The Gemma Hanley Podcast

For anyone lying awake aching over something that is quietly ending, drift off with mono no aware for grief and impermanence, the 18th-century Japanese scholar who reread one old poem for forty years and recovered the word for that ache. You don't need to be a poet to feel it. Motoori Norinaga was a country doctor by daylight and a quiet scholar by candlelight, and the feeling he rescued, mono no aware, the soft pang of a passing thing, is exactly the one you have at midnight when the house is still and something you love is further away than it used to be. This is bedtime philosophy for anyone tired of being told they are 'too sensitive.' Mono no aware for grief and impermanence is kinder medicine than most of the advice you will hear this week. Small rituals, tea, evening light, a longer kiss, quietly turn impermanence from dread into sweetness, and for meaning, they do more than any five-year plan. Tonight we walk with Norinaga through his small study, through his margin notes on the Tale of Genji, through cherry blossoms and falling leaves and parting friends. We will sit with magokoro, the true heart, as a quiet rebellion against the masks the day demands, and with kannagara, his idea of living in soft accord with the small sacrednesses of an ordinary evening. The story is short, the way a season is short. That is, perhaps, the entire point. The ache, he would say, is the evidence something mattered, and the gentler you hold it, the better it keeps you company through the dark hours. → Sleep Documentary | This Japanese Mathematician Solved Life, another quiet Japanese mind whose work was patient, small, and profound → Sleep Documentary: This Japanese Psychologist Discovered The Reason To Live, Ikigai, another gentle Japanese answer to the question of what makes a life feel real KEY TAKEAWAYS: • Mono no aware for grief and impermanence, the Japanese word for the ache that proves something mattered. The reframe for endings and kids leaving home. • Why feeling fully is braver than numbing out. Permission if you've been told you're 'too sensitive' your whole life. • Small rituals, tea, evening light, a longer kiss, that turn impermanence from dread into sweetness. • Norinaga's answer if you're exhausted by optimizing: meaning lives in how you met this moment, not in legacy. • What to tell yourself at 3am when something you love is ending: the ache is the evidence it was real. TIMESTAMPS: (00:00:00)  Siddhartha's Question For A Restless Mind at 3am (00:01:01)  The Prince Who Had Everything and Still Could Not Sleep (00:11:01)  Siddhartha's Three P(00:00:00)  Mono No Aware: A Japanese Feeling For A Long Night (00:00:31)  Motoori Norinaga, the Physician Who Read by Candle (00:03:10)  Edo Japan, 1763, A Scholar Rereads the Genji (00:04:23)  The Cherry Blossom Lesson You Keep Missing (00:09:49  Why Sadness Is the Proof the Moment Mattered (00:20:23)  Norinaga's Practice For Overthinking Before You Sleep (00:31:24)  The Beauty That Only Arrives When You Let Go ⭐ Rate on Spotify or Apple, it helps quiet voices reach the people who need them. 💬 Comment where you're listening from, what time it is there, and anything you enjoyed about one of our recent episodes! DISCLAIMER ⚠️ This video is for informational & entertainment purposes only. It explores psychological & historical concepts but is not professional advice (legal, medical, or otherwise). #SleepDocumentary #WisdomForSleep #SleepStory #Mindfulness #FallAsleep #boringhistory #historyforsleep #MonoNoAware #MotooriNorinaga #JapanesePhilosophy #Magokoro

If you already know what you want — the kind of love and lifestyle you're here for — but fear still gets loud when you move toward it, this episode is for you. When doubt whispers that it's risky to trust what you know, that living your truth might cost too much or has you questioning whether you're capable — this is how you come home to self-trust, no matter what you're feeling. Together we explore: The permission to be fully with your experience — and why that creates more ease, not chaos How to tell when discomfort is old wiring vs. your intuition asking for a truer next step The energetic shift that happens when your "yes" is rooted in desire, not obligation A pocket tool for in-the-moment support (so you can steady your nervous system and choose what's real for you) Access REGULATE here for $32.   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

Ever felt like your self-awareness is backfiring and leaving you as the only one carrying the weight of disconnect in your relationships? What if that heaviness was never yours alone to solve — and there's a way to turn it into deeper mutual connection? Here's what you'll uncover in this episode: Beyond the basics: the advanced layer your inner work has been missing The hidden cost of assuming you care more — and what it keeps you blind to How shifting one perspective can dissolve resentment before it takes root The doorway into deeper connection that's been waiting right in front of you   Join my short course: Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety Use discount code: "BIRTHDAY" for 50% off at checkout.  Ends Friday 26th September 2025 at midnight.    Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When you're highly sensitive, it can feel like other people's emotions live in your body. This episode unpacks why that happens and how to reclaim your center—so you can stay loving and present without becoming dysregulated. Together we explore: What's really going on when you "take on" someone else's feelings The hidden cost of "put yourself in their shoes" (and how childhood wiring teaches you to try their experience on as your own). Emotional intelligence in practice: relating to discomfort as information, not an emergency (for you and for them). Two shifts that change everything: boundaries that begin inside your body, and action that anchors your clarity before the overthinking returns.   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and book your clarity call here5 final spaces available at the time of recording this episode   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

It's tempting to want quick fixes — to rush to the new belief or the next step. But real change doesn't come from skipping ahead. It comes from being guided deep enough to see the truth of your own patterns, so you can create transformation that actually lasts.   This episode explores why exceptional coaching isn't about assumptions or surface-level advice — it's about meeting you as the individual you are, and guiding you into clarity that changes everything.  gemm Together we explore:   The power of slowing down before rushing to "fix" How the right questions unlock breakthroughs your mind couldn't reach The role of a coach in directing you toward deeper self-inquiry and faster, more sustainable change The freedom and energy that return when you finally see the pattern clearly   Learn more about Reveal & Rise here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

If you've ever worried that setting boundaries will push people away, this episode is here to remind you of the opposite.. boundaries expand love, deepen connection, and make more room for what matters. Your brave "no" is what clears space for the richest "yes." Together we explore: The flow and functionality that enters your life when you honour your true capacity How boundaries create deeper intimacy instead of distance The relief of shifting guilt, overthinking, and resentment The energetic shift when your "yes" is rooted in desire, not obligation Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here*Early-bird pricing and bonuses end Aug 31st*   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

If you've ever wondered whether you're getting motherhood "right" — this episode is for you. What if your self-doubt is not a flaw, but a sign of how deeply you care? This is a love note to the mother in you — a reminder that your challenges don't mean you're off track. They mean you're awakening. And the soul of your child chose you for a reason. Together we explore: Why emotional discomfort in motherhood doesn't mean something's wrong — it means something's awakening The quiet, powerful work of breaking generational patterns Motherhood as a co-creation between your soul and your child's A perspective shift that helps dissolve shame and self-judgment — so you can meet yourself with awe Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When open, honest communication leads to shutdown, deflection, or passive-aggression - what do you do next?    In this episode, we explore the emotional reality of relationships where someone says they want connection but lacks the capacity to hold your truth.    You'll learn a compassionate and self-honoring approach to boundary setting that protects your energy, keeps you honest, and helps you stay grounded in your own worth. Together we explore:   How to tell the truth without it blowing up in your face How to reposition a relationship when it consistently leaves you feeling unheard, let down or drained A word-for-word example of how to maintain a relationship without sacrificing your own needs The subconscious pattern that has a woman over-explain or overshare in the hope of being understood (and how to shift it)   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

When I left the wrong relationship at age 34 (despite wanting to become a mother) I wanted a guarantee that I wouldn't attract or re-create the same lesson again. To state the obvious, I felt that time was running out.  In this episode I share with you:   How to learn from difficult experiences so that we don't continue the same pattern   The importance of giving your mind body the key that opens a new door   The focus that changed everything for me   The exact lessons I needed to embrace so that I attracted an aligned relationship Watch my free masterclass: Reprogramming Your Subconscious To Calm Your Nervous System here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Been immersing yourself in your inner work for years but still feel like something's missing? I've recorded this episode for you! I'm sharing some of the exact tweaks that may change the healing & growth game for you: Why your body might be holding onto illness as protection How to tell if you're using a bandaid for your nervous system, or actually reprogramming it Identifying your comfort zone of inner work, and what you need to focus on instead Practical steps forward for working with emotional eating (scrolling, staying up late, procrastination)  Building inner certainty that can't be shaken   Get your hands on the replay for my masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

This week I share my own dating and relationship journey as an example of how the love we witnessed in childhood directly shapes the love we create as adults.   This is the subconscious 'data' that empowers us to write a new love story - not only for ourselves, but for generations to come.  In this episode, we'll cover:   Different ways that anxious and avoidant attachments express through our nervous systems   Examples of how my own childhood conditioning showed up in my dating & relationships at different stages of healing   How to uncover your own love and relationship patterns    Why we repeat the same patterns despite wishing we could "stop" them   Plus more!   Register for me free masterclass here: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System (July 2nd)   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

When we take our self awareness and judge ourselves (for being too slow, lazy or stupid) we can no longer take action on it.   That nasty, mean judgemental story we're telling about ourself feels horrible - so the opportunity to take the awareness and put it into action is lost.   In this week's episode, I talk about an empowering approach instead:   The subconscious reason we know better but don't do better 2 changes every woman must make before she can put her awareness into fulfilling action   Real life examples of how I've been stuck in my mind instead of connecting to my body soul   The practical tool I teach my clients for identifying aligned action steps forward   Plus more! Register for my new masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feel like you're constantly racing against an invisible clock - rushing to heal, forcing outcomes, and always needing to get ahead?   When we understand that rushing is a survival strategy learnt in childhood, we can finally breathe into a different way of being. In this episode, I share:   The link between "good girl" childhood conditioning and why slowing down feels so threatening to your nervous system   How your mind body soul is using discomfort as an invitation to discover your true self (not an inconvenience to rush through)   The life-changing shift from asking "how fast can I fix this?" to "what is this teaching me about who I really am?"   Why patience is the fast route to transformation (do it right, do it once)   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

You've drawn a line in the sand and followed through on a boundary that is right for you… only inner peace hasn't followed Rather, you're having dreams about the situation (if you can get to sleep), it's consuming your thoughts, and you're left questioning why there's still discomfort when you've shown up as the real you. This is exactly what I dive into in this episode of The Gemma Hanley Podcast, including:   How your body speaks to you about your boundaries   What to do when we feel as if the other person is the problem   Accurately identifying the subconscious pattern at the root of this boundary setting discomfort    The next step forward to let go of the ruminating (including practical question prompts)   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

You know exactly what's holding you back, you've had all the "aha moments" about your patterns, and yet... you find ways to prolong or talk yourself out of needing to take action.   In this episode, I share a powerful conversation inspired by a courageous client who recognized this exact pattern in herself - the gap between awareness and action.   Together we explore:   How you can stay connected to yourself and the change you desire   Three practical questions to bring you back into your body when your mind tries to distract you from the truth   How to create the subconscious reprogramming road-map that is right for you (because there is no one-size fits all)   Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Are you a woman who is always wanting to get more done, be liked by everyone, and extends a helping hand even when your plate is already full?   In this episode, I'm sharing a simple yet profound exercise to help you uncover what might be driving these patterns.   What you'll discover: Why your definition of "success" impacts everything from your health to your relationships How to identify when you're following someone else's rules versus your own inner truth A journaling exercise to uncover what's really driving your helper/pleaser/fixer tendencies How your body's symptoms and emotions reveal when you're living from someone else's definition of success My personal journey from achievement-based validation to deep internal success criteria To learn more about your subconscious and how to reprogram it, watch my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Ever feel confused about what you actually need in moments of stress or overwhelm? In this episode, I share the exact self-coaching tool I use every single day (and with all my clients inside Reveal & Rise) to move from nervous system dysregulation to calm confidence. In this episode, you'll discover how to: Connect to your body's wisdom instead of pushing through discomfort (which only creates more physical symptoms and emotional turbulence) Bridge the gap between awareness and action - because knowing you're stressed isn't the same as knowing what you need to resolve it Name the "productivity trap" that has us discount rest, pleasure and self-care as "unproductive luxuries" rather than essential nervous system necessities   Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feel as if you've hit a brick wall with your inner work? You can see the subconscious pattern and you're trying everything you know to change it… only to be left with the same question: "why isn't this working!?" You're not alone and this pep talk is for you.  I cover:   Why asking "what am I doing wrong?" is the wrong question   How to drop the rigidity and find flow in your healing   The sneaky ways your inner work can become another way to control and perfect yourself (and what to do instead)   What you need to start prioritising to break through   Plus more!   Join my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

This week we're celebrating 100 episodes !!! so I'm sharing something extra special - a raw and honest Q&A with my partner Harri. Whilst I've shared snippets of our relationship in past episodes, you'll finally hear from the man himself about how we navigate love, growth, and building a life together.   Together, Harri and I answer:   How long have you been together? Are you similar ages? And both into healthy eating and mindset? How deep in conversation did you go on the first date? Did you have any doubts about each other? Who raised the idea of a future together first and how? What were you afraid to let go of before moving forward together? When you live together, how will you navigate bills and house chores?  Do doubts ever come? Are they real or is it fear? How do you approach conflicts where you each have a different truth/version of an events? How do you repair after a conflict? How much time is enough together to feel good in a relationship? What compromises have you had to make? What are 3 things you love about each other?   For 50% off my short course 'Responding to Overwhelm Fear & Anxiety' use the code: "EPISODE100"   Learn more about 'Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety' here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

The line between "authenticity" and "emotional dumping" can be difficult to decipher in intimate relationships.     In this episode I share two stories about my own emotions from the past week.   If you've ever wondered "am I being too sensitive?" or "is this oversharing?" - you'll love listening in.   You'll hear me share:   Two stories about how I sat with and felt my emotions   The reason I was feeling fear, worry, panic and anger The role my partner can and can't play in my own emotional regulation   The different ways I take ownership of my emotions   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Lets dissect the role a client must play in the coaching relationship should they want to see results. This follows on from last week's episode where I did the same for the role of your coach. In this episode, we'll cover: How your honesty directly determines your results The common 'safety nets' that keep you stuck in the safe & familiar How to know if it's the 'right time' to hire a coach The importance of disagreeing with your coach Plus more!   Book your free clarity call here Learn more about Reveal & Rise here   Connect with Gemma daily here on instagram For more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Ever wondered why some women get incredible results from coaching while others stay stuck? Over the next two episodes I am (passionately) explaining why. These episodes will cover the integral roles that both a coach and a client must play so that coaching works.   Part 1 is all about the role a coach must play:   How a coach's own inner work directly impacts their client's results What most coaches miss about the nervous system How to know if your coach can actually guide you where you want to go The difference between strategic coaching versus deep transformation   Plus more!   Book your free clarity call here Learn more about Reveal & Rise here   Connect with Gemma daily here on instagram For more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Want proof that loving your body AND being the real you is possible? In this episode, I'm joined by past client Charlie who vulnerably shares her journey from perfectionism and judging her body to genuine self-acceptance. We explore: How she broke free from "needing" to be perfect The shifts she experienced in relationship to her body How and why she has "come to love an uncomfortable conversation" The unexpected way her family relationships transformed through this work Plus Charlie's raw and honest advice for women ready to make this change themselves. Learn more about Reveal & Rise and book your free clairity call here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Ready to capture the fresh new year energy and follow through on your inner wisdom more honestly than ever before? In this episode I'm sharing vulnerable insights about how I'm already following my intuitive nudges this year (even when they feel scary!)  I also cover: What to do when intuition defies logic Why you can't hear your intuition My favourite approach for trusting yourself when others doubt your choices Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Watch my free and on demand training 'Emotion & Symptom Mastery' here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Want to set inspiring goals for 2025 that actually feel true to YOU (not what you think you "should" do or what others expect of you)?  In this episode (part 2 of a goal setting series) I share a fresh approach to creating goals that light you up inside, while being realistic about your time, energy and resources! You'll learn: How to identify your desired "state of being" for 2025 (beyond just tangible outcomes) Choosing the best goal setting timeline that works for YOU 2 questions for checking your goals are true to you (not to please or meet the expectations of somebody else) A practical tip for making aligned compromises so you avoid burning out   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feel as if you "know better but don't do better" when it comes to taking the actions steps that would see you achieve your goals? In this episode (the first of two goal setting workshops) I take you through powerful question and reflection prompts to uncover the hidden patterns that stop you from confidently progressing forwards in life.. AND empower you to build upon the incredible results you've already created! You'll learn: - Ways to make goal setting suit your individual situation - How to use recent behaviour patterns (good and bad) to your advantage - A guided subconscious practice to find the root of self sabotage - The link between self celebration and achieving more of your goals   Watch my free masterclass: BRAVE BOUNDARIES here (expires December 10th)   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Setting boundaries in dating isn't about walls - it's about creating space to let the right love in (because you're no longer entertaining less than what you desire).      In this episode I share some examples of how that played out for me:   How I overcame fear of male anger (and why this was crucial) My strategic (and successful!) approach I took to dating apps The boundaries I set with myself that changed everything Key questions to uncover your own dating blocks (so you can shift them)   Get the replay for my masterclass: Brave Boundaries here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Think you have to choose between being kind and having boundaries? Think again!   In this episode I dive into the science and psychology of delivering strong boundaries that are drenched in kindness.    Learn about:   Mindset shifts so that your boundaries no longer feel selfish or too sensitive Hear me demonstrate loving but firm boundary examples Eliminating the opportunity for someone to use your boundary against you 2 practical tips you can use in real time when someone has a reaction to your boundary   Plus more!   Register for my masterclass: BRAVE BOUNDARIES: Speaking up when you fear rejection   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Want to set healthy boundaries without second guessing yourself, feeling riddled with guilt or dealing with dramatic reactions from others? It's possible! In this episode I break down the common mistakes we make when setting boundaries that lead us to feeling overwhelmed instead of empowered, and exactly how to shift this.   Here's what you'll learn: - The first step to rock solid boundaries that stick (that almost everyone skips) - How to identify the right boundary and communicate it with clarity and confidence - Subtle signs you're using control instead of an empowered boundary - Practical tips for selecting the best time to speak up   Plus an invitation to join my last masterclass for 2024 - Brave Boundaries: Speaking your truth when you fear rejection    Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Feeling defeated and disheartened by the dating process? What about being filled with hope for a promising first date (or even third or fourth date) only to be let down and disappointed?   I'll be honest - throughout my own 21 years of dating, there were times where it was extremely difficult to remain optimistic and keep trusting I'd meet "the one"   In this episode I share 3 changes I made to turn this around.  Including:   The mindset I took with me to every single first date    The exact questions I asked early on in dating (and the way I asked them - this is SO important!)   The number 1 thing I kept reminding myself of when first dating Harri   How to stop 'losing yourself' and forgetting who you are in new relationships   Plus more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Rushing through each day with the feeling that there's never enough time - it might be the ultimate stressor to our nervous system (resulting in overthinking, fear and chronic illness).     It means that even if a woman "gets there" (to the relationship, motherhood, business etc) she's probably burnt out, second guessing her choices, and is unlikely to be enjoying it as much as she'd imagined she would.   Thank goodness we can change this - regardless of your age!   In this episode:   A powerful question to ask yourself when feeling that time is running out or that you don't have enough   How to audit your time and energy output so that you won't feel you're missing out or being left behind   The psychology of self sabotage, procrastination and why you don't put your goals first   Plus more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

Have you ever felt as if life is harder than it should be?    That no matter how hard you try to grow your business, enjoy motherhood, attract like minded relationships or stay consistent with healthy foods... you're not really progressing forwards in a way that feels satisfying?   In this week's episode I introduce you to a strategy that helps you answer the question: "how do I get there?" (so that you can feel confident that you're truly on the path to doing it right)   Together we explore:   A common trap: gaining self awareness only to shame and judge yourself for what you've discovered   Breaking down your powerful role as the creator of everything in your life and how to use this to your advantage   Examples of my own subconscious patterns in dating, business and chronic illness that I got to transform   Plus more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

What if you could attract better dates and create more connection in your relationship without waiting for the other person to change?! It's possible my love! (I know because I watched it play out in my own life) Without even realising it, we constantly send subconscious cues to our date/partner about how they should act and what we desire from them. When your subconscious cues match your relationship goals - BOOM - the qualities you've been craving in a partner begin to appear.. To get there, we begin by accurately identify any discrepancies.    In this week's episode, we're exploring:   The biggest reason women attract dating/relationship scenarios they don't want   How to tell if the "I have to take what I can get" subconscious pattern is part of your conditioning   Healing jealousy and trust issues   How to attract an amazing aligned relationship    Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

This week you're meeting one of my inspiring clients, Claire! She's here to generously share her story and wisdom with you of how since working together, she has learnt how to fully process emotions, show herself love and free herself from limiting beliefs that held her back.   In this extremely open hearted chat, Claire opens up about:   Subconscious blinds spots in the relationships with her parents (and the change that helped her get better from chronic fatigue)   Her recent experience of extreme grief and loss   How believing she 'should have it all figured out on her own' nearly stopped her from getting the help she needed   The things that made the biggest difference in letting go of uncomfortable emotions and building her confidence   Plus wayyyyyyyy more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

The most important thing about your inner work? That you actually get results - your life is changing for the better!   However it's almost a given that along your healing journey, there will be times where you feel confused, lost and like you're pushing shit uphill and getting nowhere!    In this podcast episode, I will   Remind you why your answers can't be found outside of you   Share two limiting beliefs that hold women back from healing their nervous system for good   Highlight the exact 3 things (that if you commit to consistently implementing) will create a naturally confident mindset and ease in your body.   Plus more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with me here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

For a long time, I believed that uncomfortable emotions and chronic symptoms were the problem… and for a long time, I stayed stuck. In this podcast episode, I explain why the real problem behind recurring discomfort in the mind body is this: Not knowing how to retrieve the intelligent message or answer that an emotion or symptom is trying to show you.   I'll explain:   The internal alarm bell system that can be switched off   The exact reasons emotions or symptoms will keep coming back   The two ways I teach women to connect with their subconscious and retrieve the answers they need to heal   How to know if you're making progress forwards   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

A fixation on being in a 'high vibrational state' might just be as disempowering as using a victim mentality.   Often, being 'high vibe' requires a woman to reject past pain that is surfacing so it can be let go of - it wants to come up and out of her body.    When she is taught to actively bypass and "stop" anything other than positive emotions, she continues to store that past pain, keeping it stuck in her body (which in turn, means she rejects her inner child's pleads for love) In this episode I cover:   The unnecessary shame women can feel when they aren't able to "get over" an emotion and instantly feel happy or content   Proactively addressing emotions & symptoms so that they heal and there is no longer something uncomfortable to "stop" or "be positive" about   Thinking you're doing the inner work VS actually getting it done   Plus more!   Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

I nearly canceled the first date with my (now) partner. In the end, the only reason I followed through and went on the date was because of a promise I'd made myself. Months earlier I'd realised that I was subconsciously 'rolling my eyes' at parts of the dating process.. (the parts that felt annoying, disappointing or a waste of my time)   And that so long as I kept up this mindset and attitude, I would actually have one foot in and one foot out when it came to dating.. unrealistically hoping for a "perfect", "seamless", and "get it done right first go" experience.     The promise I made to myself was that I would show up to the ENTIRE dating process more fully than ever before. In this week's episode I share candidly about how I got that done:   The exact way perfectionism showed up for me in dating (and the hurdle I had to overcome)   The 'bullshit free' coaching conversation I had with myself 4 things I had to be crystal clear about before I could attract my partner   Plus more! Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

I was recently reminded, while experiencing the worst flu of my life, of the very first lesson I had to learn before I could heal chronic fatigue, anxiety and depression (a whole lot more physical symptoms too but those were the headliners) and it's this… In the most challenging moments of our life (both emotionally and physically) there comes a fork in the road, and the path we choose to go down will determine whether we heal subconscious triggers that overstimulate our nervous system OR stay stuck in the same subconscious patterns that feel safe and familiar. At this fork in the road we can choose to give ourselves what we NEED (listen to our body and intuition to then make choices that support our real self) or we can cave into a moment of immediate gratification by choosing an impulse behavior (which is when we maintain a coping mechanism that feels like self sabotage) Sounds simple, but it's not, because the coping mechanism is an automated subconscious pattern that has likely been there since childhood and may even take multiple forms.  It also serves the purpose of distracting away from discomfort.  An enormous part of being able to change this is increasing your emotional intelligence, and that's what we I walk you through in this episode:   Where I've been for the last 4 weeks   The difference between your intuition and moments of immediate gratification   The fastest route to achieving the "big picture" in life we want most   How to stop self sabotaging and make the choice that has you progress forwards   3 journaling questions for increasing your emotional intelligence   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

This week I'm excited to be brining Hillary McVeigh back to the poddy, she's a Human Design Teacher, IFS Practitioner and Intuitive Certified Coach.    Once a family lawyer, she is now passionate in helping women transform their inner rumblings into reality so they too can create their dream life and business.    This episode with Hillary covers:   Making choices from your monkey mind VS connecting to your intuitive knowing & body   Key signs (for each Human Design energy type) that you are pretending to be someone you're not   Hillary guiding you through an exercise to strengthen your intuition and get clearer on what is right for the real you   Plus more!   Connect with Hillary on Instagram here Listen to Hillary's podcast here Visit Hillary's website here   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

The answers to your success are not only found in a positive mindset & visualisation of your goals, they are found from intelligently exploring your resistance, self doubt and emotional/physical discomfort too. I'm seeing a common theme that is keeping women confused & stuck when it comes to their inner work…  Toxic positivity coaching - which forces a woman to only look at half of her reality (the "positive" half which is easy to love, get excited about and celebrate), and reject the other 50% (being the "negative" which includes her vulnerabilities and fears).   Strap in my love, together we cover:   How incessant positivity is harmful & the delusional beliefs we have about emotions    Nervous system stress responses in your body that you're probably not even be noticing    Thinking you're doing the inner work but accidentally abandoning yourself instead   5 journaling questions to get to the bottom of procrastination   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

I spent more than 15 thousand dollars on my emotional and physical health before I found the solutions that actually started to help me - so I know what it's like to shudder or shrink at the idea of investing in yourself.  In this episode I bring you behind closed doors and into my personal experiences (and major success I've created in my life) from working with the high quality and expert coaches. I share with you: My exact mindset when it comes to investing in a coach   Insight into 3 very precise problems I've worked with coaches to solve over recent years   Why I've invested when I felt I couldn't afford it and it didn't make logical sense   How I made my finances work for me at the time   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com   Listen to EP 74: Throwing away your power and accidently playing victim? (4 key signs) here   Listen to EP 72: The question I ask every woman before she hires me as a coach here

Recently on one of our Reveal & Rise coaching calls, two of my clients were super honest & told me how a boundary I had set in my personal life (and shared about) triggered them.   Given I used to be an A+ grade people pleaser, I knew exactly how they were feeling.  Listen in as I explain what my boundary was, 4 teachable moments from the reaction my clients experienced, and the coaching advice I gave to help them move forwards.   In this episode, I cover:   How I made a commitment to a friend, realised it wasn't right for me and then changed my mind   The exact (word for word) dialogue I used to lovingly change my boundary   A question that helps you choose the boundary that is right for you   Easy ways you can use more connection based communication (instead of creating fear and conflict)   Plus more!   Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

Perfectionism runs deep.  It's hard wired into our neurology and nervous system as an automated behavior that gets us love, approval and validation.  When we do things perfectly, things feel more certain, predictable and controlled.  When we let go of this exhausting behavior it feels exposing.. that we could be seen as 'not good enough', 'lazy', or letting others down (which ramps up our fears of rejection or being misunderstood).   In this episode, we talk about how you can change it:   Doing a proper honest audit of how perfectionism is showing up for you   A brain retraining conversation   Using perfectionism as a coping mechanism to keep yourself calm and safe   Sneaky ways perfectionism is still ruling your choices and behaviors (in your health, relationships and work)   3 clear non negotiables for progressing forwards beyond perfectionism   A weekly ritual for you to implement so that you can start healing perfectionism and controlling behaviors    Plus more!   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

This is a conversation that has completely transformed the trajectory of my life - MULTIPLE times! Here's the thing my love: when we are stuck in procrastination, uncomfortable emotions or confusing symptoms (and we've been unsuccessful in changing it) it's important to acknowledge that we're overlooking something.  It's not that we are purposely ignoring something or sweeping things under the rug - but IT IS happening (at a subconscious level) and it's also keeping you stuck.  So it's absolutely an area we need to take an honest look at.   In this episode we dive into:   4 signs you're accidentally using victim mode   Uncovering your big 'AHA' moments   How to become more empowered, confident and capable    Different ways that fear will hold you back by keeping you "safe"   What is personal power and how to develop your 'Queen energy'   Plus more!   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

What attitude do you bring to your morning routine? Does it have you jumping for joy and feeling alive in your body? Or is it more of a "have to get this done" vibe with a sprinkle of fear about what will happen if you don't?   Here's a common pattern I'm observing in women (and saw in myself in the past too): the use of the same morning routine regardless of what her mind and body are communicating to her.  A pattern that works against her inner work.   Here's what we'll cover together in this episode:   When a morning routine is actually just a perfectionism and self abandonment pattern dressed up differently   The problem with having every inch of your day organised and planned   Strengthening your feminine qualities of: intuition, emotional intelligence, nurturing, creativity and flow   Dating yourself: how and why you would bother   Healing codependent patterns so that you can increase self worth, confidence and boundary setting skills   3 questions to use for more confidence and self trust (instead of your rigid and predetermined morning routine)   Plus more!   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

A very sensitive and extremely important topic for us to have a transparent conversation about - WITH COMPASSION! Let's start by saying, the fact that you are a mother reading this right now - is so extremely impressive.  Your heart is so big, and I am in awe of your desire to lead by example for your children.   Here's what you can expect from this episode:   A massive acknowledgement and celebration of all the mumma's consistently doing the best they know how   Why I see difficult and uncomfortable conversations as a non negotiable in coaching   Generational trauma & subconscious patterns - how it's not all your "fault"   The unknown fact about communication that will transform your perspective on parenting   People pleasing, emotional eating, body shaming, perfectionism and boundaries - getting clear on the subconscious patterns of your inner world, and taking ownership for what this is teaching the next generation   Watch the replay to my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here   Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com  

Uncomfortable emotions used to control my day and how I viewed myself.  The most frustrating part was that I really was doing my best to feel them and let them go - but any progress was either minimal or short lived.  I'd tried self help books, journaling and letting myself cry, so I was extremely confused about what I was doing wrong.  Today is a completely different story.  Solving uncomfortable emotions has become my comfort zone!   In this episode I'll share with you: How to tell if you're doing surface level inner work or getting to the root   3 steps you must be covering when doing your emotional release work   What emotional "intelligence" actually means   Key signs you'll notice in your body when you're rewiring your neurology and nervous system   The subconscious reason a client felt stuck in her emotions recently   Plus more! Register for the free masterclass >>> EMOTION & SYMPTOM MASTERY here to learn my framework to go from overwhelmed, afraid and lost, to confidently solving uncomfortable emotions and confusing symptoms. Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com    

The more flexibility and adaptability we can bring to our life, the greater the chances of us achieving our goals and experiencing more joy!  This week I bring you behind the scenes of my personal life and business - showing you in real time how I am walking the talk - giving myself permission to change my mind and do things differently so I can show up as THE REAL ME and progress forwards in a way that feels good.  You'll hear me share: What isn't working in my life right now and how that feels   My approach when situations like this show up   The importance of self accountability and ownership of our personal results   3 questions I used to help myself move forwards   How to be flexible and adaptable WITHOUT self sacrificing Plus more! Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com

People pleaser to boundary queen can feel like such an unrealistic leap … and to be honest - it is! So in episode, I talk you through some 'in between' options that will support you in healing the subconscious pattern of wanting to avoid conflict by keeping everyone around you happy.   You'll learn:   The 6 ingredients to connection based communication    I talk you through examples of each   Ways we overcomplicate boundaries   Perfectionism and boundary setting   2 simple sentences you can use to say 'no' with confidence And a whole lot more! Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com