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Intelligent Intoxication — 515 episodes
Ep #131: "I'm Going to Miss You... and I'm Ready for You To Go"
Ep #130 - How To Be An Asset In Your Friendships - Not A Liability
Ep #129 Sometimes You Don't Need to Fix It. You Need to End It.
You're Grieving What You Didn't Experience IN Your Youth
How To Change How You Measure Your Worth
Why You're Struggling to Stay Present
How to Have A Tough Conversation With Adult Children
When Adult Children Disappoint You
Navigating Transitions with Your Adult Children
Re-Mothering Yourself: The Three Things You May Still Need as a Midlife Mom
Grappling With "Not Enough" As a Midlife Mom
How To Stop Worrying About Your Adult Child's Future
How To Support Your Adult Child Without Becoming Responsible For Their Emotions
Your Adult Children Are Not Your Emotional Charging Station
What I Learned About Midlife Women—and Myself—From My First Class
Your Adult Children Need You To Be Happy
What You Need As A Midlife Mom
The Happiness Formula For Your Next Chapter
Second Season vs. Next Season: Releasing the Pressure to Get It Right
The Changes You Choose vs. The Ones You Don’t
Stop Trying To Find Your Purpose
What Emotions To Expect After Your Kids Leave
Announcing An In-Person Class for Moms of Adult Children!
What Are You Still Trying to Prove?
How To Live In Hope in the Second Season
What If You Don't Want What You Think You Should?
Are You a Mom Stuck in Explanations?
Empty Nesting: What's Actually Happening vs. The Story We're Telling
How To Habit As the Mom of Adult Children
How To Create and Maintain Friendships As the Mom of Adult Children
How To Quietly Quit as the Mom of Adult Children
The Emotional Whiplash Moms of Adult Kids Feel When They Leave Again
How To Feel Better When You're Struggling As the Mom of Adult Kids
How To Stop Anticipating Time With Your Adult Children
Gifts Your Adult Children Really Want - Part 2
Gifts Your Adult Children Really Want
The Challenges of Adult Children Returning Home For the Holidays
Navigating Depression and Anxiety As A Mother of Adult Children
How To Experience a Happy Empty Nest
Embracing a "Gain Mindset" As An Empty-Nester
Boredom As An Empty-Nester
Apathy as an Empty Nester — When You Feel Flat and Depleted
Regret vs. Guilt in the Empty Nest Years
Part 3 - Lifestyle and Structure
Part 2 - Why Relationships Can Be Challenging For Empty-Nesters
Part 1 - Redefining Your Identity and Purpose As An Empty-Nester
How To Know What You Need
The Next Version Of You Will Thrive As An Empty Nester
Using Regret Against Yourself In The Empty Nest Stage
How To Reinvent Your Empty Nest From The Bottom Up
Confidence and Self-Confidence As An Empty-Nester
The Easy, Essential Few In The Empty Nest Stage
How To Stop Catering To Dysfunctional People
Only You Can Determine Your Value and Worth
Why Staying Busy and Having Hobbies Won't Fulfill You As An Empty-Nester
The 2 Emotions Every Empty Nester Must Embrace
Finding Purpose As An Empty-Nester
Your Empty Nest Self-Concept
What Is Inflaming or Irritiating Your Life?
Decision-Making Overwhelm
Just Choose
Why Moms Resist Help
How To Manage Your Time Anxiety
What Really Matters Because You Find It Valuable
Why Empty Nesters Aren't Satisfied With More Of The Same
A New Way To Measure Success As A Parent
How to Flourish As An Empty Nester With New Identities
Bringing a Lifetime into a Single Day
How To Get What You Want Faster
Is It A Gut Instinct - Or, Are You Just Really Anxious?
3 Ways To Prepare For An Empty Nest
Stop Treating Others Like An Audience
How To Make Happiness Inevitable
How To Finally Stop Overthinking
A Diagnosis Is Not a Label - It's A Plan
Just Do It Already!
Why You Can't Build Momentum Unless You're in Motion
What's NOT Working In Your Life?
How To Be Kind To Someone You Don't Like
When They CAN But Won't
When To Make a Clean Break
What You Really Need And How To Get It
How To Take Down The Parts Of Your Life That No Longer Serve You
How To Be A Friend Others Celebrate
How To Start, Stop, or Create
What To Expect When You Birth Something Different
What You Always Have A Right To
How To NOT Feel Overloaded or Shutdown in December
You're Righteous - Not Right
What Healthy, Secure Friendships Really Are
Gathering More Information Won't Allow You To Change
How To Be Senstive To Others Without Self-Sacrificing
How To Boost Dopamine With A Menu
How To Know If You're A Good Person
How To Handle Being Excluded And How To Be Included
How To Stop Checking Obligatory Boxes
The Difference Between Consistent and Perfect Habits
How To Clarify Who And What Makes You Anxious
Why Anxiety Is Your Superpower
What You're Not Available For
The Clarity That Comes With Age
ANXIETY
You're Stuck Because Your Container Is Too Small
Goals Keep You Stuck
What You Must Cut From Your Life
What Makes You Strong or Weak
How We Allow Ownership Instead of Assigning Blame
How To Create Different - Not More
Why Filling Your Days Won't Fulfill You
How To Resign From Being Resigned
Why Good Habits Go To Sh*t
Repairing The Relationship To Yourself
When You're At Your Best
How To De-Stress Yourself
When You're Stressed
How To Feel Less Stressed
Why You Need Imagine IF People
Why You're So Resentful
Real Authenticity/Creating Safety
Real Authenticity/Who You Really Are
Healthy Boundaries WILL Cost You
Boundaries Are Not A Bitchslap
When You're Drowning As A Caregiver
Why You Don't Have Peace
How To Offer The Right Help
What And Who To Say NO To
CHASING AND ESCAPING AT THE EXPENSE OF FEELING FREE
Why You're Not Thriving In The Second Half Of Life
How You're Limiting What You Really Want
How To Stop Dilluting The Real You
You Are Invited...
Wrapping Up Season One- Ch Ch Ch Changes
Wrapping Up Season One- What I've Learned
When You Seek Permission - Not Help
Contribution Confidentiality
How To Protect Your NOs
What To Do If You're In Overwhelm
"I'm Overwhelmed!"-Part 5
"I'm Overwhelmed!"-Part 4
"I'm Overwhelmed!" -Part 3
"I'm Overwhelmed!"- Part 2
"I'm Overwhelmed!"- Part 1
Hemorrhaging Time, Energy, Or Money Leaves You Blah
Feeling Blah Because You Don’t Get What You Expect
Feeling Blah And Buried In Clutter
How Unfinished Business Drains Your Energy
How To Breathe Out The Blahs
Feeling Blah Because You’re Ignoring The Basics
Feeling Blah After Too Much Pleasure
When You Feel Blah In January
The Three Priorities For 2024
Decide What You Will Stop, Keep, Or Start Doing In 2024
Intentionally Decide To Grow OR Rest
What To Do When You Aren’t Making Progress -Part 25
Saying YES Because You Owe Something - Part 24
Ditching Obligations IS Your Real Work -Part 23
Stop Whining About What You Deserve- Part 22
Why You Must Stop Arguing With Your Life- Part 21
Why You Can’t Delegate Your Decisions- Part 20
Accept That You’re Getting Benefits- Part 19
Why You Must Tell The Truth About Your Intentions- Part 18
Why You Must Accept and Forgive- Part 17
Why You Must Stop Blaming- Part 16
Why You’ve Allowed Or Tolerated This -Part 15
Being, Doing, Or Getting More Is Never The Answer -Part 14
When You Force Yourself To Feel Fulfilled -Part 13
Why You’re Discouraged, Disappointed, or Dissatisfied -Part 12
How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others -Part 11
How To Trust Yourself -Part 10
Deliberately Discerning What Matters Most -Part 8
Too Unpleasurable, Painful, and Hard - Part 7
But First The Truth, Acceptance, And Responsibility -Part 6
Your Mental Health Is Your Responsibility -Part 5
Arguing and Resisting New Normals -Part 4
Confusion, Time-Fillers, and Buying Back Time -Part 3
Why You Haven’t Used Your Gifts and Talents YET- Part 2
The Intentional Intoxication Mini-Course - Part 1
Why NO Is So Damn Hard
Unexpected Help and Macadamia Nuts
The Two Reasons You’re Not Creating What You Want
When You Think You’re Helping But You’re Really Enabling
What Story Are You Telling About Your Life?
Will You Accept This Hangover?
It’s Selfish NOT To Squirm
Squirming Keeps You Out Of Drama
You Must Squirm On Your Parallel Path
How Your Squirming Inspires Others
When Growth Triggers Frustrating Feelings
Growth Will Demand That You Stop Outsourcing Decisions
”I did this!”
Squirming Allows You To Finally Comfort Yourself
Fulfillment Follows Intentional Squirming
New Identities Require You To Squirm
When You Must Deal With Your Personal Sh*t
What ”Create A Life” Really Means
When You OVERestimate Danger And UNDERestimate Your Ability To Handle It
When You Have Big Or Small Emotional Responses
You Spend Lots Of Time Being Bad At This
What’s Easy For You, But Hard For Them
The Strengths You Take For Granted
When You Want To Be Better At Something
600 Episodes And Counting!
Your Most Cherished Goals
Your Praise-Worthy Achievements
What You LOVE Doing Most
What You’re The BEST At
Self-Awareness Post Kettle Corn Debacle
Why You’re Criticized
Don’t Take Their Criticism If You Wouldn’t Take Their Advice
How To Adjust Your Life
Tattle-Tales And Intrusive Thoughts
Not Living Longer - Dying Longer
Become Before You Act
Are You Guilty Or Being Guilted?
Your Yesses Cost You
Uncomfortable Progress
You Don’t Have To Earn Enjoyment With Productivity
Your Goals Reveal Your Values
What You Learn About Reveals Your Values
What You Imagine For Your Future Reveals Your Values
What You Spend Money On Reveals Your Values
What You Focus On Reveals Your Values
What You Organize Reveals Your Values
What You Spend Your Time Doing Reveals Your Values
What You’re Reliable To Reveals What You Value
How To Scaffold Your Mental and Emotional Health
How You Empty People’s Joy Buckets
Time To Stop Complaining
Why Hobbies Won’t Fulfill You
Why You Can’t Just Be A Spectator To Your Adult Childrens’ Lives
When You Outgrow People
When Others Need Or Want More Than You Can Or Want To Give
You Aren’t Being Punished When You’re Living In The Consequences Of Your Past Actions
Make Your Goal An Amount Of Time
What You Need When You’re Not Motivated
Intentional FOMO
How To Stop Resisting and Start Accepting
Giving Procrastination
Celebrating Habit Consistency
The Real Goal Of Personal Development Work
How To Re-Enter Gracefully
How To Receive In Summer
How To Inhale Newness In Spring
How To Retreat In Winter
How To Let Go In Autumn
Making Assumptions About What Others Want and Need
Intentional Reliability
How To Get Triggered Responsibly
When You’re Frustrated And Can’t Achieve
How To Know If You Feel Discouraged Or Resigned
How To NOT Get Stuck In Regret
You Don’t Have To Feel Better On Your Own
You Can’t Control Disappointment
What You Feel When Things Aren’t What You Expected
Just Keep Showing Up Until
You’re Not Quitting - You’re Purposely Pausing
What To Give Your Kids When They Leave Home
Have To/Don’t Have To
What Age Of You Is Stressed?
Keep Drama In Your Head And Out Of Your Life
You Don’t Need Motivation
You Must Manage The Crap In Your Head
When You Take On Other People’s Emotions
Offer Compassion - Not Pity
You Feel Discomfort - Not Guilt
Before You Add What You Do Want, Ditch What You Don’t
The Sooner You Embrace Your Wholeness...
Brokenness Loves Miserable Company
Wholeness Is Accepting ALL Of You
How You Define Wholeness
How You Define Broken
When You Feel Broken
How To NOT Lose Your Sh*t And Ruin Your Relationships
You Can’t Make Others Do Anything
I Never Want To Feel This Way Again!
What a B*tch!
You Can’t Be Happy Unless They...
Advice Your Enemies Should Take
How They Must Change
Who Pisses You Off
Why You Argue With What Is
What You Must Do In Order To Be Happier
How To Make Happiness Lists
Happiness IS Success
When You Can’t Find Your Happy
Solving For Unhappiness
The Solution To Unhappiness
Are Your Relationships Dramatic?
Is Your Life Prioritized?
Are You Living Your Purpose?
Are You Fulfilled?
Am I Devoted To What Really Matters?
Is Your Life Frequently Enjoyable?
Are You Frequently Satisfied, Successful, Peaceful, Or Delightfully Surprised?
Do You Only Say YES To What Really Matters To You?
Are You Lit Up?
How To Contribute In Your Relationships
How To Grow In Your Relationships
How To Create Loving Connections
How To Feel Significant In Your Relationships
How To Create Variety In Your Relationships
How To Create Certainty In Your Relationships
How To Stop Creating Drama To Meet Your Needs
How To Create An Inspiring Habit
How To Re-Inspire Your Life
How To Prepare By Resting
How To Take Out The Old
No More Yesses!
What To Do When You Feel Off
How To Tell If Your Relationships Are Obligatory
What You Won’t and What You Must
Their Commitment Is Your Obligation
Balance Never Works - You Must Prioritize
The 4 Questions You Must Answer To Intoxicate Your Life
How to Garnish Your Life With Enjoyment
How To Sweeten Your Life
How To Be Inspired and Devoted
Why You DON’T Have To Be Determined or Disciplined
How Seeking More Dilutes Your Joy
How Shoulds Dilute Your Joy
How Obligations Dilute Your Joy
How Busy Work Dilutes Joy
How You’re Diluting Your Joy
Why You Must Have Happiness AND Joy
What Joy and Happiness Look Like
What You Create With Happiness Or Joy
How You Act When You’re Hustling To Be Happy
Chasing Happiness At The Expense Of Your Joy
How To Want What You Have
Screw Happiness - Get Your Jollies With Joy
When You Hate Doing Something But Love Having Done It
How To Get Your Spirit Returned
Empty Nest Grief
What Prevents You From Grieving
Grief and Feeling Lost
Grief and Longing
Grief and Loss
Why We Grieve
Only Your First Name Matters
Why You Can’t Trust Your Intuition Yet
Why You Feel Deprived
Why You Feel Dissatisfied
Why You Feel Defeated
Why You Feel Discouraged
Why You Feel Desperate
More Special or As Special
Collections or Clutter?
Are You Being Persuaded or Manipulated?
Pressured To Predict the Future
Pressured To Act Immediately
Pressured To Offer Empathy
Pressured To Know What You Want
Pressured To Prove Something
Pressured To Know Exactly Where You’re Going
Pressured To Speak Up
Pressured To Be Opinionated
Pressuring Yourself To Understand
How To Manage Your Inner Critic
Why It’s Always Their Fault
When You’re Guilt-Ridden
Why You Strive To Be Perfect
Why You Feel Inadequate
Why You’re Restless
How To Feel Afraid While You Make Decisions
Help Is Only Helpful If It Helps
What To Get, Finish, Prep, or Clean
The Tasks That Only You Can Only Do
What You Can and Can’t Do Quickly
Automatic Pilot vs. Decision Overload
Decide the Minimum Amount You Will Always Do
Keep Your Limits Bright
Boundaries Are Always Your Responsibility
What’s Yours and What Isn’t
You Need To Contribute
You Need To Make Continuous Progress
You Need Connection
You Need To Feel Significant
You Need Variety
You Need Certainty
You Must Meet These 6 Needs
When Expectations Aren’t Reasonable
Why You Doubt Yourself Or Are Suspicious Of Others
Life Coaches Don’t Give Advice
You Must Say NO If You Can’t Sustain or Maintain It
Decide What Role You’re Willing to Play At Your Special Event
3 Things You’re Doing to Screw Up Relationships
How To Escape the Madness of May
Stop Focusing on Stupid Details
Stop Dramatizing Your Child’s Education
Why Teachers Are Burnt Out
When You Say YES But Want to Say NO
When You’re Ashamed of, Guilty About, or Uncomfortable With Your Capacity
What I Refuse To Put Up With
What I’m Sure Of
Why We’re Afraid to Tell the Truth
When You Don’t Have Time To Change
When You’re Overdoing It All
When You’re Reactive
When You’re Cluttered With Too Much
What To Do When You’re In Limbo
Coaching Is All About Starting About Where You Are
An Emotional Blame Game
When Your Friendship Circles Shrink
When The Sh*t Hits the Fan After You Decide
Dharma Me, Baby...
How To Detach
How To Desire Intentionally
Screw Easy - Aim for Easeful
The Real Bitch About Karma
How To Give Without Sacrificing Yourself
How To Imagine What’s Possible For You
Achieving Spiritual Success
What Really Grounds You
What Shadows Your Purpose
When To Elongate/When To Stabilize
You’re Either Preparing For Your Future Or Living It Now
Your Feelings Are True - Not Factual
You Can Make Decisions While You’re Confused
Celebrating While Comparing or Competing
Making Actionable Decisions
Stop Waiting to Iterate
Grieving Better, Different, and More
A Caffeinated Question
Have To’s and Want To’s
Why You Don’t Need to Ditch Your Shadows
Why You Must Receive and Celebrate
You Must Desire Different
Pleasantly Surprised
Before and After
Intoxicate Me!
Feeling Trapped
Feeling Pitied
Feeling Like The Bad Guy
Feeling Like You Can’t Be Honest
Feeling Invisible or Ignored
Celebrating Our 1st Year Anniversary!
Feeling Lonely
Feeling Like You Don’t Have a Voice
Feeling Unloved
Feeling Disrespected
Feeling Blamed
Feeling Judged
Feeling Scolded
Feeling Unheard
Feeling Powerless
Feeling Excluded
Expectations Are Not Standards
Repelling Others By Being Needy or Clingy
Repelling Others By Over-Reacting
Repelling Others By Being Overly-Sensitive
Repelling Others With A Victim Mentality
Repelling Others With Negativity
Are You Motivated By Potential Loss or Gain?
Making Arbitrary Deadlines Real
Exfoliating Your Skin And Life
You Must Have a Third Place
When You Self-Sabotage By Isolating
When Rebellion is Self-Sabotage
How To Stop Your Critic From Sabotaging You
When Caretaking Is Self-Sabotage
How We Sabotage Ourselves With Control
We Indulge and Self-Sabotage
When Your Parts Sabotage You
Being Right At Your Own Expense
Why I’m Not Renewing My Certification
Anger Fuels Action
When We Juxtapose Ourselves
One Size Never Fits All
Stop Tattling and Canceling
Start Where You Are
Celebrating Progress
Introverted or Socially Anxious?
When You’re Triggered In Social Settings
The Most Difficult First
When You Don’t Get Equal Air Time
Having Your Back Before, During, and After Stressful Situations
Your Learning Contracts
What You Keep and Store
Where You Must Have Bright Lines
Tackling Unfinished Business on Mondays
When Labels Suck
When Your To-Do List’s Overwhelming
You Care What Others Think
But I Like This More
It’s Not OK To Treat Others Like Sh*t
It’s Not OK To Treat Yourself Like Sh*t
When To Accept Your Fate
Insufficient Success
You Need To Assess Your Progress
You Need A Different Environment
You Need To Create A Product For Your Audience
You Need Different Processes
You Need New Content
Compacting Your Different
Underachievement Caused By The Wrong Definition of Success
Underachievement Caused By Lack of Support
Fear of Rejection and Being Different
Buying Back Time Overcomes Underachievement
Underachievement Caused By Arbitrary Expectations
Underachievement Caused By Neglecting Your Learning Style
Too Easy Or Too Difficult
Underachieving Perfectionists
Why You Underachieve
You Must Have White Space
Contain That Sh*t
Feeling Inferior In Comparison to Them
When You’re Not Willing To
Decluttering Is Not Organizing
When You Assume Future Needs
Uncontrollable Clutter
Overwhelm Guilt
Temporary Regret
How We Achieve
Doing Hard Work
The Chaos of Change