Not Your Strong Black Woman

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m talking about what it means to hold joy and grief together without feeling guilty for either one. I share a personal story from my son’s first birthday and explain why feeling both happy and sad does not make you weak, ungrateful, or broken.If you’ve ever struggled with confusing emotions, this episode is for you!About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down the truth behind the Strong Black Woman stereotype and how it can keep many women stuck in survival mode.What looks like strength on the outside can sometimes be pain, pressure, emotional suppression, and carrying too much alone.Through personal storytelling, research-backed insight, and practical healing tools, Nassimbwa explores how the pressure to always be strong can impact mental health, boundaries, rest, and the ability to ask for help.In this episode, you’ll learn:• What the Strong Black Woman stereotype really is  • How it can increase anxiety, depression, and emotional exhaustion  • Why asking for help can feel so difficult  • How emotional suppression affects the nervous system  • One easy way to begin unmasking and healingIf you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together while silently struggling, this episode is for you.You do not have to carry everything alone.  You do not have to perform strength to be worthy.  You can heal.Subscribe for more conversations on confidence, healing, trauma recovery, boundaries, and easy self-care tools. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down why setting boundaries is one thing—but keeping them is where many people struggle. If you’ve ever felt guilty saying no, found yourself overgiving, or watched people push back when you started changing, this episode is for you.You’ll learn what boundaries really are, why they can feel so uncomfortable, and how to stay consistent using Nassimbwa’s REST Framework:✨ R – Recognize when your boundaries are being crossed ✨ E – Evaluate what the boundary needs to be ✨ S – Shift your behavior to match the boundary ✨ T – Train yourself to stay consistentThis episode also explores how to respect boundaries when you’re the one receiving them—because healthy relationships require both setting limits and honoring them.If you look strong on the outside but feel tired on the inside, this conversation will give you practical tools to protect your peace without abandoning yourself.💎 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this reminder today.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIf you’ve been tired, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, but still getting everything done… this episode is for you. We’re talking about functional freeze, why so many women keep pushing past their limits, and 4 easy ways to REST using my R.E.S.T. framework: Recognize, Evaluate, Shift, and Train. Because functioning is not the same thing as feeling okay.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWhen life gets hard, it’s easy to start expecting the worst. But what if confidence in difficult times starts with what you prepare your mind, body, and spirit for?In this episode, I share what shifted in me after waking up in the hospital and how I learned to stop preparing for the worst and start preparing for better. I’ll walk you through 4 easy ways to build confidence in difficult times using practical tools that can help you breathe, reset, and keep going.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailFeeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode?In this episode, we’re talking about stress, cortisol, functional freeze, and how chronic stress affects the body — especially for high-functioning women who keep pushing through even when they’re tired.You’ll learn:✨ What stress actually is✨ What cortisol is and how it impacts your nervous system✨ What functional freeze looks like✨ 4 easy ways to reduce stress using my REST frameworkIf you’ve been feeling burned out, disconnected, anxious, or emotionally drained, this episode is for you.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Not Your Strong Black Woman, we explore how trauma, stress, and overwhelming life events can impact confidence—and why struggling after a storm doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.Using trauma-informed psychology, faith-based encouragement, and practical self-care tools, Nassimbwa Ruffin explains what happens when the brain goes into survival mode and how that affects self-talk, emotional regulation, and confidence.You’ll learn:What trauma really is and how it affects the brain and nervous systemWhy confidence often drops after hard experiencesThree easy, practical ways to reclaim your power—even while you’re still healingHow safety, support, and self-talk help rebuild confidence after traumaThis episode is for anyone searching for:how to rebuild confidence after trauma,how to heal from emotional pain,how to stop surviving and start thriving,and trauma-informed self-care for confidence.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected from yourself, this episode will remind you: you’re not broken—you’re healing.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWhat if confidence isn’t something you lack—but something shaped by how you talk to yourself?In this episode of the Not Your Strong Black Woman Podcast, Nassimbwa Ruffin explores how negative self-talk quietly affects your confidence, your choices, and what you believe you deserve. She breaks down where negative self-talk comes from, why it feels so automatic, and how thoughts turn into feelings and behaviors.You’ll learn Nassimbwa’s simple framework RCR—Recognize, Challenge, and Reframe, and how AI can be used as a supportive tool to help slow your thoughts, identify negative self-talk, and practice kinder, more honest self-talk—without shame or forced positivity.Because confidence starts in the conversations you have with yourself.The 30-Second Reset: A Negative Self-talk Mindset Shift (Video) Available About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailConfidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room—it’s about being rooted in who you are.In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 easy, practical ways to be confident that don’t require performing, people-pleasing, or pretending to be someone you’re not. You’ll learn how to anchor your confidence in your identity, trust the way you show up, and walk into any space grounded instead of shrinking.This episode is especially for the woman who need a reminder that they are exactly who God says they are. Get The 30-Second Reset: A Confidence Mindset Shift (Video) About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIf you’ve ever said, “I don’t have time for self-care,” this episode is for you.Today, we’re breaking self-care all the way down — making it simple, doable, and something you can practice even on your busiest days.In this episode, I share what self-care is, the benefits of self-care, and five easy self-care techniques you can start using today to calm your nervous system, lower stress, and support your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. No long routines. No fancy equipment. Just small, powerful moments of care you can weave into real life.By the end of this episode, you’ll see that self-care doesn’t require time you don’t have… it just requires intention. Let this be your reminder that you deserve to be cared for too.Get your The 30-Second Reset: A Self-Care Mindset Shift (Video)Get your Gratititude Attitude in 7 Days HereAbout Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin opens up about what it truly means to be vulnerable—and why so many of us avoid it. 💎 She breaks down how hiding behind strength can actually hold us back and shares three simple ways to start embracing vulnerability in your everyday life. This episode is a gentle reminder that real strength is found in authenticity.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWhen life feels heavy, it’s easy to spiral thinking about everything that’s out of your hands. In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares 3 simple but powerful tips to shift your focus back to what you can actually control — your mindset, your actions, and your energy.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares three easy ways to ask for help without feeling guilty. She highlights how asking for support is a form of strength, not weakness. Whether it’s starting small or building a support system, Nassimbwa provides practical tips to help you prioritize your well-being.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailTrigger Warning: This podcast discusses miscarriage and may be emotionally challenging for some listeners.In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of loss after a miscarriage at 16 weeks and three ways I found to begin the healing process. These steps focus on nurturing both mind and body during an incredibly difficult time. My hope is that this episode can offer a sense of comfort and understanding, whether you’ve been through something similar or want to support someone who has. Please listen with care, and know that healing is a journey. Free Gratitude Journal: https://nahandicrafts....Support Groups: Rachel’s Gifthttps://www.rachelsgif...Center for Infant & Child LossEmail: Chassis Hawkins-Younger [email protected] for link to meeting https://infantandchild...About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this podcast episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares three simple yet effective strategies to stop negative self-talk. She offers practical tips to help listeners shift their mindset, foster self-compassion, and build a more positive inner dialogue, making it easier to tackle everyday challenges with confidence. Want to change your life! Book me: https://stan.store/Nas...Shop: https://nahandicrafts.comAbout Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of "Not Your Strong Black Woman Podcast" Nassimbwa Ruffin sits down with the esteemed holistic health expert, Dr. Christina Blanchard-Horan, to discuss her revolutionary book, Kick Cancer's Acid: A 5-Day Whole Life Detox. Dr. Blanchard-Horan explores the profound connections between toxins, hormones, and disease, offering readers a holistic path to healing that emphasizes natural remedies and lifestyle transformations. Join us for an enlightening conversation as we delve into the intricacies of holistic wellness and discover how to embark on a transformative journey to reclaim your health and vitality.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailUn-silencing yourself means breaking free from the habit of suppressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs. It involves overcoming the tendency to remain quiet to avoid conflict, preserve harmony, or maintain relationships at the expense of your own well-being. In this episode, Nassimbwa talks about how to un-silence yourself, explaining what it means, why it is important, and how to express yourself assertively. Ebook coming July 1, sign up to the mailing list to get notified! About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Nassimbwa delves into the nature of anger, exploring what it truly is and how it can have detrimental effects on your health. She also provides three simple and effective strategies to help you manage and reduce your anger, allowing you to live a calmer and healthier life. Tune in for insightful advice and practical tips on conquering anger.About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailHumming really starts in your early childhood. Think about it. When we are babies we are rocked to sleep by humming sounds, when we get older we make mm hmmm sounds when we agree or disagree with someone. Sometimes it’s unconsciously  like when you’re humming your favorite song. What if I told you that if you make humming a daily routine, your wellbeing can improve. Today we are going to talk about humming, its benefits, and how to include it in your life. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailLearn to unlock the Power of Self-Awareness: Observe, Reflect, Thrive. Before there can be self improvement there has to be self awareness! Are you aware of yourself!? This episode is about self awareness, what it is, the benefits and how to become more self awareness. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailDid you know experiencing gratitude can foster positive feelings which lead to healthy well-being? We are facing such difficult times now but can you think of things in your life you can be thankful for? Sometimes, I get so down but when I think of the things I am thankful for, it brings my spirits up. When I loss Jasi I wrote in a gratitude journal even though it was hard for me to be grateful, I noticed on the days I did not express my gratitude I would focus on the negative. So I created a journal to help you foster a gratitude attitude in just 7 days free of charge (Gratitude Attitude in 7 Days.).  In this episode, you will learn about gratitude, how it works, and it’s benefits. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailLast episode you heard me talk about Jasi, my daughter I lost at 16 weeks. Well during the time I lost her I was actually in my last semester of Grad school majoring in Mental Health Counseling. I was really going through it and I did not realize the symptoms I was having. There were signs that I should go to therapy. This episode explains  4 reasons you may need therapy and how you may benefit from therapy. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailThis episode is about how the Strong Black Women stereotype impacts black women negatively and how I overcome it. Nassimbwa will provide three reasons she is not your strong black woman and ways she practices NOT being a strong black women. Book Mentioned: Too heavy a Yoke: Black Women and the Burden of Strength By Chanequa Walker-Barnes. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailI had the opportunity to speak with Author, Katina Davis, who shared why she wrote the book: Learning to Love Dark Skinned Me, how to identify when your child is being bullied, and how she was able to love herself. Book: : Learning to Love Dark Skinned MeAbout Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Episode 5: 6 Most Essential Oils, If you are anything like me, I had no idea what essential oils are and how beneficial they are for you. I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Christina Blanchard-Horan PhD who just released the book Wholeness Wellness and Essential Oils: The Six Most Essential Oils. Dr. Christina talks with me about the 6 most essential oils, what they are, the benefits, and where you can purchase them. For more information about Dr. Christina Blanchard Horan Visit HereAbout Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Episode 4: I don’t have time for mindfulness. Me either, sis. But the wonderful thing about mindfulness is you can do it anywhere, anytime, and it’s free. Mindfulness means being in the present. It literally means being aware of the present moment. Mindfulness shift your focus away from negative/anxious thoughts and feelings and onto something concrete in the present moment. I wanted to share with you how it works, the benefits and how to include it in your busy schedule. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Ep. 2 Reiki is not the Devil! Today, I have a special guest, Naturopathic Doctor: Dr. Michelle. I had a Reiki session with her and after the session I was able to ask her some questions about Reiki. I titled this show reiki is not the Devil because growing up as a Christian I did look at modalities such as Reiki as not Godly. That is because I did not have any understanding about Reiki. I am a strong believer in Jesus Christ and I know all things are not possible without God. I wanted to share with you information about Reiki and what benefits it may provide. More info on https://www.nahandicrafts.com/nysbwAbout Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailWelcome to episode 4: Letter to my past self. My name is Nassimbwa and I am Not Your Strong Black Woman. Please note that this is not me doing therapy with you, this is just me providing advice and tools :-) Today I will be writing a letter to my past self. Actually I will be speaking a letter to my past self so you will be able to hear it. I was a little hesitant to post this episode because I got emotional but that is what Not Your Strong Black Woman is all about. Cry if you need to, there is nothing wrong with it. Anyway, there are so many benefits to writing a letter to your past self and in the episide I share two benefits for writing a letter to your past self. Benefits:Process unresolved emotionProvide healing and closure About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures 

Send us Fan MailIntroduction of Not Your Strong Black Woman with Nassimbwa. Nassimbwa will demonstrate 3 Daily self care techniques: Mindfulness, Breathing, and Stretching. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care.YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures