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Spiritual Firestarter
by Christina Stabile
Some are meant to be guides, some are meant to be sparks- that’s me! Helping you REMEMBER something that has held you back one crazy story at a time. “Out there” ideas in real life. Sharing totally relatable connections to Spirit, healing and parenting. 🙏♥️✨
Episodes
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Conscious Parenting: Teaching My Kid How to Handle People Screwing You Over
My kid had a falling out with a very close friend- even I was a little shocked at what happened. But I thought it would just blow over once they played like kids typically do… It didn't. He was still super angry every time their name was even brought up even way after it happened. OMG. I knew…
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Not So Innocent Bystander: ADULT Trauma of Caregivers Turning a "Blind Eye"
Someone said something so wildly inappropriate to me at a family party...holyyyy... Craziest part? I wasn't mad at HIM, but there was someone else I was upset by...and this might be hiding in your past too... We usually think of trauma as the person who DID something harmful to us, right? I…
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Divine Delay: The “Mess” is the Universe Getting You to the Right Place
And we're BACKKKK...it's been a heck of time friend... My kid needed dental work done and was stuck on a waiting list for over a YEARRRR. I could not believe how the Universe was working to get us to where we really needed to be- it's hard to see because it feels so TERRIBLE... How surrendering...
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Teaching My Kid (and Myself) When Enough is Enough
My kid came running out of school crying…over his TEACHER. I have talked a ton about healing, accepting and working through issues with others (especially family!). This recent situation showed me there are times we SHOULDN'T... -What to look for that calls for a different “conscious” approach…
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A Surprising Way a Shame Shadow Shows Up as a Parent
We've all been there as parents- your kid is doing something out in public (or with judgmental family) and you want so desperately to make it stop... Usually I'm able to do "something" to at least help the situation, this day I wasn't. Being stuck (and unable to control), had this shadow…
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"Tower Moment"
Out of the mud comes the bloom... I ran into someone yesterday who I had an issue with 2 years ago (I even made a podcast episode about it then!). We had come a long way since. She was going through a really tough moment, and I was EXCITED for her!! Ummmm whattt?? Yep. The faster I have shifted…
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How Childhood Shame Shows Up as Adults
"Dammit Christina how do you keep doing that??" A video showed up for me right on Divine time... How shame is connected to the things we say we don't want to do anymore or not doing the things we say we do want to do. And a real-life exercise to help release the programs that keep us stuck and...
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What the Hell is "Holding Space" Really? (And How to Know If You Can)
If you ever walked on eggshells as a kid (umm hi!), almost killed yourself to be perfect (uh hi again!) and/or had to pretend you were ok when you really weren't (well s@#$)... this was probably never done for you growing up. It sounded "woo woo" to me when I first started healing, but I saw...
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“Get a Room!”: Cringing at “Closeness”??
I have a secret- I have gotten annoyed and even CRINGED at people being close and affectionate… WTH is that about?? (As my ego cringes admitting that…) A recent (awesomely terrible!) moment shown light on some shadows I was apparently trying to dodge. -How this shows up from childhood wounds…
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Conscious Parenting: Sharing is NOT Caring?!
Always a good time trying to parent differently in front of others (especially family!) My kid refused to share recently and I ALLOWED it... (enter judgement and discomfort) -The surprising move even I was shocked I made to change how it was received -How for many of us, it runs much deeper than…
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The Power in Surrendering into the S@#$ Show
A Divinely ridiculous amount of stuff went "wrong" recently while traveling alone with my kid- super fun! I could never have imagined how it turned out... How "surrendering" is MORE than just accepting what happened - the missing piece that allowed me to REALLY surrender and allow the...
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How the Childhood Wound of Omission Shows Up as an Adult
We always think of triggers coming from how we were punished/mistreated/abused...our inner child remembering and acting out. This wasn't the case for a recent event... Especially if you are Gen-X or Millennial: The surprising way everyday events our caregivers SHOULD HAVE stepped in with growing…
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Oops, I Did It Again! How Trauma Tries to Stop You from Doing "Better"
My husband said one (very innocent!) word that made me lose my mind recently, and I figured out what it was really about... Here's the craziest part- I had done an ENTIRE EPISODE on this before and I STILL missed this! If you are healing and trying to change and do new things-this trauma response...
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How an Abandonment Wound Shows Up as an Adult: Teaching Myself and My Kid "Spoon Theory"
"Mommy look!" "Mommy play with me!" "MOMMYYY!"... My recent overwhelm had me so triggered that I knew there was more to it...and I was SHOCKED to finally figure out why... So many of us did not get what we needed physically and/or emotionally growing up. The wounds either has some of us doing the...
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Conscious Parenting: Handling REJECTION "Supporting" vs "Fixing"
My kid runs up to me crying that he was told "he couldn't play" by another kid... My ego was feeling pressure to defend and "fix" it for him, my healed heart felt differently and to be honest, I hated both answers! We took a route that I definitely never got as a kid, and I could not believe how...
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“Annoying” Ways Your Shadow Shows Up
I noticed my husband being “slightly irritated” with our kid (AND me!) recently, and it didn't make sense to me… One question at an ice cream parlor finally unlocked how much deeper it was than it seemed. Real-life ways to spot a shadow in yourself and others How to "integrate" and embrace your...
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Hormone Teeter Totter: The Old Narrative That Keeps Women Feeling “Crazy” and Unhealed
I was feeling "crazy"...EVERYTHING was getting on my last nerve... After all the healing I had done, wth was going on here?? The connection of our hormones to healing and consciousness that I wish someone would have told me about... Major things to look out for and DO that NO ONE talks about...
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Hurry Up!! Why We Can’t Stop Rushing
The struggle of getting out the damn door is real. We are all in this constant state of rushing to get to somewhere, to get something done, to get...out of our present. -The core reason that I was SHOCKED to find out -How to know it is happening to YOU -Real-life ways to get out of this stressful...
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"False" Healing Trap: Thinking vs FEELING
Oh damn... There was a situation recently that I "thought" I had a handle on. I've done a bunch of healing work; I know what to do! I was wrong. Our ego can "trick" us into missing the main piece of TRUE healing... How to know if you are THINKING or actually FEELING your emotions Why FEELING is...
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Control Freak: Surprising Ways This Childhood Wound Shows Up
I thought I had worked on my control issues from trauma but then I got sick, really sick. There were some loose ends that didn't make it into my awareness until I literally couldn't do the things I liked to control! Surprising real-life ways control shows up (one I had no idea I was doing too)…
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Conscious Parenting: “S.I.C.” of Curse Words? (and other fun triggering stuff)- Try this!
Holy @%&*... Received a question: A viewer's 7-year-old is teaching his 4-year-old brother awesome inappropriate stuff (curse words, middle fingers, guns, etc) that he is now teaching his preschool class...she is getting more and more triggered...what can we do?? A ("slightly controversial") 3…
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A Surprising Way Childhood Invalidation and Gaslighting Shows Up as an Adult
There was a weird reaction that was always coming up for me when I had something to discuss with others in my life- with my husband, friends/family and even with my kid. If you experienced invalidation and/or gaslighting growing up, this might be showing up for you too. What's really happening,...
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Trauma Deja Vu: Your Kid Going Through Something That Traumatized YOU
You've been healing, doing all the "things" to be the parent (and person) you needed but didn't have...awesome! Then something happens one day, and your child is facing something that once hurt YOU too. This could be anything from a "reactive" parenting moment (like you had), to facing a divorce...
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Injustice Shadow: Why “Let It Go” Doesn’t Work (and what DOES)
Many of us were not seen/heard/treated in the ways we needed growing up. I lived as a seasoned "Injustice Collector" for a majority of my life. This wound transports us back to whatever happened and however we feel about it, EVERY TIME we remember it- rage, frustration, disgust…continuing to…
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Conscious Parenting: Teaching About PROJECTION
Even in 2nd grade, my kid was having issues with kids making comments and remarks that were changing how he saw things and making HIM feel the need to change. He, like every one of us, was going to be faced with others PROJECTING... We can't control what we or our kids will face, but we can teach...
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Trauma Response Relay Race: Healing Within a Relationship
We all want our partner to heal, to see and treat us from a healed space, right? But if your partner (or someone very close to you) knew you BEFORE healing, this may be sitting in the background of your relationship too. We took our kid on a trip recently and my husband was getting so ANNOYED at...
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What Boundaries and Getting Needs Met as Adult Children Looks Like in Real Life
You want to really know where you’re at with healing and conscious parenting? Go to Disney with extended family and your kid... to add a little “spice”, I went with a parent that I went no-contact with for a while…it brought up trauma, boundaries and old baggage but not in the way you might…
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Conscious Parenting: Sensory Overload
I had no idea what Sensory Overload REALLY was until I became a parent. There is also an additional sensory issue that affects at least 20% of us (me included!) on a daily basis that I was SHOCKED to know was even a thing... The kicker: "healing" isn't enough when your nervous system reacts this...
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“Can I What??”: Spoken vs Unspoken Boundaries
Right in time for the holidays...hooray!! We've all been there- NOT okay with something, NOT comfortable, but we don't know what to do... Why this happens to so many of us (I was there too!) WHO and when to use spoken/communicated boundaries with and when NOT to (there’s a difference! And you can...
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Conscious Parenting: "It's the Principle!"
Our kid forgot something on the way to school the other morning…which led to a super awesome power struggle circus that so many of us have been in both as adults and growing up as a kid. How to tell the difference between care vs control and figuring out if your shadows are unconsciously calling...
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Running Towards Sadness
We just lost our beloved dog recently and I thought my heart was going to rip right out of my chest. And there is my 7 year old watching what to do in a crisis/loss... So many issues came up with my ego, my beliefs, my spirituality and my healing. The surprising way to view sadness that…
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Trauma Healing- Changes Your Genetic Blueprint?!
Did you know there is real science that shows that stress/trauma and other factors affect how our body reads our DNA sequence...and get this- from at least TWO generations before you?? And we can CHANGE it??? My mother dropped (yet another) family bombshell with me recently and how it can lead to...
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Sneaky Ways Childhood Food Trauma Shows Up as an Adult
Trauma with food does not have to be just from being starved and/or resulting in an eating disorder (although it definitely can). I have been called a "picky/weird eater" by many family members and friends. Maybe you are that person too... While there is nothing wrong with having preferences,...
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How to Know Someone’s Shadow is Showing
Well, that escalated quickly…. A very simple question my husband asked me recently unraveled so much more than my ego wanted to deal with. Real life ways to know you hit someone's shadow (or someone hit yours!), how to find it, and how and what it means to integrate it, so reactions can be...
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How Childhood Trauma Shows Up In Our Decision-Making
From even simple everday things like, "What do you want to eat??" to deciding on plans (or saying NO to plans), the struggle is real and the more trauma you've had, the harder it can be. It crosses over into our adult relationships and our parenting... Examples of how and why trauma can show up...
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Depression or Dark Night of the Soul?
I was "off". Really off- I thought I must be in a depression...well, I was, but not the kind we typically think of… A Dark Night of the Soul can look and feel a lot like a depression, but there are significant differences, and many do not know until after the fact. Did you also know that it can...
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These Kinds of Wounds Bring the “Craziest” Triggers
We think of certain things triggering our shadows- our parents saying or doing something, our kids saying or doing something... There are certain shadows/wounds that will be activated by simple everyday events. Others and our very own ego will make us feel "crazy" or "silly" for even…
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When the Other Parent Isn't on the Same Page
You've been working on yourself and have been a more conscious person and parent...fantastic! A recent bedtime showdown with my kid revealed different ways of seeing and reacting to what was happening between my husband and I. I wanted them BOTH to go to damn bed at that point... By doing THIS...
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What Lack/Scarcity Shadows Look Like in Real Life
A surprising shadow that many of us (many times unconsciously) carry finally made its way to my awareness What lack and scarcity mindset looks like in real-life situations that we sometimes don't even realize we're doing... The root issues underneath it all and how to get out of it, especially as...
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Betrayal Wound
How the betrayals of trust from our caregivers growing up show up in our present (and make a crappy event soooo much worse)…. I overheard a trusted family member talking about both my kid and my parenting recently… The surprising thing that was really going on with BOTH of us, and why it's super...
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Facing Past You
I wanted to cringe... Real-life examples how a past version of us will show up and convince us we're not worthy to be who we are (or want to be) today. What to do to help that version of you so you can make decisions from NOW you instead.
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Shadows, Boundaries and Projection Oh My!!
Do you know there are times when we SHOULDN'T hold boundaries? (I know, hear me out!) Healing has helped me be okay looking "stupid" in front of others- and why you would WANT to also! And why someone REALLY has an issue with what your doing...
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Adult Children and Invalidation
I expressed a fear to my mom recently that stems from a trauma I had as a kid. Let's just say the response was why many adult children don't talk to their parents anymore... An epic showdown between my mom and I opened up a huge awareness of generational trauma and even revealed a big reason why...
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Why We Partner with Our Parent Wounds
Our mind is addicted to MEMORIES... A super fun disagreement with my husband recently resulted in me saying something that I KNEW was not from present time. Why we partner with our parent wounds and how to work with them, so we stop toxic patterns and cycles.
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Trauma Middle Man
What it means to be the "middle piece" between handling your kid and handling others around your kid, all while handling your OWN trauma and triggers. A misconception that comes up A TON with conscious/gentle parenting that doesn't get talked about enough- why it's SO important to know this and…
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How a Resentment Shadow Shows Up for Adult Children
For many of us, our parents didn't meet our emotional and/or physical needs growing up, and as they age, they now need US- I was getting more and more MAD and I couldn't understand why... The wounds that so many of us are carrying around that didn't surface for me until a recent event for one of…
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A Room of PTSD
I had a complex trauma background growing up and I went no-contact with a bunch of family when I was first Awakening and healing. An unexpected death happened recently, and I had to decide if I was healed "enough" to attend the funeral... I could never have imagined how much this event would…
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Conscious Parenting: "Bad" Words!
My 6-year-old brought home yet another fantastic story from school that had me saying "oh shit" to myself yet again... My thoughts on "profanity" have changed since Awakening and healing (along with a million other things lol). How I guide my son about "bad" words that feels a heck of a lot…
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“Inherited” Shadows
Shadow work helps us feel better about ourselves and others, but did you know it's also connected to many of our "blocks"?? And here’s the kicker- some shadows didn’t even come from our own experiences (I know, what??!!)… How our PARENTS' (and other influences) shadows show up in our lives even…
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"You said WHAT?!"
So my kid said something that made me actually gasp to another kid at school...Freakin great!! How healing changed how we worked through it (which I totally would have missed before healing). -Teaching him to do THIS is a relationship game changer even as adults! A HUGE lesson in validating what...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Some are meant to be guides, some are meant to be sparks- that’s me! Helping you REMEMBER something that has held you back one crazy story at a time. “Out there” ideas in real life. Sharing totally relatable connections to Spirit, healing and parenting. 🙏♥️✨
HOSTED BY
Christina Stabile
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Some are meant to be guides, some are meant to be sparks- that’s me! Helping you REMEMBER something that has held you back one crazy story at a time. “Out there” ideas in real life. Sharing totally relatable connections to Spirit, healing and parenting. 🙏♥️✨
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