Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing

Your body learned to get quiet when things got tense. To shrink when you felt unwanted. To make yourself smaller so the other person wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable.It worked. For decades, it worked. It kept you safe. It kept you in relationships. It kept you from being the problem.And then one day, it stopped.Not because you decided to change. But because your soul finally said: I can't do this anymore.That moment — when the old strategy fails and you don't know what comes next — isn't a breakdown. It's a breakthrough. And if you're standing in it right now, this episode is for you.Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIzBook your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You've been following a rulebook your whole life. Not one anyone handed you. Not one you ever agreed to. One that was already running when you arrived. The rules about how visible you're allowed to be. How much space you're allowed to take up. How much of you anyone is allowed to see before it becomes too much. These aren't personality traits. They're ancestral patterns — absorbed before age seven, passed down through the women in your line, wired so deep they stopped feeling like rules and started feeling like you. This episode is about the moment you see one. Just one. Because once you do, you can't follow it the same way anymore.Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” call https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIzBook your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

The bracing in your body — that constant readiness in your shoulders, your jaw, your chest — wasn't something you chose. It was how you learned to stay safe while managing everyone else's comfort.And then one day, that tension drops. You look in the mirror and don't recognize the woman looking back. Because without the people pleasing pattern running in the background, who even are you?This episode is about what your body does when it stops bracing for impact and why that doesn't feel like relief at first. It's about meeting the version of yourself who doesn't need the armor anymore — and why that groundlessness is actually the doorway.Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIzBook your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/vvhppfbxrppbffxrvdnzgwtcnwrbgvpr#PeoplePleasingRecovery #NervousSystemHealing #SoulRetrieval #ShamanicHealing #MidlifeWomen #EnergyClearing #PeoplePleaser #SecondSpring #TraumaRecovery #AncestralHealing #SelfDiscovery #ShamanicPractitioner #BodyTension #ReclaimYourIdentity #SomaticHealing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You've been so busy making yourself easy to be around that you stopped noticing you were doing it. And then one day someone asks you a simple question and you go completely blank.Nobody tells you that waking up feels disorienting before it feels freeing. Especially when people-pleasing has been your operating system for years. In this episode, Sandy Bartlett talks about what the awakening process actually looks like for Second Spring women — why the discomfort is the beginning, what it feels like to finally catch yourself mid-adjustment, and the one simple pause that starts to change everything.If you've ever frozen when someone asked what you like — if you've ever walked into a room and turned yourself down before anyone asked — this episode is for you.#peoplepleaserrecovery #wakingup #secondspringwomen #spiritualawakening #sandybartlett #journeytoself #soulself #selfawareness #innerknowing #roarpath #stopshrinking #midlifewomen #selftrustjourney #awakeningwomen #peoplepleaserStart Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” call 🔗https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing 🔗http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz00:00 When You Go Blank00:32 Meet Sandy And The Theme01:02 Intuition Cards Pulled02:48 Body Knowing And Invitation03:36 Awakening Feels Disorienting04:57 Two Selves The Safe And Real05:45 Divorce Story And The Question07:23 Reflection Wisdom And One Pause09:34 Quiet Recognition Closing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Some things feel true before they have words. Before clarity. Before certainty. Before you're ready to explain anything to anyone. In this episode, Sandy shares the moment she realized she didn't need external validation for something to be real for her: she had a spiritual experience that lit her up inside, but she didn't share it with her husband. Not because he would've shut her down—but because she knew it would require so much translation that she'd lose the resonance in the explaining. So she just... didn't. She let it be hers. And that's when she learned: the first yes is internal. You'll hear about:- The Akashic reading moment that shifted everything- Why inner dismissal happens so quickly- How self-silencing can start internally, not externally- The difference between self-honesty and self-disclosure- What changes when you stop arguing with yourselfThis is the final episode in the Loving Without Shrinking series.#selftrust, #innerpermission, #peoplepleasing, #selfdiscovery, #intuition, #emotionalawareness, #midlifewomen, #personalgrowth, #journeytoself, #spiritualawakeningStart Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing 🔗http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz00:00 The Quiet First Yes00:48 Intuitive Card Yes01:20 The Moment Before Speaking02:02 Akashic Reading Story03:33 Internal Permission Shift04:58 Reframing the First Yes06:25 Let the Questions Live07:05 Rebuilding Self Trust07:47 Community Practice Invite08:13 Weekly Empowerment Action08:44 Series Wrap and Farewell This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

There was a point when I realized my body was reacting long before I was willing to say anything out loud. In this episode, I share the dinner table moment that made me see it: I started to say something true, felt the gap it would create, stopped myself mid-sentence... and within seconds, my throat felt tight. Like the words I didn't say got stuck there. This conversation explores:- The immediate physical response to choosing silence- Why your body doesn't differentiate between big silence and small silence- What "the body keeps the score" really means in daily life- How suppression registers as threat in your nervous system- A simple practice for listening to your body this week This is Episode 4 in the Loving Without Shrinking series.selfsilencing, #bodyawareness, #peoplepleasing, #nervoussystem, #selftrust, #boundaries, #emotionalhealth, #midlifewomen, #personalgrowth, #somaticawareness, #journeytoselfStart Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing 🔗http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz00:00 Introduction00:57 Intuitive Moment01:30 Body Symptoms and Choices02:12 The Dinner Conversation03:58 Suppression as Threat04:45 Inner Reflection Exercise05:40 Whispers of Wisdom06:39 Learning to Hold07:13 The Cost of Silence07:48 Journey to Self Community08:10 Empowerment Action08:29 Closing Thoughts This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

There was a moment when I realized something uncomfortable.I wasn't actually doubting myself. I was waiting for someone else to confirm I was allowed to trust what I already knew.In this episode, I share the kitchen moment that changed everything: when I realized I'd been collecting external opinions about my body for decades—and using them as proof that my choices were valid.You'll hear about:- The moment someone gave me "loving advice" about my body- How I'd learned to measure my knowing against other people's reactions- The question that shifted everything: "What do I want?"- Why agreement feels like safety (but isn't the same as trust)- What changed when I stopped needing permissionThis is Episode 3 in the Loving Without Shrinking series.#selftrust, #peoplepleasing, #relationships, #boundaries, #selfworth, #confidence, #intuition, #midlifewomen, #personalgrowth, #emotionalhealth, #bodyimageStart Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You ever catch yourself about to say something... and then just... don't?Not because someone stopped you. Because you stopped you. In this episode, we're naming the quiet pattern that hides in "good" relationships: the habit of editing yourself to keep things calm and easy.Not because you're unsafe.Not because anyone is bad.But because it feels like too much work to explain yourself.You'll hear about:- The kitchen table moment that made me see the pattern- How self-censorship becomes automatic- Why "keeping the peace" can become self-erasing- What your body holds when your voice holds back- A simple awareness practice for the week aheadThis is Week 2 in the Loving Without Shrinking series with partner episodes on YouTube.YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzwMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing00:33 Meet Sandy Bartlett00:50 Series Overview: Loving Without Shrinking01:23 Personal Story: Spiritual Differences02:07 The Quiet Foundations02:49 A Moment of Realization04:44 The Subtle Art of Self-Editing05:16 Recognizing Self-Censorship08:21 Empowerment Action: Notice the Pause08:48 Conclusion: Be True to You This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You don't have to be in a harmful relationship to start silencing yourself.In Episode 60, Sandy opens a new five-part series, Loving Without Shrinking, by naming the quiet self-editing many women normalize in relationships that feel safe. This episode isn't about conflict or blame.It's about the moments you decide something isn't "worth bringing up" — and how those moments slowly shape how much of yourself you bring into the room.If you've ever felt safe with someone and still found yourself holding parts of you back, this conversation is for you.Mentioned in this episode:- The Wilhelm Reich quote on unexpressed emotions- The body's role in carrying silence- Week 1 of the Loving Without Shrinking series#peoplepleasing, #selftrust, #relationships, #selfsilencing, #findingyourvoice, #midlifewomen, #journeytoselfStart Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” call🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz00:00 Introduction to Journey to Self00:25 Loving Without Shrinking Series Overview00:49 Oracle Card Insight: Unbound02:18 Personal Story: Self-Management in Relationships04:55 The Impact of Silence on the Body06:08 Reflective Questions and Community Invitation07:03 Weekly Practice and Upcoming Episodes This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Rest isn’t neutral for many women.In this episode, Sandy Bartlett explores why rest can feel uncomfortable — even when your body is clearly asking for it — and how rest has become tied to worth, usefulness, and identity.This conversation brings together themes from the past few weeks: exhaustion during transition, guilt after clarity, and the discomfort of quiet change — and lands them in the body.If rest still feels like something you have to earn, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface.#journeytoself #whenrestfeelsuncomfortable #restwithoutguilt #womenandrest #burnoutrecovery #midlifewomen #bodywisdom #selftrustjourney #reclaimyourworth Start Here - Join the Journey 🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJJourney to Self Community 🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” call 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftMeet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Calm boundaries can feel surprisingly uncomfortable — especially for women who are used to explaining, justifying, or managing other people’s reactions.In this episode, Sandy Bartlett explores why staying calm after setting a boundary can feel more unsettling than being emotional, even when the decision is right.Building on the last two episodes about transition and guilt after clarity, this conversation looks at calm as a sign of integration — not weakness — and why the urge to explain often shows up when emotional labor is removed.This episode is for women who know their boundary is right, but still feel exposed afterward.#journeytoself #calmboundaries #peoplepleasingrecovery #womenandboundaries #selftrustjourney #midlifewomen #innerauthority #emotionalconditioning #reclaimyourvoiceTake the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Guilt often doesn’t show up before a decision.It shows up after clarity.In this episode, Sandy Bartlett explores why guilt tends to surface once a woman stops over-giving, explaining, or carrying roles that no longer fit and why that doesn’t mean she made the wrong choice.Building on last week’s conversation about exhaustion as a sign of transition, this episode reframes guilt as conditioning rather than a warning sign. Through personal reflection and grounded insight, Sandy invites listeners to see guilt as a response to identity change, not failure.This episode is for women who feel clear in their body but still question themselves afterward and want to understand why.#journeytoself #peoplepleasingrecovery #guiltafterclarity #guiltaftersayingno #womenandboundaries #midlifewomen #selftrustjourney #emotionalconditioning #innerauthority #reclaimyourselfTake the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Most women don’t say they’re burned out.They say they’re tired — even when nothing looks “wrong.”In this episode, Sandy explores a deeper kind of exhaustion — one that isn’t asking for rest or better boundaries, but for recognition. Using the metaphor of Mother Earth and labor pains, this conversation reframes exhaustion as a sign of transition rather than failure.This episode is for women who have spent years holding things together, smoothing edges, and carrying invisible emotional labor — and are now feeling something shift in their body before it has words.If you’ve felt heavy, sensitive, or quietly done without knowing why, this episode offers language, grounding, and reassurance that nothing is wrong with you. Something is changing.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Client boundaries aren’t a strategy problem — they’re an emotional one.In this episode, we talk about why client messages can trigger guilt, tension, and over-responsibility — especially for women who learned early that being “good” meant being available.This conversation goes beneath policies and office hours and into the real reason boundaries wobble in business: the fear of disappointing someone.If you’ve ever felt your stomach tighten before opening a client message, this episode will land.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

There’s a story behind every “I’m fine.”In this episode, Sandy unpacks the quiet reflex women learn to survive and how to reconnect with the feelings you’ve hidden to keep the peace.Inside this episode:• Why women hide their real feelings• The body signals you ignore• The survival function of “I’m fine”• How truth becomes safer with practice• A simple shift you can make this weekIf your silence has felt heavy, this episode will land deeply.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Your body speaks first — long before burnout or exhaustion ever appear. This episode explores why women override their earliest signals and how to reconnect with your body’s truth, intuition, and inner wisdom.If you’ve been pushing through, this conversation will feel like a homecoming.Related Episode:Episode 19 — Your Body Knows Before Your Mind Admits It.#self-trust #women’sintuition #midlife transformation #embodiment #emotionalwellbeing #people-pleasingrecovery #journeytoself Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: Listening to Your Body00:36 Welcome to Journey to Self01:04 The Sacred Temple: A Call to Return03:08 A Personal Story of Saying No04:52 Recognizing and Setting Boundaries05:28 Empowerment and Reflection06:42 Invitation to Join the Community07:27 Conclusion: Be True to Yourself This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

There comes a moment where your body tells the truth long before your words do.If you’ve ever said “no” and felt your chest tighten, your throat close, or your guilt rush in…today’s episode will meet you there.This one is about reclaiming the voice you learned to hide.Your “no” doesn’t need a reason.It needs respect.As you listen, notice the places where your body whispers,“I don’t want to explain myself anymore.”If you’re ready to practice saying no without shrinking or spiraling,Journey to Self: The Awakening is open — free for the first 50 women or until January 15, 2026.Everyone who joins now will be grandfathered into the Premium tier.Check it out HEREUntil next time, be true to you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

If you’ve spent years being the one who keeps everything running, today’s episode will feel like a deep exhale.We’re talking about what really happens when you become the “default caretaker”, not by choice, but by habit, conditioning, and everyone else depending on your consistency.This is the moment you finally notice the weight you’ve been carrying… and the first sign that something in you is ready to shift.You don’t have to hold it all.And you don’t have to disappear inside responsibility to be valued.#peoplepleasingrecovery #defaultcaretaker #womenselfworth #midlifewomenhealing #emotionallabor #mentalload #boundariesforwomen #stoppeoplepleasing #selftrustjourney #identityshift #healingforwomen #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasersupport #chooseyourselffirst Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutTake the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: The Invisible Weight00:33 Meet Sandy Bartlett00:56 The Loving Woman Oracle Card01:46 Embracing Support and Care02:28 Shifting Relationships and Self-Care03:33 Personal Reflection: The Default Caretaker04:47 Breaking the Caretaker Pattern05:53 Empowerment Actions and Membership Invitation06:58 Conclusion: Your Voice is Rising This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

I used to think exhaustion meant I was doing enough. That being tired was proof I was dependable. But eventually, my body made the decision for me. It stopped cooperating.In this episode, I share what recovery really looks like when you stop pushing and start listening to your body’s truth. It’s not about fixing yourself; it’s about finally feeling yourself.✨ If your body’s whispering for rest and you’re ready to learn how to actually listen, come sit with me inside Journey to Self: The Awakening. It’s where women like us learn to rest without guilt, speak without apology, and live in a rhythm that feels true.Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self...Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepl...Support the channel and never miss another episode or video.    / @sandybartlettcoaching  Get your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-ge...Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakenth...One shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondsp...00:00 Introduction: The Weight of Expectations00:23 Meet Your Host: Sandy Bartlett00:43 Exploring the Crash: When Your Body Says Enough00:58 Intuitive Moment: Angels of the Four Directions03:29 Personal Story: The Season of Busy04:16 The True Meaning of Recovery05:19 Inner Reflection: Finding Your Pause06:10 Empowerment Action: Allowing Yourself to Rest06:39 Conclusion: Be True to You This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

This episode unpacks how “being agreeable” turns into self-abandonment in the doctor’s office. I share real stories of being dismissed by professionals — and the moment I chose to trust myself instead.If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your power and start hearing your body again, join Journey to Self: The Awakening.#journeytoself #SelfTrust #PeoplePleasingRecovery #WomenAndHealth #Boundaries #selfworthinlove Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutTake the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: The People Pleaser's Dilemma00:28 Understanding the Power of Intuition01:15 Intuitive Moment: Victim Mentality03:11 Personal Story: Trusting Your Inner Voice04:39 Reflection and Empowerment05:37 Empowerment Action: Reclaiming Your Authority06:10 Join the Journey to Self This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

What if the signals your body sends aren’t random or inconvenient, but guidance from within?In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, I share how I spent years following expert advice and still felt something was missing. Deep down, I knew my body was trying to tell me something different.It wasn’t about pushing harder or fixing anything, it was about learning to listen. Once I began honoring the messages my body sent through sensations, emotions, and intuition, everything started to make sense.If you’ve ever second-guessed your inner knowing or dismissed what your body was saying, this conversation will help you rebuild that trust and recognize the wisdom that’s been with you all along.#midlifewomen #bodywisdom #selftrust #womensintuition #secondspring #selfdiscovery Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingGet your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing.https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertieJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: Listening to Your Body00:33 Welcome to Journey to Self Power01:02 Intuitive Moment: Planning and Action02:03 Understanding Your Body's Messages03:32 Inner Reflection: Fixing What Isn't Broken04:14 Whispers of Wisdom: Your Body as Your Best Friend04:43 Invitation to Deeper Conversations05:17 Conclusion: Honoring Your Body's Messages This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

When was the last time you really listened to your body?In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, I unpack why women are so often dismissed by doctors and how to rebuild self-trust. You’ll hear my personal story of medical dismissal and discover ways to honor your body’s wisdom again.✨ Intuitive Moment: The Healing Light card — a reminder that healing is already within you.🎧 Listen now and begin trusting your body again.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Get your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing. https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening#SelfDiscovery #WomenHealing #BodyIntuition #MidlifeAwakening #JourneyToSelf #SecondSpring #TrustYourBody #SandyBartlett #Empowerment #HealingEnergy00:00 Introduction: Trusting Your Inner Wisdom01:57 Personal Story: Ignored Symptoms03:32 The Unlearning: Reclaiming Your Voice04:15 Whispers of Wisdom: Listening to Your Body04:52 Empowerment Action: Practicing Body Listening05:22 Conclusion: Join the Journey to Self This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

In this bonus episode, Sandy Bartlett sits down with business coach Suzy Wraines, founder of Starting a Business Simplified, for a powerful conversation on how people-pleasing patterns can sabotage new entrepreneurs.Together they unpack why so many women overwork, undercharge, and say yes too often and how learning to set boundaries is the secret to sustainable success. You’ll hear real stories from both Sandy and Suzy’s journeys, practical ways to write your own “business policies,” and why boundaries are an act of self-respect, not rejection.If you’ve ever felt guilty for slowing down or scared to disappoint a client, this conversation will remind you: your business can grow without self-sacrifice.Suzy Wraines is a healing-centered business coach and podcast host who helps medical professionals transition from clinical roles into purpose-driven entrepreneurship. Known for her grounded guidance and spiritual insight, Suzy specializes in supporting nurses, physician assistants, therapists, and holistic healers to start coaching, consulting, and other service-based businesses without second-guessing their worth or doing it all alone.🔗 Suzy Wraines – Starting a Business Simplified: https://www.startingabusinesssimplified.com/ Suzy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzywraines/Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Get your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing. https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Lowering your prices might feel like a way to keep the peace, but it’s really keeping you small. Undercharging is people-pleasing in disguise and it’s one of the fastest ways to drain your confidence, your bank account, and your business growth.In this final episode of the Entrepreneur Series on Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, I unpack how each People-Pleaser Persona undercharges, why avoiding conflict sabotages your worth, and what it takes to stand firm in your true value.If you missed the earlier episodes (40–44), go back and catch the full series. Together, they form a roadmap for shifting from people-pleasing to power in your business.#PeoplePleasing #Entrepreneurship #SelfWorth #PricingConfidence Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Get your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing. https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening 00:00 Introduction: The Cost of Undercharging 00:27 Series Recap and Today’s Focus 01:20 Intuitive Moment: Embracing the Wind 02:33 Personal Story: The First Time I Undercharged 03:17 Patterns of Undercharging 04:18 Reflection and Empowerment Action 05:32 Conclusion: Standing in Your Worth This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Entrepreneurs are burning out at record speed and it’s not because they’re missing strategy. It’s because they’re carrying the hidden habit of people-pleasing disguised as hustle.In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, I share how overwork sneaks in as a survival pattern, why exhaustion is the ultimate block to growth, and how each People-Pleaser Persona hustles themselves into depletion.If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything and still not moving forward, this conversation will help you pause, reset, and reclaim your energy. Growth doesn’t come from working harder, it comes from working aligned.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Get your free AI coach - Gutsy Gertie - to help you with people pleasing. https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening 00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Habit of People Pleasing 01:01 The Power of the Staff: Finding Balance 02:30 Personal Journey: From Hustle to Exhaustion 03:41 People Pleaser Personas: Survival Strategies 04:33 Reflection and Empowerment: Choosing Alignment 05:50 Conclusion: Honoring Your Energy This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Boundaries don’t scare clients awa, they actually attract the right ones. In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, Sandy unpacks how saying yes to every request isn’t generosity, it’s self-betrayal.You’ll hear how people-pleasing shows up differently in each Persona, how resentment creeps in when you overextend, and why setting clear boundaries creates stronger business relationships. This isn’t just about strategy. It’s about energy, respect, and trust.If you’ve been drained by late-night messages, endless reschedules, or clients pushing past your limits, this conversation will give you the clarity and courage to take your stand.#PeoplePleasing #Boundaries #Entrepreneurship #SelfWorth Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: The Dilemma of Saying Yes00:33 Welcome and Overview00:51 The Importance of Boundaries01:11 Intuitive Moment: The Ancient Ones02:29 Personal Experience with Boundaries03:37 Types of People Pleasers04:31 Reflection and Empowerment Action06:00 Conclusion: Honoring Yourself This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

One year of whispers, roars, and everything in between. 🎉 In this special anniversary episode, Sandy reflects on the first year of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing. She shares the magic, the lessons, and the bold steps that turned doubts into breakthroughs.From finding her voice to claiming her niche in people-pleasing recovery, Sandy takes you behind the mic — weaving in the personas, the ROAR Method, and today’s oracle card pull: Magic.If you’ve been waiting for the “perfect moment” to begin something new, this episode will remind you: the courage comes in the doing.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening 00:00 Introduction and Reflection on One Year 01:34 Intuitive Moment: Embracing Magic 02:55 Overcoming People Pleasing 04:02 Commitment to Weekly Episodes 05:15 The ROAR Method 06:12 Final Thoughts and Encouragement This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Apologizing for your prices may feel polite, but it’s quietly draining your confidence and training clients not to take you seriously. In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, Sandy explores why those little words carry such a heavy cost.With guidance from The Crow oracle card, you’ll discover how truth—not apology—is the foundation of your worth. Sandy shares her own story of apologizing her way out of confidence, how People-Pleaser Personas fuel this habit, and one powerful action step to start speaking your worth unapologetically.You’ll learn:✨ Why apologizing isn’t kindness—it’s self-sabotage✨ How People-Pleaser Personas distort your truth✨ A practical action step to start speaking unapologeticallyGet Gutsy Gertie - Your AI Coach for Boundaries and People Pleasing https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 The Apology Epidemic 00:38 Introduction to Journey to Self Power 01:03 The Deeper Truth Behind Apologies 01:20 Intuitive Moment: The Crow's Wisdom 02:18 Personal Story: The Cost of Apologizing 03:31 People Pleaser Personas 04:18 Introducing Gutsy Gertie 04:43 Inner Reflection and Empowerment 06:02 Final Thoughts: Be True to You This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Have you ever walked away from a client conversation replaying every word in your head, only to realize you never actually said what you needed to say?In this episode, Sandy Bartlett dives into the hidden cost of silence for entrepreneurs. Silence might feel safe, but it often comes from old people-pleasing patterns that keep you shrinking instead of standing in your worth. With guidance from The Time Master card, Sandy shows how speaking even one sentence can shift not only the present moment, but also heal the past and reshape the future.You’ll hear how silence shows up in each People-Pleasing Persona, why it drains your power, and how to break the cycle of self-doubt by choosing your voice over avoidance.If you’ve ever frozen in front of a client, this episode will give you the clarity, encouragement, and tools to step forward with confidence.🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more episodes every Saturday. Free AI Coach - Gutsy Gertie https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening00:00 Introduction: The Cost of Silence00:34 Welcome and Overview01:01 The Hidden Form of People Pleasing01:08 Intuitive Moment: The Time Master01:43 The Roots of Silence02:33 Personal Story: Overcoming Silence03:30 People Pleasing Personas04:40 Recognizing Your Silence Patterns05:43 Empowerment Action: Speak Up06:40 Introducing Gutsy Gertie This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

When people-pleasing runs your life, your dreams and identity quietly slip away. Are you carrying everyone else’s needs while your own keep getting buried?In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, Sandy reveals the hidden cost of living for others and why community is the key to reclaiming yourself.What you’ll hear:* Why people-pleasing quietly hijacks your life* The toll of always being the dependable one* How your dreams get buried—and how to find them again* Why community is the space where change begins✨ Your life is yours to live—not theirs.🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes to stop people-pleasing, reclaim your worth, and rediscover your power.Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Ever feel like you’re living life on autopilot, saying yes without thinking, running through the motions, and still feeling strangely restless?In this episode of Journey to Self: Power Beyond People Pleasing, Sandy explores how boredom isn’t a lack of activity but a sign that you’ve slipped into autopilot. And how two bold AI companions - Gutsy Gertie and Gritty Grace - can help you pause, break the cycle, and finally start choosing yourself.You’ll discover why people-pleasing drains your spark, how autopilot sneaks in even when you’re “busy,” and the exact awareness shift that brings you back to life. If you’ve been craving more aliveness and less obligation, this episode is your wake-up call.Get Gutsy Gertie here. https://thesandybartlett.com/gutsy-gertie Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening 00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Energy Drain 00:46 Meet Your AI Companions: Gutsy Gertie and Gritty Grace 01:11 Intuitive Moment: The Four of Cups 02:25 The Cost of People Pleasing 03:14 How Gutsy Gertie and Gritty Grace Can Help 04:23 Inner Reflection and Empowerment Action 06:22 Conclusion: Embrace Your Humanity with AI This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You’ve taken the quiz. You’ve met your persona. Now it’s time to go deeper—beneath the mask, into the truth of who you are. In this final episode of the series, I share what it really means to release your persona and return to the woman you were before the world asked you to be someone else.🔑 Key Takeaways:How personas form as survival strategiesWhat “unmasking” really looks likeA gentle way to meet the woman underneathHow to integrate the ROAR Method for deeper healing❓ Why Listen?If you’ve ever asked, “But who am I without all this?”—this episode is your answer.00:00 Introduction: Unmasking Your True Self00:32 The Reclaim Stage: Coming Home to Yourself01:13 Intuitive Moment: The Hanged Man Card02:43 Understanding Your Personas03:13 Personal Reflection: Unmasking and Healing04:51 Empowerment Action: Writing to Your Hidden Self05:29 Conclusion: Beginning Your Deeper Journey This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Overview:Awareness is just the beginning.In this final episode of the People-Pleasing Persona series, we explore what comes next: the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. It’s not about fixing yourself, it’s about finally choosing for yourself.This episode will guide you to reclaim your voice, your presence, and your truth.Key Takeaways:Why naming your persona is only the first stepThe real power of moving from pattern to presenceHow to shift from survival to intentionThe importance of support, safety, and choice in healingYour Next Step:✨ Schedule your free Awaken the Shift session → [link]🌿 Join the Journey to Self membership → [link]🌀 Haven’t taken the quiz yet? → [quiz link]You are not your pattern. You are the author of your next chapter.00:00 Introduction and Recap 00:17 Transition to New Beginnings 01:21 Intuitive Moment: The Two of Pentacles 02:00 Embracing Flexibility and Balance 03:20 Personal Reflection and Growth 05:23 Empowerment Action and Next Steps 06:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

You’re not just a people-pleaser.You’re not broken. You’re patterned.And underneath every pattern is a story trying to stay safe.This week, I’m helping you look beneath the persona—so you can finally begin shifting it.💜 Schedule a free 30-minute Awaken the Shift call → Click Here🧠 Take the quiz → Click HereWebsitehttps://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Mailing List#PeoplePleasingQuiz #EmotionalHealing #SecondSpring #ROARMethod #SelfDiscovery #SandyBartlett This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode 34 – From Hidden to Whole: The Ghost’s Journey to Being SeenOverview:The Ghost disappears—not because she doesn’t care,but because staying invisible once felt like the only way to stay safe.This episode explores how this persona forms, how it holds us back, and what gentle visibility can look like when we’re ready to be known.Key Takeaways:The emotional roots of invisibilityWhy showing up feels risky—and how to do it safelySandy’s story of disappearing in plain sightA new vision for visibility (without a spotlight)Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaSupport the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoachingJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

What if your value isn’t tied to what you achieve? In this episode, I’m exploring the Performer Persona—the one who overworks, overfunctions, and quietly wonders if she’s ever done enough. Key Takeaways: How early praise became performance addiction Why slowing down feels unsafe The moment Sandy realized she was performing, not living An invitation to begin unhooking your worth from your output Your ambition is beautiful—but your worth was never up for negotiation. #PerformerPersona #PeoplePleasingQuiz #SelfWorth #SecondSpring #SandyBartlettCoaching #StopProving Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersona Support the channel and never miss another episode or video. https://www.youtube.com/@sandybartlettcoaching Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshift One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening 00:00 Introduction: The Pressure to Always Be Productive 00:50 Meet the Performer: High Achiever Persona 01:19 Intuitive Moment: Queen of Pentacles 03:02 The Performer’s Inner Struggle 03:28 Personal Story: Battling the Need to Do It All 04:28 Reflection and Empowerment Action 06:09 Conclusion: Embrace Your Enoughness This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Overview:What if peace isn’t calm at all costs, but connection with your truth?In this episode of the persona series, we’re talking about The Peacemaker, the one who avoids conflict, manages emotions, and often disappears to stay liked.It’s time to reclaim peace that includes your voice.Key Takeaways:* How silencing yourself keeps you stuck* Why the Peacemaker confuses calm with safety* Sandy’s real-life moments of saying “I’m fine” when she wasn’t* A redefinition of what peace really meansCTA:✨ Take the People-Pleasing Persona Quiz → LINK This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:The Caretaker gives and gives but often at the cost of herself. In this episode, we explore how overgiving becomes tied to your worth, why it's so hard to let go, and how to start releasing what was never yours to carry.Key Takeaways:* The hidden exhaustion beneath over-functioning* Why love and sacrifice often get tangled* The power of releasing emotional burdensWhy Listen?If you're tired of carrying everyone else’s weight and want to reclaim your own energy, this conversation is for you.Links + Resources:🎭 Take the People-Pleasing Persona QuizJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self... Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakenth... One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondsp This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:Have you ever felt like you’re disappearing while still standing right in front of everyone? In this episode, I share my personal experience with The Chameleon—one of the people-pleasing personas. It’s not about being fake—it’s about survival. But eventually, the cost of constant adjusting adds up. Today, we’ll explore how this role forms, what drives it, and how you can begin to reclaim your true self.Key Takeaways:* Why the Chameleon feels safest blending in* The hidden exhaustion behind constant adjusting* The moment I realized even my silence was being judged* What it means to belong to yourself firstWhy Listen?If you’ve ever molded yourself to fit others' expectations, this episode will help you see what’s really happening—and where your freedom begins.Links + Resources:🎭 Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz: https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepl... Journey to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self... Book your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES. 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakenth... One shift can change everything. Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist Second Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondsp... This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

EpisodeOverview:You’ve been playing a role for years — not because you’re broken, but because you’ve been patterned. In this episode, we unpack the hidden reason behind people-pleasing and why recognizing your survival role is the key to finally shifting it.KeyTakeaways:*The surprising truth behind your people pleasing.*Why these roles once kept you safe.*The moment awareness becomes your superpower.Take the Quiz - What's Your People Pleasing Persona?:https://thesandybartlett.com/peoplepleasingpersonaIf you’ve ever wondered “Why do I keep doing this?” — this episode gives you the clarity you’ve been missing.Tune In:Press play and start seeing your pattern with fresh eyes.00:00 Introduction: Overcoming People Pleasing01:09 New Series Announcement: People Pleasing Personas01:56 Understanding Your Patterns05:04 Personal Story: The Chameleon08:16 Invitation: Take the Quiz09:02 Conclusion: Be True to YouJourney to Self: The Awakening Membership: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutBook your “Awaken the Shift” session and let’s get you one step closer to clarity, confidence, and that soul-deep YES.🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftOne shift can change everything.Mailing List: https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglistSecond Spring Awakening Coaching Program: https://thesandybartlett.com/secondspringawakening This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:Are your relationships built on truth—or silence? In this final episode of the June boundary series, Sandy explores how boundaries are not about pushing others away but about returning to yourself. This is the episode that will shift how you see your relationships… and yourself.Key Takeaways:Why boundaries actually deepen connectionWhat it means to stop abandoning yourself in relationshipsA self-declaration exercise to support your truthWhy Listen?If you’ve been shrinking to fit a version of you that keeps others comfortable, this episode will help you reclaim your space with love and clarity.✨ Ready to reconnect with YOU? ✨Join my Journey to Self: The Awakening community — a soulful space to heal, grow, and rise. 💫Just $22/month includes:🌿 7-day free trial🌿 Self-Discovery Workbook🌿 Monthly healing/coaching calls, meditations, Reiki circles & more👉 Join Here -  https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about?ref=acdf236a08554abe8f457ba0b31f9b3f🌟 Feeling called to take that next big step?Book your free Awaken the Shift session — a sacred space to explore what’s holding you back and make one powerful move forward.🔮 This isn’t just a call. It’s a turning point.👉 Book Here - https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftLet this be the moment you say YES to your Second Spring. 🌸00:00 Introduction: The Power of Boundaries01:04 Intuitive Moment: Source Dragon02:43 Personal Journey: Embracing Boundaries03:51 Invitation to Community: Journey to Self04:23 Reflective Exercise: Self-Honoring05:00 Quote of the Week: Authentic Boundaries05:26 Action Steps: Boundary Declaration06:09 Conclusion: Nourishing Relationships06:24 Next Month's Topic: Self-Expression This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:Why does taking care of yourself feel selfish? In this episode, Sandy unpacks the deeply rooted guilt many women feel when setting boundaries and choosing themselves. It’s not about turning your back on others—it’s about turning toward yourself with love.Key Takeaways:Why guilt shows up when you say noHow societal “good girl” messaging keeps you stuckOne self-care challenge to start releasing guilt this weekWhy Listen?If guilt is the first emotion you feel when you try to rest, say no, or ask for help—this episode will help you rewrite that narrative.✨ Ready to reconnect with YOU? ✨Join my Journey to Self: The Awakening community — a soulful space to heal, grow, and rise. 💫Just $22/month includes:🌿 7-day free trial🌿 Self-Discovery Workbook🌿 Monthly healing/coaching calls, meditations, Reiki circles & more👉 Join Here -  https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about?ref=acdf236a08554abe8f457ba0b31f9b3f🌟 Feeling called to take that next big step?Book your free Awaken the Shift session — a sacred space to explore what’s holding you back and make one powerful move forward.🔮 This isn’t just a call. It’s a turning point.👉 Book Here - https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftLet this be the moment you say YES to your Second Spring. 🌸00:00 Introduction: The Guilt of Self-Care01:09 Intuitive Moment: Green Gold Dragon02:40 Understanding Boundary Guilt03:57 Breaking the Guilt Cycle04:28 Inner Reflection and Weekly Challenge06:19 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:Ever leave a conversation feeling more drained than when it started? That’s not just fatigue—it’s a sign your emotional boundaries were crossed. In this episode, Sandy explores the often-invisible weight of emotional responsibility and how to begin protecting your peace without guilt.Key Takeaways:The subtle ways emotional boundaries are crossed in daily lifeWhy holding space doesn't mean carrying someone else’s painA powerful reflection to identify your emotional over-responsibilityA simple practice to protect your energy before interactionsWhy Listen?If you’re tired of feeling like everyone’s emotional caretaker, this episode will help you shift from sponge to sovereign.✨ Ready to reconnect with YOU? ✨Join my Journey to Self: The Awakening community — a soulful space to heal, grow, and rise. 💫Just $22/month includes:🌿 7-day free trial🌿 Self-Discovery Workbook🌿 Monthly healing/coaching calls, meditations, Reiki circles & more👉 Join Here -  https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about?ref=acdf236a08554abe8f457ba0b31f9b3f🌟 Feeling called to take that next big step?Book your free Awaken the Shift session — a sacred space to explore what’s holding you back and make one powerful move forward.🔮 This isn’t just a call. It’s a turning point.👉 Book Here - https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftLet this be the moment you say YES to your Second Spring. 🌸00:00 Introduction to Emotional Boundaries01:15 Intuitive Moment: Harmonic Flight Card02:46 Understanding Emotional Boundaries03:39 Personal Experiences and Coaching Insights04:39 Inner Reflection and Empowerment Practice05:20 Whispers of Wisdom and Weekly Practice06:52 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Episode Overview:How often do you say yes just to avoid guilt or discomfort? In this episode, Sandy opens up about a moment that changed her relationship with boundaries forever—and what happens when we finally stop people-pleasing and start saying no.Key Takeaways:A deeply personal story of self-abandonment and awakeningWhat boundaries are really aboutA simple boundary practice to try this weekWhy Listen?If you’ve ever felt like your worth is tied to how much you do for others, this is your invitation to reclaim your voice.✨ Ready to reconnect with YOU? ✨Join my Journey to Self: The Awakening community — a soulful space to heal, grow, and rise. 💫Just $22/month includes:🌿 7-day free trial🌿 Self-Discovery Workbook🌿 Monthly healing/coaching calls, meditations, Reiki circles & more👉 Join Here -  https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about?ref=acdf236a08554abe8f457ba0b31f9b3f🌟 Feeling called to take that next big step?Book your free Awaken the Shift session — a sacred space to explore what’s holding you back and make one powerful move forward.🔮 This isn’t just a call. It’s a turning point.👉 Book Here - https://thesandybartlett.com/awakentheshiftLet this be the moment you say YES to your Second Spring. 🌸00:00 Introduction: The Power of Saying No01:28 Intuitive Moment: Beyond Lemuria02:43 Personal Story: A Seismic Wake-Up Call03:42 Common Themes: Overgiving and Self-Worth04:21 Invitation to Join: Journey to Self Community04:44 Reflection: Where Are You Saying Yes When You Mean No?05:21 Whispers of Wisdom: Boundaries Are Sacred06:02 Weekly Practice: Setting Boundaries06:40 Conclusion: Reclaiming Yourself This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Ever feel like you’re kinder to everyone but yourself? In this episode, Sandy shares how self-compassion isn’t just a soft skill—it’s the foundation of true confidence. She weaves in personal stories and reflection practices that help you turn kindness inward.Key Takeaways:Why bubble baths aren't enoughThe hidden link between self-love and resilienceHow reframing inner dialogue shifts everythingWhy Listen?If you’ve been stuck in self-doubt, this episode will give you a fresh perspective—and an action step that could change everything.Tune In:Join Sandy for a soulful conversation and discover how a single act of self-kindness can ignite a powerful transformation.Join the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction to Confidence Rituals00:38 Intuitive Moment: The Black Dragon01:52 The Power of Morning Rituals03:45 Midday and Evening Rituals04:21 Creating Personal Confidence Rituals05:32 Whispers of Wisdom: Embracing Imperfection06:24 Empowerment Action and Community Invitation07:09 Conclusion: Building Confidence One Ritual at a Time This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

This week, we're diving into the overlooked strength of self-compassion—and how it shapes your relationship with yourself far more than bubble baths and coffee runs ever could.Key Takeaways:The real difference between self-care and self-compassionWhy small acts of kindness toward yourself matter more than you thinkHow to recognize and reframe your inner critic's voiceWhy Listen?If you’ve been hard on yourself lately or feel like you're never quite "enough," this episode is the reminder and reframe your heart's been waiting for.Tune In:Hit play to learn how choosing kindness over criticism can change your entire storyJoin the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction: Reclaim Your Power00:37 Intuitive Moment: Dragon Oracle Deck02:01 Understanding Powerlessness02:24 Five Steps to Reclaim Your Power04:30 Reflecting on Personal Experiences05:34 Empowerment Action for the Week06:13 Conclusion: Embrace Your True Strength This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

In this powerful finale of the Becoming Visible series, we’re crafting your personal visibility manifesto. This isn’t just a summary—it’s a declaration of who you are becoming and what you’re no longer willing to hide.Key TakeawaysWhat a visibility manifesto is—and why you need oneHow to reclaim your voice from old patterns and limitationsThe link between visibility and your sense of worth in Second SpringIf you’ve ever felt the pull to step into your light but didn’t know where to start—this is your moment.Listen now and learn how to powerfully own your story and show up fully in your next chapter.Join the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction and Self-Appreciation00:22 Welcome to Journey to Self00:42 Recap of Becoming Visible Series01:24 Creating Your Visibility Manifesto01:35 Intuitive Moment: Appreciation02:51 Defining the Five Key Pillars of Visibility05:21 Personal Story and Encouragement06:09 Writing Your Visibility Manifesto06:39 Whispers of Wisdom07:16 Sharing Your Visibility Manifesto07:51 Spring Awakening Coaching Program08:08 Final Thoughts and Closing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Are you done playing small? This episode invites you to stop waiting for permission and start claiming your space. Because the next chapter of your life deserves your full presence.Key TakeawaysWhy visibility isn’t vanity—it’s a sacred act of self-loveHow shrinking serves safety but not truthOne question to ask yourself before you hold back againIf you’ve ever caught yourself making your dreams quieter so someone else could be louder—this one’s for you.Listen now and take one bold step toward being fully, unapologetically you.Join the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up01:19 Welcome to Journey to Self01:45 Breaking Through the Fear01:55 Intuitive Moment: Hostilities Card04:33 Reflecting on Childhood Experiences05:49 Owning Your Presence06:37 Personal Journey to Visibility06:59 Inner Reflection Questions07:33 Whispers of Wisdom: Brene Brown Quote08:12 Empowerment Action Steps09:08 Conclusion: Your Voice Matters This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

In this illuminating episode, Sandy explores the tender yet powerful topic of spiritual visibility. What happens when we stop hiding our intuitive gifts? When we let ourselves be seen—not just physically, but energetically and spiritually?Key TakeawaysYou don’t need to perform to be visible—sometimes it’s about presence, not projectionHiding your intuition doesn’t protect you; it separates youSpiritual visibility is about aligning with truth, not perfectionWhy Listen?If you've been quietly intuitive your whole life—but still hesitate to own that part of you—this conversation is for you. It’s time to stop dimming your inner light.Tune InJoin Sandy as she shares stories and reflections to help you embrace the power of being spiritually visible—exactly as you are.Join the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction: Trusting Your Inner Wisdom01:23 Welcome to Journey to Self01:55 Intuitive Moment: Just Say Yes03:35 Reflecting on Childhood and Intuition05:13 Embracing Spiritual Visibility05:36 Personal Story: Trusting My Intuition06:40 Inner Reflection and Empowerment Action08:32 Conclusion and Next Steps This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com

Money and self-worth are deeply connected—but too often, financial conversations are silenced by shame, fear, or outdated beliefs. In this episode, we explore what it means to become financially visible and reclaim your value.Key TakeawaysThe hidden impact of silence around moneyHow generational and cultural messaging shapes your worth storyThe first step to rewriting limiting money beliefsWhy financial visibility is a form of self-respectIf you’ve ever whispered your rates, felt guilty spending on yourself, or avoided your bank account altogether—this episode offers a new way forward.Discover the connection between money and worth—and how to take one empowering step toward financial freedom.Join the 'Journey to Self: The Awakening' membership community: https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/aboutMailing List: ⁠https://thesandybartlett.com/mailinglist⁠Website: https://www.thesandybartlett.com/ 00:00 Introduction: The Emotional Weight of Money01:34 Breaking Free from Money Shame02:02 Intuitive Moment: Financial Visibility and Belonging03:57 Soul Dive: Childhood and Money Beliefs05:49 Real-Life Struggles with Financial Visibility08:50 Inner Reflection: Changing Your Money Mindset10:22 Empowerment Actions: Steps Toward Financial Confidence11:49 Conclusion: Embracing Financial Confidence This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com