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What's the link between childhood maltreatment and adult revictimization? Let's summarize the article Childhood maltreatment and adulthood victimization: An evidence-based model.

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It's an overiew of men, women, trans and non-binary dating challenges we researched this month - and then let's talk about 5 unique anecdotal obstacles for the ladies in this bonus episode release from behind the paywall.

The controversial takes keep coming! Talking forced identities, the hate against 'fuckbois', everything a sign of upcoming abuse, and the targedy of the consent generation. Let's think outside the box and examine what's going wrong for the male populus.

Personal trauma histories that provoke abusive relationships on repeat, social bottles uncorking with obsession, internet stalking's merits & shortcomings, and what TO-DO as a guy looking for a date... We've covered a lot. Let's turn it into reflection and application.

Psychoeducation is the brightest point to come from Dystopia. Right guys? Right? ...Or has it been creating stronger predators and overconfident amateur fishermen? Today we talk about the Wellness shared reality and how it's impacting online dating, including the creation of annoying PUWBs floating all around.Duh-Dun Duh-Dun

This month in the Patreon feed we're talking romantic relationships and all the ways they go immediately wrong. In this recording we rap about emotionally masturbating as it crosses over with weird attachments & forming fake relationships as a coping mechanism - dooming any real relationship that might emerge to fail. And let's talk about the societal danger of protectively doping instead of actually dating.

A month full of dealing with fear and determining who to be. In this release from the patreon stream, we talk about the terrors of time when you have a traumatized brain. Inconsistency, lapses, wormholes and sandtraps... we live in temporal funhouses. Let's talk about how an unstandard relationship with time affects our relationships and what to do about it.

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Rumination isn't only an annoyance, it's a predisposing factor for psychopathology. Here are 5 research-backed tips for changing the chronic thought pattern.summaryIn this ep we talk about practical strategies for managing cyclical thoughts. The discussion emphasizes the importance of visualization techniques, cognitive restructuring, and unfortunately self-acceptance, to break the torture of continual negative thinking. We provide actionable tips to help navigate ruminatory patterns and foster a chronically healthier mindset.takeawaysRumination is linked to trauma, anxiety, and depression.Setting a timer for ruminating thoughts can reinforce them through ironic control processes.Visualizing to create your own inhibitory signal can help interrupt negative thought patterns.Mapping the brain's rumintory circuit and tracking inner expeirence through it can aid in managing rumination.Re-calibrating obsessive view of one event within the context of an entire existence can shift attention.Avoid thinking about personal memories or predictions before bed to prevent insomnia.Using "cognitive bridges" can help connect conflicting thoughts so the mind can hold both.Self-forgiveness and esteem are (unfortunately) crucial for overcoming ruminatory thinking.A realistic lens assists with rumination: Life is unpredictable, and we have limited control over events.keywordsrumination, mental health, anxiety, cognitive control, self-acceptance, coping strategies, visualization, brain circuits, insomnia, self-forgiveness, the unpredictable nature of the universe and your realistic place in it

'Stop seeing everything so negatively." they say. But the cognitive behaviors underlying depression don't allow it. Let's talk about mental reactions and sticky patterns that outweigh false brightsides. Course!Workbook!Patreon Vid!summaryThis conversation delves into the cognitive basis of depression, focusing on how neural networks, memory games, language, cognitive inhibition inhibition, outdated working memory, and rumination contribute to depressive states. It explores the mechanisms behind cognitive depression, compassionate views for the state of human suffering, and offers strategies for managing depression through attention training and environmental changes.takeawaysNeural networks, schemas, and representations automatically shape our understanding of experiences.Even singular stimulation events can activate depressive schemas, limiting potential perceptions.Memory biases in depression lead to a resonating focus on negative experiences.Over generalized and explicit memories are unique experiences associated with depression.Cognitive inhibition is ironically inhibited during depression.Working memory cannot update with relevant material under depressive spells.Emotional regulation is hindered by cognitive control loss in depression.Rumination causes or exacerbates depression, anxiety, and PTSD due to a negative focus on the self.Automatic reckoning with the human condition may be the cause of many varieties of cognitive disorders.Training attention can redirect focus away from negativity.Ambiguous or negative social environments spark rumination which leads to depression.Changing environments and behaviors can help disrupt negative neural networks.Understanding the cognitive processes behind depression can bolster compassion and help deactivate negative schemas.keywordscognitive depression, memory bias, cognitive inhibition, working memory, overgeneralized memory, semantic memory, rumination, emotional regulation, reappraisal, self-doubt, neural networks

If Facades of Conformity feel a bit much, how about Impression Management strategies? Let's talk about common strategies, the risks vs. rewards, and negative return on energetic investments. Course form!summaryThis conversation delves into the themes of conformity and impression management, exploring how individuals often sacrifice their true selves to fit societal expectations. It discusses the psychological implications of these behaviors, including increased loneliness and decreased life satisfaction, and highlights various strategies people use to manage their self-image. The conversation emphasizes the risks associated with these strategies and the long-term consequences of suppressing one's true identity.takeawaysImpression management is a common behavior in social interactions.It can lead to higher loneliness and lower life satisfaction.People often feel pressured to conform to societal norms.Impression management can be a double-edged sword, creating more problems than it solves.Different strategies of impression management include ingratiating, self-promoting, and suppression.Supplication can lower self-esteem and self-image.Suppression can lead to emotional exhaustion and impaired relationships.Authenticity is crucial for genuine connections.The effort to manage impressions can be exhausting and counterproductive.Creating environments of authenticity can improve overall well-being.keywordsimpression management, conformity, emotional welfare, social support, loneliness, self-image, authenticity, psychological health, social dynamics, coping strategiesAs always, visit patreon.com, search traumatized motherfuckers for the whole story <3

It's a summary episode! What have we been talking about lately? Facades of Conformity as they overlap with CPTSD, RSD, and life-destruction. summary Let's talk about environmental mental illness, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and the Facades of Conformity (FOCs) that individuals often adopt in various "supervisory" relationships. The discussion delves into the emotional toll of FOCs, emphasizing the detrimental effects of emotional exhaustion.takeawaysFacades of Conformity are often used in abusive relationships to prevent loss. Hiding one's true self diminish the resource of emotional health.Self-enhancement motives (incl RSD and survival) drive the need for conformity.Emotional exhaustion can deteriorate life quality.Authenticity is crucial for mental well-being.Impression management can be life-costing.Political and social pressures exacerbate conformity issues.Working on rejection dysphoria is essential for healing FOC patterns.keywords mental health, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, facades of conformity, emotional exhaustion, CPTSD, authenticity, relationships, environmental mental illness, self-esteem, trauma

It's Pub Ep Time as we wrap up the month! Let's release a show from the recent vault.The RSD - "typical CPTSD experience" overlap is deep and wide. Let's talk about shutting down life, expression, and healing from heightened rejection sensitivity.summaryWe explore the intricate relationship between Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), delving into various manifestations of RSD, including agoraphobia, challenges in self-disclosure, lack of novelty in life experiences, communication struggles, and workplace dysfunction.takeawaysRSD is closely linked to CPTSD symptoms.Agoraphobia can stem from heightened sensitivity to rejection.Disclosure of personal experiences is crucial for healing.Lack of novelty in life can be a result of RSD.Over-explaining is a common response to fear of rejection.Under-expressing oneself can hinder personal growth.Workplace environments can exacerbate feelings of rejection.Recognizing rejection as a mismatch can aid in moving on.Therapy should be a safe space for discussing RSD.Sensitivity can be a strength, but dysphoria leads to misinterpretation.keywords RSD, CPTSD, Rejection Sensitivity, Agoraphobia, Mental Health, Trauma, Healing, Communication, Workplace Dysfunction, Self-Expression

let's talk about environ mental illness, discussing how external stimuli and personal experiences contribute to psycho-emotional disruptions. Today, featuring a discussion emphasizing the importance of understanding anxiety, differentiating between various emotional states such as fear, stress, anxiety, phobia, and paranoia, and not being a dick to yourself on the other end.Free releases & re-releasesFree shorties - youtube!Free shorties - patreon!Free laughs & shorts Insta!Reduced membership!Help the world

In difficult times, it can be a SLEW of all five. Let's explore the distinctions between fear, anxiety, stress, phobia, and paranoia. It's important to notice these differences to manage your responses effectively. Have a silly metaphor and game plan for dealing with your psychic-physical reactions to help with the effort.

Beyond genetic predispositions and past traumas, current environments play a significant role in shaping well-being. External stressors and societal factors contribute to mental health challenges. Don't get up your own ass about struggles and backslides; let's acknowledge circumstantial stressors and recognize their impact on our recovery efforts.

Let's explore the concept of half- and fully-corrective experiences in the context of trauma and mental health. These experiences can help us heal and grow, but also have potential dangers of over-correction and toxic positivity. It's important to understand the complexities of personal growth and the impact of corrective experiences and expectations on one's ego.

We can't prevent trauma, but we can help ourselves prevent long-term disordering in the aftermath. Here's the ultra brief rundown of behaviors to prevent PTSD.

Coming off a natural disaster trauma, let's talk about 47 *practical* ways to rebalance your nervous system.... that aren't all "yoga and breathing deeply."

Taking back the triggers - here's an edited version FOR ALL! A helpful metaphor and some basic trauma-tending advice for every shituation. The brain can't always be trusted - that's when you need a higher perspective from a lower place.

VIDEO (FREEEEEE)Compassion requires protection in the form of relationship-allowing boundaries. read: not relationship-ending rules. What are boundaries, how do we set them, and how do we make sure they're enacted? Talking inner and outer boundaries to separate their shit from yours, so love can exist.

So my CNS has been plugged to a 50amp this week, hburs?Gratefully heard some sounds under the near-full moon that swept a bitta anxiety awayHave an immersive walk and some guided visual breaths with Marcus and meIt's a predawn stroll through waterfalls and frogs, break glass in case of nerves on fireGoin nature zen, Fuckers😮‍💨🌱💦🌊🐸🌕✨Video

A VIDEOMemories detached from the whole -> views too big or too small which lock the brain into patterned behaviors and outcomes. Talking perspective resizing and generational ego acquisitions in our Feb drop.And for all the unfolding expansions? Come check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers.

ADVANCED THINKIN.Trauma: many outcomes from only a few standard reactions. Let's talk about adoption, avoidance, rigid adherence, and oppositional abandonment in a short drop with many reflection points to help you understand yourself and the nightmares around you. (juk)

It's time! To support ourselves by applying everything we've learned in 5 years of research together. Today: stress utilization. On the market for more applied trauma care? patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the community stream

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A FULL LENGTH SHARE! Let's talk about the directions of disassociation and what to do about the pattern of continually ditching this bitch. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

What waits inside your self? STRESS, BIG EMOTIONS, MISALIGNMENTS, AND HUMILIATING MEMORIES, anyone? Let's summarize these stops on our spooktacular self-adventure. VIDEYUM! For the full ride, including DISASSOCIATION, the WHAT'S NEXTS, and FEAR check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers Happy holiday season ❄️☃️❤️‍🔥 leave a holiday tip

It's that time. Whether you're NC, LC, or BC (bitter contact), it helps to integrate evidence and recognize your personal "ENOUGH." For more help with the holidays, check patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers and find the free Holiday Survival Collection.

"Be with your self undistracted, unphased by negative emotions, and working towards alignment!" Okay bitch, not a good week. Let's talk about aligning after this election.

Being with you... isn't an innate skill after trauma. And yet, we must, or we'll never recover. Take this long treat of an episode to start practicing your self-work.

💀 It's a halloween, election, and holiday season special! 💀 Today we begin exploring our abandoned selves and exorcising awaiting demons. What's in store when we reconnect with our lives? Stress, the big negative feels, constant disassociation attempts, horrifying memories of self, tense misalignments between beliefs and reality, the "what's nexts?", and FEAR... of self / being seen / existence in general. Tune in for each forthcoming ghastly finding or just tap the ones that apply to your haunted self. Each topic will be the start of a new Patreon Collection so we can keep doing work on these common post traumatic entities.

It's the public summary of our work from the past month! The filthiest words: love yourself. 🤮 Why does trauma create barriers between us and... not hating us? Talkin' lost relationships, criteria for love, loss of self, and the endless self scrutiny created by post-traumatic judgments. It's a BIG EPISODE with some BIG ANNOUNCEMENTS - grab your pepto and let's talk about "self-love-y."

Back to Basics! What IS the inner work? What's the end goal? How do we do it effectively alongside media? Let's talk about trauma archeology and perspective work.

The Back to Basics series continues! Positive event... Negative reaction. WTTMF? Talkin the rollercoaster of hope, self-sabotage, superstition, narrative and identity disruption in brains built on trauma.

Education and Responsibility are important for t-recovery... But progress peters when self-punishment predominates. Without self-compassion, regression becomes reality. Let's talk about the requirement for self-compassion and 5 ways to do it. Want more help helpin yerself? t-mfrs.com or patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for the full series

"whoops that's a trauma thought." -all of us. Logical fallacies, overgeneralizations, B&W rulings, toxic positivity; these are brains on t-bullshit.

You asked, I answer. How to overcome shame surrounding traumatic events? I have a bottom-up approach that targets the hell your brain already believes you're living though... so we might as well process, re-evaluate, and recontextualize your worst nightmares, finally freeing up the PFC for conscious sense-making, huh? Huh. Here's that toxic shame post I mentioned from 2022!

When life serves conflictual and confusing information, our brains simplify it to survive... and fuck us over in the long-run. Let's talk about the "ALL GOOD" and "ALL BAD" self-defense mechanisms of Splitting and Projective Identification, what function they serve as children & adults, and how they create shitass trauma-bound lives down the line.

The question that fucks with us all, on both ends of the relationship dynamic. How do we define "abuse"? And how can we spot it in our own lives? Let's redefine it, run through some examples, and ask some Qs that might help you to identify it in your own life. Want to leave a comment? Here's the free Patreon post to share your thoughts. https://www.patreon.com/posts/108753298/

NOTE: This video is part of the Free Membership on Patreon! For the official Patreon post & comments, check here What is it / what isn't Psychosomatic Illness? How does the Brain-Body Painbrow Bridge work? 6 common causes to watch out for. And how to navigate PSI without making it worse. <3 Stay well, take self-maintenance and self-care. ps - check out the recent FREE BLOG POST on psychosomatic illness HERE.

Finding a practitioner for safe Somatic Experiencing is half the battle. Here are 5 easy S's to use as a guide. Free video version. Subscribe as a free member on patreon to get all the bonus freebies delivered to your inbox! Or choose your tier of choice when you're ready for the 400+ episode backlog of locked posts! Openpath Collective for sliding-scale therapy. https://openpathcollective.org/

The real challenge in Somatic Experiencing? In CPTSD it means "working through the memory of being you." Here are my embodiment tips and tricks, hopefully lending some ideas about how to aid yourself in that effort.

What IS somatic experiencing, and how necessary is it for recovery? It's a complex topic for the complex-PTSDers - let's start the conversation. https://www.patreon.com/posts/106982208/

Ready to learn about the maladaptive tendencies of your most difficult relational partners? When we don't believe we're "entitled" to a need or emotion, we vent it into (unwise) action. Let's discuss the immature cognitive patterns we/others may still be utilizing to keep our brains "safe." We'll cover the lowest level self-defense mechanisms: Acting Out, Help-Rejecting Complaining, and Passive Aggression. Want to learn a lot more about these SDMs? Check the patreon page, where we're talking about each one in depth! Next up: Image-splitting and Object Projection. Toot Toot, all aboard Fuckers. Cheers!

In our last BtB episode I used some poorly-understood words. Let's define "Mindfulness," "MetaCognition," and "Traumatic Training" as we use a common example of a traumatic lesson-turned-maladaptive-habit that rails so many of us: emotions = punishment. Git ready for another holistic discussion of parental shortcomings vs. the human brain vs. societal abuse vs. survival vs. living lives we actually want. 👋 Find the transcript to this video at t-mfrs.com, regardless of your subscription level. 👋 AND... if you want some beautiful slides summarizing this episode, consider hopping into the Advanced Tier for a special bonus ✨🙏🚀 CHEERS FUCKERS

Free to all! It's been pretty "advanced" round here. Let's take ten steps back and outline the 7 pointers everyone REALLY needs to know about PTSD and brain rewiring.

A BONUS for ya, as we start talking about defense mechanisms. We take on roles of employer or employee, and the defense mechanisms that allow us to maintain our assigned roles "for safety" flow from there. CHEERS FUCKERS