Authenticity Lab

I won Professor of the Year, and the moment they called my name, I got excited. Then immediately embarrassed about being excited.I used to think that was humility. It's not.In this episode I break down what's actually happening when we downplay our wins. It's not modesty. It's self-protection. And the difference matters.I also share the moment two days after the ceremony when my students decorated my entire classroom. Balloons, flowers, confetti, and a book with handwritten notes from every one of them. In that room, the voice that tells me to stay small didn't show up at all.That told me everything I needed to know.If you've ever won something and immediately tried to shrink from it, this one is for you.Be bold. Be curious. Be you.If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it.Grab the Life Experiments Mini-Course. Email 'course' to [email protected] bold. Be curious. Be you.Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

I was on stage. The crowd was dancing. I was living my dream...And I was having a silent panic attack.Not one person in that room knew.I kept playing because the songs were second nature.I stepped toward the speaker so all I could hear was my guitarbecause I could hear every noise in the barand my nervous system was coming apart.That moment taught me something I hadn't been willing to say out loud:the feeling of being trapped in something you worked hard to buildhappens more than anyone admits.We don't talk about it because we told everyone how much we wanted it.We call it a bad day.We hustle harder.We try to make something work that our body already knows is not working.I have ADHD.In that moment, I was completely overstimulated.For years, alcohol had been doing a job I didn't know it was doing —numbing the noise, buffering the overwhelm.When I stopped drinking, I felt everything.That panic attack was not a breakdown.It was data.Here's how I used the CEO method:Calibrate → pay attention to the signal, not override it.Experiment → test one small variableOptimize → reshape the dream to fit what actually works for you.The answer wasn't to quit music.I needed a different room.I found a blues residency here in Kansas City.Every other week, smaller crowd, people who love original live music, good food, good company.I don't have to manage my nervous system.I just play.That is what listening to yourself actually looks like.---00:00 The panic attack on stage01:03 Going back to the moment02:07 The ADHD reveal and what sobriety changed02:34 Why we don't talk about feeling trapped in a dream03:29 What you do the moment you notice the signal04:13 Calibrate: paying attention instead of overriding04:41 I needed a different room — the Kansas City blues residency05:20 Optimize and the closing question---🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn't something to solve.It's something to discover.Subscribe so you don't miss the next experiment.Share this one with someone who is hustling hard to make something work that doesn't feel right anymore.Be bold.Be curious.Be you.✨ Want the free mini-course? Email "COURSE" to [email protected]📓 Get the 100 Days journal and album: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the show on Patreon: www.patreon.com/kelseymileshttps://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

My band couldn't get Jolene to lock in.Drums and guitars were off.The tempo kept drifting.My scientist brain was running through every possible fix.And then my bass player started noodling a reggae groove in the corner.It was annoying.Then it was interesting.Then it was the answer.This episode is about what happens when the problem you think you haveisn't actually broken.It's an opening.Not every wall you hit is asking you to push harder.Some of them are asking you to lean back,get curious,and stay open to something you couldn't see while you were forcing it.That's the artist skill.Not feelings over logic.Not "just follow your heart."I'll be honest, feelings alone won't pay your bills. I never feel like paying mine.It's about knowing when your critical thinking has hit its ceilingand your creative openness is the next move.Optimize: staying open to what actually works, not just what you planned for.Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn't something to solve.It's something to discover.00:00 The Jolene rehearsal story01:21 The bass player's reggae groove02:26 What happened when they stopped trying to fix it03:20 When hustle isn't the answer04:30 The artist self vs. the scientific mind05:26 What optimizing actually means06:19 The bills line — why this isn't just "follow your feelings"07:03 What you miss when everything is task and efficiency08:05 How curiosity becomes the creative sparkBe bold.Be curious.Be you.✨ Want a free mini-course on thinking like a scientist and creating like an artist? Email "COURSE" to [email protected]📓 Grab the 100 Days journal and album at www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the show and get bonus content at www.patreon.com/kelseymileshttps://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

You’re not stuck because you can’t decide.You’re stuck because of one of two things:You either don’t have enough dataoryou don’t trust yourself to handle what happens after you choose.And most people never figure out which one it is.You’ve probably tried everything:pros and cons listsasking your friendsgoing back and forth in your headAnd at some point, someone tells you: “Just make a decision.”That advice only works if you trust yourself after the decision.If you don’t… you just end up back in the same loop.In this episode of Authenticity Lab, we break that cycle using the CEO Method:Calibrate → Do you actually need more data, or are you chasing certainty?Experiment → Set a clear action. A conversation. A deadline. Or make the decision.Optimize → Treat the outcome like data, not a verdict.This isn’t about making the “right” decision.It’s about building the ability to move forward and trust yourself no matter what happens next.Because once you trust yourself, decisions get lighter.If you’ve been stuck on the same decision for weeks, this episode will help you move.00:00 Why "just commit" advice falls short01:45 The real reason you can't decide03:10 Do you need more data, or are you chasing certainty?04:55 The CEO Method for decisions: Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize07:20 What happens when you stop needing to be right🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover.If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too.Be bold.Be curious.Be you.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

You know that feeling when you say something in a conversation or make a decision and then later, you start replaying it in your head.Did I say the wrong thing?Was that the right choice?Should I have done something different?Most advice will tell you to stop second-guessing.To “trust yourself,” move on, and don’t look back.But what if second-guessing isn’t actually the problem?In this episode, I’m breaking down why you second-guess yourself and how this habit might actually be trying to help you, not hurt you.Because there are two very different ways to second-guess yourself:One that keeps you stuck in anxiety, overthinking, and self-judgmentAnd one that helps you reflect, learn, and build real self-trust.And the difference between the two?It has nothing to do with the decision…It has everything to do with whether you trust yourself after you make one.We’ll walk through:-Why second-guessing happens (and what it’s actually trying to do)-The difference between rumination and reflection-How self-trust changes everything-How to use second-guessing in a way that actually moves you forwardThis is part of a bigger conversation about self-trust, decision-making, and navigating uncertainty.If you’ve ever felt stuck in your head after making a decision this episode is for you.This episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why can't I make a decision?🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve. It’s something to discover.If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too.🎧 Run your next life experiment.Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time.Be bold.Be curious.Be you.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

How to stop caring what people think… isn’t actually the solution. Here’s what works instead.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation and replayed everything you said, wondering how you came across or what someone thinks about you, this episode is for you.Most people try to solve this by asking, “How do I stop caring what people think?”But that’s the wrong question.In this episode, I walk you through a different approach.One that doesn’t require you to shut down your ability to care, but instead helps you rebalance it.Caring what people think is not a weakness. It’s a strength.The problem is when all of that care is directed outward, and you lose connection to what you think.You don’t need to care less what people think.You need to care more about what you think.We’ll explore:- how to recognize when this has gone too far- why this creates disconnection from yourself- a simple way to start rebuilding your own voiceThis episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why do I second-guess everything?🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover.If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too.Be bold.Be curious.Be you.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong… like you’re going to be “found out”… you’ve probably felt this before.We call it imposter syndrome.Most people think it shows up when you’re in a new room, but what happens when you start feeling that way in places that used to feel familiar?In this episode, I share my experience of feeling like an imposter in music and then unexpectedly feeling like an imposter in science, even though I had years of experience there.That led me to a realization:Sometimes you feel like an imposter because the room is unfamiliar.But sometimes you feel like an imposter because you are unfamiliar to yourself.In this episode we explore: Why this feeling shows up in both new and familiar environments What’s happening when your identity starts to shift How to move from self-judgment into curiosity A simple life experiment to help you navigate it If you’ve been in that in-between space where something feels off, this episode will help you understand what’s going on. It's time to run your next life experiment.Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time.Life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover.Be bold.Be curious.Be you.

Have you ever noticed that the deeper you go into a subject, the less confident you sometimes feel?In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores a surprising pattern that shows up in highly intelligent and thoughtful people.The more knowledgeable you become about a topic, the more aware you also become of what you don’t know. At the same time, your standards rise. When those two things happen together, confidence can dip.That dip in confidence doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.It means you’re leveling up.This pattern is related to something psychologists call the Dunning–Kruger effect, where beginners can feel very confident while people with deeper knowledge become more aware of complexity.Through stories from the classroom and from her journey as a musician and scientist, Kelsey shares why this experience is common among curious minds and how to move through it by thinking like a scientist and creating like an artist.If you’ve ever struggled with confidence while learning something new, this episode will change how you see it.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment.You build self-trust one small move at a time.Be bold. Be curious. Be you.✨ Want to try this method for yourself?Email “COURSE” to [email protected] I’ll send you the free Life Experiments mini-course so you can begin on your own.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

If you’ve ever said, “I overthink everything,” this episode is for you.In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles breaks down why overthinking happens, what rumination actually is, and how to stop feeling stuck in repetitive thoughts. Overthinking isn’t the problem. Directionless thinking is.You’ll learn:• The difference between overthinking and rumination• Why your brain acts like a nonstop hypothesis generator• The two types of overthinking (future simulation vs. past rumination)• How overthinking turns into shame and identity collapse• How to pivot from paralysis into small, powerful experimentsYour brain is designed to simulate possible futures and replay past outcomes. That’s adaptive. But without a stopping rule, it creates stuckness. The goal isn’t to think less. It’s to think in a direction that creates momentum.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:Calibrate what you’re actually overthinkingDesign a small experimentGather data instead of sitting in “what if” landBuild self-trust one small action at a timeIf you’re feeling stuck in overthinking, this will give you the next step.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment.You build self-trust one small move at a time.Be bold. Be curious. Be you.✨ Want to try this method for yourself?Email “COURSE” to [email protected] I’ll send you the free Life Experiments mini-course so you can begin on your own.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Why do I feel behind in life?If you’ve been comparing your progress, your career, or your relationships to some imagined timeline, you’re not alone. Almost everyone carries a quiet belief that they should be further by now.But feeling “behind” isn’t actually a feeling. It’s a measurement.In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores why comparison creates the illusion of being late, how our brains build unrealistic benchmarks, and how to separate distortion from genuine desire. You’ll learn how to recalibrate the thought instead of silencing it and how to design one small experiment that builds momentum instead of shame.If you’ve ever felt stuck because you think you’re behind, this episode will help you see what’s really going on.Want the free Life Experiments mini-course?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send it to you.

Is it normal to talk to yourself?If you’ve ever wondered whether your inner voice means something is wrong with you, this episode is for you.Talking to yourself is not instability. It’s a regulatory tool your brain uses to create certainty and predict outcomes. The real question isn’t whether it’s normal — it’s what that voice is saying and how you relate to it.In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores:• Why we have inner dialogue• The difference between narrator, coach, and inner critic• How judgment becomes identity• Why harsh self-talk is often a learned coping pattern• A simple experiment to help you build a healthier inner voiceIf you’ve ever felt attacked by your own thoughts, you are not broken. You’re human.And just to say — I’m not a therapist. I’m sharing what’s worked for me and how I think about it. If your inner voice feels overwhelming or scary, it’s always a good idea to talk to a trained professional.Want the free Life Experiments mini-course?Email “COURSE” [email protected] I’ll send it to you.You build self-trust one small experiment at a time.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon: www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymilesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymilesWebsite: https://kelseymiles.com 

Why do I feel stuck in my life?If you’ve been asking that question lately, this episode is for you.Feeling stuck in life is not a personality flaw. It’s a signal. In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles breaks down why you feel stuck, why “believe in yourself” advice doesn’t land when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop spiraling into self-judgment.You’ll learn:• The real reason you feel stuck after hitting a big goal• Why toxic positivity makes things worse• How to stop catastrophizing• The difference between motion and momentum• A simple framework to build self-trust• One small experiment you can run this week to create clarityIf you’re feeling lost after graduation, stuck in your career, overwhelmed by options, or unsure of your purpose, this episode will help you get unstuck without blowing up your life.This is not about quitting your job or moving across the world. It’s about calibration, clarity, and taking one small step forward.Self-trust is built one experiment at a time.This podcast is not about fixing you.It’s about building inner authority in a world that constantly tells you who you should be.New episodes every Tuesday.Subscribe if you're ready to:• Build self-trust• Navigate uncertainty• Stop people pleasing• Regulate your nervous system• Create a life aligned with who you actually are#SelfTrust #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalResilience #Authenticity #ThrivingInUncertaintyIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe and share it with someone navigating uncertainty right now.🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authenticity-lab/id1787198164🎧 Listen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/18P2557a0iIAnDccP53Xlq?si=ea14c3eeb05a4ae4📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymilesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymilesWebsite: https://kelseymiles.com

If life feels uncertain lately and you’ve been second-guessing yourself, this episode is for you.When overachieving, people pleasing, and “I can handle this” coping strategies stop working, most of us panic. We fight, flee, fawn, or freeze and then assume something is wrong with us.There isn’t.In this season opener of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles (PhD chemist and songwriter) introduces a science-based approach to building self-trust and emotional resilience in times of change. Using the CEO Method — Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize — you’ll learn how to expand your capacity, regulate your nervous system, and trust yourself again.This podcast is not about fixing you.It’s about building inner authority in a world that constantly tells you who you should be.New episodes every Tuesday.Subscribe if you're ready to:• Build self-trust• Navigate uncertainty• Stop people pleasing• Regulate your nervous system• Create a life aligned with who you actually are#SelfTrust #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalResilience #Authenticity #ThrivingInUncertaintyIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe and share it with someone navigating uncertainty right now.🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/authenticity-lab/id1787198164🎧 Listen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/18P2557a0iIAnDccP53Xlq?si=ea14c3eeb05a4ae4📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymilesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymilesWebsite: https://kelseymiles.com

What if your inner critic isn’t the enemy?In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores five distinct voices of the inner critic: the Perfectionist, the Catastrophizer, the People-Pleaser, the Comparer, and the Taskmaster. You’ll learn what each one is trying to protect, the hidden skill it carries, and how recognizing those skills can help you stop fighting yourself and start thriving.Instead of trying to silence your inner critic, you’ll discover how to listen to it like a scientist: observe, collect data, and identify the need underneath the noise. This simple calibration step turns shame into information and helps you reclaim the driver’s seat in your own mind.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why silencing your inner critic doesn’t work and what to do insteadThe five main critic voices, their core needs, and their hidden strengthsHow to name, note, and claim your critic’s skill so it serves you, not rules youA short calibration exercise you can use anytime self-doubt gets loud🎧 Tune in to Authenticity Lab to uncover the science and self-awareness behind your self-talk, and get ready for next week’s episode on boundaries and how to give your inner critic a clear, supportive role.Connect with me: email me: [email protected]://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

When your inner critic gets loud the moment you start choosing differently, here’s a simple way to take back the wheel. In this episode, I share a real moment my inner critic shouted “failure,” then show how the line “the story I’m telling myself is…” (a framing popularized by Brené Brown) helps you label the narrative, add one counter-story that could also be true, and decide a healthier next step.You’ll learnWhy it spikes during change (perfectionism’s boomerang).Exactly how to use “the story I’m telling myself is…” to label the narrative, not the truth.How to craft a counter-story to widen your choices.The biggest pitfall: arguing with the critic (it feeds it) and what to do instead.This episode is part of the CALIBRATE arc in my CEO framework (Calibrate → Experiment → Optimize).Connect with me: [email protected] • kelseymiles.comEducational only; not therapy.

In this short calibration session, you’ll act as a scientist in your own life: pick one moment (judgment, trigger, or shut-down), notice where it lands in your body, listen to the younger part that’s hiding, and capture exactly what it says without forcing a fix. You’ll leave with one clear story line and one healthy next step.⬇️ Download the free guided worksheet (PDF): “Your 15-Minute Shadow Work Practice”👉 https://kelseymiles.kit.com/1804cb87adPrompts in this guided practice:Pick one focus: Judgment / Trigger / Numb-Shut-Down (briefly describe)Body check (before/after): what I noticed & where (head/throat/chest/stomach/other)What was said (verbatim if possible)If I pictured a younger me: age & what they said (optional)After-care: choose one (short walk, tea, warm meal, text a friend, pet time)What you’ll needA quiet spot, ~15 minutes, and something to write with.Return to this practice when needed. SafetyPlease do this when you’re feeling grounded and unhurried. If discomfort rises above 7/10, pause and return later (or do it with a licensed professional). Educational only; not medical or mental-health advice.FrameworkThis practice sits in CALIBRATE (Calibrate → Experiment → Optimize).I would love to hear from you. [email protected] | kelseymiles.comWant to reclaim YOUR voice? My guided journal + album helped me and others do just than. Get your copy of I Am at www.kelseymiles.com/100daysShoutout to my Patreon members www.patreon.com/kelseymiles who support all of my creative endeavorsConnect with Kelsey: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mileskels/​​​Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mileskels/​​​https://kelseymiles.com​​

Shadow work isn’t “fixing yourself.” It’s creating a safe space to hear the parts you’ve been hiding. In this episode, I break it down clearly, guide you through a short practice, and cover the most common mistakes (plus the fool-proof way to avoid them).What you’ll learnShadow = the parts you learned to hide (feelings, needs, traits, memories). Shadow work = the process of exploring these hidden parts Healing with shadow work = increasing your capacity, allowing the unconscious to become conscious, so your shadows don't rule your life. -How to know it’s time: triggers, spikes of judgment, judgment, and numbing as doorways.-A 10-minute guided experience with follow-up journaling prompts.-The most common mistakes (toxic positivity, forcing the box open, turning shadow work into a scavenger hunt) and how to never make them.Guided practice recap (save this)Notice one body cue (tight chest, hot face, heavy gut).Invite with consent: “I won’t force a solution. I’m here to listen.” Ask: What is this hidden part trying to protect in me?Experiment (smallest next step): one honest sentence, one gentler ask, one slower tempo, one boundary you can tolerate today.Journaling prompts (do this immediately after guided meditation):1. What situation did you analyze? (triggered? judgement? numbing? event)2. Where did I feel it in my body (0–10)?3. First thoughts/ideas I noticed that the shadow shared? 4. Did you imagine a younger version of yourself? What did they say? 5. After thanking your shadow for sharing, did the intensity in my body (question #2) change? What is the new intensity (0–10)Share your story (I might feature it)Email: [email protected] me: what you were hiding, what it thought it was protecting, the smallest experiment you tried, and what power showed up (clarity, steadier voice, kinder boundary).Safety notePlease don’t do the practice while driving or multitasking. If your intensity rises above 7/10 or trauma memories/self-harm thoughts surface, pause and work with a licensed therapist. Shadow work should be tolerable, not re-traumatizing.If this helped, subscribe and share it with someone who’s ready to do real inner work—no toxic positivity, just honest calibration.I Am Lyrical Journey: Go to www.kelseymiles.com/100daysShoutout to my Patreon members www.patreon.com/kelseymileswho support all of my creative endeavorsConnect with Kelsey:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mileskels/​​​Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mileskels/​​​https://kelseymiles.com​​

This month was full of travel and decisions, and I missed my podcast deadline. Instead of pretending that I’m fine or forcing myself to record and edit a full episode, I’m calibrating in real time.If you’ve ever missed a deadline, I share a 2-minute reflection practice to help you stay calibrated through chaos.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] with me: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Authenticity Lab | Season 2: Thrive in Uncertainty | Episode 7Have you ever skipped a pool party, hid under a towel, or told yourself, “I’m just not confident”?That’s not your truth. That’s shame talking.In this raw, personal episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles shares a childhood memory that planted deep body shame and changed how she saw herself for years. If you’ve ever struggled with body image, self-worth, or hiding parts of yourself, this one will hit home.This episode is part of the Calibrate phase of Kelsey’s Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize (CEO) method. It is a practical framework for thriving in uncertainty by reconnecting with your most authentic self.You’ll learn:How a single moment of body shame can quietly shape your identityWhy we create “adaptive personalities” to protect ourselvesHow to recognize the lies shame tells youThe healing message behind Kelsey’s original song “Shadow”How to start calibrating back to the truth of who you are🎶 This episode features insights inspired by Kelsey’s song “Shadow,” which explores the parts of ourselves we’re taught to hide and how to bring them into the light.💡 Listen now if you’re ready to start showing up more fully, lovingly, and boldly as yourself.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode on living with authenticity, building resilience, and finding confidence in uncertainty.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: kelseymiles.com/100days And if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymiles https://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMiles https://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymiles https://kelseymiles.com

Have you ever broken a promise to yourself, and instead of trying to understand why, you punished yourself with guilt and shame?In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles unpacks why breaking trust with yourself can feel so defeating… and why trying to “fix it” through perfection only makes things worse.Learn how to:Stop the cycle of self-betrayal and shameRebuild internal trust without needing to be perfectRecognize how shame makes change harder, not easierStart healing through honesty and compassion not control🎵 Inspired by Kelsey’s song “Shadow”, this conversation helps you reconnect with the parts of yourself you’ve hidden and shows you how to build real self-trust from the inside out.Listen to Shadow:Youtube: https://youtu.be/9DwNKnMnO1kSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/7C0wxFWEpoBEMFNf4TrtXT?si=e02f6e5aa6ae4daaApple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/song/shadow/1690181316🎙️ Season 2: Thrive in Uncertainty – Episode 6🌀 Phase: Calibrate | Framework: Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize

Do you feel like you’re constantly “performing” just to be taken seriously at work, in relationships, or even with yourself?In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores why we hide our authentic selves, how masking shows up in everyday life, and the unexpected shame it creates. She shares a personal story of hiding her femininity to fit into a masculine academic world and how letting go of the mask is the first step toward true self-acceptance.If you're ready to stop hiding and start reclaiming your power, this episode is your starting point.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] Our next free group call is August 1st! Email me at [email protected] to get access.Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com 

This month, we’ve been in the Calibration phase:Episode 1, you forgave.Episode 2, you accepted.Episode 3, you embraced.And today, you’re going to learn how to stay present in the uncertainty, without shutting down or abandoning what makes you, you.If this episode resonates, let me know in the comments or message me at [email protected]. I’d love to hear what you’re working through.Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

My first year teaching college chemistry, I got a student review that hit me right in my biggest insecurity:“Be more organized. Stay on task.”Ouch.They weren’t wrong…my brain is chaotic. And for a long time, I hated that about myself.In this episode, I share the real story of how I went from hating my messy mind…→ to forgiving myself for it,→ to accepting that it’s part of me,→ to embracing it as the thing that makes me an engaging teacher, a creative musician, and an unfiltered human.I’ll break down:✔️ Why you don’t need to fix every “flaw”✔️ How to calibrate your traits so they work for you, not against you✔️ A tiny experiment you can run this week to start loving what you usually hide🎶 And yes, we’ll tie it all back to my song Beautiful Mistake, because every part of you is yours for the making.If you’re ready to stop fighting yourself and start working with who you really are, hit play.JOIN MY FREE GROUP CALL THIS MONTH:We’re talking about embracing the parts you usually apologize for. Fill this out:https://forms.gle/afeuMkPYUUaG9M8S9📌 Missed the last episodes?Start with:Ep 1: The truth about self-forgiveness no one tells youEp 2: Unconditional Self-Acceptance, Real or BS?LET’S CONNECT:Leave a comment: what part of you are you ready to embrace?If this episode resonates, let me know in the comments or message me at [email protected]—I’d love to hear what you’re working through.Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Nothing is wrong with you, and today you’ll find out why.In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles unpacks how dropping shame and guilt uncovers your deepest strengths. Using her proven Calibrate-Experiment-Optimize method, you’ll discover a clear 3-step process to reframe any perceived flaw into a powerful asset.You’ll walk away with:A step-by-step framework to turn overgiving, people-pleasing, and self-doubt into confidence, lower anxiety, and clearer boundariesThe scientific-method approach to life experiments, so you can test new mindsets and measure real growthConcrete practices to be discerning about where and whom you invest your huge, compassionate heartWhether you’re seeking self-acceptance, self-love, or overcoming shame, this episode guides your personal transformation with actionable insights.🔗 Reserve your spot for our live calibration call https://forms.gle/7Uz7jxwU7KwMfEVR9👍 Subscribe and hit the bell to get every Tuesday’s episode✉️ Share your breakthroughs at [email protected] for tuning in and supporting Authenticity Lab. Keep living boldly and leading with curiosity!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Are you struggling with how to forgive yourself for past mistakes?In this kickoff episode of Season 2 of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles shares a powerful personal story about a mistake that haunted her for years and the truth about self-forgiveness that most people never talk about.You’ll hear how she used the scientific method to reframe her past, find emotional healing, and finally let go of the guiltand shame that kept her stuck.Inside the episode:Why self-forgiveness doesn’t require fixing the pastHow to find peace with your mistakes without needing closureA breakdown of how to apply the scientific method to your emotional lifeA story of healing, personal growth, and reclaiming self-compassionThis episode ties into her original song Beautiful Mistake, a tribute to the moments we carry and how they shape who we become. Listen here: https://youtu.be/vHXxYLEaUaE?si=OZfc9OVKgcKSEXUnIf you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do I move on?” or “How could I have missed the red flags?" then this episode is for you.Listen now and learn how to forgive yourself, not by rewriting the past, but by honoring its truth.Interested in jumping on LIVE with me on a group zoom call?Fill this out:  https://forms.gle/8SRD6HNhnFTYcjL17Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com 

After 24 episodes of exploring how to experiment in life using the scientific method, I’m wrapping up Season 1 of Authenticity Lab and introducing something new. Something deeper.If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How in the hell did I get here?" then this episode is for you.I also share a wild story when I jumped into a relationship to avoid pain, skipped the inner work, and ended up in one of the most chaotic situations of my life.It taught me something I now live by:➡️ You can’t experiment with your life until you calibrate.As a chemist, I know the importance of calibrating your instrument BEFORE running an experiment.That’s why I created the C.E.O. Method: Calibrate. Experiment. Optimize.This simple framework has helped me navigate transitions, break cycles, and thrive in uncertainty.What time can you meet?I'm also starting LIVE group calls the second week of June. If you're interested in this FREE group call, please fill out this google form (2 questions).https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdqJnvtxsjgHr5PC_5k_Zyu1GFvTJIL81Y-7iaLqaeWwLwETw/viewform?usp=headerSeason 2 starts June 3: Thriving in UncertaintyWe'll start with Track 1 from my ‘I Am’ album:Beautiful Mistake: https://youtu.be/IdLXUhCk41E?si=Ateun4Mc302AnuLGConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Have you ever found yourself waiting to feel “clear” before you make a move… rewriting the email, second-guessing the post, holding off on the decision?In this episode, I flip the script on uncertainty and show you why uncertainty isn’t something to fix, it’s a space to practice being you.I share a personal story about writing my speaker one-sheet and I share how clarity often comes after aligned action, not before.If you’ve been stuck in overthinking or waiting for the “right time,” this episode offers a powerful reframe. Stick around to the end of the episode where I invite you on your own mini-life experiment you can run today to shift from indecision to alignment.Bonus: I share a journal prompt from my ‘I Am Lyrical Journey’ to help you through this uncertain time. Music that aligns with this episode: Exhale: https://youtu.be/3xCsRMI_UnEGet your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymiles

Getting chosen can feel amazing…like you're finally seen, finally enough. But what happens when the person who chose you… suddenly backs out?In this episode, I share the story of my recent breakup that ended over the phone, with no warning. Total emotional whiplash.But here’s what I realized: the most stable thing you can do is choose yourself.In this episode, I talk about:The emotional crash of being picked and then discarded.Why external validation can never fill the void.How choosing yourself can help you recognize the right relationship for you!And how a stray dog that chose me tonight (yep, really) reminded me that real connection doesn’t need convincing.If you’ve ever found yourself hoping to be chosen, over-functioning for love, or chasing validation that never quite lands then this episode is for you.Also in this episode I mention my song I See You: Listen here Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

You studied for the test. You went on the date. You submitted the application. You hit send. And now you wait… stuck in that space between effort and outcome. In this episode, I break down why our brains spiral in the unknown, and why stress feels like control (even though it’s not). We’ll explore the science behind why worrying doesn’t help — and introduce a life experiment to build trust in the pause.If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the loop of “what ifs” after doing everything you could… this one’s for you.https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

In this episode, I talk about what it actually feels like to choose yourself… not the cute, Instagram version, but the real-life version that’s messy, uncomfortable, and sometimes downright scary. I share one of the hardest choices I ever made in my early 20s, and why saying “yes” to yourself can feel so uncomfortable… before it feels like freedom. If you’re standing at a crossroads, or still dealing with the aftershocks of putting yourself first, this one’s for you.Music moment: I share a clip from my song The Lighthouse and how we all have a light that is patiently waiting and never wavers: Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

In this episode of Authenticity Lab, I explore the power of embracing the "in-between" space—the uncertain, messy middle ground where you're not quite where you want to be yet. I’ll share how letting go of the pressure to have everything figured out can open up the possibility for true growth. Drawing from my own experiences, including my journey with music and creating my I Am Lyrical experience, I discuss how taking small steps, gathering data, and running life experiments can help you navigate uncertainty. I also delve into the importance of trusting your intuition and learning from each step, even if it doesn’t seem like the "perfect" answer. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure of your next move, this episode will encourage you to embrace the discomfort, trust the process, and move forward with more clarity.Music in this episode: I Wish I Was WrongTune in to learn how to use the in-between zone as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.If this episode resonates, let me know in the comments or message me at [email protected]—I’d love to hear what you’re working through.Join the Community at kelseymiles.com/thelabConnect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Do you ever wish you could hit reset and instantly feel a shift into peace? In this episode, I share a two-step process rooted in scientific observation and soul-deep wisdom to help you move from judgment to curiosity—fast. This is the exact framework that helped me go from burned out (see Episode 17) to thriving.If you're navigating uncertainty, self-doubt, or just a tough day, this might be your moment to turn it all around.Let’s dive in.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Burnout isn’t about being lazy.In this episode, I’m sharing my own experience with burnout as the semester comes to a close. I’m tired…like, really tired, and I know I’m not alone in feeling like I’ve been running on fumes for weeks. I talk about what burnout really looks like, how high achievers are often hit hardest, and how we can show ourselves the same kind of care we so easily pour out for everyone else.If you’ve been pushing yourself too hard, this one’s for you. You’re not lazy. You’re burned out. And you’re not alone.Inspired by my song “I See You,” we’ll dive into recognizing the signs of burnout and how to take back your energy, your joy, and your peace of mind.Plus, I’ve got a simple life experiment for you this week—a small shift to help you start taking care of yourself in a way that’s real and meaningful.🎧 Inside, I’ll share:What I’ve learned about soul-level burnoutThe moment I realized I was shaming myself for being tiredA simple life experiment to help you reconnect to your needs this weekLet’s stop pushing through and start listening instead.👇 And if it hits home, send it to someone else who needs a break (the real kind).Let’s dive in.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days And if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Have you ever had something huge lined up? something you knew was going to change everything only to have it slip right through your fingers? I was booked to open for Pat Benatar… a dream gig. And then? The show got canceled. In this episode, I share how I worked through the disappointment, shifted my perspective, and found gratitude even when things didn’t go as planned. Inspired by my song The Lighthouse, we’ll talk about how to stay steady through uncertainty, trust that what’s meant for you will come, and actually enjoy the journey instead of clinging so hard to the outcome.And your life experiment this week? Take a look at the thing you’re holding onto too tightly. Can you loosen your grip a little and shift your focus to the present moment?Let’s dive in.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: kelseymiles.com/100days And if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

In this episode, I share the story of how I trusted myself when I moved to Kansas City to pursue music full-time, only to find an unexpected opportunity in chemistry that changed the course of my life. When my boyfriend passed away by suicide a month later, the stability my chemistry job provided helped me through an incredibly difficult time. Remember, sometimes the life experiments you didn’t plan are the ones that give you the most growth.Get your I AM lyrical journal here: kelseymiles.com/100daysAnd if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Shame thrives in secrecy. I thought if I shared my struggles—especially about body image—it would make the shame worse. But then I ran an experiment. I told a trusted friend about my discomfort with my body and eating habits.The results were shocking—the shame didn’t grow heavier, it got lighter. My vulnerability didn’t burden them; instead, it made them feel seen too.In my song Shadow, I sing "darkness leads you to the light." This episode is about what happens when you stop hiding the parts of yourself you’re ashamed of and choose awareness instead.If you’ve ever felt like your struggles were too much to share, this episode is for you. Let's explore the science of shame, vulnerability, and what happens when you finally let the light in.And if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

What if the conclusion you’ve drawn about yourself — like “I’m not creative,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I’m not capable” — isn’t actually the final answer? What if it’s just… incomplete data?In this episode, we’re wrapping up our series on using the scientific method to guide your personal growth. Today’s focus? Conclusions. In science, a conclusion is never the final answer. It’s simply a reflection of the data you have right now. And if you gather more data? The conclusion can change.And that’s exactly how it works in your life.I’ll share a personal story about how I once believed I was a bad singer—and how gathering more data completely changed my conclusion. You’ll also hear a mind-blowing story from the history of chemistry about how humans once believed fire was an element—and how more experiments eventually changed that conclusion.So here’s the question for you:What conclusion have you drawn about yourself that might not be wrong… but might be incomplete?This episode will inspire you to: Start gathering more data about yourself. Stay open to new experiences, feedback, and opportunities. Realize that any negative belief you’ve been holding onto might not be the whole truth. And if you love this episode, I’d love to hear from you. You can share your thoughts with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com 

Every day, your senses collect millions of bits of data—yet only a fraction makes it into your conscious awareness. What if paying attention to this data could transform the way you approach life, creativity, and personal growth?In this episode of Authenticity Lab, we explore how to observe, analyze, and interpret the data from your own experiences.This episode is Part 4 of our Authenticity Lab mini-series on the scientific method for self-discovery. So far, we’ve covered:1️⃣ Ask a Question – What do you want to change or understand?2️⃣ Form a Hypothesis – What do you think will happen if you try something new?3️⃣ Experiment – Taking action!Now, we’re diving into Steps 4, 5, and 6:🔬 Step 4: Collecting Data – Your brain is constantly gathering information, but are you paying attention to what it’s telling you?🔎 Step 5: Analyzing Data – Spotting patterns, unexpected surprises, and key insights.📌 Step 6: Drawing Conclusions – Using what you’ve learned to shape your next steps.Your life is an experiment. What data are you collecting? What patterns are emerging? What is the next right step?🎧 Tune in to learn how analyzing your own experiences can lead to clarity, confidence, and a breakthrough moment. And don’t forget to share your reflections with me at [email protected] and join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

Welcome back to Authenticity Lab, where we celebrate reconnecting with our authentic selves! I'm Dr. Kelsey Miles—musician, songwriter, and chemistry professor—and in this episode, part of our mini-series on applying the scientific method to everyday life, we take the next crucial steps: forming a hypothesis and designing a life experiment.In Episode 10, you crafted a personal question through guided meditation and journaling. Today, we'll build on that foundation by learning how to form a robust hypothesis—one that considers multiple outcomes (best-case, worst-case, and everything in between) and isn’t just an educated guess, but a testable statement. I also share a personal story about how speaking up about my needs helped me overcome fear and gather real data about my communication.Join me as I break down how to design an experiment that is safe, manageable, and specifically tailored to test your hypothesis. Whether it's scheduling a low-stakes conversation or taking another small action, this episode will give you the tools to move forward with confidence. If you're ready to challenge your fears, build a stronger foundation, and live more boldly, this episode is for you!Don’t forget to share your hypotheses and experiment plans with me at [email protected] or join our community at kelseymiles.com/thelab. If you haven’t yet, please go back and watch Episode 10 to develop your question—it's the perfect starting point for today’s journey.Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

The first step in any great experiment—whether in science or in life—is making a clear observation that leads you to a clear question. But how do you know what to look for? How do you recognize the patterns, fears, and beliefs that are shaping your decisions?In this episode, I’ll guide you through an exercise to pinpoint the real questions you need to ask yourself—the ones that will help you break through fear, self-doubt, or uncertainty.By the end of this episode, you’ll have a powerful question that will serve as the foundation for your next step. This is the second episode of the mini-series where I break down each step of the scientific method. Next week we'll dive into Steps 2 &3: developing a hypothesis and running an experiment.Join the community at kelseymiles.com/thelab!

This is the perfect episode to start with if you're new to the podcast. It kicks off a special mini-series on how to use experimentation to uncover purpose and create meaningful change.What if you didn’t have to “find” your purpose—but instead, you could discover it through small, intentional experiments?In this first episode of my new mini-series, we explore why you don’t need all the answers to move forward and how every experiment—whether intentional or not—brings you closer to clarity. I share how one moment in high school convinced me I wasn’t a good singer, and how years later, a series of experiments led me to challenge that belief and uncover my true path in music.The truth is, you are already collecting data about yourself every day. The question is: Are you paying attention to what it’s telling you?In this episode, you’ll learn: How to recognize and analyze the life experiments you’re already running Why experimenting—not waiting for clarity—is the key to discovering your purpose A powerful exercise to uncover how you’ve already rewritten old beliefs about yourself At the end, I invite you to run your own life experiment: Think about a belief you no longer hold about yourself and list the experiences that led you to change it. This will help you see that purpose isn’t something you passively find—it’s something you uncover through action.If this episode resonates, let me know in the comments or message me at [email protected]—I’d love to hear what you’re working through.Join the Community at kelseymiles.com/thelabConnect with me:Facebook: / iamkelseymilesInstagram: / iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com 

Have you ever caught yourself waiting—waiting for someone to say, Yes, you’re ready. Yes, you can do this? I’ve been there. I almost let someone convince me that I couldn’t stand on my own and that I needed them to succeed. Instead of giving in to this fear, I ran an experiment. I took a risk, and it paid off!In this episode, we’re talking about why we wait for permission, how to break that habit, and how running small life experiments can help you collect proof that you’re more capable than you think. At the end, I’ll give you a challenge—one action you can take today to stop waiting and start living.

Are you stuck in the same frustrating patterns, hoping for change that never comes? In this episode of Authenticity Lab, I share a personal story of chasing potential in relationships and the hard truth I had to face to break free. We’ll explore why it’s so easy to fall into these cycles, how hope and expectations can cloud reality, and why repetition isn’t failure—it’s part of the lesson. You’ll learn how to identify your own patterns, embrace the wisdom they bring, and take small but powerful steps to finally move forward. Ready to stop living on repeat and create something new? Let’s dive in.

Have you ever avoided an opportunity because you didn’t feel ready or didn’t know what to say? In this episode of Authenticity Lab, I'm discussing avoidance and why we do it! I also share a vulnerable story about a moment when imposter syndrome made me hesitate to respond to an exciting email—and how I moved through this to build momentum and gain confidence. Song Inspiration: This episode is inspired by "Save My Soul" from my I Am album—a song about imposter syndrome.

Do you struggle with an overly loud inner critic? Or find it hard to celebrate your wins without feeling like you’re letting yourself off the hook? In this episode, I share a personal story about competing in the International Blues Challenge—how I almost let self-critique overshadow my accomplishments, and the powerful lesson I learned about finding balance.Discover how embracing both self-critique and self-celebration can lead to a life filled with curiosity and growth. You’ll hear practical tips for navigating your inner dialogue and learn how to invite self-compassion while still striving to improve.Plus, I’ll share a snippet of my original song I See You, a powerful anthem about recognizing your worth and celebrating the unique person you are.By the end, you’ll be inspired to quiet your inner critic, celebrate the amazing work you’ve already done, and take a bold step toward authenticity.

🎵 Listen to the song in this episode: Exhale lyrical video: Do you ever feel like you’re holding your breath, trying to control every little thing, even when it feels impossible? In this episode, I share a personal story about the stress and uncertainty I faced while preparing for an international blues competition—juggling tight deadlines and the pressure to create something new.When I finally let go of my expectations and accepted what I already had, something unexpected happened: relief, creativity, and a fresh perspective. Letting go didn’t just ease my stress; it opened the door to a solution I hadn’t seen before.You’ll also learn how to design your own life experiment inspired by the practice of letting go. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a simple yet transformative exercise to help you release what’s beyond your control and make space for new possibilities.Let’s start 2025 with a deep breath, an exhale, and a step toward living authentically.

Do you ever feel like you’re hiding parts of yourself from the world—whether it’s a passion, a dream, or a part of your personality? In this episode, I share my story of secretly learning to play guitar and writing songs while juggling the demands of graduate school in chemistry. Through a simple yet life-changing life experiment, I took the leap to share my hidden love for music—and it changed everything.You’ll discover how to design life experiments that encourage growth without creating chaos. Plus, I’ll share a snippet of my original song, Shadow, inspired by the journey of bringing hidden parts of myself into the light. By the end, you’ll have the tools to take a bold step toward living authentically.

What happens when you challenge the expectations you’ve placed on your life? In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles shares a personal story of stepping out of her routine and rediscovering joy in an unexpected place: a karaoke bar. With a simple life experiment based on the scientific method, she invites you to reimagine what fulfillment can look like.

In this debut episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles—a musician, songwriter, and chemistry professor—shares how one small but life-changing experiment helped her find her voice and trust herself again. Using her background in music, science, and personal growth, she introduces a simple framework for running your own life experiments based on the scientific method.By the end of this episode, you’ll have everything you need to try your first bold experiment: speaking up for yourself in one conversation. Along the way, you’ll learn how curiosity and courage can lead you closer to living authentically. Let’s get started!