Spiritual Firestarter

My kid had a falling out with a very close friend- even I was a little shocked at what happened.But I thought it would just blow over once they played like kids typically do…It didn't. He was still super angry every time their name was even brought up even way after it happened.OMG. I knew that feeling...I was stuck there for decades before healing, and it showed more often than I would like to admit.The PROCESS I wish someone would have taught me at my kid's age that I used to help my own inner child stop hating the world...

Someone said something so wildly inappropriate to me at a family party...holyyyy...Craziest part? I wasn't mad at HIM, but there was someone else I was upset by...and this might be hiding in your past too...We usually think of trauma as the person who DID something harmful to us, right? I didn’t realize the damage of the “bystanders” until this happened…- How to know if you are TRULY healed or not- 2 REAL-LIFE ways to actually release emotions and integrate your shadow aspects (yes, even you friend)...

And we're BACKKKK...it's been a heck of time friend... My kid needed dental work done and was stuck on a waiting list for over a YEARRRR. I could not believe how the Universe was working to get us to where we really needed to be- it's hard to see because it feels so TERRIBLE... How surrendering into everything going "wrong" (especially with everything happening right NOW) is where it all starts going right.

My kid came running out of school crying…over his TEACHER.I have talked a ton about healing, accepting and working through issues with others (especially family!).This recent situation showed me there are times we SHOULDN'T...-What to look for that calls for a different “conscious” approach -HOW to present the issue to be truly heard and helped

We've all been there as parents- your kid is doing something out in public (or with judgmental family) and you want so desperately to make it stop... Usually I'm able to do "something" to at least help the situation, this day I wasn't. Being stuck (and unable to control), had this shadow screaming at me and it came out in a way that I didn't realize I was doing until now... What shame is REALLY about (which helped me feel different about it) Real-life ways to help you process and integrate this shadow so we stop beating ourselves up and dumping it on others.

Out of the mud comes the bloom...I ran into someone yesterday who I had an issue with 2 years ago (I even made a podcast episode about it then!). We had come a long way since.She was going through a really tough moment, and I was EXCITED for her!!Ummmm whattt?? Yep. The faster I have shifted to this (as hard as it was), the faster the good things came to me

"Dammit Christina how do you keep doing that??"A video showed up for me right on Divine time...How shame is connected to the things we say we don't want to do anymore or not doing the things we say we do want to do.And a real-life exercise to help release the programs that keep us stuck and feeling like s@#$.

If you ever walked on eggshells as a kid (umm hi!), almost killed yourself to be perfect (uh hi again!) and/or had to pretend you were ok when you really weren't (well s@#$)... this was probably never done for you growing up. It sounded "woo woo" to me when I first started healing, but I saw recently with my husband how awesome it is when you don't do this... - What "holding space" really means and why it's so important for any relationship especially parenting -A way to see if you are able to -Real-life ways to help you get there even with a trunk of trauma

I have a secret- I have gotten annoyed and even CRINGED at people being close and affectionate…
WTH is that about??(As my ego cringes admitting that…)
A recent (awesomely terrible!) moment shown light on some shadows I was apparently trying to dodge.
-How this shows up from childhood wounds-Real ways to find and work with our shadow so we stop doing unhealed bs 


Always a good time trying to parent differently in front of others (especially family!)My kid refused to share recently and I ALLOWED it...(enter judgement and discomfort)-The surprising move even I was shocked I made to change how it was received -How for many of us, it runs much deeper than it seems connecting to childhood conditioning and traumas-Why and how to help your child AND your inner child when it comes to boundaries and WANTING to share

A Divinely ridiculous amount of stuff went "wrong" recently while traveling alone with my kid- super fun! I could never have imagined how it turned out... How "surrendering" is MORE than just accepting what happened - the missing piece that allowed me to REALLY surrender and allow the Universe/Higher Self to work it out FOR me

We always think of triggers coming from how we were punished/mistreated/abused...our inner child remembering and acting out. This wasn't the case for a recent event... Especially if you are Gen-X or Millennial: The surprising way everyday events our caregivers SHOULD HAVE stepped in with growing up can cause us to react NOW. -How to take apart what happened to pinpoint shadow and inner child work -How to process an unhealed reaction with yourself and others

My husband said one (very innocent!) word that made me lose my mind recently, and I figured out what it was really about... Here's the craziest part- I had done an ENTIRE EPISODE on this before and I STILL missed this! If you are healing and trying to change and do new things-this trauma response will try to wreck the things you say you want to do... -Real life ways this shows up -Surprising reason it is a GREAT thing!? -How to reframe and get yourself out of the pattern that stops us from progressing

"Mommy look!" "Mommy play with me!" "MOMMYYY!"... My recent overwhelm had me so triggered that I knew there was more to it...and I was SHOCKED to finally figure out why... So many of us did not get what we needed physically and/or emotionally growing up. The wounds either has some of us doing the same, orrrr has us overcompensating and constantly pouring from an empty cup being "everything we needed"... The childhood shadow that many of us are carrying that is triggering us when we simply can't do it all... What to do for your inner child as well as teaching "Spoon Theory" to yourself and your kid so they don't own what others do/don't do like I did.

My kid runs up to me crying that he was told "he couldn't play" by another kid... My ego was feeling pressure to defend and "fix" it for him, my healed heart felt differently and to be honest, I hated both answers! We took a route that I definitely never got as a kid, and I could not believe how awesome it turned out...

I noticed my husband being “slightly irritated” with our kid (AND me!) recently, and it didn't make sense to me… One question at an ice cream parlor finally unlocked how much deeper it was than it seemed. Real-life ways to spot a shadow in yourself and others How to "integrate" and embrace your shadow The missing piece of healing that many of us miss once we discover our shadows

I was feeling "crazy"...EVERYTHING was getting on my last nerve... After all the healing I had done, wth was going on here?? The connection of our hormones to healing and consciousness that I wish someone would have told me about... Major things to look out for and DO that NO ONE talks about...

The struggle of getting out the damn door is real. We are all in this constant state of rushing to get to somewhere, to get something done, to get...out of our present. -The core reason that I was SHOCKED to find out -How to know it is happening to YOU -Real-life ways to get out of this stressful loop and live more mindfully

Oh damn... There was a situation recently that I "thought" I had a handle on. I've done a bunch of healing work; I know what to do! I was wrong. Our ego can "trick" us into missing the main piece of TRUE healing... How to know if you are THINKING or actually FEELING your emotions Why FEELING is different and crucial Real-life ways to help you get there especially if you've been taught to stuff your emotions down (like me!)

I thought I had worked on my control issues from trauma but then I got sick, really sick. There were some loose ends that didn't make it into my awareness until I literally couldn't do the things I liked to control! Surprising real-life ways control shows up (one I had no idea I was doing too) The major childhood wound it is attached to and how to re-process it to break the pattern of NEEDING to control...

Holy @%&*... Received a question: A viewer's 7-year-old is teaching his 4-year-old brother awesome inappropriate stuff (curse words, middle fingers, guns, etc) that he is now teaching his preschool class...she is getting more and more triggered...what can we do?? A ("slightly controversial") 3 step process that has helped with my kid (not just for now but the long-run) Uncovering WHY it is so triggering as a parent, real-life ways to help get you out of that loop Super surprising research on "curse words" that help re-frame and shift our thinking which helps with conditioned triggers as well

There was a weird reaction that was always coming up for me when I had something to discuss with others in my life- with my husband, friends/family and even with my kid. If you experienced invalidation and/or gaslighting growing up, this might be showing up for you too. What's really happening, real-life ways to heal and stop doing that crap...

You've been healing, doing all the "things" to be the parent (and person) you needed but didn't have...awesome! Then something happens one day, and your child is facing something that once hurt YOU too. This could be anything from a "reactive" parenting moment (like you had), to facing a divorce (like you did)... Why these have more impact on YOU. Real-life ways to help your inner child and integrate a shadow that may be coming up while helping it NOT become trauma to your own child.

Many of us were not seen/heard/treated in the ways we needed growing up. I lived as a seasoned "Injustice Collector" for a majority of my life. This wound transports us back to whatever happened and however we feel about it, EVERY TIME we remember it- rage, frustration, disgust…continuing to wreck our PRESENT. The psychological reason our brain WANTS to stay there... Real-life ways it shows up and a surprising (totally DOABLE) way to get out of the cycle.

Even in 2nd grade, my kid was having issues with kids making comments and remarks that were changing how he saw things and making HIM feel the need to change. He, like every one of us, was going to be faced with others PROJECTING... We can't control what we or our kids will face, but we can teach why others REALLY do what they do, and how to stay empowered while still having compassion.

We all want our partner to heal, to see and treat us from a healed space, right? But if your partner (or someone very close to you) knew you BEFORE healing, this may be sitting in the background of your relationship too. We took our kid on a trip recently and my husband was getting so ANNOYED at everything and I wondered “what is wrong with HIM?”! I never thought it could be this… Real life ways to help BOTH sides heal and grow TOGETHER.

You want to really know where you’re at with healing and conscious parenting? Go to Disney with extended family and your kid... to add a little “spice”, I went with a parent that I went no-contact with for a while…it brought up trauma, boundaries and old baggage but not in the way you might think. Maybe this place really is magical…

I had no idea what Sensory Overload REALLY was until I became a parent. There is also an additional sensory issue that affects at least 20% of us (me included!) on a daily basis that I was SHOCKED to know was even a thing... The kicker: "healing" isn't enough when your nervous system reacts this way, having this PLAN has helped me AND my kid stay close and conscious while still getting needs met.

Right in time for the holidays...hooray!! We've all been there- NOT okay with something, NOT comfortable, but we don't know what to do... Why this happens to so many of us (I was there too!) WHO and when to use spoken/communicated boundaries with and when NOT to (there’s a difference! And you can still hold the boundary!). And a real method to help you shift the situation to get your needs met without throwing turkey legs across the table...

Our kid forgot something on the way to school the other morning…which led to a super awesome power struggle circus that so many of us have been in both as adults and growing up as a kid. How to tell the difference between care vs control and figuring out if your shadows are unconsciously calling the shots...

We just lost our beloved dog recently and I thought my heart was going to rip right out of my chest. And there is my 7 year old watching what to do in a crisis/loss... So many issues came up with my ego, my beliefs, my spirituality and my healing. The surprising way to view sadness that completely changed my own perspective and experience. Real life ways to help you process guilt, loss, and deep sadness.

Did you know there is real science that shows that stress/trauma and other factors affect how our body reads our DNA sequence...and get this- from at least TWO generations before you?? And we can CHANGE it??? My mother dropped (yet another) family bombshell with me recently and how it can lead to healing much more than we ever imagined...

Trauma with food does not have to be just from being starved and/or resulting in an eating disorder (although it definitely can). I have been called a "picky/weird eater" by many family members and friends. Maybe you are that person too... While there is nothing wrong with having preferences, something surprising happened between my kid and I that opened up more than I realized. Real-life examples of how food trauma can show up that many of us miss (especially as PARENTS) and how to change unhealthy patterns for you and your kids.

Well, that escalated quickly…. A very simple question my husband asked me recently unraveled so much more than my ego wanted to deal with. Real life ways to know you hit someone's shadow (or someone hit yours!), how to find it, and how and what it means to integrate it, so reactions can be conscious responses.

From even simple everday things like, "What do you want to eat??" to deciding on plans (or saying NO to plans), the struggle is real and the more trauma you've had, the harder it can be. It crosses over into our adult relationships and our parenting... Examples of how and why trauma can show up this way, and a real-life strategy to help get you (and others!) out of this crap.

I was "off". Really off- I thought I must be in a depression...well, I was, but not the kind we typically think of… A Dark Night of the Soul can look and feel a lot like a depression, but there are significant differences, and many do not know until after the fact. Did you also know that it can happen more than once? (yep! for a SECOND time in my case- awesome!) How to tell the difference between the 2 and what to do to help yourself through it.

We think of certain things triggering our shadows- our parents saying or doing something, our kids saying or doing something... There are certain shadows/wounds that will be activated by simple everyday events. Others and our very own ego will make us feel "crazy" or "silly" for even acknowledging it's happening. Why these are the hardest to catch, what to look for, and how to stop getting buried by them. Fyi: the guided meditation I refer to is by Jason Stephenson free on youtube- he is awesome!

You've been working on yourself and have been a more conscious person and parent...fantastic! A recent bedtime showdown with my kid revealed different ways of seeing and reacting to what was happening between my husband and I. I wanted them BOTH to go to damn bed at that point... By doing THIS instead, the other person can truly hear you and real change is possible.

A surprising shadow that many of us (many times unconsciously) carry finally made its way to my awareness What lack and scarcity mindset looks like in real-life situations that we sometimes don't even realize we're doing... The root issues underneath it all and how to get out of it, especially as parents.

How the betrayals of trust from our caregivers growing up show up in our present (and make a crappy event soooo much worse)…. I overheard a trusted family member talking about both my kid and my parenting recently… The surprising thing that was really going on with BOTH of us, and why it's super important to tell the difference between "acting" and truly being un-triggered.

I wanted to cringe... Real-life examples how a past version of us will show up and convince us we're not worthy to be who we are (or want to be) today. What to do to help that version of you so you can make decisions from NOW you instead.

Do you know there are times when we SHOULDN'T hold boundaries? (I know, hear me out!) Healing has helped me be okay looking "stupid" in front of others- and why you would WANT to also! And why someone REALLY has an issue with what your doing...

I expressed a fear to my mom recently that stems from a trauma I had as a kid. Let's just say the response was why many adult children don't talk to their parents anymore... An epic showdown between my mom and I opened up a huge awareness of generational trauma and even revealed a big reason why people have such an issue with gentle/conscious parenting now.

Our mind is addicted to MEMORIES... A super fun disagreement with my husband recently resulted in me saying something that I KNEW was not from present time. Why we partner with our parent wounds and how to work with them, so we stop toxic patterns and cycles.

What it means to be the "middle piece" between handling your kid and handling others around your kid, all while handling your OWN trauma and triggers. A misconception that comes up A TON with conscious/gentle parenting that doesn't get talked about enough- why it's SO important to know this and how to help navigate through it with others so you can better stick to it.

For many of us, our parents didn't meet our emotional and/or physical needs growing up, and as they age, they now need US- I was getting more and more MAD and I couldn't understand why... The wounds that so many of us are carrying around that didn't surface for me until a recent event for one of my parents. What the triggers look and feel like in real life and how to help you release them.

I had a complex trauma background growing up and I went no-contact with a bunch of family when I was first Awakening and healing. An unexpected death happened recently, and I had to decide if I was healed "enough" to attend the funeral... I could never have imagined how much this event would change my Awakening and healing process, and it may give new perspectives on your family too.

My 6-year-old brought home yet another fantastic story from school that had me saying "oh shit" to myself yet again... My thoughts on "profanity" have changed since Awakening and healing (along with a million other things lol). How I guide my son about "bad" words that feels a heck of a lot better than what I got...

Shadow work helps us feel better about ourselves and others, but did you know it's also connected to many of our "blocks"?? And here’s the kicker- some shadows didn’t even come from our own experiences (I know, what??!!)… How our PARENTS' (and other influences) shadows show up in our lives even as adults (most of us don't even realize it!). And what to do to work with these parts of us so they stop subconsciously blocking our present and we don’t pass them to anyone else.

So my kid said something that made me actually gasp to another kid at school...Freakin great!! How healing changed how we worked through it (which I totally would have missed before healing). -Teaching him to do THIS is a relationship game changer even as adults! A HUGE lesson in validating what someone else feels, regardless of your intention or what YOU think they SHOULD feel...