Reflect Reclaim & Liberate - with Sallyanne Hartnell

Send us Fan MailThe reason I travel alone has nothing to do with not having a partner or people to go with. It's something else entirely.In this episode I'm sharing the three parts of a recent trip.1. A retreat with extraordinary women led by my business coach Robyn Gooding2. Time with my daughter Eva, and 3. The stretches where it was just me.Each one taught me something different. But it's the solo part that cracked something open.We book trips to escape.But what if we took one to remember?This episode is for anyone who has been telling themselves they'll rest, they'll book the trip, they'll do the thing, when...That time may never come unless you conscioulsy choose it.The destination was - and is always - you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I'm joined by Emma Wright - feminist health coach, certified cognitive behavioural and intuitive eating coach, and author of Body Confident - for a conversation I've wanted to have for a long time.Because Emma and I work with essentially the same woman. In my world, she's capable, successful, has built a great life on paper... and yet she's stayed in a relationship that doesn't really light her up or she's feeling destabilised by divorce. In Emma's world, she shows up exactly the same way, but the relationship is with food and her body.Same woman. Same conditioning. Slightly different arena.In this episode we go deep into what's really underneath all of it - the quiet questioning, the self-doubt, the staying - and what it actually takes to come home to yourself.We talk about:- How good girl conditioning shows up in your relationship with your body, your food, and your relationships with others - The "quiet questioning" — that inner whisper that something isn't working, and the rush to silence it - Why worthiness sits underneath almost everything and what happens to it when a relationship endsAnd the big one...The post-divorce glow up.  What it looks like on the surface, what's really going on underneath, and what genuine reclamation actually looks likeThe one question that reframes everythingHow much of you is it costing you to stay?Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWant more?Feel like where you are, what you have, the life you're living is not quite "it"?Wanting more than what you have?That doesn’t make you wrong or flawed or mean you’re asking too much.It’s information. You inner knowing pointing you toward what's true, what's right, and what your life is actually asking for.This episode goes deep on what's actually underneath wanting more and busts the myth that keeps so many women small.Wanting more, allowing yourself to desire and ask for more from your life, is pointing you home.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThis episode is for the 2am version of you.The one feeling like everything is coming apart and wondering when it's going to stop.This isn't a quick fix or a pep talk but simply a different way of understanding what's actually happening when you fall apart. Because maybe it's not what you think it is.Maybe you're not falling apart.Maybe you're falling closer.Closer to what's real.Closer to what's true.Closer to the version of your that's been hidden under layersWaiting for the noise to clear.This episode explores the paradox at the heart of divorce and separation: that the moment you feel most lost is often the moment you are closest to yourself.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIf you've been waiting...To feel ready, for the fear to pass, for someone to show you the way this episode is going to land somewhere uncomfortable. And then, hopefully, somewhere freeing.Sallyanne talks about the quiet story so many carry through asking questions about a relationship, separation or divorce: that when things settle, when they feel stronger, when someone shows them what to do... then  they'll be able to take the next step. The problem with that story is that it requires you to stay helpless. And the longer you wait, the more that version of you becomes the only one you can access.Nobody's coming to save you. And that, it turns out, is actually a good thing.In this episode:Why waiting to feel ready keeps you smaller than you areThe difference between needing support and outsourcing your agencyWhy courage isn't the absence of fear and what it actually isThe woman you've been waiting for, and why she's already hereSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailDivorce is not the worst thing that has or could happen to you.But maybe staying is.What if divorce isn't the tragedy in your story? What if it's the turning point?In this episode, Sallyanne explores one of the most confronting reframes in her work that for many, the marriage ending wasn't (just) loss. It was the beginning.This isn't toxic positivity. It's about leaving a small door open, to the possibility that one day (maybe not today, or for a while) you might look back at this moment and understand why it had to happen.Whether you're in the thick of it right now, or further along this episode is for you. In this episode:Why grief makes us romanticise relationships that weren't actually making us happyThe question Sallyanne asks women who are two, three years out — and what they almost universally sayWhy 'hard' and 'wrong' are not the same thingHow to "borrow" the trust of women who are already on the other sideP.S. we are exploring some shorter episodes in the next few weeks. Message me to tell me if you like short & sweet... or not Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThere's a kind of loneliness that comes with divorce. During it. Afterwards. And sometimes, before you've even left your marriage.It's the kind nobody warns you about.Not the dramatic, crying-on-the-couch kind.A more subtle, insidious kind. One that's slow and sustained. The kind that sneaks in over months and starts to convince you - quietly, stealthily - that this is just how life is now.This is how life is going to be.It doesn’t look like anything from the outside.It shows up quietly. In the moment you realise the only person you spoke to on the weekend was the barista. Or you have news and you’re not sure who to call. In the 4am silence when there’s no one there.This episode is about that. The kind of loneliness that slowly convinces you this is just how life is now — and the kind I want to push back on.In this episode:•  Why high-functioning, capable women are often the loneliest (and why no one notices)•  The specific loneliness of life after divorce (that nobody prepares you for)•  Why you might be surrounded by people and still feel profoundly alone•  The flip side: what a life built entirely on your own terms can actually feel like•  Three things to do if this landed for youIf you’ve been playing ‘I’m fine’ for so long you almost believe it ... this one’s for you.And if you want to actually BE more than "fine" on a really deep level, let me support you in a 1:1 coaching experience.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailFor anyone navigating separation, divorce, or parenting and rebuilding life afterwards, there is so very much uncertainty. The legal process. The financial picture. The parenting rhythm. Even your sense of identityThis episode is about finding - or creating - a sense of peace when everything else seems uncertain. When the ground feels like it's moving underneath your feet, and you're not sure when it's going to stop.Because the truth is, it might not stop. Not completely.Not if you've got kids together and a co-parenting relationship that's still finding its shape.And if you're waiting for certainty before you allow yourself to feel okay, you might be waiting a long time.So instead, let's talk about steadiness. And how to build it from the inside out.In this episode:Why divorce doesn't just change your relationship - it fractures your sense of certaintyThe difference between contingency and peacePractices for staying steady when things are unresolvedOne of the most powerful things you can say in a divorceWhat stability actually looks like now and why it might be deeper than what came beforeSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIf you've been stuck in the loop (should I stay, should I go, is this all there is) this episode is for you.I want to tell you about a woman I know.She's self-aware, thoughtful, doing her best, doing the work.. And she cannot bring herself to make the call, even though some quiet part of her already has.I see her constantly in my work. Different names, different stories. Same cycle. And I recognise her from the inside too.In this episode I'm talking about what actually keeps people stuck in this particular limbo, and it's almost never what they think it is.We cover the pattern that runs on both sides of the dance, what it means to outsource your power and externalise your agency, and three things that genuinely move the needle when you're ready to break free.Plus the one practical tool I recommend that almost nobody talks about.If you recognise yourself in her, I see you.I was her too, and I know how to help you understand your knowing.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThere's a pattern that shows up across almost every stage of the divorce journey - in those questioning whether to stay or leave, those in the thick of it, and even those rebuilding on the other side.It's a quiet, self-protective voice that whispers: what's the point?In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the psychology behind that voice:why we sacrifice our own hopes and dreams rather than risk disappointment, andwhat it actually costs us when we quit on ourselves before we even begin.This one is for anyone who has ever let fear, apathy, or self-doubt talk them out of the life they know - on some level - is waiting for them.In this episode:Why "not trying" feels safe but still carries its own grief and lossThe role of ego and risk tolerance in keeping us stuckHow we globalise, personalise, and make fear bigger than it needs to bePractical steps to break through the "why even bother" mindsetHow taking one small action can start to shift everythingSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailLiving Together Apart — The Identity EpisodeLiving Together Apart is one of the hardest configurations of separation  and one of the least talked about when it comes to the inner experience.The logistics? We've covered those. But the identity disorientation? The strange grief of proximity? The quiet way you starts to come back to yourself even in the in-between limbo that is living together apart. That's what this episode is about.If you're thinking about it, or in this right now - still under the same roof, still surrounded by the life you're in the process of leaving - this one's for you.We cover:Why LTA is so psychologically disorienting (and why nobody talks about it)The roles that don't drop away just because the relationship has endedThe specific grief of mourning someone who's still in the next roomThe first flickers of coming home to yourself: the remembering and the becomingPractical ways to hold your identity intact while you're still in the thick of itListen to past episodes about LTA here and hereReady for support through this phase and beyond? Book a free intro call or Clarity Consult — link below.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailHave You Outsourced Your Decision-Making?Learning to trust your own decisions again.In this episode of Reflect Reclaim & Liberate, divorce coach and strategist Sallyanne Hartnell explores one of the most overlooked challenges of post-divorce life: learning to trust your own decisions again.After years in a relationship - consciously or not - many have outsourced their decision-making, at least in some areas or ways, to a partner.When the relationship ends, that habit doesn't automatically disappear with it. What follows can self-doubt, second-guessing, and a quiet question that runs underneath almost everything: am I allowed to say yes?Sallyanne shares a real client story, unpacks the psychology of decision fatigue and outsourced authority, and offers a practical three-part framework - Tune In, Turn Down, Say Yes To Yourself - for coming back to your own voice.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThis episode isn't the easiest listen, but the key messages are important.If you're navigating divorce, separation, or even just sitting with the question of what comes next, these five truths are the ones I see come up again and again with my clients. And I'm sharing them, not to make the process harder, but to stop you from making it longer than it needs to be.Because it's rarely the divorce itself that keeps people stuck. It's the hope that something different is going to happen, when all the evidence suggests it won't.In this episode I cover:Why closure is something you create internally, not something "they" give youHow divorce changes so much, and what stays the sameWhat to do when you're healing faster than they are (and the guilt that comes with it)Or, when they move on fastWhat the need to be understood can cost youThe quiet grief of letting go of who you needed them to beIf one of these lands for you while you listen, pay attention to that data. That's usually where your work is.Join my VIP mailing list HERESallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThis episode started with a small, ordinary moment — someone I love asking me to write down the recipes I've cooked for my family across the years.The problem? Most of them don't really exist. Not properly. They've always been instinct. Memory. A bit of this, a bit of that. Adjusted every time.And it got me thinking about life after divorce.Because we carry this quiet pressure, don't we? This belief that there's a right way to rebuild. A correct order. A formula that everyone else seems to have figured out — except us.Why don't I feel clearer yet?Why am I still here?Why does everyone else seem further along?In this episode I want to gently offer you something different.There was never a single recipe to begin with. Not before divorce. And certainly not after.Rebuilding looks more like cooking with what's in the fridge. You start with reality — your grief, your energy, your hope, your exhaustion. You work with what's in front of you. You taste as you go. You adjust. You substitute. You discover that some things you thought you needed... you actually don't.And slowly — more slowly than you'd like, probably — you learn to trust yourself again.Because the meal can still be deeply satisfying. Even delicious. Even if it looks nothing like what you originally planned.This episode is for anyone who's been waiting for the instructions to arrive. They're not coming. And that, it turns out, is the invitation.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWe talk a lot about what we become after divorce.Stronger. More independent. A "new version" of ourselves.But what if the real shift isn't about becoming anything at all?In this episode I reflect on something that doesn't get talked about enough. The quiet, sometimes disorienting process of unbecoming. Shedding the roles you played. The expectations you carried. The version of yourself you shaped - often slowly, often unconsciously - to make a relationship work.Because here's what I've come to know: the identity shift that divorce triggers often starts long before the relationship ends. Something inside you begins to stir. To question. To want more space than the life you're living allows.And sometimes, divorce asks you or is what finally gives you permission to let it go.This episode is for anyone who's felt that pull (wherever you're at with your relationship) and wondered what's left when you stop performing the version of yourself you thought you had to be.Spoiler: it's you. The real one.An unbecoming to become.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThere comes a moment in many relationships when you ask yourself:“Am I ever going to be enough for them?”It’s not always about insecurity or worthiness.Sometimes, it’s about exhaustion.Exhaustion from trying harder.Exhaustion from hoping you’ll be met.Doing all the emotional labour.From reshaping yourself to make the relationship work.For years, we can bend, accommodate, and compromise,  believing that if we just love harder, try harder, or adjust ourselves enough, things will finally click.And then one day, quietly, the truth arrives:You can’t force the fit.In this short episode, Sallyanne explores the moment when you stop trying to become someone else for someone else and start choosing yourself instead.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailA guided companion to help you disentangle after divorce.Loosen attachment, ease your anxiety around decisions - those already made or yet to be made - reclaim yourself, and move forward with clarity.You don’t have to “get over” your ex. You don’t have to force "closure".You’re not doing it wrong, or behind.Sometimes the best way to move forward is to ask better questions.In this bonus episode, I guide you through 36 questions to help you:See the relationship clearlySeparate reality from fantasyProcess emotions without judgmentRelease attachment gentlyReclaim your identity and vision for the futurePerfect for journaling, reflection, or listening when you need grounding and clarity. And answers to the questions you're asking:Should it feel "better" than this?How do I know I made (or I'm making) the right decision?Should I be "more together" by now?I don't want them back, but I still really miss themGo gently.SallyanneSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWhen the relationship is over but the attachment isn’t - and why it’s harder than you think, even if you chose it.Why is it so hard to move on after divorce, even when you know it was the right decision?Why do you still miss them… question yourself… replay the good moments… or wonder if you made a mistake?In this episode, we explore the emotional reality no one prepares you for:The relationship can be over in every way - legally, practically, logically, romantically, sexually - and the attachment can still feel very much alive.Whether you chose the divorce or it was chosen for you, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate way to move forward - without rushing closure, denying grief, or shaming yourself for still caring.If you’re navigating divorce, separation, heartbreak, or the long emotional aftermath of a relationship, this episode will help you begin unwinding - gently, honestly, and at your own pace.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailCOURAGE. CONNECTION. JOY.What happens when you step outside your comfort zone can transform your post-divorce life more than any legal document or co-parenting plan ever could. In this episode of RR&L, I share a personal story of stepping outside my comfort zone, into new spaces, meeting strangers, and discovering the connection, joy, and possibility that waits on the other side.Whether you’re wondering if you’re brave enough to leave a marriage, navigating separation, rebuilding your life, or seeking community after divorce, this episode shows how courage opens doors and connection creates magic.Let this episode be your reminder that joy is waiting for you too, in the places you haven’t stepped into yet.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailLeaving a long-term relationship is more than just a breakup. It’s a complete reset. You’ve invested years of your life - and now you’re navigating a new space, a new version of life, unsure who you are without them.In this episode, we talk about the hard truths of starting over:The emotions no one warns you aboutRediscovering your identity and reclaiming your lifeWhat it really takes to rebuild, redefine, and restart after years of shared historyIf you’re stepping into life after a long-term relationship, or maybe wondering what life could look like after divorce, this episode is for you. Honest, practical, and unapologetically real about the journey of starting over.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailYou can be deeply hurt and still have work to do. Even if your partner left, had an affair, blindsided you, or if you were the one who chose to end the relationship, even if you know it was the right choice.In this episode, we talk about what radical personal responsibility really means, why it doesn’t equal blame or shame, and how facing your own patterns can free you from repeating them.Learn how to:Take ownership without self-judgmentHeal in a real, embodied way (no spiritual bypassing)Build emotional sovereignty andChoose your life consciouslyThis is the work I do with clients after a break-up or divorce, when they’re ready to shift out of shame or blame, stop going through the motions, and start consciously choosing.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailNB - language warning for this one. There’s a few F💣In this episode, I share a client story about what happened when an unexpected message from an ex arrived around Christmas, and tipped something she thought was healed.I share the process we used together to slow it down, name what had been activated, and write a response that was honest rather than “nice.”I talk through:Why messages from ex-partners can land so powerfully, even years laterWriting a polite reply versus a truthful oneHow writing it all out can bring clarity, release, and self-trustAttachment patterns as context and an invitation for healing, not excusesWhen compassion turns into self-abandonmentAnd how closure is something we create, not something we’re givenThe episode includes a fictionalised reading of the letter she wrote - emotionally true, but anonymised and blended to protect identity.If you’re struggling to let go or wondering about your ex. Maybe been activated by an unexpected message or meeting, and wondered why it affected you more than expected, this episode is for you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this final episode of the year, I’m sharing a powerful set of reflection questions to help you look back with compassion, honour your growth, and step into 2026 with clarity and intention.Whether you’re navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, identity shifts, or simply a season of change, these reflecton prompts will help you understand yourself more deeply, release what no longer serves you, and choose what comes next.Reflect. Release. Reset.Download your copy of the reflection questions HERESallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we explore the moment you quietly realise you can’t carry the relationship alone anymore.You’ll hear: • What the “quiet exit” actually looks like • How belief without change becomes burnout • Why hope without action becomes a cage • The moment you stop trusting in his potential and start loving yourself more • What to do when you’ve been over-functioning to his under-functioning • The next steps when you're done, tired, and stepping into clarityIf you feel this… if you know this… if this is you... or it's becoming you... this episode is your reminder that you’re not cold, crazy, or asking too much. You’re honouring yourself.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Sallyanne talks about the activating or triggering comments that can come your way during separation or divorce. Even before you separate. You’ll learn practical, grounded ways to respond (rather than react) without spiralling, without defending yourself, and without giving away your power.We explore: • Why these comments land so deeply • How to separate their words from your worth • Clear, simple boundary-based responses you can use immediately • How to shift from being reactive to being anchored and self-ledThis episode helps you stay steady, reclaim your emotional space, and stop letting your ex’s words pull you back into an old version of yourself.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThings I’ve Learned Solo Travelling Since My DivorceSolo travel after divorce hits differently.It’s equal parts freedom and fear, excitement and vulnerability.You’re no longer part of a “we,” and sometimes, that absence echoes but there’s also something quietly powerful about that.You’re choosing yourself. Your own adventure. Your own rhythm.In this episode I share a few things I’ve learned solo travelling since my divorce - things that made the experience richer, easier, and at times, unexpectedly healing.NB: After recording, I realised I forgot to include the most important piece: First and foremost… choose a destination and accommodation where you can be and feel safe. In every sense — emotionally, physically, and financially. All your other decisions come from there.If you’re ready (or would like in the future) to explore the world - and yourself - on your own terms, this episode is for you.Perfect For:Women (and anyone) navigating life after divorce who are curious about solo travel, self-discovery, and reclaiming joy and freedom.Listen if you want:Inspiration to take your first (or next) solo trip.Practical, down-to-earth tips for travelling safely and joyfully alone.Reflection on how travel can be a tool for healing and self-reconnection.Where to next?Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWhat I Know About Divorce Now, That You Can't Know Yet.In this episode, I share everything I know about life after divorce that you simply can’t know until you live it. My own lived experience and that of my clients.From the duality of grief and gratitude, to the quiet freedoms and small joys that only come when you reclaim your life, this is a reflection on integration, self-compassion, and choosing yourself. What I would have done more and less of, the lessons I wish I knew earlier, and how time (combined with doing your work) transforms pain into possibility.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailAre you wondering whether to stay in your relationship? Or thinking about finally leaving your marriage?Often my clients come to me questioning “good enough” relationships where nothing feels catastrophically or dramatically wrong, but something still feels off.In this episode, I lead you through 10 powerful questions designed to help you see clearly whether your relationship is serving your growth, your happiness, and your future.If you’re stuck in indecision, this episode will help you stop overthinking, start reflecting, and make the choice that honours both your heart and your future.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailNavigating separation, uncertainty, and emotional overload during the holidays — without guilt, shame, or pressure.The holidays are supposed to be a wonderful joyful time of the year. But what if your relationship is falling apart, already over, or hanging by a thread?In this episode, Sallyanne talks honestly about the emotional weight of Christmas when you’re navigating separation, divorce, or deep relationship doubt.We unpack the pressure of holiday “shoulds” - the expectations to keep things cheerful, stay together “for the kids,” or maintain appearances - and offer real talk, validation, and guidance for doing things differently this year.Whether you’re quietly questioning your relationship or deep in the mess of divorce, this episode is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered.BOOK A CLARITY CONSULT with Sallyanne2 online coaching sessions with full messaging support between sessionsDesigned to get you through the holidays easefully, intentionally and without feeling the pressure to have it all together. Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWondering whether to stay or leave a marriage?Thinking about separation or divorce?When you’re sitting in uncertainty, it’s easy to overthink. To rely on our head to bring us to a decision.But clarity doesn’t come from thinking harder. It comes from alignment.In this episode, Sallyanne unpacks the three decision centres - the head, the heart, and the gut - and shares a simple practice to help you bring all three into conversation before making your next big (or small) decision.Referenced:Kemi Nekvapil — author, coach, and speaker who references the concept of the three decision centres in her work.Reflection prompt: Next time you’re faced with a choice, pause and ask: 💭 What does my head say? ❤️ What does my heart feel? 🌿 What does my gut already know?Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailClarissa Rayward is a wife, mum to two, accredited specialist family lawyer, and lover of chocolate, coffee, and anything colourful and also the Director of Brisbane Family Law Centre, a multidisciplinary practice where lawyers work alongside counsellors and financial experts to provide holistic support to clients navigating divorce and separation.Connect with Clarissa:WebsiteInstagramSplitsville BookSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailThinking you "should" be over it by now?You're not behind or doing things wrong. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet.In this episode, I share why healing from divorce, infidelity or separation takes more than time, and what your body actually needs to feel safe again.Drawing from neuroscience and nervous system wisdom, I explore how you can start giving yourself the proof your body needs to believe: it’s over. You’re safe. You’re home now.Tune in to hear:Why time alone doesn’t heal the nervous systemWhy your mind can move on, but your body can still feel stuckThree simple, practical ways to create safety and healing from withinHow to begin speaking to yourself with kindness, not judgmentWhat it really means to rest (and why it’s essential to healing)Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailNicole Kidman and Keith Urban’s relationship has been splashed across headlines lately, with speculation about separation, divorce, and division of assets.But... their relationship - whether they stay together, separate, or divorce - is none of our business.And yet, the way the media frames these stories reveals how we expect divorce to look: messy, high conflict, destructive.But what if it isn’t?What if separation can be kind? Respectful? Even collaborative?In this episode I share: ✨ Why divorce is, at its core, a human and emotional experience (not just legal and financial) ✨ What “conscious uncoupling” really looks like in practice ✨ How I work with couples to turn down conflict and co-create solutions that work for the whole family ✨ Real words from clients who’ve moved from fear and doubt to hope and possibility ✨ Practical tips if you want a calmer, future-focused separationDivorce doesn’t have to be a win-lose battle. Uncoupling Coaching, Collaborative Divorce offers another way.If you’re ready to explore this for your family let's chat - DM me directly or book a free intro call (link below)Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of intimate partner violence and abusive relationships. Please take care while listening.In this powerful and tender conversation, I’m joined by Cat Dunn award-winning OBM, mentor, speaker, and founder of Life After I Left.Cat shares her lived experience of leaving an abusive relationship and the deep healing journey that followed. Together we explore:How childhood experiences shape the way we love and choose partners as adultsWhat life is really like inside an abusive relationshipWhy leaving is so much harder than it seemsHow to create emotional safety for yourselfLearning to trust your own judgement againCat’s story is one of honesty, resilience, and reclaiming power. If you’ve ever doubted yourself, felt trapped, or wondered how to rebuild after leaving, this conversation will offer insight, validation, and hope.Connect with Cat:InstagramFacebookLinkedinWebsitePodcastSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailParallel parenting after divorce is approach for separated parents who struggle with high conflict, dysfunctional interactions or communication breakdowns.In this episode, Sallyanne breaks down what parallel parenting is, who it benefits, and how to put it into practice.We will explore the advantages for you and your children, practical strategies to make it work, and how this approach can bring more peace, stability, and boundaries to co-parenting after divorce or separation.And, how it can be the instigator of a new, more peaceful and co-operative parenting model for you and your family.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailDiscover how personal stylist Lisa Stockman helps people through life’s biggest transitions - from divorce to dating again - with styling that rebuilds confidence, identity, and ease.In this episode, I welcome back Lisa, for a deeper conversation about how style can anchor us through life’s biggest changes.Lisa has been styling people of all different shapes, sizes, life stages, and budgets for over a decade. Working with clients across Australia and internationally, she understands how hard it can be to know what to wear — especially during times of transition like divorce, a new job, dating again, post-baby, post-surgery, or ageing.Together we explore how personal style can rebuild confidence and identity after big life shifts.Lisa reminds us that styling is never just about clothes - it’s about reclaiming who you are and showing up as the most aligned version of yourself.Connect with LisaInstagramWebsiteLinkedInSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailMost people imagine co-parenting as two exes attending school events together, making decisions hand-in-hand, and communicating smoothly.But for many separated parents, that ideal isn’t realistic or possible, and forcing it can actually increase conflict and stress.In this episode, I bust common myths about co-parenting, explain why what you think you know might be wrong, and share practical ways to protect your wellbeing while staying fully present for your kids.What You’ll Learn:Why the “perfect co-parenting” fantasy can be harmfulThe difference between co-parenting and parallel parentingSigns you might not actually be co-parentingHow to reduce conflict and redefine post-divorce parenting in ways that make sense to your familyIf you want clarity, confidence, and strategies for healthier post-separation parenting, this episode is for you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailStarting over after separation or divorce often means rethinking not just your love life, but your career too. In this episode, I’m joined by Career & Life Coach Annique Teycheney to explore why job hunting feels a lot like dating - and why the key to both is knowing yourself first.We talk about values, boundaries, green & red flags, and how to recognise the roles (and relationships) that are truly the right fit for you.If you’re navigating career change, job seeking, or dating after divorce, this conversation will help you see the parallels, avoid common pitfalls, and take your next steps with clarity and confidence.Follow Annique on LinkedIn and Instagram @anniquecoachingSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailFor anyone stuck in survival mode, deciding whether to stay or go, or rebuilding after divorce.How to rewire your beliefs, release what’s weighing you down, and create real change after separation or divorce.If you’ve been stuck in divorce survival mode—burnt out, overwhelmed, and carrying the weight of your divorce (or your should-I-stay-or-go decision) on your shoulders—this episode is your wake-up call.Manifestation alone won’t get you out of this cycle.You don’t need another vision board, affirmation, or crystal to change your life. You need clarity, rewiring, and action.In this episode, I’ll walk you through three simple but powerful exercises to uncover your own answers and create a pathway out of survival and into steady, grounded thriving.Whether you’re deciding to stay or go, navigating separation, or creating a post-divorce life you love, this is your personal call to action.Because if you want different results, you can’t keep doing the same things. You have to become different. And just sitting on the couch waiting for the universe to deliver won’t get you where you want to be.Rio Richards - Somatic PracticesBianca Marics - Managing Stress & BurnoutSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailDivorce can keep your nervous system on constant high alert -  heart racing, mind spinning, emotions all over the place. In that state, clear, calm, strategic communication feels almost impossible.In this episode, I’m sharing why nervous system regulation is the communication superpower during separation and divorce. You’ll learn:What dysregulation actually is (and how it hijacks your communication)The signs your body has taken over the driver’s seatPractical, simple regulation tools you can use in the moment, anywhere, anytimeHow you can access these tools and build your communicaiton superpower to protect your energy, keep the long game in mind, and show up as the version of you who can handle whatever comes next.Listen in and start building your regulation muscle, so you can communicate in a way that protects your peace and your future.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailLeaving a relationship when nothing is dramatically wrong can feel hard.If your partner's a good person? If no one would understand why you're unhappy?Before walking away from your marriage or leaving your relationship, ask yourself this one thing.In this episode, Sallyanne explores the quiet, complicated space of choosing yourself - even when your relationship isn’t a complete disaster.You’ll learn: 💬 The one question to ask yourself when you're unsure whether to stay or go💬 Why you don’t need a big betrayal or dramatic reason to justify leaving💬 How to honour the relationship and choose your future💬 Why scaffolding yourself with support is essentialThis is a hopeful, grounding conversation for anyone standing at the edge of a decision, or moving through the big emotions of separation or divorce.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailYou didn't become selfish. You became self-honouring.What if being called “selfish” isn’t an insult, but a sign you’re finally choosing yourself?In this episode, we explore the powerful shift from self-abandonment to self-honouring in relationships, through separation and during divorce.If you’ve been made to feel guilty for setting boundaries, prioritising your needs, or no longer being easily controlled, this is your reminder:You didn’t become selfish. You became self-honouring.You became sovereign.Listen to hear:The difference between selfishness and self-responsibilityHow guilt and manipulation show up (louder, stronger) when you start honouring yourselfWhat self-honouring actually looks like in real life (especially in divorce and reorganising life afterwards)This is a reclamation.Of your needs. Your boundaries. Your peace.Because selfish?Maybe it’s sacred.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailAn episode about choosing kindness, courage and compassion through separation, divorce and beyond - especially when it isn’t coming back your way.When you’re going through divorce, kindness can feel like the last thing you’re supposed to choose - especially when others are telling you to go harder, or when the system feels harsh, scary and adversarial.In this episode, I share my own story of not finding kindness in the process… and why I decided to choose it and create it anyway.I’ll talk about what kindness really looks like in divorce, why it matters, and how to stay anchored in your values, even when no one else around you is modelling it.I’ll share 6 truths I know - from lived experience of divorce and coaching many through it - about why kindness matters and why it can create better outcomes for everyone involved.Kindness in divorce isn't weakness. It's powerful.This episode is also for anyone who works in or around family law, separation or divorce - about how we as practitioners can bring kindness to our work and change experiences and outcomes.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailFeeling emotionally, physically and energetically depleted during separation, through divorce, even beyond?Divorce burnout is real.This episode introduces Spoon Theory. A simple explanation and easily implemented way to help you protect your energy, avoid burnout, and focus on what truly matters.The Spoon Theory written by Christine MiserandinoSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailWaking Up to Your Own LifeWhether you're questioning your marriage or relationship, navigating separation or divorce.If you’ve been hiding under the covers, eyes tightly shut, afraid to really look at your life, avoiding what hurts, staying stuck in the same stories, this episode is for you.I talk about: ✨ Why staying in the dark can feel safer ✨ The fear of really looking at your life ✨ The quiet decision to wake up and take responsibility ✨ How to begin letting go, gently and honestlyYou don’t have to have it all figured out.You just have to be willing to open your eyes.To WAKE UP to the possibility for your life.If this resonates: 💛 Share it with someone who needs it ⭐ Leave a review to help others find the showSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailHow to Hold It Together While Falling Apart During DivorceHow to Keep Going in the Hardest Days of Your Divorce 💙This episode is shared in loving memory of my beautiful Mum, Helen Hartnell, who taught me how to do hard things with kindness, compassion and grace.The early days of separation and divorce are hard - it feels like your whole world is unravelling and there is no solid ground under your feet.And there are other moments through divorce when it feels too hard, too overwhelming.This episode is for those moments.How to keep going, how to hold it together while falling apart during divorce.More about Spoon Theory and divorce HEREIf you found this episode helpful:💛 Share it with someone who might need it⭐ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - it helps more people find these conversations🌿 Follow the podcast to get the next episode in your feedSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan Mail You don’t have to choose between being kind and being clear.In this episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate, I share how to bring gentle strength & quiet power into mediation, so you can stand firm on what matters without escalating conflict.In this episode I outline:Why you feel pressured to pick a side - agreeable or aggressiveWhat it looks like to be anchored in your non-negotiables and open to creative solutionsThe power of knowing your core values and acting in alignment with themHow to model healthy boundaries and respect for your childrenThree small practices you can start using right nowWhether you’re still to have to opening conversation about separation with your partner, you're preparing for mediation, in the messy middle of divorce or simply learning to advocate for yourself with more clarity and calm, this episode will help you reclaim your voice, anchor into your quiet power, and stay soft but also strong. And protect what matters most to you.Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m joined by Darren Mort — a Melbourne-based family law barrister, producer, and passionate advocate for children’s wellbeing in the context of separation and divorce.With decades of experience working in family law including complex and high-conflict cases, Darren’s s impact goes well beyond the courtroom.Darren is the founder of the To Be Loved Network, a charity dedicated to creating educational media content that supports children navigating parental separation.His powerful, award winning short films Tommy and Milly are used to drive understanding about the impact of family conflict on children and to change in family law systems.We talk about:The rise of family violence in AustraliaWhy children’s voices need to be heard in separation and divorceHow Darren combines his legal work with creative storytellingThe real impact of high-conflict separation on childrenHis award-winning book Tommy & Tiger Terry, and films Tommy & MillieWhat he's learned as both a family law expert and a fatherThe changes he’d most like to see made to the family law courtHow parents can support the emotional well-being of their children through separation, divorce and beyondThis is a powerful conversation about creating better outcomes for families - especially the youngest ones caught in the middle.Links & Resources: 🔗 To Be Loved Network  🔗  Darren Mort - BarristerSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan MailDivorce as more than just an ending. It's a reckoning. An awakening.Whether you’re in the early stages of separation, in the messy middle, or still quietly sitting in the “should I stay or go?” space, this episode is for you.Divorce is rarely just the ending of a relationship. It can interrupt your identity, shake you to your core.And it can also be the powerful beginning of something deeply aligned and beautifully true.I will lead you through the 5 R’s: Reflect, Release, Realign, Rebuild, and RiseYou’ll be invited to reconnect with yourself, tune into your truth, and begin to consciously shape what’s next.We’ll unpack:Why divorce is rarely just about the end of a relationshipHow the “quiet after” can become the most powerful space of allWhat it looks like to stop surviving and start awakeningHow to begin again - unapologetically and on your own termsThis episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. And it’s never too late to rise.#divorce #divorcepodcast #healingafterdivorce #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #stayorgo #shouldIstayorshouldIgoSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

Send us Fan Mail Two of the most powerful words in any relationship? “I’m sorry.” In this episode, we explore what a true apology sounds like. No shame, blame or guilt. No excuses, no “I'm sorry but,” no deflection. Just accountability, humility, and the choice to take radical personal responsibility and own your part.Whether you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, or simply reflecting on past patterns, this conversation is a reminder that real repair doesn’t come from blame, but from ownership, accountability, and courage.We talk about:Why apologising isn’t weakness, it’s growthWhat a genuine apology sounds like (and what it doesn’t)The impact of apology in post-divorce healing and co-parentingLetting go of waiting for an apology you may never getIf you're holding out for someone else's “I’m sorry,” this episode might help you let go and begin your own repair.#divorce #divorcepodcast #healingafterdivorce #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #stayorgo #shouldIstayorshouldIgoSallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & StrategistHow you can work with meBook a free intro callFree Resources & Downloads- Choose You Guidebook- Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts- Divorce with Less Drama - The MasterclassJoin the Reflect VIP Mailing ListFollow me on INSTAGRAMAll relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.