All Episodes

#414 Emotional Histories

#413 Best Mid-Life Coach Advice – Brooke, Jane, and Tanya

#412 Developing Charity, The Pure Love of Christ

#411 When Staying in Your Own Lane Isn't Getting You What You Want

#410 What Staying in Your Own Lane Looks Like

#409 Greatest Hits - Staying in Your Own Lane

#408 When You Get Triggered

#407 10 Tips for a More Fulfilling Marriage

#406 Lessons Learned from Our Fourth Year of Marriage

#405 How to Create a Partnership

#404 People Over Problems and Processes

#403 The Path to What's Possible

#402 A Better Way to Validate

#401 Judgment and Grace

#400 Honest, Equal, Intimate: Keys to a Stronger Marriage

#399 Adam and Eve and the Partnership of Marriage, part 2

#398 Adam and Eve and the Partnership of Marriage, part 1

#397 The Relationship Bucket

#396 How to Have an Easy Relationship

#395 You Can't Make Them Love You

#394 How to Complain Better

#393 The Paralyzing Pursuit of Perfectionism with Cathi Sessions, LCSW

#392 Vulnerability and Validation

#391 The Christmas Adventure Starring Calm and Chaos

#390 You Can't Fill Their Bucket

#389 The Partnership of Marriage

#388 Is it I?

#387 The Spiritual Nature of Sexuality with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

#386 Overcoming Resentment

#385 Self-Forgiveness

#384 Relational Living

#383 Greatest Hits – Charity is the Antidote

#382 Greatest Hits – Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors

#381 Psychological Boundaries

#380 Boundary Guilt

#379 How Coaching Changed My Life with Lisa

#378 What Can Happen When We Don't Set Boundaries

#377 What Is Your Intention?

#376 The Misery of Uncertainty

#375 Sense of Self and the Relationship Circle

#374 Greatest Hits - Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#373 Greatest Hits – Safety in the Relationship Circle

#372 Greatest Hits - Why Our Relationships Need Validation

#371 Greatest Hits – The Relationship Circle

#370 Conscious Conflict

#369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions

#368 Stay Out of Other People's Relationships

#367 Loving Your Adult Children Better with Brooke Oniki

#366 The Art of Not Negotiating

#365 Villains, Victims, and Heroes

#364 Relationship Neglect

#363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles with Jane Copier

#362 A Luxurious Life, part 2

#361 A Luxurious Life, part 1

#360 What Men Wish Women Knew About Men's Sexuality with Dan Purcell

#359 10 Ways to Be a Safer Spouse

#358 Feelings are Information, and Information is Power

#357 How to Be More Understanding

#356 How Coaching Changed My Life with Stacey

#355 Understanding Menopause with Dr. Taylor Hahn

#354 Figuring Out Fun

#353 Creating Confidence

#352 Lessons Learned in Our Third Year of Marriage

#351 Grace, Shame, and Letting Yourself Off the Hook

#350 Getting Back Up After Divorce

#349 It's Okay If People Don't Like You

#348 Entitled Expectation

#347 The Self Care of Relationship Repair

#346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding

#345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione

#344 Are You a Safe Place for Vulnerability?

#343 Greatest Hits - Why Vulnerability Matters

#342 What Does Vulnerability Look Like?

#341 Choosing To Be All-In

#340 The Mid-Life 'Now What?' with Angela Ashurst-McGee

#339 Greatest Hits - Happy No-Drama Holidays To You

#338 Greatest Hits - 6 Tips For a Happier Holiday

#337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality

#336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality

#335 Sense of Self and Parenting

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage

#333 Sense of Self and Dating

#332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head

#331 Sense of Self

#330 Stuck to Your Ex

#329 Five Strategies for a Rotten Marriage

#328 Divorce Indecision

#327 Learning to Love Your Human Self

#326 Stop Being Right, Start Being Safe

#325 Greatest Hits - Overflow

#324 Greatest Hits - The Tolerable Life

#323 Greatest Hits - Taking Risks and Becoming

#322 Greatest Hits - Stuck in 'I Don't Know'

#321 Clean Love and Relationships

#320 Greatest Hits - Clean Love

#319 Get Ready to Rock the Boat

#318 The Challenge of Parenting Adult Children

#317 Fawning – What Is It, Why Do We Do It, and How To Stop

#316 Confidence To Make Tough Decisions

#315 Mid-Life Crisis? Yes, Please!

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard

#313 Divorce Is Not the End, Part 2

#312 Divorce Is Not the End, Part 1

#311 The Business and the Personal of Relationships

#310 Understanding Our Adaptive Child - 'Us- by Terrence Real

#309 What An Equal Relationship Looks Like

#308 Stop Dabbling and Start Doing

#307 Curiosity, Not Criticism

#306 The Problem with Happiness

#305 When We Don't Feel 'Good Enough'

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

#303 The Thought Model Reteach

#302 Gottman's Four Horsemen – Destroying Relationships Has Never Been So Easy

#301 The Primitive Brain Problem

#300 Lessons Learned From the Second Year of Our Second Marriage

#299 Love Is Not a Reward

#298 Friendship In Marriage

#297 Why Can't We All Just Get Along?

#296 Creating More Safety in Your Relationship

#295 Safety in The Relationship Circle

#294 The 90-day Relationship How To

#293 Dating in Mid-life

#292 Healing and Moving Forward After Divorce

#291 Divorce and Self-Worth

#290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships

#289 Why Our Relationships Need Validation

#288 When You're In a Tough Marriage

#287 Equality In Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth

#286 How Miscommunication Destroys Relationships

#285 Trust & Betrayal

#284 Why Vulnerability Matters

#283 How To Be A Better Partner

#282 What We Are Really Fighting About

#281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

#280 Living in Alignment

#279 When You're Not Equally Yoked

#278 My Coaching Journey

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility

#276 When You Don't Like Change

#275 The Problem With Being Good

#274 When We Behave Badly

#273 The Love Language Problem

#272 Stay In Your Own Lane

#271 Equal Partnerships

#270 People Pleasing and Kindness – What's the Difference?

#269 Fine – The 4-Letter F-Word

#268 Drama Response

#267 Should & Shame

#266 When It's Not Your Fault

#265 Greatest Hits - What Are You Sorry For?

#264 Greatest Hits - Still Being a Martyr

#263 Greatest Hits - Being a Martyr

#262 Greatest Hits - The Law of the Lid

#261 No More Growing Old Gracefully with Kwavi Agbeyegbe

#260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability

#259 The Sometimes Space

#258 Communication That Connects

#257 Other People's Agency

#256 Advocating for Yourself with Samantha Nielsen

#255 What Is Gaslighting?

#254 When You Feel Resentment

#253 How To Get Motivated

#252 How to Courage Up in the Face of Fear

#251 Contention is a Choice

#250 Being a Victim

#249 Finding Rest

#248 Lessons from the First Year of Our Second Marriage

#247 The Value in Knowing Our Value

#246 Self Coaching Strategies

#245 Transactional Relationships

#244 The Relationship Circle

#243 Having More Honest Communication

#242 Circling Back Around

#241 Forgiving Others

#240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

#239 How to Own Your Own

#238 Overflow

#237 You'll Never Be Enough For Your Children

#236 None of Your Business

#235 The Beautiful Mess

#234 Forgiveness and Compassion

#233 Having Tough Discussions

#232 Feeling Empowered

#231 Other People's Pain

#230 People Pleasing

#229 How To Make Better Decisions

#228 Our Relationship Rules

#227 Feeling Obligated

#226 The Best Is Yet To Come

#225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment

#224 Compassion and Curiosity

#223 It Really Is All About You

#222 When You Are Considering Divorce

#221 How To Handle Your Friend's Divorce

#220 Being Low Maintenance

#219 The Truth About the Struggle

#218 Honest Relationships

#217 Self-Respect and Being Wrong

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships

#215 Being Seen and Being Heard

#214 How To Stop Being 'The Fixer'

#213 Thriving Post Divorce - An Interview With Jody Moore

#212 Healing Your Disconnected Relationships

#211 Why We Do This Work

#210 Greatest Hits - Love It Before You Leave It

#209 Greatest Hits - Are You Motivated By Love or Fear?

#208 Greatest Hits - The Cost of Being Right

#207 Greatest Hits - The Right Path

#206 Greatest Hits - Clean Love

#205 Greatest Hits - How To Coach Yourself

#204 Being a Peacemaker

#203 Cleaning Up Your Apology

#202 Pain, Peace, and Parenting Disengaged Adult Children

#201 The Tolerable Life

#200 My Most Life-Changing, Life Coaching Lessons

#199 The Power To Be

#198 My Last 90 Day Relationship

#197 Connecting Through Conflict

#196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle

#195 What Are You Sorry For?

#194 When You Feel Sad, or Bad, or Mad

#193 No Back-Burner Issues

#192 Facts and Thoughts

#191 Why We Seek To Control Others

#190 Protective Walls

#189 Patterns of Behavior

#188 A Safe Space For Awareness

#187 Growing Up After Divorce

#186 Are You Committed or Just Interested?

#185 The Impact of Personal Growth

#184 Excited About Middle-Age

#183 Taking Risks and Becoming

#182 How Our 'Wayward' Children Bless Our lives

#181 6 Tips For A Happier Holiday

#180 Better Relationships With Our Adult Children

#179 Being Kind to Yourself

#178 The Importance of "I"

#177 Change Made Easy

#176 Stuck In 'I Don't Know'

#175 Happy No-Drama Holidays To You

#174 Better Boundaries

#173 A Space For Grace

#172 Peace Misunderstood

#171 Growth Is A Skill

#170 Rewriting Your Divorce Story

#169 What Don't You Want?

#168 Accepting Compliments

#167 I Didn't Sign Up For This

#166 Imaginary Friends

#165 I Would Never Act That Way

#164 How Being In Control Is Destroying Your Life

#163 Difficult People

#162 My 90-day Relationship

#161 Developing More Intimacy In Your Relationships

#160 Being Single and Being Lonely

#159 When Your Brain Lies To You

#158 Sometimes Dysfunction Is Easier

#157 Friend-Zoning Your Adult Children

#156 The Benefits of Being Wrong

#155 How To Forgive Anyone

#154 Rethinking Kindness

#153 The Manual

#152 Victim or Hero?

#151 Connection

#150 Living In Possibility

#149 The Importance of Discomfort

#148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships

#147 Hijacked By Your Emotions

#146 Emotional Spring Cleaning

#145 How to Get What You Want

#144 Happy Being Unhappy

#143 Stuck in Perfectionism

#142 Pay Attention

#141 Coaching and Counseling. What's the Difference?

#140 Still Being A Martyr

#139 Being A Martyr

#138 Intuitive Eating with Wendy Lee Johnson

#137 Not Enough? Not True.

#136 How Coaching Helps

#135 Why Is That?

#134 What About Pornography?

#133 How to Accomplish Your New Year's Resolutions

#132 How to Have a Happy New Year

#131 The Gift of Life

#130 Exploring Our Darkness

#129 Parenting Discomfort

#128 Growing Up Into Middle-Age

#127 Our Worth & Our Works

#126 Abdicating Our Emotional Responsibility

#125 Love It Before You Leave It

#124 The Curse of the White Knuckles

#123 Your Thoughts About You

#122 Your Story About You

#121 Self-Certain

#120 Are You Motivated By Love or Fear?

#119 FAQs About My Divorce

#118 100 % Responsibility

#117 Anti-Responsibility

#116 The Peace of Imperfection

#115 Better Questions Create Better Answers

#114 Confidence

#113 Self-Acceptance

#112 Interview with Beth Hillman, Coach for Parents of Struggling Teens

#111 The Checklist Relationship

#110 The Cost of Being Right

#109 Your Reasons Matter. . . A Lot

#108 Spiritual Submission & Our Self-Worth

#107 Why Our Thoughts Are So Important

#106 Fierce Self-Love

#105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present & Future

#104 Cultivating Self-Love

Bonus Episode - Supporting Our Sisters with Anita Miller

#103 The Case for Curiosity

#102 The New Normal

#101 Conscious Unbelieving

#100 Lessons Learned Through 99 Podcasts

#99 Parenting Adult Children

#98 Mom Guilt

#97 Why The Thought Model Matters

#96 Understanding The Thought Model

#95 Resilience

#94 The Right Path

#93 Finding Fulfillment

#92 Clean Love

#91 Personal Responsibility

#90 Divorce Trauma

#89 Mid-Life Teenage Angst

#88 Marriage Mending with Jane Copier

#87 The Law of the Lid

#86 Is Self-Care Being Selfish?

#85 Emotional Tones

#84 Creating Energy

#83 Self-Honesty

#82 Courage and Fear

#81 How To Be More Patient

#80 What A Girl Wants

#79 Gratitude

#78 Playing Small

#77 Other People's Opinions

#76 Finding My Wings

#75 Emotional Adulthood

#74 Money Management

#73 Time Management

#72 Unconditional Self-Love

#71 Contribution

#70 Self Reflection and Self Coaching

#69 Internal Control

#68 Taking Action

#67 Buffering

#66 Emotional Balance

#65 Future Plans

#64 Mental Health

#63 Rejection and Approval

#62 The Value of Discomfort

#61 Charity is the Antidote

#60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors

#59 My Life, My Creation, My Responsibility

#58 The Brain and the Mind

#57 The Ripple Effect

#56 Respect

#55 Don't Should Yourself

#54 Finding Faith In Our Future

#53 Finding Peace With Your Past

#52 Healing

#51 The Silent Treatment

#50 The River of Misery

#49 Fixing Yourself

#48 Love Is All You Need

#47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries

#46 Choosing to Love Yourself

#45 Grown Up Thoughts

#44 How to Find Balance

#43 The Three Degrees of Intention

#42 Change That Sticks

#41 Correcting and Connecting

#40 The Secret to the Universe

#39 Guilt & Shame

#38 Love Is Minding Your Own Business

#37 Self-Care

#36 Belonging & Fitting In

#35 Self-Esteem

#34 Self-Compassion

#33 Forgiving Yourself

#32 My Divorce Decision

#31 Choosing Your Life

#30 Processing Pain

#29 Validation

#28 How To Coach Yourself

#27 Healthier Relationships

#26 Taking Offense

#25 Getting Unstuck

#24 The Blessing of Adversity

#23 Divorce and the Kids Part 2

#22 Divorce and the Kids Part 1

#21 Letting Go of the Past

#20 Blame & Responsibility

#19 Storytelling

#18 Overwhelm

#17 Goaling

#16 Inner Circle

#15 Forgiveness & Trust

#14 Nice & Kind

#13 Being Content

#12 Mindset

#11 I Am Enough

#10 Unconditional Love

#9 Boundaries Part 3

#8 Boundaries Part 2

#7 Boundaries Part 1

#6 Happy All the Time

#5 Learning to Listen

#4 How to Change

#3 Resolving Conflict

#2 Control Issues

#1 This is Us