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Pleasure Uprising: Desire, Attachment, and the Sex You Actually Want — 135 episodes
The Trust Wound: Why Being Vulnerable Feels So Dangerous
Is My Vagina Normal? Undoing Vulva and Labia Shame
The Dependency Wound: When Care Was Never Something You Could Count On
Body Shame and Your Sex Life: It's Not Your Fault, and Only You Can Fix It
The Safety Wound: When Your Body Was Never Home
Beyond Anxious and Avoidant: Here's What's Actually Driving Your Desires
What Makes a Great Lover? Research Shows It's These 8 Traits
When Parenting Your Partner is Killing Your Desire
Even Light Power Play Needs a Negotiation (Here's How to Make It Sexy)
Joy and Pleasure After Sexual Self-Abandonment
What Two Feminist Relationship Coaches See in Heated Rivalry, with Maggie Reyes
From Avoiding Sex to Loving It: Real Client Data
The Last Place High Achievers Give Themselves Permission
Coming Home to Your Body: What Sexual Embodiment Actually Feels Like
The Cult Dynamics Hiding Inside "Sacred Sexuality" Spaces — with Anke Richter
The Men Behind "Sexual Polarity" Have a Lot to Answer For
Why Therapy Hasn't Fixed Your Sex Life (and What Actually Does)
Low Libido Isn't a Mindset Problem: Why You Can't Think Your Way to Desire
Sexual Shame: Why We All Have It and How to Give It Back
Pleasure Uprising: Why Culture Owes You an Apology
Confident, not controlling: what "take charge in bed" actually means
Why you don't want the honeymoon phase back (and what's actually better)
BONUS: Your Kids Are Watching: Teaching Embodied Consent (Podcasthon for Freedom Network USA)
Touch Aversion: When your partner's touch makes your skin crawl (and what helps)
The Golden Rule of Sex (and why that Other One does NOT apply)
How to know when it's time to stop learning and start doing
The one thing you haven't tried for mismatched libido
How do I fix my desire gap when my partner won't go to therapy?
Is your 'low libido' actually your body setting boundaries?
Too tired for sex? How burnout kills desire, with Dr. Amy Grimm
The 1-minute body practice that unlocks what you actually want sexually
ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 2: How to stay present during sex
Why "love should be effortless" is ruining your relationship
Why do I want sex so much (or so little)? Understanding your desires
AI and your sex life: when it helps & when it causes more harm
The 10 biggest mistakes people make with desire discrepancies
What to do when depression & antidepressants kill your libido: real talk & my story
When holiday stress kills desire (your sex life doesn't need to be a Hallmark movie)
What you're really working toward with mismatched libidos
You DO have options: what higher-desire partners can actually do
Why obligation sex destroys desire (and what works better)
Your brain is keeping you stuck in a desire gap (here's how to override it)
ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 1: High libido, low libido, or sometimes both
Getting on the Same Team, Part 2: How to talk about sex without fighting
Getting on the Same Team, Part 1: Stop venting to friends and start solving the problem together
What your body learned about love before you could talk: Healing attachment wounds with Dr. Aline LaPierre
Desire Solutions: Signs that you're rushing penetration & what to do instead
Desire Killers & What To Do Instead: Pouting When You Don't Get Sex
Sex Help for Smart People Evolves to The Desire Gap Podcast: Unpacking The #1 Issue I See
What is Embodiment? Why Somatics Are Key to Better Sex and Relationships
Is It Okay to Fantasize During Sex? A Guide to Helpful vs. Unhelpful Mental Erotica
Situationships and Friends with Benefits - What Works and What Doesn't
How to Talk to Your Partner about What Turns You OFF
Can You Really Learn Relationship Skills Through Pleasure? The Science Says Yes
Your Partner Can Tell When You're Pretending. Here's Why That Matters for Your Sex Life.
Why Do I Have Low Desire? 10 Questions to Figure It Out
How To Stop Avoiding Your Own Desires & Figure Out What You Really Want
When Touch Feels Off: Why It Happens & How to Fix It
Spontaneous vs. Scheduled Sex: How Do We Find The (Right) Time?
Are We Just Too Sexually Incompatible? How to Know.
What Really Turns Me On? With Danielle Harel, PhD
How Faking Orgasms is Actually Harming Your Sexuality
Helping Men Last Longer with Caitlin V
The Connection Between Self-Compassion & Great Intimacy (Plus How To Boost Yours)
Pitfalls of "Polarity:" 5 Rules to Avoid Harming Your Sex Life
Kind Boundaries & Building Secure Attachment: A Guide
Giving and Receiving Oral & Troubleshooting (Plus: Why People Often Dislike 69)
Why Your Brain Lies to You About What's Possible in Desire and Relationships
Is It So Bad To Be A Tease? Redefining & Reclaiming Play
Monogamy, Non-Monogamy & Choosing Your Relationship Structure on Purpose
Big Picture Know-How For Great Sex & Relationships
Hidden Intimacy Challenges for Over-Achievers & What to Do About Them
Want Better Sex & Relationships? Practice This.
Which Comes First for You: Physical or Emotional Connection?
Saying No Without Guilt in Relationships & Sex...and everywhere else too
Kissing: Challenges, Explorations & Tips
Christina & Brooke Share Wisdom from the Middle of the Change Process
How People-Pleasing Kills Intimacy & What to Do About It
Three-somes & Group Sex: Fantasy, Reality & Avoiding Pitfalls
Paths to Sexual Confidence: Real vs. Fake Confidence or Arrogance
Curing the Libido Mismatch Blues
Busting 7 Myths That Make It Hard to Ask for What You Want in Bed
Sexual Confidence: A Success Story in Overcoming Shame
4 Steps to Confidence & Comfort in Intimacy
The Biggest Thing You Can Do To Feel More Sexual Empowerment This Year (and it's FREE)
The Most Powerful Step
Liberation from Religious Shame & Repression: an interview with Lisa
Rethinking Conflict: How Conflict Avoidance Undermines Relationships & What To Do Instead
Getting the Right Help for Pelvic & Sexual Pain: Interview with Dr. Susie Gronski
When You're Bummed That You Have to ASK...
Pleasure & Connection Self-Assessment & Making Pleasure Goals
Strap-Ons For Every Body
3 Reasons You Have a Hard Time Talking About Sex & How to Overcome Them
How to Be Sexual Without Accidentally Being Creepy
Butt Fun: How to Start & How to Avoid Traumatic Mistakes
Experiencing More Pleasure & Satisfaction (Plus How Arousal & Desire Fit In)
How To Start Having G-Spot & Cervical Orgasms
The Missing Part of the ED Conversation
Special Episode: Finding Calm & Helping Others When Disaster Strikes
Up Your Foreplay Game
Your Options for Help: Coaching vs. Therapy, Plus Pros & Cons of Each
What we did in sessions this week
Why don't they just know?
Break Free From Arbitrary Rules: Cleaning Out Your Should Closet
Skip The Frustration By Understanding Attachment Styles
Inside a Session on Emotional Desires: Asking For What You Want Without Shame or Blame
Better Sleep, Better Sex
What Am I A "Yes" To (Even If I'm A "No" To Sex)?
How to Feel Better About Getting Rejected
An Introduction to Sexological Bodywork: Interview with Rahi Chun
What Strings Are You Attaching To Sex?
Flirting 101: Keys to Juicy Flirting for New & Long-Term Connections
You're Not Dysfunctional and Why Comparing Yourself To Others Isn’t Helping You
When Reality is a Bummer: Dealing with Disappointment
Relationship Skills Part 2: Attuning to Your Partner
Exploring BDSM: Interview with Femme Domme Coach Rose
Initiating Sex: Key Troubleshooting Questions for Couples
Inner Critics Gone Wild: Boost Your Mojo & Improve Your Connections By Being Nicer to Yourself
Arousal Styles: Which of These 3 is Yours?
How to Support a Partner with Sexual Trauma
Recovering from Trauma: My Process
8 Core Principles of Consent & Why They Will Make You Super Sexy
Orgasm Challenges with Partners: Early or Never, the Male Edition
More Orgasms with Partners: Vulva Edition
Becoming Shameless: The Power of De-Shaming for a Happier You and a Better World
When & How to Talk About Sex with Partners
Getting Validation: How to Be a Star Not a Black Hole or Red Flag
Relationship Skills Part 1: Attune to Yourself First
Better Intimacy Through Simple Changes in Vocabulary
Uncover and Celebrate Your Erotic Superpowers
All About Erotic Emotions and Getting Curious About What Turns You On
Boosting Desire & Arousal By Finding Your Libido Blockers
Arousal & Desire 101: Foundations
Mastering the Art of Attuned Touch for Deeper Connection
Play-Based Approaches for Better Sex and Connection