the exact behaviours we don’t like in ourselves. We don’t need to do it all as Mums, as it can result in traumatic incidents that literally stop you in your tracks. Listen in to find out how to turn things around to connect to yourself and her.

So in this episode I tell you why Teen Whisperer has been AWOL and the effect it has had on my teen daughter.

Warning ⚠️- in this episode I talk about my own self harming behaviours as a teen girl and my daughter’s downward spiral during COVID. I talk about how these behaviours keep us safe in a weird way, why they are so addictive and what we can do to break them. If any of this podcast episode has resonated with you either for yourself or you teen daughter and you would like to talk, connect with me via my website at www.positivetouch.net, email at [email protected] or on insta at teen.whisperer.nature Take care Rach x

How are you doing? How’s your daughter doing? In this week’s episode I talk about how we as Mums and our daughters are living in our heads due to societal pressure, fear, scaremongering, overwhelm, constant to dos. We are living in survival mode in our heads 24/7 and are disassociating from our bodies meaning that we are resorting to distraction - tech, risk, self harm, changing ourselves. The only way we can change this is to connect to our minds, body & heart so listen in for a short meditation, breath work or mindfulness that grounds you to yourself and what’s happening for you right now. For more information on the moon cycles check out Jennifer Racioppi on the web.. x

Sleep and your Teen - in this week’s episode I talk about why your teen daughter doesn’t get out of bed on time, why she feels so shattered when she does get up and why getting to sleep is easier said than done. I give you the facts plus four ways that you can help. As a Conscious Parenting Coach I help you and her to understand what’s happening every step of the way, the highs and the lows, what’s going on in her brain, her development, her energy cycles and ways that you can both form a better, more connected relationship to yourself and to each other. Contact me for more information or to download my Disconnection to Connection Toolkit…

In this episode I talk about the massive insights and empowering effect that being at Evolve and my conscious parenting coaching course has had on me. I introduce you to new offerings from Positive Touch; a chance to join like minded individuals to share, collaborate and learn that you’re not alone. If you would like to book in a connection call to talk further, the best way is to DM me on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature or via my website is www.positivetouch.net Take care Rach x

Following on two weeks ago, this is the new part of my podcast about my story of life with my teen daughter…. I talk about the ups and downs, topics that affect both of us as well as behaviour management, things going on for me and how it reflects onto her. It’s mahoosive, mind blowing and inspiring so come on down and listen in. This week I’m taking about why mistakes are a natural part of life and how they help our daughters to learn.. If you like what you hear then watch this space for new and exciting plans to support you and your daughter both in person and online..there’s a hell of a lot happening behind the scenes!! It’s exciting and a tad scary too and that’s ok. If you would like to connect my website is www.positivetouch.net and I’m on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature. Take care Rach x

Anyone remember playing pass the parcel as a kid? In this episode I talk trauma, patterns of behaviours and how conscious parenting helps. The middle of the parcel - the present - is you at your core in the truest sense of the word - who you really are The layers of paper are trauma and patterns distorting who you think you are. If you like what you hear then watch this space for new and exciting plans to support you and your daughter both in person and online..there’s a hell of a lot happening behind the scenes!! It’s exciting and a tad scary too and that’s ok. If you would like to connect my website is www.positivetouch.net and I’m on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature. Take care Rach x

Following on two weeks ago, this is the new part of my podcast about my story of life with my teen daughter…. I talk about the ups and downs, topics that affect both of us as well as behaviour management, things going on for me and how it reflects onto her. It’s mahoosive, mind blowing and inspiring so come on down and listen in. This is part 2 in I can’t do this, the message behind fear. If you like what you hear then watch this space for new and exciting plans to support you and your daughter both in person and online..there’s a hell of a lot happening behind the scenes!! It’s exciting and a tad scary too and that’s ok. If you would like to connect my website is www.positivetouch.net and I’m on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature. Take care Rach x

Our girls brains are different to boys and physically need to feel connection with their friends so that they can feel good about themselves. Listen in for ideas that as a Mum you can help without fixing the situation or making her feel worse. The tv programme I was talking about is called I am Ruth plus the film Social Dilemma is another good watch.

So this week I introduce the new part of my podcast - my story with my teenage daughter, the highs and the lows - so that you can see you’re not alone. Enjoy listening to my side of the story and find out how to work with one another. Let me know what you thought… Connect with me at teen.whisperer.nature on Instagram, Rachel Friedli on LinkedIn or www.positivetouch.net Take care Rach x

Teen Whisperer is BACK!! Welcome to a new season, a new background tune and a new direction!! I am adding in new tales from me as a Mum of a teen daughter - You’re not alone - Tales of Aargh to Ahh alongside insights from awesome leaders in the field of Conscious Parenting. Listen in for bite sized chunks of inspiration, empowerment and insight that you can put into place NOW. Learn why putting your needs FIRST help you to support your teen daughter. In order for our teen daughter to thrive, we need to reflect those behaviours onto them, we need to be doing them ourselves. Connect with me on insta at teen.whisperer.nature or check out my website at www.positivetouch.net - I would love to hear from you, Rach x

It’s the summer holidays, how are you feeling? Are you feeling upbeat and full of joy or exhausted and running on empty? Too often as Mums especially we are told to keep do, do, doing even when every part of our bodies is shouting STOP and REST but we can’t or won’t allow ourselves permission to. Why is this? Well culture and society play a massive part telling us that to be the best Mum, we need to be on it 24/7 but do you know what? We don’t and this week I am here in your lugholes giving you permission to do just that, to ‘be’ in this moment right now… Take 10 mins just for YOU… Enjoy x

So for the last episode for the next 8 weeks, I am giving you a simple visualisation to use over and over again. Use it when you feel arrgh or when you need a little pick me up. Connect to those feelings and allow yourself to become calm. Breathing in this way allows to be in this moment, at one with yourself. Remember I will still be posting once a week on Connection Day but that’s it, so listen to past episodes and have a wonderful summer. Come and connect with me at www.positivetouch.net [email protected] or instagram teen.whisperer.nature x

This week I talk about how past patterns repeat in our parenting of our teenage daughters and also how they affect us as women to keep believing their worth. If you would like to chat more please contact me on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature plus if you’re interested in digging deeper, I will be looking for case studies in the not so distant future.

So exams are over…most of them, so give yourself a massive hug - you so deserve it. Not only have you supported your teenage daughter, you have also managed yourself. This week I’m taking a different track and talking about how we all have experienced trauma, whether small or large. How understanding where the traumas are coming from and how they affect us, empowers us to connect with our teenage daughters. Be prepared to have your mind blown and empowered…

In this episode I talk how making a plan now for post exams takes away the anxiety and the arrgh for when her grades come through. Pre-empt the confusion and the anger so you both know what the options are and can make a fluid plan.

In this episode I talk about how using simple self help tools helps your daughter (and yourself) during, before and after exam prep. Being conscious of what’s happening for her right how helps her to know that you can see her in this present moment, not in the future and not in the past. By asking her what she needs rather than asking her what you can do for her helps her to know that she is in control.

Last week I talked about you and this week I talk about how nature transforms yours and your daughter’s mental health and wellbeing. It is so important to recognise our cyclical rhythms alongside the natural cycles of the year so you can manage your boundaries and energy. If you would like to learn more connect with me via instagram at teen.whisperer.nature via my website at www.positivetouch.net or email at [email protected] Rach x

So the last few week I’ve been talking about ways to support your teen daughter with her revision and exam prep but this week I am taking about you. I am talking about simple tools that help you to make space for yourself so your teen daughter can mirror the behaviours she needs to support her mental health and wellbeing. If you would like to connect email me at [email protected], check out my website at www.positivetouch.net or DM me on instagram at teen.whisperer.nature Rach x

This week I talk about celebs who didn’t achieve at GCSEs but have made something of their lives. Not everyone is capable of retaining lots of information - I know I’m not.. and that’s ok.

Just a short one this week from me but one that’s important to listen to. Not everyone learns the same way so sit down and work with your daughter to find out what her learning style is. Then together you can make changes to her revision so she absorbs the information her way.

So last week I talked about revision and this week I am going to build on that topic and talk about how boundaries help us and our daughters to feel safe and secure. Boundaries help them to know what is expected of them and allow them to manage their time. Keep listening for ways to support yourself and your teen daughter… If you like what you hear, I would love to connect with you via instagram at teen.whisperer.nature or via my website at www.positivetouch.net Over the next few weeks I will be releasing details of my NEW community membership for Mums of teen daughters so if you’re interested in finding out more, come and connect. I would love to talk to you, take care Rach x

This week I’m talking all things REVISION. For the next 8 weeks, I’ll be taking over this podcast to give you tools to help you manage the emotions, anxiety and pressure that are connected to exams so let’s buckle this in and enjoy..

It’s Easter 🐣 - a time to enjoy some much needed time off for both of you. You may be on holiday or you may just be needing time out, away from the pressures of life. Being conscious in this moment helps you to manage the stresses of life, rather than looking to the future or looking back at what was.. If like me you are totally knackered, listen to your body for what it needs and only do that. Our teen daughters need us right now in this moment, to mirror those behaviours we want to see in them, it’s the only way they learn. Remember they learn by what they see, so if you are constantly do, do, doing, then that’s what they’ll do too. It’s also pre exam season, so make sure she takes a step back, so you can enjoy your time together and rest. Your daughter will not learn when she is tired, has her period or is ill. Allow her the space to relax and connect with you, to have a relationship based on trust and respect. Balance revision and time out for her and you.

So this week I’m going to talk to you about the difference between traditional parenting and the parenting that I've been talking to you about these last few weeks, which is an amalgamation of conscious and attachment parenting. If you would lie to know more about the Mums retreat I am hosting in June, check out the link www.positivetouch.net/teen-whisperer-retreat

This week I’ll be talking about the 3rd key in the Disconnection to Connection roadmap - Communication - as well as giving her space when she first comes home. I’ll introduce you to indirect questioning as it allows your daughter to open up more as you’re being more specific with what you want to know.

This week I thought I’d talk about all things Mum and showing up full not empty as a Mum to your teenage daughter. So what do I mean? Listen in to find out more…

Did you know that a recent study showed that screen use is as deadly as other addictions? We all know that social media has its good points but did you know why it has such an adverse reaction on our teen daughters? Listen in for these and other simple tools to help you manage screen time in your house.

Following a conversation with one of my clients, about tracking her daughter’s menstrual cycle, it got me thinking… When we know what our cycles are doing, we are better able to manage our energy. Listen in for more information to how being aware makes it far easier to recognise the symptoms and not put extra pressure on her. Easy eh?!

So in today’s episode I talk about the transition from being a child to an adult, and how it doesn’t just happen overnight. On this topic, I talk about the internet and how it is all around us. The internet has so many positives but of course there are a few negatives. Being aware of these negatives can help you as a Mum to support her so listen in…

This week it’s half term in the majority of the UK and hopefully you’re having some time relaxing. I had a Teen Whisperer coaching client this afternoon and she has got me thinking 💭 So as you know I’ve been planning a retreat for the past few weeks.. but what if this retreat over Mother’s Day was a weekend just for YOU as a Mum of a teen daughter? How would you feel about having a weekend away on your own with other Mums who have teen girls? You can be yourself, connect in to what you want and put your needs first ALL weekend… OMG this is huge. In this episode I introduce you to a simple visualisation where you are at the retreat with me and other Mums. So if you want to know more, check out my website at www.positivetouch.net or connect with me - all my details are on my website. Take care Rach x