All Episodes
Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher — 282 episodes
Your Internal Compass: The Source of Your Answers
How Believing In Scarcity Keeps You Codependent
Persistence And The Foundation You Need
Why You Chase Love...
Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It)
How To Heal Insecurity Correctly
What If This Work Isn't About Healing Codependency?
Take Back The Authority Over Your Worth
What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?
Why You Fixate On Other People's Approval
How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself
Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!
End People-pleasing With This Shift
How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?
Are You Blended Up In Them?
The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing
Do You Allow Yourself To Change?
What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?
Are You Surviving Or Thriving? My Focus For 2025
Getting Control of Uncertainty? Is That Possible?
Is It Time To Be The Power And Authority Over Your Life?
How I View Codependency And The Codependent - Important In Choosing Who You Work With
The Importance of Identifying And Integrating The Gains In Your Healing
Your Pain vs The Story You Tell
The Burden of Cause
Feeling Lost In Other People's Lives, Feelings, Desires? Here's What To Do
Knowledge Overwhelm Is Sabotaging Your Healing
Going Slow - It Is A Must
Becoming Your Own Protector To Nurture Secure Attachment
Emotional Perfectionism: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real things
The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Creation Phase - Where you create a life you enjoy
The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Healing Phase - Where you grow into your real self
The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Survival Phase - Where you start your journey
Is It Time To Quit? The Uncanny Power of Quitting To Accelerate Your Healing
Why you only love yourself when things are going well
Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-Love
The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourself
Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love Yourself
Codependency And Shame - What's Really Happening
3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're Codependent
You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of Love
3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To Thrive
3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And Thrive
Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And Healing
What secrets does your emptiness hold?
What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?
The Anatomy Of Connection
Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?
3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing Others
Create Real Confidence By Doing These Two Practices
Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?
Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 Things
The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And Available
Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?
How To Make Healing Easier On Yourself
Got Capacity?
Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...
What Does It Mean To Belong?
Self-Worth Sets You Free
Do You Have Emotional Safety?
Why you are codependent and what to do about it
Do You Have A Mental Block or Is It Actually Something Else?
Why Am I So Confused And Anxious When Someone Is Kind To Me?
If You're Not Healing, This May Be Why
What Does It Mean To Trust Myself?
Fear: Understand What It Is Doing For You How To Soothe It
5 Things I Do When Things Get Discouraging
Ask Marshall: How Do I Trust Myself and Believe Myself More?
Bluntcake: What Really Loving Yourself Means And How To Do It
Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?
Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate Sovereignty
Why Do I Push People Away?
Do I Matter? How To Cultivate A Sense Of Mattering
Are You Knowing Your Pain, Or Ignoring Your Pain?
What Replaces Codependency As You Heal: The Inner Advocate
Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality
What Is Freeze And How Do I Work With It?
Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing It
Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - What It Is And How It Causes Codependency Revisited
How To Empathize and Keep Your Boundaries In Three Steps
What If Triggers Are An Ally, Not An Enemy?
Blunt Cake: Are You Trying To Heal By Getting Rid Of Your Emotions?
To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things
Achieving Success In Your Healing: How To Stop Sabotaging Your Healing Work
Bluntcake Episode: Are You Putting People On Pedestals?
3-Minute Insight: The Two Commitments
How I Nurture Emotional Safety And You Can, Too
Not Sure What To Do? Use These 4 Questions To Get Direction
Do You See Yourself As A Real Person?
3-Minute Insight: Why Is It So Hard To Love Myself?
3-minute Insight: What The Layers Are In The Onion of Healing
Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?
This One Practice Unlocks Your Actual Healing
Why Mindset Is Not Healing Your Pain
Are You Emotionally Auditing Yourself?
Four Signals That Show You're Healing
Are You Doing The Spaghetti Approach To Healing?
Bluntcake: You Are Not Entitled To Anyone's Acceptance
Isn't it healthy to have certain expectations?
"How Do You Manage Escapism, Marshall?"
#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With Yourself
How To Empathize Without Violating Your Well-being
Is Being "Too Much" A Real Thing?
Blunt Cake #1: Consequences Are Love In Action, Too
Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?
The One Question That Reveals Compatibility Fast
The Essentials - Sanity: Know What Is Real With These 3 Patterns
The Cause and Cure of Codependency with Stacey Steinmiller
Dating Again? Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking For
Going Beyond Codependency: Navigating the Pain Of Positive Outcomes
Is Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?
You Must Break The Obedience Trance To Heal
The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?
Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This Shift
What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your Pain
End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" Practice
Bluntcake: Are You Being Transactional In Your Healing?
The Essentials: Warmly Welcome Emotions - A Practice
The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To Fix
Are You Ultra-Independent?
Does Approval Equal Permission For You?
Do You Feel Lost Without A Relationship? Here's Why and What To Do About It
Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging
Real Safety Depends On Respecting Your Capacity
Doubt That Your Feelings Matter Or Are Valid? Here's What To Do
Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It
Are You Trying To Get People To Choose You?
The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more pain
The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part One
Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?
Your Reactions Are Pointing You To What You Need
Four Gentle Steps For Hearing Your Voice Again
Do You Crave Or Chase Approval?
Random Bits About Worth, Feeling Stuck, Getting Unstuck
Are Approval and Rejection Defining Your Worth?
Do You Seek Your Worth Through Others?
Your Identity Is Not Who You Are
Are You Trying To Be Emotionally Perfect?
Niceness Is Costing You Your Peace
Your Emotional Walls Are Not The Problem
What If Your Worth Was Freely Available To You?
Are you trying to fix yourself to be worthy?
Your Sense Of Worth Is Creating Your Misery
Does Your Pain Create Your Sense Of Worth?
The Quick-Fix Trap And What To Do About It
Are You Suffering From Transactional Worth?
I.W. Are you in the self-esteem trap?
Indomitable Worth Is Coming. Sneak Peak Into 2022-2023!
Feeling Like You're Back At Square One? Here's Why
Others Do Not Exist For Your Needs
Bluntcake #25: Are You Devaluing The Love Others Give You?
To cause or prevent: The Two Functions of Codependent Behaviors
Why You Must Believe Your Emotions Are Valid
Own What You Create - A Secret To Being Powerful
The Inherent Legitimacy Of Your Experience
The 10 Needs That Are Essential To Your Healing & Happiness
Why it is hard to let go of old beliefs
Other's Opinions: Are You Letting Others Define You This Way?
Fixing Yourself Is Never Necessary
The Formula For Happy, Lasting Relationships
Vision - What It Is & How It Controls Your Life
Are You Following Your Voice Or Someone Else's?
What Innate Value Is & How It Ends Codependency
How To Know, Love, And Be Who You Are
Self-Trust - Why You Need It & Where To Start
What Is Sovereignty & Why It is Crucial To Your Healing
How to Create and Keep Sanity After Abuse
The 3 Zones Of Safety Needed For Real Healing
Cultivating Safety During Uncertainty
3 Lessons I've Learned From People-Pleasing
Why You Are So Critical About Yourself
Struggling To Love Yourself? Start Here
Do You Put Others On The Authority Pedestal?
The Three Words You Need To Hear - From YOURSELF
The Random Bits Series: Are You Scared Of What They Think Of You?
Emotional well-being #13: To Heal, You Must Slow Down. Here's How
Are You Muting Your Joy?
A Secret To Lasting Sanity
Emotional Well-Being #12: Discomfort Is Your Ally
Blunt Cake #23: Are You Healing For You Or For Someone Else?
Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #5: It Is The Risk That Creates The Attraction
Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #5: Soothing The Sense Loneliness Caused By Neglect
Emotional Well-Being #11: Do You Feel Only Two Basic Emotions: Euphoria & Despair?
How Self-Trust Amplifies Healing And Growth
The Anatomy Of Codependency #3: Your Sense Of Identity On Codependency
The Anatomy Of Codependency #2: Codependency & Creating Connection
The Anatomy Of Codependency #1: How Codependency Tries To Create Safety
Why Sex Can Be So "Incredible" In A Toxic Relationship
How To Know Yourself #12: How You Behave When You Trust Yourself
Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #4: 5 Habits That Make Successful Healing Happen
Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #4: "They're The One" Fantasy & Its Role In Fawning
Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #3: Being Limited Is A Threat When Your Worth Is Tied Up In Pleasing
Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #2: The Power You Feel When You Make Yourself The Problem & The Solution
How To Know Yourself #11: Are You Confusing Their Feelings For Your Feelings? What To Do About It
Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #3: What To Do When You're Trying To Prove Your Worth
The Random Bits #19: You're Gonna Face A Confidence Paradox In Your Healing - Here's My Experience With It
Pivoting Your Codependency #1: When You Want To Please-to-appease (aka Fawn), Do This Instead
Emotional Well-Being #10: One Step That Can Soothe Distress, Anxiety, & Obsessive Thinking
Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #2: How To Prioritize You With 3 Questions
Emotional Well-Being #9: Feeling Scared About What Others Think? Try This Approach
Blunt Cake #20: Are You Hooked On Getting The "Right" Outcome? Why This Happens & What To Do Instead
Codependency, Self-trust, And Healing: A Discussion with Artemis Rose And Marshall Burtcher
Reinforcing Your Healing Series #1: What Is Codependency and Why We Do It - Marshall's View
Creating Happy Relationships #12: Are You Coming From Entitlement Or Obligation?
Creating Happy Relationships #13: Impact Over Intent: The Key To Repair And Intimacy
Creating Happy Relationships #12: What Organic Compatibility Really Is And Why It REALLY Matters
The Relationship Strategy: Why I Created It & What It Can Change In Your Life
Emotional Well-Being #8: Are You Trying To Fix Your Feelings? Here's What To Do About It
Emotional Well-Being #7: Why Other People's Feelings Matter So Much And What To Do About It
Marshall, A Question Episode #3: What's The Difference Between Codependent Fantasy & My Aspirations?
Sanity Check #116: Undue Tolerance and Wondering If They Changed
Emotional Well-Being #6: The Habit Of Meaning-Making, Why We Do It, And What To Do Instead
Restoring Self-Trust #7: What It Looks Like When You Trust The Legitimacy Of Your Reactions
Restoring Self-Trust #6: The Importance Of Trusting The Legitimacy Of Your Internal Reactions
Blunt Cake #19: Your Need To Be Needed Has You Treating Others As Helpless Persons And Not The Adults They Are
Restoring Self-Trust #5: The Essential Step Of Trusting In Your Innate Worth
Restoring Self-Trust #4: The Principle Of Natural Completeness
Restoring Self-Trust #3: The Necessity Of Slowness And Experience In Building Self-Trust
Restoring Self-Trust #2: You Must Accept This Principle For Self-Trust (And Your Healing) To Work
Restoring Self-Trust #1: What It Is & Why Its Essential To Your Healing
The Random Bits #17: Moving From Victim To Power, Parentification, And Self-Trust
How To Know Yourself #10: Emotional States & Your Sense Of Identity
Boundaries! #7:The IMPACT: Are You Respecting This One Fundamental Boundary?
Marshall, A Question Episode #2: What About Being Needy In A Relationship?
Emotional Well-Being #5: Watch Out For This Emotional Trap - It'll Keep You Stuck
Emotional Well-Being #4: Seeing The Rightness In How Your Body Responds To People, Places, and Things
Marshall, A Question Episode #1: How Do You Approach Healing Codependency?
The Interviews: How You Heal From Codependency & Narcissistic Abuse with Sasha Ostara
Interview: How You Can Begin To Create More Peace Through One Question with Amber Hagberg
Blunt Cake #17: Respect Patterns Of Behavior & Impact. They Tell You What The Future Will Be
Blunt Cake #22: Other People's Behaviors - They're Not Yours To Internalize
Working With The Fear What They'll Do If You Don't Please And Appease Them
A Core Motivator Of Codependency: Do You Fear What They'll Do If You Don't Please And Appease Them?
The Random Bits #16: Navigating Boundaries, Changing Relationships, & The Unstable Value
From Mindset To Body Belief #2: 3 Steps To Shifting The Body Belief (Thus Shifting The Mindset)
From Mindset To Body Belief #1: What Are Mindsets & How You Really Change Them
Blunt Cake #21: The Pivot All Survivors Eventually Make - Owning Your Choices And Actions 100%
How To Nurture Yourself #5: The Role Of Attachment In Nurturing Your Needs
How To Nurture Yourself #4: How Needs Get Fulfilled In Adult Relationships
How To Nurture Yourself #3: What Needs Really Are & The 3 Ways They Are Nurtured
How To Nurture Yourself #2: What It Means To Self-Parent (aka Nurture Your Inner Child)
How To Nurture Yourself #1: What Neglect Is, What Nurture Is And The 5 Elements That Make That Happen
The Nature Of Healing #5: How Nurturing Yourself Heals Your Connection To Your "True Self"
The Nature Of Healing #4: Organic and Emergent Healing vs Forced, Planned, Or Coerced Healing
The Nature Of Healing #3: The 10 Core Needs Essential To Healing And Thriving
The Nature Of Healing #2: What Set-Backs Really Are and How Comfort Zones Influence Your Healing
The Nature Of Healing #1: What Is Real Healing Anyway?
Boundaries! #6: Do You J.A.D.E. Yourself?
Blunt Cake #20: You Gotta Embrace Adulthood To Be Free
Personal Power #2: Respect Your Power By Ending The I.D.D. Cycle In Your Thinking
Blunt Cake #19: Your Inner Child Need A Parent To Help Them Heal - Not A Romantic Partner
Blunt Cake #18: Is Covert Fixing Screwing Up How You Help Others?
Boundaries! #5: Staying In Your Lane And Respecting Differences Of Experience And Reality Of Others
Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #1: What Is It and Why Do I Have It???
Personal Cake #2: A Glimpse Into How I Heal My Traumas And Pain With The Approaches I Teach
How To Know Yourself #9: Your Wants Matter. Here's Why
How To Know Yourself #8: What It Looks Like When You're Living Who You Are
How To Know Yourself #7: The Gritty Bluntness About Loving Yourself
The Random Bits #15: Discoveries About Money, Exposure, Traumas, Healing
How To Know Yourself #6: What It Really Means To Know Yourself
How To Know Yourself #5: Shifting How You Perceive Yourself, Others, And Life (Aka your Vision)
How To Know Yourself #4: Discerning YOUR Wisdom (aka Your Voice)
How To Know Yourself #3: What Is Real Self-Worth And How It Works
How To Know Yourself #2: Your Identity Is A Story, Not Who You Are
How To Know Yourself #1: How You Lost Yourself (Or Never Had Yourself To Begin With)
Get Clarity Episode #16: They Complete Me - Identity And Codependency
Get Clarity Episode #15: Reclaiming Your Real Power From Codependency (and Undoing Learned Helplessness)
Get Clarity Episode #14: Attachment - What It Is, Why We Have It, And How We Evolve It
Get Clarity Episode #13: The 8 Fantasies Of Codependency (And Why We Have Them)
Get Clarity Episode #12: You have needs. They are the key to your freedom
Get Clarity Episode #11: I'm "Trauma Bonded"? But Isn't This Love?
Get Clarity Episode #10: Why You Feel Addicted To Them - Intermittent Reinforcement
Get Clarity Episode #9: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 3 - Despair
Get Clarity Episode #8: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 2 - Distress
Get Clarity Episode #7: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 1 - Euphoria
Get Clarity Episode #6: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 3 - Discard
Get Clarity Episode #5: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 2 - Abuse
Get Clarity Episode #4: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 1 - Seduction
Get Clarity Episode #3: The Two Invisible Relationship Types That Drive Codependent Relationships
Get Clarity Series Episode #2: Fawning And How It Creates Codependency
Get Clarity Series Episode #1: The 3 Causes Of Codependency
Welcome to The Happiness After Codependency Podcast