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Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher — 282 episodes

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Your Internal Compass: The Source of Your Answers

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How Believing In Scarcity Keeps You Codependent

3

Persistence And The Foundation You Need

4

Why You Chase Love...

5

Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It)

6

How To Heal Insecurity Correctly

7

What If This Work Isn't About Healing Codependency?

8

Take Back The Authority Over Your Worth

9

What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?

10

Why You Fixate On Other People's Approval

11

How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself

12

Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!

13

End People-pleasing With This Shift

14

How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?

15

Are You Blended Up In Them?

16

The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing

17

Do You Allow Yourself To Change?

18

What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?

19

Are You Surviving Or Thriving? My Focus For 2025

20

Getting Control of Uncertainty? Is That Possible?

21

Is It Time To Be The Power And Authority Over Your Life?

22

How I View Codependency And The Codependent - Important In Choosing Who You Work With

23

The Importance of Identifying And Integrating The Gains In Your Healing

24

Your Pain vs The Story You Tell

25

The Burden of Cause

26

Feeling Lost In Other People's Lives, Feelings, Desires? Here's What To Do

27

Knowledge Overwhelm Is Sabotaging Your Healing

28

Going Slow - It Is A Must

29

Becoming Your Own Protector To Nurture Secure Attachment

30

Emotional Perfectionism: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real things

31

The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Creation Phase - Where you create a life you enjoy

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The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Healing Phase - Where you grow into your real self

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The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Survival Phase - Where you start your journey

34

Is It Time To Quit? The Uncanny Power of Quitting To Accelerate Your Healing

35

Why you only love yourself when things are going well

36

Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-Love

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The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourself

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Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love Yourself

39

Codependency And Shame - What's Really Happening

40

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're Codependent

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You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of Love

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3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To Thrive

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3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And Thrive

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Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And Healing

45

What secrets does your emptiness hold?

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What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?

47

The Anatomy Of Connection

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Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?

49

3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing Others

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Create Real Confidence By Doing These Two Practices

51

Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?

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Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 Things

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The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And Available

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Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?

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How To Make Healing Easier On Yourself

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Got Capacity?

57

Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...

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What Does It Mean To Belong?

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Self-Worth Sets You Free

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Do You Have Emotional Safety?

61

Why you are codependent and what to do about it

62

Do You Have A Mental Block or Is It Actually Something Else?

63

Why Am I So Confused And Anxious When Someone Is Kind To Me?

64

If You're Not Healing, This May Be Why

65

What Does It Mean To Trust Myself?

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Fear: Understand What It Is Doing For You How To Soothe It

67

5 Things I Do When Things Get Discouraging

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Ask Marshall: How Do I Trust Myself and Believe Myself More?

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Bluntcake: What Really Loving Yourself Means And How To Do It

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Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?

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Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate Sovereignty

72

Why Do I Push People Away?

73

Do I Matter? How To Cultivate A Sense Of Mattering

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Are You Knowing Your Pain, Or Ignoring Your Pain?

75

What Replaces Codependency As You Heal: The Inner Advocate

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Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality

77

What Is Freeze And How Do I Work With It?

78

Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing It

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Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - What It Is And How It Causes Codependency Revisited

80

How To Empathize and Keep Your Boundaries In Three Steps

81

What If Triggers Are An Ally, Not An Enemy?

82

Blunt Cake: Are You Trying To Heal By Getting Rid Of Your Emotions?

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To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things

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Achieving Success In Your Healing: How To Stop Sabotaging Your Healing Work

85

Bluntcake Episode: Are You Putting People On Pedestals?

86

3-Minute Insight: The Two Commitments

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How I Nurture Emotional Safety And You Can, Too

88

Not Sure What To Do? Use These 4 Questions To Get Direction

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Do You See Yourself As A Real Person?

90

3-Minute Insight: Why Is It So Hard To Love Myself?

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3-minute Insight: What The Layers Are In The Onion of Healing

92

Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?

93

This One Practice Unlocks Your Actual Healing

94

Why Mindset Is Not Healing Your Pain

95

Are You Emotionally Auditing Yourself?

96

Four Signals That Show You're Healing

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Are You Doing The Spaghetti Approach To Healing?

98

Bluntcake: You Are Not Entitled To Anyone's Acceptance

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Isn't it healthy to have certain expectations?

100

"How Do You Manage Escapism, Marshall?"

101

#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With Yourself

102

How To Empathize Without Violating Your Well-being

103

Is Being "Too Much" A Real Thing?

104

Blunt Cake #1: Consequences Are Love In Action, Too

105

Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?

106

The One Question That Reveals Compatibility Fast

107

The Essentials - Sanity: Know What Is Real With These 3 Patterns

108

The Cause and Cure of Codependency with Stacey Steinmiller

109

Dating Again? Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking For

110

Going Beyond Codependency: Navigating the Pain Of Positive Outcomes

111

Is Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?

112

You Must Break The Obedience Trance To Heal

113

The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?

114

Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This Shift

115

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your Pain

116

End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" Practice

117

Bluntcake: Are You Being Transactional In Your Healing?

118

The Essentials: Warmly Welcome Emotions - A Practice

119

The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To Fix

120

Are You Ultra-Independent?

121

Does Approval Equal Permission For You?

122

Do You Feel Lost Without A Relationship? Here's Why and What To Do About It

123

Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging

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Real Safety Depends On Respecting Your Capacity

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Doubt That Your Feelings Matter Or Are Valid? Here's What To Do

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Why You Care About What Other People Think And What To Do About It

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Are You Trying To Get People To Choose You?

128

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more pain

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The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part One

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Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?

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Your Reactions Are Pointing You To What You Need

132

Four Gentle Steps For Hearing Your Voice Again

133

Do You Crave Or Chase Approval?

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Random Bits About Worth, Feeling Stuck, Getting Unstuck

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Are Approval and Rejection Defining Your Worth?

136

Do You Seek Your Worth Through Others?

137

Your Identity Is Not Who You Are

138

Are You Trying To Be Emotionally Perfect?

139

Niceness Is Costing You Your Peace

140

Your Emotional Walls Are Not The Problem

141

What If Your Worth Was Freely Available To You?

142

Are you trying to fix yourself to be worthy?

143

Your Sense Of Worth Is Creating Your Misery

144

Does Your Pain Create Your Sense Of Worth?

145

The Quick-Fix Trap And What To Do About It

146

Are You Suffering From Transactional Worth?

147

I.W. Are you in the self-esteem trap?

148

Indomitable Worth Is Coming. Sneak Peak Into 2022-2023!

149

Feeling Like You're Back At Square One? Here's Why

150

Others Do Not Exist For Your Needs

151

Bluntcake #25: Are You Devaluing The Love Others Give You?

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To cause or prevent: The Two Functions of Codependent Behaviors

153

Why You Must Believe Your Emotions Are Valid

154

Own What You Create - A Secret To Being Powerful

155

The Inherent Legitimacy Of Your Experience

156

The 10 Needs That Are Essential To Your Healing & Happiness

157

Why it is hard to let go of old beliefs

158

Other's Opinions: Are You Letting Others Define You This Way?

159

Fixing Yourself Is Never Necessary

160

The Formula For Happy, Lasting Relationships

161

Vision - What It Is & How It Controls Your Life

162

Are You Following Your Voice Or Someone Else's?

163

What Innate Value Is & How It Ends Codependency

164

How To Know, Love, And Be Who You Are

165

Self-Trust - Why You Need It & Where To Start

166

What Is Sovereignty & Why It is Crucial To Your Healing

167

How to Create and Keep Sanity After Abuse

168

The 3 Zones Of Safety Needed For Real Healing

169

Cultivating Safety During Uncertainty

170

3 Lessons I've Learned From People-Pleasing

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Why You Are So Critical About Yourself

172

Struggling To Love Yourself? Start Here

173

Do You Put Others On The Authority Pedestal?

174

The Three Words You Need To Hear - From YOURSELF

175

The Random Bits Series: Are You Scared Of What They Think Of You?

176

Emotional well-being #13: To Heal, You Must Slow Down. Here's How

177

Are You Muting Your Joy?

178

A Secret To Lasting Sanity

179

Emotional Well-Being #12: Discomfort Is Your Ally

180

Blunt Cake #23: Are You Healing For You Or For Someone Else?

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Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #5: It Is The Risk That Creates The Attraction

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Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #5: Soothing The Sense Loneliness Caused By Neglect

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Emotional Well-Being #11: Do You Feel Only Two Basic Emotions: Euphoria & Despair?

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How Self-Trust Amplifies Healing And Growth

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The Anatomy Of Codependency #3: Your Sense Of Identity On Codependency

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The Anatomy Of Codependency #2: Codependency & Creating Connection

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The Anatomy Of Codependency #1: How Codependency Tries To Create Safety

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Why Sex Can Be So "Incredible" In A Toxic Relationship

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How To Know Yourself #12: How You Behave When You Trust Yourself

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Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #4: 5 Habits That Make Successful Healing Happen

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Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #4: "They're The One" Fantasy & Its Role In Fawning

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Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #3: Being Limited Is A Threat When Your Worth Is Tied Up In Pleasing

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Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #2: The Power You Feel When You Make Yourself The Problem & The Solution

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How To Know Yourself #11: Are You Confusing Their Feelings For Your Feelings? What To Do About It

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Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #3: What To Do When You're Trying To Prove Your Worth

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The Random Bits #19: You're Gonna Face A Confidence Paradox In Your Healing - Here's My Experience With It

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Pivoting Your Codependency #1: When You Want To Please-to-appease (aka Fawn), Do This Instead

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Emotional Well-Being #10: One Step That Can Soothe Distress, Anxiety, & Obsessive Thinking

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Reinforcing Your Healing Episode #2: How To Prioritize You With 3 Questions

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Emotional Well-Being #9: Feeling Scared About What Others Think? Try This Approach

201

Blunt Cake #20: Are You Hooked On Getting The "Right" Outcome? Why This Happens & What To Do Instead

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Codependency, Self-trust, And Healing: A Discussion with Artemis Rose And Marshall Burtcher

203

Reinforcing Your Healing Series #1: What Is Codependency and Why We Do It - Marshall's View

204

Creating Happy Relationships #12: Are You Coming From Entitlement Or Obligation?

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Creating Happy Relationships #13: Impact Over Intent: The Key To Repair And Intimacy

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Creating Happy Relationships #12: What Organic Compatibility Really Is And Why It REALLY Matters

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The Relationship Strategy: Why I Created It & What It Can Change In Your Life

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Emotional Well-Being #8: Are You Trying To Fix Your Feelings? Here's What To Do About It

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Emotional Well-Being #7: Why Other People's Feelings Matter So Much And What To Do About It

210

Marshall, A Question Episode #3: What's The Difference Between Codependent Fantasy & My Aspirations?

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Sanity Check #116: Undue Tolerance and Wondering If They Changed

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Emotional Well-Being #6: The Habit Of Meaning-Making, Why We Do It, And What To Do Instead

213

Restoring Self-Trust #7: What It Looks Like When You Trust The Legitimacy Of Your Reactions

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Restoring Self-Trust #6: The Importance Of Trusting The Legitimacy Of Your Internal Reactions

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Blunt Cake #19: Your Need To Be Needed Has You Treating Others As Helpless Persons And Not The Adults They Are

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Restoring Self-Trust #5: The Essential Step Of Trusting In Your Innate Worth

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Restoring Self-Trust #4: The Principle Of Natural Completeness

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Restoring Self-Trust #3: The Necessity Of Slowness And Experience In Building Self-Trust

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Restoring Self-Trust #2: You Must Accept This Principle For Self-Trust (And Your Healing) To Work

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Restoring Self-Trust #1: What It Is & Why Its Essential To Your Healing

221

The Random Bits #17: Moving From Victim To Power, Parentification, And Self-Trust

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How To Know Yourself #10: Emotional States & Your Sense Of Identity

223

Boundaries! #7:The IMPACT: Are You Respecting This One Fundamental Boundary?

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Marshall, A Question Episode #2: What About Being Needy In A Relationship?

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Emotional Well-Being #5: Watch Out For This Emotional Trap - It'll Keep You Stuck

226

Emotional Well-Being #4: Seeing The Rightness In How Your Body Responds To People, Places, and Things

227

Marshall, A Question Episode #1: How Do You Approach Healing Codependency?

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The Interviews: How You Heal From Codependency & Narcissistic Abuse with Sasha Ostara

229

Interview: How You Can Begin To Create More Peace Through One Question with Amber Hagberg

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Blunt Cake #17: Respect Patterns Of Behavior & Impact. They Tell You What The Future Will Be

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Blunt Cake #22: Other People's Behaviors - They're Not Yours To Internalize

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Working With The Fear What They'll Do If You Don't Please And Appease Them

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A Core Motivator Of Codependency: Do You Fear What They'll Do If You Don't Please And Appease Them?

234

The Random Bits #16: Navigating Boundaries, Changing Relationships, & The Unstable Value

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From Mindset To Body Belief #2: 3 Steps To Shifting The Body Belief (Thus Shifting The Mindset)

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From Mindset To Body Belief #1: What Are Mindsets & How You Really Change Them

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Blunt Cake #21: The Pivot All Survivors Eventually Make - Owning Your Choices And Actions 100%

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How To Nurture Yourself #5: The Role Of Attachment In Nurturing Your Needs

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How To Nurture Yourself #4: How Needs Get Fulfilled In Adult Relationships

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How To Nurture Yourself #3: What Needs Really Are & The 3 Ways They Are Nurtured

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How To Nurture Yourself #2: What It Means To Self-Parent (aka Nurture Your Inner Child)

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How To Nurture Yourself #1: What Neglect Is, What Nurture Is And The 5 Elements That Make That Happen

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The Nature Of Healing #5: How Nurturing Yourself Heals Your Connection To Your "True Self"

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The Nature Of Healing #4: Organic and Emergent Healing vs Forced, Planned, Or Coerced Healing

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The Nature Of Healing #3: The 10 Core Needs Essential To Healing And Thriving

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The Nature Of Healing #2: What Set-Backs Really Are and How Comfort Zones Influence Your Healing

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The Nature Of Healing #1: What Is Real Healing Anyway?

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Boundaries! #6: Do You J.A.D.E. Yourself?

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Blunt Cake #20: You Gotta Embrace Adulthood To Be Free

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Personal Power #2: Respect Your Power By Ending The I.D.D. Cycle In Your Thinking

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Blunt Cake #19: Your Inner Child Need A Parent To Help Them Heal - Not A Romantic Partner

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Blunt Cake #18: Is Covert Fixing Screwing Up How You Help Others?

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Boundaries! #5: Staying In Your Lane And Respecting Differences Of Experience And Reality Of Others

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Exposing The Codependent Fantasy #1: What Is It and Why Do I Have It???

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Personal Cake #2: A Glimpse Into How I Heal My Traumas And Pain With The Approaches I Teach

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How To Know Yourself #9: Your Wants Matter. Here's Why

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How To Know Yourself #8: What It Looks Like When You're Living Who You Are

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How To Know Yourself #7: The Gritty Bluntness About Loving Yourself

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The Random Bits #15: Discoveries About Money, Exposure, Traumas, Healing

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How To Know Yourself #6: What It Really Means To Know Yourself

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How To Know Yourself #5: Shifting How You Perceive Yourself, Others, And Life (Aka your Vision)

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How To Know Yourself #4: Discerning YOUR Wisdom (aka Your Voice)

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How To Know Yourself #3: What Is Real Self-Worth And How It Works

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How To Know Yourself #2: Your Identity Is A Story, Not Who You Are

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How To Know Yourself #1: How You Lost Yourself (Or Never Had Yourself To Begin With)

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Get Clarity Episode #16: They Complete Me - Identity And Codependency

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Get Clarity Episode #15: Reclaiming Your Real Power From Codependency (and Undoing Learned Helplessness)

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Get Clarity Episode #14: Attachment - What It Is, Why We Have It, And How We Evolve It

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Get Clarity Episode #13: The 8 Fantasies Of Codependency (And Why We Have Them)

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Get Clarity Episode #12: You have needs. They are the key to your freedom

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Get Clarity Episode #11: I'm "Trauma Bonded"? But Isn't This Love?

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Get Clarity Episode #10: Why You Feel Addicted To Them - Intermittent Reinforcement

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Get Clarity Episode #9: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 3 - Despair

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Get Clarity Episode #8: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 2 - Distress

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Get Clarity Episode #7: The E.D.D. Cycle Part 1 - Euphoria

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Get Clarity Episode #6: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 3 - Discard

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Get Clarity Episode #5: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 2 - Abuse

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Get Clarity Episode #4: The S.A.D. Cycle Part 1 - Seduction

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Get Clarity Episode #3: The Two Invisible Relationship Types That Drive Codependent Relationships

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Get Clarity Series Episode #2: Fawning And How It Creates Codependency

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Get Clarity Series Episode #1: The 3 Causes Of Codependency

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