The Art of Shame-Free Living

In this episode I give a recap of the 4-day women’s retreat I just hosted, and dig into what healing really is. I share 10+ Truths that came up again and again, and I encourage you to listen to how you feel as I share them.. and what resonates with you.   Healing is simple, and hard… and it comes through our feelings When we’re feeling sticky energy in any area of our life, the work is the same Learning more about us, and becoming more us, is what blesses the world Healing is remembering our wholeness   My next retreat is open here: www.coachcrystal.ca/retreat Add yourself to my email list: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/podcast-platforms  Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

There are 3 personality type systems that have changed my life and parenting, and I want to share them with you!  How I've always been obsessed with everything personality, and have taken every test, but always felt "boxed in" instead of "opened up."  How our greatest work in life is becoming MORE US, and how through that we bless our world (our family, community and the world at large). Human Design and how I moved from "flaky" to fun and energetic... expanded my life and business, and feel so much better about me.  Enneagram and how it taught me more about who I was, and how to relate to others that I love.  Gene Keys and how it led me to my life purpose, with a clear path moving forward.    Add yourself to my email list: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/podcast-platforms  Join our next retreat, September 16-19th, www.coachcrystal.ca/retreat      Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

My top teachings from the Peacemaking event on Saturday:  If you see a change you want externally (another person or situation), the only power you have is within… and that power is significant “be the change you want to see” Force/expectation/control are inversely correlated with influence. Your influence will increase exponentially if you focus on you, and stop trying to change others The work is to notice when you aren’t feeling peace (specifically when you feel emotionally activated), and turn your gaze inward: what is this bringing up in me? What’s truly bothering me here? What meaning am I attaching to this? Feeling first. Before you respond, sit with your emotions first. Don’t respond from big emotions, your listening/understanding brain isn’t online. Intellectualizing feelings is not the the same as feeling them. Not thinking about all the things making you sad/frustrated/angry/anxious… but sitting with the feelings in the body.   Thanks to all those that came on Saturday. We recorded the event, and are hoping to edit it and make it available for purchase shortly. PEACEMAKING: RETHINKING CONFLICT RESOLUTION. Hop on my email list to snag it when it's ready.  Also talked about on the show today: My manifestation practice and what it looks like in real time (and how to create even more possibility).   Add yourself to my email list here: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/podcast-platforms    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Inner division is when we feel disconnected to our own selves (avoiding, condescending our dismissing our inner experience)  humans as a hierarchy: creating more division within and without  unity comes from inside us first, and manifests outside    The work really is so much more simple than we think… feeling first… and watch your world change. Small and simple things are often the most significant.    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Peacemaking: Imagining a Better Inner and Outer World Working with the conflict within, before we look outside (addressing us, them, and then the world) Believing something new into being: we are more malleable than we think Less conflict in our homes and hearts will create less conflict in the world at large   Join my local Peacemaking Event here: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/the-art-of-shame-free-living-seminar   I said: what about my eyes? He said: Keep them on the road.   I said: What about my passion? He said: Keep it burning.   I said: What about my heart? He said: Tell me what you hold inside it?   I said: Pain and sorrow. He said: Stay with it. The wound is the place where the Light enters you.   - Rumi    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“I can imagine a more beautiful version of myself that I know in my heart to be possible, and I plan to pursue it with integrity and tenacity until one day, I have lived into that possibility and made it real”  Thomas McConkie   Becoming More of Who I Always Was  my experience and insight after meditating for 7 days striving through hate vs love (and surrendering to our failure) the inner journey and how it changes us becoming more familiar to ourselves.   Join me for a retreat: Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/retreat (September registration now open!)    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Reflect on the concept of obligation after a recent coaching session. To me, obligation feels like a cold, binding, crushing energy that traces back to experiences of powerlessness in my teenage and childhood years. I contrast that with the joyful, expansive energy I feel when I’m living in alignment with who I am—including how I experience my design as a manifesting generator. I share how I’m reframing the idea of moving away from obligation as reciprocity—the belief that what’s good for me is also good for the world. This isn’t selfishness. In fact, I’ve noticed that when I operate from obligation, resentment and burnout tend to spill over into every area of life. I talk about where obligation has been showing up recently, including in my family’s evolving approach to schooling and in my business—especially the pressure to post regularly on social media and release weekly podcast episodes. Because of this realization, I announce that the podcast will no longer follow a strict weekly schedule. Instead, I’ll release episodes when inspiration strikes. I also share that I’ve stepped away from social media, yet I’m still attracting clients in other ways. I invite you to stay connected by joining my email list. Also, learn more about an upcoming women’s retreat happening in September.   Register for Women’s Retreat Join my email list      Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Delve into the rising issue of anxiety and depression among teens and young adults, and explore potential root causes and the impact of shame on mental health. Drawing from my own experiences—as well as insights from Brené Brown and the Buddhist teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh—I walk you through a gentle, three-step process for working with suffering: recognizing and acknowledging it, cradling it with tenderness, and looking deeply into the message it carries.My hope is to help you see how addressing the deeper layers of shame can lead to lasting emotional healing and greater peace of mind. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn some exciting news about my upcoming women’s retreats happening in April and September. Then, dive into one of my favorite topics—household chores—and how I approach them without the traditional reward-and-punishment mindset.I talk about how minimalism has dramatically reduced the amount of cleaning in our home and helped us strengthen our family connections. I share practical ways to bring kids into the process—letting them choose their chores, mixing big and small projects to teach the value of effort, and supporting their growing independence along the way.I also talk about the power of hiring help when possible, and how that simple act can create more space for abundance and connection in the home. I wrap up with a quick reminder about the upcoming retreats and an open invitation to join me there.  Manifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom The Parenting Coach Podcast: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/blog  Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore how to navigate the emotional triggers that come up around our kids’ screen use. Inspired by a conversation with a client, I share why it’s essential to first look at our own relationship with screens before trying to change our children’s habits.I invite you to reflect on your own screen use, notice how much of it is influenced by today’s highly digital culture, and sit with the discomfort that may arise when those triggers show up. We talk about practical ways to manage these moments without reacting impulsively—like practicing self-regulation and including your kids in open, curious conversations about screen time.I also share some great resources that can help you go deeper, including Stolen Focus by Johann Hari and Reset Your Child’s Brain by Dr. Victoria Dunckley.  Manifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the idea of rest as the ultimate act of rebellion against constant doing. I talk about how true rest challenges us—it’s uncomfortable, and it often feels unnatural when we’re used to being in motion.I share my own experience in Thailand that reminded me just how hard it can be to truly do nothing—and how powerful that stillness can be for growth and healing.I also invite you to join me at one of my upcoming women’s retreats, where we’ll dive deeper into these themes through journaling, stillness practices, and moments of deep integration. Together, we’ll explore what it means to give ourselves permission to pause.  Manifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Journey through the deep transformations I’ve experienced through coaching. I share how my relationship with myself has shifted, how I regulate my emotions differently, and how a growing sense of peace and contentment now shapes my daily life.I talk about what it looks like to no longer yell, to truly feel calm in my body, and to believe that more is possible for me than I ever imagined. I also share how this work has impacted my family, especially my children, and how emotional safety and regulation have changed the way we relate to one another.I explore how these internal shifts have influenced my business, allowing me to detach from pressure and lead with clarity, and I open up about the realities of parenting while continuing to grow emotionally. I wrap up the episode by inviting you into Manifest Me, a body-based and emotionally integrative program designed to support deep personal growth, culminating in a retreat in the Rocky Mountains.  Manifest Me: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-meManifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into what manifestation really is and why it’s far more about the energy and emotions behind your practices than the tactics themselves. I share personal stories and insights into how my income expanded through energy work and intentional manifestation, and why feeling good and opening yourself to possibility is essential when calling in what you desire.I also talk about manifesting money from unexpected sources, creating recurring revenue, and how social media can support business growth when it’s aligned with your energy. I close the episode by inviting you to join Manifest Me—a deep, integrative experience that blends human design, the Enneagram, and immersive retreats in the Rocky Mountains.  Manifest Me: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-meManifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the deep connection between wealth, abundance, gratitude, and love. I share my personal journey and reflections on what it really means to feel and embody these experiences, not just think about them. Through real-life examples and practical insights—like learning to let compliments truly land—I talk about how we can expand our capacity for gratitude and abundance. We also explore how resistance that can block wealth from flowing freely and how manifestation connects to both emotional and physical prosperity. I wrap up by inviting you to upcoming workshops on wealth and sharing more about my Manifest Me programme, where we dive into deep, integrative work around growth and manifestation.  Beyond Wealth: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/wealth Manifest Me: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-meManifest Me Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- https://www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore faith and its deep connection to uncertainty. I reflect on how faith is inseparable from doubt and how not having all the answers can be an essential part of spiritual growth. I also share personal reflections and historical perspectives to illustrate how faith shows up in everyday life.I introduce the concept of presentism and unpack why it matters when we look back at history. I talk about the importance of understanding people and actions within their cultural context, while still acknowledging the real harm that may have occurred. Throughout the episode, I invite you to hold space for multiple truths at once and to see uncertainty not as a weakness, but as a doorway to growth, compassion, and deeper understanding.  Join our next retreat in April 2026, register here: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the signs that healing and growth are already happening—often in quiet, unexpected ways. I talk about how healing shows up through a greater willingness to sit with discomfort, both within myself and with others, and through making decisions that feel authentic rather than performative. I reflect on what it means to embrace imperfection, honour my inner yes and no, and allow emotions to be felt instead of rushed or fixed.I also share personal examples, including noticing growth in my children, and how this mirrors my own healing journey. Throughout the episode, I question cultural narratives around productivity and worth, invite a redefinition of rest, and reflect on how discomfort can actually signal expansion. Rather than focusing on what’s missing, I centre the conversation on recognising growth, humanity, and compassion as ongoing, meaningful signs of healing.  Join our next retreat in April 2026, register here: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

As the year comes to a close, let's reflect on how much emphasis we tend to place on goals and resolutions—and how often that process is rooted in a feeling of lack. I talk about how marketing frequently taps into our sense of inadequacy, convincing us that we’re missing something and need fixing.In this episode, I invite you to step away from decisions made from lack and instead choose an abundant, whole perspective. I share a simple three-step mini-workshop to help shift your emotional state: reflecting on how far you’ve already come, working with subconscious practices to change your inner energy, and setting goals that genuinely spark joy and excitement rather than pressure.I also explore why community, mentorship, and guidance matter so much when it comes to personal growth. As we move into a new year, I encourage you to consider who and what will best support you on your path—so you can create a life that feels more expansive, grounded, and joyful. Come to my free workshop: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/workshop2025Join our next retreat in April 2026, register here: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the concept of silence as one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. I reflect on how easy it is to avoid silence because of the discomfort it brings and the fear of facing our own thoughts and emotions. I share why learning to sit with silence is essential for meeting our inner suffering with compassion and for supporting both emotional and physical well-being.Drawing inspiration from Thich Nhat Hanh’s book You Are Here, I talk about mindfulness, presence, and what it means to gently stay with our pain instead of pushing it away. I invite you to experiment with small moments of silence each day as a way to support healing, personal growth, and deeper connection—with yourself and with others. I close the episode with holiday wishes and a reminder that although silence can feel challenging, it is a simple and deeply valuable gift.  Join our next retreat in April 2026, register here: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Journey through my reflections from a recent women’s retreat I hosted in Waterton Lakes National Park in southern Alberta, Canada. I share what unfolded during the retreat and why community plays such a powerful role in healing. We explore the difference between knowing something intellectually and truly feeling it in the body, and why allowing ourselves to move through uncomfortable emotions is essential for real healing.I talk about the importance of integration rather than rushing transformation, the healing power of stillness and silence, and how intuition can guide us when we slow down enough to listen. I close the episode by inviting you to join me in upcoming retreats and encouraging you to embody what you learn so that true, lasting change can take place.  Join our next retreat in April 2026, register here: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat   Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the feelings of rush and inadequacy that often come up during the holiday season and as a new year begins. I talk about how the sense of “hurry” is often driven by feelings of not being enough, and I share insights from books like The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and Conscious Luck by Gay Hendricks.I also open up about my own experiences with slowing down and learning to move at what I call “essence pace”—the rhythm my soul truly desires. Throughout the episode, I reflect on how meditation, presence, and self-acceptance have helped me shift my relationship with productivity and time. My goal is to inspire you to let go of internalized shame and stress, and to embrace a more peaceful, intentional way of being.  Creation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog  Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into the conflict that can happen between your conscious and unconscious mind. You might feel content and confident on the surface, yet deep down, your unconscious thoughts could be more self-critical than you realise—shaping your behaviour in subtle but powerful ways.I talk about the importance of creating a safe space to acknowledge and sit with those underlying feelings so you can build a deeper connection with yourself and others. This episode invites you to explore your unconscious thoughts and emotions, bringing more self-awareness and alignment between what you feel inside and how you show up in the world.  Manifest Me Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreatCreation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog    Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn about what it really means to prepare for the holidays — not just physically, but mentally and spiritually too. I share ways to reflect on what an ideal holiday looks like for you, recognise what might be blocking your joy, and process emotions that come up during this season.Together, we explore mindfulness, minimalism, and emotional balance to help you create a more meaningful and peaceful holiday experience. I also walk you through practical exercises — like writing down your thoughts and practising deep emotional awareness — to help ease holiday stress and nurture your well-being. Manifest Me Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat Creation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog  Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into the Spiritual Principles of Manifestation and explore how faith and manifestation are deeply connected. I talk about the common misconception that people of faith can’t believe in manifestation, introduce the idea of abundance, and share insights drawn from different spiritual and religious perspectives, including Christianity and Judaism.I also unpack key principles such as rhythm, self-worth, asking and receiving, reciprocity, and the importance of being other-focused. Throughout the episode, I weave in personal stories and practical advice to help you understand how to manifest your desires by aligning your beliefs and energy with your spiritual practice. Manifest Me Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat  Creation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Delve into how questioning one’s faith might not be a crisis at all—but rather a natural stage of spiritual and emotional growth. Drawing parallels between childhood development, attachment, and adult differentiation, I unpack how our early relationships often shape the way we perceive God, spirituality, and belonging. Through this compassionate lens, I invite you to see doubt and questioning as signs of maturity rather than failure.The episode also connects themes of differentiation within marriage, partnership, and religion—showing how separating from old beliefs or identities can lead to deeper connection and authenticity. I also share how differentiation helps us find peace in uncertainty—turning doubt into an opportunity for emotional and spiritual maturity. Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat In-person event on November 1st: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/the-art-of-shame-free-living-seminar Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into the power of surrender and the importance of allowing emotions to pass through rather than resisting them. Drawing from the three pillars of meditation—concentration, clarity, and equanimity—I reflect on how emotional openness helps release pain and restore balance.The episode also features Rumi’s poem The Guest House, a reminder that every emotion, joyful or sorrowful, deserves to be welcomed. I guide you through a short subconscious surrender practice designed to release resistance, reconnect with love, and find peace in stillness. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the concept of being “Shame Positive”—embracing shame rather than striving to eliminate it. Drawing from a recent meditation retreat with mentor Thomas McConkie, I explore how the desire to “fix” or “rid” ourselves of shame can ironically become another form of perfectionism. Through heartfelt reflection and real-life examples, I illustrate how allowing shame to exist fully within us is the very key to releasing it.I also delve into the importance of acceptance, surrender, and self-compassion in healing. I will guide you through how moments of shame can become opportunities for growth, deeper connection, and authenticity—both in parenting and personal relationships. The episode closes with a reminder that self-help grounded in wholeness and abundance, not lack, leads to genuine transformation. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into how a 7-day silent meditation retreat completely transformed my understanding of meditation. What began as a structured practice for calm and focus evolved into a deeper, more spiritual experience—one that revealed meditation as a path back to stillness, presence, and inner connection.I share reflections from the retreat, including the practice of noble silence, the gentle teachings of meditation teacher Thomas McConkie, and how stillness itself can become a source of healing. This episode invites you to see meditation not as a routine, but as a living practice of awareness and compassion. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into my personal journey as I share anticipation and thoughts about an upcoming seven-day silent meditation retreat. I talk about my current meditation practices, including key advice and personal experiences that have helped me, such as starting with short durations and gently redirecting thoughts. I also explain two meditation methods: a focused breathing technique and an open, receptive approach. You’ll find practical meditation tips and encouragement to start small and stay open to the benefits of the practice. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the importance of fully experiencing pain, heartbreak, and grief rather than rushing to feel better. I share personal stories and reflect on the wisdom of empathy experts like Brené Brown as I explore the beauty and significance of letting ourselves truly feel negative emotions. I focus on what it means to sit with discomfort and welcome all emotions rather than numbing them, and how this practice can deepen both our empathy and emotional resilience. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into the interconnectedness of grief and shame, particularly how shame can hinder our mourning process. With my son recently leaving for a church mission in Peru, I reflect on how our honest conversations about emotions helped both of us prepare for the separation.I talk about the importance of recognising and processing not just sadness, but also other heavy emotions like regret, resentment, and anxiety. When I allow myself to face these feelings head-on, I notice that genuine sadness flows more freely, leading to a healthier grieving process.I also share my thoughts on self-forgiveness and offer some practical steps I use to navigate these complicated emotions. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the concept of certainty and its connection to anxiety, especially in women. Learn how anxiety often stems from a desire for certainty and how certainty itself is an illusion. Discover how true certainty can be found within by embracing and transmuting feelings of anxiety, fear, and doubt. Join the discussion on how to navigate these emotions, connect with your inner grounding, and find peace and trust in yourself and the universe. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive deep into the concept of shame as a hierarchy. I discuss how shame creates false perceptions of 'better than' and 'less than' among people. By examining aspects like social media, intellect, wealth, and beauty, we highlight how this hierarchical thinking impacts our lives. I share personal experiences and techniques like journaling and visualization to dismantle these internal hierarchies. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We explore the concept of 'selfness' as opposed to 'selflessness.' Learn how traditional ideas of selflessness often lead to feelings of shame and burnout. By embracing selfness, we can find inner fullness and peace, enabling us to serve others without feeling drained. This episode includes reflections on the teachings of Jesus Christ as the epitome of selfness and encourages listeners to identify and take their next small step toward a more connected, grounded life. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the powerful technique of Duality Surfing, a method introduced by Frederick Dodson, aimed at neutralizing intense emotions by visualizing both ideal and worst-case scenarios. Learn how to bring yourself back to a neutral state, enhancing emotional resilience and intuition. Engage in practical exercises to regulate your nervous system, increase emotional capacity, and reduce triggers, promoting a more grounded and shame-free life. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Delve into the importance of understanding and practicing subconscious techniques to heal emotional triggers. Learn how to shift focus from thoughts to body sensations, visualize emotions, and develop a secure attachment relationship with yourself. The session includes a guided exercise to help you connect with and comfort your inner child, leading to transformative emotional healing and a shift in perspective. Join us in this deeply spiritual and transformative journey. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into subconscious practices to help you move through emotions. You'll be guided to relax your body and focus on your feelings, using visualizations and physical sensations to connect deeply with your emotions. Learn to identify what your body and feelings need, and explore ways to release and transform these emotions. Join in this transformative practice and share it with others to spread the shame-free movement. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the subconscious practices designed to help you sit with and process the feelings in your body. You will learn to trust yourself as your own best guide, become imaginative, and use breathwork for regulation. The practice involves visualizing past emotional moments, locating the physical sensations associated with these feelings, and using movements to release the built-up emotion. The goal is to create a sense of safety, peace, and security within the body. I encourage you to share your experiences and follow for more practices. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Delve into the pervasive nature of shame through some of my own personal experiences and a few recent films: 'K-pop and the Demon Hunters' and 'Avengers Thunderbolts.' I highlight the universal impact of shame and discuss how acceptance, compassion, and connection are key to healing. I also introduce some upcoming segments that will focus on practical exercises to help you navigate feelings of shame and foster more self-acceptance. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the deep connection between shame work and our ability to manifest what we desire. I share how self-worth plays a crucial role in the manifestation process, emphasizing that we can only receive or create as much as we believe we deserve. Through my personal stories and thoughtful analogies, I discuss the importance of receiving energy, the risks of over-focusing, and the difference between intention and action. I also dive into how we can overcome blockages in our self-worth to manifest positive changes and offer practical advice on shifting our perspectives to better align with what we want to create. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore the concept of boundaries, addressing common misconceptions and the challenges I’ve faced in setting them effectively. I emphasize the importance of balanced boundaries—avoiding the extremes of having too many or too few. By sharing my personal experiences and practical examples, I highlight the need to approach boundary setting with the right energy and mindset. We cover topics like screen time, education, sexuality, and mental health. I wrap up with insights on how shifting my internal energy first has led to healthier, more effective boundaries that benefit both myself and those around me. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Follow my journey from dealing with constant sibling rivalry and fighting among my children to creating a more harmonious household. Discover how focusing on my own inner healing and changing my personal energy had a profound effect on reducing conflict at home. I emphasize the importance of self-improvement and inner work to foster positive changes in family dynamics, sharing anecdotes and insights from my experience as a parenting coach. I conclude with a call to action for you to engage in your own self-healing journey for lasting transformation. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn the concept of "shame energy" by using the analogy of two rooms. The left-hand room represents negative emotions like fear, worry, and shame, where trying to solve problems through control or apathy doesn’t work. The right-hand room symbolizes trust, intuition, and abundant energy, where challenges tend to resolve more naturally. Discover the importance of recognizing which room you’re in, journaling to increase awareness, and emotionally processing your feelings to move from the left room to the right. This practice supports emotional growth and helps you tap into intuitive problem-solving. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore how we can teach intuition to our children through attachment parenting. I share my own journey of focusing on secure attachment and realizing that children naturally have their own wisdom and knowledge. I talk about how parenting is really about creating an environment where kids can grow and learn to trust themselves. I emphasize the importance of tuning into children’s body cues, letting them make mistakes, and building a foundation of trust. I invite you to follow, subscribe, and share to help support the shame-free parenting movement. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into self-trust and how hard it can be to truly trust my own ideas, opinions, and choices—especially after growing up in a world that teaches us to look to experts instead of tuning into ourselves.I talk about how societal conditioning makes it easy to doubt our inner voice, and how I’ve been working on reclaiming that trust by being willing to make mistakes, embrace the mess, and listen to what my body and emotions are telling me. For me, learning to consistently check in with my own knowing has been key to building confidence and a more grounded sense of self. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn to see emotions as messages from our bodies. Instead of labeling them as good or bad, I treat them like visitors bringing something important to share. I share how I try to receive those messages—both through the words they might be saying and the physical sensations they bring.I also reflect on insights from Burnout by Emily Nagoski, especially around the importance of actually feeling emotions in order to move through them. There’s a story I tell about explaining this to a child, which helped me see how these concepts can be used in everyday life—simply and meaningfully. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn how the shaming of emotions often gets embedded in our childhood experiences. I explore how parents' actions and societal norms contribute to the subconscious messages we receive about our feelings, and I highlight the importance of revisiting these messages to foster healthier emotional responses. I emphasize the need for self-compassion, offering practical steps to understand and release emotional burdens. My goal is to help us all better support both ourselves and others emotionally. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Identifying the areas in life where shame manifests and how to recognize its presence. I'll explore various domains such as money, body image, parenting, relationships, sexuality, and work. I'll discuss the negative thoughts and behaviors associated with shame in these areas and emphasize the importance of addressing these feelings to improve overall well-being. I'll also provide tips on how to discover underlying issues and change your perspective. I encourage you to engage with the content and join the movement towards a shame-free life. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Explore concepts from Brene Brown's 'Dare to Lead', focusing on the definition of shame and its impact on your personal and professional life. I'll discuss the three 'shame shields'—people pleasing, blame and defensiveness, and shutting down—which are strategies for disconnection. These behaviors highlight the presence of shame in our daily interactions. I encourage awareness and recognition of these patterns to address underlying shame and enhance your personal growth. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Learn how shame, rather than a lack of communication skills, is often the root cause of communication problems in close relationships. I'll discuss how emotional triggers, stemming from internal shame, disrupt our innate communication abilities, and emphasize that addressing and understanding these triggers can improve communication. Through self-reflection and the recognition that triggers are teachers, you can resolve underlying issues and enhance your interactions. I encourage you to engage with your own triggers to foster better communication and connection. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dive into the pervasive nature of shame and its deep-seated effects on our thoughts and self-perception. By examining the concept of having two inner selves—the critical 'parent self' and the vulnerable 'child self'—I'll emphasize the importance of fostering a nurturing internal dialogue. Through inner child work, you can heal wounded parts, rediscover your innate creativity, and embrace your authentic self. The discussion also highlights the importance of creating a supportive relationship between these inner selves to ensure emotional safety and self-acceptance. Connect With MeSubstack: https://substack.com/@itscrystalnoelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.crystal.noelle Website: https://www.coachcrystal.ca Program: www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroom  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.