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Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour — 285 episodes
Feelings Without A Home
When Childhood Enters Love. What could possibly go wrong?
How Avoidant Parenting Shapes A Child’s Inner World
A Family Organized Around Absence
The Mavericks
The avoidant parent and the violent child. Stop negotiating with the volcano!
The Child Who Learned Not To Need
Avoidant Parents (part 2)
The Avoidant Parent. Series intro
The label part 2 (the other episode was abruptly ended)
Beyond The Label
'Little Hands'
Safeguarding Comes First
A blunt instrument?
A Counter Allegation Can Turn A Safeguarding Concern Into Suspicion
Protection Recast As Alienation
A Child Refuses Contact, what might that mean?
When A Child Refuses Contact
The Maverick
Fire in The Hole
I can do better than that.....
Burn Alone
Keep your name.......
A Clinician’s Response To The Great ADHD Myth
When A Child Refuses Contact
The Three Rs For Healing Harmful Relationships
The Life That Belongs To You. The Author speaks.
The Life That Belongs To You
The Reckoning
The first stage. Recognition
Ep 1. Empty Box Syndrome
Introduction to Coercive Control
Dangerous Relationships Episode 2. Living Inside The Relationship
Dangerous Relationships. Understanding Sociopathy
Dangerous relationships. Recovering Your Reality
Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Patterns. Emotional Insight Vs Intellectual Insight
Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Traits Vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder Ep1.
Dangerous Relationships. Episode 1 part 2. Addiction. When Love Becomes Enabling
Dangerous Relationships. Ep 1 part 1. Living With Addiction
Dangerous Relationships, Introduction to the series.
Emotional Decontamination And The Self Beneath
Not Everything You Feel Is Yours
Emotional decontamination
When No Is Only Today’s Answer
Reclaiming Your Emotional Life
Emotional Contamination Explained
Whose Feeling Is This?
I can do better than that......
The Boy Who Found His Anger
The Truth That Changes Everything
Story 1. Episode 2. The Cost Of Untruth
What goes around, instrumental intro
The Hidden Family Stories Behind Child Behavior
When Grownups Fight Kids Hurt
A Painful Wake Up Call
Mentalization Episode 10. How Parents Build A Child Who Can Reflect
How Curiosity Shuts Down
Stop Calling It Attention Seeking And Start Listening
Autism And Mentalization
Mentalization And ADHD: Why Perspective Disappears Under Stress
The Social Media Ban Problem
Ep 5. Why Trauma Shuts Down A Child’s Thinking Brain
Episode 4. How Parents Become A Child’s External Brain
Ep. 3-The Brain Behind Mentalization
Episode 2,How Mentalization Grows
Mentalization In Plain English
Recovery After The Empath Avoidant Trap
The Reckoning
The Day Hope Ends
The Empath & The Avoidant. Ep.3. Death By A Thousand Cuts
The Avoident & The Empath. Ep.2. Chasing Closeness, Chasing Distance
The Empath And The Avoidant<br>
When An Avoidant Meets An Empath
Episode 5: The Adult Relationships of Attachment — Why We Keep Recreating patterns
The Psycholgy of Attachment. Compulsive Care Seeking
Episode 3: Compulsive Caregiving — The Child Who Learns to Look After Everyone Else
Beyond Attachment Styles. Ep 2. The Child Who Stops Needing Anyone
Hidden Attachment Strategies In Adolescence. Introduction to the series.
Attachment styles. Disorganized Attachment. When Love & Fear Are The Same.
The Avoidant Attachment Pattern
Attachment styles. Ep.2. Anxious Attachment
Secure Attachment
An Introduction To Attachment. Ep.1. Attachment As An Invisible Blueprint
Hold The Line !!
The Psychology of Control. Reality Breaks The Spell
The Psychology of Control, Ep 9. When Control Collapses
The Psychology of Control. Ep 8. Gaslighting
The Psychology of Control. EP 7. How Family Secrets Turn Into Psychological Control
The Psychology of Control. Family Dynamics Shape A Child’s Personality
The Psychology of control. Episode 5.Guilt As Control
The Psychology of Control. Withdrawal
The Psychology of Control. The Child Is Not The Problem
The Psychology of Control. Ambiguity
The Psychology Of Control. Introduction.
Why it feels like it's happening again. The Story We Tell Ourselves
Episode 3: When Small Changes Feel Like Big Threats. When Silence Hits
Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 2.When The Past Feels Present
Podcast Series: Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 1: The Moment Something Shifts
Hidden Harm And Emotional Neglect
Hidden Harm. Children Learn To Shrink When Love Has Conditions
Hidden Harm. "Good Behaviour" - Or Is it....?
Hidden Harm. The Too-Grown-Up Child
Hidden Harm, After-School Meltdowns
Hidden Harm. The Overcompliant Child
Hidden Harm. The Child Who Never Complains
Safeguarding When You Are Worried
A Practical Guide To Recognizing Child Safeguarding Risks
What Child Safeguarding Really Means And Why It Matters
Children Absorb What We Don’t Process
Overwhelm Isn’t Failure, It’s Capacity Being Exceeded
Parental Anger Unpacked
The Avoidant. Reality Confrontation After An Avoidant Relationship
The Avoidant Partner. Episode 2. If It Felt Like Love Yet Broke You......
The silent Damage. Avoidant Attachment Explained
Episode 3. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Depressed Parent
Episode 2. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Anxious Parent
The Parent Beneath The Parenting Episode 1.
Relational Injury Recovery
Relational Injury. Episode 2. The Reckoning.
Relational Injury. Part 1. Recognition
Adolescence Netflix series.- Family Systems Under Stress
Adolescent Rage. Netfkix series.- Disorganized Attachment And Adolescent Rage
From Inside The Consulting Room. The Child In The Middle
From Inside The Consulting Room. When Therapy Is Not Enough
Trauma, Sexualisation, and Adolescent Risk-When Closeness Feels Dangerous
Sexualisation and Trauma — When The Body Speaks
From inside the consulting room.The Angry Child
The Quiet Child
From Inside The Consulting Room. Relationship first......
Childhood In the Digital World. Episode 6. Build Before You Ban Screens
Childhood In a Digital World. Episode 5. Connection Before Control
The Digital Childhood. Episode 4.Dopamine Design And Kids Screen Time
Childhood in the digital world .The Disconnected Self
Childhood In The Digital World. Episode 2. Belonging & Connection.
The Digital Childhood. Episode 1. Are we asking the right questions?
The Screen Time Evidence Gap.
Adolescent Criminality Is A Developmental Signal, Not An Identity
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 5. Emotional Neglect And Youth Offending
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Episode 4 corrected version
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 3. The Unseen Child & Acting Out
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 2. The Adolescent Brain Under Pressure
The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Episode 1. When A Teen Breaks The Law
The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Introduction. Rethinking Youth Crime
Inside the Consulting Room. Episode 10. When A Child Feels Safe
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 9. The Exploding Adolescent
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 8. The Child Who Felt Too Much
Inside The Consulting Room. Ep. 7.Emotional Parentification The Child Who Carries The Family
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 6. Trust, Betrayal, And A Sixteen-Year-Old’s Guard Up
Inside The Consulting Room. Episde 5. Childhood Fear And The Need For Rituals
Inside the consulting room. Episode 4.The Invisible Child
Inside The Consulting Room, Episode 3. The Angry Child
Inside the Consulting Room. Episode 2. When Helping Everyone Becomes A Hidden Cry
In the Consulting Room. E[psode 1. Silence Speaks
Inside the Consulting Room. Introduction. The Blessed Drink That Nobody Can Touch
Small People Big Lives
Trauma Recovery
Shame After Trauma
PTSD. Episode 4. When Trauma Leaves A Scar
PTSD. Episode 3. Traumatic Memories In Children
PTSD Episode 2. A Brain Under Threat
How Trauma Stays In The Body
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5. Leaving The Psychological Labyrinth
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5, When Relationships Organise Around Deception
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 3.Chronic Ingratitude
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 2.Envy’s Quiet Violence
Leaving the one way street. Episode 1. Reality Fracture
Adrianna & Chris. Teaser 2,,,,,,,
Children Living in the Shadow of Addiction. Episode 6. Breaking The Shadow Cycle
Children living in the shadow of addiction. Episode 5. Lost In The Chaos
Leaving The One Way Street Teaser
Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 4. The Damage.....
Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 3. Guardians Of The Family Secret
Children Living in The Shadow of Addiction. Caught Between Love And Fear. Episode 2.
Children In The Shadow Of Addiction
When conditions collide. Episode 6.
When conditions collide. Episode 5
When conditions collide. Episode 4
...Burning Skies. Close your eyes, and see what you see......
Two Systems, One Child. When Conditions Collide. Episode 3.
When Conditions Collide. Episode 2.
When Two Neurotypes Collide. Episode 1.
Facing Psychological Reality. Episode 10. Integration (joining the dots)
Anxiety, Avoidance, And What Lies Beneath
'In Relationship" The Introduction
A Therapist’s Preface To Understanding Your Child
How A Childhood Shaped A Child Psychotherapist
Psychological Reality, Plainly Stated
Silent Scars: Understanding Emotional Harm In Children
Shades Of Truth
From Attachment To Identity: How Early Relationships Shape Who We Become
From Being Held In Mind To Becoming A Self
Facing Feelings, Not Fighting Them
Inside The Mind We Live In
They Swore To Tell The Truth… Just Not The Whole Truth
“I Don’t Lie” And Other Cowardly Magic Tricks
You Didn’t Fail; Your Expectations Were Shaped And Shattered
Seeing Through Emotional Deception
Trust Shattered
How Fear And Shame Turn Truth Into A Mask
Emotional Deception, Defined
Calm Beats Pressure For GCSEs
Understanding Adolescent Stress During GCSEs
Your Teen Says “I’m Fine,” Their Nervous System Disagrees
How Internalized Pressure Turns Studying Into Fear And What To Do About It
Your Anxiety Doesn’t Define Your Parenting
Untitled Episode
How Early Wounds Resurface When You Become A Parent
Anxiety And The Caring Parent
Parenting Anxiety, Explained Simply
Understanding Parental Depression And Its Impact On Children
Your Feelings Set The Weather Your Child Grows In
Holding Certainty, and the Uncertainty Beneath It.
Holding Complexity In Gender Distress
Why Your Feelings Are Always Real And Your Actions Still Count
Children Caught In The Crossfire
Your Lawyer Isn’t Your Therapist, And Your Child Isn’t Your Messenger
From Defiance To Regulation: A Practical Guide For Parents
Untangling ODD From Look-Alike Conditions
From Diagnosis To Direction: Evidence-Based Help For Defiant Behavior
Understanding Oppositional Defiant Disorder From The Inside Out
When Defiance Isn’t Just Disobedience: A Clinician’s Guide For Parents
They Called You Daily, Yet Never Asked About You
Congratulations, You Blocked Them; Now Evict Them From Your Head
From Control To Respect
Why Some Men Change
Taking Responsibility Changes Everything You Keep Repeating
From Wound To Wisdom: Reclaiming Your Worth
So You’re Not Controlling? Your Partner Disagrees
A Therapist Explains How Men Can Recognize And Change Coercive Behavior
You Are Not The Problem—Naming Abuse Restores Power
Green Peppers, Guilty Conscience, And A Better Self
Realization And The First Step Out
Why I Speak About Domestic Abuse
How One Emotionally Available Parent Can Change Outcomes
Parents Can Protect Children By Noticing The Signs Of Emotional Strain
Children Don’t Just Hear Arguments, They Feel Them
I Didn’t Get Hit But It Hurt Anyway....
How Coercive Control Echoes Into Parenting And What Heals It
Rethinking Parental Alienation
When Therapy Enters The Courtroom
Rethinking 50-50 care Through A Child’s Eyes
Parenting Under Pressure
Understanding Adolescent Drug Use Through A Psychological Lens
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is Remodeling
Understanding Eating Disorders In Young People
Breaking The Giver–Taker Loop In Relationships
How Children Experience OCD And What Helps
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is On Wi‑Fi With No Router
We Made Four Courses So You Don’t Have To Google At 2 A.M.
When Adolescence is harder than you thought ep 3 of 8
Depression & Suicidality in young people
Responsibility 'for' or 'to'?
The pain of 'Loss'....
What......? Not 'why?'.
Who pulls the strings..?
When adolescence is harder than you thought-ep 2 of-8
Adolescence. When it's harder than you thought. EP.1 of 8
When the sadness doesn't lift.....
My Co-Therapists are, Oscar & Jess, MY DOGS
Understanding Self Harming Behaviours in Children & Young People.
Waiting for CAMHS.....
ADHD. Episode 3.
ADHD. Shame and self esteem.
ADHD. Helping parents understand and develop new tools. Episode 1.
Belefs 3. How we can facilitate change.
Just ask the Therapist....
Internal Beliefs. Part 2
Internal beliefs
When not to ask 'why did you.....?'
Parents can learn.....
I do what I am, I am not what I do
Empathy & Emotional intelligence
Attachment, early formation and types
Parenting Adolescents in Distress
Birth and the brain experience
The developing brain during pregnancy
Growing healthy small people
The Narcissist
Dirty little secrets
The Narcissist part 2.
Episode 5 Extinguishing the Gaslighter
Episode 4. Anxiety reduction
Episode 3. The SOOTHE technique
Covid-19 Stress, and the internal psychological world experience.
Episode 1. An introduction to Child development series