How To Relate

What separates great leaders from ones who quietly destroy their teams? And when you're the one burning out at the top — do you stay or go? Kealy Spring, licensed therapist and executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area, breaks down the inner psychology of leadership, what executive coaching actually is, and why most people calling themselves coaches probably aren't.   In This Episode Therapy vs. coaching — where they overlap and where the line actually is The energy audit: a practical tool for diagnosing burnout before deciding to stay or quit Golden handcuffs — how to think through ambivalence when the pay is great but you're miserable The 3-step cognitive reframe for catching distorted thinking at work (mind reading, personalization, and more) Imposter syndrome across career stages — and why it hits differently for women The double bind for women in leadership: likable vs. competent, and how to navigate it Why less than 10% of coaches are actually thriving — and what the unregulated industry gets wrong Key Takeaways 🔑 The energy audit isn't about adding to your plate — it's about gathering data so you know where to work the edges. 🔑 Cognitive distortions don't stay home when you go to work. Name it → check your evidence → reframe. 🔑 Coaching is strategic and time-limited. Therapy goes deeper into patterns and history. You may need both. Resources Mentioned Kealy's therapy practice: ⁠keelyspring.com⁠ | Coaching: Spring Ahead Coaching Kealy's podcast: Therapeutically Aligned https://www.youtube.com/@therapeuticallyaligned  ⁠Hampton⁠ — peer advisory groups for founders Simon Sinek's Start With Why | Self-Determination Theory ☕ Larry's Coffee: https://larryscoffee.com/relate Brittani's Resources: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ Stay connected.  

What if the problem in your relationship isn’t the argument you keep having—but the pattern underneath it? Therapist Carole Cullen explores how couples can move from disconnection to deeper intimacy using a mix of structured tools, emotional processing, and experiential learning. Carole shares how she integrates the John Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), why traditional 50-minute sessions often fall short, and how immersive couples intensives can create breakthroughs in just a few days. We also dive into her innovative membership model, The Work of Us, which combines therapy, community, and real-life experiences—from Pilates to equine-assisted learning—to help couples reconnect outside the therapy room. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same conflict loop, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually creates change.   Carole's Resources: Website: https://mytherapistnc.org/ Couples Workshops: https://www.couplesworkshopsnc.com/   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠ 

What happens when artificial intelligence enters the therapy room—both with clinicians and clients? Ann Dypiangco, LCSW, is a therapist in private practice and co-creator of Therapist Brief, a newsletter for therapists navigating tech, research, and the changing landscape of mental health care. She also works at the intersection of clinical practice and emerging technology in her roles at Blueprint.ai and Mental Health Match. From AI-generated therapy notes to clients turning to chatbots for emotional support, we explore what’s changing, what’s concerning, and where there’s actually opportunity.   Ann's Resources: Therapist Brief Newsletter: https://therapist-brief-newsletter.beehiiv.com/    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate   Therapist Collective: The Trusted Community for Entrepreneurial Therapists to Refer, Connect, and Grow https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffbhttps://therapistcollective.carrd.co/

What if you stopped trying to make the perfect decision—and instead focused on making the best bet? In this episode, Brittani sits down with Daniel to explore how poker strategy—especially ideas from Thinking in Bets—can transform the way we think about relationships, career choices, and everyday decision-making. They break down concepts like probability thinking, emotional regulation, and “playing the long game,” and apply them to real-life scenarios like dating burnout, job searching, and running a business. If you’ve ever spiraled after a “bad outcome” or questioned your choices, this episode will help you zoom out, rethink control, and make more grounded, confident decisions.   Drink Good Coffee: Larry's Coffee. Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Daniel's Substack The Disrupted Therapist: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/?utm_source=recommendations_page&utm_campaign=1394488 

In this episode, we’re diving into modern dating—offline and online—from being pitched at a live singles event to unpacking the realities of situationships, emotional availability, and what it really means when someone says they “don’t know what they want.” Key Takeaways: What emotional availability actually looks like in real life The 4 C’s of dating: chemistry, connection, compatibility, and commitment Why situationships happen—and how to spot your role in one How to support a friend in a toxic dating cycle (without burning out) The truth about people who “don’t know what they want” Why dating in your 30s can lead to stronger, healthier relationships First date do’s and don’ts (and why dinner might not be it) The surprising average cost of a date—and what it means for modern dating   Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate

If you feel like you’re having the same argument over and over again—this episode is for you. In this solo episode, we'll break down the hidden dynamics driving conflict in relationships, including core negative images, pursuer-withdrawer patterns, and the vulnerability underneath reactivity. You’ll learn how to understand your conflict cycle, take ownership without defensiveness, and repair in a way that actually creates connection.   Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate

What is imposter syndrome, and why do so many successful people still feel like they don’t belong? In this episode of How to Relate, Brittani and Drew explore the psychology of imposter syndrome, including the fear of being “found out,” chronic self-doubt, and the pressure to prove ourselves in work, dating, and relationships. Unpack how imposter syndrome shows up in everyday life—from dating anxiety and people-pleasing to parenting pressure and professional perfectionism—and discuss practical ways to challenge the inner critic and build self-trust. You'll Learn: What imposter syndrome actually is The fear of being “found out” as a fraud How imposter syndrome develops Perfectionism, comparison, and performance pressure How imposter syndrome shows up in dating and relationships The connection between embarrassment and shame Imposter syndrome in careers and parenting Practical ways to challenge self-doubt and build self-trust   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate    Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

What if the key to better decisions—in your life, relationships, and business—wasn’t more intuition, but better data? In this episode, Brittani sits down with therapist Everett Uhl to explore how data-driven decision making can transform the way we approach our careers, personal habits, and even emotional awareness. They dive into the hidden problems with many therapy trainings, the pressure therapists feel to constantly “level up,” and why tracking the right metrics might matter more than adding another certification. From sleep scores and protein intake to client referrals and lifetime customer value, this conversation explores how information—not impulse—can help you build a more sustainable and aligned life. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by self-improvement culture or unsure how to make clearer decisions in your work or relationships, this episode offers a refreshing framework: use your feelings as data, not directives. Everett's Training https://partiful.com/e/VSKwdFAM3Y43ioVARBUV?rsvp=true Work with Everett: https://www.everettuhltherapy.com/  Brittani's Resources Sign up for the weekly newsletter for insight and action into relational wellness:  https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc Work with me: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

In this episode of How to Relate, therapist Bianca Hughes joins Brittani to explore the exhausting cycle of perfectionism, the pressure to meet others’ expectations, and what it truly means to live in alignment with your authentic self. Bianca shares her personal journey—including selling her home and taking a global sabbatical—to illustrate how reconnecting with your true identity can create freedom, trust, and joy. You'll understand how perfectionism develops, why authenticity is often suppressed, and how small mindset shifts can help you reconnect with who you really are. If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to be “enough,” this conversation will help you rethink success, identity, and what it means to live authentically. In This Episode We Cover Why perfectionism often develops in high achievers The hidden cost of living by others’ expectations What authenticity actually means (beyond the buzzword) How Bianca’s sabbatical changed her relationship with work, identity, and consumerism Why trusting yourself is the foundation of confidence How to create your own version of a “sabbatical” without quitting your life Why living authentically benefits everyone around you   Bianca's Resources: Website: https://www.authenticallybeyou.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/authenticallybeyou   Brittani's Resources Weekly Newsletter: ⁠⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠⁠ Work together: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠      

It's a solo episode! Together we'll explore how shame quietly shapes our reactions, conflict patterns, and intimacy. Drawing from the work of Brené Brown, Joseph Burgo, and John Gottman, she breaks down the four “buckets” of shame, how shame turns into defensiveness, and why we project our internal stories onto the people we love most. You’ll learn how to move from reaction to responsibility — and how real intimacy begins when you stop delegating your self-worth to someone else. Get the PDF guide for this episode: https://howtorelate.kit.com/92ab8c9359    Brittani's Resources Work with me: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

How does attachment with our peers impact our attachment as adults? Drew and Brittani are discussing attachment beyond styles. Key takeaways" -Attachment on the relational spectrums of teens and adults -Social media's impact on teen attachment -Peter Pan syndrome in modern society -The Wendy Dilemma -Balancing freedom and responsibility in adulthood  

How does trauma impact our relationships and how do we heal trauma in our relationships? Brittany Wyche, PhD LCHMC, therapist, professor, and educator discusses the concept of trauma from a response-based perspective, the importance of understanding trauma within relational and systemic contexts, and how play and creativity can enhance trauma recovery. You'll gain insights into the trauma healing process, the interplay of dating and trauma, and the importance of self-connection in relationships. Plus Brittany talks about the tv show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and the complex dating dynamics. Enjoy! Brittany Wyche Website: https://www.salembloom.com/about A Lot More Nuanced: https://www.patreon.com/cw/alotmorenuancedpodcast/posts Brittani's Resources: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Vince Benevento, LPC, is a licensed counselor in both NY and CT, a husband, father, speaker, entrepreneur, and author of Boys Will Be Men: 8 Lessons for the Lost American Male. He holds a BA from Wesleyan University and a Masters’s in School Counseling from Fairfield University. Vince possesses nearly 20 years of experience working specifically with men and young men as a coach, mentor, and therapist. The organization Vince founded and has directed for the last 15 years, Causeway Collaborative, has supported over 2000 men and young men from 14-30, effectively changing the way that therapy has been done for guys who have been resistant to help over that time. Now, Vince hopes to share key lessons with men who seek to become better versions of themselves and those who love them.     00:33 Meet Vince Benevento: Founder of Causeway Collaborative 01:20 The Journey to Starting Causeway 03:28 Challenges and Needs of Young Men 04:40 The Role of Male Mentorship 05:02 Practical Life Skills and Career Readiness 05:52 The Importance of Purpose-Driven Work 07:23 The Evolution of Causeway's Approach 08:05 Therapy vs. Career Coaching for Young Men 11:14 Building Confidence Through Competence 15:22 The Crisis of Modern Masculinity 18:25 Changes in Client Archetypes Over the Years 21:32 Overcoming Inertia in Young Men 28:01 Writing 'Boys Will Be Men': A Personal Journey 31:56 The Birth of the Book 33:44 The Eight Lessons 35:14 Brick by Brick 36:58 Name It to Tame It 38:26 Provision is Not a Substitute for Presence 40:34 Find Your Inner Wild 43:16 Never Tap Out 44:42 Iron Sharpens Iron 45:53 Gentle Strength 47:22 Find Your Thing 55:16 Lessons from Adversity  Vince's Resources: Boys Will Be Men Book: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Will-Be-Men-American/dp/1959170317/ref=zg_bsnr_g_11390_d_sccl_20/000-0000000-0000000?psc=1⁠  Causeway Collaborative: ⁠https://causewaycollaborative.com/⁠     Brittani's Resources Newsletter: ⁠https://brittaniprocknow.substack.com/⁠  Website: ⁠https://brittaniprocknow.com⁠ 

What makes behavior change stick? We'll dive into different theories including The Fresh Start Effect and new year inspiration, Self-Determination Theory, willpower vs discipline, and temporal landmarks.    00:11 Discussing Behavioral Change 01:28 Challenges of Behavioral Change 03:01 Regret, Shame, and Identity 05:47 The Fresh Start Effect 06:30 Temporal Landmarks and Cultural Significance 15:49 Willpower vs. Discipline 27:46 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation 28:44 Exploring Competence and Relatability 30:02 Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation 34:33 Impact of Self-Determination in Workplaces 36:20 Dark Sides of Self-Determination Theory 38:54 CrossFit and Community Building 41:07 Incorporating Self-Determination in Daily Life 45:26 Navigating Interests and Decision Fatigue 49:53 New Year's Goals    

Michael Fulwiler specializes in helping therapists and mental health organizations enhance their marketing strategies. We'll discuss the importance of understanding your target audience, the common mistakes therapists make in their marketing, and actionable tips for creating effective, clear messaging. Michael shares his journey from a student intern to the Chief Marketing Officer at the Gottman Institute, emphasizing the value of niche marketing and ethical promotion.    00:49 Michael's Journey into Therapist Marketing 01:52 Working with the Gottman Institute 03:58 Challenges in Therapist Marketing 04:57 Effective Marketing Strategies for Therapists 05:51 Common Mistakes in Therapist Marketing 08:42 Mindset Shifts for Therapists in Marketing 11:18 Ethical and Authentic Marketing 13:38 Optimizing Therapist Websites 16:28 Crafting a Clear Marketing Message 18:47 Defining a Somatic Approach 19:47 Holistic vs. Research-Based Therapy 20:58 Couples Therapy Marketing Strategies 23:34 Importance of Clear Messaging 26:03 Exercises for Effective Marketing 31:18 Local SEO and Google Business Profile 33:09 Final Thoughts on Therapist Marketing   Michael's Resources Website: https://michaelfulwiler.com/ Therapy Marketer Newsletter: https://www.therapymarketer.co/      Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Dating habits you need in 2026.   00:49 Reflecting on the New Year 01:54 The Dating Therapists: New Series Introduction 03:23 Balancing Dating and Personal Growth 05:49 Exploring New Social Activities 16:08 Intentional Dating and Ambivalence 29:10 Discovering Hidden Gems 29:17 Crafting Engaging Stories 29:49 Personalizing Your Profile 30:55 Profile Grammar and Spelling 34:14 Balancing Self and Relationships 36:33 Men and Achievement in Relationships 45:40 Setting Realistic Goals 55:48 Foundations of a Healthy Lifestyle

Cheers to 2026! Welcome to this solo episode deep dive into fresh starts, self determination theory, and my personal goals for this year on the podcast. Enjoy!

We may not enjoy regret, but we can make it useful. Brittani and Drew are here to talk about how we can examine the emotional landscape of regret to help us understand what we want for our lives. Check out the resources for articles and more in the show notes. Enjoy!   00:00 Introduction to Regret 00:02 Emotional Landscape of Regret 00:58 Personal Experiences and Identity 01:33 Religion and Regret 02:26 Career Choices and Regret 03:20 The Power of Regret 04:27 Mindfulness and Optimism   Episode Resources Regret Research: https://www.danpink.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Results-of-the-American-Regret-Project.pdf Unlocking Us Podcast: https://brenebrown.com/podcast/the-power-of-regret/    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

Understand play therapy & integrative family dynamics with Hannah Edwardson, LCMHC. Hannah is a Synergetic Play Therapy certified provider working with kiddos and parents. She uses the family system to help parents understand their children and help children understand their nervous system through play. Enjoy this comprehensive exploration on the importance of play for all.   00:33 Hannah's Journey into Play Therapy 02:04 Working with Different Age Groups 03:04 Common Issues in Child Therapy 04:57 Nervous System Regulation in Kids vs. Adults 11:32 Integrating Therapy with School Systems 18:17 Parental Involvement and Challenges 24:44 Balancing Child Autonomy and Parental Authority 26:23 Generational Trauma and Parenting Support 27:01 Balancing Parenting and Personal Support 27:26 COVID Babies and Parenting Challenges 28:33 Role of Therapists as Advocates for Children 29:10 Role Play: Handling Mealtime Tantrums 30:05 Strategies for Encouraging Children to Eat 40:03 Role Play: Managing Sibling Conflicts 47:06 Disrupting Patterns and Building Connections 48:05 Conclusion and Resources   Hannah's Resources: IG: https://www.instagram.com/counselingwithkiddos/  Website: https://www.carolinacounselingandplaytherapy.com/    Brittani: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠      

In this episode of the How to Relate Podcast, we explore the topic of confidence with Ashley Emmons. Ashley shares her unique journey from paralegal to therapist, experiences in wilderness therapy, and private practice. The conversation delves into confidence distortions, examining perfectionism, and practical approaches to building genuine self-trust. Ashley also discusses her Confidence Cohorts, a women's coaching program to help cultivate self-trust and confidence. Additionally, she invites listeners to a free holiday workshop focused on maintaining confidence during the holiday season.   00:00 Introduction and Warm Welcome 01:23 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist 03:50 Wilderness Therapy and Career Transition 07:18 Graduate School and Yoga Therapy 10:08 Private Practice and Specialization 12:22 Understanding Confidence and Perfectionism 20:54 Confidence Distortions and Data Gathering 24:35 Aligning Nervous System and Mindful Responses 25:49 Confidence Distortions: Identifying and Debunking 32:13 The Impact of Self-Criticism on Self-Trust 34:17 Urgency and Its Effect on Confidence 40:32 The Power of Group Dynamics in Building Confidence 45:58 Upcoming Workshops and Programs 49:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Ashley's Resources: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ashleyemmons_/ Confidence Cohorts: https://www.mondaywellness.com/cohorts Intro Call: https://mondaywellness.hbportal.co/public/682b41d95df02c0007a09acf     How to Relate: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better  

Jaclyn Ditter is back! We're reviewing the best and worst dating events of 2025. Plust why Charleston is the city for men to date, are run clubs still the new dating app, and how to approach people at the gym. Enjoy!   00:54 Charleston Adventures 03:05 Relocation Thoughts 05:26 Dating Dynamics and Social Skills 08:49 Speed Dating Experience 11:53 Pitch a Friend Event 14:16 Pickleball and Social Events 17:55 Run Clubs and Socializing 21:10 Gym Etiquette and Approaching People 24:58 Bold Moves at the Gym 25:25 Building Familiarity in Shared Spaces 26:11 Navigating Gym Etiquette 26:46 Approaching Conversations with Confidence 27:36 The Importance of Social Cues 28:13 Making Friends at the Gym 29:11 Shifting Focus from Dating to Community 31:17 First Date Conversations 31:56 Discussing Religion and Values Early On 38:16 The Role of Dating Apps 39:48 The Challenge of Choice Fatigue 42:19 Men and Women in the Dating Scene 44:59 Practical Tips for Improving Your Dating Life 46:29 The Barista Challenge 49:21 Podcast Update   Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better

Daniel Fleshner, LPC, AASECT Certified therapist shares his experiences with mental health tech companies, and offers a balanced perspective on the optimistic and cautionary aspects of AI in therapy.   00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:12 Discussing AI in Therapy 00:44 Challenges in Mental Health Tech 02:41 Insurance and Mental Health 08:28 Global Healthcare Systems 09:47 Consulting in Mental Health Tech 13:24 AI and Therapy Innovations 18:11 Ethical Concerns with AI Therapists 22:34 AI in Relationships 25:51 The Personalization of AI 27:13 Hopes for AI in Therapy 27:57 Therapists' Perspectives on AI 32:04 Ethical Concerns with Data Usage 39:51 AI and Intimacy 46:54 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Daniel: https://inflectionpointtherapy.com/about-daniel/ Disrupted Therapist Substack: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/about    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Explore 7 verbs of intimacy, blocks, and understand how you can deepen intimacy with self and others.     00:31 Exploring Different Types of Intimacy 01:56 The Seven Verbs of Intimacy 03:02 Understanding the Verb 'Ask' 04:19 The Importance of 'Taking' 05:19 The Vulnerability of 'Receiving' 06:58 The Act of 'Giving' 09:34 The Power of 'Refusing' 11:55 The Joy of 'Playing' 14:26 Identifying Intimacy Blockers 17:10 Addressing Maladaptive Patterns   Show Resources: Intimacy Blockers: Understand and Unblock https://app.kit.com/publications/17948707/reports/overview  Esther Perel Blog: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/language-of-intimacy-and-7-verbs   Connect: Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Shame runs deep inside all of us. What if we switched the narrative from eradicating shame to working with it? Drew and Brittani deep dive into the definitions, origin stories of shame, and how we can begin our healing journey.   02:17 Podcast Format Change Announcement 04:28 Deep Dive into Shame 04:55 Defining Shame and Its Impact 10:23 Shame in Development and Relationships 23:43 Shame vs. Other Emotions 28:07 The Garden Analogy for Shame 28:48 The Garden of Shame and Secrets 29:58 Addiction and the Power of Secrets 31:35 Exploring Vulnerability 33:05 Vulnerability in Dating 35:57 The Role of Hope in Vulnerability 37:18 Healthy Shame and Narcissism 43:01 Brene Brown's Approach to Shame 44:45 Narcissism and Leadership 50:04 Rewriting Our Stories 57:58 Final Thoughts on Shame and Vulnerability   Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

A wounded Marine combat veteran, Chris overcame his own challenges and is now a thriving psychotherapist. With a foundation in cognitive behavioral therapy, he specializes in EMDR for performance enhancement and psychedelic integration therapy. Having worked with 7-figure business executives and startup founders, military combat and special operations veterans, athletes, creatives, first responders, and other clinicians - he has a passion for helping people reach their highest potential. Over the past decade he's served on various public health, non-profit, and advisory boards; as well as national committees focused on clinical quality and rehabilitation research. Chris is a founder and the CEO of Helicon, a public benefit corporation committed to advancing EMDR for societal mental health.   00:11 Exploring EMDR and Its Challenges 01:50 Building a Tech Platform for Therapists 02:46 Marketing Insights and Collaborations 03:52 Helicon: Vision and Implementation08:12 Understanding EMDR: A Deep Dive 15:31 Personal Experiences with EMDR 24:55 Transitioning to Private Practice 25:26 Introduction to Psychedelic Therapy 25:48 Introduction to Psychedelic Studies 26:08 Training During COVID 26:48 Parallels Between Psychedelic Therapy and EMDR 27:51 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy 30:29 Ethical Considerations and Guidelines 31:02 Phases of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy 32:15 EMDR in Psychedelic Therapy 34:56 Neuroplasticity and Psychedelic Therapy 36:36 Client Experiences and Outcomes 43:24 Addressing Skepticism and Trust 47:46 Contact Information and Conclusion     Learn more about Helicon: gowithhelicon.com Connect with Chris: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cdbrownvet/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb   

00:20 Event Overview: North Carolina Sport and Performance Professionals Conference 01:41 The Importance of Community and Real-Life Connections 02:27 Building a Supportive Team for Athletes 13:54 Challenges and Benefits of Planning the Conference 19:59 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Join 21:45 Introduction and Sign-Up Information 22:16 Welcome Back to the Podcast 22:31 Event Overview and Details 23:52 Importance of Community and Teamwork 27:27 Broadening the Definition of Athlete 30:38 Conference Schedule and Activities 35:25 Planning and Challenges 41:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement  

Show Description with Timestamps 00:00 – Personal Stories Matter Host Brittani welcomes Heather Waxman back to the podcast and discusses the importance of sharing personal stories in therapy. 00:14 – The Power of Breathwork Heather explains the true intention behind breathwork, its connection to spirit, and how it helps us reconnect with our essence. 38:45 – Personal Healing Journey Heather shares her transformative experience with Kundalini yoga and how breathwork became a daily practice for healing trauma. 1:10:00 – Breathwork Myths & First Experiences Discussion on common misconceptions, first breathwork experiences, and how breathwork can bring up powerful emotions. 1:45:00 – Safety, Preparation & Group Work Heather details how she prepares clients for breathwork, the importance of safety, and what to look for in a facilitator. 2:30:00 – Final Thoughts & Where to Find Heather Closing thoughts on simplicity in healing, the value of curiosity, and where listeners can connect with Heather online.

00:13 Lake Gaston Adventures and Wakeboarding Woes 03:59 The High School Mentality Never Ends 04:44 Life Updates and Upcoming Plans 05:47 The Rise of Non-Alcoholic Options 07:29 The Return of Cigarettes in Media 08:36 Diving into Social Work 22:54 From Awkward to Approachable: Personal Growth 27:18 Therapy for Athletes: Building Genuine Connections 32:35 Bill Belichick's Coaching Style 33:20 Coaching College Athletes vs. NFL Players 34:13 Mental Health and Performance in Sports 35:43 Expectations vs. Preparation 41:36 Challenges of Limited Playing Time 50:44 Therapeutic Approaches for Athletes 52:20 The Role of Values in Sports 55:25 Navigating High School Social Dynamics 01:05:18 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections   Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb MemberUp Community Link:https://memberup.com?via=c0cb99   

Chronic pain is curable?! We're learning about Pain Reprocessing Therapy with Trinity Perini, LCSWA and therapist at Whole Mentality. Trinity gives us a masterclass in how PRT works, her story with chronic pain, and her work with clients as a practitioner. You'll want to share this episode with anyone who has struggled with chronic pain, injuries, or who's interested in the mind-body pain connection. Enjoy!   00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:43 Romantacy Obsession 05:37 Chronic Pain Journey Begins 07:03 Navigating the Medical System 12:07 Discovering Effective Treatment 19:38 Pain Reprocessing Therapy 35:47 Identifying Key Personality Traits 36:21 Neuroplasticity and Athletes 36:36 Commonalities Among Clients 37:16 Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) in Practice 40:15 Understanding Chronic Pain 46:11 Somatic Tracking Explained 57:06 Combining PRT with Physical Therapy 01:06:34 Resources for Learning About PRT 01:09:18 Final Thoughts and Personal Experiences   Trinity: https://www.wholementality.com/abouttrinity  

Mbong Henry, PT, DPT shares insights on the importance of pelvic health for athletic performance, pregnancy, and postpartum recovery. We delve into the complexities of pelvic floor muscles, common misconceptions fueled by social media, and the holistic approach required for effective treatment. You'll learn about the interconnectedness of the pelvic floor with other body parts, the impact of stress, and the importance of a supportive team in navigating pelvic health challenges.   Mbong's Resources https://www.radiancept.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mbonghenry.dpt/    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Psychologist and dating coach Dr. Lori Husband is back! Women dating in their 30's and 40's feel the heaviness of dating decisions, whether or not to freeze eggs, and factors that go into decisions for both. Whether you're a woman in this phase of life, or know women who are, this episode is for you.    00:41 Navigating Dating in Your 30s and 40s 04:12 Introducing the New Course: Should I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder? 06:19 The Modern Dating Landscape and Fertility Awareness 10:16 Considering a Move for Better Dating Prospects 16:47 Exploring Social Clubs and Activities for Dating 22:17 Dating Apps: Strategies and Realities 28:43 Understanding Vulnerability in Relationships 30:52 The Dilemma of Dating Apps 31:58 The Importance of Clarity in Dating 40:35 The Reality of Egg Freezing 44:14 Navigating the Decision to Freeze Eggs 49:42 The Cost and Support for Egg Freezing 57:34 Final Thoughts on Egg Freezing and Dating   Dr. Lori's course: Do I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder? https://drlorihusband.systeme.io/32224554    Work with Lori: https://drlorihusband.com/  Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb

What is different about working with athletes? Drew Klobuchar is here to talk about sports, city team loyalty, and how athletes relate. We'll explore the role of sports in childhood and its effect on psychological safety, as well as the pressures and expectations athletes face from their environments and families. The conversation also delves into crash-outs, attachment theory, and the distinctions between mental performance and mental health.    00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:05 Connecting Through Mutual Friends 01:14 Background and Hometown Stories 02:19 Sports Culture and Small Talk 03:27 Athletes and Their Relationships 10:34 The Human Side of Sports 15:43 Challenges Faced by Young Athletes 23:05 Parental Influence and Athlete Identity 32:24 Emotional Support and Coping Strategies 39:33 Parental Challenges in Youth Sports 40:41 Team Sports vs. Individual Sports 43:48 Mental Health vs. Mental Performance45:28 Understanding Flow State 52:00 The Impact of Dance on Mental Health 59:05 Yoga and Flexibility in Sports 01:08:33 Starting Your Mental Health Journey 01:11:59 Conclusion and Contact Information       Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

It's a coffee catch up conversation with Jamie Illinetski (Drescher). After a two week vacation, we're back! Brittani and Jamie talk about lifestyle changes over the past ten years, soulmates, and splurges. Question for you: What's your Roman Empire?   00:00 Coffee Limits 01:03 Reflecting on Past Drinking Habits 03:22 Health Trends and Alcohol 04:52 Drugs and Creatine 06:05 Life Updates and New Experiences 10:53 Podcasts We're Into 13:18 Coffee Habits 22:25 Splurge vs Cheap 24:24 Belief in Soulmates 25:52 Love Soulmates and Relationship Dynamics 26:21 Dating Insights and Negotiations 29:06 Memorable Moments and Shared Experiences 33:15 Parental Pride and Personal Achievements 38:03 Future Goals and Personal Development 43:52 Creative Pursuits and Social Activities

00:35 Mission of Lane Nine 01:06 Understanding RED-S in Athletes 02:50 Signs and Symptoms of RED-S 07:33 Impact of Social Media on Nutrition 10:56 Diet Culture and Misinformation 16:01 Defining Diet and Its Flexibility 18:47 Frustrations with Diet Culture 21:45 Obsessive Health Trends 25:27 Debunking Misinformation 26:03 Exploring Food Beliefs and Patterns 27:48 Challenging Rigid Food Rules 29:19 Understanding Disordered Eating 32:37 Promoting Flexibility with Food 41:14 The Importance of Fueling Before Workouts 44:57 Evaluating Supplements and Performance 48:36 Final Thoughts on Food and Wellness   Resources: Lane 9: https://www.lane9project.org/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

We're talking about sex on the How to Relate Podcast! Brittani is with sex educator and coach Veronica Dress. We'll explore the complexities of sex, sexuality, and intimacy. Veronica shares her personal journey from an upbringing in a strict Irish Catholic environment to her current career in sex education and coaching. We'll discuss the role of play and creativity in sexual relationships, and the importance of creating safe, curious spaces to explore one's sexuality. Veronica emphasizes the transformative power of understanding and defining one's sexuality through a more holistic lens, which includes sensuality, intimacy, sexual health, and pleasure. 00:28 Discussing Sex and Sexuality 01:16 Veronica's Journey into Sex Education 05:26 Challenges and Realizations 07:06 Planned Parenthood and Peer Education 13:31 Current State of Sex Education 24:34 Defining Sexuality and Intimacy 36:51 Exploring the Elusive Nature of Erotic Experiences 38:12 The Intersection of Tarot and Sexuality 39:52 The Role of Play in Sexual Education 40:45 Challenging Purity Culture and Rigid Scripts 42:14 The Oldest Profession and Human Sexuality 43:40 Intentionality and Creative Control in Sex 47:00 The Power of Rehearsal and Playfulness 51:58 Intimacy Coaching and Boundaries in Theater 53:08 Creating Collaborative Spaces for Intimacy 57:59 The Importance of Rituals in Transitioning 01:01:37 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Workshops   Not Your Crumpled Flower Replacing shame with pleasure-centered, accurate sex ed Identifying personal sexual values Building confidence in expressing boundaries + desires (in any setting!) Open to all—This is a welcoming space for adults of all genders + sexualities navigating this unique healing journey. Whether clients are deconstructing, staying connected to faith, or somewhere in between. ⁠https://www.dressrehearsal.space/not-your-crumpled-flower⁠   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Welcome back to How to Relate! Brittani is here with Cierra Listermann is a trauma therapist specializing with people who are dating. We talk about the impact of modern dating apps, attachment styles, and the importance of practical tools for trauma-informed dating. The episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for individuals navigating the dating world with an emphasis on self-worth and building healthy connections. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:17 Building Connections Through Mutual Friends 01:02 Sierra's Professional Background 02:02 Specializing in Trauma and PTSD 03:48 Challenges of Being a Therapist 06:41 Journey to Becoming a Therapist 11:34 Trauma and Dating 30:54 Modern Dating Challenges 36:50 Dating Apps as Exposure Therapy 41:22 The Role of Self-Esteem in Dating 43:40 Setting and Honoring Non-Negotiables 56:55 The Importance of Self-Trust 57:04 Avoiding the Trap of Dating for Potential 01:00:18 Navigating Red Flags and Boundaries 01:06:33 Resources for Relational Self-Awareness 01:10:11 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Cierra Resources: Website: https://www.carolinatraumarecovery.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/carolinatraumarecovery/    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Kim Konderla, LCSW is here with Brittani to talk about unique challenges for millennial women- especially millennial moms. Kim helps us define codependency and how we can move from codependence to interdependence in our relationships. We talk about IFS, parts work, and parenting from the inside out.   01:10 Raleigh Local Coffee Shops Shoutout 02:48 Friends Introducing Friends 03:45 Building Your Network and Friendships 05:31 Journey to Becoming a Therapist 07:06 Millennial Moms and Inner Child Work 08:56 Family Dynamics and Generational Patterns 20:48 Codependency in Relationships 35:41 Understanding the Gap in Accountability 36:45 Enabling vs. Managing: A Fine Line 38:19 Co-Parenting Dynamics and Emotional Burdens 40:08 Inner Child Work and Re-Parenting 40:59 Parenting the Adolescent Self 52:27 Navigating Codependency and Narcissistic Dynamics 56:29 Conflict Resolution and Personal Accountability 01:08 Interdependency: The Balance Between Independence and Connection 01:12: Stay Connected     Resources: Kim: https://www.groundedlivingpllc.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/grounded_living_therapy/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Brittani is here with John Markette! John talks all about fatherhood, young men's mental health, and ways men can be more active in their community. John discusses the important role of what it means to be a dad and why paternal relationships matter for adolescent development. We talk about nihilism and why how it can seductive trap in the fear of failure. Enjoy this conversation with John Markette!   01:11 John's Practice and Unique Approach 02:23 Therapeutic Mentorship in Action 05:07 Challenges Facing Young Men Today 06:08 The Role of Fathers and Media Influence 07:58 Consequences of Fatherless Homes 14:13 The Importance of Relational Equity 22:53 Effortless Perfection and Social Media 28:56 How to Combat Nihilism- and Why You Should 37:37 Building Self-Esteem Through Action 39:18 Behavioral Habits and Happiness 40:54 The Importance of Emotional Well-being 42:48 Relationships and Longevity 43:59 Balancing Self-Care and Relationships 47:44 Fatherhood and Personal Growth 01:04:19 Community and Social Connections 01:14:59 The Value of Small Acts of Kindness   John Markette Work with Modern Progress Counseling and Consulting https://modernprogresscc.com/ Instagram: @modernprogresscc https://www.instagram.com/modernprogresscc   How to Relate Resources website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Matthew Case is back! We're talking about spirituality. Matthew discusses how traditional religious and spiritual traditions can guide us through a collective spiritual crisis.    00:20 Impact of Asking Different Questions 01:29 Diving into Spirituality 03:10 Exploring Spiritual Practices and Traditions 04:27 The Big Question: Are We in a Spiritual Crisis? 05:44 Reevaluating Life Post-Pandemic 08:30 Interconnectedness and Purpose 10:06 Reengaging with Traditional Faiths 14:17 The Role of Wonder and Mystery in Spirituality 19:29 Knowledge vs. Wisdom 21:20 Re-engaging with Christianity and Faith 31:45 The Illusion of Online Transformation 32:09 Social Media's Role in Our Lives 32:53 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships 34:07 Spiritual Formation in Isolation 35:34 Habits and Behavioral Patterns 37:09 The Challenge of Social Media Addiction 37:55 Reevaluating Our Relationship with Social Media 41:29 The Importance of Community in Spiritual Life 45:58 Practical Steps to Engage in Spiritual Practices 52:10 The Power of Collective Experiences 56:03 The Role of Tradition and Practicality in Spirituality 01:02:24 Final Thoughts and Reflections  

Welcome back to the How to Relate Podcast! Brittani is with Heather Waxman, LMFT. Heather is a coach and therapist working with people to practically live in a spiritually connected way. In this episode Heather shares her favorite modalities, including breath work, somatic practices, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping, emphasizing their simplicity and practical application. You'll gain insight on the significance of having a spiritual connection, the role of prayer in facilitating shifts in perception, and the power of consistency in building a relationship with spirit. Enjoy! 01:10 Therapeutic Modalities and Client Empowerment 03:16 Navigating Client Relationships and Boundaries 08:27 The Role of Spirituality in Therapy 13:08 Practical Spiritual Practices and Miracles 22:49 Integrating Playfulness and Spirituality 33:34 Breath Work and Personal Favorites 34:08 Personal Anecdotes and Breathwork Preferences 36:31 Guided Somatic Practice 40:35 The Importance of Awareness and Compassion 45:10 Understanding and Healing Trauma 52:19 Exploring Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) 57:31 Practical Applications and Client Experiences 01:05:26 Resources   Resources: Heather:  https://www.heatherwaxman.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherwaxman/  Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/heather_waxman  Brittani: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

June is Men's Mental Health month and Justin Carotti is back. We're talking about men's mental health, pressure with reaching potential, and finding purpose.    00:43 Discussing the Lost Boys Report 01:32 Impact of Societal Changes on Men 05:01 Men's Mental Health and Behavioral Responses 08:44 Challenges in Addressing Men's Issues 12:05 Family Dynamics and Potential 22:14 Building Resilience and Handling Distress 29:15 Motivation vs. Discipline 31:48 Overcoming Resistance to Change 32:36 Discovering Personal Values 33:06 Practical Exercises for Value Identification 37:56 Career Counseling Insights 40:50 Navigating Life's Choices 51:24 Making Therapy Accessible for Men 56:39 Resources   Resources   Justin: https://www.valiancecounseling.com/ One Percent Better: https://one-percent-better.kit.com/landing-page https://www.linkedin.com/in/justincarotti/ Brittani: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc     

Navigating career transition? Thinking about leaving your job? Want to find your purpose? Marty McGovern from Career Therapy talks about how to navigate your work life with practicality and ease. We'll discuss AI, myth of the dream job, and importance of building relationships.    00:32 Career Transition: From Corporate to Therapy 02:08 The Evolution of Workplace Mental Health Services 04:29 AI in Therapy: Opportunities and Concerns 06:53 The Impact of Remote Work on Mental Health 14:59 The Myth of the Dream Job 35:14 Burnout in Marketing and Advertising 35:58 The Misconception of Career Coaching 37:57 The Difference Between Coaching and Therapy 38:08 The Value of Credentials in Coaching 39:13 Navigating the Coaching Industry 44:36 Exploring Career Paths and Self-Help 53:55 The Importance of Networking 01:00:35 Overcoming Networking Fears 01:03:45 Proactive Career Management Marty's Resources https://careertherapy.com/   Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Welcome back to the How to Relate Podcast!  Brittani is here with Gwendolyn Watson! Gwendolyn Watson is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT #147312) based in California, where she supports individuals and couples navigating anxiety, relationship challenges, and the impact of past experiences. Certified in EMDR and trained in Gottman Method (Level 2), she blends clinical insight with a strategic mindset shaped by her decade-long past career at Google in Strategic Partnerships. Outside the therapy room, she writes The Hopeful Partner, a free newsletter exploring how we get in our own way in our relationships—and how to find our way back to deeper connection. Connect with her on Substack, LinkedIn, or her website.     Resources: Links: The Hopeful Partner: https://thehopefulpartner.substack.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gwendolyn-watson-lmft-3520821a/ Website: www.gwendolynwatson.com   Brittani's Resources: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Desire is the sense of aliveness in relationships. Brittani is here with couples therapist and sex expert Jen Wynn, LMFT to talk about how we can handle desire discrepancies, responsive vs spontaneous desire, and ways we can explore the meaning of erotic energy in ourselves and relationships.    01:53 Understanding Desire: Beyond the Light Switch 05:59 Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire 13:47 The Role of Time and Connection in Desire 18:44 Circular Model of Sexuality 26:36 Accelerators and Brakes: The Dual Control Model 29:11 Understanding Desire and Arousal 30:56 The Impact of Shame on Wanting 32:32 Sex Education and Societal Norms 35:38 Breaks and Accelerators in Sexual Desire 37:03 Addressing Unwanted Sexual Pain 38:25 Therapist's Role in Discussing Sexuality 41:29 Exploring Sexual Identity and Pleasure 49:43 Navigating Desire Differences in Relationships 51:07 Resources for Exploring Sexuality 52:25 Validating Desire Changes Over Time 56:05 Increasing Desire in Long-Term Relationships 59:50 Conclusion and Contact Information

Erica Smith, LCSW is a trauma therapist and practice owner at Whole Mentality. Erica discusses her experience being diagnosed with Lupus, funny trauma stories, and what it means to live with chronic illness. Enjoy this light conversation discussing trauma.    00:34 The Power of Cold Emails 01:27 Trauma and Chronic Illness 01:36 Personal Stories of Trauma 05:32 Living with Chronic Illness 08:53 Understanding Spoon Theory 13:55 The Intersection of Trauma and Chronic Illness 22:41 Defining Trauma 33:54 Exploring Childhood Reactions in Adult Relationships 34:27 Understanding Trauma and Unmet Needs 35:18 Personal Reflections on Trauma Responses 39:05 The Impact of EMDR Therapy 41:53 Navigating Relationships and Trauma 47:01 The Role of EMDR in Healing 01:01:52 Supporting Loved Ones Through EMDR 01:04:51 Final Thoughts and Where to Find More   Erica Smith Website https://www.wholementality.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/wholementality/  @itsericakendra   Brittani https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Emily O'Brien is a freelance writer and author of the book Things I Heard While Dating. This fun conversation includes our own dating stories, excerpts from the book, and lessons from the real world of dating. Have fun with this episode! Highly recommend listening with a friend and share your own dating stories.  00:35 How Emily Created 'Things I Heard While Dating' 02:34 Hilarious and Awkward Dating Stories 04:18 The Blueprint of Relationships 11:31 The Cool Girl Phenomenon 19:30 Speed Dating Adventures 26:33 Unbelievable Name Critique 27:06 Supporting Evidence for Name Dislike 28:32 Personal Stories and Reactions 30:15 Memorable and Awkward Compliments 31:45 Cyclist Stereotypes and Dating 33:07 Unexpected and Shocking Comments 39:45 Navigating Dating Expectations 44:30 Reflections on Dating Stories 46:58 Share Your Dating Stories!   Emily O'Brien https://emilytellsstories.com/ Buy the book https://www.amazon.com/Things-Heard-While-Dating-compilation/dp/B0DJMW6Y7C   Brittani's Resources https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Welcome back to How to Relate: The podcast that aims to answer how we can do relationships better. This episode is with Merrill Wood, a licensed therapist, consultant, and co-founder of Monday Wellness. We'll explore themes such as: The narratives around work stress The arrival fallacy How societal and institutional pressures shape our professional lives Merrill emphasizes that addressing these issues requires creating supportive workplace cultures, leveraging resources, and balancing values to sustain both professional and personal fulfillment.      Merrill's Resources: https://www.mondaywellness.com/ https://www.ivyandoakcounseling.com/merrill    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Want to know what happens behind the scenes of couples therapy? Welcome to the couples therapist's couch with Christian Charette. Christian deep dives into how couples can find emotional connection through creativity, curiosity, and intention.   00:45 Journey into Couples Therapy 03:07 The Practicality of Couples Therapy 04:42 Challenges in Therapy and Real-Life Application 06:05 Family Systems and Therapy 08:13 The Importance of Connection in Relationships 21:33 Intentional Connection and Creativity 30:31 Curiosity and Differentiation in Relationships 34:50 Understanding Emotional Connection in Relationships 37:40 The Importance of Curiosity and Non-Judgment 38:48 Challenges Facing Modern Men 41:17 Redefining Masculinity and Vulnerability 47:39 The Role of Intimacy in Relationships 01:04:23 Intentional Living and Relationship Strategies 01:07:23 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Workshops   Christian's Couple Forward Workshops https://coupleforward.com/couples-workshops-2/ Work with Christian https://coupleforward.com/   Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

What's happening with young men? Brittani is with Justin Carotti! Justin is an experienced coach, mentor, clinician, and clinical supervisor.  primarily works with young adults in a variety of clinical settings, ranging from residential care to in-home treatments. He considers it a privilege to have the opportunity to form meaningful and supportive relationships with those he serves. In addition to his work at Valiance, Justin is also an adjunct faculty member of Fairfield University and the University of Connecticut. He studied at the University of North Carolina–Wilmington for his bachelor’s in Social Work and at the University of Connecticut   Episode Resources: Find Justin https://www.valiancecounseling.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/justincarotti/   How to Relate: IG @brittani_procknow www.brittaniprocknow.com  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Communication problems are not the real problem: they're a symptom of the problem. Get to know what's underneath, how to communicate better, and how your attachment styles are coming into play. 00:29 Understanding Communication Issues in Couples 02:09 Exploring Boundaries in Relationships 03:30 Emotional Regulation and Accountability 04:34 Roles in Couple Dynamics 05:53 The Complexities of Communication 07:48 Attachment Theory and Human Needs 14:16 The Infinity Loop: A Tool for Relational Work 21:53 Individuation and Differentiation in Relationships 28:43 Effective Communication Strategies 35:31 Conclusion and Listener Engagement