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Your Secret Is Safe With Me — 237 episodes
237: Change Can Be (EXTREMELY) Strange
236: Taking the Agony Out of Major Life Decisions
235: Emotional Affairs
234: Resisting the Urge to Contact Your (Ex) Affair Partner
233: How to Have Better Sex (Part 3)
232: How to Have Better Sex (Part 2)
231: How to Have Better Sex (Part 1)
230: When Your Infidelity Situation Takes Over Your Life
229: Radical Un-Shaming with David Bedrick
228: Podcast Greatest Hits: When You Love Your Partner and You Still Want to Cheat
227: Love, Sex, and Romance: What Do You Really Want?
226: Recovering From a "Bad Decision"
225: Drunken One-Night Stands
224: Going All-In On Your Desires
223: Whose Job Is It to Change the Conversation About Infidelity?
222: Dating for the First Time in a Long Time
221: Why I Work with Affair Couples as Individuals
220: Vacillating Between Two Relationships
219: Thriving After Infidelity: Michael's Story
218: Creating the Future vs. Predicting the Future
217: The Perils of Telling the Truth
216: When Your Affair Partner Breaks Your Heart
215: Secretly Dating While You're Married
214: What If You Make the "Wrong Decision" About Your Relationship(s)?
213: Beginnings and Endings
212: Choosing Between Two Good Things
211. Dealing With Your Personal Problems When the World Is on Fire
210. Sex Work and Infidelity Part 2
209. Astrology and Infidelity with Karen Hawkwood (Part 2)
208. Sex Work and Infidelity Part 1
207. Astrology and Infidelity with Karen Hawkwood
206. Where Do You Want to Be a Year from Now?
205. What Can You Give Yourself More Credit For?
204. The Challenges of Infidelity During the Holidays
203. Your Money or Your Freedom
202. Breaking Up with Your Affair Partner
201. High-Conflict Breakups
200. Nostalgia
199. You Are Worthy of Acceptance
198. What Do You Owe Your Ex-Affair Partner's Spouse?
197. Affairs with Old Lovers
196. What Are You Tolerating?
195. Affair Relationships Can Last a Lifetime
194. Dealing With Doubt
193. What Do You Owe a Relationship Before You Can Decide to Leave It?
192. When Will I Stop Fantasizing About My Ex-Affair Partner?
191. Are You Just Having a Midlife Crisis?
190. The Magic Button
189. Scandal, Disgrace, and Redemption
188. When Your Affair Partner Leaves You for the Wrong Reasons
187. It's Okay to Change Your Mind
186. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 2)
185. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 1)
184. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation (Part 2)
183. When Your Affair is Over, You May be Bored
182. Why Considering Non-Monogamy Might Not be Helpful
181. How to Tell Someone You've Cheated on Them
180. When Your Affair Partner Has an Agenda for You
179. How Long Should You Wait for Your Affair Partner to Leave Their Marriage?
178. When You Have an Agenda for Your Affair Partner
177. What It's Like to Work with Me
176. Fear
175. The Right Tools for the Job
174. Believing in Your Capacity to Change
173. The Easy Hard Paradox
172: Missing Your Affair Partner
171. The Extreme Highs and Lows of Infidelity
170. Planning to Break up with Someone After the Holidays
169. Integrating Your Affair Partner Into Your Family
168. The Gifts of Your Infidelity Situation
167. Starting Over After a Breakup
166. The Hell of Being Broken up With
165. Ultimatums
164. Cheating On Your Affair Partner
163. Approaches to a Breakup: Breadcrumbs vs Bombshells
162. Becoming More Decisive
161. How Do I Know if I'm Being Reckless?
160. Cheating On Your Fiancé
159. You Can't Eat the Whole Elephant at Once
158. Forgiving Yourself & Forgiving Others
157. You Might Be an Asshole
156. Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 2)
155. Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 1)
154. Being Your Own Steward
153. Your Questions Answered (Part 5)
152. Seeing Your Ex-Affair Partner in Social Settings
151. Your Questions Answered (Part 4)
150. Your Questions Answered (Part 3)
149. Your Questions Answered (Part 2)
148. Your Questions Answered (Part 1)
147. You Can't Shame Yourself into Changing
146. Loving Your Decisions
145. Don't Wait to Get Caught
144. Your One Wild and Precious Life
143. Treating Your Infidelity Situation as a Life Project
142. Trying to Get Back to the Way a Relationship Used to Be
141. Contentment That Isn't Dependent Upon a Relationship
140. Loneliness
139. Comparing Your Spouse to Your Affair Partner
138. Telling a New Partner About Your History with Infidelity
137. If You Don't Feel Guilty About Cheating
136. If You've Been Stuck in Your Infidelity Situation for a While
135. When Your Infidelity Situation is Brand New
134. Cheating in Open Relationships
133. Don't Make Your Partner Break Up with You
132. Stop Minimizing the Importance of Sex
131. Breaking Up with Someone You've Been Cheating On
130. Implicit Permission to Cheat
129. Cultivating Clarity and Certainty (Part 2)
128. Cultivating Clarity and Certainty
127. The Limits of Other People's Advice
126. Regret is Optional
125: Privately Grieving the End of an Affair
124: Dealing with Other People's Discomfort (Part 2)
123: Abundance vs. Scarcity of Love
122: Yes, People Can Be Total Jerks Sometimes
121: How Good Can You Stand It?
120: Managing Your Worries
119: Explaining How a Relationship Began
118: The Intimacy of a Breakup
117: Jealousy
116: Uniquely Difficult Situations in Life
115: From an Affair to a Non-Affair Relationship
114: Questioning Common Beliefs About Marriage
113. Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet
112. Being a Human Feels Terrible Sometimes
111. The Price of Convenience
110. What Do You Owe Someone You've Cheated On?
109. You Don't HAVE to Make a Decision
108. Why Do People Cheat?
107. Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?
106. Ask Yourself the Right Questions
105. It May Be Time to Chuck Your Checklist
104. The Courage to Make Changes and Choices
103. Dealing with a Vindictive Affair Partner
102. You Got Caught Cheating
101. What Physical Pain Teaches Us About Emotional Pain
100. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation
99. What Do You Expect Out of a Romantic Relationship?
98. Stop Telling Yourself These Three Things Right Now
97. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair, Part 2
96. When You Leave Your Marriage but Your Affair Partner Doesn't
95. Dealing With a Needy Affair Partner
94. Is It Cheating if Your Spouse Has Alzheimer's?
93. Allowing Yourself To Want What You Want
92. Holding Our Desires Lightly With Katy Dion
91. The Intensity of a New Affair
90. Should I Go to Couple's Therapy?
89. Does Having an Affair Doom Your Marriage to Failure?
88. When Bad Sh*t Happens
87. Relationships, Divorce, and Money With Jessie Susannah Karnatz
86. When your Affair Partner Ghosts You
85. Past vs. Future Focus
84. Making Plans for the Future With Your Affair Partner
83. Boundaries with Melissa Hite
82. How to Cheat and Keep Your Sanity Intact
81. Conflict and Compatibility
80. It's Not Your Partner's Job To Make You Happy
79. Being Honest With Yourself
78. Lying About Infidelity
77. Infidelity, Shame, and Perfectionism
76. Regret
75. Perfectionism and Relationships
74. Dealing With Guilt and Shame
73. What To Say When You Break Up With Someone
72. Preparing for a Breakup
71. When You Love Your Partner And You Still Want To Cheat
70. What Does It Mean To Be Selfish?
69. Making Changes In 2022
68. Infidelity and Death
67. Choosing To Leave A Good-Enough Marriage for Your Affair Partner
66. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Four: Dealing with Nostalgia and Confusion
65. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Three: Putting off Decisions
64. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Two: Being the Other Person
63. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part One
62. Making Difficult Decisions
61. Sex, Unhappiness, and Compromises in Marriage
60. Dealing with Other People's Feelings
59. Is the Grass Always Greener?
58. Financial Fears, Divorce, and Infidelity
57. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair
56. Cutting off Contact With Your Affair Partner
55. Contemplating Leaving Your Marriage
54. Embracing Your Contradictions
53. Divorce and Your Relationship with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
52. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Three
51. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Two
50. The Joys and Sorrows of Adultery with Mona Lisa
49. In Defense of "New Relationship Energy"
48. Forgiving Yourself
47. Being the "Other Person," Part Three
46. Dealing With Other People's Opinions, Part One
45. Being the "Other Person," Part Two
44. Moving Beyond Blame with Karilyn Ivers
43. Being the "Other Person," Part One
42. The Mindset of Pleasure with Danielle Savory
41. Clarifying What You Want in a Relationship
40. Blow Your House Down with Gina Frangello
39. Healing from Heartbreak with Dorothy Johnson
38. Sexuality, Religion, and Shame with Melissa Hite
37. Discomfort, Drama, and Infidelity
36. Good Enough Sex with Dr. Barry McCarthy
35. Changes and Choices in Relationships with Yael Haklai-Neagu
34. Mindfulness, Music, and Relationships with Dr. Richard Gold
33. How to Deal with Missing Your Affair Partner
32. Money and Your Relationships with Christine Luken
31. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship with Susan Wenzel
30. Affair Recovery for Couples with Idit Sharoni
29. How to Have a Secret Affair
28. When You're the One Who Cheats with Dr. Tammy Nelson
27. Recovering from Trauma in Relationships with Altagracia M. Felix
26. Having an Affair to Save a Marriage
25. Financial Infidelity with Adam Kol
24. All About Ashley Madison with Isabella Mise
23. Deciding to End a Commitment
22. The Beauty of Conflict for Couples with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
21. Shameless Sex with Amy Baldwin
20. If You've Cheated on Your Partner, Do You Have to Tell Them?
19. Divorce and Your Money with Shawn Leamon
18. Talking to Your Kids About Infidelity
17. New Year's Resolutions with Dr. Jonathan Horowitz
16. How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
15. Relationships and the Tarot with Courtney Moore
14. So You Were Cheated On—Now What?
13. A Private Investigator's Perspective on Infidelity with Art Tilis
12. Legal Implications of Infidelity with Rodrigo Dias
11. Personal Stories of Infidelity with Suzannah Weiss
10. Polyamory with Magenta Brooks
9. Debunking Myths About Infidelity
8. So You're Having an Affair—Now What?
7. Nonviolent Communication with Joyce Swaving
6. Historical Perspectives on Marriage with Dr. Devon Smith
5. Decision-Making and Your Power to Choose
4. Safe Sex Basics with Lisa Bayani
2. Emotions 101
3. Emotions, Relationships, and the Body
1. An Introduction to the New Podcast