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Doing Marriage Well — 205 episodes
Moving Beyond the Quid-Pro-Quo Marriage and Earning Love
Escaping the Trap of Perfectionism in Your Marriage
Doing Marriage Badly Is Far Better Than Not Trying at All
Beyond the Taboo: Honest Conversations About Sex, Separation, and Grace
When You Have to Carry the Load: Grace and Sacrifice in Marriage
Growing Up Together: Dealing with Blame, Tantrums, and Avoidance
When Adulting Hurts: Mental Health, Addictions, and Boundaries
When "Adulting" Gets Messy: Teamwork and Grace in Marriage
The High Cost of Betrayal: Healing After Infidelity
The Art of Apologising: How to Say Sorry Without Making Things Worse
Shared History Can Repair—Or Ruin—Relationships
When the Problem is the Other Person
Six Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships
Adults Acting Like Children Destroy Relationships
Learn how arousal non-concordance affects marriage, why physical and mental arousal don't always match, and how to navigate it together.
Why He Holds Back and How It Hurts the Marriage
Measuring the Immeasurable: Vital, Intangible Things Your Spouse Needs
The 5 and Beyond: Providing What Your Spouse Really Needs
Why You Might Be Misjudging Your Marriage Needs
Are You Emotionally Dehydrated? Running on Empty in Marriage
Becoming One Flesh: Navigating Sexual Differences in Marriage
Working Toward Common Goals Strengthens Your Marriage
Preserving Your Marriage When Convictions Clash
Keeping Your Mood in Check: Don't Drag Your Spouse Down
Staying Out of the Pit: How to Handle Your Spouse's Bad Mood
The Parallel Path: Understanding Sexual Availability in Marriage
The Root Causes Behind Emotional and Sexual Disconnects
The Missing Link: Unlocking True Emotional Availability
Facing the Hard Truth About What We Withhold From Our Spouse
Is Your Marriage Missing This Vital Connection?
Why God Invented Marriage - Week of Aug 3rd 2026
Is Your Spouse Why You Are Unhappy? - Week of July 27th
Did God Make Marriage for Sex? The Answer Might Surprise You!
Happy or Holy? God’s Design for Marriage Includes Both
God Prioritises Marriage: Lessons from the Old & New Testaments
What Your Marriage Says About God (For Better or Worse)
Why Did God Invent Marriage?
The "Sex Is Different" Lie: Separate Rules Hurt Your Marriage
Beyond the Fight-or-Flight Marriage: Overcoming Reactivity and Control
Silent Killers: How Withdrawal and Contempt Destroy Marriage
Are You Using Your Spouse’s Mistakes to Justify Your Own?
Is Your Spouse Really the Obstacle to Your Happiness?
Sexual Health - The Week of July 20th
5 Proven Habits of Couples Who Stay Sexually Satisfied
Want Better Sex? Start Putting Your Fantasies on Paper
The Best Natural Supplement: Regular Sex Keeps You Healthy
Needles and Your Sex Life: The Ultimate Guy’s Guide to ED and PE
Sexual Health Issues? Why You Must Advocate for Yourself
Sex and Needs: Pornography, Expectations, and Real Intimacy
Is It Too Much to Ask? Judging the Validity of Relationship Needs
Which Need First? The Strategic Way to Heal a Neglected Relationship
The Cognitive Shield: Why We Dismiss Our Spouse’s Needs
Validating Their Needs: The 1st Step to A Better Marriage
Drunk on Love: Unlocking Sexual Freedom with Your Spouse
Is Your Idea Winning Out at the Cost of Your Spouse?
The Freedom to Grow - Without Growing Apart
The Gift of Being Fully Known (and Fully Loved)
Is There Freedom in Your Marriage? (And Why it Matters)
Rewrite Your Marriage Sex Script for Mutual Pleasure
The Marriage Gripe Fest: Echo Chambers Are Dangerous for Your Relationship
Loving the World But Failing at Home: The Danger of Misplaced Ministry
Why Avoiding Fights Might Be Killing Your Relationship
Why Ignoring Family Problems Always Makes Them Bigger
The Unspoken Wedding Day Advice That Silently Starves Marriages
The Science of Wedded Bliss: What the Data Says About Generosity
The Marmalade Trap: Why Your Generosity Might Be Missing the Mark
The Baseline of Grace: Generosity When You Least Feel Like It
The Debt of Grace: Why Generosity Should Start at Home
The Anatomy of a Myth: Why Freud Was Wrong About Your Sex Life
Is Your Perception Shrinking Your Husband & Hurting Your Marriage?
Born of Love, Built on a Lie: The Danger of Seeing Your Wife as Fragile
Marriage Trap: Are You Gender Profiling Your Spouse?
Mind vs. Heart: Which Version of Your Spouse Are You Married To?
Speaking Up in the Bedroom: The Cost of Pretending and Faking
When "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough: Responding to a Spouse Who Won't Let Go
The Sidetrack Trap: Deflecting Questions Damages Communication
Why Letting Bad Tactics Work Damages Your Marriage
Broken Behaviours: Tolerating Bad Treatment Isn’t Loving
Less Sex Than Either of You Want — and Nobody's Talking About It
Dealmakers and Dealbreakers: Taking Ownership of Your Marriage
One Person Can Change a Marriage: The Power of Interplay
Why Change is Hard: 5 Barriers to a Better Marriage
It’s Your Life Now: Taking Ownership of Your Life & Marriage
Why Great Sex Won’t Fix a Broken Relationship (and Vice Versa)
Is Your Spouse Insecure? The Hidden Reason Communication Breaks Down
When Brains Differ: Navigating Neurodivergence in Marriage
Are You on the Same Page? Dreams, Goals, and Your Marriage Quest
Is Venting Healthy? The Surprising Truth About Anger
The Bedroom Filter: Are Biases Hurting Your Sex Life?
Is the False Consensus Effect Hurting Your Marriage?
Let Go of the Anchor and See Change in Your Relationship
The Double Standard: You’re "Stressed" but They’re "Selfish"
The Filters in Your Mind: Are Biases Blurring Your View?
The Fork in the Road: Choosing Between Acceptance and Ultimatums
Hidden Killers: Understanding the Consequences of Sexual Choices
When Fear Calls the Shots: Breaking the Cycle
Lazy or Exhausted? Understanding the Root of Your Marital Friction
The Cost of False Peace: Sacrificing Your Beliefs Hurts Your Marriage
Look What You Made Me Do — Stop Reactionary Living in Marriage
Why Premarital Coaching is a Non-Negotiable
Breaking the Silence: Get Help for Your Sex Life
The Professional Edge: When Your Marriage Needs More
When Church Help Heals: Finding Marriage Support in Your Congregation
The Power of a Mature Perspective: Choosing the Right Friend for Marriage Help
A Neutral 3rd Party Is the Best Friend Your Marriage Can Have
The Breaking Point: Why You Can’t Afford to Ignore Sexual Frequency
Bedroom Silence: When Sex Acts Become Something You "Put Up With"
"I Need Your Help": The Best Way to Address Annoying Habits
Phubbing, Messiness, and Lateness: Addressing the Friction that Eats at You
The High Cost of Silence: Why "Putting Up With It" Doesn't Work
When Asking for What You Need Feels Risky
When "More Sex" Isn't the Answer to Your Emptiness
Feeling Empty? Are You Asking for the Right Thing?
Why You Can't Admit What You Really Need from Your Spouse
"I Need a Hug": The Power of Vulnerable Requests
Why "All You Need Is Jesus" Isn’t True in Marriage
You Don’t Have to Be "In the Mood" - Or Get an Erection
When Sex Hurts: Practical Solutions for Women Over Fifty
Intentional Intimacy: Why Your Mindset Matters Most
ED: The Solution Depends on the Problem
Sex After Fifty: Closing the Knowledge Gap
Opening Your Spiritual Life to Your Spouse
The Final Frontier: Sexual Transparency in Your Marriage
The Armour of Fear: Finding Emotional Nudity in Your Relationship
Beyond Small Talk: Unlocking Your "Present" Thoughts in Marriage
Unlocking Your History: The Past Matters in Your Marriage
Hidden Rooms and Locked Doors: A Guide to Total Transparency
The Crowded Bed: Clearing the Baggage for Better Sex
Winning the Argument vs. Winning the Marriage: Stop Fighting Dirty
How Your Self-Image Shapes Your Marriage
The Independence Trap: Being Self-Sufficient is Hurting Your Marriage
Beyond the Blame Game: Taking Ownership in Marriage
The Bedroom Trap: Why Compromise Isn't Doing Sex Well
The "Yes" Trap: When Your Spouse Is a People-Pleaser
The Unseen Guest: How Past Wounds Shape Your Marriage Conflicts
Beyond the Middle Ground: 3 Ways to Both Win When You Disagree
Beyond Compromise: Finding a Better Way to Handle Differences
The Bedroom Balance: Navigating Sexual Needs and Selfishness
Childhood Echoes: Why You're Afraid to Ask Your Spouse for What You Need
When "No" Isn't Selfish: Setting Boundaries in Your Relationship
Is It Selfish or Just a Misunderstanding? Navigating Conflicting Needs
Jesus, Naps, and the ER: Finding Balance in Your Marriage
When Venting Becomes a Problem: How Constant Complaining Hurts Your Spouse
Are You Accidentally Pushing Your Spouse Away in the Bedroom?
Nagging Is a Warning Sign Not, Just an Annoyance (Edited version)
Why Criticism Backfires in Marriage (and What to Say Instead)
Is Your Ego Is Causing Wrecks in Your Marriage?
Back Off to Move Forward: What Tailgating Taught Me About Marriage
Gratitude and Desire: Enjoying a Quiet Night Together
When You’re 64: Building the Marriage You’ll Want in Retirement
“I Was Your Clown”: Humour, Comfort, and Carrying the Weight Together
Marriage Battle Wounds: Why Hiding Hurts
The Power of “Yet”: Hope for Couples Who Feel Stuck
Doing Sex Well: Your Spouse Is Different, Not "Broken"
Hard-Wired for Different Realities: From Provision to Aggression
Lost in Translation: When "Fine" Doesn't Mean Fine
Doing Marriage Well by Understanding Your Spouse’s Physical Reality
Your Spouse Isn't a "Defective" Version of You
Package Deals and Straitjackets: Doing Sex Well Together
The Comparison Trap: Spouses Are a Package Deal
Splinters & Chunks: Prioritising the Change Your Spouse Needs
The Broken Leg Principle: Your Spouse’s Limitations
The Art of Noticing: Finding the Good in Your Spouse
More Than a "Service": Reclaiming Sex from a Toxic Culture
Honouring the "Weaker Vessel"
The Mud of Culture: Husbands Should Be Part of the Solution
Headship as Promotion: Why Your Wife’s Gifts are Your Calling
The "Rebellious" Proverbs 31 Woman?
Marriage and Gender: Seeking God’s Truth Outside of the Usual Camps
Prioritising Your Wife's Heart This Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day Sex: Blessing Him Your Way
Valentine's Day: Celebrate Your Way
Ladies: Understanding His Valentine's Day Mindset
Husbands, Why Your Valentine's Effort Truly Matters
Honoring Love: Why Valentine's Day Matters
Why 'What Women Want in Bed' Articles Miss the Point
The Truth About Truth in Marriage
Accepting Both Beauty and Brokenness In Your Spouse
Our Secrets to a Happy, Lasting Marriage
A Practical Approach to Disagreeing
Bonus Post: Good Will in Practice
Applying Good-Willed to Sex
Grace and Good Will: Pillars for a Thriving Marriage
They're Not You: Understanding Your Spouse's Unique Wiring
When Your Past Makes You Overreact to Your Spouse
When You Believe the Mask Instead of the Truth
What Happens When Your Spouse's Best Isn't Enough?
When Your Parents Really Did Their Best—And It Wasn't Enough
Your Parents Could Have Done Better—And So Can You
One Villain, One Hero? The Lie That Keeps You Stuck
Is Giving Your Parents a Pass Hurting Your Marriage?
The Lies About Sex—And the Truth That Can Set You Free
You're Miscalculating What Your Marriage Could Be Worth
The Belief Barrier: Hope Is the Door to a Great Marriage
Trying to Do It All Is Hurting Your Marriage
You Have the Marriage You're Willing to Work For
The Truth About Improving Your Sex Life (It's Not What You Think)
Accountability in Marriage: Help Without Shifting Responsibility
The Secret to Measuring Progress When Change Feels Slow
Why Your Spouse (or Friends) Might Fight Your Positive Changes
The Hidden Reason Marriage Resolutions Fail
What Worked, What Didn't: A Christmas Debriefing
A Christmas Blessing for Your Marriage and Soul
A Christmas Eve Challenge for Couples: Pause
The Riskiest Gift You Can Give Your Spouse