Finding Joy in the Hard

Are You Putting Yourself First?If that question made you cringe, this episode is for you. I share a small but revealing moment from my own week — a meeting, a 15-minute ask I wouldn't let myself make, and what happened when I got to campus anyway. It's a story about how quickly and automatically we abandon our own needs without even realizing it.In this episode:Why putting yourself first isn't selfish — it's necessaryHow we disappear from our own equation without noticingWhy "listen to your body" doesn't work when you've spent years overriding itA simple question to ask yourself when you're about to shrinkWhy it's okay — and brave — to speak up after the factTry this: Next time you're about to automatically accommodate, pause and ask: what would feel good right now? Then take that next brave step — not because it's easy, but because you matter.📩 I'd love to hear from you — reach out to me on IG here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

When Annie lost her brother Ben to a suicide bomber in 2009, she went to a bookstore looking for a book about sibling grief. She couldn't find one. So she wrote it.Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief is a practical and compassionate guide for one of the most overlooked groups in grief — the sibling.In this episode, Annie shares:The story of her brother Ben — his service, his values, and how he was killed by a suicide bomber in October 2009Why she catastrophized his death for years before it happened, and why she still couldn't believe it when it didWhat it means to be a forgotten mourner — and why siblings are so often expected to simply be okayWhy the word "acceptance" felt impossible to her, and how she came to understand radical acceptance on her own termsHow grief resurfaces at unexpected life milestones — and why she recommends siblings revisit therapy around age 30The long road to writing this book, including three proposals, an auction, and one publisher who asked her to remove the word "sibling" from the titleFive takeaways from Suzanne:Radical acceptance doesn't mean you're okay with what happened. It means you acknowledge it, you don't run from it, and you don't suppress it.Siblings are often expected to be fine because all attention goes to the parents, surviving spouse, or surviving children.Until a sibling lets themselves say I'm allowed to be upset, full grieving is nearly impossible.Sibling grief resurfaces throughout your life — at milestones, in new relationships, in parenthood. It doesn't end.There is no possible way to be the parent you want to be for a grieving child. You do the best you can. That is enough.Find Annie: Instagram: @annisklaverorenstein Always a Sibling is available wherever books are sold, including bookshop.org, Amazon, and your local bookstore.About Annie: Annie Sklaver Orenstein is a cultural researcher, writer, and storyteller who has spent over a decade conducting in-depth qualitative research with thousands of people around the globe on behalf of brands including Viacom, Crayola, Twitter, Netflix, Instagram, Pfizer, and more. Her mission is to illuminate the true — and often difficult — realities of the human experience in order to build social empathy, provide validation and empowerment, and influence meaningful change.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Would You Talk That Way To A Friend?You know that voice in your head — the one that says "that was so dumb" or "you said too much." But would you ever say that to a friend?In this episode, Suzanne walks you through a simple but powerful experiment to help you become aware of your inner critic — and start replacing it with something kinder. Because the way you speak to yourself matters more than you might think.Try it yourself: Make a list of what your inner critic says. Then imagine saying it to a friend. Notice how that feels. Now flip it — and say the kinder version to yourself instead. Practice this every day for 3 weeks and notice how that inner critic starts to become an inner cheerleader.Try it and let me know how it goes — find me on Instagram and share your experience.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Do you ever wake up feeling agitated, heavy, or triggered — and can't figure out why? In this episode, Suzanne shares what she discovered after waking up unsettled one morning: the culprit wasn't stress or worry. It was a TV series she'd been watching the night before.What follows is an honest, relatable exploration of what it means to be someone whose nervous system absorbs the emotions of others — from fictional characters on screen to the people sitting right next to you.In this episode, Suzanne covers:Why some of us carry the emotional residue of what we watch long after the screen goes darkThe difference between being emotionally engaged and actually absorbing others' emotionsHow this plays out in real life — including a story about her husband walking into the kitchen "revved up" and walking out calm while she was left reelingFive things you can do when you realize the emotions you're feeling aren't yoursWhy resisting those emotions makes them linger — and what to do insteadKey takeaway: Our ability to feel deeply is a gift. When we learn to work with it rather than against it, we can sense things others miss — and move through emotion rather than being stuck in it.Mentioned in this episode:Process What You Feel to Heal — Suzanne's monthly membership, diving deep into this topic this month. Reach out to me via Instagram to say hi, share a comment or ask a question. Click here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

I recorded this episode literally from my car right after an all-day Feng Shui Art Workshop — still in the energy of it.Here's what I discovered: judgment isn't something to shame yourself for. It's a signal. A clue that your nervous system is feeling unsafe, closed off, or resistant to something new.I also talk about what happens when beauty is still developing — how messy and disorganized it can look right before it becomes something meaningful. And why stepping away when you're too close might be exactly what you need.In this episode:Why judgment is a signal, not a flawWhat resistance is really protecting you fromThe in-between stage — in art, in hair, in lifeWhy stepping away can help you see more clearlyA gentle reminder that we're all still in processCan you relate to this? I'd love to get your feedback. You can DM me on Insta here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Some days are harder than others. They can start to seem all of the same. But this simple message is a reminder that today will be amazing because you are in it. Be well. And remember you are so much stronger than you think you are. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

In this episode, I share a real-life moment from a cold winter morning — a missed phone call, unexpected traffic, and the familiar urge to spiral. Instead of bracing, I practiced something different: breathing, noticing, and staying in the moment.This episode explores:How the body often braces before the mind starts spiralingWhy familiar patterns of worry and fear feel so automaticHow to interrupt the loop by returning to breath and sensationWhat it looks like to choose presence, even when you can’t close your eyesA simple Jin Shin Jyutsu hold (the thumb) to calm worryHow tiny shifts open the door to clarity, steadiness, and possibilityI also share surprising insights from a blindingly bright sunrise — and why that moment became an anchor for staying open instead of contracting.If you’ve ever been pulled into future-tripping, tension, or “what if” thinking, this episode gives you a grounded way back to yourself.Resources Mentioned:Jin Shin Jyutsu thumb holdBreathwork: inhale / long slow exhaleProcess What You Feel to Heal Monthly Membership (now open)You can learn more about the membership hereAnd I'd love to connect with you on Instagram. You can reach me hereThe information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Most of us don’t think we complain very much — until we actually pay attention.In today’s episode, I share what I discovered when I started noticing my own complaints, and why these seemingly small moments matter more than we realize. Complaining isn’t just a habit — it creates a subtle contraction in the body that makes it harder for joy to land and stay.You’ll hear:why we rarely notice when we’re complaininghow complaining tightens the body and shifts our emotional statethe surprising things my students discovered during a “no complaining” experimentwhy stopping the cycle isn’t about being positive — it’s about giving the body room to feel something newIf you'd like to learn how to connect to more joy - consider joining my 90 minute workshop this Thursday, January 15th at 4pmET, called Connecting to Joy.  It's $27. Everyone who signs up - whether you attend live or not - gets access to the 30 day replay. You can learn more here.  I'd love to have you join us! Questions or comments, please reach out to me on IG, hereThe information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

In October, I said goodbye to a very special part of my life—the foundation I created in honor of my little boy, Christopher.This episode is different. I recorded our closing celebration on my phone that night, not knowing exactly why—only that it mattered. What you’ll hear is the magic of that evening: voices, laughter, reflection, and what becomes possible when we honor an ending instead of rushing past it.There are so many takeaways in this episode. Just a few:What can unfold when we say yesWhen there’s will and passion, what once felt impossible becomes possibleMost of all, this episode is a reminder that something deeply beautiful and meaningful can come from something devastating and traumatic.I’m so grateful I pressed record.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Our habits often consume us more than our wants do. We stay up late, scroll, tell ourselves "just a few more minutes"—even when we'd rather go to bed. It sounds simple to just stop, but our habits feel like they have a mind of their own.That's because many of our habits once helped us. They soothed our nervous systems, which is why they're so hard to break. For me, staying up late gave me "me time" when my boys were young. After Christopher passed, it helped me avoid harder mornings."What do you want?" is a pattern interrupter that helps me get to the core of what's important. Try asking yourself this when you're feeling stuck or when transitions feel hard—not just at New Year's, but anytime. You can soften it to: "Is this what I want to keep doing? Or is there something else?"Cultivating Joy Workshop | January 8, 90 minutes Learn how we unconsciously cut ourselves off from joy and what to do about it. You can learn more hereQuestions, or if you'd like to let me know you'd like me to add another time to this workshop, you can message me on IG here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Whatever you might be feeling this Christmas - it’s okay.  And it might be different than what your mind is telling you.  I wish you a blessed day.  The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

That was me this morning. I was driving to meet family for a holiday breakfast about an hour away. The roads were covered in snow – from last night’s storm – and the visibility wasn’t great. I missed a few turns, and it felt like I was driving in circles as the GPS tried to autocorrect. Panic set in, and my heart rate picked up. But before i could go too far into story, I paused and reset knowing I would be okay. Here's the cool part - the reset came from something I did this morning before I ever left the house. It's really quite remarkable because as you know I had anxiety most of my life. But these practices have been a game changer. They gently shift our emotional patterns, so those patterns don’t keep running the show. And because I want everyone to know about it, I created a 7-week journey called Process What You Feel to Heal where we work with five core emotional patterns of worry, fear, anger, sadness and that need to push through or pretend that shape how we think, feel, and move through life.The 7-week journey begins in late January. You can learn more here.If you choose to say yes to yourself before the end of the year, I’ve included a couple of things to help you ease in — $100 off and January’s workshop, Cultivating Joy, at no additional cost.And about that drive to the restaurant, I arrived five minutes early. As I was walking through the snowy parking lot, an aha hit me:Our mind would rather have an answer than sit in the ambiguity of not knowing. In other words, my mind would rather tell me I don’t know what I’m doing, or I’ll never get there than sit in the discomfort of not knowing what will happen next.It’s very subtle but there is a difference.Anxiety avoids uncertainty. It needs an answer, any answer. But often that answer sends us further into story. Further into stress.Have you ever noticed this in yourself?  I'd love to know. You can connect with me here on IG.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Today is the anniversary of my dad's death - December 4th. And I have felt off all day long - only I didn't make the connection until about 20 minutes ago. I may feel fine mentally, but physically my body feels the loss. It's really quiet incredible. In this episode, I share a sweet story about how my dad helped me in difficult time and also how we need to meet ourselves wherever we are at. Grief shows up differently at different times for all of us. It might catch us off guard, like it today for me. Or it might be obvious and heavy all the time. Wherever you are, you get to decide what's best for you. In this episode, I share about the workshop I'm teaching on 12/11 - next Thursday. called Managing Grief in the Holidays. You can learn more here.And if you'd like to reach out to me with a question or comment, I'd love to hear from me. You can find me on IG here. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Some days even coming up with what you’re grateful for feels like too much effort. If that’s you today - listen to this.  The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Thanksgiving holds so many feelings — missing and love, joy and sadness, longing and gratitude. I created this Thanksgiving meditation to help you feel supported, grounded, and held in whatever rises for you. Inside, you'll be guided through gentle breath, presence, and a reminder of the love and support that surrounds you, both visible and invisible.And if this meditation brings you a little peace today, and you’d like more guided tools to help you nurture and support yourself through the holiday season, I'm teaching a workshop on Managing Grief in the Holidays on 12/11. You can find more details here. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Have you ever thought about it? It's okay to admit. It's actually very freeing and we give ourselves a break. We don't have to figure everything out. Admitting we sometimes get tired of being with ourselves is a form of disassociation - in a good way.  Once we recognize it and admit it to ourselves, we don't have to escape via distraction. We can choose that direction if we want to. But we don't have to go unconscious because we can't figure ourselves out. Give it a listen and I'd love your feedback. You can reach me via instagram. Here's the link. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

So much of the judgement we receive comes from our own head. In this episode, I recorded while driving—because I just had to share it—I explain how when we're in the present moment - fully in the present, we can be mindful and kinder to ourselves. It's when we go unconscious, that a younger version of us starts to judge our actions. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Not the space in your home but the space in your mind, in your schedule.  Do you give yourself a chance to ponder, explore or dream? Do you allow yourself to sit and do nothing and simply receive the gifts from God. Or do you leave just enough time to get somewhere so you can do one more thing? I'm not judging you. I do this too. But after meditating one morning, I had the aha what if I don't fill up all the space. So much of our stress is self-induced. Leaving too late, multi-tasking, watching hours of Netflix so we don't have to feel. What if you create pockets of time where you do nothing? I'm going to take my own advice and do this 3x a day. Care to join me? Don't think you have time? I bet you have three minutes. Start with one minute each time. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

What if you don't have to understand? Our minds want to make sense of everything - that's what minds do. But sometimes we don't have to understand. In this episode, I share how my not needing to understand helped me in a stressful situation. Our mind chases answers - any answers - to find a solution. But our mind can only draw answers from our past or lack - our past experiences or what can go wrong. So how do we find the truth? By dropping down into our heart - in this episode I teach you how to draw answers from your heart. If you'd like the written form, I wrote a blog post on this. If you'd like me to send it to you, please let me know here. All feedback is welcome and much appreciated. You can reach me on Instagram here. I respond to all messages. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Whatever loss or unexpected life change you might be going through right now - remember you are stronger than your worst fear.  Often we tell ourselves, we won't survive. We can't do it. We won't make it.  But if you're listening to this, you are doing it. You are so much stronger than you think you are. In this episode I share with you a short story on surviving my worst fear.  And you are doing it too. If you have comments or questions, you can reach me on Instagram here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

A lot of us worry or fret about what might happen in the future. We try to figure out in our heads how we'll get through it. Here's the thing we can't think our way through a future fear.  We have no idea where we'll be, what our circumstances will be like or even if it will come to fruition. In today's episode, I share about something that happened this morning, something I've worried about for years. And guess what: all the worrying did NOTHING to prepare me for the actual experience.  And yes, it was a lot scarier in my head. If you have your own experience, I'd love if you'd share it with me. You can reach me on Instagram here. Of course if you have questions or comments, you can also contact me at that same link. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

What are you fretting about that won't matter tonight or even later today? In the moment. it's so hard to decipher. It feels like it will matter always. Some things naturally work themselves out, e.g. worrying about being late to a meeting or why someone isn't responding to our message. But other times, we stay so attached to the worry or concern that it's still with us for hours, days or even weeks later. An emotion only lasts 90 seconds—I know that seems impossible. It's our thoughts and stories that extend the feeling. In today's episode I share a story that demonstrates this. I also share a funny story of what happened when I was seeking to shorten this episode's title. And finally, you'll learn 3 practices to help calm that overthinking. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Can you accept that parts of you that you shy away from? The parts that you feel are weak or shameful or have too much anger? The parts that you don't wanna shine the light on? How do you embrace these parts? In this meditation, I guide you on how to meet you—all of you and to embrace the wisdom that each part holds. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Do you find yourself labeling things as either all good or all bad? Have you ever noticed?Is it habit? A way of motivating yourself? Or lack of awareness?For me, it’s a bit of all of it?Without realizing it, I get stuck in all or nothing thinking. And I don’t think I’m alone. If it’s not all good, then it’s bad or a failure. In this episode, I give examples of how this might show up in your life and how to shift, granting yourself more kindness. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

So often we want others to get how we're feeling, what we're thinking or what we're believing. Yet sometimes they just won't get it. When this happens, can we step back and ask ourselves, why do we need them to get it? Why do we need them to understand?This isn’t to say we don’t share with others. Of course, we want to tell our family members and friends about our experiences, our hardships, our celebrations and more. We want to sit with them over a cup of tea or a phone call and share how we feel, think or believe.  Some will get it—they won’t need further explanation. They’ll lean in and listen. They’ll ask questions. They’ll help you to feel understood.But then there are those who you desperately want them to understand – you need them to understand – you need them to know what you’re going through, and they can’t. They may even be the people closest to you.Maybe your pain is too heavy for them. Maybe they have their own pain they’re carrying, and they can’t carry yours too. Maybe it’s simply a case of a different lived experience.Or maybe what you’re doing, sharing, saying seems too outlandish. It’s beyond their comfort zone so they can’t understand. They can’t believe it’s possible.In this episode, I offer examples of what this might look like. Tune in to listen. And I'd love to hear your feedback. You can DM me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/Others don't have to understand for you to be heard, to be seen, to be enough. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

In hard times, what has helped you most?On a hike today, up a mountain trail,  I thought about where I gained my greatest strength in the days after we lost our precious child, Christopher. Yes, family and friends played a huge role. As did all the alternative modalities that I now practice and teach like yoga, breathwork, meditation and Jin Shin Jyutsu. But my saving grace was reading scripture daily.  I think this is the first time I'm sharing this on my podcast or in my Sunday newsletter. I haven't really talked about my faith because I never want anyone to feel left out.  But as I was huffing up that trail, I realized 3 things: I share those 3 things in today's episode. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Can you accept all the parts of you?You know that part that is competitive, or envious, angry, or insecure. We often relish the parts we like about ourselves: our wisdom, our friendliness, our strength, our joy, but what about the darker sides we keep hidden? The parts we don’t want to admit having like:InsecurityFearEnvySelfishnessOr something elseWe know we can be fearful, insecure, envious, selfish and more, but we don’t want to admit they are part of us.In today's episode, I share how to soften around these parts so that they don't continue to have a hold over us. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

What if we're really the ones who need to hear it? The next time you go to give advice—especially unsolicited advice— ask yourself whether the advice is really meant for you instead. We think it's for the person we're talking to, but what if we consider: if it came to us, it's for us. This morning while journaling, I had a huge aha about advice for my sister. As I continued to journal, I wondered what if this is really for me. I was lucky I was in a meditative experience because I could receive it and reflect on it. It actually was really good advice. For me. If we're set on offering the advice, here are some things to consider: One, before giving the advice, notice the feeling that precedes the advice. Am I seeking to soothe them or me? Do we feel anxious or helpless holding their pain? Are we seeking to feel useful? Are we merely wanting to alleviate their suffering? The answer can be different at different times. Two, are we seeking to fix or hold space? When my friend's adult son comes to her for advice, before they start a conversation, she asks: Do you want me to listen? Solve the situation? Or give advice? Often he picks the first option. Even when we give the advice, what if we allow ourselves to receive the advice as well? The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

In today's solo episode, I share how feeling—really allowing myself to lean in and feel uncomfortable feelings—offered me a strength I didn't know I was seeking. That strength gave me the confidence to pursue two activities without knowing how they would turn out. A lot of times, feelings show up and we don't know 'the why' or 'the reason,' yet if we can lean into them any way, there is wisdom to be had. And the crazy thing is whether we feel the feeling or we resist it, we still feel uncomfortable. The difference is if we allow ourselves to lean in and feel, the discomfort may feel sharper in the moment, but moves through us faster. When we resist it, it hangs around and follows us throughout our day. I give an example of the impatience of waiting at the post office. After you listen, I'd love to hear your thoughts, questions or experience. DM me here on Instagram. Be well and remember Joy can be found in the Hard. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Have you ever signed up for something you knew might be good for you—but didn’t feel excited about it at all?That was me yesterday. I signed up for an all-day art retreat weeks ago, but I resisted it the whole way through. Even the morning of, I questioned everything: Why are you doing this? You can still cancel. But a quieter, steadier voice nudged me out the door.In this episode, I share:How resistance shows up even when we’re doing something nourishingWhy creativity can feel uncomfortable when we’re out of practiceThe unexpected freedom that comes from doing something just becauseAnd what happens when we stop needing a result and simply beginYou’ll also hear:A few simple questions to help you reconnect with things you used to loveWhat I created when I let go of trying to make something “good”And how joy can surprise us when we soften our gripI'd love your feedback. You can reach me on Instagram here.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

You're comparing your inside to their outside and that's why it seems like they have it all together and you don't. If you were to jump inside of them for a moment, you might realize they don't have it all figured out either. It this short episode, I invite you to consider that when we compare, we're really only seeking to love ourselves more fully. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Sometimes the most overlooked thing we can do when life feels heavy is simply breathe.Breathe and be guided through a meditation that reminds us of our strength—and that we don’t have to carry it all or make sense of everything.Join me for 19 minutes as I guide you on a journey back to yourself.To a place where you can set down your burdens, even if just for a little while— and feel a bit more freedom, a bit more flow. Or simply give yourself permission to pause for a few minutes. And if your mind is telling you don't have the time—what if decide to make the time—you're worth it. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

For some reason, we were worry about what other people think when we have absolutely no control over it. Still that doesn't stop us.  The thing is that the doubts or judgements we think they have about us is often coming from us. We are projecting our own insecurities onto others. Fortunately or unfortunately, others often think much higher of us then we think of ourselves. So how do we stop, I share a short practice with you on how to cut the loop of that spiraling. Questions, please ask. You can find me here on Instagram. Also, please share with me your experiences! I'd love to here. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 Do you ever find yourself replaying what happened in your head again and again? You may have a whole dialogue going through different scenarios. If only I had said this. Next time I, I'll say that. The more you replay it, the bigger it gets until you can't think of anything else.And you find yourself, getting angry or upset all over again. Imagine being able to turn it off. It almost feels impossible, right? Well listen in to learn how. Let me know if you try it. I'd love to know your experience. You can reach me here on Instagram.To learn more about my membership, Feel, Heal and Align, click here. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 Heading into summer can bring up all kinds of feelings.Summer is such a welcomed time but it can bring up a lot of feelings including uncomfortable ones.In today's meditation, I offer you support to move through the transition because transitions - any kind - can bring up discomfort. Enjoy. After you practice I'd love to know your experience - you can reach me on instagram.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

What would you ask for if you weren’t afraid of hearing no? If you’re like me your answer might be, “Gosh so much.” Then why aren’t we asking for it now? My friend Regina says they can always say no. Without asking the answer is always no. Let that sink in for a moment. It’s already no when we don’t ask. If asking still seems scary to you, start with things where you don’t care about the outcome. In this episode I share how I returned items I purchased a year ago, and how it became possible because I didn't get attached to the outcome.Our energy changes when we get attached to the outcome. I share how to do that in this episode. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

What if you slow down?  How does that land for you? Are you thinking, "I can't. I'll never get anything done? My question for you is: what are you not getting done because you're moving so fast? Maybe like me you're missing things? Or maybe you're making mistakes? Or maybe you're not giving yourself space to dream or reflect? When we slow down we give ourselves time to think and to feel. Feeling is likely the reason we don't slow down. Feeling is hard, but if we don't feel the hard than the good we feel is diminished too. And it all starts with slowing down. In this episode, I share the gifts of slowing down and some of the risks of moving too fast. Along with a healing tip to help you feel more deeply. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Do you ever feel out of sorts? Perhaps you move from activity to activity or even room to room in your home and you can’t figure out how to settle. You’re exhausted and can barely move or maybe you’re jittery and can’t relax. Or maybe you’re somewhere in between.That was me the past two days. And no matter how many holistic practices I tried, or hours of Netflix I watched, I couldn’t get comfortable.Until I met myself where I was at…in the discomfort.If you’re thinking there is no way I’m going there.You’re not alone. The University of Virginia did a study that found people would rather receive shock therapy than sit alone with their thoughts.So if that’s you, start slow and try this: Turn you cell phone off and go for a walk. (Or even better leave the cell phone at home). Notice what you’ve never noticed before on your walk. I bet there is something even if you’ve walked that path a hundred times.  In this episode, I share how to deepen the practice and start to notice if what you're even thinking is true. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Do you realize how special you are and how you are making someone else's life infinitely better even if they don't tell you? It sounds conceited to even say it let alone think it, but what if that is simply our old ways of thinking that we learned from our parents and they learned from their parents. Focusing on the gift of who we are instead of our shortcomings and all that we're not shifts how we see the world and interact in it. One of the most selfish things we can do is to focus on our shortcomings because all the focus is on us. So on this holiday (Easter & Passover) remember that you're a gift. And you matter. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 We all know what it's like when others dismiss how we feel, but what about when we do it to ourselves? If you're not sure, here are a few examples of what you may say to ourselves. I should be stronger. I am okay. I should be over this by now. I'm being too sensitive. I've dealt with worse. I don't have time to feel this right now  I shouldn't feel this way. The crazy thing is even though I teach women how to reconnect to themselves, this past I had dismissed my own feelings. My mom passed on Saturday. She had been living in a nursing home with dementia and confined to a wheelchair. And so I told myself I was okay. I had gotten used to not having her in my daily life. It took a Pyrex dish shattering on the kitchen floor for me to realize I was dismissing my own feelings. In this episode, I share my experience. Questions? Or feel like you're experiencing an abundance of worry, fear, anger, grief/sadness or proving energy, reach out to I'd love to discuss how I can help you. You can reach me athttps://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 In episode 117,  I ask you to question how your beliefs are tripping you up?  I'm not referring to religious beliefs, but rather those beliefs that rule how you think and how you feel.  Beliefs like, I'm not ready; I can't do it;  If I don't see it, it can't be true;  If it hasn't happened yet, it won't happen; I'm too old; I should know how to do this by now. And so many more. A belief is merely a thought we've had again and again, and we now believe is true. It's the same with other people's beliefs. They're not facts, only thoughts.One such belief  tripped me up yesterday to the point that it was impossible for me to see what had happened, and I even went so far as to doubt my own memory because that seemed more plausible than what happened. In episode 117, I share what happened.We only see a silver of the world and sometimes not even that. The first step is becoming aware of what you're thinking. If you're feeling stuck, consider there is another way even if you can't imagine it. Know that there are other possibilities. You can start small with questions like I wonder how this day will surprise me, even if you don't expect any surprises. You can also consider - if I believed X, how would I show up today? These questions start to stretch our thinking.The healing practice I offer is to cross your hands and hold your inner thighs. This practice comes from Jin Shin Jyutsu. Hold for 5 minutes or more. It helps your energy to move, and helps you to get unstuck. Have questions, please reach out to me at https://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/And as always, thank you for spending your time with me at Finding Joy in the Hard. It means so much to me. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

When our boys were little, they played a game with their cousin called Face Your Fears. One at a time, they would venture into the unfinished part of the basement without the lights on.Can you just imagine their little excited bodies jumping up and down at the prospect of doing something a little risky?When was the last time you intentionally faced a fear?Usually we avoid things that scare us, sometimes avoiding things that can make our lives more special.One thing that helps me is to intentionally do things that scare me. It might sound a little cooky, but it’s actually empowering because we get to see that the thing that seemed so scary is often only scary in our minds.  In this episode, I share how I confronted something I had been avoiding for years.  So what are you avoiding? What have you convinced yourself will be too hard or won't work out? Even if it doesn't work out you'll still likely feel better that you made the effort. This week, do one thing that scares you – and if you’re willing message me at  https://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/and tell me what you did. I’d love to hear.  The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Do you even know? Until we start paying attention to what we're thinking, we may not even realize how we might be expecting things to go wrong. This way of thinking not only makes us more hesitant, it keeps in lack and focusing on our limitations versus our opportunities.  This episode is simply an invitation to start noticing. And if you interested, please share your feedback with me https://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Another way of saying this is - are you self abandoning? This thought came to me today while reviewing my students mindfulness assignments - they had to pick something they multitask and for seven days single task the primary activity. One student stopped wearing his Airpods at the gym. What he noticed is that not only was he cancelling out the noise, but also those who were trying to offering him helpful advice on alignment. It got me thinking:First, how do we cancel others out: Maybe we only half listen; Or we say yes when we want to say no. Those thoughts led to—how do we cancel ourselves out? Do we stay silent when we want to speak up? Do we shrink and play small because it's more comfortable then taking a risk? Do we not do that exciting, possibly risky thing because it feels scary? Here's the the thing when we self-abandon or cancel ourselves out—stress and overwhelm bother us more because we're already gripping. So my invitation to you this week: Notice when and where you're cancelling yourself out, Take one small brave step forwardNotice how that makes you feel and maybe eases some stress. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 Have you ever paid attention to yourself when you judge?The answer is likely no. We slip into that firey hot feeling without even noticing it—most times.Well today I noticed. I was waiting for my Matcha tea in Starbucks and I saw someone do something. That holier than thou voice in my head started ranting. Usually it happens so fast, I don't even notice myself. But today I did.I checked in to see what I was feeling about me. And guess what? Absolutely nothing!  The voice in my head that usually picks on me was quiet. You can guess why—because it was entirely focused on someone else. Perhaps that's a reason we judge—to take the focus off us. When I checked my energy—I came up empty. I couldn't sense my energy at all! I couldn't feel my light. I couldn't sense any good feelings because I turned those off too. You might be wondering how do you stop judging? A couple things we can do: 1) Get curious, instead of assuming we know another's life experience and/or decisions, realize we don't. 2)Consider the opposite more positive thoughts - that comes from a yoga sutra - sutra means thread of wisdom. So the next time you judge, notice how you're feeling and what you might be ignoring about you.The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

Today my guest is Melissa Colbeck. Melissa lost her father suddenly eleven years ago on the day we recorded this episode (December 21st). Melissa has always believed there is a reason for everything and while it took her several years, she found multiple blessings following his death. It's a heartfelt, powerful conversation where we talk about a wide range of topics including how Melisa decided when she would end her grief and asked her father for a sign to help her do so. Melissa Colbeck is a mom of two young kids who found the world of life coaching after her own experience with "hard". After her father passed and feeling the loss, she decided to use what he taught her about finances to create his legacy by becoming a financial coach. It was years later when she realized that he had been a coach to so many people all around him. She wasn't creating his legacy but following in his footsteps. You can reach out to Melissa at her website: www.melissacolbeck.comThe information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

I recorded this episode after I did something that I procrastinated on for four months! Do you allow yourself to relish the beautiful things that you did, or accomplished? Or are you like me and you push through? It's not enough, you're not there yet. Keep going. You don't even pause to reflect on what you've accomplished. And accomplishments can be anything. Maybe you sat for a moment and reflected this morning. We don't have to do anything but we do need to celebrate ourselves;  to acknowledge our wins. Or else life is  full of pressure.In this episode I share how I finally followed through on something that was important to me - and then I celebrated myself.   Want to share your experience with me? DM me at https://www.instagram.com/suzanneandorabarron/I'd love to hear from you!The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

If life is feeling heavy right now, give yourself the gift of this 15 minute meditation to bring you back to center and remember that this moment is the only moment that matters.  I taught it on Monday and it was well-received. If you'd like to join my complimentary Monday morning guided meditations - where I offer a healing tip and 10-15 guided meditation, you can sign up here: The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

 Welcome back to Finding Joy in the Hard. Let the guilt go. If you said or did the wrong thing, you can say you're sorry. But guess what? No one else probably noticed.  And if they did, they noticed it for a second and moved on. Why can't we?  Because our minds like torturing us. That's its safe place.  But what the world needs more is your heart.  The world needs us to shine.The world needs us to be ourselves. Why is it so hard to be us? It should be the simplest thing ever,  but a lot of us are wired to look out, to look out and check and see if we're okay by other people's standards. And you know what? We can never be okay by other people's standards because they're not us and they don't know what's best for us. So if you find yourself today getting stuck on that track,  pause, breathe, and notice something  beautiful about you.  It will be hard at first, especially if you're used to giving yourself a hard time. But we have to start somewhere. We are beautiful human beings. You are a beautiful human being. Allow yourself to shine.  My healing tip for today helps calm the nervous system. Also, I shared that I'm currently offering a Jin Shin Jyutsu free course. You can access it here: Questions, DM me here. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions. 

My dear friend Denise and I talk about resilience, navigating the world of childhood cancer, what it’s like for the sibling, and how joy is found in the ordinary moments. You’ll feel her effervescent light shine through our conversation and be inspired by her unique perspectives and zest for life. Denise offers so much hope and inspiration.Today’s takeaways from our conversation:If you're living in the moment, it feels timeless. But if you’re projecting what could, should, or might happen, you’re speeding up time.Resilience allows you to grow outward, not inward. It’s about expanding into life, not retreating.You can’t compete with other people’s superpowers—and you don’t need to. Honor your own unique gifts instead.You can’t control your thoughts, but you can control your words.We often over-explain ourselves to strangers for no reason. When others don’t “get it,” ask yourself why their understanding matters so much.Even in suffering, there is joy and blessings to be found.Think beyond yourself and do something for someone else. It will bring you far more joy than retail therapy ever could.If you don’t make a big deal of something, it will pass quickly.Without resilience, you risk losing the opportunities and gifts life gives you.Bio: Denise is a seasoned expert in the field of essential oils, with over 18 years of experience under her belt. As a leader of a team of thousands, she has made significant contributions to the essential oil industry, and is currently employed by the largest essential oil company in the world known for producing the purest oils.With a deep passion for health and wellness, Denise has dedicated her career to educating others about the benefits of essential oils and supplements and helping them integrate both into their daily routines to increase their health & vitality. Her expertise in this field has been recognized globally, and she is highly regarded as an industry leader and innovator. She is a published author in the book, “No-Problem Parenting – Raising your kiddos with more confidence & Less Fear.” A #1 seller on Amazon. Outside of her professional pursuits, Denise is a proud mother of two adult children – both of which she works with in the business. She values family time and cherishes the memories she has created with her loved ones over the years. In her free time, she enjoys reading & researching, traveling, and exploring new cultures.You can reach her at  dschwendeman@mac. com. She answer all her emails and is always happy to meet someone for coffee, whether it's virtually or in person. The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions.