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#342: 4 Unhelpful Faith-Based Beliefs that Unknowingly Keep Love Addicts Stuck

#341: Common Red Flags in Lesbian Relationships for Love Addicts

#340: Breaking Codependency in Family Relationships

#339: 5 Archetypes of Unavailable Men for Love Addicts

#338 - My burnt out nervous system and how I'm recoverying (Back from sabbatical!)

#337: Summer Sabbatical Relationships for Self Love

#336: Summer Sabbatical Homework for Relationships

#335: 3 Ways to Find Positivity in Times of Stress

#334: Future Fakers, Secret Emotional Abusers, & Cheaters Do Not Deserve You

#333: When You're Healing Alone

#332: Why Your Feelings Need Structure

#331: 3 Strengths Gained by Taking Your Power Back in No Contact

#330: Writing the No Contact Book (Behind the Scenes & More)

#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love

#328: Why your breakups hit differently (why they hurt so much more)

#327: 3 Tips to Cope With a Breakup

#326: Where am I in my love addiction journey? (5 stages of healing)

#325: Can I be both a love addict and love avoidant?

#324: how do I get my time back from this relationship

#323: You're too pretty for him

#322: How To Put Yourself First Pt 4

#321: How to Put Yourself First Pt 3

#320: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 2 - Building Roots

#319: How to Put Yourself First Pt. 1

#318: Merry Christmas! Merry Chrysler!

#317: Youngest Daughters & Childhood Emotional Neglect

#316: Middle Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect

#315: Oldest Daughters and Childhood Emotional Neglect

#314: You Don't Have to Be the Family Savior

#313: The 3 Best Partners for Love Avoidant Archetypes

#312: How Love Addicts Can Find Love (4 Ways for Each Archetype)

#311: Finding Hope When Everything is Not Okay

310: 3 Ways to Keep Fostering Deep Love With Your Person

#309: Why Stressed Women Stay and How to Make Them Leave

#308: How to Know They Like You (And Why That's Important)

#307: Consequences of Being With the Wrong Person (Thoughts from Love Island)

#306: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup

#305: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary

#304: Starting A Healing Circle

#303: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson

#302: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult

#301: When Your Mom is Competitive With You

#300: How to Heal From Your Mother Wound?

#299: How to Stop Financial Codependency

#298: How to Feel Deserving

#297: Codependency & Boundaries

#296: Is it Compatibility or Codependency?

#295: 3 Mistakes I made Dating as a Love Avoidant

#294: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others

#293: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant

#292: Going from Being Love Avoidant to Love Available

#291: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your Hands)

#290: Setting Unrealistic Fantasies as a Love Addict (Love Addiction Series)

#289: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Leads to Love Addiction (Love Addiction Series)

#288: The 4 Archetypes of Love Addiction

#287: How to Deal with Grief and Unexpectedly Losing a Loved One

#285: 3 Mistakes Love Avoidants Make in Dating

#284: 3 Dating Mistakes to Avoid as a Love Addict

#283: How to Host a Healing Circle With Friends

#282: How to Heal in Community (7 Tips to Make Sisterhood Work)

#281: Why You Stay in Relationships When You're Tired

#280: How to Cope When Your Dating Partner Stops Responding (No Contact)

#279: 4 Steps to Help Yourself Heal & Relationships to Flourish

#278: The First 3 Steps to Heal Love Addiction

#277: 3 Ways to Not Move Too Fast in a New Relationship

#276: How I Use Astrology for Love and Healing

#275: The 7 Levels of Availability for ALL Relationships

#274: 3 Ways to Have the Best Relationships in 2025

#273: How Fear of Abandonment Affects Your Relationships

#272: 3 Green Flags Someone is Available for Love (How to Pick Partners for Love Addicts)

#271: 3 Tips to Deal with Holiday Overwhelm, Stress & Mental Fatigue

#270: 4 Ways to Tell the Friendship May Be Temporary

#269: Navigating Seasons of Relational Conflict (Throwback episode)

#268: 4 Reasons to Be Proud of Yourself

#267: 3 Ways to Cope When They Don't Care

#266: 7 Benefits of Taking it Slow in a Relationship

#265: 3 Hidden Ways We Ignore (and Encourage) Red Flags in Others

#264: “Am I Quitting?” and the Future of Black Girls Heal

#263: Checking the Facts When You're in Conflict

#262: What To Do When You Feel Rejected

#261: The Importance of Pacing While Dating + Checking In

#260: Doing No Contact with a Co-Parent

#259: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant

#258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict

#257: How Fantasy Fuels Unrealistic Expectations

#256: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Sparks Addictive Relationships

#255: Hard Lessons Learned After 10 Years in Love Addiction Recovery

#254: How to Stop Financial Codependency

#253: The 4 Steps of No Contact

#252: Don’t text them - Sit on Your Hands

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#251: Surrender and Letting Go (Just Let Them Be)

#250: How to Feel Deserving

#249: Conquering the Fear of Being Seen

#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships

#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier

#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing

#245: The First 3 Steps of Healing Love Avoidance

#244: 4 Ways Family Trauma Will Normalize Emotional Abuse

#243: 3 Ways Love Addicts (Accidentally) Sabotage Their Relationships

#242: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup

#241: 3 Ways to Not Be Jaded in Love after Heartbreak

#240: 5 Stages of Healing from Love Addiction

#239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to Know

#238: Reesa Teesa, Settling, and Finding Your Joy

#237: Top 15 Things I Do to Manage my ADHD (ADD)

#236: Taking a mini break

#235: Can I stay friends with my ex as a love addict?

#234: Overspending, Hoarding, Workaholism, and Financial Codependency (Money Trauma Pt 2)

#233: Money Trauma and Underearning for Love Addicts & Avoidants

#231: Mother Hunger with Dr. Piper Grant

#230: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult

#229: How to Know You Have a Problem as a Love Addict

#228: When Your Mom is Competitive WIth You

#227: Codependency & Boundaries

#226: Negging is Not Normal (and how to get away from it)

#225: Practicing Healthy Non-Attachment vs Avoidance for Self-Love

#224: Getting Ourselves Together in 2024 (Mother Trauma, Men, & Money!)

#223: [REWIND] You Can't Practice With Unhealthy People

#222: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Addicts

#221: Online Dating, Vulnerability, & Finding Love with Anwar White

December Check In, ADHD, & Affirmations to Focus On

#220: How I Left My Unhealthy Relationship

#219: 8 Tips for Going Outside for Love Addicts & Love Avoidants (New Intro + Update)

#218: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Avoidants

#217: 12 Promises of Hope for Love Addict

#216: 3 Things to Unlearn After an Unhealthy Relationship

#215: Can a Love Addict & Love Avoidant Make it Work? (3 Ways to Move Forward)

#214: 7 Tips for Dating Post Divorce

Now Introducing The Business of Healing Podcast!

#213: Is it compatibility or codependency?

#212: What it Feels Like to be Restored

#211: Feeling Safety in Your Body (Reclaiming Me)

#210: Building Positive Self Belief

#209: How to Use Coaching In Your Healing Process

#208: 4 Gains of Being Love Available (fixed audio)

#207: For Beautiful Ari & All Others Who Feel Not Enough

#206: Sisterhood Heals with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford

#205: Listen to Your Teachers, but Trust Your Gut

#204: Recovering as a Married Single Mother with Jasmine Chanelle

#203: When you feel love deprived and neglect yourself (Roadmap Episode)

#202: Do I tell them I'm a love addict? [repost]

#201: 3 Regrets as a Recovered Love Addict

#200: The 5 Steps to Heal from Love Addiction

#199: Refocusing and Self Love at BGH

#198: How to Apologize (and When Not to)

#197: Therapeutic separation with a neglectful partnership

#196: Allowing those who want to leave to leave

#195: (Re)training your body to experience good feelings

#194: 3 Ways to Optimize Community (and how to find it)

#193: Family boundaries, money trauma, explosive fights, sexual assault, situationship problems, queer dating and more! (Listener Q&A)

Join me in Portugal for our Fall Intensive!

#192: It’s time to work on what you’ve been avoiding

#191: The 4 Seasons of Self Love (in Dating)

#190: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict (Throwback)

#189: Mother Enmeshed Men

#188: Learning to Live in the Goodness

#187: The healing is in the repair

#186: 7 Steps to Cope with a Situationship Breakup

#185: No Contact + Surrendering in Relationships

#184: Emotional Anchors & Your Highest Level Self

#183: Stop Withholding Love and Be Love Available

#182: Situationship Singlehood + Asking for What You Want

#180: Coping with Chronic illness (5 encouragements)

#179: 3 Signs of an Expired Friendship

#178: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or your Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)

#177: Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in Love Languages

#176: 3 Reasons Your No Contact Process is Not Working

#175: Making the right decision for yourself on faith

#174: Healing our Womb & Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas

#173: Betrayal Trauma Emotional Aftercare Support (Pt 2)

#172: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma with a Sex Addicted Partner

#171: Going from Love Deprivation To Felt Love Worthiness (Stages Of Change)

#170: Self Love and Dropping the Cape with Michelle Goodloe

#169: The Sadness that is Going Around

#168: Take Your Time

#167: Humiliation as a Red Flag

#166: When The Person With all the Answers Falls Short

#165: 3 Things Learned from Coaching Women

#164: The Art of Receiving

#163: How childhood emotional neglect leads to love addiction

For Healers #1: 3 Beliefs for Healing Professionals to Challenge

#162: Dealing with Seasons of Conflict

#161: Going from Love Avoidant to Love Available

#159: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your F'ing Hands)

Bonus Episode: October Catch Up with Shena

#158: Heart to Heart: Not Losing Your Self in a New Relationship

#157: Making Running the Household Fair with Laura Danger

#156: It Gets Better...

#155: Setting Unrealistic Expectations Based on Fantasy

#154: The Healed and Loved Woman: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced

#153: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant

#152: When You Like Someone as a Love Addict

#151: Grieving Being Let Down at Your Big Events

#150: Feeling Whatever You Need to Feel About Your Past Relationship

#149: Enabling vs Empowering

#148: Breaking the Habit of Self Criticism

#147: Hurt Feelings, Codependency, and Letting What I Give Be Enough

Transitions

#146: 5 Truths for Love Addicts Healing from Heartbreak

Now introducing our brother podcast, For the Fellas

#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship

#144: How to Let Your Partner Have Their Own Feelings

#143: 5 Signs You Feel Protected in a Relationship

#142: Just checking in with you and sending love

#141: Musings about ADHD, Diagnoses, and What Works for Me

#140: Your Trauma and Your (Conflictual) Relationship w/ Your Daughter

#139: Grieving The Relationship You Never Had With Your Mother

#138: Getting unstuck via self-forgiveness

#137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation

#136: On Being Triggered (My Repair Episode)

#135: Inspiration for You - Bodywork Healing, Motivation, and the Power Inside

#134: Lessons Learned from Divorcing

#133: Finding Your Voice in Your Recovery Journey

#132: Asking for What You Need Emotionally in Friendships

#131: Fighting Perfectionism with Dr. Marcuetta Sims

#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)

#129: Being a Healed and Loved Woman

#127: Internalized Misogyny & Love Addiction

#126: 5 Things I'm Doing to Cultivate Friendships

Checking In - It's Okay to be Tired (Covid related)

#124: Why You Gotta Take a Break!

#122: The 3 Things You Don't Need to Apologize For

#121: When You're Afraid to Try Again in Relationships

#120: Why Your Deep Intimacy & Trust Should be Earned

#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One

#118: 3 Things I Learned from The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat (About Fear and Hiding)

#117: How to Host a Relationship Check-In

#116: Coping When Family and Loved Ones Think Negatively of You

#115: Answering Your Questions (Part 1)

#114: Financial Complacency and Abandonment as a Red Flag

#113: Why Love Addicts are Actually Avoidant

#112: What to Keep in Mind When You Miss Red Flags

#111: 3 Ways to Know You’ve Grown and are Healthier

#110: 4 Ways to Not be Codependent as a Healer

#109: Being Healed and Loved Woman at All Times

#108: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson

#107: Things I Learned During my Hiatus (Adult ADHD, Connecting, Feminine Energy, & More)

Summer break is loading!

#106: When They Break Up With You Because You ‘Deserve Better’

#105: Going Thru Transition is Okay

#104: The 12-Step Experience for Sex and Love Addicts

#103: How to Know When You Are Done with Your Healing Process

#102: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Avoidant in Marriage

#101: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Addict in Marriage

#100: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Avoidant

#99: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict

#98: The Importance of Self Care f/ Les Alfred

#97: Identifying Codependent Patterns in Your Everyday Life

# 96: Grieving Childlessness by Singleness & Circumstance

#95: For the Fellas: Black Men, Trauma, Intimacy, & Connecting

#94: Our Relationship With Food, Trauma, and Self Soothing f/ Dr. Ebony Butler

#93: Healing Your Mother Wound

#92: How to Tell if a Relationship is Safe For Your Healing

#91: Dimming Your Light For Self Protection

#90: 5 Reasons You Need to Apologize

#89: Coping + When It's Hard to Let Go (Reshare)

#88: Self Care While Dating with Francesca Hogi

#87: Connecting to Black Women After Being Rejected for Not Being Black Enough

#86: 5 Reasons You Need to Heal in a Group

#85: Healed and Loved Meditation & Affirmations

#84: From Love Deprived to Love Worthy (Re-Uploaded)

#83: From Love Avoidant to Love Available

#82: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced

#81: Coping with Lack of Closure

#80: 8 Lessons I Learned in 2020

#79: Lessons Learned Healing from Love Avoidance [Student Highlight]

#78: Dating After Heartbreak

#77: Getting Ahead of Her Codependency [Student Highlight]

#76: 3 Reasons Self Love is the Best Love

#75: Make Your Family Support Plan (for the Holidays)

#74: 3 Mistakes From Not Owning Your Value

#73: Processing of Post-Election Disappointment in Supposed Allies

#72: 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict

#71: How to Be a Good Girlfriend

#70: What if I Can't Get Better [Student Highlight]

#69: The 4 Types of Love Addicts

#68: Mindfulness & Healing Your Trauma f Valerie Ritchie

#67: When You're the Friend Who Can't Get it RIght

#66: Changing and Learning New Lessons

#65: You're Worth It (Student Highlight)

#64: Stop Testing Yourself

#63: Take Your Time

#62: Therapy vs Coaching When Healing From Love Addiction

#61: The Four Communication Styles with Kourtney Dubois

#60: Grieving Who You Thought They Were

#59: Why They're Treating You the Way They're Treating You

#58: Living A life With Regrets

#57: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah)

#56: Starting a Healing Circle

#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)

#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing

#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness

#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)

#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship

BONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma

#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship

#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect

#47: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People

#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response

#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice

#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It

#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors

#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled

#41: Is Shame Controlling You?

#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself

#39: Healing Intellectual Trauma (Student Highlight)

#38: The Label DOES Matter

#37: Maybe It's You

#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue

#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes

#34: You Can Change Your Mind

#33: You Have the Power

#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019

#31: Creating Your Own Traditions

#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips

#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake

#28: Boundary Hangovers

#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood

#26: False Intimacy

#25: Trauma Bonds

#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness

#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others

Check in!

#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki

#21: Manifestation & Mindset

#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A

#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing?

#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change

#17: What is Withdrawal?

#16: Healing Codependency

#15: Is it Time to Go Back to Therapy?

#14: 3 Things Avoidants Can Do To Make Their Lives Better

#13: Identifying Your Feelings (With an Intimacy Disorder)

#12: When Trauma Shuts You Down in Relationships

#11: When Living in Your Head Soothes You

#10: 3 Ways to Know It's Time to End a Relationship (Summer Reset)

#9: Avoiding a Victim Mentality in Relationships

#8: Letting Others In (The How To's & Roadblocks)

#7: When It's Hard to Let Go of a Relationship

#6: 3 Ways to Choose People Who Won't Burn You, Disappoint You, or Hurt You

#5: What is an Intimacy Disorder? - All About Love Addiction, Love Avoidance

#4: Coping with Anger from Your Past

#3: 3 Blocks to Inner Healing

#2: Why You Can't Control Them...

#1: 5 Reasons Why Intimacy is So Hard

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