Be the Sun, Not the Salt

After years of recording together, “Be the Sun, Not the Salt” is now a complete series of 80 episodes that form a timeless toolkit for living more heliotropically. What does it mean to be heliotropic? Human beings, like plants, naturally turn toward what sustains life. We are energized by kindness, gratitude, compassion, vulnerability, and authenticity, and drained by pessimism, cynicism, disrespect, and unkindness. This simple metaphor is the heart of the show and an invitation for each of us to be our best self more often.Across the series you will hear conversations with researchers and heliotropic exemplars such as Curt Menefee, Will Guidara, Ethan Kross, and David Horsager; chapter deep dives into Be the Sun, Not the Salt; short Gentle Nudges that remind you how to actually practice this in daily life; and practical answers to real “How Do I” questions about applying the tips and tools.The episodes are designed to be evergreen. You can start anywhere, return whenever you need a reset, and hear something new each time you listen. As we created this body of work, we kept discovering and rediscovering the material ourselves and growing along with it. That ongoing personal evolution is the point, and our hope is that these 80 episodes will remain a resource you can carry with you and keep using over time.If you're new to the show, this trailer will introduce the metaphor, the tone, and the kinds of support you can expect. If you're returning, it is a reminder that everything you need is already here, ready for whenever you need a little more sun and a little less salt.Thank you for sharing our journey and mission!Useful Links:The bookThe podcast websiteThe ecosystemTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever catch yourself thinking, “They should really listen to this podcast” or “If only they would read the book”? In this “whole shebang” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine cut straight to the heart of the practice: this work is about you (or me), not fixing everyone else.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why focusing on other people’s saltiness pulls you right into judgment, blame, and your own bad habits.How getting triggered by someone’s behavior is the signal you have work to do on your own reactions, not theirs.The gift of frustration as a cue to pause, regulate emotions, and choose “act, not react” instead of frothy annoyance.How rereading chapters, asking “How can I be my best self today?” and the “prehab” mindset prepare you for anything life throws at you.Real stories of letting go of “how come?” spirals, handling cancer diagnoses with gratitude, and turning treatment rooms into places of appreciation.A reminder that you control your state of mind and body, no matter what others do or don’t do.This is the episode that ties it all together: stop pointing fingers outward and turn the energy toward becoming more of your best self every day. Perfect for a reset or anyone who needs the “kit and caboodle” in one listen.Helpful Links:Be the Sun, Not the Salt book by Dr. Harry Cohen (read a chapter daily for your prehab practice)Ethan Kross episode on emotional regulation (distanced self-talk, cooling your jets, and metabolizing triggers)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What if the biggest difference you make today comes from something so small and simple that you usually skip it? In this Gentle Nudge episode, It’s so easy to do, it’s easy NOT to do, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore how tiny choices - kind or salty - shape your day, your relationships, and your impact far more than you think. Here’s what you’ll hear:The “chapter 31” idea Harry wishes he had squeezed into Be the Sun, Not the Salt and why the book still keeps growing in relevance years later. The paradox that being kind, thoughtful, and present is genuinely easy, and so is being snarky, short, or dismissive. How quick jokes, subtle digs, or “just being funny” can quietly wear on people, especially when they pile up. Real stories of catching salty habits in marriage, meetings, and casual conversations, and what it feels like to simply not say the thing. Gentle prompts to notice recent moments when you missed a chance to be a little sunnier or to clean something up with a simple, “I’m sorry, I do know your name.” A 1% approach to both sides: being a bit kinder and a bit less salty, in ways so small they are actually sustainable. How this all connects to James Clear’s habit idea that for anything to stick, it has to be easy, and how to make “tiny sun moments” the easiest option in your day. If you’re looking for a light but meaningful reset, this episode offers a warm reminder that knowing is not doing, and that the smallest moves can turn you into more of a positive energizer and less of a “negatoid.” To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What if becoming more trustworthy started with something as small as keeping one tiny promise today? In this final guest episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine sit down with trust expert David Horsager to explore why trust is the ultimate competitive advantage and how “little things, done consistently over time” can transform teams, relationships, and entire organizations. What you’ll hearWhy trust is not a “soft skill,” but the root cause underneath leadership issues, engagement problems, sales slumps, innovation blocks, and culture breakdowns. The eight pillars of trust and how they give you a practical framework, not just a motivational poster. How David’s “how, how, how” process helped leaders triple sales, transform health goals, and even save marriages by getting to one clear, doable next step. Why gratitude shows up as the most magnetic trait in the research and how it quietly erases entitlement, selfishness, and negativity. Real stories of trust being rebuilt after big mistakes, from everyday workplace missteps to public leadership blunders and even political reconciliations. A simple but demanding truth: trust is only rebuilt when you make and keep a new commitment, not just a great apology. Concrete ways to apply this work at home, in friendships, and with colleagues, not just in the C-suite. If you’re thinking about who you want to be in the new year, as a leader, partner, friend, or teammate, this conversation gives you both the inspiration and the tools to start building (or rebuilding) trust in small, meaningful ways. Useful LinksDavid’s book The Trust EdgeDavid’s book Trust Matters More Than Ever (40 practical tools for building trust) David’s book Trust at a Distance: Six Strategies for Building Trust Remotely Trust Edge Leadership Institute and The Trust Outlook annual study on trust (free access for listeners mentioned in the episode) Atomic Habits by James ClearBe the Sun, Not the Salt by Dr. Harry CohenTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What if the most powerful thing you did today was simply not say the snarky comment in your head? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine zoom in on the often-overlooked half of the heliotropic equation: learning how not to be the salt in big moments and tiny, everyday interactions. Here’s what you’ll hear:Why even one sarcastic eye-roll or extra “unnecessary sentence” can hit five times harder than a kind word. How noticing what you don’t say or do can quietly transform your relationships at home and at work. A simple 1% mindset that makes “being less salty” feel doable instead of daunting. How tiny choices (biting your tongue, skipping gossip, resisting that jab) compound over time like behavioral interest. The ripple effect of snark, gossip, and subtle disrespect when other people are watching and absorbing your energy. Encouragement to apologize when needed, but to need those apologies less often as you practice. If you want to lower the emotional “toxicity level” you bring into rooms, conversations, and relationships, this episode offers clear, concrete nudges to help you be just a little less salty and a lot more intentional.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wish you could feel less awkward, nervous, or unsure when you step into something new? In this “How Do I…” episode of *Be the Sun, Not the Salt*, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine talk about what it really takes to become more comfortable with being uncomfortable, so you can stretch, grow, and still feel like yourself along the way. Here’s what you’ll hear:  Why discomfort is often a sign of learning, not failure, and how experience slowly reshapes your confidence. How gym reps, social “muscles,” and public speaking all reveal the same secret about growth and repetition.Simple ways to step into situations where you are not the expert in the room and still feel grounded.How feedback, preparation, and tiny practice moments can turn “I’m not ready” into “I can do this.”A nudge to stop overthinking, stop blaming the world, and start taking small actions that build competence.Encouragement to lean toward the thing that makes you squirm a little, instead of backing away from it every time.If you are tired of feeling stuck on the sidelines because something feels scary or unfamiliar, this episode offers straightforward, compassionate reminders to help you walk into discomfort with a bit more courage and a lot more intention.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever replay something you did and think, “Wow, I am the absolute worst”? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about what it means to practice self-compassion when you mess up, from small everyday slip-ups to the big, public, ego-bruising kind. Here’s what you’ll hear:Why beating yourself up is usually just a bad habit in disguise, not deep truth about who you are. How to catch that harsh inner voice in the act and swap it for something kinder and more helpful. Simple phrases and little mindset shifts that can turn “I’m an idiot” moments into “Okay, oops, what now?” moments. The power of laughing at yourself, using your own name, and even smiling on purpose when you want to cringe. What to do when the mistake is not private but public, and your ego feels like it has been hit by a truck. How honest acknowledgment, clean apologies, and “start again” energy can actually increase trust with other people. Gentle reminders that mistakes are where the practice happens and that you can be the sun to yourself, not just everyone else. If you are tired of being your own harshest critic and want practical, real-world ways to treat yourself with more warmth when you blow it, this episode offers relatable stories and small, doable shifts you can try right away. Useful Links:The Ethan Kross episodeTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel like life’s curveballs are just waiting to knock you sideways? In this empowering “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore the art of “prehab” over rehab: getting your mind, body, and spirit ready for whatever challenges come your way, so you bounce back stronger instead of just surviving.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why swapping worry for smart preparation can turn potential disasters into manageable momentsThe power of building resilience through everyday “to-dos” that keep you energized and clear-headedHow leaning into physical health, emotional check-ins, and simple gratitude can fortify you against stressTips for surrounding yourself with the right people (your “corner man”) to weather storms togetherThe difference between talking about problems and actually taking action that builds your inner strengthGentle reminders that investing in yourself today pays off big when tomorrow gets toughWhy even small, consistent habits create a flywheel of goodness that carries you through uncertaintyThis mini “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone facing job worries, life transitions, or just the general unpredictability of being human.  Start building the foundation to be resilient and ready for life's challenges with a little practical wisdom, right here.Useful Links:Tim Storey’s episode, where he talks about the important of having your own “corner man” and knowing who would be in your “green room” to help move you forward with positivityTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Is gratitude journaling just woo-woo nonsense or can you really rewire your brain by writing it all down? In this practical “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about gratitude habits that actually work, even for skeptics and self-improvement dropouts.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why you do not need to win a gratitude competition to benefit from the scienceHarry’s “three things and done” system, and the surprisingly powerful effect of keeping it simpleConnie’s journey from eye-rolling cynic to accidental gratitude practitioner, and how it started with coffee and silenceHow eating chia seeds and reframing “have to” as “get to” can flip your day around more than you thinkThe flexible, non-shaming approach, easy enough for even the least zen peopleWhy speaking fluent gratitude out loud can improve moods, yours and everyone around youInsights from James Clear about making tiny habits easy, enjoyable, rewarding, and obviousThe secret to creating a ritual you will actually repeat instead of ditching it after two daysIf you want a gratitude practice you will really stick with, instead of another abandoned notebook, this episode gives you permission to keep it simple, make it your own, and go easy on yourself.This mini “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone curious about neuroscience, tired of hearing about gratitude journals, or ready to enjoy the little things.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you just inhaled a face full of secondhand negativity? In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine tackle the all-too-common challenge of keeping your own energy bright when the people around you are stuck in a raincloud.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why negativity really is like secondhand smoke (and how to avoid grabbing a “cigarette”)The hidden traps of commiseration and why “ain’t it awful?” can pull you into the gloomSmart ways to empathize, listen, and validate… without accidentally joining the Negativity OlympicsBody language hacks to keep your posture upbeat even when the mood is notHow to “pour sun on the leaves” of someone struggling, and when a smile might not be the right moveHonesty about the fine line between uplifting and toxic positivity, plus the art of gentle redirectionTheir practical “word tracks” for shifting the convo from what’s wrong to what’s possibleWhy the world will never run out of negatoids, and strategies to protect your boundaries without adding to the saltIf you want to show up as a positive force, but without denying reality or making anyone feel steamrolled, this episode offers validation, sharp advice, and a reminder that you don’t have to “catch” someone else’s gloomy mood.This mini “How Do I…” episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating family dynamics, workplace drama, or moments when the energy in the room desperately needs a dose of sunshine.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder why some people get grumpier, judgier, and more insufferable as they age and vow never to become that person? In this hilariously honest "How Do I…" episode of *Be the Sun, Not the Salt*, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about the aging process and their mission to become wise, not just old (and cranky).Here's what you'll hear:  Harry's confession about being a "wisdom dispensary machine" and why his son basically told him to zip it during a life coaching moment  Connie's cookie incident with her eight-months-pregnant daughter (spoiler: it involved immediate regret)  Why Harry dreams of being the Dalai Lama everyone wants to invite over, not the boring enlightenment guy who drones on about chia seeds  The "advice machine" epidemic plaguing well-meaning older people everywhere (and how to shut yours off)  How Harry's 77-year-old sister is learning to bite her tongue at soccer games (thanks, Mel Robbins!)  Their pledge to be the kind of people their kids actually want to hang out with, not the kind they tolerate out of obligation  The art of saying "You're right, I'm sorry" without adding seventeen justifications  If you're committed to aging like fine wine instead of sour milk, this episode is your guide to becoming the cool elder everyone hopes you'll be, not the one they avoid at family gatherings.Tune in for laughs, wisdom, and a healthy dose of self-awareness about the fine art of growing older without becoming insufferable.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What does it take to thrive under pressure in the fast-paced world of sports broadcasting… and beyond? In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine sit down with Curt Menefee, award-winning sports anchor and commentator, to explore resilience, authenticity, and staying true to your values no matter the spotlight.Here’s what you’ll hear:  Curt’s perspective on becoming a leading voice on national sports stages  How preparation, empathy, and genuine connection fuel his confidence on and off the air  The role of humility, perseverance, and family grounding Curt through life’s ups and downs  Lessons learned from career pivots, challenges, and the importance of mentoring others around youHow being your best self can help others to become their best self, tooWhy being emotionally present and vulnerable can be a game-changer in high-pressure careers  Thoughtful reflections on authenticity, and how to bring your real self to a complex, demanding role  Inspiring stories about community, gratitude, and the power of showing love even in tough situations  If you’re looking for candid wisdom from a true pro who knows what it means to be both a leader and a human being, this episode delivers heartfelt insights that illuminate how to bring more light, purpose, and optimism into your own game, while proving success is about much more than talent. It’s about heart, grit, and showing up as yourself every day.This guest episode is perfect for sports fans, media professionals, leaders, and anyone wanting to cultivate gratitude and authenticity in their life. To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel like everything’s coming at you a mile a minute—and you’re about to lose your cool? In this relatable “How Do I…” episode of *Be the Sun, Not the Salt*, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine break down how to stay heliotropic (and human) when life gets fast, furious, and just a little overwhelming.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why your breath might be your secret weapon for holding it all together  The surprising impact your “game face” can have on those around you (and how to use it for good)  What we can learn from true pros at grace under pressure, and the power of watching and borrowing their moves  How to check your words and your mindset before chaos turns contagious  Why it helps to remember “this too shall pass” and the value of looking back at your own resilience  Gentle nudge: there’s no perfect formula, so experiment, get a little better each time, and don’t go it alone  If you’re juggling a thousand things or working in the heat of battle, this episode is filled with practical encouragement, honest stories, and a little laughter to help you breathe, reset, and get through whatever’s next.This mini “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone handling tough seasons, workplace rush, parenting whirlwinds, or just the general chaos of life. Tune in and share the episode with someone who could use a little sunshine—right when it matters most.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

When someone you care about is facing illness or loss, it’s easy to feel unsure about what to say or do. In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine open up about the small, thoughtful ways we can support people during life’s hardest chapters—without overthinking or making it about us.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why “just being there” often means more than grand gestures (and what that looks like in real life)The gift of listening without advice or platitudes, and how it helps build trustHow to check in gently and let someone know you’re thinking of them, even when words feel inadequateA few big “don’ts” we often put on the people we want to help without realizing itHow embracing small, specific acts of kindness are often better than grand gesturesWhy appreciating the chance to show up as a caregiver or friend is a powerful reframing for both peopleReal reminders that a little humility can go a long wayIf you’re looking for practical, heart-centered ways to support loved ones through the messiness of illness or grief, this episode shares the guidance, encouragement, and honest perspective you need.Tune in for gentle wisdom and stories to keep you grounded, and connected, when it matters most.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel that sting when someone gives you criticism, even when you know it’s supposed to help? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine take on the surprisingly tough (and super common) challenge of handling feedback without letting defensiveness take over.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why even the kindest of us can get prickly when criticism comes our waySimple moves that can turn a tough conversation into a personal growth momentReal talk about the magic of pausing, breathing, and saying “thank you” (even when it’s hard)How to spot the gold in critical feedback, without letting a single comment ruin your whole dayWhat to do when feedback feels overwhelming, and how to come back to the conversation when you’re readyWhy gratitude - genuine, not forced - leaves both sides feeling respected and seenThoughtful ways to ask questions and clarify so you actually get value from what you hearPractical reminders that you don’t have to have the perfect reaction in the moment (and that’s okay)If you’re working on being less reactive and more open, or just want a little encouragement to take feedback in stride, this episode is for you.(This mini “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone who’s ever bristled at feedback, wants to show up as their best self, or just needs a little help finding the lessons in critique.) Want more? Get a copy of the book here.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how to help the children in your life grow into positive, compassionate, and resilient individuals… the kind of people who naturally bring light to those around them? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into what it really takes to teach kids to be heliotropic.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why modeling positivity and practicing it yourself is the foundation when raising children who radiate warmth and kindnessHonest reflections on the messy journey of parenting, including moments we wish we could redo and how to keep improving no matter your kids’ agesThe surprising ways everyday moments shape how children see themselves and othersWhat it means to show up authentically as a parent—even when you don’t have all the answersHow to navigate the tricky balance of encouragement, boundaries, and emotional honestyInsights about the “salt on the roots” metaphor and what it means for your unique family dynamicsWhy apologizing and cleaning up when you mess up is one of the best lessons you can pass onHow little acts of recognition can have outsized impact on a child’s confidence and characterIf you’re curious about raising kids who don’t just survive but thrive with warmth and resilience, this mini-episode offers real talk, gentle guidance, and moments of humor to help you be a little sun, not the salt in your home and your heart.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel stuck holding onto a grudge and know it’s zapping your energy? In this “How Do I…” episode of “Be the Sun, Not the Salt,” Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get real about the challenge of letting go - why so many of us find it hard, how resentment keeps us stuck, and what it actually takes to move on.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why holding a grudge is like clutching a hot coal: you’re the one getting burnedHow compassion (not just forgiveness) can help shift your perspective and lighten your loadSimple reframes and honest reflections about what it means to let go (and why releasing resentment doesn’t mean you’re not protecting your own roots)Lessons learned from guests who’ve faced the unimaginable and found a way to release the pain, including stories like Trinea Gonczar’s courageous path to healing and forgivenessA candid invitation to look at what you’re carrying, ask “Who is this serving?” and consider ways to release old baggage, one conversation, thought, or act at a timeIf you’re ready to drop what’s weighing you down, find a little more peace, and make room for good energy, this mini episode offers humor, hope, and some gentle nudges toward freedom.Tune in for honest conversation, practical perspective, and a call to let go - just a little - today.(Mini “How Do I…” episode—perfect for anyone navigating tough relationships, struggling with resentment, or committed to growing wiser, not just older.) Useful LinksTrinea Gonczar’s “Be the Sun, Not the Salt” episode“Be the Sun, Not the Salt” bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how to bring your best self to work or home… even when life is just not going your way? In this heartfelt “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into the messy, honest art of showing up well when you’re going through a difficult time.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why naming what you’re going through (even if it feels uncomfortable) can strengthen trust, connection, and ease in relationshipsThe power of authentic vulnerability: letting others in without making excuses, and finding support you didn’t know you neededSimple ways to communicate your struggles at work, with family, or in your community, and why a follow-up apology or explanation can make a lasting impactHow self-awareness and courage build a bridge for others to share their own tough moments, creating a little more heliotropic energy all aroundIf you’ve ever tried to “just keep it together” and felt more isolated, this episode is your open invitation to lighten the load—and maybe help someone else feel seen too.Want more? Listen to past episodes with guests who’ve been through the tough stuff:Jill Martin shares her journey through major medical challenges and how she found hope, light, and community along the way.Dr. Rana Awdish opens up about her own health crisis as a physician, the healing power of authentic connection, and what it means to truly show up for others in dark times.This “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone navigating emotional or physical hardship, wanting more connection, or just ready to be real. Tune in for honest stories, helpful tips, and reminders that we’re all in this together… especially when times are tough.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What’s the *real* secret to thriving at work… and in life? In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine sit down with Erin Hatzikostas, former corporate CEO, award-winning author, and globally recognized expert on authenticity in the workplace. If you’ve ever wished for more meaning, originality, or joy in your career, Erin’s wisdom is the breath of fresh air you didn’t know you needed.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why authenticity isn’t just a feel-good buzzword, but a major business advantage in any organizationThe story behind Erin’s “50% Rule” and how it unlocks creativity, motivation, and results, both at work and in everyday lifeCandid tales from Erin’s journey from regional leader to CEO—and how she found success and engagement by showing up as herselfPractical hacks for ditching corporate junk and bringing more originality (and fun) to the way you workHow small acts of authenticity spark connection and trust, even in a world full of jargon, meetings, and AIErin’s advice for aspiring leaders, especially women: side-step the “compromise calculation,” do the job your way, and become a thought leader in your own ecosystemThis episode is packed with honesty, research-backed insights, and playful takeaways on how to “50% rule” your own challenges, plus a little tough love for anyone stuck in business-as-usual. If you’re ready to rethink what’s normal, step into your own best self, and maybe even make work not suck, Erin’s energetic approach will inspire you to do just that.Our latest guest episode is perfect for anyone building a career, leading a team, craving purpose, or just wanting a fresh, heliotropic perspective. Tune in for an interview that proves authenticity is the most underused power move in business and in life.About ErinErin Hatzikostas is a former Corporate CEO turned Authenticity Aficionado. Often called “The Mel Robbins for business,” Erin is a globally recognized expert on the impact of authenticity in the workplace. She’s a sought-after keynote speaker, award-winning author of You Do You(ish) and The 50% Rule, and co-host of the hit podcast b Cause Work Doesn’t Have to Suck.Her TEDx Talk was among the Top 20 most-viewed TEDx talks worldwide in 2021, and Erin’s thought leadership has reached hundreds of thousands. She’s been featured by ABC, CBS, Business Insider, Fast Company, and more. Erin’s company is also behind a groundbreaking national study on authenticity’s impact in the workplace.With a dynamic blend of humor, intelligence, and unfiltered honesty, Erin is sure to be your favorite no-nonsense navigator through the corporate junk jungle, helping you see that authenticity isn’t a buzzword—it’s a business strategy.Helpful LinksErin’s websiteErin’s podcast: b Cause Work Doesn’t Have to SuckYou Do You(ish): Unleash Your Authentic Superpowers to Get the Career You DeserveThe 50% RuleTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever get stuck in a conversation where you know you’re absolutely right, and the other person is just completely missing the mark? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get honest about what it takes to actually listen when you’re sure you’ve got the right answer… and someone else doesn’t.Here’s what you’ll hear:What real curiosity sounds like, and why “leaning in softly” can shift everything, even in tricky momentsTips for moving beyond “winning” an argument to truly understanding the other personThe subtle difference between listening to change minds and listening to open your ownStories from everyday life and work where genuine listening made conversations richer (even when it wasn’t easy)Playful reframes and word tracks to help you pause, redirect, and bring more heliotropic energy when tempers flareIf you’ve ever left a tough conversation wishing things had gone differently - or wondered how to turn debate into genuine connection - this episode is for you. Cue up honest laughs, practical reminders, and that feeling when curiosity beats certainty every time.(Mini “How Do I…” episode - perfect for anyone navigating disagreements, building better relationships, or just wanting to be a more generous listener.) To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wondered how to stay confident when life—and work—keep handing you rejection? In episode 61 of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine answer the tough question: “How Do I… Keep My Confidence Despite Rejection?”Here’s what you’ll hear:Relatable strategies for bouncing back after setbacks (even when the numbers feel stacked against you)The “three P’s” mindset trick that keeps rejection from getting personal or invasiveHow to use self-talk and action to reframe your perspective and stay motivatedReal stories and practical ways to turn every “swing and a miss” into a chance to learn, grow, and get back up at batReminders on why reaching out to colleagues, leaning on your support squad, and sharing this journey can make all the differenceIf your role (or your life) brings more rejection than applause, this episode is full of sticky, science-backed wisdom, practical encouragement, and the kind of relatable perspective you’ll want to share with your team, your partner, or anyone needing a confidence boost.(Mini “How Do I…” episode—perfect for anyone facing challenges in sales, interviews, creative work, or just everyday life.)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel a little anxious giving feedback, and worry it won’t land the way you intended? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into the art of offering feedback that truly lifts people up and helps them grow.Here’s what you’ll hear:Why feedback is more than just pointing out what went wrong—and how to make it a gift people actually appreciateThe importance of “accountability with love,” and how holding people to high standards doesn’t mean being harsh or negativeCandid stories and lessons from the workplace, family, and everyday life about giving feedback that inspires, not deflatesHow leading with what’s great sets the stage for honest conversation and positive changeSimple guidelines to make feedback more constructive, easier to hear… and even welcome (!)If you’ve ever wanted to turn tricky conversations into uplifting moments—or make people say, “thank you, I needed that”—this episode breaks down the subtle skills and playful spirit of feedback done right.(Mini “How Do I…” episode, perfect for anyone working on communication, mentorship, parenting, or leadership.) To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how to support your partner when life takes a tough turn? In this short “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine get honest about the art of showing up for someone you love… especially when you’re both going through it.Here’s what you’ll hear:Real-world approaches for recognizing what your partner needs (even when their style is way different from yours)The power of small gestures, from acts of service to words of praise, to lighten someone’s loadHow to stay flexible and thoughtful when your own stress is running highCreative ideas for supporting each other (without keeping score or stepping on toes)Simple reminders that sometimes the best help is just listening, pitching in, or finding tiny ways to make things easierWhether you’re a natural fixer, a talker, or someone who prefers quiet support, this episode dives into the messy, meaningful work of strengthening relationships during tough times. It’s all about being intentional, learning your partner’s “love language,” and knowing that helping is sometimes as basic as making the bed or tackling a chore.(This is a mini “How Do I…” episode, perfect for anyone looking to boost their partnership, practice emotional intelligence, and bring more kindness to their everyday life.) To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wish meetings didn’t feel so… meh? In this mini “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine tackle the art of being a positive energizer in meetings, whether you’re on Zoom or in the room.Here’s what you’ll hear:The simple choices that set the tone in any meetingHow to make an impression before the agenda even startsSubtle ways to shift group energy in a positive directionWhat it means to show up fully—without saying a wordTips for becoming the person everyone’s excited to work withPacked with honest stories (including a few “serious-face” confessions), this episode is your go-to guide for transforming even the dullest meeting into a place where people feel seen, energized, and ready to show up as their best selves.Tune in, try it out, and watch your work life get a whole lot sunnier, one meeting at a time!(Another “How Do I…” episode: perfect for anyone who dreads meetings but loves a room full of good energy.)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how to really light someone up—not just with a passing compliment, but in a way that sticks? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine roll up their sleeves to share practical ways to intentionally uplift the people around you.Here’s what you’ll hear:The magic of specifics: Why “great job” isn’t enough, and how pointing out exactly what impressed you makes praise more meaningful—and memorable.Keeping it real (and brief): How authentic, concise acknowledgments land better than over-the-top accolades or generic kudos.Praise that pays it forward: Candid stories about how a single, heartfelt comment can ripple out, inspiring more kindness and connection.Avoiding the “ick” factor: Tips on making sure your recognition feels genuine (not like you’re sucking up or handing out empty flattery).Everyday opportunities: From work meetings to a busy coffee shop, how small, one-on-one moments can have an outsized impact—and why you should give credit even when “everyone already knows.”The power of being deliberate: Why looking people in the eye, using their name, and focusing fully on them turns ordinary encounters into something special—and how to let the moment be about them, not you.Simple takeaways: If you’re already doing this, do it a little more. If you’re not, all it takes is a genuine moment and a specific observation to start.Harry and Connie share their own “just did it” moments and invite listeners to try it out in your own lives—and then let us know how it went! Whether you want to make your workplace brighter, boost a friend’s day, or simply spread more good, this episode is your nudge to start now.(Second in the “How Do I…” series—perfect for anyone ready to practice the art of lifting others up with intention, authenticity, and a little bit of heliotropic magic.)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What happens when two powerhouse women from distinctly different professional backgrounds bring science, soul, and a whole lot of humor to the podcast mic? In this inspiring episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine welcome Lori Schulweis, a longtime (Emmy Award-winning!) television producer known for her years on “Live with Mark and Kelly”, and Jenn Giamo, a certified trainer, nutritionist, and longevity coach, from the “Every Body Talks” podcast for a raw, uplifting conversation on the art of heliotropic living and the transformative power of friendship.Why tune in?Real-life resilience: Lori and Jenn open up about supporting each other through life’s toughest moments—including grief, divorce, and changing directions—and share how friendship can be life’s ultimate life raft.Heliotropic habits that work: Discover science-backed tips (and a few unexpected tricks) for infusing your daily life with more light, positivity, and well-being—straight from two voices who walk their talk as a media maven  and a wellness expert.Unfiltered, practical wisdom: From routines that energize your day to the importance of small, intentional acts of kindness, learn how these friends apply heliotropic principles not just to themselves, but to everyone they meet.The power of community: Hear the story of how a chance meeting at a charity dog walk became the start of a friendship—and a podcast—that now helps thousands live cleaner, stronger, and more connected lives.Whether you’re looking for authentic connection, tips for positive living, or just a laugh with kindred spirits, this conversation will remind you why bringing a little more sun (and a lot less salt) into your life changes everything.Perfect for listeners searching for advice on heliotropic living, positive mindset, Every Body Talks, friendship, wellness, life transitions, emotional resilience, and building an uplifting community. Dive in and discover the magic of powerful partnerships, practical self-care, and the science of wellness.(This full episode is ideal listening for anyone ready to recharge, reconnect, and bring a healthy dose of sun into their day.)Helpful LinksEvery Body TalksBe the Sun, Not the Salt bookBe a part of the every.body.talks. community and join their wellness group: every.body.talks. wellness groupFollow them on Instagram: @every.body.talks @jenngiamo @schullySubscribe to their YouTube channel!About Lori SchulweisBased in NYC, Lori Schulweis is an Emmy nominated television producer who has been on a fitness and health journey most of her life.About Jenn GiamoJenn is an NSCA Certified Personal Trainer with a Master's Degree in Nutrition Education, Reiki Practitioner, Yoga Teacher, Corrective Exercise Specialist and the founder of Trainers in Transit.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how to actually practice being the sun, not the salt, in daily life? In our very first episode of the “How Do I…” series, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into the practical side of living heliotropically, starting with the question: “How do I start my day off right?”Here’s what you’ll hear:- Honest, real-life routines from Harry and Connie, including gratitude lists, positive planning, and morning rituals that set a sunny tone, even on tough days.- The little daily details that make a big difference, whether it’s swapping news doomscrolling for uplifting podcasts, hydrating before coffee, or reaching out to friends with quick calls and kind words.- Why lighting up someone else’s morning (at Starbucks, the office, or even your own kitchen) ends up lighting you up, too.- Favorite ways to build connection at work, like greeting everyone by name or borrowing ideas from team meetings that blend “a little sun and a little salt” for camaraderie and trust.- The truth that knowing what to do isn’t the same as doing and how gentle reminders (and this series!) can help turn those good intentions into actual habits.Packed with candid stories and simple tips, this short episode sets the tone for exploring everyday ways to bring more light, intention, and positivity to your world. It’s not about perfection! It’s about practice, picking yourself up when you slip, and sharing the journey with others along the way.Tune in, share your own “How Do I…” questions, and join the movement of living a little more like the sun, one morning at a time.(This is our first in the “How Do I…” series! It’s a mini-episode, perfect for anyone ready to turn heliotropic ideas into real-life action in no time at all!)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wondered if you could actually turn back the biological clock? In this game-changing episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine welcome Dr. Michael Roizen—pioneering longevity expert, Chief Wellness Officer Emeritus at the World-Renowned Cleveland Clinic, author of 9 best selling books and 195+ Peer-Reviewed Papers, and Holder of 14 Patents—for a conversation that will completely shift how you think about aging, health, and the choices you make every single day.Here’s what you’ll discover:The jaw-dropping truth about mindset: You have power over 93% of your genes through daily choicesLoads of simple tips and helpful facts, like getting a flu shot 10 years in a row can reduce dementia risk by 40%The “magic” of 10,000 steps a day and why 12,000 isn’t better than 10,000Why you need to find your personal health motivator (hint: it might be grandkids, sex, or not being a burden)The three P’s that matter most: Posse, Purpose, and PlayHow breathing with your diaphragm is working out your second-most important muscleA simple reframe that turns road rage into compassionThe mission-critical need to manage stresses, both the major ones and the little nagging onesDr. Roizen breaks down complex longevity science into bite-sized, actionable wisdom and dives into the psychology of behavior change, exploring why financial incentives work and how empathy might be the most crucial human skill of all.Ready to take control of your health destiny? This episode is your roadmap to living younger, longer, and with more energy than you thought possible. And it all starts with mindset.(Full episode—packed with science, stories, and practical wisdom for anyone ready to age backwards!)About Dr. Michael Roizen:Dr. Michael Roizen is a trailblazing physician, bestselling author, and one of the world’s leading voices on healthy aging and wellness. As the longtime Chief Wellness Officer at the Cleveland Clinic, Dr. Roizen has devoted his career to making the science of longevity accessible and actionable for everyone. He’s perhaps best known for creating the RealAge concept, which empowers people to take charge of their health by understanding how daily choices affect their biological age. Dr. Roizen’s groundbreaking work includes coauthoring five #1 New York Times bestsellers, publishing nearly 200 peer-reviewed scientific papers, and holding 14 U.S. patents. He’s also served as a trusted advisor to the FDA, co-founded innovative health ventures, and appeared on national platforms from *The Oprah Winfrey Show* to *Good Morning America*. Whether he’s mentoring future doctors, developing new wellness programs, or breaking down complex science into practical tips, Dr. Roizen’s passion is helping people live younger, longer, and with more joy.Helpful links:Check out Dr. Roizen’s books, newsletter, and longevity resourcesWatch the Cleveland Clinic’s viral empathy video mentioned in the episodeExplore more episodes and the book at Be the Sun, Not the SaltTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wonder how Be the Sun, Not the Salt came to life? In this special origin story episode, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine pull back the curtain on the journey from a single TED Talk to a bestselling book and a podcast that’s sparking positive change around the world.What’s the story behind the sun and the salt?Harry shares how the phrase “lead people with an afterglow, not an aftertaste—be the sun, not the salt” first landed, and why it stuck with so many.  Forget the “aha!” moment—this book grew out of Harry’s desire to leave behind a collection of simple, science-based, sticky reminders that anyone could use to live and lead better.  Connie reveals how their paths crossed, why she instantly saw “billion dollar brand” potential, and how her marketing mind helped Harry’s vision become a movement.  Discover the intentional choice behind short chapters, memorable phrases, and a focus on practical wisdom you’ll actually remember (and use).  Harry and Connie reflect on why their different backgrounds—psychology and marketing, science and storytelling, life experience and curiosity—make the message more relatable, real, and fun for everyone.You’ll hear the real, sometimes messy, always honest conversations that shaped the book and podcast. From debates about the title, to the moments they almost lost their cool (and how they turned it around), this episode is packed with behind-the-scenes insights and a whole lot of heart.Why listen?  If you’ve ever wanted to know what “heliotropic living” really means, why “not the salt” is just as important as “be the sun,” or how two friends turned a simple idea into a global movement—this is your invitation to join the story.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever find yourself nodding along to good advice… but not actually putting it into action? You’re not alone! In this final episode of our Gentle Nudge series, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine go all in on Chapter 30: “Frickin Do It”—the ultimate rally cry for turning knowledge into action and making positive habits stick.Why should you tune in?Get a burst of motivation to move from “knowing” to “doing”—because real change happens when you take that first step, no matter how small.Hear how Harry and Connie keep it real about the daily struggle (and victory!) of practicing what they preach, even when life gets messy.Discover why the tiniest acts—holding the door, smiling at a stranger, or just not saying that snarky thing—can be the biggest wins for your mindset and relationships.Learn the secret to making positive habits automatic, with simple reminders and daily reflection that keep you on track.This episode is perfect for anyone searching for inspiration on habit formation, motivation, positive mindset, and self-improvement. Whether you’ve listened to every Gentle Nudge or you’re just jumping in, “Frickin Do It” is your call to action to live what you know and shine a little brighter every day.Ready to stop overthinking and start doing? Hit play, get inspired, and let’s keep spreading the sun—not the salt—together!(Mini-episode, maximum motivation—perfect for your next coffee break, walk, or moment when you need that extra push!)Looking for more?Share this episode with a friend who could use a nudge to take action.Subscribe for your weekly dose of positive mindset, self-improvement, and practical wisdom!Explore our archives for more on building habits, motivation, and living your best life.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wish people really heard you—or that you could be the kind of listener everyone trusts? In this episode of “Be the Sun, Not the Salt,” Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine continue their Gentle Nudge series with Chapter 29: “Be an Olympic Listener”—your invitation to level up from “just hearing” to truly connecting.Why tune in? Listening is an everyday superpower: Discover why being an “Olympic listener” isn’t just for therapists or leaders—it’s for anyone who wants stronger relationships, better communication, and more meaningful moments.More than ears: Learn how to “listen with your eyes” by picking up on body language, tone, and what’s not being said.Curiosity is key: Get practical tips for asking clarifying questions, double-checking what you heard, and showing genuine curiosity—so people feel seen, heard, and understood.Practice makes progress: Harry and Connie share real-life stories (and a few laughs) about how even the best listeners are always learning, and why it’s worth the effort to keep improving.This episode is perfect for anyone searching for advice on active listening, communication skills, emotional intelligence, and building trust. Whether you’re looking to be a better partner, friend, leader, or just want to connect more deeply with the people around you, “Be an Olympic Listener” is your gentle nudge to show up, tune in, and make every conversation count.Ready to go for listening gold? Hit play and join us for heartfelt stories, practical wisdom, and your weekly reminder that the best relationships start with being truly heard.(Mini-episode, maximum connection—perfect for your next chat, coffee break, or moment of reflection!)To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel like there’s a daily battle between your best self and… well, the other one? What if winning was as simple as choosing which one to feed? 🤔 In this powerful episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine unpack Chapter 28: “Practice, Practice, Practice”—a transformative look at the one habit that changes everything.Why should you tune in?Discover the ancient parable of the two wolves and what it reveals about mastering your inner world.Learn the crucial difference between honoring your negative feelings and accidentally pouring lighter fluid on them (a game-changer for emotional regulation!).Unpack the science of practice—how you can literally rewire your brain to make positivity your automatic reflex.Get inspired to build your “heliotropic muscle” and understand why a tiny mental shift from “I got to” to “I get to” can change your entire day.Being heliotropic isn’t about perfection; it’s about practice. Whether you’re trying to build better habits, manage stress, or simply live a more positive life, this conversation offers the “how” behind the “what.”Ready to start feeding the right wolf? Hit play for a powerful dose of inspiration.Looking for more?Share this episode with a friend who’s on their own personal growth journey.Subscribe for your weekly dose of positive mindset, self-improvement, and practical wisdom!Revisit our episodes on gratitude and emotional regulation to deepen your practice.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel like giving up when things get tough or when others don’t play fair? What if the most powerful choice is to shine your light anyway? 🌟 In this Gentle Nudge episode of “Be the Sun, Not the Salt,” Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dive into Chapter 27: “Do It Anyway”—your ultimate anthem for resilience, perseverance, and choosing to be heliotropic no matter what.Why should you tune in?Discover a timeless, powerful message (inspired by Mother Teresa’s wisdom) that will reframe how you face challenges and negativity.Learn how to build your “do it anyway” muscle, strengthening your resolve and emotional fortitude.Understand why choosing to be your best self—kind, honest, and dedicated—is ultimately about YOUR integrity and well-being, not about others’ reactions.Get inspired to overcome adversity and keep doing good, even when it’s hard, and find the deep satisfaction that comes from living by your highest principles.This episode is perfect for anyone seeking motivation, inspiration for personal growth, or a stronger positive mindset. If you’ve ever needed a nudge to push through resistance and keep your spirit bright, “Do It Anyway” is your call to action.(Mini-episode, maximum motivation—perfect for your next workout, challenging day, or moment of reflection!)Looking for more?Share this episode with someone who inspires you to “do it anyway.”Subscribe for your weekly tips on positive mindset, self-improvement, and heliotropic living!Explore our podcast archives for more on building resilience and overcoming obstacles.Pick up our book for 30 timeless tools to be your best self more often.To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever wondered what it means to make a difference—even when no one’s watching? 🌟 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine guide you through Chapter 26: Fill in the Potholes—a thought-provoking conversation about small acts, big impact, and the quiet magic of doing good.Why tune in?Discover how tiny, anonymous gestures can ripple out and change your world—and maybe even someone else’s.Get inspired to spot everyday opportunities to help, uplift, or simply smooth the path for others (and yourself).Hear real-life stories about what happens when people choose kindness over irritation, and action over apathy.Learn why sometimes the most powerful good deeds are the ones nobody notices—except you.This episode is perfect for anyone searching for inspiration on kindness, positive mindset, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. Whether you’re looking for practical ways to boost your well-being, or just want to feel a little more connected to the world around you, “Fill in the Potholes” offers gentle nudges and real wisdom for living a sunnier, more meaningful life.Ready to make a difference—and maybe even create a little good karma? Hit play and join the conversation.(Mini-episode, maximum heart—perfect for your next walk, coffee break, or quiet moment of reflection!)Looking for more?Share this episode with a friend who could use a little inspiration.Subscribe for your weekly dose of positive mindset, kindness, and personal growth!Explore more episodes  - shortform and longer interviews with heliotropic exemplars - on emotional intelligence, self-improvement, and making a difference.Reference Links from This EpisodeBrad Aronson’s episode on creating big change through small actsBe the Sun, Not the Salt bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

What really matters—and what’s just noise? In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine invite you to hit pause and reflect with Chapter 25: “Decide What Matters Most.” If you’ve ever felt torn between speaking up or letting something go, this gentle nudge is for you.What’s the Big Idea?Discover how to spot the difference between life’s real priorities and those little annoyances that try to steal your peace.Hear how Harry and Connie navigate tricky moments in family, work, and everyday life.Get inspired to build your own “green room” of trusted voices, so you can check your perspective before reacting.Walk away with a powerful question to ask yourself next time you’re caught in the moment (it might just change your day).You won’t get a list of dos and don’ts here—just relatable stories, practical wisdom, and a few surprising insights that will have you examining what’s truly important. Whether you’re looking for tips on prioritization, self-reflection, or simply want to show up as your best self, this episode is packed with inspiration (and a little Victor Hugo for good measure).Ready to focus on what matters most? Hit play and join us for a conversation that might just change the way you see your day.(Mini-episode, maximum perspective—perfect for your next walk, coffee break, or moment of reflection!)Reference Links:Be the Sun, Not the Salt bookTim Storey podcast episode: Miracle Mentality: Using Your GiftsTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever catch yourself feeling a little off your game? 🤔 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore Chapter 24: “Remember Who You Are” - your gentle nudge to reconnect with your best self, live authentically, and shine a little brighter every day.Why does remembering who you are matter?🌟 Identity shapes action: As James Clear puts it in Atomic Habits, every action you take is a vote for the person you want to become. When you act in line with your core values, everything else flows.🧘‍♂️ Be heliotropic: Showing up as your true, positive self not only uplifts you but everyone around you-a triple win for personal growth, mindfulness, and positive relationships.💡 Small moments, big impact: From picking up litter to pausing before a snarky comment, the little choices you make each day reinforce who you are and who you want to be.Harry and Connie get real about the challenge of consistency-why it’s easy to know what your best self would do, but not always easy to do it. They break down the “five-to-one rule” (how negative moments sting way more than positive ones), and share practical stories about patience, mindfulness, and the magic of even the smallest acts of kindness.Your gentle nudge: Next time you’re in a tough spot, ask yourself: “What would my best, most heliotropic self do right now?” Then do that. It’s simple, powerful, and the secret to living a sunnier, more fulfilling life.Perfect for anyone searching for inspiration on personal growth, living authentically, mindfulness, and how to be your best self-even on the tough days. Tune in for heartfelt stories, actionable wisdom, and your weekly reminder to remember who you are and shine bright! 🌞(Mini-episode, maximum impact-perfect for your next coffee break, commute, or mindful moment!)Reference LinksBe the Sun, Not the Salt bookJames Clear’s book, Atomic HabitsTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever feel like your emotions are running the show instead of you? 😵‍💫 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, we’re thrilled to welcome Dr. Ethan Kross, world-renowned expert on emotional regulation and bestselling author of Chatter and Shift. Together with Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine, Ethan dives deep into the science and practical tools for managing your inner voice, controlling emotional chatter, and harnessing your feelings instead of being overwhelmed by them.What you’ll learn:How managing your emotions boosts your thinking, performance, relationships, and healthWhy self-talk in the third person (“Ethan, you got this!”) can calm your mind and reduce stressAdditional simple, science-backed techniques like mental time travel, expressive writing, and sensory shifts to regulate emotionsThe power of emotional advisors and social proof to help you gain perspective and resilienceWhy venting and rumination often backfire-and what to do insteadHarry and Connie share personal stories about putting Ethan’s tools into practice, from calming pre-dive nerves to leading with emotional steadiness in daily life. Whether you’re a leader, parent, or just someone who wants to feel less “salty” and more in control, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you be the sun, not the salt.About Ethan KrossDr. Ethan Kross is a Professor in the University of Michigan’s Psychology Department and Ross School of Business, and director of the Emotion & Self-Control Lab. His groundbreaking research on emotion regulation and self-talk has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, and on major broadcasts like CBS Evening News and NPR’s Morning Edition. Ethan is the bestselling author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It and Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don’t Manage You.Helpful LinksLearn more about Ethan Kross and his research: University of Michigan Faculty ProfileGet Chatter and Shift on AmazonWatch Ethan’s popular TED Talk on mastering your inner voice: YouTubeFollow Ethan on X and Instagram @ethankrossAll about Be the Sun, Not the SaltTune in for this inspiring conversation that will change how you think about your emotions-and give you the tools to master your inner chatter for a healthier, happier life. 🌞To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever lost your cool over something tiny-like spilled coffee or a snarky email-and then realized it set the tone for your whole day? 😬 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine break down Chapter 23: “Keep Your Cool”-your go-to guide for stress management, emotional regulation, and staying calm under pressure.Why does keeping your cool matter?🧠 Practice makes peaceful: The more you handle life’s little annoyances with grace, the easier it gets when real crises hit. Think of every minor mishap as a “calmness simulation” for your brain!😌 Your mood is contagious: Whether you’re a leader, parent, or friend, your reactions ripple out. Staying calm helps everyone around you feel safe and steady-even if you’re faking it till you make it.🏆 Learn from slip-ups: Nobody’s perfect! When you do lose your cool, it’s just another chance to practice bouncing back, apologize, and do the next right thing.Harry shares why even pilots and first responders practice staying chill, and Connie reveals her tricks for keeping her “game face” on-even when her insides are doing jumping jacks. From breathing tips to smiling through stress, you’ll get practical advice for handling everything from daily frustrations to big-time emergencies.Perfect for anyone searching for tips on how to manage stress, keep calm at work, or be the steady presence your family needs. Tune in for real-life stories, gentle nudges, and your weekly reminder to keep your cool-no matter what life throws your way. 🌞(Mini-episode, maximum calm-perfect for your next deep breath!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever found yourself knee-deep in an argument about chocolate vs. vanilla—or something way more personal, like politics or identity? 🍦🗳️ In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine shine a light on Chapter 22: “Smile and Move On.”Here’s the real talk:😁 Smile first, react later: Whether it’s a silly debate about ice cream or a deeply held belief, arguing rarely changes minds—especially when emotions or identities are involved. Instead, genuine conversation (not combat) is what leads to real understanding.🧠 Pick your battles: Not every disagreement needs a winner. Sometimes, it’s just about sharing perspectives and moving forward without drama.💬 Curiosity over combat: Connie shares how pausing, smiling, and asking a sincere question turned a tense political moment into a real, respectful conversation—no eye-rolling required!🌈 Wrap it up with kindness: Ending with appreciation keeps relationships strong, even when you see the world differently.Harry reminds us that most heated debates—whether about football or politics—are more about entertainment or venting than real solutions. The win? Choosing connection over being right, and letting go when the outcome won’t change.Perfect for anyone who’s ever gotten sucked into a debate that went nowhere (so, all of us!). Tune in for laughs, real-life stories, and your weekly nudge to let go, smile, and move on. 🌞(Mini-episode, major relief—perfect for your next deep breath!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever find yourself stewing over little things—like someone being late or leaving the cupboard open (again)? 🙃 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into Chapter 21: “Release Your Pet Peeves”—your gentle nudge to let go of those everyday annoyances that just aren’t worth your peace.What’s the big idea?🧘‍♂️ Let it go, let it go: Holding onto pet peeves only keeps you mildly irritated and robs you of your own peace of mind.🕵️‍♀️ Assume positive intent: Most of the time, people aren’t out to get you—they’re just living their lives (and sometimes running late).💬 Talk it out, don’t stew: Instead of silently judging, try asking a curious question or having a light conversation about what’s bugging you.Harry shares his classic peeve (lateness!) and how he’s learned (learning?) to smile and move on, while Connie reminds us that a little empathy and a simple question can turn a pet peeve into a non-issue. The real win? Releasing your peeves is less about letting others off the hook and more about protecting your own roots and living a lighter, happier life.Perfect for anyone who’s ever muttered, “Why do people do that?!” Tune in for relatable stories, practical tips, and your weekly reminder to choose peace over petty. 🌞(Mini-episode, maximum relief—perfect for your next deep breath!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookEpisode 29: Gentle Nudge - Assume Positive IntentTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever felt like you deserved to stay mad? 😡 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine unpack Chapter 20: “Take the High Road”—a powerful reminder that holding onto anger only salts your own roots.Key takeaways:🌟 The high road is for YOU: Letting go of petty negativity isn’t about the other person—it’s about freeing yourself.⏳ Work through it: Whether it takes two hours or two weeks, give yourself grace as you move toward letting go.🧠 Don’t “feed the bad wolf”: Gossip and venting might feel good in the moment, but they rarely help in the long run.Connie shares a relatable story of waking up still mad and realizing she needed to take the high road for her own well-being. Harry offers gentle nudges on how to stop fueling anger and bitterness—and why compassion for yourself is key when it feels hard to let go.Perfect for anyone who’s ever struggled to move past frustration or resentment! Tune in for practical wisdom, heartfelt stories, and your weekly reminder to rise above the salt. 🌞(Mini-episode, major inspiration—perfect for your next walk or coffee break!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever had someone say one thing but mean something totally different? 🙃 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dive into Chapter 19: “Make Your Motive Clear and Clean”—a gentle nudge to check your intentions before you speak or act.Key takeaways:💡 Say what you mean, mean what you say—but don’t say it mean: The golden rule of clear communication.🧹 Check your motives: Are you being passive-aggressive or trying to “win”? Time for a little self-reflection!🧠 Trust your gut: Why we can often sense when someone’s motives aren’t pure—and how to avoid being that person.Harry shares stories about catching himself before making sarcastic comments (we’ve all been there!) and explains why even well-intentioned words can land badly if we’re not careful. Connie highlights how being upfront and kind creates trust—and why beating around the bush can make people uneasy.Perfect for anyone who wants to communicate with more honesty and kindness! Tune in for practical tips, relatable laughs, and a reminder to keep your motives as clean as your words. 🌟(Mini-episode, major impact—great for your next coffee break!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever had one of those "Oops, I messed up!" moments? In this mini-episode, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine are back with a game-changing mantra in Chapter 18: "Do the Next Right Thing"!Spoiler alert: We're all gonna be salty sometimes, but it's what you do next that counts!Harry's hot takes:🧼 Clean-up on aisle "Me": Why your screw-ups are actually your best teachers 🏃‍♂️ Speed is key: The magic of fixing things ASAP (but it's never too late to make it right)🧠 Trust your gut: If something's nagging you, it's probably worth addressingConnie's real-talk corner:⏰ The late apology: Why acknowledging your tardiness is a total game-changer📱 Text promises: How to gracefully recover from forgotten follow-upsPerfect for anyone who's ever wanted a do-over button for life! Tune in for laughs, practical wisdom, and your weekly reminder that it's never too late to course-correct.Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever tried cheering up a friend… only to accidentally make things worse? Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine are back with a Gentle Nudge from Chapter 17: “Help Others Keep Perspective”—and they’re dishing out gentle wisdom for those “I just want to fix it!” moments.Hot takes from today’s toolkit:🩹 Scars, not wounds: Borrowing Rachel Hollis’ genius line, learn why timing matters when offering perspective (hint: wait till the bleeding stops).🧠 Swap “get over it” for “let’s move your lens”: How to metaphorically guide someone to “higher ground” without sounding like a know-it-all.👂 Empathy first, advice second: Harry’s own cancer diagnosis story reveals why “I can’t imagine your pain” works better than silver linings.Pro move: When work stress or life chaos hits, borrow Connie’s mantra: “This’ll be here when you get back.” Spoiler: It’s way kinder than toxic positivity.Perfect for anyone who’s ever blurted, “It’s not that big a deal!” (We’ve all been there 😬). Tune in for stories, laughs, and your weekly nudge to lead with heart, not answers. (Mini-episode, maxi-impact—drop it into your next walk or commute!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ready to supercharge your relationships with a little gratitude magic? 🌟 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dive into Chapter 16: “Speak Fluent Gratitude.”The magic trick? Expressing thanks isn’t just about saying “thanks” – it’s about speaking from the heart with specificity. Harry shares a heartfelt text from a friend that brightened his day, while Connie reveals how a daily gratitude experiment brought unexpected joy to old friends.Your takeaways:Speak it out loud: How verbalizing gratitude can transform your relationships and mood.Make it personal: Why adding a few extra words of love and appreciation can make all the difference.Gratitude in the moment: How focusing on what’s going right can calm anxiety and stress.Tune in for practical tips and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to spread gratitude like sunshine! 🌞Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Ever caught yourself rambling through a story or dropping verbal grenades that backfire? Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine—your Be the Sun, Not the Salt super-smart duo—are back with Chapter 15: “Make Your Words Count.”Spoiler alert: Less really is more when it comes to communication! Harry spills the tea on why cutting extra or inflammatory words turbocharges your clarity, while Connie shares examples of unhelpful self-talk she’s totally never said to herself. 😉 With some tiny tweaks, we get a big impact, so trim the fluff, ditch the drama, and remember that practice makes precision.Perfect for anyone who’s ever thought: “Why did I even say that?!” Your words matter—make ’em shine! 🌟(Mini-episode, mega-wisdom—grab it on your next coffee run!)Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Have you ever turned a simple task into a full-blown project? We’ve all been there! In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine tackle Chapter 14, “Don’t Be a Complexifier,” from Harry’s book. Together, they unpack why simplicity is not only powerful but also essential for improving our lives and relationships.We’ll explore how overthinking and complicating things can weigh us down—and how keeping it simple can be a game-changer, everywhere from military strategy to daily life.You’ll also hear practical tips on how to:Avoid overthinking and focus on what truly mattersBuild habits that reinforce clarity and easeRecognize when complexity is sneaking into your day—and stop it in its tracksWhile simple ideas might seem obvious, they’re not always easy to implement. That’s why Harry and Connie emphasize the importance of daily practice and gentle nudges to stay on track. By focusing on small, consistent actions, you can create a life that’s lighter, stronger, and more fulfilling.Tune in for personal stories, actionable advice, and your weekly reminder to keep it simple—for yourself and those around you!Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

Have you ever called yourself a friggin idiot? Most of us have, but would you ever say that to your best friend? Nope! In today’s tip to make your life a little better, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore Chapter 13, 'Be Your Own Best Friend,' from Harry's book, Be the Sun, Not the Salt. Today we’ll delve into how to recognize and STOP the negative self-talk. While it’s true that we’re evolutionarily wired to focus on negativity for survival, it's crucial to disrupt this tendency for a healthier mental state! We’ll get into personal stories and some practical ways to create a positive inner dialogue and look after ourselves with self-care. By replacing self-critical thoughts with supportive self-talk and avoiding negative talk about others, we experience a powerful lesson in kindness and support that leads to personal growth and well-being.Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

In this episode of the 'Be the Sun, Not the Salt' podcast, hosts Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore the key concepts of Chapter 12, 'Hold the Salt,' from Harry's book. We’ll discuss the metaphorical significance of salt and how toxic behaviors can negatively impact others. We know that by refraining from expressing negative emotions and behaviors, we create a more positive and supportive environment. Here we’ll provide practical insights and real-life examples to illustrate the profound effect of avoiding 'salting the roots' of others.Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.

In this episode of the 'Be the Sun, Not the Salt' podcast, hosts Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine explore the concept of walking away from toxic environments, as described in Chapter 11, 'Learn to Walk Away' from Harry's book. Our discussion drills into the importance of gracefully extricating oneself from negative situations, whether they be physical, emotional, or conversational. With practical advice and personal anecdotes, the episode offers insights on maintaining composure, avoiding conflict, and making deliberate choices about the company we keep, especially during challenging times - and we've all got them!Links & ResourcesBe the Sun, Not the Salt - bookTo explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.