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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing — 319 episodes
Foot Zoning for Betrayal Trauma: How Your Feet Hold the Story of Your Body - with Susan Child
REPLAY: Victim to Chooser Part 2
REPLAY: Victim to Chooser (Part 1)
When Healing Becomes Hiding: Individual Recovery vs. Relational Repair
How Rejection Wounds Disrupt Betrayal Recovery
Why Rejection Sensitivity Is So Common In Addiction & Compulsive Sexual Behaviors
The Impact Letter: Grieving, Healing, and Finding Your Voice After Betrayal
Will I Ever Heal From Betrayal Trauma? (REPLAY)
Why Accountability Feels Threatening After Betrayal
Why Knowing Better Doesn't Always Mean Doing Better
How to Spot an Emotionally Shut-Down Man (Part 2)
How to Spot an Emotionally Shut-Down Man (Part 1)
Everyone's Path is Unique
A Deeper Dive Into Connecting Deeply
Why Can't We Connect Deeper?
High Functioning Codependency After Betrayal - with Terri Cole
Ask Amie and Alana: What We Got Wrong (and Right) About Parenting Through Betrayal Trauma
Helping Your Kids Navigate Betrayal and Addiction in the Family - with Sarah McDugal
Waiting For the Other Shoe to Drop
For the Parent Who Caused the Hurt How to Stay Connected to Your Kids After Betrayal
Your Kids Feel It Too: The Truth About Betrayal Trauma in Families - with Morgan Ellsworth
Children of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma: What Parents Need to Know - with Hannah Gordon
Supporting Your Teens and Young Adults Through Betrayal - with Ellia Marcum
What Happens When Women Heal Together?
Why Empathy Breaks Down After Betrayal (And How to Fix It)
Reclaiming Your Humanity After Betrayal: Overcoming Self-Objectification
How Do I Keep Living When I'm in So Much Pain? - with Kim Brown
The Waiting Room: When Your Healing Becomes Conditional
Will He Ever Really Understand the Impact of His Betrayal?
Resentment Part 4: Healing Resentment Without Minimizing the Betrayal
Resentment Part 3: What Drives Resentment in the Partner Who Betrayed?
Resentment Part 2: How Powerlessness and Entitlement Sabotage Healing
Resentment Part 1: Hidden Resentment in Betrayal Recovery
Creating Internal Safety After Betrayal - with Laura Fisher
Gaslighting vs. Defensiveness: How Betrayed Partners Can Tell the Difference - with Sarah Morales
Rise, Renew, Restore: A Transformative Women's Retreat in Costa Rica
When It’s Time to Shift: How to Know You’re Ready for the Next Phase of Healing
You Are Not Broken: Healing Betrayal Trauma and Attachment Wounds After Infidelity - with Dr. Laney Knowlton
How to Heal By Discovering the Stories We Tell Ourselves - with Bella
When the Holidays Hurt: Staying Steady Through Triggers, Trauma, and Confusing Emotions
Broken to Brave - with Tammy Gustafson
Betrayal Trauma and Divorce: When Is It Time to Consider Divorce?
What Couple Check-ins Are (and Aren’t): A Trauma-Informed Guide
This Is Your Body on Trauma: How Nutrition Creates Safety After Betrayal - with Meg Bowman
What Emotional Regulation Really Means (and What It Doesn't)
Listening to Your Body
Destructive Trickle Disclosures
Is This Real Recovery? Part 3
Is This Real Recovery? Part 2
Is This Real Recovery? Part 1
The Power of Breathwork - with Kurtis Lee Thomas
You're Not Overreacting: Gaslighting, Betrayal, and the Right to Feel Safe
What is Gaslighting and the DARVO Pattern?
Trusting Yourself First: Healing After Betrayal Trauma
Five Steps to Loving Yourself After Betrayal
Why Do We Get So Emotionally Dysregulated After Betrayal?
What Does "Doing the Work" Mean? - with Athina Chiron
The Strength You Can't See: Healing Your Nervous System After Betrayal
Soft, Strong, and Boundaried: Reclaiming Your Empathy As a Gift
Recovering and Reclaiming You
Help! My Partner Feels They Are Good Enough, But It's Not Enough For Me
Recovery That Actually Builds Connection - with Stephen Thomas
Why Are We Afraid to See Abuse?
Finding Strength After Betrayal - with Isy Williams
Can My Partner Help Me Heal Or Am I On My Own?
Is Your Patience Being Honored or Exploited?
Grieving Together: The Missing Step in Relationship Healing After Betrayal
Grief, Betrayal, and the Hard Work of Acceptance
Fear of Grief Overwhelm
The Hidden Faces of Grief After Betrayal
Going Beyond Traditional Therapy - with Akary Busto
How to Handle Ruminating Thoughts
Being With Your Anger - with Bronwyn Schweigerdt
Not All Therapy is Created Equal: Betrayal Needs a Different Approach
The Pitfalls of Making Your Partner's Reality Your Truth
When the Healer is Hurting: Balancing Your Healing While Holding Space for Others
Partner, Not Parent: Healthy Ways to Support a Betraying Spouse
Stuck is Not Your Story: How to Keep Moving Forward in Healing From Betrayal and Infidelity
Using Healing Tools Against Yourself; Believe Your Body
Untangling Your Worth: Reclaiming Your Value After Betrayal
Red Flags in Betrayal
Unlock Deep Healing with Parts Work
Full Disclosure - A Step to Healing, Not a Shortcut to Trust
Breaking Through Denial
Breaking Free from Hypervigilance - How to Let Go After Betrayal (Without Losing Yourself)
Healing the Whole Body Through Brainspotting
BONUS: Rebuilding Us - Navigating Couples Work After Betrayal
Abuse in the Church - Changing the Culture Starts With All of Us
Navigating ADHD and Demand Avoidance in Relationships
From Triggered to Grounded: Tools for Managing Betrayal Trauma Triggers
Finding Freedom in Boundaries - With Laura Fisher
The Healing Your Body Holds
Reality Collapse and Reality Fragmentation
After the Personality Disorder Diagnosis - With Alexandra Repke PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP (Part 2)
Understanding Personality Disorders - With Alexandra Repke PhD, CSAT, C-PD, CAIMHP (Part 1)
Listener Question: How Can I Feel Good When I'm in Survival Mode?
Are All Cheaters Narcissists?
When You Don't Feel Grateful; Graceful Acknowledgment
REPLAY - Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 7; What Comes Next?
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 6; The Role of Polygraphs
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 5; Starting the Process For Both Partners
Take Back the Holidays - With Sarah Morales
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 4; Addressing Fears From the Betrayer
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 3; Am I Ready? Are We Ready?
Full Therapeutic Disclosure Part 2; To Have or Not Have
Understanding the Addict Mind
Courage To Thrive Intensive
Full Therapeutic Disclosures Part 1; What Are They and Why Do I Need One?
Impact of Trauma on Your Body w/ Rachel Hagstrom
Myths of Sexual Addiction - With Luke Gordon (Part 3)
Myths of Sexual Addiction - With Luke Gordon (Part 2)
Myths of Sexual Addiction - With Luke Gordon (Part 1)
Betrayal Trauma Myths Part 2
Betrayal Trauma Myths Part 1
The Power of Healthy Self-Talk
Acceptance When They Aren't Doing the Work to Heal
What Does "Consistency Over Time" Mean?
Trusting Too Soon?
Trauma on the Brain and Body - With Jody VanDrimmelen
First Steps to Healing When Your World Shatters
BONUS: Join Us At Our Revive and Thrive Women's Intensive!
Tips for Healing After Betrayal - With Laura Fisher
Does He Even Think Of Me?
Should I Stay or Go?
Who Should I Tell and Not Tell?
Loving Yourself First and Through the Hard
Separation - A Pathway to Healing With Luke Gordon
Victim to Chooser - Part 2
Victim to Chooser - Part 1
Will I Ever Heal? What Helps and What Hinders
"If He Would Just..." Why This Keeps You Both Stuck
Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon
What Does "Get In Your Body" Mean?
Is Ketamine Right For Me?
Quit Moralizing Your Emotions!
Why Addicts Need To Do Their Work Part II; Helping Children Heal with Luke Gordon
Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon
Supporting Teens and Young Adults Through Parental Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth
Attachment and Children as You Navigate Betrayal
Is It Me? Is It Him? Attachment Broken Down
A.R.E. You There For Me? Attachment Practice Tool
Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not
Can Trust Be Restored After Infidelity?
Are You Self-Rejecting?
Unraveling Shame with Jess Kovic
Don't Dance With WALTER!
Why Does Betrayal Trauma Hurt So Bad?
Laughing With Us, At Us; Blooper Time!
6 Practices Your Grief Needs From You; With Kim Brown
When Doing More Means Doing Less
Surviving the Holidays: Road to Recovery Webinar
Healing IS Possible; With Staci Somes LPC NCC
Not Pretending, Being Authentic and Owning Your Experience
Radical Self-Care; Preparing for the Holidays
Family Disclosures with Dr. Anthony Walker Ph.D
Believing Your Body; Healing from Betrayal & Abuse
Connection Between Interpersonal Trauma and Chronic Illness with Darcy Haas
How Long Will These Triggers Last? Healing From Betrayal
Healing Trauma with Dr. Don St John
Couples Coaching With Stephanie Hamby
What is Differentiation and Why Is That Helpful In My Healing Work?
"I'm Fine, It's Fine, Everything is FINE!" What if it's OK that it's NOT fine?
Does Intention Override Your Experience?
Is Recovery Work Being Weaponized?
Bonus Episode: Men's Help Her Heal and Why It's Important
What Is Betrayal Violence, and How Does It Apply To Your Situation? With Hope Ray
Say Hello To Your Vagus Nerve; Specific Ways to Relax Your Central Nervous System
Your Amazing Nervous System Explained With KayLee Dunn
Why Do I Feel Emotionally Detached?
Getting Curious About Hypervigilance
How Can I Know The Difference Between A Trauma Response And My Intuition?
Finding Safe, Healthy Support To Help You Heal
Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales
The Luxury Of Grief; Navigating your grief after betrayal
When Your Child Is Also Struggling With Pornography Use; With Jeremy Leavitt LMFT
Therapeutic Separation Part 4; What reintegration looks like, and what it doesn't with Luke Gordon
Therapeutic Separation; Part 3; Separation agreement questions
Therapeutic Separation; Part 2; How to prepare for separation with Luke Gordon
Therapeutic Separations; Part 1; Is separation right for you?
Bonus! Free Couples Road To Recovery for Couples Trying to Heal After Infidelity, Affairs, or Sexual Addiction
I Feel Like I've Lost Myself Since Going Though Trauma. How Do I Find Myself Again?
Brain Healing After Trauma with Guests Hali Roderick and Jeff Roderick
When His Helping, Isn't Actually Helping
When You Are Afraid To Leave Them Alone; Navigating betrayal trauma healing
Transfer Addiction or Cross Transfer Addiction; What is it, what you need to know about it, and how to be aware of it.
Practicing Acceptance To Help You Move Forward
Honoring Yourself and Your Voice
Trusting Yourself First: Healing After Betrayal Trauma
Building Trust In The Relationship; Brené Brown's BRAVING Tool
Passive Aggressiveness and Betrayal: How to Recognize and Overcome It
A Light In The Dark; Answering Your Questions
A Light In The Dark, The hidden legacy of adult children of sex addicts; With Dr. Kenneth M. Adams
Courage To Face The Fire; Healing Generational Trauma
Owning Your Beautiful Sexuality; Reintegration to the body after betrayal
Buy Yourself Flowers; Loving YOU first
Becoming a Healthy, Independent Woman
Bonus Episode: What does it mean to let the old relationship die? With Guest Luke Gordon, Men's Mental Health and Addiction Recovery Coach
Why Do The Work?
Sexual Consent In Marriage; with Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT
Should I Be Prepared For Him To Relapse?
Polygraphs Better Understood; With Polygraph Examiner Jared Rockwood
How to do I begin to thrive? I want to do more than just survive!
Reclaiming & Rewriting Your Holiday; Healing from betrayal
Navigating Narcissism With Tony Overbay
Couples Healing After Infidelity, Cheating, or Sexual Addiction: Couples Road To Recovery
How Long Will Healing Take and How Will I know He's Changed?
Holding Space For Grief AND Gratitude
Listener Question: Needs and Wants; Healing after betrayal
When Healing Tools Don't Take Away The Pain; Navigating Betrayal Trauma
Affair Recovery with Betrayal Trauma coach Hali Roderick
Announcing a New Resource ; Navigating divorce after betrayal trauma
Safe Space; Announcing a NEW resource for navigating abuse
Empathy For Him
What Healthy Empathy Looks Like Through Betrayal
Creating Safety After Trauma
Navigating Betrayal Trauma With Tony Overbay (An Interview with Alana & Luke on the Virtual Couch Podcast)
Step One In Healing After Betrayal Trauma
BONUS EPISODE: Healthy Attachments With Dating Expert Loni Harmon
Trauma Bonding Part 2 & Over-functioning
Trauma Bonding
Loving Your Body After Betrayal Trauma
The Power of Do Overs
Processing Betrayal Trauma
Blaming In-Laws
What To Share, When To Share & How Much To Share With Kids
Talking To Your Kids About Pornography...On Purpose!
Responding To Your Child When You Find Out They've Been Looking At Pornography
When Your Spouse or Ex Emotionally Hurts Your Children
Help! My Kids Don't See Why I Need Healing
Young Single Adults Sharing Wisdom
Divorce and Children- Part 2
Divorce and Children- Part 1
Connection in Relationships
Do I need help?
All About People Changing
How Do I Respond To Gaslighting?
Bonus Episode: Happy Women's Creation Day
Gaslighting (DARVO)
Is He In Recovery? Part 3
Is He In Recovery? Part 2
Is He In Recovery?
Want Another Way To Heal? Diving Into Parts Work
Trauma 101: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
Alana and Amie get REAL Vulnerable
Where Am I At In My Healing From Betrayal?
BONUS EPISODE! Empowering Women
Sexual Intimacy - Your Body is Your Body
Abuse, no excuse: To the woman on the other end of the phone
When Apologies Don't Feel Like An Apology
Happy Love You Forever Day!
Understanding Self Compassion
You are not your trauma
Breaking Up With Self Betrayal
Being Seen
How to Get Grounded
Trauma on the Brain and Body
Stepping Into Thriving
Mini Episode- A Not So Silent Night
Healing After Divorce
Understanding Grief and Trauma for Loved Ones Part 2
An episode for your loved ones to better understand the trauma
Comparison
Common Mistakes We Make With Boundaries
Conversations Around Boundaries
Power In Giving Yourself Permission
Healing Through Trauma with Podcasters Janeen and Naomi from HealingWithWorth
Perfectionism
Healing With Hope
Taming Your Triggers with guests Hali Roderick and Luke Gordon
BONUS EPISODE: The Elements Of Abuse Course Announcement
Healing Power Of Aceptance
Part 3: Elements Of Abuse : The Power To Act
Part 2: Elements Of Abuse: The Power Of Accepting Reality
Part 1: Elements Of Abuse:The Power Of Awareness w/ Kim Day
The Stories We Create and How to Break Free
Miracles Through Turbulent Times
Stages of Grief and Betrayal Trauma
Hope For The Future
Why We Need To FEEL Our Feelings
Diving In To Full Disclosures
Trust After Betrayal
Bonus Episode: WORTH YSA
Binging My Way Through Divorce
Boundaries and How Other's Respond To Them
Taking up Space in Your Life, Your Relationship, and the World After Betrayal
In-law Trauma Part 2: Boundaries with Extended Family
In-law trauma: When others compound your trauma
Will I ever trust or respect my partner again after betrayal?
Emotions in Relationships
When Church is Painful
Having hope and losing hope
Mama Trauma - Our desires to help, protect, and fix
Bonus Episode: Happy Women's Creation Day
Free Coaching Class! Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Mama Trauma - When Your Kids Trigger Your Trauma
Mama Trauma - Our Desire To Protect Our Kids
Mama Trauma - How trauma impacts motherhood
Triggers In New Relationships
More Than A Body
Missing Pieces in Couples Recovery Part Two - Emotional Connection
Common Missing Pieces in Couples Recovery Work
Rediscovering Yourself After Trauma
The Power of Choice
Identity vs. Identify: Is the label helping you? with Sam Tielemans
Couples Work After Betrayal
Active Recovery in Betrayal Trauma
Your Body is Your Body
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Owning Your Story
Boundaries and Non-negotiables
Boundaries and why I must own my reality
Beginning Boundaries Starting with Me
Honoring Yourself
Healing Options: Therapy, Coaches, Groups, or Sponsors?
Choose To Be: You Are Worth The Investment
Choose To Be: The Recovery Road
Choose To Be: Trauma Responses and Triggers
Choose To Be: Welcome to the show!