Big F*cking Dreams

You gave 15 years. "Exceeded expectations," every single time. And then one review drops: "not strategic enough." No warning. No conversation. No chance to fix it. If you've been blindsided at a performance review, this episode is for you. I break down exactly what to do when the feedback feels vague and unfair — and how to turn a gut-punch into a documented plan that protects you. What we cover: Why "not strategic enough" is a red flag — and how to decode it The 4-step recovery: take a beat, recalibrate, deconstruct, document Exactly what to ask your boss to get specific, measurable feedback How to push back on a vague development plan (and win) Why you should give feedback to the person who gave you feedback Timestamps: 01:10 — The listener's story: 15 years, then "not strategic enough" 03:17 — Step 1: Anger is okay — process it 04:20 — Step 2: Take a beat before you respond 04:33 — Step 3: Schedule the "recalibration" conversation 04:50 — Step 4: Deconstruct vague feedback (what does "strategic" mean?) 06:16 — Step 5: Get a specific, documented plan (3-6-9-12 months) 06:46 — Step 6: Growth mindset + find a mentor who's where you want to be 07:35 — Step 7: Give your CEO feedback — you were blindsided 09:01 — The bottom line: decode the criticism into action   #HannahHotline #PerformanceReview #CareerAdvice #AnnualReview #WorkplaceTips #CareerGrowth #HannahKissel

You've quit jobs before. You've been in therapy. You've read the books. And yet you're sitting here thinking: "Is this all there is?" Sound familiar? In this bonus episode of Hannah Hotline, we break down why most career change advice fails and the 4-step method that actually sticks.  Here's the problem: traditional career coaching is all action, no self-awareness. So you jump into a new job, and the same problems show up again. Therapy and self-awareness alone? All reflection, no action — so you stay stuck where you are.  The answer is doing both, in the right order.  Here's what we cover: Why "just quit and follow your passion" keeps failing you Step 1: Holistic career design — how your career fits into your life (not the other way around) Step 2: Understand your sabotage archetype — why the same problems follow you job to job Step 3: Values alignment — make decisions anchored to what you actually care about Step 4: Prototype and stress test — research, network, and test a path before you leap Timestamps: 00:30 — The listener's story: "I'm miserable, I'm just taking a paycheck" 00:45 — The question everyone's afraid to ask 01:57 — Why traditional career coaching misses the point 02:30 — Why you can't do action OR self-awareness alone 03:57 — Step 1: Holistic career design 05:15 — Step 2: Know your sabotage archetype 06:00 — Step 3: Values alignment 08:15 — Step 4: Prototype and stress test (do them together) #HannahHotline #CareerChange #CareerAdvice #CareerTransition #CareerCoaching #UnhappyAtWork #findyourpurpose #HannahKissel

You've got the title, the salary, and the golden handcuffs, but you're secretly terrified it's too late to start over. Sound familiar?  In this episode of Hannah Hotline, there's a 50-year-old senior leader who's unfulfilled in her high-paying operations role and scared she's not good enough to do anything else.  There's a reason you feel stuck - and it's not your age.  Here's what we cover: - Why "meaningful work" doesn't have to mean quitting your job (the false binary) - The "career capital" you've been building your whole career — and why it travels - Why confidence comes from action, not from waiting to feel ready - The Odyssey Plan: the 3-career exercise that shows you your options - How to test a new direction with informational interviews before you leap - The financial runway you need (6–24 months) before making the move Timestamps: 00:48 — The listener's dilemma: the unfulfilled 50-year-old leader 02:20 — It's not too late — push back on the youth-obsessed culture 03:00 — The false binary: meaning vs. money 03:59 — Purpose outside your job: volunteering, boards, side projects 04:29 — Competence fear (Hannah's own story of leaving LinkedIn) 05:15 — Cal Newport's "career capital", you're more than your brand 06:36 — Financial readiness: fixed expenses and your runway 07:26 — Confidence comes from action, not from feeling ready 07:58 — We regret not trying more than we regret failing 08:46 — 15–20 years left — a whole second career 09:42 — The Odyssey Plan: three plans for your next five years 10:27 — Hannah's own wild card (fantasy novelist) 10:56 — Informational interviews: test before you leap 12:12 — The final warning against staying stagnant #careerchange #findingpurpose #meaningfulwork #midlifecareerchange #hannahhotline #careeradvice #lifetransitions

He's a "great guy" but he calls pregnant teammates "disabled," doles out off-color jokes in your one-on-ones, and swings between warm and erratic so fast you get emotional whiplash. Sound familiar? In this episode of Hannah Hotline, we break down how to handle a boss who's unpredictable and inappropriate without quitting and without losing yourself. This isn't about managing his moods; it's about protecting your own sanity and career while you're in his orbit.  Here's what we cover: - Why his behavior is classed as bullying and harassment (even if it's not aimed at you) - The psychology of "hypervigilance" and why you feel on edge all the time - Exactly what to say when he crosses a line (scripts included) - How to get clarity on his inconsistent decisions without confrontation - The one habit that protects you if things escalate: documenting everything Timestamps: 01:00 — The listener's dilemma: the "great guy" with the off-color comments 02:35 — Why this behavior is bullying and harassment even when it's not aimed at you 04:17 — The power dynamic at play (and why millennials stay quiet) 04:50 — How to speak up: scripts for shutting down inappropriate comments 06:38 — The golden rule: document everything 07:28 — How to manage his inconsistent decisions (get clarity in writing) 08:58 — What's actually in your control (and what's not) 09:17 — The recap: protect yourself, don't manage his moods #CareerAdvice #workplacebullying #ManagingUp #workplacetoxicity  #HannahHotline #toxicworkenvironment #workboundaries

Are you a high performer who constantly says "yes" to new projects? You're not alone. You're likely paying the "competency tax."  In this episode of Hannah Hotline, we break down why being the "reliable one" at work is actively damaging your health and career trajectory.  If you're burnt out, stressed, and feeling punished for your own competence, this episode is your wake-up call. We cover: Why high achievers tie their self-worth to performance (and how to stop). The difference between being "reliable" and being "promotable." Actionable steps to set boundaries when you're overwhelmed.   Timestamps: 01:15 - The Listener's Dilemma: Burnout and Stress 02:15 - What is the "Competency Tax"? 04:30 - The Health Risks of Overwork (WHO Study) 05:15 - Distinguishing Between "Reliable" and "Promotable" 06:45 - Next Step: Documenting Your Capacity 08:45 - Reframing "Selfish" as "Sane" 09:30 - Zooming Out: Finding Joy Outside of Work   #HannahHotline #CareerAdvice #BurnoutPrevention #HighPerformance #CompetencyTax #WorkBoundaries #HannahKissel

Hannah is back with a big announcement, a full rebrand, and an honest conversation about what it actually looks like to simplify your business without guilt. In this episode, Hannah shares why she's transitioning Big Fucking Dreams to Hannah Hotline, scaling back from weekly to fortnightly episodes, stepping back from Instagram and TikTok, and going all-in on LinkedIn and YouTube. Plus — the 40% business growth she achieved working just 30–35 hours a week, and the universe confirmation that arrived 20 minutes after she made her scariest business decision yet. If you've ever felt like doing less means failing, this one's for you.   📩 Want a topic covered on Hannah Hotline? Email [email protected] 🌐 Check out the new website and brand refresh! www.hannahkissel.com   Timestamps: 01:15 — The official rebrand  02:30 — Something had to give — and the big announcement 🎉 03:45 — The business analysis that changed everything 04:00 — The full brand refresh: new logo, new website, new energy 05:00 — The B2B pivot: consulting, corporate talks, and public speaking 05:45 — The real cost of running a podcast as a solo operator 06:30 — The decision: letting the Big Fucking Dreams solo episodes go 07:00 — Why Hannah initially said "no" to cutting back — and what changed 08:00 — "Simplify" as a word of the year for someone who doesn't simplify easily 08:15 — The master's degree story: overcomplicating as a pattern 09:00 — Internal Family Systems: the parts that fear being ordinary 09:45 — The mentor conversation and committing to the plan 10:30 — The confirmation: doing less is the right direction 12:00 — Making room for something different 12:30 — What Hannah wants this next season to feel like: spacious, relaxed, luxurious 12:45 — The invitation to you: where can YOU do less?

"You're not getting a raise because you never asked for one." You've been crushing it at work for years. You show up early, deliver exceptional results, and you're genuinely good at what you do. Then you find out your new male colleague, doing the exact same job, is making $35K more than you. Your stomach drops. The resentment sets in.  Here's the uncomfortable truth: Most women don't negotiate their pay, and companies know it.  In this Hannah Hotline episode, we're breaking down exactly why this happens, why companies do it, and most importantly, the step-by-step strategy to fix it.  You'll learn why salary negotiation isn't about being "greedy" or "difficult." It's about understanding how companies actually budget, what your real market value is, and how to present a business case so strong they have to listen.  In this episode, we cover: - Why companies pay new hires more than loyal existing employees (and how to use this knowledge). - The critical question: "When was the last time you negotiated?" - The difference between negotiating vs. demanding and why phrasing matters. - How to build a business case for a raise using market data and performance metrics. - Managing workplace resentment without burning bridges   Timestamps: 00:45 Initial Reaction: Why Resentment Hits Hard 01:30 The Real Reason Companies Pay New Hires More 02:20 Gender Pay Gap Context  03:00 The Negotiation Gap: When Was the Last Time You Asked? 04:00 Loyalty vs. Salary: The False Trade-Off 04:30 The Business Case Approach (How to Frame It) 05:15 Market Rate Research: Know Your Worth 05:45 Performance Metrics: Build Your Argument 06:15 Skill Gaps: Addressing Legitimate Differences 06:30 The Exact Language to Use (Avoid "Too Emotional" Labels) 07:10 Timeline Matters: Get a Clear Answer 07:45 Managing Resentment Toward the System (Not the Person) 08:15 When to Walk: Knowing When Your Current Company Won't Pay   📩 Got a salary negotiation scenario?  Email [email protected] Free Career Confidence Course (includes salary negotiation guide): www.hannahkissel.com #salarynegotiation #careerconfidence #womenintech #negotiationtips  #HannahHotline #careerguide #HannahKissel

"Stop protecting the people who treat you poorly." Are you the person who jokes about being a "people pleaser" but goes home feeling drained, anxious, and deeply resentful? You might not just be "nice"—you might be experiencing the "fawn" trauma response.  Most of us know fight, flight, or freeze, but fawning is the lesser-known, often more dangerous response where you literally prop up people who don't deserve it just to survive the interaction.  In this episode, we're doing the "shitty work" of peeling back those layers to understand why you learned to sacrifice your own needs just to avoid conflict. If you're tired of self-gaslighting and are ready to stop setting yourself on fire to keep others warm, this is your wake-up call. Here, we explore: - What the fawn trauma response actually looks like in high-performance careers. - How to differentiate your adult self from the "exile" parts of you that learned people-pleasing as a survival mechanism. - Tactical ways to set boundaries and pause before you say "yes." - How to detach from the outcome when setting boundaries (spoiler: their reaction is theirs, not yours). - Moving toward a freer, more fulfilled life by embracing authentic relationships  Timestamps: 01:17 Personal Story: Hannah's Workplace Fawning 02:45 Defining Fawning & Why It Happens 03:38 Taking Action: Stopping the Cycle 04:42 Why We Self-Gaslight at Work 06:15 The IFS Approach to People-Pleasing 07:00 Managers vs. Exiles: How Our Parts Work 08:30 Connecting Old Survival Strategies to Today 09:15 The Power of the Pause 10:33 How to Find "Expanders" to Model Boundaries 12:30 Detaching from Other People's Reactions 14:10 Why This Work is Uncomfortable (But Worth It) 15:10 The Freedom of Authentic Relationships 15:55 The "Cruise Ship" Analogy for Change 16:18 Life & Work Transformation Program Info #fawntraumaresponse #internalfamilysystems #peoplepleasing #selfrespect #healthyboundaries #authenticrelationships #workplaceculture #careeradvice

Ever felt like your boss is taking instructions from a chatbot? In this episode of Hannah Hotline, we're tackling a listener's story about a CEO who is completely obsessed with using AI in business, even when it's clearly producing garbage. When your leadership team treats AI-generated projections as gospel, it doesn't just create frustration; it kills team morale. Hannah unpacks the messy reality of workplace AI adoption and why so many leaders are using tech as a shortcut to avoid making real decisions. If you're struggling with an AI-obsessed boss and don't know how to speak up without sounding like a Luddite, this episode gives you the tactical roadmap you need to regain control. In this episode, we explore: Why leaders look for shortcuts and how it leads to a bad AI strategy. The difference between using AI for efficiency and outsourcing your core judgment. How to push back against tech-obsessed leadership without risking your career. Tactical ways to introduce "human validation" steps into your workflow. Knowing when to fight for the right decision and when to protect your own mental health.   #WorkplaceAI #LeadershipTips #AIinBusiness #CareerAdvice #HannahKissel #CorporateCulture   📩 Got a "Hannah Hotline" scenario you're stuck in?  Email [email protected] Free Career Confidence Course: www.hannahkissel.com  

In this episode, Hannah sits down with Andrea Bombino - motherhood and career coach, matrescence expert, and longtime friend - to unpack the developmental transition into motherhood that almost no one talks about: matrescence. Coined in the 1970s and only recently brought back into the mainstream, matrescence describes the profound physical, psychological, and identity-level transformation that happens when a woman becomes a mother. Andrea breaks down why Western culture fails to recognize this transition the way it recognizes adolescence, and why high-achieving women in particular struggle to accept a season of life that doesn't match their old definition of success. This conversation goes deep into ambition after motherhood, the guilt of slowing down, burnout recovery, values-based decision making, and why creative hobbies — even five minutes of painting or journaling — are non-negotiable for staying grounded. If you're a working mother, an executive navigating parental leave, or simply someone redefining what success looks like in this season of your life, this episode is essential listening. Connect with Andrea Bombino: www.andreabombino.com www.LinkedIn.com/in/andreabombino/ Instagram: @andreabombino_ https://open.substack.com/pub/andreabombino 📩 Got a Big Fucking Dreams topic you want covered? Email [email protected]   #matrescence #motherhoodjourney #identitymothers #workingmama #workingmom #workingwomen #maternityleave #womenintransition #parentingsupport  Timestamps: 00:30 — Welcome Andrea Bombino to Big Fucking Dreams 01:30 — What is matrescence? Definition and origins of the term 03:00 — Why matrescence was rediscovered through postpartum depression research 04:00 — The different domains of matrescence: physical, relational, career, identity 05:30 — Why society treats teenage development with grace but not motherhood 06:30 — Western capitalist culture vs. how other cultures honor postpartum recovery 08:00 — Hyper-independence and the resistance to accepting support 09:30 — The shift in ambition: why some high-achieving women want to pause their careers 10:30 — Andrea's personal panic when she found out she was pregnant after a promotion 11:30 — "Pregnancy is the shortest ramp-up time for a career change" 12:30 — How ambition shifts and sharpens instead of disappearing 16:00 — Acceptance, impatience, and burnout recovery 18:00 — The invisible labor of motherhood and lack of recognition 20:30 — A constant practice in acceptance: choosing values over old definitions of success 25:00 — Behind the curtain: what "having it all together" actually requires 28:30 — Andrea's hobbies and the prioritization of fun in motherhood 30:00 — How career achievement became Andrea's sole measure of self-worth 33:30 — Finding healing through watercolor painting with her daughter 36:00 — The neuroscience of making things with your hands and lowering cortisol 39:00 — "Life is meant to be lived" — redefining what brings you joy 41:00 — The eighth-grade memory that shaped Andrea's relationship with happiness 43:00 — Why prioritizing hobbies as a mom is not selfish — bringing kids into the joy 46:00 — Moving to Italy, taking risks, and living life on your own terms 48:00 — "Do it your own way" — permission to change your mind 49:30 — Becoming more confident in who you are, the longer you're a mother 50:00 — Where to find Andrea Bombino + final thoughts

"I told the CEO the truth, and then I was fired." If you have a strong sense of justice and integrity, you've likely felt the sting of corporate politics. You see a problem, you fix it, and instead of being rewarded, you're sidelined or pushed out. In this episode, Hannah breaks down the high-performer's "Integrity Trap." She explains how to navigate these environments without sacrificing your soul, and when to realise that the system you are fighting isn't just broken - it's designed to exclude people like you. The bottom line: Integrity is your greatest asset. Don't waste it on an organisation that doesn't deserve it. 🚨 Got a career challenge?  Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline Email: [email protected] If you've been burned by corporate politics, you're not the problem—the system is. If you're ready to stop being 'the inconvenient one' and start building a career that actually values your integrity, grab my free Career Confidence Course at www.hannahkissel.com and let's get you aligned.   Timestamps: 01:30 — The "Good Operator" fallacy: Why honesty is sometimes a liability 03:00 — Why power trumps competence in corporate environments 04:30 — "Inconvenient to power": Recognising the dynamic 06:00 — Tactical advice: Presenting data without being confrontational 07:30 — Self-preservation vs. Selfishness 09:00 — When to stop trying to fix a broken ship 11:00 — If you're always getting fired for honesty, consider a different model   Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles — where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected]

You've achieved everything you set out to achieve. So why do you feel like you're losing your edge?  For high performers and executives, we are wired to believe that more work, more hustle, and more sacrifice is the answer to every problem. But what happens when the very mechanism that built your success — your relentless drive, starts to feel like a cage?  In this episode, Hannah gets vulnerable about a recent shift in her own ambition. After years of building, growing, and hustling, she's found herself in the "mush" — that uncomfortable, transitional space where the old identity has dissolved, but the new one hasn't quite arrived yet.  Using Martha Beck's "Change Cycle," Hannah explains why you might be experiencing a loss of drive, why your ambition might actually be a lingering trauma response, and why the most productive thing you can do right now is "go gentle." The bottom line: If you're changing identities right now, you don't need to force a solution. You need to surrender to the cycle. Timestamps: 01:30 — Why identity shift is the ultimate high-performer struggle 03:30 — Healing PTSD and the death of "trauma-response" ambition 04:30 — It's not just business: Why identity shifts are universal for women 05:00 — Martha Beck's Change Cycle: The framework you need 05:30 — Stage One: The "Mush" (Death and Rebirth) 07:00 — The danger of hustling through the "Mush" 07:30 — A quick overview of Stages Two, Three, and Four 08:00 — The invitation to "go gentle" and surrender Key Takeaways: 1. Metamorphosis is not comfortable. 2. Ambition is often a trauma response. 3. Surrender is not giving up. 4. Natural cycles exist for women. 5. Your drive will change. #identityshift #careertransition #changecycle #careeradvice #highperformer #workplaceadvice #createyourownfuture #hannahkissel 📩 Got a question for the Hannah Hotline?  Email [email protected] Free Career Confidence Course: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode, Hannah tackles a deeply relatable dilemma sent in by a listener who hates her job, wants to switch roles, but feels guilty about joining a new company while planning to get pregnant. Hannah cuts through the noise with her signature no-BS approach, reminding us that company loyalty is a two-way street, and more often than not, it only runs one way. From anti-discrimination laws to fertility timelines to the reality of mass redundancies, Hannah lays out exactly why you should never put your personal goals on hold for an organization that wouldn't think twice about making you redundant. If you're a high-performing woman navigating career transitions, family planning, or both — this one's for you. 📩 Have a dilemma? Send your letter to [email protected] to be featured on this podcast or the Daily Telegraph. ✅ Key Takeaways • Company loyalty is not a marriage contract. • Stop asking for permission to live your life.  • Pregnancy is not a professional failure. • "Dishonesty" is a control tactic. • Black-and-white thinking is keeping you stuck. • Prioritise the career you actually want. • The risk is not starting a family. The risk is staying in a job you hate. • Look for the employer who expects women to have lives.  Timestamps: 01:15 — The listener's dilemma: hated job, family planning, and the guilt trap 02:30 — Why high performers think being "dishonest" is a personality trait 03:45 — Corporate loyalty: why it's a one-way street (and why that's okay) 05:00 — The "last in, first out" myth and the reality of redundancies 06:30 — Pregnancy is not a "debilitating" factor — debunking the bias 08:00 — You don't owe them your life plan — privacy vs. dishonesty 09:30 — Stop falling into black-and-white thinking: finding your middle ground 11:00 — Why you should quit the job you hate now 12:30 — How to identify a supportive company during the interview process 14:00 — Final advice: Prioritise yourself, or you will be trapped by their priorities   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles — where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected]

The most dangerous thing a high performer can do? Stick to a bad plan just because they "said they would."  We are taught that consistency is a virtue. We are taught that changing our minds is a weakness, a sign of indecision, or a failure of control. In corporate environments, being "Rule Book" (as Hannah was affectionately nicknamed at LinkedIn) is a badge of honour.  But there is a massive difference between commitment and rigidity.  In this episode, Hannah gets brutally honest about a massive U-turn she just made in her business. She'd announced one thing, put the plan in motion, and then, after looking at the data, her personal capacity, she chose to change her mind.  If you're a high-performing executive who uses rigidity as a trauma response to feel "safe," this episode is for you. The bottom line: The strength of your leadership is not measured by your ability to stay the course — it's measured by your ability to pivot when the course is no longer serving you or your business. Key Takeaways: - Rigidity is often a control mechanism. - Flexible mental models are your biggest competitive advantage. - "Rule Book" is a limiting identity.  - The "cost of entry" for high growth is flexibility.  - Re-evaluation is data-driven, not impulsive. --- If this episode resonates with you, please leave a rating. It's the biggest way you can support what we're building here, and every single review helps us reach someone who needs this. Big love, dreamers. Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com   #mentalmodels #flexibility #adaptable #highperformer #careertransitions #careeradvice #decisionsmatter #workplaceadvice  #growthmindset #businessinsight    📩 Got a question for the Hannah Hotline? Email [email protected]

You're senior, successful, and capable, so why is this one coworker still living rent-free in your head?  In this Hannah Hotline episode, Hannah responds to a listener navigating a persistent grudge against the colleague who covered her maternity leave.  Hannah breaks down the real psychology behind why grudges stick, introduces the Grey Rock Method for disengaging from toxic dynamics, and reveals the surprising reason workplace drama keeps pulling you back in. #highperformer #workplaceadvice #workplaceculture  Timestamps: 01:30 — Why grudges have a "payoff" and what yours might be 02:30 — Taking personal responsibility: what was your part in this? 03:15 — What to clean up and do differently next time 03:39 — The Gray Rock Method: become boring, stop providing ammo 05:00 — Why you can't let go: the creative outlet theory 06:17 — The link between workplace drama and a lack of joy in your life 06:30 — How to fill your life so the grudge loses its grip  💬 Loved this episode? Know someone who's still venting about that one coworker? Send this to them. And if you've got a workplace situation you want Hannah to tackle on the Hannah Hotline, email [email protected] — your question could be the next episode. 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles — where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected].

Nine years ago, Hannah Kissel made the most important decision of her life. She was sitting in a bathtub, a few days before her 27th birthday, and she realised something: she didn't want to do this anymore.  Not life — but the version of it she was living.  In this deeply personal solo episode, recorded on her 36th birthday and 9-year sobriety anniversary, Hannah shares what she's never talked about publicly - the moment that changed everything, what sobriety actually gave her, and the new pattern she's currently working through: an addiction to struggle.  This isn't a cautionary tale. It's a blueprint. And whether you drink or not, if you're a high performer who constantly makes things harder than they need to be, this one's going to hit home.  In this episode, Hannah covers: - The bathtub moment: the decision that started everything - What her therapist said that she'll never forget  - Why addiction is really about discontentedness — not willpower - How an addictive, obsessive personality shows up in other areas (work, relationships, sugar, hockey romance novels) - Why the 12-step modality is the most powerful transformation framework she's ever encountered — and how she built her entire coaching program around it - Her current phase of recovery: the addiction to struggle, overcomplicating, and working harder than necessary - The intentional self-care routine that keeps her at equilibrium (and why she does it even when she doesn't want to) - Why "I could have drinking — or I could have everything else" is still the most clarifying thought she's ever had - Learning to let things be easy — and why that's harder than it sounds for high performers The bottom line: Sobriety was the foundation. Everything else — the business, the marriage, the novel, the life — was built on top of it. And the next frontier isn't doing more. It's learning to let it be good. Timestamps: 02:00 — The bathtub moment: sitting in the dark before her 27th birthday 03:30 — What her therapist said that changed everything 04:30 — Growing up in LA: why sobriety and recovery were normalised early 05:30 — Moving to Australia: the taboo around sobriety and why it went underground 06:30 — "I could have drinking — or I could have everything else" 07:15 — The addictive, obsessive personality and where it shows up instead 08:30 — Why addiction is discontentedness, not weakness 09:30 — The 12-step modality: why it's the most powerful transformation framework she knows 11:00 — How Hannah built her coaching program on the AA model  12:30 — What sobriety gave her: business, marriage, novel, PTSD diagnosis, herself  14:00 — The current phase: addiction to struggle — overcomplicating, overworking, overdoing 15:30 — The master's degree story: reading four extra books for a one-page assignment 16:30 — Learning to let it be easy — and why that's the hardest thing yet 17:30 — The intentional self-care routine that keeps her at equilibrium 18:30 — Closing: gratitude, what's next, and the invitation to reach out   If this episode resonates with you, please leave a rating. It's the biggest way you can support what we're building here, and every single review helps us reach someone who needs this. Big love, dreamers.   #highperformer #sobrietyisworthit #addictionrecoverypodcast #defineyourfuture #womeninbusiness #uncomplicated #highperformancemindset #lessismore

Your nervous system is sending you a message. Are you listening?  High performers are often the last people to admit they're burning out because they're still getting great performance reviews while their body quietly falls apart.  In this episode, Hannah responds to a listener who has been in back-to-back burnout cycles for two years. She's a project manager at a major financial institution - brilliant at her job, crossing time zones daily, triple-checking everything, answering Slack at 10pm and now dealing with stress-related stomach issues and anxiety more days than not.  She can't quit. She needs the salary. And she's tried therapy, tried saying no, and keeps ending up right back here.  Hannah uses Christina Maslach's clinical framework to diagnose exactly what's happening, and then gives a clear, no-fluff roadmap for getting out of it without torching your career.  In this episode, Hannah covers: • Christina Maslach's 3-component burnout framework  • Why "greedy jobs" in finance, law, tech, and consulting are burnout factories • How to separate job demands from personality patterns (and why you need to address both) • The financial reality of burnout: the 15% salary hit most people don't see coming • Tactical schedule changes to contain the time zone problem • Why therapy alone isn't enough and what coaching does differently • When to consider a lateral role change (and what you actually trade away) • How to choose between career acceleration and your health  The truth: You can have a thriving career and not be sick. But you can't have both at the same time if you keep doing the same things. Timestamps: 02:30 — Christina Maslach's 3-component burnout framework explained 04:00 — Diagnosing the listener: Does she qualify? (All three boxes ticked) 05:00 — "Greedy jobs" why finance, law, and tech normalise burnout 06:15 — Separating job demands from personality patterns: time zones vs. perfectionism 07:30 — The real question: is your priority health or the mortgage? 08:30 — The financial cost of burnout: the 15% salary hit nobody warns you about 09:15 — Tactical fix #1: condensing time zone work to specific days 10:00 — Tactical fix #2: negotiating with your manager + using health as a lever 11:00 — Why therapy alone isn't enough and what coaching does differently 12:30 — Considering a lateral role change: the trade-offs, honestly 13:45 — Career acceleration vs. health: you can't have both right now 14:30 — "You can have a thriving career and not be sick", Hannah's closing belief Resources/ Links: Christina Maslach is best known as one of the pioneering researchers on job burnout and the author of the Maslach Burnout Inventory (MBI), the most widely used research measure in the burnout field. https://maslach.socialpsychology.org/files   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles.  DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected]. #highperformer #burnoutprevention #burnoutrecovery #healthisthenewwealth  #burnouttobreakthrough #workplaceadvice #thebodykeepsthescore #workplacewellness

Feeling overwhelmed? It's probably not what you think it is.  In this raw, unscripted solo episode, Hannah shares what came out of her most recent therapy session - a realisation that stopped her in her tracks.  She'd been feeling overwhelmed. Shutting down. Going full "sloth monster." And when she traced it back to the source, it wasn't burnout. It wasn't doing too much. It was the complete opposite - it was not making decisions.  If you're in a season of growth where everything feels uncertain, you have ten browser tabs open in your brain, and you can't seem to pick a direction. This episode is going to land hard.  The bottom line: Overwhelm isn't always about doing too much. Sometimes it's about deciding too little. Pick a direction, any direction and let the data tell you what to do next. 📩 DM Hannah if this hit home, she wants to hear from you. Key Takeaways:  - Overwhelm is often indecision in disguise. - Know your stress response.  - Open decisions are open wounds. - Indecision has a massive opportunity cost.  - More research = more paralysis - Ring-fence big decisions with a deadline. - Cap your research time - Execute to get data — not to get it perfect. - Perfectionism is a momentum killer. - You're better at executing than you think. Timestamps: 02:00 — The window of tolerance: hyper-arousal vs. hypo-arousal explained 02:45 — Meet the "sloth monster": Hannah's hypo-arousal shutdown mode 03:30 — The root cause: overwhelm = indecision during hypergrowth 04:15 — Why being good at executing directives doesn't translate to open-ended decisions 04:45 — The "open tabs" problem and the opportunity cost of not deciding 05:30 — Real examples: evergreen vs. launch, program naming dilemmas 06:15 — The 3-step decision-making framework: ring-fence, cap research, execute 07:00 — Why more research leads to more paralysis (not better decisions) 07:45 — Perfectionism + the friend who joined the program for the same reason 08:15 — When big life decisions ARE worth more time (and when they're not) #decisionmaking #overwhelmed #indecision #createyourownfuture #decisionsmatter #lifecoachforwomen #lifeworkbalance

You can be powerful. You can be liked. They're not opposites. If you've just stepped into a bigger leadership role and you're about to have the hardest conversations of your career, this one's for you. In this Hannah Hotline episode, Hannah coaches a listener who has rocketed from career-changer to C-suite executive in just three years, now managing nearly 30 people and reporting directly to the CEO. A major restructure is coming. Roles are being changed. A senior colleague is now reporting to her. And she has to deliver "you're in or you're out" messages to people she genuinely likes. She feels like a fraud. Hannah's response? You're confusing people-pleasing with people-caring and they are not the same thing. In this episode, Hannah covers: - The critical difference between people-pleasing and people-caring (and why it changes everything) - Why people-pleasing is actually protecting you, not them - How to reframe "in or out" messages as giving people agency, not taking it away - What to actually say to a senior colleague who now reports to you - Why "clarity is the kindest thing you can do" as a leader - The identity shift required to step into real leadership authority - How to increase your tolerance for discomfort, without losing your character - Situational leadership and nonviolent communication as practical tools The truth about people-pleasing in leadership: avoiding hard conversations doesn't protect your team. It protects you and it costs your team clarity, direction, and respect. Got a question for Hannah? Email [email protected] Timestamps: 02:30 — First reframe: you can be powerful and likable, they're not opposites 04:00 — People-pleasing vs. people-caring: the distinction that changes everything 05:30 — "Clarity is the kindest thing you can do", why avoiding hard conversations hurts people 07:00 — Reframing "in or out" messages: giving people agency, not taking it away 08:15 — How to handle the senior colleague who now reports to you 09:45 — Using your C-suite influence to make the restructure more employee-friendly 11:00 — The identity shift: increasing your tolerance for discomfort 12:30 — Building your support system + tools (nonviolent communication, situational leadership) 13:30 — Send Hannah your questions + wrap up #peoplepleasingrecovery #clarityiskey #careertransitions #workplaceadvice #highperformer

"How you do money is how you do everything." If you've ever frozen when you should have acted, avoided looking at your bank account, or made a financial decision out of fear. This episode is going to hit differently.   Hannah sits down with Julia Scott, Sydney-based financial advisor, wealth mentor, chartered accountant, and founder of Love Luck Wealth and the upcoming FinTech platform Jane, to talk about the real reason so many high-performing women are secretly sabotaging themselves financially. This is not your standard money podcast. Julia brings together financial expertise and emotional intelligence to explain why the traditional finance industry was built for men, why women freeze instead of act, and what to actually do about it.   In this episode, they cover: Why self-sabotage shows up in your finances — and how to catch it The uncomfortable truth about women's historical relationship with money Julia's personal story: the divorce that tested everything she knew about finance — and why it became her mission Why you should never make a financial decision from a place of fear The case for prenuptial agreements (even if you're not wealthy) How to financially prepare for having children The 6–12 month safety cushion rule — and why most people skip it Practical tools for dealing with financial stress and anxiety The "50 ways to make money" exercise that unlocks creative income thinking Why perfectionism is an energy leak — and how to stop it costing you Raising your frequency to meet your financial goals (yes, there's science behind this) Two thirds of the world's wealth is forecast to be in women's hands. The question is, are you ready to hold yours?   About Julia Scott Julia Scott is a Chartered Accountant, wealth educator, and founder dedicated to helping women build financial confidence and long-term wealth. After beginning her career advising ultra-high-net-worth families, Julia saw firsthand that many capable women had been left out of the financial conversations shaping their futures. Determined to change that, she founded Love Luck Wealth, where she teaches women how to overcome money blocks, invest wisely, and build meaningful wealth. Julia is also the founder of Money by Jane, an upcoming financial platform designed to give women easier access to banking, investing, and financial education. Her work is driven by a simple belief: when women understand money, they change the trajectory of their lives and the generations that follow. She lives in Sydney Australia and is passionate about empowering women everywhere to feel confident, capable, and in control of their financial future. Connect with Julia Love Luck Wealth: https://www.loveluckwealth.com/ [email protected]  

Being made redundant isn't just losing a pay cheque, it's being told you're no longer part of the tribe. And when your identity is tied to your work, that hits hard.  In this episode, Hannah responds to a listener who was recently made redundant, loved her job, is now terrified of falling behind in an AI-disrupted market, and is completely frozen when it comes to networking. Hannah breaks down exactly why this happens, and gives you a no-fluff framework to move through it — without white-knuckling it back to the market before you're ready.   In this episode, Hannah covers: - Why redundancy can feel genuinely traumatic (and why that's not dramatic) - The grieving process and why skipping it will cost you later - How to tackle "the ick" around reaching out to your network - The "weak ties" research that proves your second-degree network is your biggest asset right now - Why you don't need to ask anyone for a job — and what to say instead - The small goals strategy that builds momentum without overwhelming you - How to use every networking conversation as live AI research Timestamps: 00:55 — Today's listener question 02:00 — Why redundancy hits so hard (it's not just a job, it's identity) 03:15 — Step 1: Give yourself permission to grieve and how to do it without spiralling 04:50 — Step 2: The "ick" around networking and why it's not what you think 06:30 — Step 3: Set tiny, achievable goals and actually reward yourself 07:30 — Step 4: Use your networking conversations as live AI market research   📩 Got a question for the Hannah Hotline? Email [email protected] #careercoaching #redundancy #howtorebuildconfidence #careeradvice #hannahkissel

In this episode, we unpack the sunk cost fallacy, the mental trap that keeps people stuck in jobs, relationships, projects, and decisions simply because they've already invested so much time, money, or energy. We explore why walking away can feel so hard, even when something is no longer working, and how identity, fear, loyalty, and past effort can cloud clear decision-making. Through personal stories and real-world examples, this episode helps you recognize when you're holding on for the wrong reasons and how to make better choices based on where you want to go next, not just what you've already spent. If you've ever thought, "I can't leave now. I've already put too much into this," this conversation is for you. Key Takeaways: - What the sunk cost fallacy actually is - Why smart people stay stuck in the wrong things - How this shows up in careers, relationships, and personal goals - The role of identity, fear, and loyalty in bad decisions - Practical ways to break out of the trap - How to evaluate whether it's time to stay, pivot, or walk away Timestamps: 1:35 – What the sunk cost fallacy actually means 2:35 – Real-life example: staying because of past investment 3:35 – Why people stay stuck in jobs they've outgrown 4:45 – How sunk cost shows up in more than just careers 5:30 – The personality patterns most affected by this trap 6:35 – Strategy #1: Set a decision deadline 7:30 – Strategy #2: The "Would I choose this today?" test 8:35 – Strategy #3: Calculate the cost of staying 9:45 – Strategy #4: Get an outside perspective 11:25 – Final thoughts and how to move forward Loved this episode? Leave a comment below with what resonated most! Rate & review the show on Spotify & Apple Podcasts. It helps more big dreamers find us! Share this episode on your stories and tag Hannah! Slide into Hannah's DMs on Instagram or LinkedIn, she loves hearing from listeners! ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com #highperformer #sunkcostfallacy #careertransition #bigdreamer #workplaceadvice #careerdecision   #hannahkissel

You're delivering excellent work, taking on more responsibilities, and getting glowing performance reviews, so why is your salary still lagging behind?  In this episode, Hannah responds to a listener who's 15K below the median for her level despite supporting nine executives and receiving zero critical feedback. Hannah breaks down exactly how to build a business case that gets results, even after you've already heard "no." Key Takeaways 1. If you don't advocate for yourself, no one else will 2. The $15K gap is bigger than it looks 3. Build a business case, not a conversation 4. The business case framework 5. Schedule a dedicated meeting and don't back out 6. A "soft no" is not a final no 7. Over-delivering without being compensated is a pattern, break it Timestamps: 00:45 - The most common salary question Hannah gets 01:00 - Two issues at play: practical skills vs. confidence and self-worth 01:30 - Listener question: underpaid HR Director, soft no from her boss 02:55 - Hannah's response: why you must re-approach this negotiation 04:10 - Step 1:Build your business case (the one-pager framework) 08:35 - How have YOU approached salary negotiation? 09:05 - Step 2:How to actually have the conversation 10:30 - Mindset: reinforcing your self-worth before you walk in the room 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles - where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected].   #salarynegotiation #underpaid #howtonegotiatesalary #highperformer #peoplepleasingrecovery #bigdreamer #hannahkissel

Rejection hurts, but it doesn't have to stop you.  In this episode, Hannah Kissel gets real about something she faces literally every single day as an entrepreneur and coach: rejection. If you've ever struggled with the fear of rejection or felt like being turned down means you're not good enough, this episode is for you. Hannah breaks down the neuroscience behind why rejection feels so painful (hint: your brain thinks you're being kicked out of the tribe), and walks you through powerful mindset tools to help you bounce back faster, build resilience, and keep putting yourself out there — even when it's hard. Whether you're job hunting, growing a business, navigating dating, or just trying to show up as your most ambitious self, learning how to deal with rejection is one of the most important skills you'll ever build. Because here's the truth: the more you go after big dreams, the more rejection you'll face.  That's not failure — that's proof you're in the game. 🎯 In this episode, Hannah covers: - Why getting rejected is actually a sign you're doing it right - The brain science behind why rejection feels like a threat to your survival - 4 practical mindset tools to make rejection easier - Why your growth mindset is your biggest asset when facing rejection - How diversifying your identity beyond your career builds emotional resilience If this episode resonates with you, share it on your stories, rate and review the show on Spotify, and drop a comment — Hannah reads them and uses your feedback to shape future episodes! Timestamps: 00:27 — Introduction: Even coaches have bad days (and that's okay) 02:30 — Community shoutout & how to support the show 03:30 — Reframing rejection: Why getting rejected means you're doing it right 04:40 — The neuroscience of rejection: Why your brain treats it like a survival threat 06:10 — Focus on the process, not the outcome (the paperclip/pompom jar trick) 09:00 — Pause & understand your internal triggers (Internal Family Systems) 11:15 — Reconnect with your "why" 13:15 — Embrace a growth mindset (Carol Dweck's work) 15:10 — Why your career can't be your whole identity — and how to build emotional buffers Key Takeaways: 1. Rejection = proof of effort. 2. Your brain is wired to fear rejection. 3. Focus on the process, not the outcome. 4. Understand what's getting triggered inside you. 5. Know your "why."  6. A growth mindset is your superpower.  7. Get a life outside your work. Loved this episode? Leave a comment below with what resonated most! Rate & review the show on Spotify — it helps more big dreamers find us! Share this episode on your stories and tag Hannah! Slide into Hannah's DMs on Instagram or LinkedIn — she loves hearing from listeners! ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com   #fearofrejection #highperformer #dealingwithrejection #rejectiontosuccess #effortmatters #hannahkissel #bigdreamer

Is work-life balance the secret to a fulfilling life or a one-way ticket to mediocrity?  Join Hannah as she tackles one of the most provocative debates in high-performance culture head-on. Spoiler: it's not black and white.  In this episode, she breaks down the difference between toxic ambition and healthy ambition, unpacks the concept of "greedy jobs," and gives you a practical framework for achieving excellence without burning your life to the ground. Key Takeaways: 1. Work-life balance and exceptionalism are not mutually exclusive 2. Toxic ambition has a look — do you recognise it? 3. Healthy ambition is the goal 4. Define success for yourself — or someone else will define it for you 5. You don't have to be exceptional at everything — just one or two things 6. Diversify your self-worth beyond your career 7. If you must sacrifice, do it intentionally Timestamps:  01:30 - The entrepreneurship rhetoric: "sacrifice everything" 02:30 - Emil Barr's Wall Street Journal op-ed (the 22-year-old with two $20M companies) 03:30 - What are "greedy jobs"?  05:00 - Can you achieve excellence with balance? 05:30 - The key to exceptionalism: choose your lane 06:00 - Why you MUST define success on your own terms 06:30 - Hannah's personal burnout story at 30 07:00 - Toxic ambition vs. healthy ambition  07:30 - 5 signs you're operating in toxic ambition 08:30 - The 85-year Harvard study on happiness & relationships 09:00 - The Wheel of Life, a holistic view of success 09:30 - Why tying self-worth to work performance is dangerous 10:30 - How to choose one or two things to be truly exceptional at 11:00 - Seasons of sacrifice: conscious vs. unconscious overwork 12:00 - Client story: reinvesting in life after burnout 13:00 - Wrap-up + Life & Work Transformation program References Mentioned: "Work-Life Balance Will Keep You Mediocre" — op-ed by Emil Barr, Wall Street Journal "Greedy Jobs" — research by Nobel Prize-winning economist Claudia Goldin Harvard Study of Adult Development — 85-year study concluding that relationship quality is the #1 predictor of happiness Wheel of Life — framework covering: career/financial, relationships, health, purpose, autonomy, joy, community & spirituality **Loved this episode? If this resonated, share it with a high-achiever in your life who might be running on fumes. And if you're ready to build ambition that actually works for you, check out Hannah's Life & Work Transformation program.

In this episode, Hannah shares a powerful mindset shift that high performers often struggle with: the myth of feeling "ready." After a major career milestone—becoming a columnist for The Daily Telegraph—Hannah reflects on the idea that confidence, readiness, and clarity rarely come before action. Instead, they are built through action and experience. If you've ever told yourself you'll start the business, make the career move, apply for the opportunity, or take the next step once things calm down or once you feel more confident, this episode is for you. Hannah explores the psychology behind perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and the fear of social judgment—along with practical frameworks to help you take action before you feel ready. This conversation is especially valuable for high performers navigating career transitions, entrepreneurship, leadership growth, or major life decisions.   Key Takeaways Readiness is not a feeling—it's a decision. Waiting to feel ready can keep you stuck indefinitely. Confidence is built through repetition and action, not before it. High performers often delay change by waiting for the "perfect time" that never comes. Fear of embarrassment or judgment can subconsciously prevent you from taking bold steps. Your identity shapes your behavior—who you believe you are determines the risks you're willing to take. Mapping multiple life paths can help you evaluate whether you're optimizing for safety or adventure in your current phase of life. Small experiments and informational conversations can help you test new directions without major risk.   ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com

Why do some of the most capable, high-performing professionals feel like frauds behind closed doors? In this episode, Hannah Kissel responds to a listener working at a top tech company who is widely seen as calm, confident, and highly competent — yet privately feels anxious, ashamed, and emotionally exhausted. Despite promotions, glowing feedback, and exceptional executive presence, the listener is caught in relentless self-doubt, rumination, and fear of being "found out." Hannah unpacks the psychology of true imposter syndrome, explaining why it's especially common among high performers and women in elite environments — and how perfectionism, nervous-system dysregulation, and early responsibility patterns quietly fuel it. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), behavioral exposure, and leadership-level mindset shifts, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies for separating performance from self-worth — and for reclaiming confidence without burning out. ------- Key Takeaways: - Imposter syndrome often coexists with real competence and success - Promotions and performance data matter — your fear isn't proof - True imposter syndrome is psychological, not skill-based - Early responsibility can wire competence with survival - Perfectionism and reassurance-seeking reinforce anxiety - Reducing compulsive checking builds confidence over time - Nervous-system regulation is as important as mindset - Joy and play are not indulgences — they are stabilizers - Confidence grows when self-worth is no longer performance-dependent ------- Timestamps: 00:02:30 – Normalizing imposter syndrome in elite environments 00:03:00 – Skill gaps vs. true imposter syndrome 00:03:30 – Promotions, performance, and proof you're actually capable 00:04:30 – Internal Family Systems: polarized inner parts explained 00:05:00 – The competent part vs. the "fraud" part 00:06:00 – Where imposter syndrome often originates 00:06:30 – Early responsibility, caretaking, and competence as survival 00:07:00 – The "younger part" that's stuck in time 00:08:00 – Why secrecy fuels shame and isolation 00:09:00 – Journaling and parts work as a healing tool 00:09:30 – Perfectionism, rumination, and compulsive checking 00:10:30 – Exposure therapy: reducing reassurance-seeking behaviors 00:11:00 – Validation addiction and asking others when you already know 00:11:30 – Trusting your own competence again 00:12:00 – Nervous system regulation after work 00:12:30 – The missing ingredient: joy, play, and fun #impostersyndrome #highperformer #worklifebalancetips #hannahkissel  ------- 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com ------- Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles— where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected].

Thinking about leaving corporate for entrepreneurship — but unsure if you're actually ready? In this episode, Hannah breaks down the three non-negotiables you need in place before you quit your corporate job and start a business. Drawing from her own transition after years in big tech, as well as coaching dozens of high performers through career pivots, Hannah gets brutally honest about what makes this leap successful — and what quietly derails it. This isn't motivational fluff. It's a grounded, strategic conversation about mindset, money, and courage, and why skipping any one of these can cost you years of momentum, confidence, and financial stability. If you're ambitious, capable, and feeling called toward entrepreneurship — but battling fear, doubt, or timing questions — this episode will help you make the decision from clarity, not fantasy. Timestamps: 01:30 – Why leaving corporate requires a different framework 02:00 – The 3 non-negotiables for going out on your own 03:00 – Why mindset is the biggest predictor of success 03:30 – Belief, resilience, and evidence from past wins 04:00 – A personal story: leaving corporate income behind 04:30 – Why you are the determining factor 05:30 – Why mindset issues must be addressed before quitting 06:00 – Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset in business 06:30 – Why entrepreneurship requires rapid skill acquisition 07:30 – Resources for building a rock-solid mindset 09:00 – Understanding fixed vs discretionary costs 10:00 – Money clarity as a leadership skill 11:00 – Why timing and season of life matter 11:30 – Trade-offs: wealth building vs business building 12:00 – Opportunity cost of waiting too long 13:30 – The emotional cost of visibility 14:30 – Why wanting the outcome must outweigh fear 16:00 – Why community accelerates confidence 17:00 – Final encouragement + next steps Key Takeaways: - Entrepreneurship amplifies your mindset — both strengths and fears - Believing you can succeed is a measurable predictor of success - Growth mindset is essential when learning dozens of new skills - Financial runway creates safety, clarity, and better decisions - One year of living expenses is a strategic buffer, not pessimism - Timing and season of life matter more than motivation - Courage isn't confidence — it's acting with fear - Visibility and embarrassment are part of the process  - Identity drives outcomes more than tactics ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com #careertransitions #highperformer #startingabusiness #bigdreamer #hannahkissel

In this personal Kiss & Tell episode of Big F*cking Dreams, Hannah shares an honest behind-the-scenes reflection on excellence, ambition, identity, and growth — and what it really looks like to raise your standards without returning to burnout. From becoming unexpectedly obsessed with Heated Rivalry, to re-examining her relationship with excellence after burnout recovery, to rethinking how pain-based thinking shapes work, marketing, and personal goals — this episode is a candid look at how high performers evolve when they stop swinging between over-pushing and pulling back. Key Takeaways: Burnout doesn't mean excellence is gone — it means capacity needs rebuilding You can raise your standards without self-punishment Excellence and sustainability are not opposites Showing up at 70% is still leadership Passion often reveals identity, not distraction Focusing on pain keeps you stuck; focusing on transformation moves you forward What you pay attention to shapes what you create Ambition works best when paired with self-trust and internal safety   Timestamps: 01:00 – A new (unexpected) obsession: Heated Rivalry 01:30 – A personal branding exercise that revealed a core truth 02:00 – Passion, intensity, and identity 02:30 – Falling into obsession — and what it reveals 03:00 – Why simple, focused storytelling works 04:30 – Courage, visibility, and self-acceptance 05:00 – Why this story mattered so deeply 06:00 – Shifting into excellence: watching the Taylor Swift documentary 06:30 – Rigor, discipline, and demanding excellence 07:00 – Burnout at 30 and stepping away from work 07:30 – Trauma recovery and rebuilding capacity 08:00 – Entrepreneurship after burnout 09:00 – "Just put it out" vs. "hold a higher standard" 10:00 – Raising the bar in content and leadership 10:30 – Excellence as identity — done healthily 11:30 – Living in the gray, not extremes 12:00 – Showing up at 70% instead of not at all 12:30 – Discipline without punishment 13:00 – The tension between excellence and consistency 13:30 – Why showing up still matters 14:00 – Pain-based vs. attraction-based marketing 14:30 – Trauma shaping how we see the world 15:00 – The reticular activating system explained 15:30 – Why focusing on what you don't want backfires 16:00 – Shifting toward transformation and desire 16:30 – Helping people change their internal operating system 17:00 – Re-orienting toward possibility and growth ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com 

What do you do when your direct report keeps making serious mistakes — and you freeze every time you need to give feedback? In this Hannah Hotline episode, Hannah responds to a senior associate at a top-tier firm who feels stuck between wanting to be kind and fearing being walked all over. A glaring client-caught error, missed instructions, and unspoken resentment all collide — revealing a deeper issue many high performers struggle with: conflict avoidance in positions of power. Hannah breaks down how to lead with clarity without becoming cold or cruel, using Radical Candor and Nonviolent Communication to help you give feedback that actually supports growth — for your team and for yourself. If you manage people, work with juniors, or feel responsible for protecting standards while staying human, this episode is a must-listen. -------- Key Takeaways: - Avoiding feedback doesn't protect people — it creates confusion and resentment - Being "nice" without clarity is ruinous empathy - Radical Candor allows you to care deeply and lead effectively - Clear feedback is a form of leadership, not cruelty - Nonviolent Communication gives you language when emotions are high - High standards require explicit expectations, not hints - Great leaders are willing to feel uncomfortable for the sake of growth -------- Timestamps: 01:00 – Listener story: a major client catches a glaring mistake 02:00 – Resentment, self-betrayal, and fear of being a harsh boss 02:30 – Freezing instead of being direct 03:00 – Introducing Radical Candor 04:30 – Shame, anger, and fear underneath conflict avoidance 05:00 – The danger of "ruinous empathy" 05:30 – How avoiding feedback hurts your direct report's career 06:00 – Why senior leaders must challenge directly 07:00 – Setting standards is caring 07:30 – Why silence guarantees repeat mistakes 08:00 – Introducing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 08:30 – Step 1: Observation (facts without judgment) 09:30 – Step 2: Naming your feelings without blame 10:30 – Step 3: Identifying the real need (trust, accuracy, standards) 11:30 – Step 4: Making a clear, actionable request 12:00 – Example: setting a proofreading process 12:30 – Caring personally while challenging directly 13:00 – Removing ambiguity and passive aggression 13:30 – Why clarity creates better performance 14:00 – What's really stopping you from speaking up 14:30 – Confidence, conviction, and leadership identity 16:00 – What reactions to feedback tell you about someone 16:30 – It's never too late to address a mistake #nonviolentcommunication #RadicalCandor #HighPerformers #DifficultConversations #hannahkissel   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com 

What happens when your self-worth has been built on performance, achievement, and external validation — and then that structure starts to crack? In this episode, Hannah sits down with Lindsay Zohni, CEO of The Growth Option, former LinkedIn top performer, and entrepreneur, for an unfiltered conversation about anxiety, imposter syndrome, entrepreneurship, and decoupling self-esteem from success. Lindsay shares her journey from corporate leadership into entrepreneurship, unpacking the deep psychological and somatic work required to step away from "golden handcuffs," confront financial anxiety, and rebuild a sense of worth that isn't dependent on titles, income, or productivity. This episode is especially resonant for high performers who look successful on the outside but feel stuck, anxious, or quietly dissatisfied on the inside. This is a powerful, honest exploration of what it actually takes to grow beyond survival-driven success — and into freedom, presence, and aligned ambition. Timestamps: 00:00 – Becoming CEO & releasing imposter syndrome 02:00 – The fear of being "not enough" without a title 04:30 – Corporate validation vs. entrepreneurial self-trust 06:30 – Limiting beliefs: "I'm just a salesperson" 08:00 – Fighting the system vs. fighting yourself 10:00 – Losing the corporate feedback loop 12:00 – Primal fear, money, and entrepreneurship 13:30 – Financial dysmorphia explained 15:30 – When self-esteem is tied to achievement 17:30 – Decoupling worth from performance 18:30 – Why success doesn't disappear when self-esteem heals 20:30 – Feeling stuck despite "having it all" 22:00 – Anxiety, meditation, and the beginning of deep inner work 24:00 – Emotional completion vs. forgiveness 26:00 – Somatic healing and releasing stored trauma 29:00 – Why behavior change alone doesn't last 31:00 – Childhood beliefs still running adult lives 33:00 – "Wherever you go, there you are" 35:00 – Advice for professionals considering entrepreneurship 37:00 – Building self-trust and listening to what lights you up 39:00 – Lindsay's big dream: heart-centered leadership Key Takeaways: - Self-esteem tied to success creates anxiety, not fulfillment - Imposter syndrome often survives achievement - Entrepreneurship requires self-trust, not just competence - Financial anxiety can persist even when you're objectively "safe" - Healing internal belief systems unlocks calmer, more sustainable success - Somatic work helps release patterns logic alone can't solve - You don't need to destroy ambition — you need to transform it - True freedom comes from internal safety, not external stability   Connect with Lindsay:  www.linkedin.com/in/lindsayzohni/ www.thegrowthoption.com ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com    #entrepreneurmindsets #HighPerformers #careerdecision #ImposterSyndrome #anxietyrecovery  #ceostories #selfesteemmatters #EntrepreneurshipJourney #hannahkissel

If you're successful in your career but exhausted by your friendships, this episode of Hannah Hotline dives deep into why high-achieving women often attract toxic friends — and how to change the pattern. Hannah responds to a listener who is excelling in her corporate career but feels emotionally drained by toxic friendships. From people-pleasing patterns and the fawn trauma response to misaligned values and burnout, this conversation dives deep into why ambitious people often tolerate unhealthy dynamics — and how to change that without burning your whole social life to the ground. If you're a driven professional who's exhausted from always saying yes, carrying emotional labor for others, or feeling guilty for wanting better friendships, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - Why ambitious, exhausted professionals often tolerate unhealthy friendships - The hidden role of people-pleasing and the fawn trauma response - How to identify red flags in friendships (not just romantic relationships) - When to have a conversation — and when a slow fade is enough - How to set internal boundaries without guilt or dramatic confrontations - Ways to deepen healthy friendships instead of starting from scratch - How self-esteem impacts the quality of your relationships - Why outgrowing friends is painful — and still necessary Timestamps: 01:00 – Listener story: High performer, burnout, and toxic friendships 02:10 – The pattern: people-pleasing, over-giving, and exhaustion 03:30 – The fawn trauma response explained 05:00 – Taking responsibility without self-blame 06:20 – Step 1: Inventory your friendships and name the red flags 08:00 – Step 2: Define what an ideal friendship actually looks like 10:00 – Are you being the kind of friend you want to have? 11:20 – Boundaries without the word "boundaries" 13:00 – When to speak up vs. when to quietly step back 14:40 – Managing guilt, shame, and fear when you change dynamics 16:30 – Reinvesting in aligned friendships you already have 18:30 – Designing a social life that fits your energy and values 20:30 – Why self-esteem is the foundation of healthy friendships 22:00 – Invitation to the Life & Work Transformation program #ToxicFriendships #HighPerformers #PeoplePleasing #personalboundaries #CareerDriven #hannahkissel    🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this deeply human conversation, Hannah sits down with former Oroton CEO, Jenny Child, to explore what happens after the title, the success, and the carefully built career identity. Jenny shares her experience navigating grief, leadership, and major career transitions, and how learning to slow down, let go, and be present reshaped not just her work — but her sense of self. Together, they unpack what it means to lead through uncertainty, to grieve versions of ourselves we've outgrown, and to build a life that isn't driven solely by achievement. This episode is for anyone who's: - Stepping away from a high-level role - Moving through grief or loss (personal or professional) - Questioning who they are beyond their job title - Learning how to be present in seasons of change A powerful reminder that growth doesn't always look like striving — sometimes it looks like listening, resting, and allowing space for what's next. Key Takeaways: - Grief isn't only about loss — it often shows up during career transitions - Leadership roles can deeply shape identity, making transitions emotionally complex - Presence becomes essential when control and certainty fall away - Stepping back doesn't mean failure — it can mean integration - True success evolves as we evolve - Slowing down can reveal what achievement alone never could Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction & Jenny's career background 02:10 – Identity beyond leadership and success 05:00 – Grief as a teacher during life transitions 08:30 – Leaving a role that once defined you 12:15 – The emotional cost of high-performance culture 16:00 – Learning presence when certainty disappears 20:10 – Letting go of urgency and external validation 24:45 – Redefining success after loss and change 29:30 – Advice for leaders navigating transitions 33:00 – What it really means to trust yourself again #CareerTransitions #GriefRecovery #GriefAndGrowth #WomenInLeadership #ExecutiveLife #CareerChange #Presence #IdentityAndPurpose #HighPerformer   ------- 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com The Truth About Imposter Syndrome:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com  

In this episode of Hannah Hotline, Hannah responds to a listener who feels trapped in nightly 7PM work calls that aren't true emergencies — and are starting to take a real toll on her health, energy, and self-respect. On paper, everything looks great: a senior role, great pay, strong performance reviews. But behind the scenes, constant availability has become the expectation — and setting boundaries feels terrifying. This episode dives into how to tell the difference between what's truly required in your role and what's become an unhealthy pattern — plus how to stop apologizing for wanting basic boundaries like rest, health, and an evening to yourself. Key Takeaways: - Not every late-night work demand is a true job requirement — many are learned dynamics - Chronic stress and "always on" availability have real health consequences - You don't need to justify or apologize for reasonable boundaries - Start small: clear availability, long explanations - People-pleasing often reduces respect, not increases it - If your values and your job are in conflict, something needs to change Want Support With This? If this episode hit close to home and you're ready to stop over-functioning, people-pleasing, and burning out, Hannah's Life & Work Transformation program dives deep into exactly this work. #WorkBoundaries #PeoplePleasing #ToxicWorkCulture #WorkLifeBalance #BoundarySetting #HighPerformers #HannahKissel Timestamps: 00:00 – The listener's dilemma: nightly 7 PM calls 01:45 – Why this pattern feels so hard to change 03:00 – Is this a gravity problem or a boundary problem? 05:10 – When long hours are actually expected vs. optional 07:00 – The health cost of constant availability 09:00 – What happens if you do nothing 11:30 – People-pleasing, fear, and over-apologizing 13:45 – How to start setting boundaries (without overexplaining) 17:30 – What to do if your boss pushes back 20:30 – Identity shift: becoming someone who is calm and confident 23:00 – When it might be time to reassess the role itself 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode, Executive Life Coach, Hannah Kissel discusses the importance of adopting an investor mentality in various aspects of life beyond just finances. She emphasizes the need for long-term thinking and balancing different areas of life, such as health, relationships, and career. By identifying with one's future self and shifting personal identity, individuals can create lasting habits and embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. The conversation highlights practical steps to invest in oneself holistically, leading to a more fulfilling life. You'll learn in this episode: - Investing isn't just for finances; it applies to life. - Balance is key in the wheel of life. - Long-term thinking creates compound returns. - Identify with your future self for better decisions. - Your identity shapes your habits and choices. - Start small to build momentum in life changes. - Difficult challenges can lead to personal growth. - Self-control is a skill that can be developed. - Daily habits can transform your perception of self. - Investing in health and relationships is crucial.  Timestamps: 00:00 - Investing in Life: Beyond Finances 03:14 - The Wheel of Life: Balancing Priorities 05:59 - Identifying with Your Future Self 09:06 - Shifting Identity: The Investor Mentality 12:04 - Embracing Difficulties for Growth 14:48 - Creating a Holistic Life Investment ------- Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com  #highperformer #investormentality #hannahkissel 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of Hannah Hotline, Executive Life Coach, Hannah Kissel addresses a listener's struggle with career fulfillment, exploring the tension between a high-paying job and the desire for a more meaningful career. She discusses different career orientations, the psychological challenges faced by high earners, and practical steps for transitioning to a more fulfilling path.  The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding one's purpose and the sacrifices that may come with pursuing it, ultimately encouraging listeners to reflect on their own career journeys and aspirations. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the Dilemma of Career Fulfillment 02:51 - Understanding Career Orientations 06:00 - The High Earners Trap and Sunk Cost Fallacy 08:50 - Practical Steps for Transitioning Careers 12:07 - Navigating Purpose and Sacrifice in Career Choices 14:25 - Conclusion and Call to Action   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles— where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected].

In this reflective conversation, Executive Life Coach Hannah and Cory explore their experiences over the past year, using the Wheel of Life as a framework to assess their satisfaction in various life categories. They discuss their career aspirations, community connections, health journeys, and the importance of fun and recreation. The dialogue emphasizes the value of reflection for personal growth and setting intentions for the upcoming year. Reflection is essential for personal growth The Wheel of Life helps assess life satisfaction. Career satisfaction can fluctuate and requires active management. Community connections enhance overall well-being. Health encompasses both physical and mental aspects. Engaging in fun activities is crucial for happiness. Setting intentions can guide future actions. Hiring support can alleviate entrepreneurial isolation. Structured activities foster deeper friendships. Regular reflection can lead to actionable insights.   Timestamps 00:00 - Reflecting on the Past Year 05:24 - Career Insights and Aspirations 15:13 - Building Community and Connections 16:17 - Building Community Connections 22:41 - Health Reflections and Goals 31:34 - Exploring Fun and Recreation 39:43 - Setting Intentions for the New Year   ------- 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com The Truth About Imposter Syndrome:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com  

Welcome to Hannah Hotline! In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, we tackle a common challenge among high performers: dealing with a boss who is inconsistent, incompetent, and a people-pleaser. A listener is heading into a crucial meeting with their VP and is tempted to "throw their boss under the bus" to gain a leadership opportunity. Life coach Hannah Kissel breaks down the essential strategy you need to handle this situation without sabotaging your career. Watch this episode if you're "over it and aiming up"  and want to elevate your career conversation In this video, you will learn: - Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain at work - How to stop ruminating about your bad boss - The acceptance strategy for incompetent managers - Why complaining to a senior leader is career sabotage - How to showcase leadership in a VP meeting - Using market trends to elevate your career conversation - The #1 rule for talking shit about your manager 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com   Hannah Hotline is sponsored by dominiquejingles— where quirky, clever, and corporate branding is reimagined. A client says, 'We just want something different.' Dominique turns that into a jingle that sticks in your head all day. DM Dominique on Instagram @dominiquejingles or email [email protected].   #badboss #careerstrategy #cleanpaindirtypain #leadershipdevelopment #workplaceadvice

Welcome to this special bonus episode of the Big Fcking Dreams podcast. This is a powerful, guided meditation designed to help you connect with and unburden one of your protective "parts" using the framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. For high-achievers, overthinkers, and perfectionists, learning to speak to these parts, like the Inner Critic, the Martyr, or the People-Pleaser, is the key to reducing stress, building self-compassion, and stepping into your true Self energy. Find a comfortable position, close your eyes, and let's begin the work of healing and integrating. Remember to pause and journal if you need to. This meditation will guide you to: - Identify where a protective part resides in your body. - Ask the part about its role and deep fears. - Discover when the part first took on its job. - Give the part an update on your adult life, letting it know it can unburden its stress. - Cultivate Self energy and compassion toward the part. Resources Mentioned: The Method that Changed My Life Internal Family Systems Therapy: https://youtu.be/SZLIEzplySU 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #PartsWork #GuidedMeditation #SelfCompassion

Are you losing your edge, but can't figure out why? You're objectively exceptional, but you still feel like an imposter and you're shutting down in important meetings.  In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Life Coach Hannah Kissel breaks down the 5 red flags that are silently crushing your career confidence and giving you true imposter syndrome. She dive deep into how perfectionism and people-pleasing are linked to burnout, and why you feel like you have to overgive to prove your worth.  If you are struggling with low confidence, self-doubt, or always comparing yourself to others' success, this episode is your wake-up call and a guide to taking your power back. In this video, you will learn: - The difference between a skills gap and a true confidence issue. - How your nervous system's "Firefighter" part causes you to shut down in high-stakes meetings. - Why the world needs more of your "B+ work". - The antidote to constant comparison in competitive environments: anchoring on your personal values. - How to use "micro boundaries" to stop overgiving and people-pleasing. Resources Mentioned: The Method that Changed My Life Internal Family Systems Therapy: https://youtu.be/SZLIEzplySU The Truth About Imposter Syndrome: https://open.spotify.com/episode/129YgMPuJWGLQK5VB9CncR?si=a352646dfec6411a Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score: https://hannahkisselcareerquiz.scoreapp.com   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com   #careerconfidence #highperformer #selfdevelopment #perfectionism #peoplepleasing

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams, Hannah Kissel discusses the foundational elements of well-being, emphasizing the importance of sleep, exercise, and community. She highlights how neglecting these basics can lead to burnout and health issues, especially for high performers. The conversation encourages listeners to simplify their routines and focus on small, consistent changes to improve their overall health and happiness.   Foundations of life are more important than optimization. Sleep, exercise, and community are essential for well-being. High performers often neglect basic health needs. Sleep cannot be compensated for; it's a debt you can't repay. Consistent sleep improves mood and cognitive function. Start small when making lifestyle changes for success. Strength training is crucial for long-term health. Quality relationships are more important than quantity. Community support lowers stress and increases lifespan. Health should be prioritized alongside personal and professional goals.   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com Quiz: Discover Your Career Alignment Score  

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Hannah Kissel and Cory Welsh dive into the intricacies of wedding planning, the pressures surrounding body image, and the meaning of marriage. They share personal anecdotes about their wedding experiences, discuss the societal expectations placed on brides, and reflect on the importance of self-acceptance and partnership. The conversation highlights the joy and challenges of navigating relationships and the significance of staying true to one's vision amidst external pressures. The pressure to have a perfect wedding day can be overwhelming. Having supportive friends and family can alleviate wedding stress. It's important to stay true to your vision when planning a wedding. Body image pressures are prevalent in wedding culture. Body dysmorphia can affect how brides perceive themselves leading up to the wedding. Marriage is about partnership and supporting each other's dreams. Navigating family dynamics is crucial during wedding planning. Creating guiding principles can help in decision-making for weddings. It's essential to prioritize guest experience when planning a wedding. Reflecting on personal growth is important in a marriage. 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel delves into the topic of burnout, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She discusses the three dimensions of burnout—emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and inefficacy—drawing from research by Susan Jackson and Christina Maslach. Hannah also identifies six mismatches that contribute to burnout, including workload, control, reward, community, fairness, and value misalignment. Finally, she offers strategies for addressing burnout and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's personal values in the workplace. Burnout is often misunderstood and misused in conversation. Emotional exhaustion is a key characteristic of burnout. Depersonalization leads to cynicism about work and clients. Inefficacy is a feeling of not making a difference. Workload can be a significant contributor to burnout. Control and autonomy in the workplace are crucial. Recognition and reward impact feelings of burnout. Community and connection with colleagues matter. Fairness and perceived inequality can fuel burnout. Aligning personal values with organizational values is essential. Creating autonomy over your time can help mitigate burnout. Building connections in the workplace is crucial for mental health. Quality rest is essential for recovery from burnout. Daily habits like diet and exercise impact burnout levels. Redefining success can lead to better mental health. Success should be process-oriented rather than goal-oriented. Understanding subconscious drivers of behavior is key to transformation. 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel and Katie Clinch explore the importance of living and leading by one's values. They discuss Katie's personal journey in defining her values, the impact of these values on her leadership style, and the significance of community and group coaching in personal development. The discussion also delves into the Drama Triangle and parts work, highlighting how understanding these concepts can empower individuals to take control of their lives and decisions. Katie shares her experiences and insights, emphasizing the transformative power of coaching and self-awareness. Values can often feel fluffy, but they are essential. Defining values is just the first step; operationalizing them is key. Family is a top value that can guide decisions. Moments of stress can be alleviated by remembering values. Leadership is about integrity and community. Awareness of one's role in the Drama Triangle is crucial. Parts work can help uncover suppressed aspects of oneself. Group coaching offers a sense of community and shared experience. Hannah's coaching style encourages deep self-reflection. Authentic leadership involves embracing all parts of oneself.   Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the Fawn Trauma Response, a lesser-known reaction to trauma characterized by people-pleasing and appeasement behaviors. She discusses its roots in complex trauma, particularly in corporate environments, where individuals often struggle to advocate for themselves. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness, practical steps to overcome fawning behaviors, and the role of Internal Family Systems therapy in understanding and addressing these responses. Kissel emphasizes that change is possible and encourages listeners to seek help and support. The Fawn Trauma Response is often misunderstood and under-discussed. Complex trauma can lead to a range of responses, including fawning. Corporate environments can exploit the Fawn Trauma Response for productivity. Individuals with higher ACE scores are more prone to burnout. Awareness is the first step in addressing trauma responses. Practical steps include learning to say no and setting boundaries. Somatic practices can help individuals reconnect with their bodies. Internal Family Systems therapy can aid in understanding trauma responses. It's important to recognize that you are not broken and can change. Seeking help from therapists or coaches can facilitate healing. Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a transformative therapeutic method that has significantly impacted her life and work with clients. She explains the fundamentals of IFS, including the concept of parts, manager and firefighter roles, and the importance of self-energy. The discussion emphasizes understanding and transforming these parts for personal growth and emotional healing, while also addressing the significance of self-awareness and the role of empowered parts in navigating life's challenges. Internal Family Systems therapy can transform your life. Understanding your parts is key to emotional healing. Manager parts often manifest as harsh inner critics. Firefighter parts are impulsive and seek to numb pain. Exiles are vulnerable parts that carry trauma and shame. Self-energy is the essence of who you are, unbroken and unburdened. The goal of IFS is to understand, not eliminate parts. Transforming parts can lead to personal growth and better decision-making. Parts polarization helps resolve internal conflicts. You're not broken; having intense parts is normal. Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel discusses the emotional complexities of career transitions, drawing on her personal experiences and the framework of Martha Beck's change cycle. She outlines the four phases of this cycle—death and rebirth, dreaming and scheming, the hero's journey, and mastery—emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and understanding one's identity throughout the process. Kissel provides insights into how individuals can navigate these transitions, encouraging them to prototype new career paths and engage in meaningful conversations to gain clarity. Career transitions can be emotionally intense and chaotic. Martha Beck's change cycle has four distinct phases. You cannot skip any phase in the change cycle. Phase one involves identity loss and can feel like burnout. Phase two is about dreaming and exploring new possibilities. Prototyping new career paths is essential in phase two. Self-compassion is crucial in phase three of the journey. Understanding your strengths can guide your career decisions. Engaging with others in your desired field provides clarity. Career pivots often require significant inner work and reflection.   Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel interviews Kate Mason, who holds a PhD, a communications expert, and coach known for her work with executives and founders, particularly in the tech industry. They both explore the intricate relationship between likability and power, drawing from personal experiences and cultural contexts. They discuss strategies for enhancing likability, navigating tense relationships, and the importance of calm communication. The conversation emphasizes that communication skills can be learned and that genuine relationships are built on honesty and self-awareness, rather than people-pleasing behaviors. The dichotomy between power and likability is subjective. Both power and likability can coexist in a professional setting. Personal experiences shape our understanding of communication. Cultural contexts influence perceptions of communication styles. Self-awareness is key to improving likability. Feedback should be viewed as a gift, not a threat. Calmness in communication can influence the room's energy. Communication skills can be learned and developed over time. People-pleasing can undermine genuine relationships. Disappointment is a natural part of relationships and can be communicated openly. Check Out Kate Mason's Website Follow Kate Mason on Instagram Connect with Kate Mason on LinkedIn Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week 🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Cory Welsh shares her transformative journey through the Life and Work Transformation program, detailing her experiences from level one to level two. She discusses the importance of community, emotional regulation, and effective communication frameworks, particularly nonviolent communication. Cory reflects on the internal changes she has experienced, how she navigates challenges at work and in personal relationships, and the significant impact of the program on her self-awareness and confidence. She emphasizes the value of support from peers and the importance of investing in personal growth during times of transition. Cory felt a strong connection to the community built during the program. She experienced a pivotal moment of transformation in her personal life. The frameworks learned helped him navigate tough conversations at work. Cory gained deeper self-awareness of her values and triggers. She learned to respond rather than react in challenging situations. Nonviolent communication became a key tool in her interactions. The program provided a safe space for vulnerability and sharing. Cory observed significant changes in herself that were not always visible externally. She emphasized the importance of investing in personal growth during transitions. The difference in energy between level one and level two was notable, with more accountability and support. Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com

In this episode of the Big F*cking Dreams podcast, Life Coach Hannah Kissel explores the tension between the desire for perfection and the acceptance of imperfection. She reflects on her personal journey of wanting to be extraordinary while grappling with the fear of being ordinary. Through her experiences and insights, she discusses the impact of childhood programming on her ambitions, the challenges of high achievement, and the phenomenon of post-achievement depression. Ultimately, she emphasizes the importance of shifting focus from exceptionalism to contentment and living a balanced life. Hannah embraces imperfection and believes in progress over perfection. She has a strong desire to be extraordinary, which she grapples with. The fear of being ordinary can hinder personal growth and aspirations. Childhood programming influences our beliefs about success and achievement. High achievers often face post-achievement depression after reaching their goals. Hannah reflects on the misconception that relationships solve personal issues. She acknowledges the need to shift from a mindset of exceptionalism to one of contentment. Living a balanced life is crucial for mental health and well-being. Hannah is in a process of self-discovery and personal growth. She invites feedback from her audience to better support her community.   Apply to be the Big F*cking Dreamer of the Week   🚨 Got a career challenge? Submit your questions and frustrations to the Hannah Hotline! Email: [email protected] Gain Access to the free Career Confidence Course: https://www.hannahkissel.com/careerconfidence Follow Hannah Kissel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahmaekissel/ Connect with Hannah Kissel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hannahkissel/ Visit Hannah's website: www.hannahkissel.com